00:00:00Choosing Your Circle Carefully for Growth
00:07:41Building a Positive Friend Circle
00:14:34Expanding Reach
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Reconnecting with an old circle of friends during a challenging time led to a transformative journey I didn't see coming. By joining a Bible study group, my perspective on personal and professional development shifted dramatically, highlighting the immense power your social circle holds over your growth. This episode of the newly rebranded Seth Said It Show explores my personal story and emphasizes the importance of choosing your companions carefully. Through anecdotes and reflections, I underline how the right friendships can propel you forward while toxic ones may hold you back. It's a journey of setting boundaries, rediscovering faith, and valuing quality over quantity in relationships.
As we broaden the scope of our discussions, expect candid conversations on often neglected topics that need more spotlight. I'm eager to engage with our community on social media, encouraging you to join me on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook for ongoing insights and interactions. With new episodes dropping every Thursday, make sure you have notifications turned on so you never miss out. This journey is not just about listening—it's about being part of an evolving dialogue that challenges norms and fosters growth. Thank you for tuning in, and here's to forging connections that truly matter.
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Good afternoon, good evening, good morning depending on when and where you are watching this from.
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My name is Seth Mills, and this is now being rebranded the Seth Said it Show.
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It used to be the AstroCraft Grow, influence, invest Show.
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However, in 2025, rebranding and picking back up where we left off is where I want to start, and so, with that being said, I don't only want to be talking about business and entrepreneurship.
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That will still be a very large part of this show.
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However, I also want to get into the personal growth and business growth and just things that are going on in the world around us today.
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I want to be able to talk about those separate from business, and, in order to do that, I thought what the best way was going to be and I came up with the Set it Show.
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So, with that being said, you guys can go back on previous episodes.
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Take a look at what I've posted.
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Those will always still be a big part of this show and they still will be reoccurring throughout the show.
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However, I just wanted to get another broad look at the world we have going on right now.
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So, with that being said, today we are going to be talking about something that can make or break you, and that is your circle.
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The people you surround yourself with.
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Do they lift you up, Do they drag you down?
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Is your circle.
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The people you surround yourself with Do they lift you up, do they drag you down?
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It's all a huge factor in your personal and professional growth.
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If you are an entrepreneur, you don't want to be hanging around people that are going to continuously drag you down or they are not in a position to where they are going to be beneficial for your life.
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And I'm not saying get greedy, I'm not saying to get mean towards people in your life, but take a broad look around, see if those people are trying to thrive, like you are.
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Because, let's be honest, 2025, 2026, 2027, it's not going to be any time to be carrying dead weight.
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So we want to rid these people from our circle.
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I'm not saying don't hang out with them, rid these people from our circle.
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I'm not saying don't hang out with them, damn.
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But if you want to still have them in your circle, do it in moderation.
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So, with that being said, a little bit of a personal story.
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I had this group of friends that I was very close with I'd say like the 2020-2021 time frame and we were all hanging out.
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We were hanging out every day.
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Some things happened and we stopped hanging out, we stopped.
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It was pretty much a no contact.
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Things happened and it was no contact and then back, I'd say so we stopped hanging out like middle to end of 2021, maybe even the beginning of 22, but I'm pretty sure it was like the end of 2021.
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However, back about, I'd say, almost a year ago today, or a year ago, and maybe two weeks once this episode is published, I wasn't in a great place.
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So I reached out to one of these people who it was my very close friend, and I'm not going to be saying names just because I don't want them to think that I'm sharing anything, or not even just sharing anything.
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I just don't want them to think that I'm using this for the podcast, using their names.
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But anyway, I reached out to one of my friends, just said hey, I think that I can go back into the text, but it was something along the lines of hey, are you working a day or can we hang out?
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Can we catch up?
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I'm not doing it that great.
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And so I got a response and it was yeah, I am working today.
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However, we're doing Bible study at my house tonight.
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If you know me and I'm not a proud to admit it that I'm not a very big go to church pray, or I wasn't.
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I believe in God, love God, and I fully believe that he has every part of our lives already planned out and we're just working towards that, towards His vision planned out, and we're just working towards that, towards His vision.
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But she asked me if I'd like to go to this Bible study with her and a group of friends.
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Some of them I knew, some of them I did not, and so I immediately, within seconds, absolutely I'll be there, and so I went and it became a pretty big part of my life.
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I started going every week or trying to go as much as possible, and then life happened.
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There's always going to be time to make up excuses.
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There's always going to be things that happen that are out of our control, that we use to get out of certain responsibilities and certain things that we have planned, and I think that I used the what was going on to distance myself from these people.
