The Next Chapter Begins at 40: Reflections on Growth, Family, and Future Goals

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Yes, sir, yes sir, we are back.
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We are back, man.
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It's been a while.
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It's been a while, as always, man, welcome relationships worth more than money.
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It's been a journey, man.
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You know I took a nice three month break but in that three month break I got a lot going on, had a lot going on, as you can see new spot, new area For those that's watching the Vibcast, but for the audio listeners, I moved to Laurel from Saultein.
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I'm in Laurel now, love it.
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Very, very big change.
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Very peaceful, not saying.
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My spot in Suitland wasn't but it.
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Man, I've been doing a lot.
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I've been doing a lot.
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If y'all don't know, I'm a Little League coach.
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I'm a middle school softball coach, little League softball coach.
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My daughters play, but even if they're not playing, I'm coaching.
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So over the past, what from June July, I was really honed in, focused on the Little League Regional World Series in Connecticut.
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We won DC again this year, last year, back to back, um, so big ups to the the mamie johnson little league softball team, man, because in all honesty, that's where I found my purpose.
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Um, I know I do a lot, man.
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I love marketing, um, I love music, um, fashion, things of that nature.
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But I had to find something that you know, I know I can be at, not not, not as necessarily at peace with, but I love to do and train and help, um, young ladies get to where they need to be, and it'd be dope to transfer, transfer over to, uh, coaching men too, but right now that's my focus.
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So June and July we had a tournament here in DC in June and then we pretty much won and the thing that was different from this squad, I want to say, was a lot of adversity Because these girls, you know, they came meshed together.
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We still had some girls we had Lena, sash and Erin from the previous year that made it to the Little League World Series, but these girls were all new girls from either 10U or brand new.
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So this one was more of a challenge but it was actually fun.
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It was fun like training these girls, teaching these girls and dealing with all their attitudes.
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But, um, I will say this group was was very unique, um, and we didn't succeed at connect.
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But I learned so much Because when you go to Connecticut, you know the girls get sent off into a dorm and they got two chaperones and it's just the chaperones and the girls the only time they see us is either practice or during the game, like they're secluded.
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They're in a whole compound down there in Connecticut and shout out to everybody in Connecticut, all the staff in Connecticut, man, y'all are really dope, y'all always welcome us with open arms.
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But yeah, so we really went there with a purpose.
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We played a little flat.
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That first game we played I think it was Delaware.
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Shout out to the coach over there um, we played delaware first and they got some really good girls.
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And the thing is it's fundamentals when it, when it all comes down to it, fundamentals is what's going to get you to the next step, going to get you to the next game, to the next win, to the next elevation of competition.
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So a lot of routine plays we missed on, but highlights Sasha was pitching so well, she was doing her thing.
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Laina got a home run.
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That was dope, made it on ESPN.
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Tootie got a couple defensive plays made on ESPN.
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The twins, amir and Amora.
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They did their thing at first and short Morgan, everybody, man, all the girls Morgan, brooke, imani, maya, riley, aaron, who else we got?
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Like all of the girls, if I miss the name, I don't think I missed the name, I named everybody that pretty much played their position.
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But yeah, they did a really good job and I was pretty proud of the girls.
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But we got to be better.
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We got to be better.
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So this year well, not this year, this fall, like it was literally July, august we back, and then we back in DC and I only had a month before fall ball started because fall ball just started we had our first game in Dunkirk area, southern Maryland shout out to Southern Maryland uh, league, little league, um, they have a bunch of teams out there that give us a lot of competition and we lost our first game, which is okay.
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I always take the elders lessons and yeah.
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So I had a month from July to August, august to September pretty much, and I was like man, I got to get away.
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My cousin had this, this trip already planned for I think a year already and I was just like contemplating on going.
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So I said you know what I'm going to go.
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So it was Jamaica First time out.
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The country that wasn't military, because normally in the military you don't need a passport.
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Wherever we land, wherever we stop, that's where we at.
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You know, we've been to Germany a couple times, ireland a couple times to travel to get to Iraq, and man, jamaica was everything.
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Jamaica was everything like everything.
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What I mean by that is like when you land you know you got to go through customs, and then I'm walking through the airport and it looked like one of them airports off Narcos.
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Not trying to be funny, but that's the foreign feel of the airports, like it's not like the US airports where it's a bunch of machines, a bunch of metal detectors, a bunch of this Like.
