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Creativity is an addiction. Unplugged because we will always say
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yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
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So let's turn it into a tool. This is Arrow Unplugged.
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It seems like it's happening every day. The world is
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constantly being introduced to someone new within the ranks of fame.
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So the question is, what's the average length of fame time? Plus,
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I've got another question for you. Friendships. How authentic are
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they today? And can you really call someone you've never
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met a friend? My name is Errol. This is The
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Daily Mess. I am a daily writer, a silent wolf.
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That means I stand on the sidelines and do nothing
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but watch, listen, study, then activate. The Daily Mess, a
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chronological walkthrough in everyday world. Yes, it's my morning writing.
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And as a receiver of thoughts and ideas, what we
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do as people, we tend to throw it to the
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side and we'll deal with it later. When a subject
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arrives inside of me, I know it's time to dig in.
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It's still keeping that daily journal. But by doing the research,
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the pictures become clearer. This is the daily mess. Observation
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number 35. We see so many people of fame move
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through our chapters of this everyday life. A total nobody
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coming from the streets of anywhere US of A or
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anywhere in the world, winning So You Think You Can Dance,
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American Idol, or some baking show. Those of fame will
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tell you there is no such thing as an overnight sensation.
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But once achieved, what's required to maintain your fame? Those
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who've made it warn others to be very careful and
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not careless. For in these modern days, fame is looked
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upon as being an influencer. Those following them want to
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be led to greater times. The top goal is to
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not let fans down. There's actually a list to follow
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on how to keep your fame. Number one, be genuinely kind.
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Be the social glue of friend groups. Be confident. Tell
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it like it is. Be a good listener and do
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all you can to avoid gossip. There are four different
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stages of fame. Love and hate, addiction, acceptance, and adaptation.
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And when fame reaches your front door, what do the
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experts say? Keep a journal. Write every day. The goal
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is to never lose touch with who you really are. Hey,
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coming up next, maybe it's because I live in the
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broadcasting world, but the big question is, how is it
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that friendships survive beyond seven years? Or are they? Hey,
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thanks for coming back to The Daily Mess. Maybe it's
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because I come from the world of broadcasting where we
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move around so much. But I was once known for saying,
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I've never had a friendship with someone that lasts longer
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than seven years. To this day, that physically haunts me
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because at the age of 62, I see so many
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people celebrating 40 and 50 years of friendships with other people.
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The question is, has the definition of what a friend
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is changed? Recent reports say absolutely yes. Social media has
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reinvented the way that we interact, which raises the question,
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not ever meeting somebody face to face. Is it truly
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a relationship? One expert says social media friendships don't nurture
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like face-to-face time, which takes away from the value of
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the friendship. Let's dive into this even deeper. Let's talk
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about gamers, those playing video games online. They survive well
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with having casual relationships. Their world is based on a
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very short experience online. Here's something else to think about.
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Friendships in the past. We didn't have to have the
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same jobs. We didn't have to have something in common. Today,
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it's totally different. In the way that most friend circles
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are based 100% on the people that you work with
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or have something to do with the field that you
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support every single day. And the reason why is because
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you understand what they're going through. And you offer everything
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that defines a friend. Love. Listening. Understanding. And... even some
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friendly competition. I'm Arrow, and that's The Daily Mess.
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Creativity is an addiction. Unplugged because we will always say
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yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
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00:00:06.860 --> 00:00:09.919
So let's turn it into a tool. This is Arrow Unplugged.
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It seems like it's happening every day. The world is
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00:00:12.720 --> 00:00:16.309
constantly being introduced to someone new within the ranks of fame.
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00:00:17.230 --> 00:00:21.910
So the question is, what's the average length of fame time? Plus,
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I've got another question for you. Friendships. How authentic are
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00:00:25.800 --> 00:00:28.910
they today? And can you really call someone you've never
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00:00:28.969 --> 00:00:32.049
met a friend? My name is Errol. This is The
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00:00:32.070 --> 00:00:35.750
Daily Mess. I am a daily writer, a silent wolf.
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That means I stand on the sidelines and do nothing
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00:00:38.149 --> 00:00:42.670
but watch, listen, study, then activate. The Daily Mess, a
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00:00:42.710 --> 00:00:46.710
chronological walkthrough in everyday world. Yes, it's my morning writing.
