Regular Good Stuff about race FOMO, 1st birthday party etiquette & prioritizing family

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Hello, welcome back to regular good stuff.
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Um, it's back.
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I'm Iz.
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And I'm Joe, and we're doing another naptime hustle.
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We are doing another naptime hustle.
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This is quite exciting.
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We need to stop doing these uh watching the the naptime heavy breathing while watching our baby sleeping.
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She's very asleep.
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You also had a little nap with her prior.
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I had to put her down.
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It's one of those where if I sleep, she sleeps better.
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Yeah, it's a must.
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Is that how that works?
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I think so.
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I'm like on the trainer watching you guys just like snoozing.
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I was like, yes, it's going well.
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All Instagram has been feeding me is before baby monitors, parents slept with their baby.
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Like, oh, I know, I must.
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And then we don't do that.
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We don't do that.
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Because I didn't like it.
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Not by your choice.
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We did try.
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We did.
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We did.
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Anything, anything to make a baby sleep better, we we will try.
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I think I said that pretty early on, where you're like, before you become a parent, you're like, oh, we're gonna do this and this, and you have this perfect idea of everything that you're gonna do as a parent, and they're gonna sleep perfectly swaddled in their own bed, or you guys are gonna co-sleep and it's gonna be the the coziest, greatest thing in the world.
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Um and we realize pretty quickly like that we don't have judgment for other parents because you're just trying to survive.
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Like anything, anything to make it work.
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Yeah.
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Anything to feed your baby, anything to make them sleep safely, like, or sleep, maybe.
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Which is funny because before we had our own small child, I was very judgy.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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You're like, you're not this isn't how you should do this.
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Exactly.
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And then after having a baby, you're just trying to make it through the day.
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Totally.
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Anything to get to the next sunrise.
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And I think now I'm trying to kind of push us forward to like letting her get her to fall asleep on her own, fall asleep in her crib, things like that.
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Cause I think at this point we're having wake-ups because she wakes up and she's like, What the hell?
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I fell asleep next to my mom or dad on the floor and now I'm in my crib.
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Like, come back.
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Um and so I've been trying to get her to fall asleep in her own, which from what I read is like kind of the right thing to do, but I don't really understand it's happened about twice, and I'm like, yeah.
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And honestly, she still woke up one of the time, so it wasn't a full birth plan.
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Um, but it is one of those where we're getting she's 13, 13 months.
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Joe and I were talking about.
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I will claim that she's 13 months until she the day that she is 14 months.
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And I've kind of done that since the beginning.
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You have.
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You started rounding up, and I was like, she's not three months, she's two months and three and a half weeks.
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I think at the beginning it was hanging on to our baby.
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Yeah.
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And now I think you just want credit for an almost 14-month-old to be a 13-month-old.
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Just crashing it, wrapping up.
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Wow.
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She's so good.
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She's so developed.
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She's got it basically an extra month in there.
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Which is big when they're little.
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It's yeah.
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Like an extra week is big.
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Yeah, I agree with that.
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So it is, yeah, that's a funny reality of our 13-month-up.
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You could even wrap down more.
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She's just over 12 months.
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Well, I think I like to say, like, oh, just over a year.
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Just over a year.
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They can interpret whatever that means.
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She's reading and doing algebra just over a year.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Yeah.
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I'm also just over a year.
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Barely.
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You're very young.
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I'm just over no, that's weird to say, but I'm just over like 30.
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This is something that I still don't understand.
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So I was born one year before you.
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Yeah, this is a weird math equation.
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Weirdly, I graduated from college like 10 years before you, and I don't understand how it happened.
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But you were very accomplished and smart.
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You graduated early.
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I think this was like a when you were born thing.
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Like I think it's in the calendar year.
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Yeah, you were young for your age.
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I was old for my grade.
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If anybody can help us understand like where the line is in the middle of the year, if I'm born in July and Is is born later in the year.
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Much later.
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Scorpio.
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How does this happen?
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Yeah.
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Somehow Joe and I graduated.
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We're a year apart.
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You're born in 89, I was born in 90.
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Right.
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But we graduated three or four years apart, which is crazy.
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It's very confusing.
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So you've had much more work experience than I have.
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So today is little sugar.
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Today's little sugar, yeah.
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In Arkansas.
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In Arkansas, which is a fun one.
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Um I've never actually done it.
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I feel like it was added, it was added to the Grand Prix after um I did the Grand Prix.
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Which honestly, from what I've seen of that course, thank God.
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Um, I think the the hardest, the hardest thing about having the top-of-the-line mountain bike and the best possible equipment is that like when you crash, you're like, man, that was just my fault.
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Where are my excuses?
