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Hey, thanks for being a part of the conversation. Let's
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do some podcrashing. Episode number three seventy four is with
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Samuel Donner and John Fry from the podcast Okay, Storytime, Good,
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How are you good? Fantastic? Tell me how this idea
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for this podcast came into being, because so many times
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when you sit down with other podcasters, it comes from
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out of a whim or it's just like, well, I
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was driving down the road and I thought, well, what
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the heck, let's go for it.
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Well, John and I had been on a couple different
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shows together and they had canceled our last show and
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were like, what are we gonna do? And we had
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this idea to give good advice goofly on the relationships
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that matter most. Posted that little clip of us giving
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advice on a listener submitted story, and it got like
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a million views on TikTok, and we've posted a video
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every day since that day in twenty twenty one.
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That's right, Are you shocked by the reaction that people
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are giving you, because I mean, this is the kind
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of stuff that people tap into and they and then
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they take your stories and grow with them.
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Yeah. Yeah, I mean I think initially we were like
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a little surprised.
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Pretty pretty florid.
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I mean, the very first video posting getting like a
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million views was kind of a shock, Arrow, but.
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We just kind of ran with it. I feel like,
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you know, the John Sam team is a pretty strong team,
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and we've just been going through crazy story trying to
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give like the best advice we can. We actually have
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a crazy story to share with you from a recent episode.
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We jump him.
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If you're ready for it, let's go for it man,
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all right, Well, one listener submission was kind of crazy.
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They asked, my husband cheated on me with two women.
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He wants to stay together because he has cancer. Should
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I say, Arrow.
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I've got to ask, what do you say?
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No?
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Way, more to this story, but more contexts. But my
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partner told me when we first got back together that
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he has cancer and his operation doesn't go well, it
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could be terminal. He's currently living with his mom while
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he's in recovery, so that takes the pressure off me
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caring for both him and our baby until he is
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well enough to move into our new home with us.
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So I feel like, you know, they're kind of working
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around some bad news, yeah, trying to make it work well,
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last week he had an attempted breaking. I asked my husband,
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who was supposed to be at his mom's, to come
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over and change the locks, but he wouldn't because again,
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break and you want to make sure you're home safe.
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Then his mom told me he wasn't with her. I
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went to Facebook and it took me less than an
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hour to find the first two women he was cheating
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on me with.
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Now ero, I hope it's a lot. Do you think
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there's more? Do you think there's more under the iceberg
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of insanity here?
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Yes? Yeah, yeah, there's more than two. I you know,
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in my heart, I feel that there's This has been
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going on for a while.
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Yeah.
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Well, we have a segment on Okay Storytime called the
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conspiracy Theory. Do you have a quick conspiracy theory that
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you or an ICU as we call it, you want
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to throw out a quick one for us?
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Codependent? I believe he's codependent and he needs to be
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surrounded by people at all times.
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I think you may be right. I think he may
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be right. Save wandom from arrow. But we got more
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from this listener. So they say one thing my paranoia
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just wouldn't let up about was his cancer and his treatments.
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I asked his mom about it, who told me he
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doesn't have cancer. For me, he was in rehab, not
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the hospital. He suffered from addiction and was trying to
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recover for me and our baby.
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What are you thinking right now?
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Erow, we just got once again. Guys are scumb I mean,
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he's proven it right there. Man, he's giving us all
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a bad name.
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I know, I know, maybe it'll get better, Arrow, I'm
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not hopeful. But the listener goes on to say, I
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never mentioned to him that I knew about cancer. I
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assumed it was the embarrassment of wanting to get clean
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without me knowing, so he could be a good partner
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and dad. I was so proud of him for getting
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that help that I never spoke about the fact that
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I knew he was lying about the cancer.
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I mean, Aaron, do you think that's something that we
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should be proud of right now?
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That he's not proud, well, not proud. But the thing
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about it is that he's not This this relationship is
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not all by itself. I mean, how many families are
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really going through this? This isn't he knew, no.
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No, no, I mean we get stories like this on Okay,
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story time. I mean, ever, all day day it's it's
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so many people are going through this, and I think
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a lot of this stuff, you know, a lot of
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these these relationshipships happened because it's not that you don't
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have clear communication. You have people with low self esteem
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that are willing to accept love that they do not deserve.
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You know, like I think you need to accept love
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that you do deserve, not a bunch of lies being
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fun as love.
