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Today's podcast is going to be very important because it addresses a very frequently asked question which is generally asked within.
00:00:11.599 --> 00:00:24.160
I'm going to say something that goes against most of the personal growth world itself, and that is awareness is overrated and it's very weird.
00:00:24.480 --> 00:00:26.320
Not useless, overrated.
00:00:26.399 --> 00:00:32.719
We treat it like the destination, like the moment you finally understand why you're the way you are.
00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:38.880
Something is supposed to change, and for most people, nothing does, to be honest.
00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:45.600
They understand their patterns perfectly and keep living them exactly the same.
00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:55.280
I have met people who can describe their wounds with the precision of a therapist and are still completely run by them.
00:00:55.439 --> 00:01:06.560
So they can say, you know, I procrastinate, they can say that I lash out, they can say that I go numb, but none of these is under their control.
00:01:07.599 --> 00:01:11.120
Even though they know it, they will repeat it.
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As simple as that.
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So they know what to do also at times.
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They can't do it.
00:01:31.680 --> 00:01:41.200
So today I want to take awareness of the pedestrial and tell you that it actually is and what has to happen after it.
00:01:41.359 --> 00:01:50.480
Because that's the part nobody sells you, or nobody talks to you also about it's they will be always like, Okay, let me help you.
00:01:50.640 --> 00:01:52.560
Why don't you pay this amount first?
00:01:53.599 --> 00:01:55.840
And that is the part which I hate the most.
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That means you're never in the industry of helping people, any which ways.
00:02:01.200 --> 00:02:19.680
So here's my awareness, and on take off it, why awareness gets worshipped to be honest, it feels like progress for many people, and the inside lands, you get the click of understanding, and genuinely feel like something shifted.
00:02:19.759 --> 00:02:22.240
You know, okay, now I know why I do this.
00:02:22.400 --> 00:02:28.000
Now I know when I do this, but a feeling of moment is in moment.
00:02:28.479 --> 00:02:33.520
Understanding why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:34.719
Simple as that.
00:02:35.039 --> 00:03:05.039
Knowing your fear of abandonment came from your childhood, does not stop the fear from firing the next time someone pulls away, even though awareness many times gives us the insight, or it does give us the way of changing or way of understanding, but a book can give you also an awareness.
00:03:05.199 --> 00:03:19.759
Remember that a feeling of movement isn't the moment understand why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
00:03:22.800 --> 00:03:35.919
So because the understanding lives in one part of you, the thinking, explaining part is completely different, and the pattern lives somewhere else entirely.
00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:52.240
Most of the time, it lives in your body, in your nervous system, in a place that doesn't care how well you can explain, you cannot think your way out of something that isn't stored as a thought.
00:03:52.400 --> 00:03:58.560
So when you get awareness also, many times you might be able to change your thoughts.
00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:03.039
That is when few people get results also because they are changing their thoughts.
00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:07.280
If the pattern is in their thought only, simple as that.
00:04:07.520 --> 00:04:12.159
If it's stored in their body, in their nervous system, then forget it.
00:04:12.319 --> 00:04:16.160
That requires a different kind of training in itself.
00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:21.759
So, why does so much of self-hair world stops at awareness?
00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:32.399
Because it technically you're not showcasing the other part, the main part, because awareness is easy to sell and very easy to consume.
00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:42.399
We are talking logical mind to logical brain with the help of feelings a bit here and there, and it's a perfect dish to be sold.
00:04:42.720 --> 00:04:48.399
A book can give you an awareness, like I said, a podcast can give you an awareness, like we are doing right now.
00:04:48.560 --> 00:04:57.120
You can get an inside, feel the click, feel like you did the work, and buy the next book next week for the next click.
00:04:57.360 --> 00:05:24.720
Awareness that never turns into a change is a great business model, and you must have noticed abundance of people who have abundance of knowledge without any application, and that knowledge is nothing but in the end a poison game then until that trigger comes again, until you lash out again, until you go numb again, until you start cursing.
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Then no, I know it.
00:05:26.079 --> 00:05:27.759
Why am I still doing it?
