00:00:00Personal Growth and Self-Discovery Journey
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE
What happens when you take the leap and leave a stable job without a safety net? Join Sara on this heartfelt episode of "Between Heart and Brain" as she shares her own story of stepping away from a full-time position in business intelligence. Learn about the emotional and mental challenges she faced, the critical role of financial preparedness, and how diving into her passions for yoga and content creation brought a renewed sense of purpose. This episode underscores the importance of listening to your inner self and taking the time to truly understand and nurture your personal growth, just as you would any significant relationship.
Struggling with whether to stay in your current role or seek new opportunities? Sarah offers practical guidance on making this tough decision, from assessing career alignment with personal goals to the nuts and bolts of emotional and financial preparation. Hear about the power of support systems, engaging in enriching personal projects, and the ultimate reward of clarity and fulfillment in life’s next chapter. Additionally, be inspired by empowering stories from listeners who have faced similar crossroads. Subscribe, share, and join our community aimed at spreading positivity and empowerment for those ready to embark on their own journey to a more fulfilling life.
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Speaker 1:
0:00
Hi, welcome to the podcast between hard and brave. I'm Sarah, and I'm here to be with you in your personal growth and self-improvement journey, and I'm here to share my own life experiences with you. I'm a yoga teacher, a business intelligence manager with a master's degree in IT, and Nobel Queen International 2023 with health and wellness advocacy. I'm so excited to start this journey with you, to uplift you with positivity, the power of mindfulness and yoga and the freedom of conscious living. So let's start together and take a moment for yourself. Take a moment for yourself. Hello, my dear podcast listeners, welcome back to the podcast, or welcome to the podcast if it's your first time listening.
Speaker 1:
0:55
I'm Sarah and in this new episode of Between Heart and Brain, I've decided to talk to you about something that I am dealing with and going through real time, which is not always the case when I record my podcasts, but this time I just decided that. You know I want to be kind of raw and very open about this experience, because I know that this is something that a lot of people probably go through, especially young people, people our age. If I can see it happening often around me, to the people around me and myself, then it's a lot more common than I knew previously. So I have left my full-time permanent job, the company that I worked for, for about four years. As you might know, it wasn't an easy decision for me. It was actually a very hard decision for me, but I've decided to do it. I like stability, I like familiarity, although I make myself uncomfortable at times, but I still like the feeling of stability and things being practical. So, leaving a job without actually applying for other actually I have applied, but without actually having a plan on or signing an offer on when I'm going to start my new job. So that was something that I had to think about really deeply.
Speaker 1:
2:34
Usually, the case is that people apply for other companies, sign a new deal and leave their current job. I didn't want to do that. Why? Because I wanted to spend time for myself. Do that why? Because I wanted to spend time for myself.
Speaker 1:
2:48
As you might already know, listening to my previous episodes, I love to push myself so much, sometimes to the point of burnout, which is something that I've been really trying to practice not to do, and I've been trying to be very much mindful about it. So that's something that I did in my previous job and I feel like I sacrificed a lot of my time and my well-being willingly, by my own choice, and after a while I mean at some point it was all right because it was aligned with what I wanted. I wanted mentorship, I wanted a lot of learning in that aspect and what I was doing which is business intelligence by the way, if you didn't know, it's basically data analytics, computers, programming, things like that I wanted it that time and my role and my growth was visible to me and also to my supervisors, and it was very rewarding. I loved it, I felt good about it. It helped me a lot with stability of my life, with my goals, with my investments, with my enjoyments, my travels and a lot of things.
Speaker 1:
4:00
But then it got to a point that for some reason, it wasn't aligned with what I wanted anymore. I couldn't put my finger on it. It just didn't feel right anymore and I tried to be patient with it, because I don't want to make quick decisions when I'm not sure about something. I gave it some time and I tried to understand myself and as time passed by, with a lot of changes that happened also in the company I realized that I don't think this is what I want anymore, and I was happy that I gave myself the option to be able to resign. And how did I do that? By saving up enough money for being able to resign. And how did I do that? By saving up enough money for being able to not work for another company or just being able to resign if I don't have another job offer, saving up enough money for that. At the same time, having something to keep myself busy, which is my yoga. I also started creating content, which got me really excited. You know, it was also a contributor to why I wanted to move on, and all of these things really helped me to do what I thought, or what I still think, was right for me.