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There's not a thing that I can blame it on except for my own personal skills.
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So I feel like little sugar would be a lot of my own issues.
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That's fair.
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Um, and I think I was talking to Hannah Shell um a few days before the race, and she had pre-wrote it, and she was like, it's a lot more technical than last year.
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And I was like, great, it's getting further and further out of my out of my reach.
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So it is one of those I definitely I have FOMO because I think it's it's fun when everyone's there and everyone's doing their like from the sidelines, you only see the social media side of it.
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So you see everyone posting and pre-writing and doing all their, you know, pre-race media and things like that.
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And I do love that part, the lead up and when you feel like you've prepared for a race.
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Um and so today, um, yeah, it's interesting to watch them race and kind of be home.
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And and I think this one feels a little bit less FOMO-y because I don't think I would have done this race if we didn't have a kid and I was fully ready.
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I think it it is still a little bit too technical for me.
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Everyone always calls it like the real mountain bike race in the Grand Prix.
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Um, but it will be curious next weekend is Little Sugar, and that one is one that I really, really do like.
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I think the energy around that race is really fun.
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It's usually the last race of the year for everyone.
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So there's a kind of a relief that everyone has that they've made it.
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Um, and there's also an interesting stress of like it's always in the middle of contract season, so there's like an extra stressor around kind of prove your last chance to like prove that you're valuable.
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And I think with that, and knowing that I'm also going into contract season, not being, I made the choice to not be there this year.
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And it is one of those I know that I will have extra anxiety about that.
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And in the end of the day, it does like one day give or you know, change whether or not something happens, maybe, but you hope that like your whole year is also building and showing value as well.
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It's funny when you talk about these races that are technical and they scare you.
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Yeah, and it's it's funny, that's kind of been your mantra, is like, oh, I don't have any skill.
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But you have never had a real mechanical in any of these races.
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Yeah.
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Which is funny because I would argue that I'm a little bit better on a mountain bike.
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And every time every time I do one of these races with you, I like mechanical out of these things.
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Yeah, it's fair.
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Like it's so you clearly have the skills that I don't have.
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Fair.
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I think it is one of those on one side again, go like this year at Unbound, it was muddy and it was crazy, and everyone I had a like a little bit of issue with like getting mud stuck, and I had to stop and clear my tires a few times, but people were having like couldn't have their chain on, like using all of their water to clean their chain, everything like that.
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And like I, after the first mud section, it was kind of two ones and twos, and we were all broken up, and like every rider that caught me was so angry, and they had like blah blah blah to whine all about their bike being broken.
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And I was like, man, I can't relate at all.
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My bike has been flawless.
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It's again, this is a me issue.
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This is my legs, my legs are pretty me.
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The chain of my legs are not staying on right now.
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That's very funny.
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It was one of those that I was like, oh man, like everyone, it was nice because some like really fast people passed me, and then I could get on that wheel.
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But it was one of those that you were like, Oh, yeah, you had tell me about your four flats that you fix, and now you're riding with me.
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But it's been it has been a very strange run of like it's been five, five years of unbound specifically, that you've never had a mechanical.
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Six if you count the year that I did a fifty.
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So I've done unbound.
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Obviously.
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Obviously, yeah.
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I won the 50.
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Which is funny because when you crossed the finish line, it didn't say you had won.
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True.
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And we had to go get all huffy and puffy with uh the return.
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And text Christy and be like, Christy, I think I won.
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Somehow they're still saying some other woman like who wasn't in front of me, like didn't cross any checkpoints and finished in like half the time.
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Uh so it said that she had gone like 30 miles an hour and was ripping it, but I think she just turned around at the 25 point.
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Your mom and I were uh sleuthen it.
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You were you were mad in two ways.
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First, you were mad because I had promised that I was not gonna go fast.
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I was mad for context in this 50 mile race.
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I was seven months pregnant.
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Very pregnant.
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And I was like, I'm just gonna do the 50 because it will be chill.
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I get to do a bike ride, I get to be see all the pros go off, I'll come back, do my race, and then get to see everyone finish, which I did get to do.
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Yeah.
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Uh-huh.
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And I had promised you, I was like, hey, I'm gonna go super slow.
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I'm just going out for a bike ride.
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And like we were leaving town, and there's like two turns, and then you get out to the roads.
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And like on the second or the first turn, someone like touched wheels and was like, and I was like, I just don't like that feeling in the pack.
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And I was like, okay, I'm clearly too far back.
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Like people are nervous in the bunch.
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And so I got further up, and then I remember like people kind of started to gas it, and I was like, oh, okay, like I was still in pretty good shape again, as we've talked about.