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No, it's small airports.
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The big planes come through, boom.
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So get there.
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Five days chilling with family I'm on the adult side we were at the Hyatt, I was at the Hyatt Zalara, they was at the Hyatt Ziva, and it was a beautiful time, beautiful time Like.
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All-inclusive Food was great Best lamb chops I've had so far.
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You know, of course, the beans, the beans and rice, peas and rice Jerk, chicken, coconut, ramen, coconut in the pool, in the ocean.
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Every day, though, what I did was I would wake up, go get breakfast, but before I woke up I mean after I woke up I would walk down to the beach and just ground myself you know what I'm saying with the sand, with the water, water, and just chill and just embrace, like you know, I'm saying, like, how far I've came to get to this point right now.
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Um, and it was, man, so therapeutic, like water, beach, all of that, man, this is that's my thing.
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So I, I love the Caribbean water Like every day 80 degrees, about 100% humidity, and the water was warm.
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Everything was just, you know, beautiful.
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The people were, the hospitality was great.
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Right, I'm having a time in the water, drinking, drinking.
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I drunk so much I stopped understanding, like I didn't taste anything like, as anything like, far as like alcohol.
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It was just I don't know what they put in the alcohol, but, hey, I was good and I drunk responsibly.
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So, um, on my way back, I'm like man, I love this.
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I, you know I'm talking to the man upstairs and I'm like yo, man, I need some more days here.
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My dumb self learned a lesson Not to do fly standby.
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Do not do a buddy pass when you go overseas.
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That's all I'm going to say.
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Don't do a buddy pass when you go overseas.
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And the reason being is you don't know.
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You don't know, uh, if you're gonna get on those flights for real because so many people trying to get back to the states that, like, you're gonna get bumped to the next flight, to the next flight, to the next flight, and at that time American Airlines Only had three flights Going out.
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When it was time For me to leave, I got bumped From every flight.
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So then it was more Of like Alright, what do I do?
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I got Stuck In Jamaica On my day I was supposed to leave and the crazy part is I had this.
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My boy Mailman was like yo, grab me some, some white henny.
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So I said bet, went to the duty free, got some white henny.
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But not knowing when you get stuck, you got to go back.
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You got to go back through customs, down through the through, there, whatever, and leave the the airport and um, so before I left I had to check the duty-free bag back in, check that in, come back.
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And then I'm like sitting out in a place, pretty much where we came in, that were all the uh resorts and everybody the transportation was there and uh, some, some guy walked up to me, was like hey, man, you can't, you're not gonna be able to stay here.
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You need to ride somewhere, you can go to a hotel or something.
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I'm like bro, why are you speaking to me in English so clear like that when are you from?
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I'm like you're from New York.
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He was like man, how do you know?
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I'm like man, I know the accent.
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I used to live in Jersey.
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So he was like you know, yeah, man, you know I'm living down here now.
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You know my mom taking care of my mom and this, this, and that I'm like all right, that's what's up.
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He's like.
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But look, man, I ain't trying to be funny or nothing, but they ain't not going to let you stay here.
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They closed all of this up.
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So I'm like, well, all right, cool.
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But then I said, hey, is there a place I can go to stay?
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You know what I mean?
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They said I can't stay here, right.
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And she was like, yeah, it's going to close.
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I'm like, all right, cool.
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She was like you can walk around.
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You just pretty much got to go back to the departure, to the front of the airport, and you can chill in there.
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So I was like all right, cool.
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So got my bag, had to get my luggage too.
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By the way, go back, get my luggage, grab my luggage, walk that all the way around.
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I just had a backpack and luggage and my podcast material because I was supposed to interview my cousin while we were there.
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They had the scenery, the ambiance, everything was supposed to be.
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You know what I mean.
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That was supposed to interview my cousin while we were there, to have the scenery, the ambiance, everything was supposed to be.
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You know what I mean.
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That was supposed to be my next episode that I had told everybody, but we was having too much fun.
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We was, you know what I mean.
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He was taking care of the kids, the kids in the pool, my little cousins.
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So understandable, but we can shoot it when we get here in a couple days, about 10 days from now.
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So yeah, so I walk to the front, back to the front, in a departure um area and it's just me, a lady at the time, it was just me and the lady, and then a guy and his kids came, so and then another guy, so like it wasn't just me, um, stuck so Chilling on this like metal bench Whole time.