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Yeah, because forgiveness is everything, and and you know, when
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you can't forgive anymore, what happens? I mean, Oh my god,
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that that right there, those the towers are coming down.
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Oh yeah, oh yeah, but we got we got more
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to the story.
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There's more. But wait, there's more.
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So with his autoimmune disease, his mom explained how brutal
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it has been for him. Then he did have chemo
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a few years back, so maybe that's why he's confused. Confused,
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you know, it's cheating. Yeah, I don't know what I
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don't know.
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Oh my god. You know what you're proving here, guys,
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you're proving that that that to be in this present
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place of now, there has to be a story beforehand
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and you're bringing that out and so that we can
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all go really and I mean, I mean it's and
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then the then you go, whoa, well, how is he
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going to live happily ever after?
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I don't know if this man will live after, hoping
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the author, I'm hoping the author will put up some
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boundaries and say, I am not going to accept this
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kind of love.
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That's right, learning from the mistakes and you know, self respecting,
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self caring our way to a better life.
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As the author goes on to say, pregnancy brain is
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a real thing. Or maybe I'm just too blindly loved
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because I accepted this and never questioned again. But after
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discovering the first two women, I sent my partner a
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message telling him to let his other girlfriend know I'm
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asking after her and to not bother coming home anymore.
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Oh my goodness, my god, my god, this could be
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a soup opera. You send this into general hospital.
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I mean, Sam kind of looks like George Clooney.
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Movie Nights are coming soon. Yes, but yeah, they're just
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saying she's confused. I mean, I'm glad that she's finally
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putting up some boundaries. This is great, starting to see
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the growth here. Yeah, so she goes on to say,
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I've had the locks changed from the break in so
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he can't get in. When he panicked and started begging
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me to answer the phone and let him see me
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so we could explain everything. He's got a lot to explain.
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You know, you can explain it all away. I started
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to see everything through clear eyes for the first time
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and realized how long he had been gaslighting me, and
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for the first time told him, no, Oh.
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My god, my god, my god. You know you think
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he got it here in the South, that nobody would
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have put up with this. I mean she would have
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had him out or dead by now.
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So crazy thing ar is, Like Sam said on Okay Storytime,
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we get submitted story submitted every single day with people
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in this same scenario where it's so hard for them.
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Break out of the reality. You know, like their reality
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is warped around them by this person that maybe is
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good with words, can like kind of manipulate them into
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a corner, and they often for the first time see
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how that it is when posting the story or getting
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feedback from the show. And so we're kind of trying
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to pull people out of these bad situations. Oh.
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The story continues to grow, don't Move. We've got more
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with Samuel and John coming up next. Hey, welcome back
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to my conversation with Samuel and John from the podcast
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Okay Storytime. You know what I love about what you
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guys are doing with with Okay story is the fact
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that it really does come across as a radio bit.
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But the thing about radio is we only have so
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many minutes to put this thing together, where with you guys,
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we're getting the full story, We're getting the full experience.
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I would love to see how people are reacting to
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what you guys are doing in the car or at work,
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because I'm sure they're not keeping it to themselves. They're
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sitting there making sounds that are just unbelievably funny.
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Well, you know what's awesome about Okay story Time is
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it's not just a podcast. It's a live show that
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you can watch on iar, you could watch on YouTube.
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We go live every single weekday for like six to
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eight hours. So we get some reactions from our fans,
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and don't worry, they are similar to what we're expressing
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right now.
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Wow. So are you guys going to be on the
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comedy circuit in the way that because the comedy zone
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here in Charlotte allows the podcasters to come in and
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they do their shows from their stage.
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We have thought about doing live shows. It is something
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that we're looking at in the future. But right now
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we got our virtual stage on the live on YouTube
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and then we have this beautiful podcast with iHeart. So
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if any of our listeners are interested, go check out
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Okay Storytime podcasts. Wherever you get your podcasts?
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Where do you how do you prep? Let's go that route.
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Where do you prep? And how do you prep? Because
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I'm a propriate a show prep whoreor I've got to
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be ready to go at all times? How are you
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guys doing this?
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Honestly, I feel like we've at this point going live.
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You know, I don't know the radio world, but in
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the live stream world like we do on the Okay
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Storytime YouTube again, six to eight hours straight sometimes, so
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I think we've just learned. You know, it's seven am
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over here right now.