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I rode as much as I wanted to when I was pregnant.
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And uh I look, I remember looking around, and I was in this group of like 20 men, and we were all strung out, and I was like, I'm the only woman.
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Like, uh-oh, I might win this if I keep this going.
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But it is an interesting, even then, you're like, great, I'm in this group.
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Um, and I remember we stayed with that group and everyone was actually working pretty well together.
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Um, and we got to this one technical section, which I knew was gonna be the one minimum maintenance road, and it was really rocky.
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And I just got off my bike.
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Like, I was like, here you go, I'm just gonna walk.
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I like walk down.
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There's like the photographers at the bottom, ready for like the crash photos through the water, and I just kind of like walked through and then rode the rest.
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And it was funny to see everyone like through all the water.
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Um, and from there I just kind of rode my own pace and um kept I had enough of a gap and was strong enough to ride my own pace and end up coming to the finish line.
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And you were texting me being like, I think you're in first, and I've and then you were like, wait, someone else is feeding you, and I can like see them popping up in my garment.
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And the funniest is you were doing feeds for other friends that were doing the hundred and the two hundred.
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Yeah.
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So you were like, I'm gonna miss the finish line.
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And I I did I did.
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Yeah.
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I missed the bigger one.
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And I was like, I think it's the only time that I've actually ever won a bike race, and I was like, don't miss it because I was seven months pregnant and I promised that I wasn't racing.
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You won many bike races, just the first, the only like uh gravel, big gravel race.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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Um that was funny.
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So my joke was that I had to be seven months pregnant to like actually win a gravel race.
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So besides being more conservative on the bike, like hop off the bike, pick your way through the rocks.
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Yeah.
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How have you not had any major mechanicals for six?
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Fair.
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Yeah.
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So six undone.
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So I've done luck is part of it.
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Luck is definitely part of it.
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I've done a thousand and fifty miles of Flint Hills.
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Luck.
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Yeah.
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It would not.
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So I think the first time it did it, I was like, I had never ridden that far.
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I brought chain breaker.
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I brought the all the tools.
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I had four tubes.
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I was like not even sure that I could change a tubeless tire and get a tube in, but I had all the stuff.
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I want to see you break a chain.
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We were practicing, do you remember?
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Ride a fixed gear.
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Truly, no idea, but I like we practiced how to do it.
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And I was like, not really sure if I know how to like get the chain back through the correct cogs and things like that.
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But like I did know how to do it.
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Yeah.
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And I figured if that was the case, like you're not going fast.
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Someone else can stop and help me.
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But uh yeah, so I've done five 200 miles and one fifty mile and never knock on wood, never had a flat or mechanical.
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I don't think anybody else.
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Which is, I think, my proudest stat.
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Yeah.
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Um that's amazing.
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But again, bummer because a lot of other people have beaten me and have had far worse.
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So but it would it would have been much worse if you we always joke.
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We have a friend in New York who will remain nameless.
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But we love you.
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We love this guy.
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He comes to Unbound, he's come to Unbound.
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Twice or three times.
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Yeah, maybe.
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It's spectacular.
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This this poor guy.
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He's a he's a sicko athlete.
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We will put that out there.
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Amazing.
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Absolute savage of an athlete, very good triathlete, very good bike racer.
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Goes to Unbound and gets eaten alive.
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This bike, he has a hundred mechanicals, and it's it's amazing.
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There was one year where he was taking a selfie of himself, cleaning his whole bike in a river underwater.
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And you're like, I don't think you should be doing that.
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I don't think your entire water bike should be like bubbling underwater.
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You can clean it, maybe like dunk it for a second.
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But I do, I do like it's a Chad and Freud piece.
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Yeah, we love when he gets eating.
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When he he does, he does get and the funniest part is that like you you have been his um aid station person before.
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And I think twice you've had to be like, hey, I'm just leaving your stuff underneath this tent because like I gotta go because it's gonna finish.
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Or I have to like meet him on another part of the course because I have to go.
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So I'm like pulling over on the side of the road.
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I'm like, your stuff is right.
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So but yeah, he's uh sworn he's never going back.
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But it is one of the still thinks that we're his friends, and we are still his friends.
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We are his friends.
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Um and uh yeah, no, he's a psycho athlete and it's funny.
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It's fun when other other people have really bad luck and you don't.
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And I just I'm trying to understand how why.
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I think, especially this year, my goals going into this year for Unbound were don't flat, don't crash, get back to my baby and my husband safely.
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Um and I think so when the rain opened up and kind of changed the entire conditions, you're like not ideal to ride 140 miles of a 200-mile course by yourself, but with that, I can pick my lines.
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I can like slow down when you're going through crazy rocky sections.