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Mind you, I got on a tank top.
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Now when I was on the resort Never had an issue with no mosquito, nothing, no bugs, no, anything.
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Right, I'm in that airport and these mosquitoes Are tearing me up like I'm getting bit, like left and right, left and right, right and uh, stayed overnight, me and the lady, um, her name, mimi melissa.
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I ended up introducing myself to her because I'm like you should be stuck.
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You know I'm saying introducing myself to her, and there was another guy that actually was from DC, um, like stuck too.
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So we, you know, I mean we introduced ourselves or whatever, and uh, we literally had to take shifts to like take a nap or something, because it was just so much that you know, I mean, in a normal airport I'm not used to it, but in in jamaica there's a lot of jamaican people just walking in and out the airport and and then people would sit by your stuff and and just sit there, don't say anything.
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So I'm thinking you know my detroit instincts, buddy, trying to take this, take my luggage, or try to steal anything from me.
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I'm about to steal off on them, right, or do whatever you know I'm saying, but he ain't about to get my luggage or anything that I got.
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That's my personal belongings or mimi's, uh, personal belongings.
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So, um, yeah, it was just weird man, just people walking in with tools, people walking in asking for do they want, do you want an airbnb, things of that nature, uh, so, um, yeah, we we pretty much took, took shifts and by the time I woke up before I woke up, um, shout out to quee, because quee was like hey, uh, jet blue got a flight that you can purchase right now so you don't have to worry about American.
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So I popped up, you know, got my flight.
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So I was ready for the next day to fly out, because I wasn't going to fly out.
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And shout out to China too, because China the one that got me the flight to Jamaica, because she works for American Airlines, my other best friend so Queen and China.
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They took the flight to Jamaica because she works for America Airlines, my other best friend.
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So Queen and Chyna, um, they took, they helped out, like they was like hey, so um, but Chyna always warned me.
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She's like Antoine, I just want to let you know that you can get bumped from a flight, so I don't want you getting upset.
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And, uh, because we had an issue coming from New Orleans one time.
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So I'm like all right, cool, so we next day come.
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I'm on a flight, thank God, right, because, like, I missed the States.
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But then it was like man, I need to get me some property.
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It don't got to be Jamaica, but somewhere in the Caribbean I need to get me some property.
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It don't got to be Jamaica, but somewhere in the Caribbean I need to get some property.
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Because it was so, so therapeutic man, and I know, like the, the resort's going to be different than the actual Island people, but nah that that, that experience was everything I needed.
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You know what I'm saying Now, fall ball Experience was everything I needed.
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You know what I'm saying Now, fall ball Fall ball has started.
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We had one practice, which was last Friday.
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Last Friday was Today's the 9th, 8, 7, 6 the 4th.
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Was it the 4th?
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Yeah, monday 8th.
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Sunday 7th, 5th the 5th.
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We had practice on the 5th, had a game on the 6th.
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The thing with fall ball that I wanted to do was pretty much get the kids in tip-top shape for the spring is in tip-top shape for the spring, and by doing that pretty much, I wanted to get them to understand leadership.
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You know what I mean Leadership and strengthening conditioning, because what I've learned from being at the Little League World Series them girls are conditioned, they're conditioned, they don't.
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If it's six innings, seven innings, eight innings, if it's tie game, them girls are conditioned, they were conditioned, and that's what I want to get our girls to, but one practice ain't going to cut it.
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I'm just going to be straight up One practice ain't going to cut it.
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We need at least three, three practices a week.
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But it's tough because the parents got to get the kids there.
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It's not the kids' fault.
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These kids will practice every day.
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I'm pretty sure if they had the opportunity to, they would practice every day, because I know my kids would.
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But it's the parents.
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So that's the hard part of uh little league is the parents.
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They're, they're, they're used to a a one-day practice.
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They used to you know, bare minimum and I and I, just I, just I'm not bare minimum.
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You know what I mean.
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So it's hard and shout out to coach Turk, um, coach Lamont, for helping me, um coach the girls all through the year this past, uh, spring season and summer season, but now we got coach Turk and coach Lynn, um, that's going to be helping me as well for the girls.
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So, um, what I, what I learned and you know I ask around from some of the coaches that I've met, from you know what I'm saying at the Little League World Series and other people, even my uncle that's a Hall of Fame referee in Michigan.