Speaker 1:
5:17
If I didn't have this second option, this second source of income or second or third thing that keeps me busy, it would have been a lot harder because, as you might know, when you get bored, you start overthinking and you start getting sad and things like that. It's okay to always be. You know practice, no, actually to be creative and be active and be doing something, not just sitting somewhere and not okay, what am I supposed to do? No, even though I've resigned, it's been like a month and a half already. My days are filled with things to do. My schedule is always full, but the difference is that I'm doing things that I really want to do.
Speaker 1:
6:06
At first, during the time that I worked for the company, working for that company was really what I wanted to do, but eventually, especially like close to the end, I realized that there are other things that I want to explore. I like to give my best and my all to anything that I do. Having that feeling, I realized that it's holding me back from giving my best to it, so I decided to push through with it. Since then, I've been going through changes, changes in different emotions and different realizations, which I find very how do I say good. It's not even a great term for it. It gives me a lot of clarity about myself. Especially.
Speaker 1:
7:02
I realized that when I immersed myself in my job in corporate. We don't really have enough time to learn ourselves more as we grow and as we get older. We also have to take time to learn ourselves, just like how we take time to learn our partners and people who mean something to us. We also have to spend that time for ourselves, so that this period of me not working for a corporate has given me enough time to learn myself better than before and I started doing things that I Like. I started my personal projects I have a few, not gonna mention them all because probably there for another episodes, maybe one day but it gave me time and gave me the option to do things that I really want to do and I feel like I have freedom of my time. That's something that I really was struggling with, even though I was working remotely.
Speaker 1:
8:15
Us being asked to go back to the office was also another factor. It definitely doesn't work with my lifestyle that I've created for myself over the past few years. So I think by the time that I resigned, I had a lot of reasons to assure myself that this is really what I wanted to do. Also, I had my resignation letter, or e-mails, ready for a month in my draft until that morning that I was sure okay, this is what I want to do. So I want to talk about that feeling, that gut feeling that made me push through with it. You know, I realized that every time I'm sitting behind that laptop and I'm working, I just don't feel motivated and I don't want to do it, no matter how much I push myself, no matter if, like, okay, wake up on time, do things by order, be responsible, it's just my heart is not in it. My heart is somewhere else and it's with my personal projects. I wasn't also being impulsive. Just okay, I'm resign and see what happens. No, my heart was somewhere else. One of them is this podcast.
Speaker 1:
9:29
I was able to spend more time trying to figure out what I actually want to talk about in my podcast, so this period gave me the ability to do so and otherwise, having other sources of income, maybe exploring a few business opportunities, which I'm still exploring, but just trying to learn about it is very nice and it's a very interesting experience for me so far. Also spending more time at home, giving more attention to myself, to the house, to my husband, to my dog, and also talking to my relatives, my family. It's been really great. I don't feel stressed out and, honestly, my skin looks better than before. It's kind of funny, but when I saw my colleagues after a while, they actually told me also that's something I realized when I looked at myself in the mirror and they also told me oh, my God, your skin looks like a lot better and things like that. It looked like I have more life in my face, for more blood under my skin, and that made me realize, wow, see how much stress or how much good mental health affects your body and if it just affects my skin that much, how much it affects my life in general and everything that I do and the things that I say and the things that I do. So the best course of action is to do things that are aligned with our true self.