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I think like some really good advice that I got the first year before I did it was like, if it ever looks sketchy, get off your seat.
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You're tired, you don't want to, you want to just sit there and ride through it.
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But if you can hover a little bit, your your legs will act like shocks and you can kind of hit rocks less hard, basically.
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So that's something that I've focused on where you're like, even when you're tired, like if you go through river crossing, any rocky section descents, you have to be standing because you have to be able to like the moment that you're gonna flat is your entire body weight is on your saddle and you hit something so hard, and then you just hear the rim and you're like, no.
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But also shout out to like the tires that I've used and the orange sealed, and I'm sure they're working overhead as well.
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Um, but it is interesting.
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The first two years that I did unbound my bike clearance could fit 38.
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It's the widest tires that they could fit.
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And now I maxed out I ran a 54 in the front and a 50 in the back.
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Like so what is a mountain bike tire?
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Like 2.2, it's pretty close.
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Is that a 50?
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I forget.
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54 is pretty close.
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But it's not a technical podcast.
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We're focused on the other stuff.
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It's not in my repertoire.
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Um, but it is, it's just crazy the amount like now people, if you lined up with 38s on your on your tires, people would be like, Are you absolutely insane?
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I think the bigger tires matter more when you're in the group because you don't have the ability to pick your line.
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And there are times, especially when it's raining, you're like, I can't see anything.
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I'm getting mud completely just like in your face.
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And you're like, I just have to trust that the person in front of me is picking a good line and stay off your seat and hopefully kind of use extra shocks in your legs.
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Um so let's talk about contract renegotiation or negotiations.
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This is the time of the year where everybody is trying to either re-sign their existing sponsors or find new sponsors.
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And I don't experience this in my world where every year you have to find you have to basically find your money for the next year.
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Yeah.
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And how have you dealt with this?
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You've been really successful with it.
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You've been able to find better sponsors, you've increased your contract, you've done more with existing sponsors.
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How has your mentality really changed over the last six years to where it is today?
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Yeah, I think it's an interesting point.
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I think before most other like salary non-contract W2 jobs, like you don't go into the end of the year every year being like, Hope I have a job again next year.
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Like, I think that would be incredibly stressful for you.
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I think like your job operates under like, unless you make a big mistake, like everything kind of remains status quo, and hopefully you continue to grow and you you strive to be better at your job in order to grow, not to stay.
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Whereas I think with contracts, it's different in that you, whether your contract is a year or two, like, or hopefully longer, but that's come most of mine are usually that length.
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And so every year or two, you're like, okay, how have I been valuable to this brand?
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And do they want to continue with me?
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And what does that look like going forward?
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And I think it's an interesting, I feel incredibly fortunate to have found brands that are so enjoyable to work with, and we have a really good understanding, and like they understand that I will represent their brand as authentically and genuinely as much as I can.
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And so I feel incredibly lucky to be in a position that I'm like, I would hopefully like to stay with all the brands that I work with because they've been great.
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And so it's one of those that you go into these, and I always get nervous because you're like, what if like the value that I provide isn't being seen as much?
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And I think my story in the last two years has changed and it's gone.
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Not that I think I've realized they were never necessarily with me for the uh incredible athletic prowess.
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They were but it was also like the storytelling side of it.
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And so I've leaned more into the storytelling side of it.
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So I think on a certain level, sometimes you're gonna be at the whim.
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All of these brands have US um based like arms, but I think a lot of them are international, kind of like led by an international company.
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Cycling is a global sport, it's more popular in Europe than it is in the US.
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That checks out.
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So I think a lot that we're seeing is like sometimes you can really be a good fit for the local one, like, and you have a really good residence with the local brand, but someone over the top says, like, our new, um, I think the biggest change always for me is like if our if the brand's new strategy is like we want podium athletes, we want to go after athletes that are gonna be on the podium and use our product and stand on the podium with our logo on there, like that's not necessarily me.
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And I understand that.
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Like, I don't feel offended if that's where a company wants to go.
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Um and then also I think generally we've seen even the last like three, four years, like after COVID, there was a lot more money floating around in the bike world.
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Just they'd all every company had sold a million bikes and and everything and was looking really good.
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And now I think we're seeing more of a shift.
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I think the running world is having like a little bit of a moment.
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Um, and that's fun.
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And so I think even the last like three, four years, companies all are like budgets, budgets, budgets.
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So it really is like within gravel, we're exploding, but still you have to fight for your own piece of whatever pie that there is.
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But I've always thought, and this is just a personal comment.
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When I and I am influenciable thinking when I when I am looking to buy I'll use running shoes as an example.