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You know I always got questions for him.
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So we're going to do practices a little different.
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You know I always got questions for them, so we're going to do practices a little different, you know, and it's learning.
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That's the thing I love about coaching is like I'm not bigger than a program and I'm not denying myself education on the sport.
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So I'm always open to learning.
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I'm always asking questions, even if I know the answer.
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I just want to see their perspective of what's how they handle a situation or how they enter a game, how they operate.
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You know what I'm saying.
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So this year, um, this fall is pretty much is just focusing on the, the fundamentals.
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Getting back to the basics, um, the basics will get you where you need to go.
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Learning those fundamentals.
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Um, it is emotional load of coaching kids, coaching girls.
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It's an emotional load.
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But guess what?
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I got two daughters.
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So I think that's the, that's the, that's the, the plus that I have because I know how to work with girls and I know attitudes, because I got a teenager and I got a soon-to-be 11-year-old, so that's not a problem.
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And then Coach Turk got twins, amir and Amora, and Coach Lynn has Samaya, and he has a couple more daughters, older daughters, and then he has his niece, soso that's on the team this year too.
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So it's an emotional load.
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But just trying to make sure that we're supporting the players, caring for them and maintaining your own mental health while you're dealing with you know what I mean this not even with the kids just dealing with the whole program and the situations that we dictate.
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We're in Southeast man, southeast DC, and we're in a smack dab hood and shout out to the Nationals Washington Nationals for having this Nats Academy in the neighborhood, and it's pretty much getting a lot of kids out of trouble.
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But I think we're going to be good.
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It's good.
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It's gonna be tough.
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It's gonna be a tough, tough journey, but I'm okay with it.
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I'm used to it.
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I'm used to adversity, being a marine, um.
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But you know, just staying positive, being positive to the kids, being positive to the coaches, um, handling pressure as a coach at a national stage like that, and, yeah, just making sure that you know what I mean.
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I'm modeling myself to be a role model for these girls and future kids.
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You know what I mean, because I'm human too.
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You know people make mistakes, kids, you know I mean because I'm, I'm, I'm human too.
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You know people make mistakes and and I think, uh, that's the the, the gist and the gift of life.
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You know what I mean, like being able to adapt and overcome.
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So, um, this is this is, this is what I got, got fall ball and then, um 10 days from now, I got a big milestone in my life, which is the big 40.
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Uh, I know, I don't look it, I'm 25 if you ask me, 25 for the rest of my life, regardless of the grades in the beard, um, but yeah, my 40th is coming up literally in 10 days.
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It's september 9th.
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I'm shooting this right now, tuesday, september 9th.
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Shout out to my cousin Octane, his name, atuan too.
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Happy birthday, cuz it's his birthday today.
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Yeah, big 40, four decades of living on this earth.
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And it's been a journey, man, it's been a journey.
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It's been a journey.
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I've loved, lost, lost, loved, lost a lot of friends, lost a lot of people that I thought was in my corner.
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But at the end of the day, none of that matters.
00:23:31.962 --> 00:23:42.400
None of that matters because I'm still here and I'm enjoying life, like I'm literally enjoying life at the fullest.
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You know, you have your roller coasters in life.
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You're going up and down, pause.
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You're going up and down the emotional, mental, physical, spiritual roller coaster.
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Now that you know I built that relationship with god, I'm still building, still learning.
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I feel like you know, um, this decade is gonna be great 30 was, 30 was dope.
00:24:09.631 --> 00:24:12.694
Um, 30 was, 30 was, was trying.
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Out of all my decades 10, 20, 30, 40, 40, coming up 30 was the most trying.
00:24:20.625 --> 00:24:24.710
You know, it's been a hell of a journey.
00:24:24.710 --> 00:24:26.196
You know I'm still on it.
00:24:26.196 --> 00:24:29.096
The marathon continues, as Nip would always say.
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Rest in peace to Nip.
00:24:32.120 --> 00:24:36.458
But, yeah, 40, I'm looking forward to it.
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I'm looking forward to a lot of things In my 40s, you know, just grateful for the lessons that I've learned, the growth, the resilience that I've built in my decade, my first four, first three, going on four, acknowledging my accomplishments, you know, and my adversities, which helped me, shaped me, built me and mold me to who I am today, like that's been a great journey for me.
