Why you keep getting sick 6 weeks into every fresh start. And how not to.

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Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast.
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My name is Angela Sharina.
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I'm your host.
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I'm your partner in change, personal and collective transformation, your process of your partner in the process of reaching for and actually designing for and building your 10x to your next level goals, your leap in life, in health and fitness and business and relationships.
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That's what we are all about here.
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You know the tagline of this podcast: change in days, not in years.
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You can be changing, especially in our world today.
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You can be changing so much faster.
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Just be in this constant flow of change.
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And so, this is what this podcast is all about, what we are evolving into.
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So your future, your better, more resilient, more ambitious, bolder version of self gets to live in your real life, in your real days, a little bit sooner, a little bit better, a little bit more fulfilled, and with a little bit more joy.
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Today, guys, we are gonna be focusing on why so often, and it's such a pattern that I've been coaching for 18 years, and now that I uh see this pattern, I can't unsee it.
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Most of my clients are really like all of my clients actually are very ambitious, high-performing, hardworking people who just want to get squeezed the most out of this life.
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And very often because of that, and myself including, we end up pushing and pushing and pushing, and anything but feels like a waste of time, like extra hour of sleep, or extra hour of me time, or extra minute of mindful meditation, feels like we are taken away from this bolder, more audacious, aspirational version of self that we can be building.
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But you see, the pattern is that I've seen over and over and over again to the point that I can't unsee it and can't not act on it in my own life every time I want to sabotage that.
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Like the pattern is you push, you don't give your body, your mind enough time, your immune system enough time to rest, recover, to help you fight the germs in all the in the world around you, and then you get sick, or you get injured, or you get mentally burned out, mentally, emotionally, which I would argue even worse, because then you don't have to you don't have the mood, the motivation, the energy to do anything.
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And then you just stop.
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You stop maybe in business, in relationships, in your health, in uh what you know works better for you, you just lose it.
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And with that, you take less action, less right kind of growth-oriented kind of action.
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And with that, you lose momentum.
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And very often you start feeling like, or it is objectively true, that you almost start from ground zero every time, and you build it up and build it up and build it up is all the hard work, and then bam, and you get sick and you get injured, and you again burn out mentally and emotionally, and you just don't want to do anything.
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You're like, yeah, it's just too hard.
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But it's not too hard, it's you're doing it the wrong way.
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Every every successful person who achieved their success in a fulfilling way, who learned how to keep that success and built on it more and more and more, and more, not in a sense that you have to do more and more, but just expanding their life consistently and sustainably.
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Every one of them learned how to not just push, but also have a rhythm of recovery.
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Today we're gonna talk about sleep.
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I'm gonna walk you through some fundamental sleep practices so then you don't get sick, so then you don't get injured, so then you don't burn out, and so then you can have sustainable, consistent, steady progress towards every single one of your aspirations and dreams.
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Right.
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And let me read you some stories, some examples, some thoughts from my blog.
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The title of the blog, and probably gonna be of this podcast, Why You Keep Getting Sick Six Weeks Into Every Fresh Start.
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It's not bad luck when it's a pattern.
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Something that I heard in some shape or form from almost every one of my clients.
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I've been doing so well, and now I get sick and I have to stop and start over all over again.
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So frustrating, my client would say.
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I hear some version of this from almost every client at the start of our work together.
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And then I see the pattern unfold over the course of working together.
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Over the months, I watch this pattern unfold, and it feels like so obvious at this point for me.
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And what what it reminds me of is that even the most ambitious, high-achieving, like the most brilliant people, sometimes we get into our patterns and we just don't see it.
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It can be obvious to everyone else, but we just don't see it because we are in this pattern, right?
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And we don't measure it.
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Well, now we have AI that can point us to this, like, hey, you've been doing this.
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Have you noticed?
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AI is actually quite good at that.
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So again and again and again, this pattern unfolds.
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You push, you sprint, six, eight weeks of momentum, just like you would do at work, and then you get sick, you step, maybe you're burned out, and you restart from what often feels like ground zero.
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Imagine, like, if you were saving money or investing money, and every six to eight weeks you would go back to almost zero.
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Imagine how frustrating would that be.
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But that is what you often do with your own physical health, your fitness progress, and often relationships, and often, to be honest, the work progress as well.
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If you just did not stop for the next even 90 days, or till the end of the year, if you just did not stop, you didn't get sick, you would just build small steps, would take small step forward to build a little bit on top, a little bit on top, you know, compounding interest, all of that stuff.
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If you just kept at it with no stop, like nothing stopping you, no getting sick, no burning out, nothing, where would you be?