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When I'm looking to buy the shoes that I want to use to run fast, it's fine.
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I'll I'll look at people who are relatable and make content that I can identify with.
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As an example, uh there are these uh runners in Utah, uh Clayton Young, Connor Mans, who make really fun YouTube content.
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And those guys run, they run in like ASICs and Brooks and Nike.
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And it's funny because a lot of these African guys who are winning these marathons don't necessarily run in those shoes.
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They'll run in Adidas or something.
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And I would rather reward a brand who supports somebody who tells a story who's more relatable, who has more of a I guess it makes me feel like I'm a little bit more like these guys rather than somebody churning out the miles, focusing.
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Focusing on eating chicken and rice and sleeping and never having a little bit of a personality.
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And I kind of put you in that camp where you say, I think a lot of people would rather look to you as opposed to this robot who's trying to pedal the bike and you know eat and sleep and maximize their performance.
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Because life is not that.
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Life is hard, life is confusing, life is complicated.
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And to identify with somebody who's going through that, I think is more valuable.
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Yeah, I agree with that.
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I think the the counterpoint to that or or point that I would make is like, I don't think, besides the fact that we have this incredible podcast that so many people listen to, Clayton doesn't know that you bought shoes because of him.
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Or Clayton sponsors don't know.
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So it's one of those that like they can't, he can't directly say this many shoes were sold because of me unless he's doing uh a code that you then use to bubble connect back to him.
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And so I think that part brands want to monetize things even more.
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So I think you watching his YouTube video does like it adds a view, and that then like adds his algorithm in terms of like the reach that he's had.
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But it is an interesting, I think brands are leaning more towards like all of the measurable stuff, and I understand ROI.
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Like I really enjoy that side of the business where you're like, you're trying to prove, but there is a lot of intangibles for me.
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You're like, how do you prove the value of me talking to everyone at the expo or sending out trading cards or doing like little extra stuff that I really enjoy that isn't necessarily a viral reel or something like that?
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Um so I think that it's it's all like part of it.
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And I think the reason originally that I have a job is because of the storytelling, which is really nice.
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And so I'm I'm thankful that I've been able to kind of lean into that in the last few years as well.
00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:55.839
Aaron Powell The other piece you've been successful with sponsors, but you've also changed some sponsors over the last uh few years.
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And and some of those sponsor changes weren't your decision, but I have observed, and you tell me if this is right.
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Is the new sponsors have been a massive improvement on the prior sponsors.
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And I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that you were just you throughout this process.
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You weren't trying to change yourself to keep one brand or another.
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You just said, this is who I am, this is what I really love to do.
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And then if you'd like to sponsor me and be a part of this, I'd love to have you on board.
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And I think that that mentality has really helped with the people that you now work with.
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I agree.
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I absolutely agree with that.
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I think it then also on the other side of it adds the personal element that you're like, if my brand is my own self, when someone doesn't want to work with you, you're like, oh man, like they literally like just don't like me.
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And that part is brutal.
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And again, like there's always a business side of it, and you shouldn't take it as personally, but I will inevitably, like, whenever something doesn't work out, like I take it personally and it and it feels really bad.
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Um, and even though like it has and it will work out in the way that it's supposed to, um, I have to kind of like take a moment to be sad for a while.
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Um, just because it is when you build a brand around your own self, every time someone tells you that they no longer want to move forward, you're like, that's just like you just don't feel like working with me.
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Um which isn't true.
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Which is not true.
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Totally, but that's what how it feels.
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And so I think it's interesting to go back to um big sugar is next weekend.
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And um, I had a decision that I had to make.
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Um, my cousin's wedding is next weekend, and it's the same day as big sugar, and I even was like, could I do the race and then get to somehow get to Chicago?
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Like the answer is no.
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Um, but I think for me, like our wedding was the first time that like my family had done anything happy or celebratory since my dad passed.
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Um, and my cousin who was getting married, um came to our wedding um a month after my uncle or her dad passed.
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Um I think even though I've said this a lot, like it really meant a lot that everyone that showed up for us was there.
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Um and so I think it's one of those that I struggled with it a lot, and you were like, these some of these things like they're more important than going to do another race.
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Um, and even though that this one was a really important one, like it matters to me that I will be there for my cousin.
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Um so I think your cousin, Lil, is gonna be more important in your life over the next 50 years than some bike sponsor, basically.
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And I think it was one of those we just had um the anniversary of my dad passing was five years, and we all went to Tahoe, and it was really nice.
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We had 28 of my family members all together and cousins and their kids and things like that.
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And it was really amazing that everyone got to be like, I'll see you in three weeks.
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And so I think since my wedding, we hadn't all been together um in like a happy and joyous time.