00:25:13.711 --> 00:25:19.420
Just learning man, just learning, learning who you are, understanding who you are Getting therapy.
00:25:19.420 --> 00:25:21.250
So now you know I, who you are understanding, who you are getting therapy.
00:25:21.250 --> 00:25:24.199
So now you know I'm just redefining success.
00:25:24.199 --> 00:25:46.585
You know I'm not disposing, but I'm getting rid of Relationships that I don't need.
00:25:46.585 --> 00:25:47.328
You know what I'm saying.
00:25:47.328 --> 00:25:54.859
It's been a trying time, definitely been a trying time Keeping people around me.
00:25:54.859 --> 00:26:06.297
That I know for sure Is with me and not in it for the, for the perks, uh, not in it for the the title.
00:26:06.297 --> 00:26:10.264
Just just here around, I got people around me.
00:26:10.264 --> 00:26:14.754
Now that's like legit, legit, you know, that's for me.
00:26:14.754 --> 00:26:29.357
Um, and yeah, you know, my personal evolution is it's still going, it's still moving, it's still authentic.
00:26:29.357 --> 00:26:30.019
I'm just me.
00:26:30.019 --> 00:26:31.280
You know what I mean.
00:26:31.301 --> 00:26:35.894
Like everybody always talk bad about a virgo, but you need one of us in your life.
00:26:35.894 --> 00:26:53.557
At the end of the day, we're great people, we're straightforward, we uh, we're gonna tell it like it is, we're gonna, but we also, we also have a lot of emotions but at the same time, we don't act off emotions, we act off logic.
00:26:53.557 --> 00:27:01.090
So, as much as emotional someone, some of us, might be, the logical side of us is going to always defeat that.
00:27:01.090 --> 00:27:10.499
So, just being logic, being very analytical with how I move in this next decade is going to be great.
00:27:10.499 --> 00:27:17.240
Great to look at, great to learn from, great to recap on when I get to that fifth decade.
00:27:17.240 --> 00:27:17.682
You get me.
00:27:18.572 --> 00:27:29.915
So, yeah, man, it's just preparing myself, you know, second year as a, as a middle school head coach, um, we made to the championship we lost to deal.
00:27:29.915 --> 00:27:33.990
But next year we're going to be the deal breakers If we do end up meeting, deal.
00:27:33.990 --> 00:27:41.682
Um, I wholeheartedly feel that and I feel like I'm going to bring a championship to Hardy Stamp.
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That you can mark that.
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But that's just confidence.
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You know what I'm saying.
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We're confident people.
00:27:50.610 --> 00:27:52.553
I'm confident, not cocky.
00:27:52.573 --> 00:28:03.990
So, yeah, my future outlooks on life, I would say embracing new adventures, traveling more out of the country.
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One thing about me like I'm going to give the opportunity for people to go with me.
00:28:08.716 --> 00:28:18.845
But if you can't go, I understand, cool, I'm still going, because I went dolo on that trip, even though my family I met my family out there I went dolo solo.
00:28:18.845 --> 00:28:21.388
You know what I'm saying.
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I'm single.
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So you know I'm exploring new adventures, traveling new opportunities.
00:28:41.590 --> 00:28:42.992
Oh, I got a new tape coming out.
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I'm trying to get it out for my birthday, um, but you know, dealing with a bunch of different artists, uh, it takes time.
00:28:47.102 --> 00:29:02.644
So if I can't get the whole album out on my birthday, I'm definitely gonna release like a two pack or three pack, because I already got like five, six songs already done, um, but yeah, um, that's coming big 10, 10 zeros.
00:29:02.644 --> 00:29:07.918
I'm gonna drop five, but that's that's what it is.
00:29:07.918 --> 00:29:11.482
10 zeros, 10, 10 zeros.
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That's the uh music group.
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Um, so I don't want y'all to forget that.
00:29:17.357 --> 00:29:25.459
Um, new artists on the tape, uh, just a bunch of friends, man, that I've built relationships throughout my decades of living.
00:29:25.459 --> 00:29:36.356
You know, uh, I meet new people, uh, every every month, I would say, and not every day, but I meet new people every month and you know, I got some new artists on here.
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That's that's that people never heard me work with before.
00:29:39.433 --> 00:29:46.414
And that's my goal is just working with artists Some artists, not with me, no more, that's cool.
