ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Dating sucks; anyone who has spent any amount of time “on the market” in their 20s or 30s can tell you that. We all love to hate on dating apps. “They don’t work,” we gleefully confess to each other, which is a universal truth we all know... because all of us are still swiping. Dating apps are like social media, or #grindset culture: we love to hate them and yet we secretly can’t stop using them. The tech overlords commodified one of the most fundamental tenets of being alive: the seeking of human connection. But that doesn't make it any less important. So what can we do about it?
Why?? Why do dating apps suck so much?? Do they actually, or do we just love to hate them?? What actually works in seeking and keeping a partner, according to science?? Will I ever get married or will I die alone??
This and more in today’s episode.
Side note: if you are seeking love, I recommend reading the book that helped change my relationship with seeking relationships: How to Not Die Alone, by Logan Ury.
The sources referenced in the podcast:
Stock Buybacks Are a Key Example of Extractive Corporate Power
The real effects of share repurchases - ScienceDirect
10 Essential Pieces of Expert Dating Advice | Psychology Today
U.S. women are outpacing men in college completion, including in every major racial and ethnic group
"Scarcity of College Men and the Decline in Marriage Among Non-College Americans", by Clara Chambers, Benjamin Goldman, and Joseph Winkelmann.
“Where Have All the Good Men Gone?” Gendered Interactions in Online Dating - PMC
What's The Biggest Challenge Men Face On Dating Apps?
Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets | Science Advances
From Looking for Love to Swiping the Field: Online Dating in the U.S. | Pew Research Center
Dating App Use Linked to Worse Mental Health | Psychology Today
Why investors don’t fund dating | andrewchen
Dating App Revenue and Usage Statistics (2026) - Business of Apps
Red Flag/Green Flag: What to Look for When You’re Dating
(PDF) Leveling the Playing Field
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