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However, I also think that in doing so, I was able to grow, and we all grew the reason I'm telling you about us having our little two, three year hiatus is everybody grew Not me, not just me, but everybody in the group was able to grow and then when we first reconnected, it was just.
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It was as if there was a stronger bond.
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It also went back to in my opinion, it went back to how we were back then, but more mature, professional, more more minded and round-minded people.
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I ended up going and then I stopped going.
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I think it was around August or September of last year and then I get a call I'm looking back on my calendar, so sorry if the mic cut out I got a call on January 15th of 2025, this year of 2025, this year, about a week ago, and it was just hey, seth, like where are you?
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We want you back.
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Start coming to Bible study again.
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And that was a wake-up call because I didn't realize, but it had been almost six months.
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It had been like four or five months since I had been and since I had been and bringing God into this, I could notice that I was drifting away.
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And again, I'm not the most godly person in the world.
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I'm far from it.
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However, with that being said, I do still try to pray.
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I try to keep Him in my life.
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But anyway, I got invited to go last week and it was just.
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It was really nice to get that phone call.
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And again, these people, like the people in our Bible study, they have no idea how much of a big part of my life it is, despite me not going the last four or five months up until last week.
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But, with that being said, they're trying to lift people, they're trying to bring you in, they're trying to lift you up.
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They're trying to lift people.
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They're trying to bring you in.
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They're trying to lift you up.
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They're trying to support you.
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They're trying to listen to your problems and help you deal with them.
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So in 2025, I just I strongly suggest that you take a look at your friendships.
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There's going to be people who want to drink.
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There's people who are going to want to go gamble.
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There's people that are going to want to do all sorts of things and, believe me, last year I was one of them.
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I was at the casino probably once a month.
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I was drinking almost every week.
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I'd be willing to say three to four times a week, but then again, I am 23.
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And a lot of people are going to say that it's oh, you're just going, you're having fun.
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But also it was the people that I was with and I was blowing money left and right, not proud of it, especially doing my taxes right now, but, with that being said, it helped me realize who was good for me, who was there for me.
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And there's a few other people, a very limited few, three people outside of this that I can think of off the top of my head, and I'm probably going to get in some trouble with other people, with friends, but one of them starts with an N, one of them starts with an H and my other, like very close friend, starts with a T.
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So y'all know who y'alls are.
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But, with that being said, the friends you keep around, the support system you keep around, plays a huge part in personal and mental health, personal growth and even in achieving your goals, because the people in your life are either building you up or tearing you down.
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There's no neutral in relationships and, with that being said, it's really important that you start looking at the people in your life and asking yourself do they genuinely want to see me when, or are they there for me, or are they just there for me when it benefits them?
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So, with that being said, in 2025, you really have to identify the toxic people in your life.
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As far as the toxic relationships go, you can start asking yourself who's constantly negative, who's very manipulative and who's jealous, because all three of these things and I'm not saying to be jealous, or really just the jealous one, like people are always going to be jealous it's always keeping up with the Joneses who has the best car, who has the nicest house, who has all of these fancy things.
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And I know one for me a childhood friend of mine very I used to think of him as a very close friend constantly held me back, drained my energy.
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I even employed him for a short amount of time, just some freelance work, but he was always griping and showing up late and he was always coming up with an excuse.
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And just all of these things, constantly on on top of each other, started draining my energy, which was not healthy for me.
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It wasn't helping me succeed, it wasn't doing anything.
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It wasn't adding any value to my life.
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If anything, it was taking from my life because I had to put in energy to that and it drained my personal energy that I could have used to fuel my goals and my ambitions because I was trying to help him, but all he was doing is take.
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There was never any kind of mutual give and take relationship, and cutting ties with people can be difficult, right?
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Especially if they've been in your life for a long time.
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That's why I chose this story, chose this story.
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I've known this guy since we were five years old.
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I'm 23, so that's roughly 18 years.
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We met in Boy Scouts, moved about five years, six years after knowing him, and then we reconnected back in 2019, I believe, or 2020.
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I believe it was 2020 because it was right before COVID hit.
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But sometimes we hold onto the people out of guilt, comfort or even fear of being alone, even with friendships.
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Like you have to understand, it's not just relationships where we're fearing being alone, it's also the friendship side of things, and that's also the exact same thing that's keeping us stuck to where we can't thrive.
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So I just I really want to encourage you guys to evaluate your relationships and take small steps to distance yourself from toxic people in this year.
