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She didn't know She didn't walk a fire with smoke on a boat Hill back that seasons still carry home Hands full of scars Heart full of bow They tried the breakup He got a bow Now watch your eyes watch a blow On the hook to the after buttons All night our gods have it was the face Stick up the day and put it back in place Like the birth to the after the Welcome back to SDK Wednesdays with your girl Ash.
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We have a guest today, so let's get into SDK story time.
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Yeah It's Ash on the track.
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SDK Sisters, yeah, we back.
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Pull up a seat.
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It's story time now.
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Real talk, real laugh.
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Let me show you how.
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SDK Sister story time with Ash.
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Little life blessings in the flash.
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From the cold to the chaos, we clash.
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SDK sisters story time with Ash.
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And today we have Miss Audrey.
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Welcome to the show.
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Hi, thank you.
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I'm glad to be a part of it.
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And you can go ahead and tell your story.
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Okay.
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Um, so I've been in three domestic violence relationships um altogether.
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Um, my first one started when I was 18.
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Um and he was oh, I hate to admit it, but he was younger than me.
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Um, but I was I was stupid and young, and I I honestly should have should have done better for myself.
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Um anyways, uh the relationship went great.
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It was going great in the beginning, like always.
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Um we dated for about a year, and uh he ended up getting me pregnant, and um I didn't tell him yet because I was still very early, so it was still the very beginning.
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I did tell his uh cousin.
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We all lived in the same house.
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Um, and I told his cousin, so his cousin knew, but his cousin's girlfriend was also expecting a baby.
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Um, so we were both pregnant together and we were so excited.
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Um one day the pregnancy hormones got a little too much for me.
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I was chilling, laying down, minding my business, and he uh he just started aggravating me.
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And I told him, I'm like, please leave me alone, and he wouldn't, and he just kept provoking.
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And so I got up and I like pushed him a little bit, not hard hard, just like did like a little push, and I'm like, I said, leave me alone.
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And after I did that, he picked me up and slammed me to the ground, instantly killing our baby.
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And I didn't know that um I didn't know that it had passed away until I got to the hospital, and then I found out that it passed away.
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Um so that's the first one.
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The second one was um was um a really good friend of mine of eight years.
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We we were friends for so many years.
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Um and so then we decided to date, and once again, everything was going great.
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Um, just one day he totally switched up, um, and he pushed me down to the ground and started beating on me from behind.
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It was um horrible.
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Anyways, the cops got called, and the audacity this man had was he after everything happened, he's like, Look, I'm sorry for what I did, but could we still like you know be friends?
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Could we still be a thing?
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And I'm just like, Are you kidding me?
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I'm like, I I can't believe you're even asking me this right now.
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You literally admitted to beating on me, and then you're gonna ask if we could still be friends.
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Like, what are you okay?
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Are you in your right mindset, anyways?
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We went to court to settle everything out.
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Ended up, um, I it was nothing pressed on him because it was his first offense, and then um he ended up stalking me and still this day stalks me.
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Um, that's why I'm no longer in the state of Florida anymore.
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I was in Florida, but I'm not anymore.
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And then the last and final one is the father of my kids.
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We were together for nine years, uh, nine years of abuse.
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Um, not just the physical, but the emotional, um, the mental.
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He literally put me through it.
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He cheated on me 108 times.
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Um, but I really wanted to make it work.
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I really wanted to.
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Um then I got pregnant and he didn't believe that his the our son was his son.
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Um then I had him and he's like, no, that's my son.
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Then I had our daughter, and he's like, I don't believe that's my daughter either.
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And then I had her and he's like, no, that's my daughter.
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And then after that, um, I had an old friend reach out to me and he asked if we were still friends, and I'm like, Yeah, of course we're still friends.
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And literally, just from that one conversation, he slapped me across my face, and then he put his hands on my daughter, and my daughter's three.
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Well, she's three now, she was two at the time.
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Um, and me, I've I've I was in that abusive situation for a while.
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So I was like, honestly, it didn't really affect me as much as it affected him putting his hands on my daughter.
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Whenever he did that, I was like, no, you cross the line because she can't even defend herself.
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So then um we got an altercation.
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I put my hands on him, and of course he was putting his hands on me.
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Um, but he walked away, and then the very next day he uh moved out of the house, and then he ended up trying to take my son away from me.
