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Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
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Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
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I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
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Remember this truth.
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You are bent, not broken.
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Welcome back to this bent, not broken bonus coaching session.
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If you just listened to my conversation with Chris Cushing, there's a moment that likely stayed with you.
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The moment she shared that she cried when she was proposed to.
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Not tears of joy, but tears of knowing.
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And I want to pause right there with you.
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Because so many people don't cry when something bad happens.
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They cry when their intuition is trying to speak.
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Let's talk about that gut moment.
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You know, that quiet voice that says, this doesn't feel right, something is off, or I'm not aligned with this choice.
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Most of us don't ignore our intuition because we're weak.
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We ignore it because we're conditioned, conditioned to follow the timeline, conditioned to meet expectations, conditioned to avoid disappointing others, and conditioned to believe that discomfort means failure.
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And especially for those in structured systems, like the military, corporate environments, or traditional family roles, we're taught to push through, not pause.
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The pause is the power.
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One of the biggest lessons from Chris's story is this you are allowed to pause even when everyone else expects a yes.
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A pause doesn't mean you're backing out.
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A pause means you're checking in.
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And here's a coaching question I want you to sit with.
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If no one else's feelings were involved, what would my body choose?
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Not your fear, not your guilt, your body.
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When honesty feels dangerous.
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Another important layer Chris shared was safety, emotional and physical.
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If you're someone who is considering leaving a relationship, questioning your identity, or even reclaiming your truth, please hear this clearly.
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Your safety matters more than your timing.
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You don't owe anyone immediate clarity.
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You don't owe anyone your process.
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You owe yourself care.
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You are not broken.
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You are waking up.
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Many people look back and say, I should have known.
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I ignored the red flags.
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Or why didn't I listen to myself?
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But awareness doesn't arrive all at once.
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It arrives in layers.
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And every layer brings you closer to yourself.
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So if this episode stirred something in you, confusion, grief, relief, recognition, that's not weakness.
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That's awakening.
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And before we end, I want to leave you with this one simple practice.
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Today, take one intentional pause before responding, before agreeing, before explaining.
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Put your hand on your chest and ask, what's true for me right now?
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That's where healing begins.
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That's where alignment begins.
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And that's how we move from bent to bold.
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I'll see you in the next episode.
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Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
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I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
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If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
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And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.
00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:04.320
Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
00:00:04.719 --> 00:00:13.919
Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
00:00:14.080 --> 00:00:23.280
I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
00:00:23.600 --> 00:00:25.280
Remember this truth.
00:00:25.519 --> 00:00:27.839
You are bent, not broken.
00:00:32.560 --> 00:00:37.359
Welcome back to this bent, not broken bonus coaching session.
00:00:37.600 --> 00:00:44.320
If you just listened to my conversation with Chris Cushing, there's a moment that likely stayed with you.
00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:48.880
The moment she shared that she cried when she was proposed to.
00:00:49.280 --> 00:00:52.960
Not tears of joy, but tears of knowing.
00:00:53.280 --> 00:00:55.920
And I want to pause right there with you.
00:00:56.240 --> 00:01:00.079
Because so many people don't cry when something bad happens.
00:01:00.320 --> 00:01:04.079
They cry when their intuition is trying to speak.
00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:06.799
Let's talk about that gut moment.
00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:16.319
You know, that quiet voice that says, this doesn't feel right, something is off, or I'm not aligned with this choice.
00:01:17.280 --> 00:01:21.760
Most of us don't ignore our intuition because we're weak.
00:01:22.079 --> 00:01:41.439
We ignore it because we're conditioned, conditioned to follow the timeline, conditioned to meet expectations, conditioned to avoid disappointing others, and conditioned to believe that discomfort means failure.
00:01:42.079 --> 00:01:53.840
And especially for those in structured systems, like the military, corporate environments, or traditional family roles, we're taught to push through, not pause.
00:01:54.640 --> 00:01:56.879
The pause is the power.
00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:07.120
One of the biggest lessons from Chris's story is this you are allowed to pause even when everyone else expects a yes.
00:02:07.760 --> 00:02:10.400
A pause doesn't mean you're backing out.
00:02:11.599 --> 00:02:14.240
A pause means you're checking in.
00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:18.400
And here's a coaching question I want you to sit with.
00:02:19.120 --> 00:02:24.719
If no one else's feelings were involved, what would my body choose?
00:02:25.360 --> 00:02:30.639
Not your fear, not your guilt, your body.
00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:33.919
When honesty feels dangerous.
00:02:34.479 --> 00:02:40.560
Another important layer Chris shared was safety, emotional and physical.
00:02:40.800 --> 00:02:51.520
If you're someone who is considering leaving a relationship, questioning your identity, or even reclaiming your truth, please hear this clearly.
00:02:51.840 --> 00:02:55.120
Your safety matters more than your timing.
00:02:55.759 --> 00:02:58.719
You don't owe anyone immediate clarity.
00:02:59.199 --> 00:03:01.599
You don't owe anyone your process.
00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:04.879
You owe yourself care.
00:03:06.319 --> 00:03:07.759
You are not broken.
00:03:08.000 --> 00:03:09.599
You are waking up.
00:03:10.479 --> 00:03:14.240
Many people look back and say, I should have known.
00:03:14.560 --> 00:03:16.800
I ignored the red flags.
00:03:17.199 --> 00:03:20.159
Or why didn't I listen to myself?
00:03:20.719 --> 00:03:23.439
But awareness doesn't arrive all at once.
00:03:23.680 --> 00:03:25.439
It arrives in layers.
00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:29.199
And every layer brings you closer to yourself.
00:03:29.520 --> 00:03:39.680
So if this episode stirred something in you, confusion, grief, relief, recognition, that's not weakness.
00:03:40.000 --> 00:03:41.840
That's awakening.
00:03:42.159 --> 00:03:46.719
And before we end, I want to leave you with this one simple practice.
00:03:47.039 --> 00:03:56.000
Today, take one intentional pause before responding, before agreeing, before explaining.
00:03:56.319 --> 00:04:01.360
Put your hand on your chest and ask, what's true for me right now?
00:04:02.319 --> 00:04:04.479
That's where healing begins.
00:04:04.879 --> 00:04:06.960
That's where alignment begins.
00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:11.439
And that's how we move from bent to bold.
00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:14.479
I'll see you in the next episode.
00:04:15.280 --> 00:04:19.600
Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
00:04:19.920 --> 00:04:27.920
I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
00:04:28.399 --> 00:04:39.600
If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
00:04:39.839 --> 00:04:45.920
And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.