00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:51.199
That feeling is even worst, and I wouldn't want any of my people, my home, my community, none of these people to even get this half information on basis of which there is not a procedure of complete transformation.
00:05:52.160 --> 00:06:19.199
Because that will be like a cheat factor to be honest, rather than making them come out of it, it's more like telling them to dig deep inside and awareness that never turns into change is a great business model, and people are just using it left, right, and center.
00:06:22.560 --> 00:06:27.920
But remember that it's a huge terrible transformation model.
00:06:28.399 --> 00:06:40.399
We want transformation, we want real change, and real change is quieter and harder, and doesn't give you that dopamine hit of the insight which we get normally from awareness.
00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:43.839
That's why I believe that it should happen all together.
00:06:44.000 --> 00:06:49.600
You get the dopamine hit, also, you get the transformation, also, you get the complete package together.
00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:54.560
It happens in the body over time, though, regulation and reputation.
00:06:54.800 --> 00:06:58.480
That is, it's you know difficult path.
00:06:58.560 --> 00:07:12.720
You can say you have to climb that ladder to reach there, not through one more brilliant resiliation, no, or oh fuck, I got this awareness now.
00:07:12.800 --> 00:07:19.519
I know that realization is going to last for like the next five minutes, and you will be thinking about it more than you're implementing it.
00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:26.800
Simple, that's why it doesn't sell as well, and that exactly why it works to be honest.
00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:45.279
The real self-help is difficult to do, and because of which many people generally don't feel like doing it either, but that is the real work that is needed.
00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:47.199
I'm going to be simple over here.
00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:50.720
How about you take it as this example?
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You have lived for n numbers of years till long, let's say 28 years, and you're expecting a simple 3R awareness workshop to give you the whole inside and the change for the full rest of your life and rewire everything from the last 28 years and help you remove all the issues which are in your life generating in this full lifetime of 28 years till now.
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That's just insane, man.
00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:26.879
That that feels stupid to be honest.
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That if you think that I know the world is fast-paced, but something, especially things which are related to your own personal growth, requires time.
00:08:36.720 --> 00:08:41.679
So, what has to happen between understanding a pattern and being free of it?
00:08:42.080 --> 00:08:45.120
Three things, and none of them are more inside to be honest.
00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:54.639
First is regulation, your nervous system has to actually be able to stay calm when the trigger hits.
00:08:54.879 --> 00:09:00.000
Simple because you can't choose a new response from inside a threat state.
00:09:00.240 --> 00:09:11.919
If you feel like someone is attacking you, not physically, verbally also, you will abruptly defend yourself as usual also.
00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:18.080
But what if that attack doesn't feel like attack anymore?
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Then what will you do?
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Then you will have a response chance.
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And how do you make sure you don't feel this trigger as trigger?
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You have to go deep down, we have to understand where the trigger is coming from, what meaning is associated with you.
00:09:33.679 --> 00:09:35.440
We have to understand all of it.
00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:37.919
What response would you generally give?
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Why you would give?
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Will you feel what you will feel after that response?
00:09:42.159 --> 00:09:43.919
Everything needs to be studied.
00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:46.399
I know the initial procedure takes time.
00:09:46.639 --> 00:09:49.759
Consider it like a diagnostic, it will take time.
00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:56.559
If you want the doctor to give the best result, you would want the doctor to check thoroughly, isn't it?
00:09:56.720 --> 00:10:05.840
Or else you will be ending up eating wrong medicines for wrong amount of time causing different issues rather than curating for the one which is already existing.
00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:06.960
Simple.
00:10:09.039 --> 00:10:16.559
That's the whole thing is a trainable thing through breath, through the body, not through thinking alone.
00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:26.480
If you're going to put someone into awareness zone, there's a high chance they will go in an overthinking zone later rather than curing themselves.
00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:32.559
Second, you have to catch the pattern at real time, especially before it starts.
00:10:32.720 --> 00:10:44.960
Not analyze it afterwards, but feel it rising in the moment in your chest, your throat, wherever it lives for you before it completes.
00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:56.240
Third, you have to choose differently in that exact gap over and over until the new response becomes the automatic one.