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Like, where would that bring you?
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You know, those that compounding in compounding, I think I'm using the word right, English is not my first language.
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I think it would get you, you know.
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They say like if you fold a piece of paper many times, then soon if if you double the amount of those folds every time, you get to the moon quite fast.
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So, what would happen with your progress?
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Whether that's health, fitness, relationships, your fat loss, or your business, whatever that might be.
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What if you just did not stop?
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I want to be honest with you here, guys, like very honest, and I'm and um then I'm gonna share with you my story as well.
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It's not just germs speaking about getting sick, it's not just bad luck, it's not just being human, it's also partially a lot, your fault.
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Specifically, how you design your life and where your health and recovery and your sleep sit on your list of priorities.
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Where does it sit?
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And I would know guys better than anyone.
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As a kid, as a teenager, and into my early 20s, as a I was a sickly child, sickly young adult.
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The doctor's office was my most visited place.
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It started to feel like a second home.
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Well, except that I hated that place.
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Flu after flu, coughing for weeks on end, an autoimmune condition that stuck around for a good decade, every kind of food poisoning you could imagine, later emotional regulation issues, an internal roller coaster that's spilled into my romantic relationships and every other kind.
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Never getting consistent with high-quality work while trying to hack my sleep.
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Never making real progress in training because of all of the above and you know, all the sleep hacks and the diet roller coaster that followed, was paired with emotional roller coaster.
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And I couldn't see it.
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Obviously, I didn't know better, I didn't have coaches around me, like you know, all kinds of stories, but I couldn't see it.
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Fast forward a decade, my early 30s, that's where I really started looking into it and working on it, getting my coaching certifications under the belt from changed psychology to nutritional to emotional mastery to stress regulation, flow state, high performance.
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And uh and then now almost into my 40s, getting sick.
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Sometimes I feel like yesterday I felt something.
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Today I'm like, it's probably gone without any medications.
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I'm gonna tell you my secret in a moment here.
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So sometimes I feel something coming on, and before I can think twice, it's gone.
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Autoimmunity resolved quite some time ago without medications.
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Emotionally, I've never felt this balanced, resilient, and optimistic through every swing of the entrepreneurial right you can imagine, every ongoing setback up and down.
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It's still happening, it's just not so much reflective in how I feel or how you'd see me every day.
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Training never felt better, abs that stick, lifting heavier than ever, 55 pull-ups in today's workout, starting from barely one when I was a teenager.
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I hated pull-ups because I was so bad at I was quite good at everything else at our physical training classes, but pull-ups it just did not work for me.
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Now I'm working on my line capacity to improve my voice so I can deliver this podcast better, but also to chase a sprinting personal best.
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I've always been a sprinter, so I want to get good at it again.
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Work steadier than ever.
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I'm going for my best sales month ever in my like entire life.
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So, what changed?
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What changed is I finally took the basics I preach in my coaching seriously myself, especially sleep.
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I got certified as a sleep recovery stress management coach some time ago.
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And after that, working with on it with all of my clients and reading more on that and getting more into details, and we have so much research coming out, how it all works.
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It just I start loving this field more and more.
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Because um, let me explain you why.
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I never compromise on sleep anymore because I know what happens there during sleep, specifically during sleep.
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Sleep is where your immune system does its main work.
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Google it, immune system and sleep.
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You'll be amazed how much of immune system proper function depends on your proper sleep.
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Sleep is where your learnings get learned, meaning it gets remembered, your memory depends on sleep, and it gets metabolized into the live business and relationship lessons, into insights you can carry into real days.
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Like there is research showing that people are twice as likely to spot a hidden solution when they sleep well compared to people who sleep less well.
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It's where you get your gains, like the biceps, the sprint speed, the movement patterns.
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Maybe you're learning dancing, or sleep will help with that as well.
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It's where your built-in therapist does its main job.
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Your epidemic movement sleep, your self-regulation, your perspective taking, your all-or-nothing thinking gets everything.
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It's where fat loss gets optimized, insulin sensitivity and all, your blood sugar levels, your hunger hormones, any hormones actually, your hunger hormones stay down, your discipline gets up, gets recharged.
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It's where clarity comes from, what to focus on and what to pass on.
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Sleep on a problem, and you're more than two acts as likely to spot the hidden solution the next day.
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The endless options and the noise settle.
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And the one thing that matters rises to the top of mind, your mind.
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And it's where your decision-making machine gets its maintenance.
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Your brain literally gets cleaned overnight, lymphatic system.
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Look it up.
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Like brushing your teeth for your brain automated.
