Allison’s Spring Updates, Tulum Trip, 10k Run, Visiting Family in Omaha and Bucketlist Netherlands Activities

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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello and welcome back to the already friends podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is Allison and oh my gosh I am so excited to hang out with you guys today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm in the best mood on this Monday morning because we are all gonna hang out today and get caught up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh two months without you guys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This was so unintentional taking this break.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to rehash it all out here because I have been putting some updates on Patreon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: patreon.com slash already friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that I wanted to be behind a paywall.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just feel really comfortable sharing candidly open and honest on Patreon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so as I was going through my decision process of what the future of already friends entails, I was really transparent on Patreon about
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if I want to say too much because I want to keep it light and happy and fun today, but if you're looking for some more details, go over to Patreon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So for today's episode, there's no set topic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just going to give you guys life updates from what's been going on in my world the last two months and share your peaks and a bunch of peaks that have happened
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[SPEAKER_00]: to set the scene.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am out in our garden shed that we renovated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll go more into that, but it is such a vibe out here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I'm in my own little studio.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's private.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's quiet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just let some palacento, I had my coffee, I took a case down to the canal with peaches, and we fed the ducks, which side-no, ducks are so mean.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been feeding the ducks with him, and peaches, like every couple of days since he's been born, and man, ducks, birds,
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[SPEAKER_00]: raw, feeding these ducks, like they fight over this bread.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's very fascinating.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, we did that this morning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We made some breakfast and put him down for a nap.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now I get to update you guys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think I'm going to jump right in to piece of the week because then we just have that out of the way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I can just go in whatever direction these personal updates unfold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: box on the Instagram story yesterday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god, it was so heartwarming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you guys being so excited that I'm recording.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know how good that feels like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my heart is sworing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to read some of them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it was like yay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: China said seeing AF come back, heart, and a said getting an already friends podcast episode, heart, case that having the podcast be back, there's a bunch more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So truly, thank you guys for your excitement because it is fueling my excitement.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and some peaks of what's going on in your guys's world, Velvet said scored a ton of vintage power Rangers birthday decor for my husband's 40th birthday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was such a fun theme and everyone loved it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Page said, I got my dream, John, Eric had an Americana inspired barbecue with his family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and Jillian said first time in Charleston for a wedding cat said on my honeymoon and can't wait to listen on my flight home Lauren said taking my two-year-old daughter on her first family trip just the three of us to Chicago for the week Kylie said new job from a stay-at-home mom
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tegan and Jenika said booked a Euro backpacking trip for the summer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Jaden said realizing stress is the problem.
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[SPEAKER_00]: None of my healthy habits can work if I'm in chronic stress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Facts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So glad you realized that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Max said on a battery trip in Portugal, so lucky to celebrate my friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Danielle said, getting on a one-way flight and moving to Sydney.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my goodness, life is happening for you guys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In two months, look at all of you out here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Taking trips, making memories, going after your dream jobs, spending time with loved ones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I forgot how much I love reading your guys' peaks and just knowing that everyone everywhere in their own lives have all of these ups and downs and highs and lows of things happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's so cool, just writing that along with you guys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to go in chronological order, hopefully, if I don't get too sidetracked.
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[SPEAKER_00]: of what happened from when we last recorded.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that would have been the end of February when we were doing Kara's farewell February.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was headed down to to Lumexico to do my postpartum birth integration trip.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sounds like a mouthful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Pretty much what that meant to me was intentionally
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think no explanation needed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is intense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is beautiful, but it is ugly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is hard.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is so mentally trippy that you go from having this baby in your belly that you've been waiting nine months to meet, then you go through the most excruciating pain of your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then you get to meet this beautiful baby who just suddenly on your chest and is out of your belly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and maybe you had complications and there was a whole lot more to it, but it's just the quickest change of personally my life that I've ever experienced in such a quick boom boom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, my life was me in clay in peaches and it was just us and I was
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[SPEAKER_00]: pregnant, and you're waiting and waiting to meet the baby, and then all of a sudden, the baby is here, and you are in the newborn trenches, the newborn bubble.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're all figuring out life together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is just crazy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so when you're in that newborn stage, I feel like it's really easy to have the primary focus being on taking care of the baby and learning what you guys will need from each other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I believe that most women don't get the opportunity to do this birth integration because so much of their energy is being devoted to the newborn baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, I want to process this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that many labor was so horribly traumatic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys can go back and listen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I
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[SPEAKER_00]: did a full breakdown in December 48 hours after he was born.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was pretty fresh in my mind.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the intensity of it no matter what kind of birth you have, I think you got a process it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's in your mind, your body, your spirit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not just a physical recovery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you really need to take the time emotionally and spiritually to grasp what you went through during that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that's all to say, I feel like I needed to go on a trip to do that one-on-one with haze so that I could change up our regular routine that me play haze and peaches our dog have in order to put my attention on healing from birth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys know, Tulum is my safe space.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's where I go when I'm over-simulated from life and I need to focus on me and go inward and ended up living there for a year, which was beautiful, but I needed to go back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I needed to reconnect with myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think I also associate to him with myself pre-baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'm like, oh, that's where I go to, yeah, just here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so going there, my intention was to process first, bond with Hayes 101, and...