Speaker 1:
11:10
One other thing that I've tried to do during this transition period is to allow myself to be flexible and spontaneous. I try to say yes to different opportunities, different things. I want to try new things. You know, I want to learn, I want to explore, even about yoga I'm going to catch my breath. It's been amazing. It's been amazing. I've been able to also connect with my students better than before. I really value them and really love them, especially the small community that we have built together a few of us from the same age and kind of dealing with the same things in life. It's been really amazing. Age and kind of dealing with the same things in life. It's been really amazing. The bond that I created in my previous job was also as as nice and as strong, but I feel like the one in yoga is more frequently rewarding, maybe because I see them more frequently, like a couple of times a week, and maybe because doing this yoga thing teaching yoga is a lot more aligned with I really want to do. Even though I love business intelligence I always love analytics I still feel like this is more aligned Because, since I was a child, I wanted to be a teacher and being a teacher is definitely aligned.
Speaker 1:
12:33
Think about what you wanted to be as a child. I wanted to be a teacher and being a teacher is definitely aligned. Think about what you wanted to be as a child. It's most probably what you feel best doing. Even as an adult, I wanted to be a teacher or an astronaut. So I became a teacher, but astronaut, no. But honestly, until now, sometimes, when I think about it, okay, when I don't have a lot of things to do, or when I'm at that financial level, or I don't know when, maybe when I have a few things done not sure when, maybe soon, maybe much later, maybe never, but someday maybe. I want to spend some time learning more about physics Kind of geeky, but that's really what I wanted. The concept of physics and space always amazed me, even since when I was in elementary. So I'm saying this to just tell you that and think about what you really wanted to be as a child and translate it into your adult interest, like as an adult interest, as an adult, and see if you can do something to kind of make your wish come true.
Speaker 1:
13:40
If you're dealing with the dilemma that I was dealing with when it comes to your job, resigning or continuing, I'm going to give you a few tips that can probably help you decide if you have to resign, proceed or not. First, try to notice your inner voice, the internal signals. For example, see if what you're doing is really aligned with your desires. For example, you like to be that person, you like that role, you like being a leader, if you are, or if you want to be, if it aligns your career, if your career has a future. That would be the first step. Second, then, evaluate your situation If staying in that job and in that role is actually beneficial to you, or is it time to maybe explore new opportunities. Okay, try to see if, again, there's a future in what you're doing.
Speaker 1:
14:52
Unfortunately, a lot of us spend good years of our youth for jobs that don't give us a future, don't give us a career. Like when you stop working, you're back to point zero. Those are not the things that we want to spend our time for. So let's say you've already dealt with the first part and you've decided that, yes, this is not aligned with what I actually want to do. I have an exit plan. Now what you need is the courage to actually resign. It's an emotional experience, I would say as well, because your job is probably a stable job and a lot of things that you do right now is based on the income that you get from that job. So it's better to plan your transition, prepare for it financially, prepare for it emotionally for example, save or ask support from family or friends, get their opinions.
Speaker 1:
15:55
Like when I wanted to resign, I talked to my husband and he was actually happy to hear it, because he told me that you've been working for a long time and maybe it's time for you to do something for yourself, something that feels good. And the fact that he was really supportive. That's like when I was like, okay, I'm going to send my resignation email. Also, when I talked to my friend, he told me the same thing. You know my close friends, both him and her. They told me the same thing. They were like, yeah, you've been working a lot, maybe it's fun. So, like all this uh feedbacks or this advice, all of them were aligned and I realized that, which also kind of validated what I was going through or what I was thinking. So I realized that, yeah, I'm pretty sure that this is what I have to do, moving forward, making sure that this is what I have to do, moving forward. And let's say, you've already resigned. So then what?
Speaker 1:
16:52
Try to explore new interests. If you don't already have a few on your list. I did have some, so, for example, painting, and I try to take it more seriously. Or cooking, or baking. If you want to enroll in a course, do so. If not, you don't want to spend for a course. You know there are always free information. You can use YouTube, you can use free courses, you can use forums, you can use Reddit. So there are all these ways for you to explore new interests or enhance the skills that you already have or possess. And try to have a few personal projects for yourself. They really help you.