00:29:46.414 --> 00:29:52.913
I'm still moving, still moving, still working, still grinding.
00:29:52.913 --> 00:29:57.162
But, yeah, shout out to Melz too, because Melz always still tap in with me.
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That's the bro for real.
00:30:02.130 --> 00:30:03.775
Mel's started 10-0's with me.
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He was there, he's still around.
00:30:05.559 --> 00:30:10.497
Even though we don't talk every day, he's still checking in with me.
00:30:10.497 --> 00:30:15.874
But yeah, future Learning opportunities, new passions I want to go fishing.
00:30:16.055 --> 00:30:18.235
That's one of the goals I want to do.
00:30:18.235 --> 00:30:21.557
Learning fishing again, man, I haven't been fishing.
00:30:21.557 --> 00:30:21.423
That's one of the goals I want to do.
00:30:21.423 --> 00:30:29.442
Learning fishing again, man, I haven't been fishing since I was a kid, like in my single digits, like eight, nine years old.
00:30:29.442 --> 00:30:30.048
You know what I'm saying.
00:30:30.048 --> 00:30:44.535
So, learning how to fish, again learning how to, I'm going to leave surfing off because, uh, I, my irrational fears is crazy, so I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to surf.
00:30:44.535 --> 00:30:47.260
It's too that ocean's serious out there.
00:30:47.260 --> 00:30:52.827
It's too many things that just be popping out the water like that, and I'm good on the surfing tip.
00:30:52.827 --> 00:30:55.614
I'll leave that to somebody else.
00:30:55.614 --> 00:31:00.524
Um, yeah, uh, fishing, I want to add.
00:31:00.524 --> 00:31:02.007
Oh, playing the piano.
00:31:02.007 --> 00:31:03.710
That's another goal I want to.
00:31:03.789 --> 00:31:05.510
I want to accomplish this this decade.
00:31:05.510 --> 00:31:08.034
Um, what else?
00:31:08.034 --> 00:31:14.159
Um, oh, building a legacy.
00:31:14.159 --> 00:31:17.101
Um, using this decade to build my legacy.
00:31:17.101 --> 00:31:21.085
Uh, do I want more kids?
00:31:21.085 --> 00:31:23.646
Yeah, I do.
00:31:23.646 --> 00:31:28.318
Uh, do I have to have more kids?
00:31:28.318 --> 00:31:30.083
No, I don't.
00:31:30.605 --> 00:31:38.841
I mean, of course, you know, as a man, you, you want, you want a son, but I mean I just want a boy, just to complete both genders.
00:31:38.841 --> 00:31:41.365
You know, I got a boy and I got a girl, I got girls.
00:31:41.365 --> 00:31:50.778
So, but my two girls, man, they've been a hell of an experience, man, just dealing with girls and understanding.
00:31:50.778 --> 00:31:52.278
They're teaching me how to love again.
00:31:52.278 --> 00:32:09.348
They taught me how to be patient again, be calm, and they're so caring so it's like having girls was the best thing that ever happened to me Be patient again, be calm, and they're so caring so it's like having girls was the best thing that ever happened to me, even though I did want a boy.
00:32:09.348 --> 00:32:11.019
But the girls man, landon and Tootie they're the best thing.
00:32:11.019 --> 00:32:12.190
They literally keep me going every day.
00:32:12.330 --> 00:32:14.418
Picking up from school man is my thing.
00:32:14.418 --> 00:32:18.240
Now watching them play sports you know what I mean is crazy.
00:32:18.240 --> 00:32:42.734
And being a dad and being able to coach them and not and not only coach them, watch them, because I don't coach the travel team and and I think that's the dope part of just being a parent man, just sitting there watching your kids learn and hearing it from a different perspective, because they hear from me all the time and my thing is like I don't, I don't take excuses, but I listen.
00:32:42.734 --> 00:33:01.322
You know I'm saying I want to understand, like, what made you, why you swing at that or why you didn't swing, or why you, why you threw the ball here and didn't throw the ball there, like you know, just understanding their cerebral to the point where they're creating their own self, like my daughter, l Lena, plays volleyball too.
00:33:01.322 --> 00:33:02.535
They just won yesterday.
00:33:02.535 --> 00:33:09.141
She's killing it, man, you know what I'm saying and my thing was always putting the girls first.