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Um, and then we were all together, obviously, for this.
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And it was happy and joy, it was celebratory and also storytelling and like just being together and missing him.
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Um, and then I think this wedding is a good example of like we've had kind of stark reminders that life is short.
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Um and so I think like for me, it's really important to show up for family.
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And celebrate the good stuff.
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Yeah, right.
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I think that there have been a lot of good things that have happened in the last five years.
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Like just to look at our little I little girl.
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Like th there have been babies born, people have gotten married.
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Like it it is it is a reminder that there are good things in the world in the light of bad things as well.
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And and so, you know, focus on focus on the good stuff while you can.
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Yeah, I agree with that.
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And I think it's one of those after my dad passed, it was like every kind of good event will always have like a kind of sad asterisk, if that makes sense.
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Um but I think being able to like let yourself also um like feel the joy of those good events is really important.
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So um despite crying right now, I am hopeful that we'll go to the wedding.
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And I think um I'm excited, even though my back has been hurting.
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The reason also that I've been trying to get it better is that she and I um hopefully we'll do a run that morning, um, which is a good, like, I think weddings are funny.
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You and I realized you have everyone that you love in the same room and you get to see each person for like 30 seconds.
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And so on one side, you're like, it does matter to show up, but also there isn't that much quality time with the bride and groom.
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And so I'm excited.
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Hopefully, Lil and I will get to go for a little run that morning because um I think that like in itself has always been something that we shared and something that like I w would go on runs with her dad and things like that.
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And so I'm excited to do that.
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That's great.
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Yeah.
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So uh to pivot to talk about something else.
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Uh even though I'm having a stuff.
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How's my back?
00:29:53.039 --> 00:29:53.759
We're not talking about me.
00:29:53.759 --> 00:29:54.640
No, no, no.
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Can we talk about you for a second?
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So yesterday we had another one-year-old birthday party.
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Neither.
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Have we gone?
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I feel like we have to do that.
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I feel like all we do is go to children's birthday party.
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Like this is this is who our friends are.
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This is my life.
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Next year it's gonna be all two-year-old birthday, which is it's great.
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I'm very happy about this.
00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:21.759
Um so yesterday, your friend I love this story.
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Yesterday, your friend came down to see us before we all went to go to his birthday party because it's your mutual friends.
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And your friend walks in, and and you have been nervous about getting a present for a one-year-old baby.
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Because I didn't feel like we needed presents for Hazel's birthday.
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We said no presents, but people brought them anyway.
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And I was like, Please don't give me anything.
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Totally.
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I don't feel like we need to go get this little boy a present because like I'm sure he has nine gagrillion toys.
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Like, you know what I need less of in my life?
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Presents for my one-year-old baby.
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Totally.
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So that was my feeling.
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So your friend walks in the house.
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She's like, love a home.
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We haven't seen Shelby in a year and a half.
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Year and a half.
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And it it was early.
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Early in the meetup.
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I don't think she had even closed the door yet.
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You hit her with meaning for the one-year-old's pret birthday, go Shelby.
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Did you bring a present?
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Which I made sense to me.
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Shelby heard that as did you bring a present for me?
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For Hazel.
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Or Hazel.
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Or Hazel.
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Anyone.
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I think Shelby, welcome to our home.
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You've never been here before.
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Did you bring a present?
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Was how I welcome her.
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And I was to her credit, she had.
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She had brought Hazel a present.
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Amazing.
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She was like, oh my gosh, so sorry.
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Yeah, it's in the car.
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And I was like, wait, what?
00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:53.359
I'm gonna kick off every meeting with an old friend like this again.
00:31:53.359 --> 00:31:56.079
I was gonna meet in a bar and truly mortified.
00:31:56.079 --> 00:31:58.480
Mike, have you brought me a present?
00:31:58.799 --> 00:32:00.240
It was so funny.
00:32:00.240 --> 00:32:01.599
She was like, Yeah, I did.
00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:03.599
Oh my god, I'm so sorry I didn't bring it in.
00:32:03.599 --> 00:32:06.000
And I was like, Whoew, that's not what I'm saying.
00:32:06.160 --> 00:32:13.279
It was an amazing both of you felt extraordinarily uncomfortable to observe was the best.
00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:18.480
And she did, to her credit, bring Hazel an incredibly cute present.
00:32:18.480 --> 00:32:20.079
Like peri cloth striped.
00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:22.400
Probably probably should have let off with it too.
00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:23.759
Just this is the best present ever.
00:32:24.400 --> 00:32:26.079
Yes, Shelps, your present was fantastic.
00:32:26.079 --> 00:32:29.519
The fact that I asked you as you were walking into our door if we brought our child a present.
