OVER DEZE AFLEVERING
If you grew up learning that the safest thing you could do was manage the emotional environment, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores the Three C’s from codependency and Al-Anon recovery spaces: I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it. Through family systems, Bowen’s differentiation of self, Jungian ego inflation and individuation, detaching with love, and the grief underneath control, this episode looks at why overfunctioning, rescuing, fixing, and emotional caretaking often feel like love while secretly functioning as anxiety management. The invitation is not to stop caring, but to stop confusing love with responsibility for someone else’s healing.
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RESOURCES & REFERENCES
Al-Anon: The Three C’s
A reminder that you didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it.
https://al-anon.org/pdf/P46_2003_web.pdf
Al-Anon Family Groups
Information and support for people affected by someone else’s drinking.
Melody Beattie: Codependent No More
A resource on codependency, boundaries, self-care, and the ways we can lose ourselves while trying to help someone else.
https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore
The Bowen Center: Differentiation of Self
An introduction to staying emotionally connected to others while maintaining a clear and distinct sense of self.
https://www.thebowencenter.org/differentiation-of-self
International Association for Analytical Psychology: Individuation
An introduction to the Jungian concept of individuation—the process of becoming more conscious and more fully yourself.
https://iaap.org/jung-analytical-psychology/short-articles-on-analytical-psychology/individuation-2/
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