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Um that didn't actually happen.
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I got our son, I got our daughter, I got both kids.
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Um, there's still some times to this day that he like threatens me, threatens my family, it threatens my kids.
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Um, I have all of that proof, but I also take into accountability that a lot of people go through a lot of things.
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Um, he told me some drastic news about himself, and so did his mom and so did his family.
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So, you know, I'm taking into consideration about that.
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It's kind of hard though, because like, you know, one side of me is like, well, no, you can't be like that just because you got news like this.
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But then the other part of me is like, okay, Audrey, but you you can't be so judgmental on how people take news.
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Um, you have to be like caring and considerate of everyone else and their emotions and their feelings.
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But people also have to learn how to be um caring and considerate to your emotions and your feelings.
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So instead of making that situation worse, I just kind of subtracted myself from that equation.
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And um, I'm doing better slowly, but I am doing better.
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And that's about all the stories I got.
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Um thank you for uh sharing your stories, and I'm so sorry for the loss of your child, unborn child.
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Um it's okay, girl.
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I've had I've had 16 miscarriages, it's nothing new.
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My body has no RH, so my body fights off the pregnancies.
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It literally thinks it's a disease.
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Oh, I've never I've heard of like um, I can't remember who it was.
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I think like Gabrielle Union or something says she like had like 40 something miscarriages, and I was like, wow, like that is um definitely heartbreaking.
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It's fun whenever you go to the doctor and you tell the doctor, and the doctor's like, oh well, you're clearly like I'm I'm sorry, but you know, they they they what do you what do you call it?
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They like they label you.
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And it's it's really hard that whenever they label you because you're just gonna look at them and be like, you don't even know me.
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You don't even know my story.
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You have no right to have your opinion of me if you don't even know me.
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Right.
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So and um do you looking back, do you see any red flags that you missed?
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Yeah, yeah, there was a lot of red flags that I missed.
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Um, but you know, I I have such a big heart, and my thing is I try to see the good in people.
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Um, I'm working on trying not to see the good in people as much as I used to.
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Um, still seeing somewhat good, but being really guarded on my heart and really um protective of who I trust now.
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I absolutely understand that.
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And I'll say one thing I have learned is when somebody shows you their true colors the first time, believe it.
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That's definitely something that's stuck with me heavy.
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Um is there any piece of advice that you want to give someone that may be in a similar situation?
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Um, yeah, if you are in a similar situation like this, um, coming from somebody who's been in three domestic violence relationships, please, please on all of your life run.
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If you can run, run and protect you, protect your kids, protect your family.
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Because at the end of the day, you're you're the only person that has you, you're the only person that has your kids, you're the only person that has your family.
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Also, don't give up.
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Um, you know, stay hopeful.
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Um, don't go seeking out love, because that's something that I learned.
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Guard your heart.
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Um, take into consideration who you trust.
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Um, and all in all, just try your best to be happy.
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And if you can make someone else happy, try to do that.
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But don't lower your standards, don't lower your your values, your morals.
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Don't don't lower any of that because you are perfect just the way you are.
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And if someone can't see that, then they have the issue, not you.
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That's very, very good advice.
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If someone wants to get in contact with you, how can they contact you?
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Um, they can reach me at um redheaded Latina 08 on TikTok, or I have an Instagram.
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It's underscore dot audre dot lyn dot underscore.
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Um, you guys can reach me through that.
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I do have a Facebook, I have a Snapchat too, but I'm honestly not really on them as much as I am on TikTok and Instagram.
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So if you want to reach me out, like just reach reach there.
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And I'll put all of that in the description as well.
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And I want to thank you once again for coming on and sharing your story and being so open.
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No, thank you.
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Thank you for this opportunity.
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You know, um, I've never had an opportunity like this presented to me.
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And if I can, you know, give a little bit of advice out there in order to help somebody not go through a similar situation that I've been through, I'm glad to do so.
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Okay, thank you, thank you once again.
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And SDK family, I will catch you guys next Wednesday.
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Yup.
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It's Ash on the mic, we out.
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That's the end.
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If you felt this one, hit share, tell a friend.
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Thanks for riding with me.
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Every take, every gent.
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See you next Wednesday, SDK fan.
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See you next Wednesday.
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Lock in again.
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Ash on your airways.
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Thank you for listening.
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See you next Wednesday, SDK fam.