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I think we just learned to turn this on snap in.
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We channel it through a higher power. It keeps through us.
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But if we have more time, we have more of
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this story.
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Please hear it. But wait, there's even more.
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Basically an our episode on the podcast. There are updates
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upon updates. But realizing he couldn't get through to me
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and now where I was trying to contact his girlfriend,
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he panicked and went to her instead. During that time,
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I found a photo she had shared of the two
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of them and shared it to my profile with the
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caption can someone please ask this woman to contact me?
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She instantly blocked me, but her sister got in touch
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with me instead. Family affair, family affair. Apparently the whole
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family never trusted him and knew something was wrong. The
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affair is serious enough to have met the family. She says.
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He has told her not to speak to me as
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I'm a deranged stalker. He slept with once years ago,
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and I've been hunting him down, trying to convince people
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my baby is his well. I sent her a photo
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of the birth certificate in us in the hospital gather
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to show her sister before he can lie to her anymore.
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We got the receipts.
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We got the receipts important to carry, the receipts for
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manipulators and gas laguers like this.
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The most critical tool in your arsenal, the arrow in
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the satchel, the paper trail.
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I mean my god, I mean, it's it's all there,
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and then and then to unveil it what there's got
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to be more guys.
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There is So during this also messaging another woman another
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woman again, another woman that is in this cheating Webb
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who is furious at what he has done and is
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helping me with all the information she is aware of.
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She tells me he broke her heart by cheating on
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her without even knowing he was cheating on me too.
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And the author has constructed a cheating time timeline that
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goes years back, and so this is the current timeline.
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So he had chemo and March question mark, and there
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was a nineteen year old rehab in April through July,
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a woman of an appropriate age this time, but also
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cheating on her August to now his twenty year old girlfriend.
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he had to leave while I was in the middle
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of labor. He had to get this cancer medication. While
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she was in the middle of labor, had two failed epidurals.
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rushing in to place extra monitors on our baby in distress,
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cancer medication. Well, leaving to get the cancer medication was
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actually to go sleep with a twenty year old before
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making it back just in time to kiss me before
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I went into emergency surgery.
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So aaro, is this husband of the year material right here?
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Yeah? It is.
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Anyone want this guy? Oh man, oh man. But again
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it just keeps going. So this was Sunday, it is
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now Saturday in the following week, and I made a
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post on Facebook calling out my partner for his actions
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with photographs, medical notes, and evidence, and asking people to
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leave me alone until Tuesday, after forty eight hours of
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no sleep, multiple calls to crisis teams, and a barrage
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of harassment from his friends and family who want to
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sue me for defamation of character.
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Oh my god, they want to sue there.
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Could you imagine arrow? No? No, no, it just keeps
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getting deeper and deeper here. It's almost like a war zone.
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Yeah, And I think at this point the author is like,
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you know, this affects me, but what about all these
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other women?
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But what is there?
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So goes on. I think I think I think, get
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there on the head. If this was a regular affair,
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I lick my wounds and move on. But I have
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now learned I have been leaving my daughter alone with
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an addict who is claiming he doesn't know me or
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his daughter, but demanding custody. Writes to me, Now, tens
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of women. Tens that's what. No, not ten women, tens
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of women I've now pumped forward who have also dated
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him during our relationship, with no idea of me or
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each other. This is obviously really upsetting, But what upsets
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me the most is that I begin to notice a
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very worrying pattern. He has told every single one of
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these women that he has cancer and can't get them pregnant.
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Playing off the emotions. There you go, Okay, the.
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Emotion gas lighting with nuclear fuel. The flame is engulfing
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cities at this point.
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Yeah, this guy's dangerous.
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Yeah, he's like, I can't get you pregnant. I'm only
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with you no protection. I think that's how this baby
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ended up in the mix. Man is the the worst.
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heart to go back to the original woman, you know,
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keep coming back.
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I think he just wants to have as many options
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as possible. I'm curious. He went back to our author initially,
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but then as soon as she shut him down, he
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was like, onto the next.
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One, Who's who's available.
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I think that's all he's doing. That's all he's doing.
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So Arthur says, I said, my labor and delivery was difficult.
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I was induced to an infection I had. My GP
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told me I had an SDI, and though I understood
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and took the treatment and was induced by madly loved
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pregnancy brain, ever accepted it was an SDI until I
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went back this week and checked my hospital discharge notes
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and it was in big bold letters sensitive Partner SDI.