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[SPEAKER_00]: see what came through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I booked a one way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was there for a week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It helped so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got a little Airbnb with a cute rooftop and had a pool and it was in great walking distance to a lot of my favorite places.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Traveling with a newborn, pretty crazy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was a 11 and a
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I hired a private driver to pick me up in Cancun and take me to Tulim because my flight got in pretty late in Cancun, like 10 pm or something, and so I didn't want to deal with public transportation at that hour, and so she just dropped us off right at the Airbnb, and it was a gal I had worked with previously when I lived there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was easy getting from pointed to point B. I feel like I'm a liar, but he's literally didn't cry once on the flight.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that traveling with a baby at that age, he was 10 weeks, I think, was the sweet spot, because he's still so small and so new and so he could fit right on my lap.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I nursed him on takeoff and landing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He didn't show any signs of his ears hurting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had an aisle seat, got up, would walk around a little bit, go change a diaper in the bathroom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And yeah, honestly, it was not bad at all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I only brought a carry on because I didn't want to deal with like having a bunch of luggage, put it in the baby carrier, and check the car seat for free.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, um,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I can do a whole other episode in the future about traveling with the newborn.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're just a baby in general tips.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, I say if you do have a baby, it's easy to build it up in your head as being this like impossible task.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But if you've made it through pregnancy and labor and managing the child at home, you can do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then yeah, when I got there,
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's fun to go around to my favorite spots right when I got there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't tell any of my two new friends that I was there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The first day, I went to this, it's like, if you've been to two new metlice, there's an art walk, there's a restaurant, there's an herb shop, there's a pool, they do cacao, and
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[SPEAKER_00]: who are hoping literally every modality of healing they have a class or workshop there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's fun to just go and hang out in the open spaces and see who you could run into.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I did that immediately the next morning after I got there and the workers, they know me because I used to go all the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They were like, oh my gosh, the baby, and they were like, I don't even know what they should say this, but they were like passing him around because everyone was so excited to see him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they're like speaking Spanish, I'm catching some of what's going on, but like the workers are just passing around Hayes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's loving it, because he's such a little flirt.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves attention.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then there was a girl there who had the girl really nice,
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[SPEAKER_00]: camera, like a DSLR.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she was like, this is so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can I take photos?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it was like a little impromptu photo shoot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the owner was there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He was like, oh my gosh, I have to show you what I've been working on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we took hold to her around and he's yeah, it was just love in life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was love in life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I walked to my cacao spot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And multiple of my friends were there and like, oh my god, I didn't even know you were in town.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like literally day one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just got here last night.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And once again, everyone was loving on haze and it felt so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, if you have ever been postpartum, you know that the emotions can be tough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Highest of high is lowest of blows.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So just being poured on with love, both for myself and the baby and everyone congratulating us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, it was healing me and softening me in the warm sunshine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It did so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and there was a new coffee shop that opened that was really close to the Airbnb I was saying that and thankfully they opened that 7am because something to consider it's a 7 hour time difference from Amsterdam to toloom and so let's say his would normally wake up at like 8am.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, though at the time change, that would be one AM.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thankfully, he would wake up, but I would feed him or put him in the shower, we'd hang out for a little bit, and then I would get him to go back down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But most mornings, he was up and ready for the day at three or four AM.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So him and I would have a whole little morning from three for AM to seven AM, when this coffee shop opened in the Airbnb room, we would hang out and do tummy time,
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[SPEAKER_00]: sunrise and feed and just be sweet together and the world was quiet and I was just able to process you know there was nothing to do nowhere to be so it kind of worked out really beautifully to have those quiet hours and then at 7 a.m.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would go over to the coffee shop and have breakfast and do a little work on my laptop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then the day would unfold from there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so most days, we were in bed by like five PM because that like midnight Amsterdam time, which was like a crazy bedtime for a baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But five, like what am I gonna do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What about two PM for the day?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So five felt like a decent compromise in the middle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so yeah, we would sleep from like five to twoish, threeish, whatever, and of course, waking up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: every couple hours to feed, but it really didn't matter what time it was on the clock.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was just nice bonding time, the whole week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so from there, I was like, you know what, I'm already on the side of the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I might as well go to Omaha.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I texted my family and my friends and I was like, what if I just impulse came to Omaha?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they were like, yeah, obviously come.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so my mom,
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[SPEAKER_00]: the whole bedroom for me, God has a little crib, even though, like, totally transparent.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just co-sleep with him every night.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys can make your own choice on that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can judge me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's whatever, so what I feel is best for me, and I love cuddling him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: all night.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Every night is my favorite thing in the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it was really sweet of her to get the crib because it was useful for naps because while it was there, I was like, well, I'm going to be built in busy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had an event at 1404 with like a matchup pop up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We did a staff bonding event.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then just so happened.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he saw it was in town.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: but the person who owns the property management company that I least the retail space of my store from sent me a text and was like, hey, we've been wanting to do a feature video on the shop, I have a videographer, would you be interested in us like coming into film and doing a video?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, yes, perfect timing, because I'm in town, let's do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I had a couple of girls model with me and that was,
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[SPEAKER_00]: fun out of all of our comforts sounds, but we did it, and then I had to do some upgrades in the shop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hung up new mirrors because I wanted bigger mirrors in the dressing rooms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I painted the checkout counter, revived the plants, and the decor on the top shelves, and it did my taxes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And like I said, I was staying at my mom's house, and so one morning her and I were just talking about
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[SPEAKER_00]: At the time, it was either seers or juicy pennies to do photos, and this is like a core memory of my childhood.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We would do photos all of the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Some of my most favorite baby and childhood photos are from these small photos shoots.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bear and in the little fluffy basket, just the most exterior typical kid photos.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But something about them makes them so iconic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we were kind of joking about getting he's his newborn photos done at J.C. Penning.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we were like, do they even do that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, is J.C. Penning even someone business?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, honestly, I didn't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We look it up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There is a J.C. Penning at the mall in Omaha.