Speaker 1:
17:35
I did have my first personal project and it was decluttering For me. That was really important, and I spent two weeks to just declutter, letting go of things that I don't want, if they're old or if they're not functional or they've been piled up. Sometimes we tend to keep things that are sentimental, but then I realized that I still have those people with me and I still have their memories, so I don't need to keep a lot of things, maybe a few things that are really really important for me that I have them since I was very little. But other than that, what matters is the emotions and it's the nice memories that I have of those people and them in my life. The decluttering allowed me to feel at ease and gave me peace of mind.
Speaker 1:
18:29
I actually don't like to own so many things anymore. I'm not even buying clothes like before anymore, for about a good, I think, one year already. I want to use the things that I have. We sometimes become these consumers because consumerism is feeding on us and we think that we always have to go and buy what's trendy or it's too much pressure. If you look at it, you might already have all the things that you actually need and you don't need to go buy this and that and then you don't know where to put them. There's not enough space at the house a new form of stress and anxiety to deal with. So how about just having a nice, clean, open space around you and owning things that you actually use on a day-to-day basis?
Speaker 1:
19:23
Another personal project could be something that you really enjoy your sports or anything that feels nice for you, because you don't want to get bored after resigning. It makes you question your decision. At the same time, makes you feel sad or a little depressed. You don't want to be bored. Keep life exciting, even more exciting than when you were working, because if not, then what was the point? What was the point of resigning now?
Speaker 1:
19:51
I originally decided to not go back to corporate for six months to one year, but I'm keeping my mind open to make that period maybe shorter if, if I stumble upon an opportunity. That's really nice and it doesn't restrain me too much. It also gives me some sort of freedom for me to manage my time, which is not easily obtained. But that's definitely something that I want to go for and I've made this promise to myself that I'm not going to put myself in a situation working for a job On this. That's really something that I know that I'm going to enjoy, or at least some parts of it are aligned with what I want to do and with my core. One of the most important factors is my freedom of time, so definitely has to be remote.
Speaker 1:
20:50
So I want you to also do that like, see and think that if ever you have to go back to corporate job, then what would be the things that are really important to you, like the culture, your relationship with your immediate supervisor. How much money would you like to receive based on the experiences that you have? Don't underestimate yourself. Sometimes you also tend to underestimate yourself ourselves, so maybe we don't want to do that. Research, see, what's the norm or what's the regular salary in the market for someone with your experience, with your knowledge, with your level of education. So you know what to ask for, and I myself am in no rush for anything less than that. So when the time comes that I'm going to start, I am sure that that's really something that I want to do. That's really something that I want to do. That's really something that I want to do. I hope that it would be the same for you if you decide to resign and then go back to corporate.
Speaker 1:
21:57
Another suggestion that I have is to be able to balance our personal projects with career goals, so we don't have to always necessarily sacrifice one for the other or we don't always have to keep them separated. For me, going through this period of creativity, I think I want to bring this feeling, I want to bring this mindset to my job, to my new job. If ever and hopefully it would last I want to bring this positivity, bring this flexibility, especially if the job allows me to be creative and flexible. That's also one thing that's really important the contacts that we sign and how we tie ourselves up with companies and other people.
Speaker 1:
22:45
Basically, I just want to tell you that if you're in a situation and you feel like this is really not what you want to do and you've done your best to be patient, explore other approaches. You've communicated this with your maybe immediate supervisor or you know HR, and still you just are not satisfied. There is no bright light that you see in front of you. Maybe it's time for you to move on and allow yourself to start a new chapter. Allow yourself to start, take the first step in your new journey and try to be prepared for it. Don't put yourself in a situation that you'll be lost. You don't know what to do, you don't know how to manage, have it planned, prepare for it and, when the execution time comes, you know what you're doing and you know that you're in control.
Speaker 1:
23:50
I hope that you find this information useful and maybe it's something that you're also dealing with and I hope to hear from you, if ever you're going through something like this.