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So the hospital knew where.
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Else would I would I have come from?
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From walking around the hospital. You know you can pick
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up things on the floor. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, No,
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it's not how it works.
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and can't get the pregnant so they don't need protection,
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which led to an STI which almost killed me and
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his daughter in labor. And he wasn't even there to
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be with us because also he has cancer.
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What was his dude's career? Was he in radio?
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I don't know? Sting up a story, up the story
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and also the time management. I mean one thing he
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can do is advantaged time. Yeah, that secret. Everything else
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let's let's get rid of. But that secret we can
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learn from.
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Wow, where can people go to find out more about
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what you guys are doing? Because this is brilliant, this,
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this is emotional, This is drama.
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Oh yeah, yeah, this is drama. But also again we
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try to give good advice, goofully on some of these
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really dramatic places and really let people end up just
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so we can like increase people's self esteem and also
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make our pew people communicate early and often. But yeah,
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if you want to find us, you can go to
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the Okay Storytime podcast.
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Yeah, we're on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts wherever you
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listen to your podcast Okay story On podcast. We're there
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for you, guys.
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We're gonna try to help you out.
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Yeah, navigate life and all it's crazy.
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I love it.
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Well, please come back to this show anytime to share
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more stories.
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We would love to errow. That would be awesome.
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We appreciate Will you guys be brilliant today. Okay, we'll
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do him here.
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Hey, thanks for being a part of the conversation. Let's
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do some podcrashing. Episode number three seventy four is with
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Samuel Donner and John Fry from the podcast Okay, Storytime, Good,
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How are you good? Fantastic? Tell me how this idea
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for this podcast came into being, because so many times
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when you sit down with other podcasters, it comes from
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out of a whim or it's just like, well, I
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was driving down the road and I thought, well, what
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the heck, let's go for it.
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Well, John and I had been on a couple different
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shows together and they had canceled our last show and
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were like, what are we gonna do? And we had
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this idea to give good advice goofly on the relationships
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that matter most. Posted that little clip of us giving
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advice on a listener submitted story, and it got like
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a million views on TikTok, and we've posted a video
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every day since that day in twenty twenty one.
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That's right, Are you shocked by the reaction that people
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are giving you, because I mean, this is the kind
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of stuff that people tap into and they and then
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they take your stories and grow with them.
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Yeah. Yeah, I mean I think initially we were like
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a little surprised.
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Pretty pretty florid.
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I mean, the very first video posting getting like a
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million views was kind of a shock, Arrow, but.
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We just kind of ran with it. I feel like,
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you know, the John Sam team is a pretty strong team,
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and we've just been going through crazy story trying to
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give like the best advice we can. We actually have
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a crazy story to share with you from a recent episode.
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We jump him.
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If you're ready for it, let's go for it man,
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all right, Well, one listener submission was kind of crazy.
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They asked, my husband cheated on me with two women.
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He wants to stay together because he has cancer. Should
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I say, Arrow.
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I've got to ask, what do you say?
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No?
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Way, more to this story, but more contexts. But my
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partner told me when we first got back together that
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he has cancer and his operation doesn't go well, it
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could be terminal. He's currently living with his mom while
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he's in recovery, so that takes the pressure off me
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caring for both him and our baby until he is
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well enough to move into our new home with us.
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So I feel like, you know, they're kind of working
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around some bad news, yeah, trying to make it work well,
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last week he had an attempted breaking. I asked my husband,
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who was supposed to be at his mom's, to come
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over and change the locks, but he wouldn't because again,
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break and you want to make sure you're home safe.
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went to Facebook and it took me less than an
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hour to find the first two women he was cheating
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on me with.
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Now ero, I hope it's a lot. Do you think
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there's more? Do you think there's more under the iceberg
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of insanity here?
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Yes? Yeah, yeah, there's more than two. I you know,
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in my heart, I feel that there's This has been
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going on for a while.
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Well, we have a segment on Okay Storytime called the
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conspiracy Theory. Do you have a quick conspiracy theory that
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you or an ICU as we call it, you want
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to throw out a quick one for us?
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Codependent? I believe he's codependent and he needs to be
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surrounded by people at all times.
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I think you may be right. I think he may
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be right. Save wandom from arrow. But we got more
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from this listener. So they say one thing my paranoia
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just wouldn't let up about was his cancer and his treatments.