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[SPEAKER_00]: they do do newborn photos and they had a package it was like the entire digital album and the photo shoot itself was like a hundred bucks and we looked at the schedule of when we could go in and like the next day at 11am we were able to go in so we were like okay
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have to do this and I packed him like three or four different outfits.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Me and my mom just went.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was some of the photographer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She was very energetic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can definitely tell she was a newborn photographer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But she got some great smiles out of him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She was totally understanding about I had to pause in the middle of the shoot to feed him and then he was putting
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[SPEAKER_00]: up a little bit and I wanted the different outfits, but they turned out so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I, on my website, I'll put a blog post to those photos, so honestly, I highly recommend if you have a baby or kids and you want cheap photos, look no further than the J.C. Penny photoshoot studio apparently.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and I don't say that to promote corporate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just if I wouldn't have probably paid, I don't know how much newborn photos cost was like a proper freelance photographer who has their own business probably.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think like $500, I wouldn't have probably sheld out for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I was like, okay, 100 bucks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We get the whole album in and out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you have been lacking family photos, maybe that's something that you could look into.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then also while I was back in Omaha, I wanted Hayes to be able to meet his great grandparents, which would be Clay's grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hayes is great grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They are obviously much older.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It would not be practical for them to fly to Europe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That would be really, really hard on them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I took a haste to go meet them and it was so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He was the talk of the retirement center.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, all of these old ladies and the lobby were just swooning over him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was so cute.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At one point, I was off kind of around the side of feeding him and breastfeeding him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and this woman walked by and I could see her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She was probably, I don't know, 25 meters away or something like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I could see me down the hallway and she just stopped and she was staring at us and I could see her start crying and so I waved her over and I was like, hi and she was like, sorry, this is just so beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It caught me so off guard and like we don't get to
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[SPEAKER_00]: see things like this here all the time and it was making me miss my own kids and that phase of life and I recently lost my husband and she was like it's just such a beautiful moment and there was a chair next to me and I was like you can sit down and I'm gonna like gonna cry around and she just sat with me while I fed him and just stared at both of us and I just like let her cry and it made me cry and I was gonna be me cry again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was just so sweet and something about babies and old people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They really remind you of the circle of life and how fast it all goes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was really sweet to take him there and have him meet a close grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I also got to see some friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you guys remember Sam that we had on a couple years ago,
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[SPEAKER_00]: He has the whole inner rail, Sunny's, our priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They are always doing cool stuff and opening new businesses.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They do the absorbent run club.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Always stuff happening over there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So one night I pumped a bottle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In my mom watched his and Jessie and I went to check out the new listening bar that they opened.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like only vinyl music.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was really cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll link it in the show notes if you guys are in Omaha and want to go check it out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then what else?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I organized my storage unit a little bit as I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, when I took haste to my dad's office, I also did this like the day after I got into town.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And he was also like, parading haste around he works at a bank, the mortgage loan office.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And people were just smiling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, truly babies just not everyone has to be a baby person, but I think a lot of people seeing a smiling baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Feel grateful and happy and my dad had also mentioned that he was doing this 10k run out at Mahoney State Park at the Strategic Air and Space Museum It was a leprechaun race because it was right around St. Patrick's day So the run started inside the strategic air and space museum in your ticket to do the run included entry into the museum
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[SPEAKER_00]: And wow, that museum is really, really cool for one, and they had a Star Wars exhibit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my dad is like the biggest Star Wars fan ever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he took a case in there, and they were just really bonding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was very sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But so the run starts inside the museum, and then you go out, and the run was all through Mahoney State Park, which is not like Nebraska's the most beautiful place on earth, but for Nebraska, it was really beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then finish in back inside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and my dad had asked if I wanted to do it with me or at least go and watch him or maybe walk.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, I don't think I'm going to run, but all like totally all come and I'll treat you one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then as the days were passing, because I got in a town, I think I'm like Monday in the
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, you know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just making excuses.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I should do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I ran across country and track.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It'll feel so good to move my body in that way and it'll boost my confidence.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In worst case, okay, I stop and I walk the rest of the way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, it'll be fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I ended up running the whole thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I never stopped so walk and even at the end, I had enough in me to do like a hard finish.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then once I got to the end, I jogged back, probably 800 meters or so to this last big hill and waited for my dad, finish to the race with him so that he could have that final push and support.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it was really sweet to do that together because
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[SPEAKER_00]: My dad is the one who got me into running.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I was a kid, we would do five k's and ten k's together, and to be able, then full circle to do that when he's a grandpa.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And to have haze there, like when I saw haze on the side, I had to run over and give him a little kiss on the head.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My sister was holding him during the race.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was just really, really sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, the Omaha trip was...