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She didn't know She didn't walk a fire with smoke on a boat Hill back that seasons still carry home Hands full of scars Heart full of bow They tried the breakup He got a bow Now watch your eyes watch a blow On the hook to the after buttons All night our gods have it was the face Stick up the day and put it back in place Like the birth to the after the Welcome back to SDK Wednesdays with your girl Ash.
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We have a guest today, so let's get into SDK story time.
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Yeah It's Ash on the track.
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SDK Sisters, yeah, we back.
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Pull up a seat.
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It's story time now.
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Real talk, real laugh.
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Let me show you how.
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SDK Sister story time with Ash.
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Little life blessings in the flash.
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From the cold to the chaos, we clash.
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SDK sisters story time with Ash.
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And today we have Miss Audrey.
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Welcome to the show.
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Hi, thank you.
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I'm glad to be a part of it.
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And you can go ahead and tell your story.
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Okay.
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Um, so I've been in three domestic violence relationships um altogether.
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Um, my first one started when I was 18.
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Um and he was oh, I hate to admit it, but he was younger than me.
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Um, but I was I was stupid and young, and I I honestly should have should have done better for myself.
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Um anyways, uh the relationship went great.
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It was going great in the beginning, like always.
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Um we dated for about a year, and uh he ended up getting me pregnant, and um I didn't tell him yet because I was still very early, so it was still the very beginning.
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I did tell his uh cousin.
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We all lived in the same house.
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Um, and I told his cousin, so his cousin knew, but his cousin's girlfriend was also expecting a baby.
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Um, so we were both pregnant together and we were so excited.
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Um one day the pregnancy hormones got a little too much for me.
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I was chilling, laying down, minding my business, and he uh he just started aggravating me.
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And I told him, I'm like, please leave me alone, and he wouldn't, and he just kept provoking.
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And so I got up and I like pushed him a little bit, not hard hard, just like did like a little push, and I'm like, I said, leave me alone.
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And after I did that, he picked me up and slammed me to the ground, instantly killing our baby.
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And I didn't know that um I didn't know that it had passed away until I got to the hospital, and then I found out that it passed away.
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Um so that's the first one.
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The second one was um was um a really good friend of mine of eight years.
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We we were friends for so many years.
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Um and so then we decided to date, and once again, everything was going great.
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Um, just one day he totally switched up, um, and he pushed me down to the ground and started beating on me from behind.
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It was um horrible.
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Anyways, the cops got called, and the audacity this man had was he after everything happened, he's like, Look, I'm sorry for what I did, but could we still like you know be friends?
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Could we still be a thing?
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And I'm just like, Are you kidding me?
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I'm like, I I can't believe you're even asking me this right now.
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You literally admitted to beating on me, and then you're gonna ask if we could still be friends.
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Like, what are you okay?
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Are you in your right mindset, anyways?
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We went to court to settle everything out.
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Ended up, um, I it was nothing pressed on him because it was his first offense, and then um he ended up stalking me and still this day stalks me.
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Um, that's why I'm no longer in the state of Florida anymore.
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I was in Florida, but I'm not anymore.
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And then the last and final one is the father of my kids.
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We were together for nine years, uh, nine years of abuse.
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Um, not just the physical, but the emotional, um, the mental.
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He literally put me through it.
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He cheated on me 108 times.
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Um, but I really wanted to make it work.
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I really wanted to.
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Um then I got pregnant and he didn't believe that his the our son was his son.
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Um then I had him and he's like, no, that's my son.
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Then I had our daughter, and he's like, I don't believe that's my daughter either.
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And then I had her and he's like, no, that's my daughter.
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And then after that, um, I had an old friend reach out to me and he asked if we were still friends, and I'm like, Yeah, of course we're still friends.
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And literally, just from that one conversation, he slapped me across my face, and then he put his hands on my daughter, and my daughter's three.
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Well, she's three now, she was two at the time.
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Um, and me, I've I've I was in that abusive situation for a while.
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So I was like, honestly, it didn't really affect me as much as it affected him putting his hands on my daughter.
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Whenever he did that, I was like, no, you cross the line because she can't even defend herself.
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So then um we got an altercation.
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I put my hands on him, and of course he was putting his hands on me.
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Um, but he walked away, and then the very next day he uh moved out of the house, and then he ended up trying to take my son away from me.