00:10:56.480 --> 00:11:11.120
See your brain, your body, everything is designed in a very beautiful manner by whoever the superpower, so not superpower, but whoever is the ultimate thing who has designed it.
00:11:21.519 --> 00:11:27.200
So, over like I said, 28 years, you must have learned something in a particular manner.
00:11:27.440 --> 00:11:38.000
We have to rewrite the response a bit more for it to come in that automatic zone now for it to hit automatically instead of lashing out.
00:11:38.320 --> 00:11:41.120
You understand, okay, this guy stops talking stupid.
00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:43.120
Why should I bother my energy on it?
00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:44.480
That's simple as that.
00:11:44.720 --> 00:11:45.519
That's it.
00:11:45.840 --> 00:11:50.799
Regulate, catch it live, choose different repeat, and that's it.
00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:52.639
The whole cycle is done.
00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:08.720
I hate when someone just gives the awareness and lets you go in the spiral of overthinking about it rather than implementing anything from there.
00:12:09.120 --> 00:12:25.200
So if you are done all the reading and all the understanding and you're still stuck, I don't want you to conclude you are broken or doesn't work for you, and especially in that lower times when we are vulnerable, don't blame yourself even more intensely.
00:12:25.519 --> 00:12:30.320
And worse time, that is, don't go in overthinking zone time by time.
00:12:31.039 --> 00:12:37.200
I want you to see that you were sold half the process and told it was the whole thing.
00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:40.799
You have the awareness, you had it for years now.
00:12:41.360 --> 00:12:49.600
What you were never given is what comes after the actual work, and that's the part I care about the most.
00:12:49.840 --> 00:12:54.639
If you want to see what it looks like, there's a free video at the link.
00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:57.519
Break the loop, reset reality.
00:12:57.679 --> 00:13:00.240
I'll see you on Thursday.
00:00:00.239 --> 00:00:11.279
Today's podcast is going to be very important because it addresses a very frequently asked question which is generally asked within.
00:00:11.599 --> 00:00:24.160
I'm going to say something that goes against most of the personal growth world itself, and that is awareness is overrated and it's very weird.
00:00:24.480 --> 00:00:26.320
Not useless, overrated.
00:00:26.399 --> 00:00:32.719
We treat it like the destination, like the moment you finally understand why you're the way you are.
00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:38.880
Something is supposed to change, and for most people, nothing does, to be honest.
00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:45.600
They understand their patterns perfectly and keep living them exactly the same.
00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:55.280
I have met people who can describe their wounds with the precision of a therapist and are still completely run by them.
00:00:55.439 --> 00:01:06.560
So they can say, you know, I procrastinate, they can say that I lash out, they can say that I go numb, but none of these is under their control.
00:01:07.599 --> 00:01:11.120
Even though they know it, they will repeat it.
00:01:11.439 --> 00:01:12.640
As simple as that.
00:01:27.680 --> 00:01:30.079
So they know what to do also at times.
00:01:30.319 --> 00:01:31.519
They can't do it.
00:01:31.680 --> 00:01:41.200
So today I want to take awareness of the pedestrial and tell you that it actually is and what has to happen after it.
00:01:41.359 --> 00:01:50.480
Because that's the part nobody sells you, or nobody talks to you also about it's they will be always like, Okay, let me help you.
00:01:50.640 --> 00:01:52.560
Why don't you pay this amount first?
00:01:53.599 --> 00:01:55.840
And that is the part which I hate the most.
00:01:56.000 --> 00:02:00.959
That means you're never in the industry of helping people, any which ways.
00:02:01.200 --> 00:02:19.680
So here's my awareness, and on take off it, why awareness gets worshipped to be honest, it feels like progress for many people, and the inside lands, you get the click of understanding, and genuinely feel like something shifted.
00:02:19.759 --> 00:02:22.240
You know, okay, now I know why I do this.
00:02:22.400 --> 00:02:28.000
Now I know when I do this, but a feeling of moment is in moment.
00:02:28.479 --> 00:02:33.520
Understanding why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:34.719
Simple as that.
00:02:35.039 --> 00:03:05.039
Knowing your fear of abandonment came from your childhood, does not stop the fear from firing the next time someone pulls away, even though awareness many times gives us the insight, or it does give us the way of changing or way of understanding, but a book can give you also an awareness.