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[SPEAKER_00]: really, really wonderful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I flew back to Harlem and it was a tough journey back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got delayed at a bit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was supposed to go through Detroit, it was supposed to be Omaha, Detroit, Detroit, Amsterdam, but no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They re-routed me to Atlanta and I got to Atlanta.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was a storm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then they re-routed me to Paris and then that made me miss my connection because we were delayed at a battling in a
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[SPEAKER_00]: So then I hung out at the Paris Airport for like a day and then finally got a flight from Paris back to Amsterdam.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was over 24 hours of travel on the way back with just myself in a house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He did great, but my body was tired by the end of that and all that time's
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, the Omaha was doing the most and had just ran a 10K the day before I left.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, so far, through the time I got back to Harlem, claimed that me at this nice restaurant that's right by the train station, and we had an awesome dinner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had a burger.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We both had a glass of wine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I caught him up on everything, and then we walked back to our place.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, oh my God.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am so tired and was telling him just how different it felt in Omaha to have the support of my mom and my sister and my dad helping with him and it made me realize like wow yeah living abroad we don't have any of that help ever like I can't just have my mom come over for two hours so I can go to a yoga class.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's, we're really on our own little island out here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so he obviously got to, the whole three weeks I was gone and he was here by himself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he was feeling totally restored as a new dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He got to kick back and get caught up on work and sleep in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, okay, this week, I need that now even though until my head done, you know,
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[SPEAKER_00]: the spiritual healing stuff and I went and got my nails done in Toyo and I'm a massage and I did a Japanese head spa that was freaking amazing but then with the almost two weeks in Omaha and then the long travel day back I was like I am ready for some TLC again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And Clay was so supportive, he signed me up for this incredible hour-and-a-half massage at this place here in Harlem called Sir House.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She actually is from California and had worked in like really bougie spas for like 14 years or something and now open her own place here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was unreal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got my-
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[SPEAKER_00]: eyebrows, threaded, laminated, and tinted, I went to a cacao ceremony in a meditation class.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He bought me some new sneakers because I'm cheap.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys know, I'm like, thrifty and love a good deal and it can be hard for me to spend money on material things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'll look a flight boom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But when it comes to material things,
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like so hard for me to buy them sometimes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why I'm so cheap in that way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just love experiences over having more stuff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And Clay's like sneakers that have support for your feet is not an unnecessary expense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like you need to be wearing nice shoes or walking all the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because part of why I was so sore from
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[SPEAKER_00]: being in the airport is doing all of those steps while carrying Hayes in totally busted out sneakers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we've got me some new shoes and wow I must say.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Amazing what having art support can do for a foot and I also realized that that is what was making my pelvic floor sore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Apparently walking in bad shoes is really bad for your pelvic floor postpartum.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So yeah, let's learn.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel totally fine now, now I'm back in Pilates and doing yoga and school didn't all that stuff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I could have accelerated my recovery if I had just bought a new pair of frequent sneakers sooner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Clay hadn't my back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He got me taken care of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we had some less fun appointments to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had to get his Dutch residency card.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had to set up a
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, for all of those type of appointments, we have to go to Amsterdam and go to the government offices and wait and it's never a fun thing, but it's part of a big abroad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: To maintain our SNC, I also went to Amsterdam to get the skin tags in my armpits removed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Those came from pregnancy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I remember the first time I went to shave my armpits all the
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have moles all over my body, but the skin texts were like really raised, and I just did not like them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe for some people they wouldn't bother them, but I did not want them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, you know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: The weather's getting nicer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be wearing a sleeveless shirt all the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to go get them removed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I found this place that did them impulse main appointment with the next day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, it was like actually such a non-abend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if this is something that you're struggling with as well, I'm here to tell you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was really easy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had almost 10 between the two armpits and she just burned them off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously did not feel great, but I was holding Hayes and it was not so excursioningly painful that I couldn't maintain holding him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was in and out in like 20 minutes tops and there was no recovery, basically just like don't put the order on top of the wounds really the next two days and be careful like having stuff rub on them but they healed so well you wouldn't ever even know anything was there and guess how much it cost?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was 75 euros so times 1.2.
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[SPEAKER_00]: like a little less than a hundred dollars for the appointment and to get them all taken off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Cake was great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Also, right after I got back from Omaha, we did this shed project, which I was telling you guys at the beginning of the episode, our garden shed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we would have done it earlier, but we are just renting this place from the gal who owns it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But we had to ask the property manager who had asked her and then we had to add an
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[SPEAKER_00]: to super clarify that we were never going to ask for money for redoing the shed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that that's like a Dutch thing because they tend to be sticklers and really frugal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really, really frugal more than any culture I've ever met.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Love the Dutch, but that is something about them that I'm like, like you don't tip in the Netherlands also.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you round like if you go to a nice dinner and your bill is 91 dollars you literally only round up like a hundred dollars I'm like this is crazy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so not used to it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I still tip like everywhere I go and that's why I feel like I get such good service on my massages and facials and waxing and coffee because I'm like I'm always gonna tip like 10 to 15% at least and they're always like wow whoa
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, this is so crazy because if you only tip 10% of the United States, I feel like they would spit in your food and cry, which it's so different because people's income actually depends on tips in the United States and a lot of situations where here it's not like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they're just kind of like whoa.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But anyway, it was a long process to get the full go ahead from our owner on doing the garden shed because I think she couldn't believe that we were willing to just pay for materials to fix it up ourselves and do the labor and weren't going to be like, hey,
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[SPEAKER_00]: here's the bill like reimburse us because we felt like for us it was just easier and cheaper to have a little office at our house than to have to go rent some other office that's less queue and if it's raining we got to get on our bike and since Clay and I are like both home solo parenting it's nice to be able to be like switch in and out we don't have to commit by going across town
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[SPEAKER_00]: Make a coffee at home, bring it out to the shed, going for lunch, or to pee, it doesn't have to be this big commitment to go into the office, but it still gives the benefit of the separation from the main house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so while I was gone into Luma and Omaha, we had gotten the approval from the owner to move forward with the project, which was good timing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: something to work on, how you were gone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, otherwise I feel like I was going to go crazy, going from having so much responsibility taking care of me and Hayes to being like, I've only work in myself to take care of now, like with the heck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he started on phase one up the shed project, which was just like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: cleaning it out and patching up all of the holes because it's really humid here in the down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It rains a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there were some corners of the wood where it's like totally rotted out, but you could see from inside to the outside.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he had to fix up the structural part of the shed, which is not something I was going to be helpful to anyhow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he did all the prep of getting the bone squared away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I got here, we did the fun stuff, well, to me, the fun stuff together, which was painting, laying the floor, and then decorating it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It did end up taking us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Probably two or three weeks because we would take turns, he would paint, he would do the floor, I would do some touch-up stuff, then we decorate, but now it's done and we have it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it has literally changed our lives because whoever is working, actually gets stuff done instead of being in the living room.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like it was so hard to actually focus.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So usually, if one person is working, the other person would go for a walk with haze and peaches, but