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00:00:46.929 --> 00:00:48.850
And as a receiver of thoughts and ideas, what we
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00:00:48.869 --> 00:00:50.350
do as people, we tend to throw it to the
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side and we'll deal with it later. When a subject
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arrives inside of me, I know it's time to dig in.
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00:00:56.759 --> 00:01:00.280
It's still keeping that daily journal. But by doing the research,
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the pictures become clearer. This is the daily mess. Observation
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number 35. We see so many people of fame move
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through our chapters of this everyday life. A total nobody
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coming from the streets of anywhere US of A or
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anywhere in the world, winning So You Think You Can Dance,
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American Idol, or some baking show. Those of fame will
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tell you there is no such thing as an overnight sensation.
26
00:01:25.900 --> 00:01:30.510
But once achieved, what's required to maintain your fame? Those
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00:01:30.530 --> 00:01:33.650
who've made it warn others to be very careful and
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00:01:33.750 --> 00:01:38.010
not careless. For in these modern days, fame is looked
29
00:01:38.049 --> 00:01:41.780
upon as being an influencer. Those following them want to
30
00:01:41.819 --> 00:01:45.219
be led to greater times. The top goal is to
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00:01:45.359 --> 00:01:48.900
not let fans down. There's actually a list to follow
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on how to keep your fame. Number one, be genuinely kind.
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Be the social glue of friend groups. Be confident. Tell
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it like it is. Be a good listener and do
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all you can to avoid gossip. There are four different
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stages of fame. Love and hate, addiction, acceptance, and adaptation.
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00:02:15.919 --> 00:02:18.300
And when fame reaches your front door, what do the
38
00:02:18.400 --> 00:02:24.840
experts say? Keep a journal. Write every day. The goal
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00:02:25.039 --> 00:02:30.009
is to never lose touch with who you really are. Hey,
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coming up next, maybe it's because I live in the
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broadcasting world, but the big question is, how is it
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that friendships survive beyond seven years? Or are they? Hey,
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thanks for coming back to The Daily Mess. Maybe it's
44
00:02:46.340 --> 00:02:48.539
because I come from the world of broadcasting where we
45
00:02:48.580 --> 00:02:51.800
move around so much. But I was once known for saying,
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I've never had a friendship with someone that lasts longer
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00:02:55.340 --> 00:02:59.110
than seven years. To this day, that physically haunts me
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because at the age of 62, I see so many
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00:03:01.770 --> 00:03:04.870
people celebrating 40 and 50 years of friendships with other people.
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00:03:05.960 --> 00:03:08.569
The question is, has the definition of what a friend
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00:03:08.810 --> 00:03:15.500
is changed? Recent reports say absolutely yes. Social media has
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00:03:15.560 --> 00:03:18.939
reinvented the way that we interact, which raises the question,
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00:03:19.759 --> 00:03:22.740
not ever meeting somebody face to face. Is it truly
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00:03:22.840 --> 00:03:27.849
a relationship? One expert says social media friendships don't nurture
55
00:03:28.090 --> 00:03:31.509
like face-to-face time, which takes away from the value of
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00:03:31.530 --> 00:03:34.909
the friendship. Let's dive into this even deeper. Let's talk
57
00:03:34.949 --> 00:03:40.520
about gamers, those playing video games online. They survive well
58
00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:45.219
with having casual relationships. Their world is based on a
59
00:03:45.400 --> 00:03:49.930
very short experience online. Here's something else to think about.
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00:03:50.430 --> 00:03:52.969
Friendships in the past. We didn't have to have the
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same jobs. We didn't have to have something in common. Today,
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00:03:56.650 --> 00:03:59.789
it's totally different. In the way that most friend circles
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are based 100% on the people that you work with
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00:04:03.849 --> 00:04:06.189
or have something to do with the field that you
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support every single day. And the reason why is because
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00:04:10.270 --> 00:04:14.939
you understand what they're going through. And you offer everything
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that defines a friend. Love. Listening. Understanding. And... even some
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friendly competition. I'm Arrow, and that's The Daily Mess.