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And so, with that being said, I mean, like me, it doesn't have to be dramatic, right?
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Sometimes you just have to set boundaries, focus your energy elsewhere and things will unfold the way they do.
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There's been several people last year that I did this to and it just ended up distancing and distancing and now we don't talk anymore, which obviously I want the best for everybody.
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I really do.
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However, you also have to want the best for yourself, and so, like when you're building your dream circle of friends, and so like when you're building your dream circle of friends, you're going to want to look for people who are mentors, people who are trustworthy, encourage you, honest with you, and the people in my Bible study.
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They are not fake.
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They will tell you like it is and like they are.
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They always they've been the closest friends that I've ever had, or some of the closest friends that I've ever had, because they're always honest, and that's part of why we had a little bit of a disagreement back in 2021 and we stopped talking there for a while, but now we're back and we've all worked on ourselves and I think that's what has built the friendships even further Like.
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They are truly the closest people in my life right now, and I do not show them the love that they desire or not desire deserve.
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Look for the good qualities in people.
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Look for the people that are like that in your life, and I know I keep talking about Bible study.
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It is something that I'm going to talk about in this podcast because, quite honestly, it's my podcast Probably going to lose followers, probably going to lose business and, honestly, in this small town, I highly doubt it.
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However, if I do, it's just one of those things.
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This podcast is in no way affiliated with my business.
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However, I am sharing it on the same platform, which is my personal pages on every social media.
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Speaking of which, you should be able to find those also somewhere down below, depending on what platform you're watching it from.
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But, with that being said, I'm over here.
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I'm trying to surround myself with people who are ambitious, people who are positive and people who are helping me, in my personal mindset as well as focused on helping me, and that's the thing is.
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You want a friend circle where you are all building each other up.
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You're all trying to help each other succeed.
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It's not about quantity.
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Quality over quantity always wins.
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You do not need a big circle, right?
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I just, this is just something that's helped me, so I'm sharing it with you all and, like network, join groups that like if you see a group that aligns with your goal, join that group, try and connect with people and, like that, also circles around reconnecting with people you've drifted away from.
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Like my example from the beginning, the people that you surround yourself with can make or break your 2025.
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I have financial goals, I have personal goals, I have life goals.
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All that I want to complete in 2025.
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And in order to do that, I have to cut out the takers, build with the givers and I have to be intentional about my relationships with friends and family.
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So this week, I'd like to ask you guys to take some time to really evaluate your circle.
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Write down or put in your notes on your phone the people who lift you up and the ones who drain you, and then start thinking about how to take some time to really evaluate your circle.
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Write down or put in your notes on your phone the people who lift you up and the ones who drain you, and then start thinking about how to spend more time with the former and less with the latter.
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This is your year.
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You should be acting like it.
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Thank you guys for tuning in.
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Do.
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Appreciate you guys for listening.
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I will see you guys next Thursday with a brand new episode.
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Good afternoon, good evening, good morning depending on when and where you are watching this from.
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My name is Seth Mills, and this is now being rebranded the Seth Said it Show.
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It used to be the AstroCraft Grow, influence, invest Show.
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However, in 2025, rebranding and picking back up where we left off is where I want to start, and so, with that being said, I don't only want to be talking about business and entrepreneurship.
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That will still be a very large part of this show.
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However, I also want to get into the personal growth and business growth and just things that are going on in the world around us today.
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I want to be able to talk about those separate from business, and, in order to do that, I thought what the best way was going to be and I came up with the Set it Show.
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So, with that being said, you guys can go back on previous episodes.
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Take a look at what I've posted.
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Those will always still be a big part of this show and they still will be reoccurring throughout the show.
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However, I just wanted to get another broad look at the world we have going on right now.
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So, with that being said, today we are going to be talking about something that can make or break you, and that is your circle.
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The people you surround yourself with.
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Do they lift you up, Do they drag you down?
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Is your circle.
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The people you surround yourself with Do they lift you up, do they drag you down?
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It's all a huge factor in your personal and professional growth.
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If you are an entrepreneur, you don't want to be hanging around people that are going to continuously drag you down or they are not in a position to where they are going to be beneficial for your life.
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And I'm not saying get greedy, I'm not saying to get mean towards people in your life, but take a broad look around, see if those people are trying to thrive, like you are.
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Because, let's be honest, 2025, 2026, 2027, it's not going to be any time to be carrying dead weight.
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So we want to rid these people from our circle.
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I'm not saying don't hang out with them, rid these people from our circle.
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I'm not saying don't hang out with them, damn.