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, even if you go for a walk for like 45 minutes, which is a long walk, until you know that much time for the other person to be working, like most days clay has four to five hours of client calls.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now it's just so much better, like outright now in podcasts recording out in the shed, their inside maybe he's woke up from his nap already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But clay's got it, and I don't have to worry about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we don't have to overly coordinate our days now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the lighting back here is really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've got my little Buddha statue, Palo Santo, a cute, indigenous mirror.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I found this little shelf hanger thing at the thrift store, so I painted that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Clay has one of his handmade macromia pieces on the wall.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have our yoga mats, it's cozy, it's cute.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I also have pictures on my website, so you can look there if you want a visual.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then after the shed, I was thinking, wow, we had this idea and it was well worth the money to follow through on that idea and I wish we had done it sooner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, maybe I should apply that type of thinking to an espresso machine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I told you guys how much clay and I were spending on take away coffee, it was not good, like, easily $500 a month.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the coffee shop on our streets isn't open until 8 a.m.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I also felt like I wasn't enjoying my morning's enough because I wake up before 8 a.m. and I was like wishing the time away, waiting for the coffee shop to open.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not not a morning person, but I don't love mornings as much as out the coffee.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I have a coffee, perfect fine, I can make up at whatever time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But because I didn't have a coffee machine, I was waiting for the coffee shop to open, which also let me say, we had bought like a pod espresso type of machine and it broke.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I bought it last summer and this company was so annoying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I sent it back because I was like, okay, this literally broke the first week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they were like, no, it's not broken.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they sent me back the same broken one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I had like five different people messed with it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And everyone was like, yes, doesn't work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, okay, thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like the pod, it wouldn't poke holes into the pod for it to actually go through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it would just be like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: pushing water and it would spray everywhere and like you would get no coffee and have to time it didn't even turn on and it would like shake.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was so sus.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to like actually go to the better business bureau for this company because they'd also bought a nice fan from them and that broke too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I think this company is like a scam.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're Instagram.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They turned off their comments because everyone commenting was saying the same.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'll say the company
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had a bad taste in my mouth because I had spent like, I don't know, a couple hundred dollars that leased on this bougie-looking fan in a special machine for them to not work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now I want to buy another espresso machine, but I didn't end up saving myself any money because I just went to the coffee shop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: every day, sometimes twice a day, and a new espresso machine would have paid for itself in one month.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I finally said we're doing it buying a nice espresso machine, not one that's going to break.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we went to the store, which is actually the coffee place on our street, and I got a little sage bim bino, which I'm pretty sure sage is the same brand as Breville, like the same company,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, the American version.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I love it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was a barista back in college.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think about that those barista days.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would go in a 5 a.m. in work until like my 830 class.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'd be there's like 8.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I would be on headset.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had drive through and customers in store.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I would be trying to do both and make coffees and get people stuff through the drive through and do the checkout in person or inside the store.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And back then minimum wage was like 8.50 an hour.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I think I was getting maybe $10 an hour with tips.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I would do all of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: wake up at 5am, bust my ass for $30.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so grateful to not be in that situation anymore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At the time, I didn't really mind it, but looking back at my while it was a lot of effort.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway, I had to lean in to remembering my barista skills.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I did actually.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like DIY home brista.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been doing really well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Talk clay had a steam mill can do everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now we are not buying 500 dollars of coffee from the local coffee place on our street anymore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was funny because the place where we get the coffee also sells espresso machines.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when we went in to the two workers that we see literally every day who have watched us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: at our our best and worse because there's some one is that we would go in there and I feel like they're like oh yeah they're new parents it's this dad and son that owned the place and I was like guys I've got good news and I've got bad news what do you want first in the sun was like um bad news I was like weren't you not gonna be seeing us every day we're not we're not coming in here every day anymore and he's like oh man why
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, okay, so you're ready for the good news.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you'll say, yeah, and it's like, we're buying the espresso machine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And he was like, all right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So he showed me the machines and helped us pick out the one that we went with.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we bought our coffee there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we still see them probably every four days now because they have a cinnamon roll that clean.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really, really like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So even though we can make coffee ourselves, the cinnamon roll there, it's just so freaking good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've decided, like, those that treat yourself Tuesdays, but then it started escalating because we wanted more cinnamon rolls.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was like, make yourself happy Monday.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We just kept going so that every day of the week, it's kind of like a bit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now we make a jingle that if we buy the cinnamon roll, it's like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: have a fantastic Friday cinnamon roll day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys get what I'm saying though.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we do still stop in and support them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But having the rest of machine at home has been absolutely fantastic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then a not so fun thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Perhaps due to the cinnamon roll addiction, I was overdue for the dentist and Clea had a cat
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[SPEAKER_00]: cavity.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This was so bad of us.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we hadn't been to the dentist in over a year, which is terrible.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know, but we had moved here in June, and then it took a few months for our residency to get approved.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think we got it back until like October, and you can't enroll in their health care system until you have residency.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, like you know, that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we couldn't even
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[SPEAKER_00]: a general practitioner at a dentist office with a physio any of that stuff until the end of October once all of that was improved.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well at that point I was like 36 weeks pregnant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So my mind was not really thinking about the dentist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My mind was I haven't had literally any prenatal appointments and we need to focus on that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we had Hayes and then the newborn trenches are not really
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, fast forward to now, I was definitely thinking about the dentist because I have a permanent retainer on my top and bottom that's like glued in and it's really hard to clean behind it and underneath it and this is I'm totally outing myself but there was like black on one of my teeth and I was like oh my god my tooth died like I thought the tooth rotted and so one day when I saw that I was literally