00:33:09.141 --> 00:33:13.581
So, like me and B, we make sure that's what we do.
00:33:13.581 --> 00:33:21.865
Even though I went to Jamaica, the girls went to Disney World.
00:33:21.865 --> 00:33:30.998
You know what I'm saying and you know that's our goal, man just being the great co-parents that we can be and pushing our girls to the next level.
00:33:30.998 --> 00:33:32.622
No drama, we ain't doing no drama.
00:33:32.622 --> 00:33:45.717
So, yeah, building my legacy, getting you know, building a trust, so that my kids would be straight and the kids' kids would be straight.
00:33:45.717 --> 00:33:58.794
Man, like I'm looking forward to this next decade, reframing 40, 40 to the new 20, I mean getting older, yeah, the number's always gonna go up, but I mean the wiser.
00:33:58.794 --> 00:34:00.299
I'm looking for the education.
00:34:00.299 --> 00:34:12.456
I'm looking for the learning experience, the experience of life, the stepping into it myself, and and again, building that relationship with God.
00:34:12.456 --> 00:34:16.686
You know what I'm saying Keeping God first, keeping him first.
00:34:16.686 --> 00:34:20.896
Um, and it's been, it's been a hell of a journey.
00:34:20.896 --> 00:34:22.299
It still is.
00:34:22.299 --> 00:34:24.826
This, this journey is, is great, great.
00:34:25.947 --> 00:34:40.948
Um, if I could change anything from my four decades for high school time, I would have stayed in the band.
00:34:40.948 --> 00:34:44.681
Definitely, high school-wise, I would have stayed in the band.
00:34:44.681 --> 00:34:51.219
I still would have joined the Marines, though I would have stayed in the band, joined the Marines and worked my way through the Marine Corps.
00:34:51.219 --> 00:34:51.780
Now in the Marine Corps.
00:34:51.780 --> 00:34:54.626
I would have stayed in the band, joined the marines and and and worked my way through the marine corps.
00:34:54.626 --> 00:34:57.050
Now in the marine corps I would have went officer.
00:34:57.050 --> 00:34:58.293
I definitely would have.
00:34:58.293 --> 00:35:08.440
I would have won officer because my bro p just seeing him man and he how successful he's he's been at his young age, um, definitely would have.
00:35:08.440 --> 00:35:31.498
Because motor t man, I love motor t, but man, I was a sergeant for eight years out of my 11 years and did everything recruiting sergeant's course, combat tours and nothing like still stuck like and seeing that the how the world works far as like going officer route you in a better place when you get out into the real world and getting a job.
00:35:31.498 --> 00:35:33.361
So I definitely would want an officer.
00:35:33.361 --> 00:35:36.465
And um, what's my third?
00:35:36.465 --> 00:35:39.690
My third?
00:35:39.690 --> 00:35:50.745
My third is still it's not, it's nothing, I mean my change, my changes, those would be my two for sure.
00:35:50.745 --> 00:36:04.693
Staying in the band in high school while I was playing baseball and Marine Corps, I definitely would have went the officer route after a certain amount of years.
00:36:04.693 --> 00:36:07.342
So, yeah, those would be my two right now.
00:36:07.342 --> 00:36:13.884
Now I'm just, you know, trying to see what we got now, what we got next.
00:36:14.424 --> 00:36:21.019
The next is, uh, you know, turning 40 isn't the end of the youth, it's the beginning of living with clarity and intention.
00:36:21.019 --> 00:36:22.282
You know what I'm saying.
00:36:22.282 --> 00:36:27.240
So, uh, last year my birthday was was all about accountability.
00:36:27.240 --> 00:36:30.779
This year is going to be about a clarity and intention.
00:36:30.779 --> 00:36:42.146
I'm dealing with people with, you know, intention, like friends, family, just making sure everything is clear, clear and concise.
00:36:42.146 --> 00:36:43.157
I need intentions.
00:36:43.157 --> 00:36:49.082
You know what I'm saying the right intentions, not the bad intentions.
00:36:49.082 --> 00:36:50.126
You know what I'm saying.
00:36:50.126 --> 00:36:52.721
People know where I'm from.
00:36:52.721 --> 00:36:55.560
I don't got to, you know what I mean, be tough.
00:36:55.560 --> 00:36:56.442
I'm not the toughest.
00:36:56.442 --> 00:36:57.914
I don't got to do all of that Like.