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But if you want to still have them in your circle, do it in moderation.
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So, with that being said, a little bit of a personal story.
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I had this group of friends that I was very close with I'd say like the 2020-2021 time frame and we were all hanging out.
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We were hanging out every day.
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Some things happened and we stopped hanging out, we stopped.
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It was pretty much a no contact.
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Things happened and it was no contact and then back, I'd say so we stopped hanging out like middle to end of 2021, maybe even the beginning of 22, but I'm pretty sure it was like the end of 2021.
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However, back about, I'd say, almost a year ago today, or a year ago, and maybe two weeks once this episode is published, I wasn't in a great place.
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So I reached out to one of these people who it was my very close friend, and I'm not going to be saying names just because I don't want them to think that I'm sharing anything, or not even just sharing anything.
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I just don't want them to think that I'm using this for the podcast, using their names.
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But anyway, I reached out to one of my friends, just said hey, I think that I can go back into the text, but it was something along the lines of hey, are you working a day or can we hang out?
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Can we catch up?
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I'm not doing it that great.
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And so I got a response and it was yeah, I am working today.
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However, we're doing Bible study at my house tonight.
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If you know me and I'm not a proud to admit it that I'm not a very big go to church pray, or I wasn't.
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I believe in God, love God, and I fully believe that he has every part of our lives already planned out and we're just working towards that, towards His vision planned out, and we're just working towards that, towards His vision.
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But she asked me if I'd like to go to this Bible study with her and a group of friends.
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Some of them I knew, some of them I did not, and so I immediately, within seconds, absolutely I'll be there, and so I went and it became a pretty big part of my life.
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I started going every week or trying to go as much as possible, and then life happened.
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There's always going to be time to make up excuses.
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There's always going to be things that happen that are out of our control, that we use to get out of certain responsibilities and certain things that we have planned, and I think that I used the what was going on to distance myself from these people.
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However, I also think that in doing so, I was able to grow, and we all grew the reason I'm telling you about us having our little two, three year hiatus is everybody grew Not me, not just me, but everybody in the group was able to grow and then when we first reconnected, it was just.
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It was as if there was a stronger bond.
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It also went back to in my opinion, it went back to how we were back then, but more mature, professional, more more minded and round-minded people.
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I ended up going and then I stopped going.
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I think it was around August or September of last year and then I get a call I'm looking back on my calendar, so sorry if the mic cut out I got a call on January 15th of 2025, this year of 2025, this year, about a week ago, and it was just hey, seth, like where are you?
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We want you back.
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Start coming to Bible study again.
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And that was a wake-up call because I didn't realize, but it had been almost six months.
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It had been like four or five months since I had been and since I had been and bringing God into this, I could notice that I was drifting away.
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And again, I'm not the most godly person in the world.
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I'm far from it.
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However, with that being said, I do still try to pray.
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I try to keep Him in my life.
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But anyway, I got invited to go last week and it was just.
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It was really nice to get that phone call.
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And again, these people, like the people in our Bible study, they have no idea how much of a big part of my life it is, despite me not going the last four or five months up until last week.
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But, with that being said, they're trying to lift people, they're trying to bring you in, they're trying to lift you up.
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They're trying to lift people.
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They're trying to bring you in.
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They're trying to lift you up.
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They're trying to support you.
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They're trying to listen to your problems and help you deal with them.
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So in 2025, I just I strongly suggest that you take a look at your friendships.
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There's going to be people who want to drink.
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There's people who are going to want to go gamble.
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There's people that are going to want to do all sorts of things and, believe me, last year I was one of them.
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I was at the casino probably once a month.
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I was drinking almost every week.
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I'd be willing to say three to four times a week, but then again, I am 23.
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And a lot of people are going to say that it's oh, you're just going, you're having fun.
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But also it was the people that I was with and I was blowing money left and right, not proud of it, especially doing my taxes right now, but, with that being said, it helped me realize who was good for me, who was there for me.
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And there's a few other people, a very limited few, three people outside of this that I can think of off the top of my head, and I'm probably going to get in some trouble with other people, with friends, but one of them starts with an N, one of them starts with an H and my other, like very close friend, starts with a T.
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So y'all know who y'alls are.
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But, with that being said, the friends you keep around, the support system you keep around, plays a huge part in personal and mental health, personal growth and even in achieving your goals, because the people in your life are either building you up or tearing you down.
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There's no neutral in relationships and, with that being said, it's really important that you start looking at the people in your life and asking yourself do they genuinely want to see me when, or are they there for me, or are they just there for me when it benefits them?
