Michael and Bev, Making Poly Work

In Episode 59 of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Michael and Bev for an unusually honest look at a poly relationship that has worked for fourteen years precisely because the two people in it are not trying to be the same. Michael came into the relationship already deeply non-monogamous and committed to living openly and honestly. Bev discovered later in life that monogamy did not fit her either, and that her own nature and attraction to a partner who is sexually free were genuine parts of who she was. That did not mean jealousy, fear, or insecurity disappeared. Bev talks openly about learning to sit with those feelings, care for herself, and eventually become more comfortable in her own skin, while Michael describes learning how to give those feelings room without abandoning who he is. Their story is not a formula for everyone. It is a clear example of two very different people whose differences fit.