Speaker 1:
24:01
I really want to know, and I really am excited to hear, your story and how you're dealing with it. What are your dilemmas, what are the things that you're not sure or you weren't sure about, but now you know how to handle them. You can always find me on Instagram and share your stories with me and share your stories with me. Thank you, dear listeners, for joining me on this empowering journey today. As we conclude this episode, remember that your potential is boundless and your journey to a more fulfilling life has only just begun. I'm here to support you every step of the way, so keep coming back for more insights and inspiration, and remember this podcast is proudly independent, created with a passion for making a positive impact. Your support means the world to me, so please consider subscribing and sharing it with the people you know. Together, we can inspire more individuals on their journey to empowerment and a better life. See you soon for more life-changing discussions. Until we meet again, stay empowered.
0:00
Hi, welcome to the podcast between hard and brave. I'm Sarah, and I'm here to be with you in your personal growth and self-improvement journey, and I'm here to share my own life experiences with you. I'm a yoga teacher, a business intelligence manager with a master's degree in IT, and Nobel Queen International 2023 with health and wellness advocacy. I'm so excited to start this journey with you, to uplift you with positivity, the power of mindfulness and yoga and the freedom of conscious living. So let's start together and take a moment for yourself. Take a moment for yourself. Hello, my dear podcast listeners, welcome back to the podcast, or welcome to the podcast if it's your first time listening.
Speaker 1:
0:55
I'm Sarah and in this new episode of Between Heart and Brain, I've decided to talk to you about something that I am dealing with and going through real time, which is not always the case when I record my podcasts, but this time I just decided that. You know I want to be kind of raw and very open about this experience, because I know that this is something that a lot of people probably go through, especially young people, people our age. If I can see it happening often around me, to the people around me and myself, then it's a lot more common than I knew previously. So I have left my full-time permanent job, the company that I worked for, for about four years. As you might know, it wasn't an easy decision for me. It was actually a very hard decision for me, but I've decided to do it. I like stability, I like familiarity, although I make myself uncomfortable at times, but I still like the feeling of stability and things being practical. So, leaving a job without actually applying for other actually I have applied, but without actually having a plan on or signing an offer on when I'm going to start my new job. So that was something that I had to think about really deeply.
Speaker 1:
2:34
Usually, the case is that people apply for other companies, sign a new deal and leave their current job. I didn't want to do that. Why? Because I wanted to spend time for myself. Do that why? Because I wanted to spend time for myself.
Speaker 1:
2:48
As you might already know, listening to my previous episodes, I love to push myself so much, sometimes to the point of burnout, which is something that I've been really trying to practice not to do, and I've been trying to be very much mindful about it. So that's something that I did in my previous job and I feel like I sacrificed a lot of my time and my well-being willingly, by my own choice, and after a while I mean at some point it was all right because it was aligned with what I wanted. I wanted mentorship, I wanted a lot of learning in that aspect and what I was doing which is business intelligence by the way, if you didn't know, it's basically data analytics, computers, programming, things like that I wanted it that time and my role and my growth was visible to me and also to my supervisors, and it was very rewarding. I loved it, I felt good about it. It helped me a lot with stability of my life, with my goals, with my investments, with my enjoyments, my travels and a lot of things.
Speaker 1:
4:00
But then it got to a point that for some reason, it wasn't aligned with what I wanted anymore. I couldn't put my finger on it. It just didn't feel right anymore and I tried to be patient with it, because I don't want to make quick decisions when I'm not sure about something. I gave it some time and I tried to understand myself and as time passed by, with a lot of changes that happened also in the company I realized that I don't think this is what I want anymore, and I was happy that I gave myself the option to be able to resign. And how did I do that? By saving up enough money for being able to resign. And how did I do that? By saving up enough money for being able to not work for another company or just being able to resign if I don't have another job offer, saving up enough money for that. At the same time, having something to keep myself busy, which is my yoga. I also started creating content, which got me really excited. You know, it was also a contributor to why I wanted to move on, and all of these things really helped me to do what I thought, or what I still think, was right for me.