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[SPEAKER_00]: balling and having a mental break down to clay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, my tooth died.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna have to wear a retainer with a fake tooth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What am I gonna do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm 31 years old and my teeth are already dying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like this is insane.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is what I get for being woman and being pregnant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, well, I was like, totally spiraling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In class like, okay, I'm gonna call this anus right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He calls the earliest they could get me in was like a week and a half later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Did you not express how desperate I am?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So then I call back and the lady was like, oh, this woman is unhinged.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like we better get her in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So like two days after that, they like they had put me on the cancellation list.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I got in two days later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We did this intro appointment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, um,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think, please don't tell me we may do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm crying crying at the dentist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tears are coming out of my eyes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's so embarrassing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's like, it's just stone, which apparently I hope I don't butcher this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you have plaque, we all know what plaque is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the bacteria in plaque is alive, but after a while, that bacteria dies.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so then it turns to stone, which is like a black color.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the stone is bad because it can start to push down in between the gum and tooth causing the decay of the tooth because it's like so hard that it's eroding away the tooth and can go deeper and deeper.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And because the stone is like up in the gums, it's really tough to get out like you can't just get that out yourself with dental floss.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to go in to the dentist and
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have my fourth one next month to get all the plaque out of up inside my gums, which obviously felt like I've always liked the dentist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I was really keeping up on going to the dentist in previous years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I would go every three, six months, especially down in Columbia, Mexico.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like it's super affordable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like 30, 40 bucks to go to the dentist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I would just be like kind of in the same note of like wanting a massage or a manicure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, I'm just going to go to the dentist and get my teeth cleaned.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, now I waited too long and it got so bad and then it made my gums inflamed and then it was crushing my confidence because I was like, oh my god, I'm that girl with like inflamed bleeding gums, which also when you're pregnant, they bleed more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was a whole thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But three at the four, cleaning is done now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not only did I go to the dentist, they had to refer me to the
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[SPEAKER_00]: Clay was keeping up on his better.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He had an electric toothbrush.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just had a manual toothbrush and the dentist made me get an electric toothbrush.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why did I not have an electric toothbrush you might ask?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I was being cheap.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why in what did it do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It came around a bite in the ass.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because I just wanted to buy the little three-year-old bamboo toothbrush at the store at this year away shop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And Clay is like, no, I'm going to buy an electric toothbrush then actually cleans my teeth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so his refined, he had the one cavity, I guess, which I mean, it's not fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I think it's like the only cavity he's ever had in his life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All in all, I upgraded, dot my electric toothbrush.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I will be using the little brushes and the flossers, and I will hopefully never get myself in that much turmoil over my teeth ever again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tental problems are very real, and I'm pretty sure the whole connection between your mouth and your gut is like a thing you don't want to mess with.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But now I'm feeling much better.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm smiling again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you look at my Instagram, you will probably see a shift from soft smiles with my lips closed because I didn't want anyone to see my inflamed gums to now I'm smiling because we're bleeding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And on that high note, spring weather came.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my God, the Netherlands, it's brutal here and the winter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me say the wind, the four p.m. sunsets, the cloudiness, the rain, over the winter,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow, I chose to move here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why did I choose this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But now the spring weather came and I'm like this is why everything is blooming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is so beautiful here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is electric.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is alive out here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to make favorite things about the Dutch because we're all like deprived of the sun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then the spring when it comes out, people will move.
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[SPEAKER_00]: little tables and chairs onto the sidewalk like right outside their front door because there's not really like front porch is here not like in the United States where you have like a porch in a door and then grass in a driveway and then the sidewalk and no like here you open the door and you're on the sidewalk edges boom right there and so if people want sun you either go to the park
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well you just put a chair right outside your front door.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we've been totally doing what the Dutch you do and just putting a chair or a table right outside, right on the sidewalk.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So coffee, have some snacks, people watch, people stop by, you should chat a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They say hi to his speeches.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's this girl I follow who makes these really aesthetic videos of her life from another one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I haven't met her yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Kind of
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just as these really, really enjoyable videos to watch of daily Dutch life, but she posted one the other day of a compilation of Dutch people sitting on on the sidewalk calling it in the show notes so you can see what I'm talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so with that good spring weather, we've been doing that, going and picnicking at the park.
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[SPEAKER_00]: feeding the ducks a lot more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been at the beach at least five times.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A couple times so low, a couple times with friends, so once with clay, a haze is showing quite an affinity for flowers and plants.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He just loves, he loves to grab petals and leaves and grass.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are joking that he's going to be a little botanist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So one day we took a day trip to Lydon for the botanical gardens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This was the most amazing botanical garden
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[SPEAKER_00]: ever experience in my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought it was just gonna be one green house as most of them are and maybe like a little outdoor garden No, this was like a massive property on their university site like along the canal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was so many different buildings and
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[SPEAKER_00]: different types of installations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was like a Japanese garden.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was rose bushes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was tropical plants.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was a gardening area.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was like education centers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a cafe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you are planning to go to Amsterdam at any point in time,
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[SPEAKER_00]: highly recommended day trip to Liden.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's L-E-I-D-E-N, and it's like the hardest botanicals gardens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll also link this in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hayes had a blast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had a blast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Liden is also a really cute little city.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can definitely feel like the university presence in that city.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's nice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then on a day-to-day basis to get his flower fix, I always take him to feel the willow trees and to look at flowers around the neighborhood.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I made him a flower garland that he can play with and he's just mesmerized.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be holding him and he just feels and touches and examines flowers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like the highlight of his day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's so sweet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, what else?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, Jesse came to visit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys know one of my best friends, Jesse.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Her travel queen, she's a wedding photographer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She came over here on a whim because she was at bridal fashion week in New York.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she was like, what do you guys up to this weekend?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, well, Saturday, it's the first vintage market of the season in Delft, where they have the famous Delft Pottery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you guys know it, Blue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then on Sunday, we were going to go to Kuchenhof, which is the big Tilt Garden.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, you should definitely come join.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We would love to have you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So she got here on Saturday morning, her flight got in at like nine a.m. She took the bus here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had a little breakfast and then immediately left and went.