00:03:05.199 --> 00:03:19.759
Remember that a feeling of movement isn't the moment understand why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
00:03:22.800 --> 00:03:35.919
So because the understanding lives in one part of you, the thinking, explaining part is completely different, and the pattern lives somewhere else entirely.
00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:52.240
Most of the time, it lives in your body, in your nervous system, in a place that doesn't care how well you can explain, you cannot think your way out of something that isn't stored as a thought.
00:03:52.400 --> 00:03:58.560
So when you get awareness also, many times you might be able to change your thoughts.
00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:03.039
That is when few people get results also because they are changing their thoughts.
00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:07.280
If the pattern is in their thought only, simple as that.
00:04:07.520 --> 00:04:12.159
If it's stored in their body, in their nervous system, then forget it.
00:04:12.319 --> 00:04:16.160
That requires a different kind of training in itself.
00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:21.759
So, why does so much of self-hair world stops at awareness?
00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:32.399
Because it technically you're not showcasing the other part, the main part, because awareness is easy to sell and very easy to consume.
00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:42.399
We are talking logical mind to logical brain with the help of feelings a bit here and there, and it's a perfect dish to be sold.
00:04:42.720 --> 00:04:48.399
A book can give you an awareness, like I said, a podcast can give you an awareness, like we are doing right now.
00:04:48.560 --> 00:04:57.120
You can get an inside, feel the click, feel like you did the work, and buy the next book next week for the next click.
00:04:57.360 --> 00:05:24.720
Awareness that never turns into a change is a great business model, and you must have noticed abundance of people who have abundance of knowledge without any application, and that knowledge is nothing but in the end a poison game then until that trigger comes again, until you lash out again, until you go numb again, until you start cursing.
00:05:24.800 --> 00:05:26.000
Then no, I know it.
00:05:26.079 --> 00:05:27.759
Why am I still doing it?
00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:51.199
That feeling is even worst, and I wouldn't want any of my people, my home, my community, none of these people to even get this half information on basis of which there is not a procedure of complete transformation.
00:05:52.160 --> 00:06:19.199
Because that will be like a cheat factor to be honest, rather than making them come out of it, it's more like telling them to dig deep inside and awareness that never turns into change is a great business model, and people are just using it left, right, and center.
00:06:22.560 --> 00:06:27.920
But remember that it's a huge terrible transformation model.
00:06:28.399 --> 00:06:40.399
We want transformation, we want real change, and real change is quieter and harder, and doesn't give you that dopamine hit of the insight which we get normally from awareness.
00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:43.839
That's why I believe that it should happen all together.
00:06:44.000 --> 00:06:49.600
You get the dopamine hit, also, you get the transformation, also, you get the complete package together.
00:06:49.839 --> 00:06:54.560
It happens in the body over time, though, regulation and reputation.
00:06:54.800 --> 00:06:58.480
That is, it's you know difficult path.
00:06:58.560 --> 00:07:12.720
You can say you have to climb that ladder to reach there, not through one more brilliant resiliation, no, or oh fuck, I got this awareness now.
00:07:12.800 --> 00:07:19.519
I know that realization is going to last for like the next five minutes, and you will be thinking about it more than you're implementing it.
00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:26.800
Simple, that's why it doesn't sell as well, and that exactly why it works to be honest.
00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:45.279
The real self-help is difficult to do, and because of which many people generally don't feel like doing it either, but that is the real work that is needed.
00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:47.199
I'm going to be simple over here.
00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:50.720
How about you take it as this example?
00:07:51.040 --> 00:08:22.399
You have lived for n numbers of years till long, let's say 28 years, and you're expecting a simple 3R awareness workshop to give you the whole inside and the change for the full rest of your life and rewire everything from the last 28 years and help you remove all the issues which are in your life generating in this full lifetime of 28 years till now.
00:08:23.040 --> 00:08:24.879
That's just insane, man.
00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:26.879
That that feels stupid to be honest.
00:08:27.040 --> 00:08:36.399
That if you think that I know the world is fast-paced, but something, especially things which are related to your own personal growth, requires time.