Speaker 1:
5:17
If I didn't have this second option, this second source of income or second or third thing that keeps me busy, it would have been a lot harder because, as you might know, when you get bored, you start overthinking and you start getting sad and things like that. It's okay to always be. You know practice, no, actually to be creative and be active and be doing something, not just sitting somewhere and not okay, what am I supposed to do? No, even though I've resigned, it's been like a month and a half already. My days are filled with things to do. My schedule is always full, but the difference is that I'm doing things that I really want to do.
Speaker 1:
6:06
At first, during the time that I worked for the company, working for that company was really what I wanted to do, but eventually, especially like close to the end, I realized that there are other things that I want to explore. I like to give my best and my all to anything that I do. Having that feeling, I realized that it's holding me back from giving my best to it, so I decided to push through with it. Since then, I've been going through changes, changes in different emotions and different realizations, which I find very how do I say good. It's not even a great term for it. It gives me a lot of clarity about myself. Especially.
Speaker 1:
7:02
I realized that when I immersed myself in my job in corporate. We don't really have enough time to learn ourselves more as we grow and as we get older. We also have to take time to learn ourselves, just like how we take time to learn our partners and people who mean something to us. We also have to spend that time for ourselves, so that this period of me not working for a corporate has given me enough time to learn myself better than before and I started doing things that I Like. I started my personal projects I have a few, not gonna mention them all because probably there for another episodes, maybe one day but it gave me time and gave me the option to do things that I really want to do and I feel like I have freedom of my time. That's something that I really was struggling with, even though I was working remotely.
Speaker 1:
8:15
Us being asked to go back to the office was also another factor. It definitely doesn't work with my lifestyle that I've created for myself over the past few years. So I think by the time that I resigned, I had a lot of reasons to assure myself that this is really what I wanted to do. Also, I had my resignation letter, or e-mails, ready for a month in my draft until that morning that I was sure okay, this is what I want to do. So I want to talk about that feeling, that gut feeling that made me push through with it. You know, I realized that every time I'm sitting behind that laptop and I'm working, I just don't feel motivated and I don't want to do it, no matter how much I push myself, no matter if, like, okay, wake up on time, do things by order, be responsible, it's just my heart is not in it. My heart is somewhere else and it's with my personal projects. I wasn't also being impulsive. Just okay, I'm resign and see what happens. No, my heart was somewhere else. One of them is this podcast.
Speaker 1:
9:29
I was able to spend more time trying to figure out what I actually want to talk about in my podcast, so this period gave me the ability to do so and otherwise, having other sources of income, maybe exploring a few business opportunities, which I'm still exploring, but just trying to learn about it is very nice and it's a very interesting experience for me so far. Also spending more time at home, giving more attention to myself, to the house, to my husband, to my dog, and also talking to my relatives, my family. It's been really great. I don't feel stressed out and, honestly, my skin looks better than before. It's kind of funny, but when I saw my colleagues after a while, they actually told me also that's something I realized when I looked at myself in the mirror and they also told me oh, my God, your skin looks like a lot better and things like that. It looked like I have more life in my face, for more blood under my skin, and that made me realize, wow, see how much stress or how much good mental health affects your body and if it just affects my skin that much, how much it affects my life in general and everything that I do and the things that I say and the things that I do. So the best course of action is to do things that are aligned with our true self.
Speaker 1:
11:10
One other thing that I've tried to do during this transition period is to allow myself to be flexible and spontaneous. I try to say yes to different opportunities, different things. I want to try new things. You know, I want to learn, I want to explore, even about yoga I'm going to catch my breath. It's been amazing. It's been amazing. I've been able to also connect with my students better than before. I really value them and really love them, especially the small community that we have built together a few of us from the same age and kind of dealing with the same things in life. It's been really amazing. Age and kind of dealing with the same things in life. It's been really amazing. The bond that I created in my previous job was also as as nice and as strong, but I feel like the one in yoga is more frequently rewarding, maybe because I see them more frequently, like a couple of times a week, and maybe because doing this yoga thing teaching yoga is a lot more aligned with I really want to do. Even though I love business intelligence I always love analytics I still feel like this is more aligned Because, since I was a child, I wanted to be a teacher and being a teacher is definitely aligned.
