ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Your mindset is the story you tell yourself, and that story is made of words and breath. Mark England of Enlifted joins Nikki for a 5% speech trick and the 30-Day Soft Talk Challenge.
It took three tries to record this one. That turned out to be the perfect setup.
⏱️ CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome to Actually Doing Things
0:42 Meet Mark England
1:13 Third time's the charm: how we talk ourselves out of things
2:36 From kickboxing in Thailand to a life-changing workshop
5:03 The one-word shift: "He did that to himself"
8:30 Twenty years in: why most people never hit play
11:37 Kidlin's Law: write the question down
14:57 Thirty definitions of mindset (and why they're confusing)
20:11 The Enlifted definition: your mindset is the story you tell yourself
22:10 The 5% slower conversation with kids and parents
29:38 Practice in the room: the Charlie Brown test
30:53 Why kids mirror their parents' breathing
33:35 "Pepper burns twice": breaking old stories with pen and paper
36:48 Regenerative coaching
38:26 The Enlifted coaching quadrants: chest vs. belly breathing, answers vs. questions
45:16 Regenerative vs. degenerative parenting
51:40 Collaboration over competition in a coaching community
57:41 Clean vs. dirty questions
1:00:05 Creating opportunity: "Tough, I'm coming"
1:08:47 Underthink it and win
1:10:19 Why people who breathe better are more fun to be around
1:13:33 The first step: slow down 5%
1:15:35 The Soft Talk Challenge
1:17:49 Live demo: "I think I might be overthinking things"
1:21:53 Your 30-day fridge challenge + the soft talk word list
1:23:07 Wrap-up
🗣️ TRY IT THIS WEEK
1. Slow your speech down by 5% in one conversation.
2. Write the soft talk list big, in all caps, and stick it on the fridge for 30 days: probably, perhaps, feels like, guess, maybe, could, might, possibly, sort of, kind of, potentially, hopefully, try, one day, should, almost like.
3. Catch one, cross it out, and say it again.
📸 Post your fridge sheet and tag @dcfwallawalla and @enlifted.coaches. We'll repost it.
🔗 LINKS
Read the blog post: www.wwdcf.com
Book a free consultation at DCF: https://wwdcf.com/free-consultation/
Enlifted Coaches: www.enlifted.me
Mindset workshop + parents program: November 15.
Note: This episode includes a brief mention of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (U.S.), available 24/7.
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