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[SPEAKER_00]: down to Delft.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like she's such a trooper and no sleep just boom boom one thing to the next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we were going to all the little market souls at the Delft vintage market because I was on a mission for two coffee cups with the saucers because with buying this espresso machine I thought would be so on brand to find some Dutch pottery and enjoy my morning coffee at these beautiful
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[SPEAKER_00]: well we're going to all the stalls and finding everything but coffee cups like tons of plate tons of faces lots of little spoons it's they have these tiles that you like hang on the wall that are it's kind of like a picture frame that's also a truly famous I'm like no I want some coffee cups and after like two hours of being there we were doing other stuff like hanging out we've got coffee it's
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[SPEAKER_00]: casually browsing these stalls.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, all right, it's not meant to be.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said that out loud to Jesse, and then literally the next one, they had the coffee cups.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I got them, and I was very happy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I did also get this candle, like a taper candle holder.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's really beautiful vintage.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the stall vendors, she was saying that their stuff actually has to be vintage there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They can't sell anything modern.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I thought that was really cool because
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[SPEAKER_00]: a lot of time as nowadays, I feel like things are fake vintage, like people just buy random nicknakes to have at their market stalls and it's like from Amazon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I hate that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, if I want I will buy it from Amazon myself, if I want I came to this vintage market because I want something quirky and old and different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so if that's you, go down to Delft.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's also a nice
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[SPEAKER_00]: very famous worldwide, millions of visitors every year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's only open in the spring for when the flowers are blooming.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was really, really cool timing for Jessie to come, because like I said, she's a wedding photographer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so she took photos for mean play.
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[SPEAKER_00]: as a family with Hayes and they were so sweet and I will cherish those forever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The day was just magical.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The weather was perfect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can even bring in your own food and snacks.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we brought a bottle of wine and some fancy cheese and a picnic blanket.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we just sat in the gardens and really enjoyed ourselves in the sunshine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It closed at five and we were like one of the last two people leave the park.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We were like, okay, okay, okay,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I kind of thought that maybe it would be overrated, but I'm happy to report back and say, it is not overrated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is worth coming from another country 100% I think it is like a life bucket list and it's so insane that it's less than 10 miles from our apartment really, really cool.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then we had some wardrobe upgrades, both for Clay and I. I had sent a full-size Czech suitcase of clothes back with Jesse to sell at my second hand shop in Omaha, which kind of gave me permission to do some more shopping, which it wasn't just that I needed new clothes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A lot of the stuff that I sent back didn't fit because of pregnancy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Mostly it was just like too big now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and I never bought like actual maternity clothes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just bought things that were bigger than my regular size.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it was all still really good stuff that I knew I could sell at the shop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So she took that back and then the fair price to vintage market came to Harlem.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They go all around Europe, but they're in Harlem, which is where I live four times a year, once per season, and a lot of the stuff that I have in my closet currently is from the vintage market, because they do the pricing by category, so all tops are a certain price, all jackets are a certain price, accessories are a certain price, and that can be good and bad, because if it's a really amazing shirt,
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're getting a really great deal, but if it's like just an average basic, then it's like kind of expensive for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think you just have to holistically look at the hall and be like, okay, I got 15 items for this price, which is really good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was looking forward to going again to their spring one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and then sure enough, they reached out about doing an Instagram collaboration.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they gave me a credit to shop there, and so I ended up getting almost, I think, 10 items with the credit and my overage balance that I paid was like 28 euros or something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like it was a really great deal, because all I had to do was post a couple of stories, and then I got like,
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[SPEAKER_00]: a huge wardrobe, a boost of things I really like so that we're all vintage.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've got a couple of silk things, some lacy things, um, a cute sweater vest, it's very exciting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Clay also really likes this market so he got a couple of things for himself and we tried to do the one in one out policy on our closet so then he donated quite a few things and I reorganized both of our closets.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I like having nice hangers in our closets because I think it helps
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[SPEAKER_00]: Keep the inventory in check because it's like oh, I can't just go out and buy more plastic hangers It's like no, this is this is the amount of hangers we have.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's keep our clothes in good condition Let's let's wash them properly and that keeps us having coldy pieces It keeps us having things that we love and
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[SPEAKER_00]: If we're not all about it anymore, we can just donate it and get stuff that does excited us because I think if you have items in your closet that you really like, it makes getting ready easier and more fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And while we were doing that closet cleanup project, we also did some spring cleaning around the house, did the not so fun, just like deep cleaning, but it always feels so good and donated some other household goods that we didn't need anymore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My mama heart.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had already donated a bunch of his newborn clothes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's growing so fast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's four and a half months now, but he's wearing size six to nine months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So basically all of the really cute sweet things that we had gone on our registry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's already outgrown, which made me so sad, but I donated most of them to the second-hand baby boutique on our street.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fenced at the owner and I was
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can tell that I don't need money for them, I just want them to go to a good home, and then we also had a bunch of books, clay loves to read like science fiction books, but there's huge books, and they take a ball of space, and so we donated them to a second hand.
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[SPEAKER_00]: bookstore here and doing those activities made us feel really good and felt nice to let go of some things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And as I have a second hand store and really believe in keeping things circular, it felt good to also be the person doing the donating.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That brings this to Hase's four-month sleep leak timeline.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He was such a good sleeper for the first few months of his life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying I took it for granted, but a little man used to sleep anywhere any time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to post this video.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I made a compilation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's in Capcut right now of him sleeping absolutely anywhere.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's so cute because then that sleep leap hit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People call it a four month sleep regression, but I don't like calling it that because really what's happening is they're progressing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're taking in way more stimulus because they can start to see further.