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I asked his mom about it, who told me he
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doesn't have cancer. For me, he was in rehab, not
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the hospital. He suffered from addiction and was trying to
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recover for me and our baby.
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What are you thinking right now?
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Erow, we just got once again. Guys are scumb I mean,
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he's proven it right there. Man, he's giving us all
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a bad name.
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I know, I know, maybe it'll get better, Arrow, I'm
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not hopeful. But the listener goes on to say, I
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never mentioned to him that I knew about cancer. I
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assumed it was the embarrassment of wanting to get clean
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without me knowing, so he could be a good partner
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and dad. I was so proud of him for getting
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that help that I never spoke about the fact that
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I knew he was lying about the cancer.
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I mean, Aaron, do you think that's something that we
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should be proud of right now?
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That he's not proud, well, not proud. But the thing
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about it is that he's not This this relationship is
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not all by itself. I mean, how many families are
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really going through this? This isn't he knew, no.
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story time. I mean, ever, all day day it's it's
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so many people are going through this, and I think
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a lot of this stuff, you know, a lot of
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these these relationshipships happened because it's not that you don't
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have clear communication. You have people with low self esteem
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that are willing to accept love that they do not deserve.
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that you do deserve, not a bunch of lies being
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fun as love.
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Yeah, because forgiveness is everything, and and you know, when
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you can't forgive anymore, what happens? I mean, Oh my god,
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that that right there, those the towers are coming down.
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Oh yeah, oh yeah, but we got we got more
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to the story.
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There's more. But wait, there's more.
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So with his autoimmune disease, his mom explained how brutal
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it has been for him. Then he did have chemo
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a few years back, so maybe that's why he's confused. Confused,
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you know, it's cheating. Yeah, I don't know what I
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don't know.
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Oh my god. You know what you're proving here, guys,
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you're proving that that that to be in this present
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place of now, there has to be a story beforehand
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and you're bringing that out and so that we can
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all go really and I mean, I mean it's and
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then the then you go, whoa, well, how is he
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going to live happily ever after?
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I don't know if this man will live after, hoping
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the author, I'm hoping the author will put up some
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boundaries and say, I am not going to accept this
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kind of love.
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That's right, learning from the mistakes and you know, self respecting,
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self caring our way to a better life.
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As the author goes on to say, pregnancy brain is
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a real thing. Or maybe I'm just too blindly loved
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because I accepted this and never questioned again. But after
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discovering the first two women, I sent my partner a
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message telling him to let his other girlfriend know I'm
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asking after her and to not bother coming home anymore.
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Oh my goodness, my god, my god, this could be
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a soup opera. You send this into general hospital.
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saying she's confused. I mean, I'm glad that she's finally
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the growth here. Yeah, so she goes on to say,
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he can't get in. When he panicked and started begging
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me to answer the phone and let him see me
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My god, my god, my god. You know you think
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he got it here in the South, that nobody would
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feedback from the show. And so we're kind of trying
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to pull people out of these bad situations. Oh.
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with Samuel and John coming up next. Hey, welcome back
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to my conversation with Samuel and John from the podcast
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Okay Storytime. You know what I love about what you
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guys are doing with with Okay story is the fact
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that it really does come across as a radio bit.
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we're getting the full story, We're getting the full experience.
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what you guys are doing in the car or at work,
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comedy circuit in the way that because the comedy zone
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Where do you prep? And how do you prep? Because
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Basically an our episode on the podcast. There are updates
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upon updates. But realizing he couldn't get through to me
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he panicked and went to her instead. During that time,
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I found a photo she had shared of the two
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of them and shared it to my profile with the
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caption can someone please ask this woman to contact me?
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She instantly blocked me, but her sister got in touch
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with me instead. Family affair, family affair. Apparently the whole
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family never trusted him and knew something was wrong. The
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affair is serious enough to have met the family. She says.
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He has told her not to speak to me as
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I'm a deranged stalker. He slept with once years ago,
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and I've been hunting him down, trying to convince people
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my baby is his well. I sent her a photo
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of the birth certificate in us in the hospital gather
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to show her sister before he can lie to her anymore.
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We got the receipts.
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We got the receipts important to carry, the receipts for
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manipulators and gas laguers like this.
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The most critical tool in your arsenal, the arrow in
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the satchel, the paper trail.