00:08:36.720 --> 00:08:41.679
So, what has to happen between understanding a pattern and being free of it?
00:08:42.080 --> 00:08:45.120
Three things, and none of them are more inside to be honest.
00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:54.639
First is regulation, your nervous system has to actually be able to stay calm when the trigger hits.
00:08:54.879 --> 00:09:00.000
Simple because you can't choose a new response from inside a threat state.
00:09:00.240 --> 00:09:11.919
If you feel like someone is attacking you, not physically, verbally also, you will abruptly defend yourself as usual also.
00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:18.080
But what if that attack doesn't feel like attack anymore?
00:09:18.399 --> 00:09:20.000
Then what will you do?
00:09:21.039 --> 00:09:23.840
Then you will have a response chance.
00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:27.519
And how do you make sure you don't feel this trigger as trigger?
00:09:27.679 --> 00:09:33.600
You have to go deep down, we have to understand where the trigger is coming from, what meaning is associated with you.
00:09:33.679 --> 00:09:35.440
We have to understand all of it.
00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:37.919
What response would you generally give?
00:09:38.080 --> 00:09:38.879
Why you would give?
00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:41.759
Will you feel what you will feel after that response?
00:09:42.159 --> 00:09:43.919
Everything needs to be studied.
00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:46.399
I know the initial procedure takes time.
00:09:46.639 --> 00:09:49.759
Consider it like a diagnostic, it will take time.
00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:56.559
If you want the doctor to give the best result, you would want the doctor to check thoroughly, isn't it?
00:09:56.720 --> 00:10:05.840
Or else you will be ending up eating wrong medicines for wrong amount of time causing different issues rather than curating for the one which is already existing.
00:10:06.320 --> 00:10:06.960
Simple.
00:10:09.039 --> 00:10:16.559
That's the whole thing is a trainable thing through breath, through the body, not through thinking alone.
00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:26.480
If you're going to put someone into awareness zone, there's a high chance they will go in an overthinking zone later rather than curing themselves.
00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:32.559
Second, you have to catch the pattern at real time, especially before it starts.
00:10:32.720 --> 00:10:44.960
Not analyze it afterwards, but feel it rising in the moment in your chest, your throat, wherever it lives for you before it completes.
00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:56.240
Third, you have to choose differently in that exact gap over and over until the new response becomes the automatic one.
00:10:56.480 --> 00:11:11.120
See your brain, your body, everything is designed in a very beautiful manner by whoever the superpower, so not superpower, but whoever is the ultimate thing who has designed it.
00:11:21.519 --> 00:11:27.200
So, over like I said, 28 years, you must have learned something in a particular manner.
00:11:27.440 --> 00:11:38.000
We have to rewrite the response a bit more for it to come in that automatic zone now for it to hit automatically instead of lashing out.
00:11:38.320 --> 00:11:41.120
You understand, okay, this guy stops talking stupid.
00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:43.120
Why should I bother my energy on it?
00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:44.480
That's simple as that.
00:11:44.720 --> 00:11:45.519
That's it.
00:11:45.840 --> 00:11:50.799
Regulate, catch it live, choose different repeat, and that's it.
00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:52.639
The whole cycle is done.
00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:08.720
I hate when someone just gives the awareness and lets you go in the spiral of overthinking about it rather than implementing anything from there.
00:12:09.120 --> 00:12:25.200
So if you are done all the reading and all the understanding and you're still stuck, I don't want you to conclude you are broken or doesn't work for you, and especially in that lower times when we are vulnerable, don't blame yourself even more intensely.
00:12:25.519 --> 00:12:30.320
And worse time, that is, don't go in overthinking zone time by time.
00:12:31.039 --> 00:12:37.200
I want you to see that you were sold half the process and told it was the whole thing.
00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:40.799
You have the awareness, you had it for years now.
00:12:41.360 --> 00:12:49.600
What you were never given is what comes after the actual work, and that's the part I care about the most.
00:12:49.840 --> 00:12:54.639
If you want to see what it looks like, there's a free video at the link.
00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:57.519
Break the loop, reset reality.
00:12:57.679 --> 00:13:00.240
I'll see you on Thursday.