00:36:57.914 --> 00:37:07.244
I'm just trying to live life, smiling, being happy and just caring about the people that care about me and caring for the people that need help and need care.
00:37:07.244 --> 00:37:09.554
But it's clarity and intention.
00:37:09.554 --> 00:37:10.719
So, the big 40.
00:37:10.719 --> 00:37:15.574
40.
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Clarity and attention.
00:37:19.342 --> 00:37:20.725
So the big 40, 40, definitely just that's what it is.
00:37:20.745 --> 00:37:27.964
Oh, I know what my third is, because I'm looking at it right now, because finishing my college degree in marketing.
00:37:27.964 --> 00:37:39.186
I'm literally was two classes away two plus the capstone from George Mason to get my degree and I just got to finish accounting 300.
00:37:39.186 --> 00:37:41.402
And what's the other one?
00:37:41.402 --> 00:37:51.286
Accounting and finance, finance and accounting and then a capstone.
00:37:51.286 --> 00:37:57.998
But I'm switching from george mason to university of maryland global campus.
00:37:57.998 --> 00:38:01.083
So that's my goal.
00:38:01.083 --> 00:38:03.207
Um, that's, that's.
00:38:03.207 --> 00:38:04.148
That's the third.
00:38:04.210 --> 00:38:05.255
Just finishing school.
00:38:05.255 --> 00:38:08.940
Finishing school, man, I've never been a person to not finish.
00:38:08.940 --> 00:38:10.843
Like, whatever I start, I'm gonna finish it.
00:38:10.843 --> 00:38:12.946
That's what I do.
00:38:12.946 --> 00:38:22.906
Um, I can't be out here half am um, and I got my kids.
00:38:22.906 --> 00:38:25.489
You know I'm saying finishing school is that's the main.
00:38:25.489 --> 00:38:28.178
Important part for me is just finishing school.
00:38:28.178 --> 00:38:31.282
So be on the lookout so I can have my.
00:38:31.282 --> 00:38:40.743
I'll be getting my degree and then possibly going for my master's, but most of all, that's that's what I'm doing.
00:38:40.743 --> 00:38:54.088
I'm literally transcripts is right here on the screen and I need to send it to umcg I mean umgc, university of Maryland Global Campus.
00:38:54.088 --> 00:38:59.545
But yeah, so appreciate y'all, man, I really do.
00:39:00.077 --> 00:39:05.674
The people that stuck around, the people that sticking around, tell a friend to tell a friend to make sure y'all subscribe.
00:39:05.674 --> 00:39:08.881
Please subscribe to relationships worth more than money.
00:39:08.881 --> 00:39:16.135
There's gonna be so much more in store in this season because we're in season two.
00:39:16.135 --> 00:39:22.835
Um, I'm still working on season two, so I want to still get to like 50 by the end of the year.
00:39:22.835 --> 00:39:24.957
Episode 50, I think.
00:39:24.957 --> 00:39:29.983
This is 34, 35, so you know, do the math 15, 16 more episodes.
00:39:30.003 --> 00:39:46.864
So if you know somebody that want to get on a podcast, um, let me know, email me um RWMTM pod at Gmail or if you're on my Instagram, rwmtm pod at RWMTM pod, and we can get.
00:39:46.864 --> 00:39:50.269
We can go from there, man Um, and, like I said, I'm traveling.
00:39:50.269 --> 00:39:53.303
I'm trying to do more podcasts in different areas.
00:39:53.303 --> 00:39:58.187
Shout out to Gilly and Wallow, because that's been my motivation.
00:39:58.187 --> 00:40:00.253
You know what I'm saying.
00:40:00.253 --> 00:40:07.188
They've been super, super instrumental to me doing this podcast.
00:40:07.188 --> 00:40:10.605
I hope they do another podcon too, because that definitely helped me out a lot.
00:40:10.605 --> 00:40:15.497
But yeah, like I said, man um the big 40s coming.
00:40:15.497 --> 00:40:20.125
There is a party um september 19th.
00:40:20.125 --> 00:40:28.701
If you don't have the information, contact me um, because I can't just let any everybody in.
00:40:28.701 --> 00:40:39.806
It's a screen and a little thing like but yeah, anywho, hit me um, I appreciate y'all, love y'all, and like that we gone.
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Relationships worth more than money.