00:32:29.920 --> 00:32:31.039
I will forever give you a channel.
00:32:31.279 --> 00:32:34.000
She also did have a present for the little boy's birthday party version.
00:32:34.319 --> 00:32:35.359
She was much more prepared than we were.
00:32:35.680 --> 00:32:38.000
And I wrapped up a toy that we already had.
00:32:38.000 --> 00:32:40.640
Which we will not be named because it was re easy.
00:32:41.039 --> 00:32:43.519
Unless the people who are listening to this were the same thing.
00:32:43.519 --> 00:32:47.359
Oh, sorry, yeah, for your little boy.
00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:56.799
I ran to the I ran to the store immediately once we got there.
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But a very expensive gift present.
00:33:00.640 --> 00:33:00.960
Yes.
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:04.640
And wrapped it with one singular orange piece of paper.
00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:06.720
Does it have our child's fingerprints on it?
00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:08.480
With love.
00:33:08.799 --> 00:33:09.200
With love.
00:33:09.519 --> 00:33:11.119
Anyway, so that was how our day is.
00:33:17.119 --> 00:33:18.799
Yeah, you're annoying to get get gifts for it.
00:33:18.799 --> 00:33:20.640
But I'm a I'm a just don't give me anything.
00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:23.680
Like if you're gonna give me something, can you take something away?
00:33:23.680 --> 00:33:24.480
That would be great.
00:33:24.480 --> 00:33:25.920
Like a little one-in-one out.
00:33:26.400 --> 00:33:29.279
Your mentality, I think since we met, has been I need less stuff.
00:33:29.279 --> 00:33:30.160
I need less stuff.
00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:35.039
And that's been tough with having a baby because you get a lot of stuff.
00:33:35.440 --> 00:33:37.359
We have accumulated a lot of stuff.
00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:37.920
Yeah.
00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:38.960
Like it's okay.
00:33:39.119 --> 00:33:39.759
It's just everywhere.
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:42.319
Well, that was another thing she walked in, and I was like, I'm really sorry.
00:33:42.319 --> 00:33:44.160
Her house is probably like truly spotless.
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Truly.
00:33:44.559 --> 00:33:47.279
And ours is like actually like a bomb went off.
00:33:47.599 --> 00:33:51.839
You know, our houses for give us some credit.
00:33:51.839 --> 00:33:55.039
For a one one year old who sleeps okay.
00:33:55.279 --> 00:33:55.519
Yeah.
00:33:55.759 --> 00:33:56.559
I feel like we're doing all right.
00:33:56.799 --> 00:33:57.519
Yeah, I agree with that.
00:33:57.519 --> 00:34:00.799
I think it's one of those it's not dirty, it's messy.
00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:02.880
Does that mean it's full disorganized?
00:34:02.880 --> 00:34:03.920
Is it disorganized?
00:34:03.920 --> 00:34:05.839
Yeah, it's honestly I know where everything is.
00:34:05.839 --> 00:34:07.759
It just happened to be like in that corner of the floor.
00:34:08.079 --> 00:34:14.480
We were looking for her fingernail clippers, and I was you know, and it's like it was in this pile.
00:34:14.480 --> 00:34:15.599
Where is it now?
00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:17.199
It's like it was put away.
00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.119
It somebody had put it away in the place where it should be.
00:34:19.119 --> 00:34:20.320
And then it was unfindable.
00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:21.119
It couldn't find it.
00:34:21.119 --> 00:34:21.760
Yeah.
00:34:21.760 --> 00:34:23.920
It's like it should be in the fingernail clipper pile.
00:34:24.559 --> 00:34:29.440
Something my dad always used to say to us is you can only look for so long and then you have to let it find you.
00:34:29.440 --> 00:34:34.400
And we looked long enough to order new fingernail clippers and then found them this morning.
00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:35.199
Yeah, of course.
00:34:35.199 --> 00:34:36.559
It found us this morning.
00:34:36.559 --> 00:34:37.920
In the fingernail place.
00:34:38.239 --> 00:34:39.440
In the area where fingernail clippers.
00:34:39.440 --> 00:34:40.480
Where your fingernail clippers live.
00:34:40.559 --> 00:34:40.800
That's okay.
00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:42.239
So that was our morning.
00:34:42.239 --> 00:34:42.480
Yeah.
00:34:42.960 --> 00:34:43.599
That's all good.
00:34:44.239 --> 00:34:47.360
We didn't get to our our week at all, but Joe had a good week.
00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:48.079
You felt better.
00:34:48.079 --> 00:34:51.360
And then you hurt your back.