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[SPEAKER_00]: they're listening, they're becoming more aware, which is overwhelming for them and exciting, and so they're thinking about all of this stuff, which then makes it harder for them to fall asleep.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Somewhere, it's how most adults, like, you can't just fall asleep anywhere any time, because it's like, uh, it's really loud or it's pray or thinking about work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, we have to prepare ourselves to go to sleep more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, that's pretty much what's happening during this
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[SPEAKER_00]: sleep in anywhere all the time, which means we had to be way more diligent about his naps, not just where he's napping, but the time of his naps, because you have to help them get to sleep more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we've been putting him in the magic Merlin suit, which is like a weighted sleep outfit thing, and it helps put like some pressure to like help their anxiety a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and we're putting him in a dark room, we do the white noise, I never thought I would be that mom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But for right now, everyone is happier when he gets his naps in, I'm letting it unfold this way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not all bad, because previously when he could sleep anywhere all the time, I was doing so many outings.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like
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[SPEAKER_00]: literally every day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like library museum.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go to Amsterdam because when he's a new born like they're so easy like they're so chill.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But now he's needing more help so it's easier to just have him be at home and it's good timing because we have this shed done.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now Clay and I are getting more caught up on work and to be doing the podcast now, Clay's just like taking
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[SPEAKER_00]: and do more with the shop.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I also wanted to tell you guys about the vendor bingo activation that I did at my store.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Q1 January February March is historically the slowest time for retail at least for us because Christmas shopping already happened.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's freezing in Omaha.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's just not a lot that people need to be shopping for in January February March because
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I feel the same way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, I'm just cold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't really want to go to the store.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Take all of my winter clothes off to be naked in the dressing room and try on a bunch of clothes with like wet snow boots.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But obviously, it hurts our business for it to go down so much in those months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I wanted to keep the vibes high with the staff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what could we do to help us prepare for a busy spring?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because it's like once March, April, May, June, July, August,
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[SPEAKER_00]: we are on the ground running.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like we had a sidewalk sale last weekend and it was an absolute madhouse.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm like let's use this time wisely to do some of their things behind the scenes that will help us have an even better disease season.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I came up with this vendor bingo.
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[SPEAKER_00]: which had 16 squares of activities that the vendors could participate in, such as having a family or friend write a Google review, creating content, things like that that really do help the business especially from a marketing perspective, and so there's 14 girls at the staff now, not everyone participated, but most of them did, and a couple of people got a full blackout being go so they could still pop up at the shop,
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[SPEAKER_00]: Also, just cash and store credit, depending on how many boxes you checked.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they had the three months January February March to do all those activities and then an April I reviewed all the scorecards awarded their prizes and coordinated when they could do their pop-ups through the coming months.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All in all, it was a really good activation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All definitely do it again
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[SPEAKER_00]: 27% on sales already for this year compared to previous years, so having people care more and be involved during that lower dip actually made us not have such a low dip for the down season, and now we're having an even busier and better busy season, which last thing to sound this note, if you are in Omaha, then want to be a reseller.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I probably need two or three more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have one goal for sure starting this month, so I'm onboarding her now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Another gal who used to be a reseller but had to take some time off for a family event.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to get her to come back if she feels ready in her heart to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, probably still need at least another person because even with 16 people, I think we will still be working hard to keep up on quality inventory.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So please reach out and apply on 1404's website if you want to be a reseller.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's so much fun in such a good community that we have at the shop of vendors in our group chat on Slack or so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then April 27th, we celebrated our first Kings Day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is where everyone wears orange.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you've ever seen anything about Kings Day, of people like going crazy all over the
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't really know what to expect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would say for us at this time in our life, it was pretty oversimulating.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Music was really loud.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're not like drinking much right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like occasionally we'll have like wine or beer, but like it's a party and being so we're at that with a newborn.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, okay, I can do this for a little bit, but I think I'm ready to go home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Next year, I want to rent a boat because I feel like on the water at least, not an Amsterdam.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Amsterdam is crazy anywhere, all of the canals are crazy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But in some of these smaller cities in town to outside of Amsterdam, if you're on the water, you can like see people partying on shore, but you don't have to be like in it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if it's good weather, I feel like a picnic on a boat is like the perfect way to celebrate without having all of the stimulation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We would have done
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[SPEAKER_00]: had the foresight, but by the time I went to a book about the only option was 7 p.m.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, no, I wanted this to be like a day thing, because people, King's Day celebration start the night before, but even the full go of it, starts at 6 a.m. in the it was you can Monday this year, and 6 a.m. bright and early, people are vendors are set up, people are outside, people are celebrating, it is like an all day thing, so I think it would make sense to get the boat at like, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: 10 a.m. or something and be out until 4 p.m. but next year, at least we did it though.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was our first Kings Day and we got to check it off the list, which pretty much brings us to now because it's May 4th.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now it's May.
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[SPEAKER_00]: New month.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm getting caught up on already friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I said, all the updates are...
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[SPEAKER_00]: on Patreon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to do, oh, what would your best to do?
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[SPEAKER_00]: The Q&A, so please send in any questions that you might have, so I can get those transferred over to a document to do for an episode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then also, if you want to say good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Buy to the podcast with me and all of us, so we can grieve this ending together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Go to the website alreadyferencepodcast.com.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a say goodbye page.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll link it in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you can submit a nice message that I can read anonymously or you can leave your name if you want me to save your name.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If the podcast positively impacted your life, if it made you feel less alone, if it was just a highlight of your week, I would love to hear the impact that the show had on your life because letting go of already friends has been really, really tough for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's going to be sad as I continue to grieve this closing, but it will make it softer and
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, yeah, I will probably be recording that in a week, so please send in a goodbye message as soon as possible so that I can make sure that it makes the episode recording.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to draw on this now, we'll have our sentimental time, but I hope all of this life update catch up was fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been talking for a long time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hope you guys are
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was great to hang out today and get caught up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hope you have a beautiful week and I will catch you next week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Bye!