Speaker 1:
12:33
Think about what you wanted to be as a child. I wanted to be a teacher and being a teacher is definitely aligned. Think about what you wanted to be as a child. It's most probably what you feel best doing. Even as an adult, I wanted to be a teacher or an astronaut. So I became a teacher, but astronaut, no. But honestly, until now, sometimes, when I think about it, okay, when I don't have a lot of things to do, or when I'm at that financial level, or I don't know when, maybe when I have a few things done not sure when, maybe soon, maybe much later, maybe never, but someday maybe. I want to spend some time learning more about physics Kind of geeky, but that's really what I wanted. The concept of physics and space always amazed me, even since when I was in elementary. So I'm saying this to just tell you that and think about what you really wanted to be as a child and translate it into your adult interest, like as an adult interest, as an adult, and see if you can do something to kind of make your wish come true.
Speaker 1:
13:40
If you're dealing with the dilemma that I was dealing with when it comes to your job, resigning or continuing, I'm going to give you a few tips that can probably help you decide if you have to resign, proceed or not. First, try to notice your inner voice, the internal signals. For example, see if what you're doing is really aligned with your desires. For example, you like to be that person, you like that role, you like being a leader, if you are, or if you want to be, if it aligns your career, if your career has a future. That would be the first step. Second, then, evaluate your situation If staying in that job and in that role is actually beneficial to you, or is it time to maybe explore new opportunities. Okay, try to see if, again, there's a future in what you're doing.
Speaker 1:
14:52
Unfortunately, a lot of us spend good years of our youth for jobs that don't give us a future, don't give us a career. Like when you stop working, you're back to point zero. Those are not the things that we want to spend our time for. So let's say you've already dealt with the first part and you've decided that, yes, this is not aligned with what I actually want to do. I have an exit plan. Now what you need is the courage to actually resign. It's an emotional experience, I would say as well, because your job is probably a stable job and a lot of things that you do right now is based on the income that you get from that job. So it's better to plan your transition, prepare for it financially, prepare for it emotionally for example, save or ask support from family or friends, get their opinions.
Speaker 1:
15:55
Like when I wanted to resign, I talked to my husband and he was actually happy to hear it, because he told me that you've been working for a long time and maybe it's time for you to do something for yourself, something that feels good. And the fact that he was really supportive. That's like when I was like, okay, I'm going to send my resignation email. Also, when I talked to my friend, he told me the same thing. You know my close friends, both him and her. They told me the same thing. They were like, yeah, you've been working a lot, maybe it's fun. So, like all this uh feedbacks or this advice, all of them were aligned and I realized that, which also kind of validated what I was going through or what I was thinking. So I realized that, yeah, I'm pretty sure that this is what I have to do, moving forward, making sure that this is what I have to do, moving forward. And let's say, you've already resigned. So then what?
Speaker 1:
16:52
Try to explore new interests. If you don't already have a few on your list. I did have some, so, for example, painting, and I try to take it more seriously. Or cooking, or baking. If you want to enroll in a course, do so. If not, you don't want to spend for a course. You know there are always free information. You can use YouTube, you can use free courses, you can use forums, you can use Reddit. So there are all these ways for you to explore new interests or enhance the skills that you already have or possess. And try to have a few personal projects for yourself. They really help you.
Speaker 1:
17:35
I did have my first personal project and it was decluttering For me. That was really important, and I spent two weeks to just declutter, letting go of things that I don't want, if they're old or if they're not functional or they've been piled up. Sometimes we tend to keep things that are sentimental, but then I realized that I still have those people with me and I still have their memories, so I don't need to keep a lot of things, maybe a few things that are really really important for me that I have them since I was very little. But other than that, what matters is the emotions and it's the nice memories that I have of those people and them in my life. The decluttering allowed me to feel at ease and gave me peace of mind.
