When Did You Start Doing Things Your Own Way? | The Quiet Signs You're Growing Into Yourself

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Hey friends, welcome to another episode of Becoming with Ket Me.
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Now, this week, I was reflecting on something.
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I want to know have you ever realized that you're becoming into your own person at the most random places?
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Because I thought becoming your own person would feel like this major life event.
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Instead, for me, that realization, it happened at the grocery store.
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Now hear me out.
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When I first started grocering shopping for myself when I moved out, I would go to places that were familiar.
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I would buy items that I was familiar with, items that my family bought when I used to live with them, or items that I noticed that was used often in my grandparents' home.
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I would also shop at familiar places.
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So it would be instinctual for me to shop at grocery stores that my family would shop at.
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And there came a point where I realized that I was repeating what I observed growing up.
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And I was choosing what was familiar rather than being consciously intentional about it.
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And because of that, I wasn't really making my own choices.
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Instead, I was making the choices that I inherited.
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But over time, I noticed that something started to shift.
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Something started changing.
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I started to read labels and of the items.
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I never used to look at ingredients, and now I do.
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That's my go-to.
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I compare products now.
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And I feel like I've evolved from just doing what was normal, what was the standard in my home growing up, versus being more intentional.
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I did more research in terms of what type of ingredients am I okay with?
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What type of store do I prefer to shop at?
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What quality of foods am I interested in buying?
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And I started thinking about what works for me, what I like.
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Not because what my family did was wrong, but being more in tune with my personal preferences.
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That's just one example, but I realized that the older I'm getting, the more that I'm choosing things because I actually like them, because I'm intentional about them, rather than falling into the pattern of familiarity that you grew up with or that I grew up with.
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And I want you to realize that this is more than just grocery shopping and grocery stores.
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That's just an example.
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And when I was thinking about this topic, other examples could be decorating your home.
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You're learning your own aesthetic outside of what you grew up with.
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Another example could be how you manage your money.
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Everyone has different preferences.
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And you becoming your own person, you get to dictate that, be more intentional about that, then defaulting to what you've observed.
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Other examples, you start creating routines, celebrating certain holidays a specific way, creating your own traditions.
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And little by little, you stop living someone else's blueprint and start creating your own definition of things.
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And by doing that, you ultimately start creating your own blueprint.
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That being said, it that doesn't mean that everything that you're familiar with has to change.
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If you happen to agree with it and you happen to like it, great, that's completely fine.
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But I think what I'm talking about here is more of that intentionality, that conscious awareness of am I getting this?
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Am I doing certain things because I truly want to, because I like it, or because this is what I'm used to.
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This is the way things have always been done in my family, or what I've observed growing up.
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When we were younger, we didn't have to think a lot about our choices.
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Food we grow up with is chosen for us.
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Our routine is essentially created for us as well.
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Traditions are essentially established and we just follow suit.
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Then adulthood arrives, and one of the biggest shifts in adulthood is realizing that someone else is no longer making the decision for you.
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And I think there's another emotional side of this too that I don't think we talk about enough.
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Wondering if you're abandoning traditions or their values and certain things, which there could be, and others there might not be.
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I think you need to take it and evaluate it on a case-by-case thing.
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And you can still appreciate where you came from and how you grew up while you evolve into your own life, into your own purpose.
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Because becoming your own person, it doesn't require rejecting where you came from.
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And maybe that's what growing up really is: keeping some things and changing some things, questioning old assumptions, and creating your own version of adulthood.
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You can honor your upbringing without a hundred percent copying it.
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You see, growth isn't always about becoming someone totally new.
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Sometimes it's discovering and realizing what was always uniquely yours.
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Maybe this is another quiet part of becoming in general.
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You see, identity forms through these small decisions.
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Adulthood is built through discovery, repetition, growth.
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Who we become shows up in these small everyday decisions.
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And oftentimes the person you're becoming is revealed through the choices that nobody else notices.
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So, with that being said, here's your reflection for this week.
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What's something you do differently than your parents or your guardians?
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What's a preference that you developed that surprise you?
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And when did you first realize that you were making choices based off what you wanted rather than just familiarity?
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So maybe becoming your own person isn't one big breakthrough moment.
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Maybe it's a hundred of different small decisions that slowly start looking more and more like you.
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And you see, one day you'll look around at the life you've built and realize that it's no longer just what you inherited, but instead it's what you've chosen.
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Bye.