Coercive Control Stage 3: Fear, Shame, and Destroyed Identity

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1) Reading the next excerpt from my article. https://defeatingchildhoodtrauma.com/coercive-control-is-the-reason-they-cant-just-leave/

2) Following up with a three-paragraph reading on an interview I published with a survivor of coercive control as a perfect example of stage 3. https://defeatingchildhoodtrauma.com/escaping-coercive-control-an-interview-with-a-survivor/

3) The five takeaways from coercive control survivor, Taylor's lived experience and what we can learn.

4) Two vocabulary words: confirmation experiences and declarative memories. How they create confirmation bias and how the vivid memories are there to help us survive impossible situations so that we know what we need to do.

5) Activated Attachment System is a fancy word for separation anxiety...on steroids. The term also comes from attachment theory and it's linked with high dopamine. How it's the culprit for why the victim has massive withdrawals from their abuser after they leave them.

6) Induced conversation, the abuser's superpower. Why any conversation with the abuser once the victim has escaped puts them at a high risk of going back to the abuser.

7) No contact and making a list. The two things most strongly recommended for any victim of coercive control as soon as they escape.

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