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The Toxic Coaching Trap Every Manager Falls Into that Sabotages Your Coaching ☠️ Coaching In Your Own Image.
🚨 “This worked for me.”
🚨 “This is what I would do, so you should too.”
🚨 “This is how I like to be managed/motivated/held accountable.”
Coaching in your own image isn’t coaching - it’s projecting your perspective, ideas, and solutions to control the outcome, instead of having your team create the solutions or come to the revelation themselves.
This a fast track to dependency, and eroded trust, engagement, coaching and performance.
Great managers don’t guide/manipulate people to take on their agenda and answer, and try and control the conversation.
They coach the individual, without judgement, by uncovering and respecting their unique goals, opinions, personal values, priorities, skills, challenges, personality, how they do things to achieve results, where they are in their life and career, and where they want to go, based on what they want, not you. So:
⚡Drop the ego.
⚡Stop assuming you know the answer and ask more questions to uncover
the truth.
⚡Start uncovering their ideas first and what people really want and need.
⚡Don’t "should" on people. (A "Should" is the excrement of your agenda and makes people wrong 😕) Let them self-assess and arrive at their opinion on how to do things to build confidence and a growth mindset.
Lead them, not your reflection. 🔥
🚨 “This worked for me.”
🚨 “This is what I would do, so you should too.”
🚨 “This is how I like to be managed/motivated/held accountable.”
Coaching in your own image isn’t coaching - it’s projecting your perspective, ideas, and solutions to control the outcome, instead of having your team create the solutions or come to the revelation themselves.
This a fast track to dependency, and eroded trust, engagement, coaching and performance.
Great managers don’t guide/manipulate people to take on their agenda and answer, and try and control the conversation.
They coach the individual, without judgement, by uncovering and respecting their unique goals, opinions, personal values, priorities, skills, challenges, personality, how they do things to achieve results, where they are in their life and career, and where they want to go, based on what they want, not you. So:
⚡Drop the ego.
⚡Stop assuming you know the answer and ask more questions to uncover
the truth.
⚡Start uncovering their ideas first and what people really want and need.
⚡Don’t "should" on people. (A "Should" is the excrement of your agenda and makes people wrong 😕) Let them self-assess and arrive at their opinion on how to do things to build confidence and a growth mindset.
Lead them, not your reflection. 🔥
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