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Which matters most for your brain CEO, your prefrontal cortex, the thinking part of your brain, the logical part that does the dreaming, the designing, your best decision making.
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That's the part that tamts your animal impulses and cravings and stops you from sabotaging your own lifelong dreams.
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And so, my secret to superimmunity when I feel something's off, I sleep extra.
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Like I set my alarm sometimes, an hour later, I get to bed earlier.
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Like my life depends on it.
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Because it kind of does.
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Here's the pattern I see with my super ambitious and high-performing clients who keep getting sick.
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Pressure builds, they push, sleep gets cut first.
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They're like, Oh, I don't have time to sleep.
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Okay.
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Then comes an event with lots of people and lots of germs, and also a diet and lifestyle.
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Somewhere there, start sleeping because when you're sleep deprived and you don't you just don't feel like doing all of the healthy things, maybe some extra wine also somewhere there, and then bam! Like you ordered it, you're sick, and then you can blame luck, or you can look at your patents.
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Like nobody is immune to that.
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That's life.
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But how often it happens, how long it lasts, and how much it derails you from all of the progress and dreams you have are all in your hands.
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How often it happens, how long it lasts, and how much it derails you.
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So look at your sleep pattern honestly, this week.
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Are you doing the best you can, or just the best you can get away with?
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An interesting question, right, guys?
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Before we jump into our the next part of our call, where I'll announce a really amazing gift for you, which is even better than a sleep list that you'll forget once you stop listening to this podcast in a few minutes.
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A real gift that is super valuable and not a lot of people will get in their life ever, but you get you'll get a chance.
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Don't forget, guys, to share this podcast episode maybe with that person who you love, who you care about, who keeps pushing their sleep away, even though that's the thing they need in their life the most to upgrade all the other areas that they care about, whether that's work, relationships, health, and fitness.
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Right.
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So share this podcast episode with them first and foremost.
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And now back to the gift.
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If this hits home, this pattern of pushing, of sprinting, and crashing and getting sick.
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I've opened a few just today, as Claude advised me, I've opened a few free sleep reset reset calls.
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This month for sure, till the end of October.
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Then I'm not sure.
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I got just signed up a new client, and I told her, hey, I'm glad you got in.
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I'm raising prices, and they're already on the website.
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So sleep reset call till it last, available in the show notes as a gift to you, or you can share it with anyone who you care about, who you love, and who really, really, really needs it.
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They gotta be ready to change.
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Um not gonna fool you.
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There has to be a desire to change this pattern when you finally get sick of getting sick and all this pushing and restarting, pushing and getting injured.
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Your sleep has a lot to do with injuries too, by the way.
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So share this gift of sleep reset call.
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And I promise you, they're gonna sleep better.
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Again, there should be a desire for that, at least some.
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If a person does not want to change, there is very little force in the universe that can force them.
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But if you think that they might love it, please share that with them or take advantage yourself till it lasts, right?
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So free, absolutely free sleep reset call.
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And then after the session, if you would like to keep working on your habits together, that's gonna be really amazing.
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I love working with people.
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If not, you'll get two, three habits that will help you to start improving your sleep habits, your consistency on sleep, different issues and challenges that you might be having with sleep or getting enough sleep.
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Right?
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So you're gonna get a couple of actionable takeaways personalized for your life that will help you to start getting consistent better sleep.
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And with that, and with that, let me remind you that you're gonna get better fat loss, better immune system, you're gonna learn better, you're gonna have more insights for your business, for your relationships.
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By the way, you're gonna get better at relationships.
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It's your built-in therapist that gets more hours when you get more sleep.
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You're gonna get muscle, you're gonna lose fat, you're gonna get more clarity on what matters, and you're gonna be better at focusing on what matters and on decision making and attaining your cravings and other animal impulses that often sabotage your lifelong dreams.
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So, sleeperset call link gift is in the show notes.
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Please use it.
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Also, there is, if you're not ready for sleep reset, but you want to hear from me every Thursday, the Thursday unlock for tips for body, mind, systems, and why.
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The link is right after the sleeperset call link.
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And I'm Angela Shorina, certified master health, sleep, stress management, recovery, body transformation, performance coach with 18 years of experience.
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I would love to help you in any way I can.
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I can't help you if you don't take the first step, of course.
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And that's it for today, guys.
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Thank you for tuning in.
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Thank you for listening to a decade more of these episodes.
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The next one is gonna be with the guest, so stay tuned for that.
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Probably gonna be around behavioral science and how to unlock the benefits of your or someone else's subconscious to get the results you want in life or business.
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So stay tuned for that.
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And till next time, keep sleeping because it helps you to keep growing.
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Till next time.