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I mean my god, I mean, it's it's all there,
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and then and then to unveil it what there's got
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to be more guys.
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woman again, another woman that is in this cheating Webb
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who is furious at what he has done and is
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helping me with all the information she is aware of.
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her without even knowing he was cheating on me too.
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And the author has constructed a cheating time timeline that
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goes years back, and so this is the current timeline.
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So he had chemo and March question mark, and there
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was a nineteen year old rehab in April through July,
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a woman of an appropriate age this time, but also
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cheating on her August to now his twenty year old girlfriend.
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he had to leave while I was in the middle
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of labor. He had to get this cancer medication. While
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she was in the middle of labor, had two failed epidurals.
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rushing in to place extra monitors on our baby in distress,
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cancer medication. Well, leaving to get the cancer medication was
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actually to go sleep with a twenty year old before
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making it back just in time to kiss me before
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I went into emergency surgery.
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Anyone want this guy? Oh man, oh man. But again
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it just keeps going. So this was Sunday, it is
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now Saturday in the following week, and I made a
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post on Facebook calling out my partner for his actions
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with photographs, medical notes, and evidence, and asking people to
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leave me alone until Tuesday, after forty eight hours of
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no sleep, multiple calls to crisis teams, and a barrage
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of harassment from his friends and family who want to
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sue me for defamation of character.
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Oh my god, they want to sue there.
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Could you imagine arrow? No? No, no, it just keeps
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getting deeper and deeper here. It's almost like a war zone.
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you know, this affects me, but what about all these
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other women?
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So goes on. I think I think I think, get
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there on the head. If this was a regular affair,
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I lick my wounds and move on. But I have
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now learned I have been leaving my daughter alone with
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an addict who is claiming he doesn't know me or
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his daughter, but demanding custody. Writes to me, Now, tens
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of women. Tens that's what. No, not ten women, tens
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of women I've now pumped forward who have also dated
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him during our relationship, with no idea of me or
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each other. This is obviously really upsetting, But what upsets
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me the most is that I begin to notice a
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very worrying pattern. He has told every single one of
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these women that he has cancer and can't get them pregnant.
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Playing off the emotions. There you go, Okay, the.
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Emotion gas lighting with nuclear fuel. The flame is engulfing
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cities at this point.
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Yeah, this guy's dangerous.
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with you no protection. I think that's how this baby
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ended up in the mix. Man is the the worst.
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you know, he had to have felt something inside his
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heart to go back to the original woman, you know,
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keep coming back.
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I think he just wants to have as many options
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as possible. I'm curious. He went back to our author initially,
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but then as soon as she shut him down, he
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was like, onto the next.
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One, Who's who's available.
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I think that's all he's doing. That's all he's doing.
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So Arthur says, I said, my labor and delivery was difficult.
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I was induced to an infection I had. My GP
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told me I had an SDI, and though I understood
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and took the treatment and was induced by madly loved
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pregnancy brain, ever accepted it was an SDI until I
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went back this week and checked my hospital discharge notes
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and it was in big bold letters sensitive Partner SDI.
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So the hospital knew where.
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Else would I would I have come from?
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From walking around the hospital. You know you can pick
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up things on the floor. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, No,
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it's not how it works.
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and can't get the pregnant so they don't need protection,
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which led to an STI which almost killed me and
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his daughter in labor. And he wasn't even there to
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be with us because also he has cancer.
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What was his dude's career? Was he in radio?
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I don't know? Sting up a story, up the story
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and also the time management. I mean one thing he
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can do is advantaged time. Yeah, that secret. Everything else
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let's let's get rid of. But that secret we can
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learn from.
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Wow, where can people go to find out more about
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what you guys are doing? Because this is brilliant, this,
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this is emotional, This is drama.
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Oh yeah, yeah, this is drama. But also again we
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try to give good advice, goofully on some of these
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really dramatic places and really let people end up just
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so we can like increase people's self esteem and also
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make our pew people communicate early and often. But yeah,
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if you want to find us, you can go to
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the Okay Storytime podcast.
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Yeah, we're on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts wherever you
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listen to your podcast Okay story On podcast. We're there
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for you, guys.
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We're gonna try to help you out.
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Yeah, navigate life and all it's crazy.
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I love it.
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Well, please come back to this show anytime to share
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more stories.
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We would love to errow. That would be awesome.
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We appreciate Will you guys be brilliant today. Okay, we'll
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