Speaker 1:
18:29
I actually don't like to own so many things anymore. I'm not even buying clothes like before anymore, for about a good, I think, one year already. I want to use the things that I have. We sometimes become these consumers because consumerism is feeding on us and we think that we always have to go and buy what's trendy or it's too much pressure. If you look at it, you might already have all the things that you actually need and you don't need to go buy this and that and then you don't know where to put them. There's not enough space at the house a new form of stress and anxiety to deal with. So how about just having a nice, clean, open space around you and owning things that you actually use on a day-to-day basis?
Speaker 1:
19:23
Another personal project could be something that you really enjoy your sports or anything that feels nice for you, because you don't want to get bored after resigning. It makes you question your decision. At the same time, makes you feel sad or a little depressed. You don't want to be bored. Keep life exciting, even more exciting than when you were working, because if not, then what was the point? What was the point of resigning now?
Speaker 1:
19:51
I originally decided to not go back to corporate for six months to one year, but I'm keeping my mind open to make that period maybe shorter if, if I stumble upon an opportunity. That's really nice and it doesn't restrain me too much. It also gives me some sort of freedom for me to manage my time, which is not easily obtained. But that's definitely something that I want to go for and I've made this promise to myself that I'm not going to put myself in a situation working for a job On this. That's really something that I know that I'm going to enjoy, or at least some parts of it are aligned with what I want to do and with my core. One of the most important factors is my freedom of time, so definitely has to be remote.
Speaker 1:
20:50
So I want you to also do that like, see and think that if ever you have to go back to corporate job, then what would be the things that are really important to you, like the culture, your relationship with your immediate supervisor. How much money would you like to receive based on the experiences that you have? Don't underestimate yourself. Sometimes you also tend to underestimate yourself ourselves, so maybe we don't want to do that. Research, see, what's the norm or what's the regular salary in the market for someone with your experience, with your knowledge, with your level of education. So you know what to ask for, and I myself am in no rush for anything less than that. So when the time comes that I'm going to start, I am sure that that's really something that I want to do. That's really something that I want to do. That's really something that I want to do. I hope that it would be the same for you if you decide to resign and then go back to corporate.
Speaker 1:
21:57
Another suggestion that I have is to be able to balance our personal projects with career goals, so we don't have to always necessarily sacrifice one for the other or we don't always have to keep them separated. For me, going through this period of creativity, I think I want to bring this feeling, I want to bring this mindset to my job, to my new job. If ever and hopefully it would last I want to bring this positivity, bring this flexibility, especially if the job allows me to be creative and flexible. That's also one thing that's really important the contacts that we sign and how we tie ourselves up with companies and other people.
Speaker 1:
22:45
Basically, I just want to tell you that if you're in a situation and you feel like this is really not what you want to do and you've done your best to be patient, explore other approaches. You've communicated this with your maybe immediate supervisor or you know HR, and still you just are not satisfied. There is no bright light that you see in front of you. Maybe it's time for you to move on and allow yourself to start a new chapter. Allow yourself to start, take the first step in your new journey and try to be prepared for it. Don't put yourself in a situation that you'll be lost. You don't know what to do, you don't know how to manage, have it planned, prepare for it and, when the execution time comes, you know what you're doing and you know that you're in control.
Speaker 1:
23:50
I hope that you find this information useful and maybe it's something that you're also dealing with and I hope to hear from you, if ever you're going through something like this.
Speaker 1:
24:01
I really want to know, and I really am excited to hear, your story and how you're dealing with it. What are your dilemmas, what are the things that you're not sure or you weren't sure about, but now you know how to handle them. You can always find me on Instagram and share your stories with me and share your stories with me. Thank you, dear listeners, for joining me on this empowering journey today. As we conclude this episode, remember that your potential is boundless and your journey to a more fulfilling life has only just begun. I'm here to support you every step of the way, so keep coming back for more insights and inspiration, and remember this podcast is proudly independent, created with a passion for making a positive impact. Your support means the world to me, so please consider subscribing and sharing it with the people you know. Together, we can inspire more individuals on their journey to empowerment and a better life. See you soon for more life-changing discussions. Until we meet again, stay empowered.
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