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Um that didn't actually happen.
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I got our son, I got our daughter, I got both kids.
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Um, there's still some times to this day that he like threatens me, threatens my family, it threatens my kids.
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Um, I have all of that proof, but I also take into accountability that a lot of people go through a lot of things.
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Um, he told me some drastic news about himself, and so did his mom and so did his family.
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So, you know, I'm taking into consideration about that.
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It's kind of hard though, because like, you know, one side of me is like, well, no, you can't be like that just because you got news like this.
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But then the other part of me is like, okay, Audrey, but you you can't be so judgmental on how people take news.
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Um, you have to be like caring and considerate of everyone else and their emotions and their feelings.
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But people also have to learn how to be um caring and considerate to your emotions and your feelings.
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So instead of making that situation worse, I just kind of subtracted myself from that equation.
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And um, I'm doing better slowly, but I am doing better.
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And that's about all the stories I got.
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Um thank you for uh sharing your stories, and I'm so sorry for the loss of your child, unborn child.
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Um it's okay, girl.
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I've had I've had 16 miscarriages, it's nothing new.
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My body has no RH, so my body fights off the pregnancies.
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It literally thinks it's a disease.
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Oh, I've never I've heard of like um, I can't remember who it was.
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I think like Gabrielle Union or something says she like had like 40 something miscarriages, and I was like, wow, like that is um definitely heartbreaking.
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It's fun whenever you go to the doctor and you tell the doctor, and the doctor's like, oh well, you're clearly like I'm I'm sorry, but you know, they they they what do you what do you call it?
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They like they label you.
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And it's it's really hard that whenever they label you because you're just gonna look at them and be like, you don't even know me.
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You don't even know my story.
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You have no right to have your opinion of me if you don't even know me.
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Right.
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So and um do you looking back, do you see any red flags that you missed?
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Yeah, yeah, there was a lot of red flags that I missed.
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Um, but you know, I I have such a big heart, and my thing is I try to see the good in people.
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Um, I'm working on trying not to see the good in people as much as I used to.
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Um, still seeing somewhat good, but being really guarded on my heart and really um protective of who I trust now.
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I absolutely understand that.
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And I'll say one thing I have learned is when somebody shows you their true colors the first time, believe it.
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That's definitely something that's stuck with me heavy.
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Um is there any piece of advice that you want to give someone that may be in a similar situation?
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Um, yeah, if you are in a similar situation like this, um, coming from somebody who's been in three domestic violence relationships, please, please on all of your life run.
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If you can run, run and protect you, protect your kids, protect your family.
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Because at the end of the day, you're you're the only person that has you, you're the only person that has your kids, you're the only person that has your family.
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Also, don't give up.
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Um, you know, stay hopeful.
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Um, don't go seeking out love, because that's something that I learned.
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Guard your heart.
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Um, take into consideration who you trust.
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Um, and all in all, just try your best to be happy.
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And if you can make someone else happy, try to do that.
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But don't lower your standards, don't lower your your values, your morals.
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Don't don't lower any of that because you are perfect just the way you are.
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And if someone can't see that, then they have the issue, not you.
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That's very, very good advice.
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If someone wants to get in contact with you, how can they contact you?
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Um, they can reach me at um redheaded Latina 08 on TikTok, or I have an Instagram.
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It's underscore dot audre dot lyn dot underscore.
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Um, you guys can reach me through that.
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I do have a Facebook, I have a Snapchat too, but I'm honestly not really on them as much as I am on TikTok and Instagram.
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So if you want to reach me out, like just reach reach there.
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And I'll put all of that in the description as well.
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And I want to thank you once again for coming on and sharing your story and being so open.
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No, thank you.
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Thank you for this opportunity.
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You know, um, I've never had an opportunity like this presented to me.
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And if I can, you know, give a little bit of advice out there in order to help somebody not go through a similar situation that I've been through, I'm glad to do so.
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Okay, thank you, thank you once again.
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And SDK family, I will catch you guys next Wednesday.
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Yup.
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It's Ash on the mic, we out.
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That's the end.
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If you felt this one, hit share, tell a friend.
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Thanks for riding with me.
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Every take, every gent.
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See you next Wednesday, SDK fan.
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See you next Wednesday.
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Lock in again.
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Ash on your airways.
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Thank you for listening.
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See you next Wednesday, SDK fam.