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So, with that being said, in 2025, you really have to identify the toxic people in your life.
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As far as the toxic relationships go, you can start asking yourself who's constantly negative, who's very manipulative and who's jealous, because all three of these things and I'm not saying to be jealous, or really just the jealous one, like people are always going to be jealous it's always keeping up with the Joneses who has the best car, who has the nicest house, who has all of these fancy things.
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And I know one for me a childhood friend of mine very I used to think of him as a very close friend constantly held me back, drained my energy.
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I even employed him for a short amount of time, just some freelance work, but he was always griping and showing up late and he was always coming up with an excuse.
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And just all of these things, constantly on on top of each other, started draining my energy, which was not healthy for me.
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It wasn't helping me succeed, it wasn't doing anything.
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It wasn't adding any value to my life.
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If anything, it was taking from my life because I had to put in energy to that and it drained my personal energy that I could have used to fuel my goals and my ambitions because I was trying to help him, but all he was doing is take.
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There was never any kind of mutual give and take relationship, and cutting ties with people can be difficult, right?
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Especially if they've been in your life for a long time.
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That's why I chose this story, chose this story.
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I've known this guy since we were five years old.
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I'm 23, so that's roughly 18 years.
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We met in Boy Scouts, moved about five years, six years after knowing him, and then we reconnected back in 2019, I believe, or 2020.
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I believe it was 2020 because it was right before COVID hit.
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But sometimes we hold onto the people out of guilt, comfort or even fear of being alone, even with friendships.
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Like you have to understand, it's not just relationships where we're fearing being alone, it's also the friendship side of things, and that's also the exact same thing that's keeping us stuck to where we can't thrive.
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So I just I really want to encourage you guys to evaluate your relationships and take small steps to distance yourself from toxic people in this year.
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And so, with that being said, I mean, like me, it doesn't have to be dramatic, right?
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Sometimes you just have to set boundaries, focus your energy elsewhere and things will unfold the way they do.
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There's been several people last year that I did this to and it just ended up distancing and distancing and now we don't talk anymore, which obviously I want the best for everybody.
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I really do.
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However, you also have to want the best for yourself, and so, like when you're building your dream circle of friends, and so like when you're building your dream circle of friends, you're going to want to look for people who are mentors, people who are trustworthy, encourage you, honest with you, and the people in my Bible study.
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They are not fake.
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They will tell you like it is and like they are.
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They always they've been the closest friends that I've ever had, or some of the closest friends that I've ever had, because they're always honest, and that's part of why we had a little bit of a disagreement back in 2021 and we stopped talking there for a while, but now we're back and we've all worked on ourselves and I think that's what has built the friendships even further Like.
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They are truly the closest people in my life right now, and I do not show them the love that they desire or not desire deserve.
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Look for the good qualities in people.
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Look for the people that are like that in your life, and I know I keep talking about Bible study.
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It is something that I'm going to talk about in this podcast because, quite honestly, it's my podcast Probably going to lose followers, probably going to lose business and, honestly, in this small town, I highly doubt it.
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However, if I do, it's just one of those things.
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This podcast is in no way affiliated with my business.
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However, I am sharing it on the same platform, which is my personal pages on every social media.
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Speaking of which, you should be able to find those also somewhere down below, depending on what platform you're watching it from.
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But, with that being said, I'm over here.
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I'm trying to surround myself with people who are ambitious, people who are positive and people who are helping me, in my personal mindset as well as focused on helping me, and that's the thing is.
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You want a friend circle where you are all building each other up.
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You're all trying to help each other succeed.
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It's not about quantity.
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Quality over quantity always wins.
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You do not need a big circle, right?
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I just, this is just something that's helped me, so I'm sharing it with you all and, like network, join groups that like if you see a group that aligns with your goal, join that group, try and connect with people and, like that, also circles around reconnecting with people you've drifted away from.
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Like my example from the beginning, the people that you surround yourself with can make or break your 2025.
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I have financial goals, I have personal goals, I have life goals.
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All that I want to complete in 2025.
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And in order to do that, I have to cut out the takers, build with the givers and I have to be intentional about my relationships with friends and family.
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So this week, I'd like to ask you guys to take some time to really evaluate your circle.
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Write down or put in your notes on your phone the people who lift you up and the ones who drain you, and then start thinking about how to take some time to really evaluate your circle.
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Write down or put in your notes on your phone the people who lift you up and the ones who drain you, and then start thinking about how to spend more time with the former and less with the latter.
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This is your year.
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You should be acting like it.
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Thank you guys for tuning in.
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