00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:56.159
Thank you for taking on putting a little baby to sleep for an entire week.
00:34:56.480 --> 00:34:57.039
No, it's okay.
00:34:57.440 --> 00:34:57.679
Yeah.
00:34:57.679 --> 00:35:01.519
No, I for for me, I overdo it sometimes.
00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:02.639
And that's okay.
00:35:02.639 --> 00:35:03.920
That's okay to do that.
00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:09.519
I think the irony is you hurt your back trying to do exercises to make your back stronger so that it wouldn't hurt.
00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:12.000
It is a it's confusing.
00:35:12.880 --> 00:35:15.840
But you have to, but you have to find the limit.
00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:19.039
So the limit is 19 kettlebell swings, not 20.
00:35:19.360 --> 00:35:20.159
It's so embarrassing.
00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:27.920
I I can't tell people that I got hurt using a kettlebell because it's like it's like I got hurt like folding a paper airplane.
00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:29.280
You're like, how did that happen?
00:35:29.280 --> 00:35:34.000
You got hurt saving a kitten from a burning house.
00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:34.719
Yeah, exactly.
00:35:34.719 --> 00:35:35.119
Yeah.
00:35:35.119 --> 00:35:36.079
Got my back.
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:38.159
Like a lumbar fell on top of it or something.
00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:39.920
A lumbar fell on my lumbar.
00:35:39.920 --> 00:35:42.880
Lum lumbar?
00:35:42.880 --> 00:35:44.079
I don't know.
00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:47.360
A cut tree fell on my lumbar spine.
00:35:47.760 --> 00:35:51.360
What are the um beams that go across the ceiling?
00:35:51.519 --> 00:35:52.159
Uh yeah.
00:35:52.159 --> 00:35:53.280
A beam.
00:35:56.800 --> 00:35:57.599
So we had a rough week.
00:35:57.599 --> 00:35:58.719
So Joe's back's been hurting.
00:35:58.719 --> 00:35:59.679
My back's been kind of hurt.
00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:00.159
We're back.
00:36:00.159 --> 00:36:01.679
But you went for a run today and it was great.
00:36:01.840 --> 00:36:02.960
Went for a run today, it was great.
00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:06.719
Uh and then these next couple weeks is fast and furious into Halloween.
00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:11.280
Which is it's one of those, I think you say thank you for taking our daughter and putting her to sleep.
00:36:11.280 --> 00:36:16.480
But like, I'm also looking at two back-to-back weekends where I'm not gonna be here and you're gonna be solo dolo.
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:18.559
So um so much cool sleeping.
00:36:18.559 --> 00:36:21.039
So you guys are just gonna be asleep together on the floor.
00:36:21.039 --> 00:36:22.159
It's gonna be the best.
00:36:22.400 --> 00:36:23.199
We're gonna have a great time.
00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:25.039
I'm gonna come back and it is funny.
00:36:25.039 --> 00:36:32.480
The first time that I left, you were making fun of me because you were like, you're like hoping that we have a hard time without me.
00:36:32.480 --> 00:36:33.039
What?
00:36:33.039 --> 00:36:34.880
You were like I did not say that.
00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:43.519
And I, to your credit, no, I don't want you to have a bad time, but I do want you to miss me a little bit.
00:36:43.519 --> 00:36:44.800
What?
00:36:47.360 --> 00:36:51.760
Are you saying you want to check the baby motor and just see like an all-out war happening?
00:36:51.760 --> 00:36:52.880
No, no, no, no, no.
00:36:53.039 --> 00:37:00.639
I think when I was leaving for the first time, you were making fun of me because you were kind of hoping, or like you were thinking that I was hoping to have a bad time.
00:37:00.639 --> 00:37:09.039
I think it's Which on one side, I think I sometimes feel guilty because you come home and I'm exhausted, and then you're like, what?
00:37:09.039 --> 00:37:09.920
Our baby's perfect.
00:37:09.920 --> 00:37:11.840
And I'm like, she was really hard today.
00:37:11.840 --> 00:37:20.079
So I like, I don't think there's been a few nap times where you've kind of gotten your butt kicked, and I'm like, I told you I'm not lying.
00:37:21.199 --> 00:37:22.400
But you're perfect.
00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:23.599
I love you, I'll miss you.
00:37:23.599 --> 00:37:25.599
I genuinely hope we have an easy time.
00:37:25.760 --> 00:37:26.159
I do too.
00:37:26.320 --> 00:37:26.719
No, you do.
00:37:26.800 --> 00:37:27.599
I do I do.
00:37:28.159 --> 00:37:28.960
But I do.
00:37:30.400 --> 00:37:31.039
You will.
00:37:31.039 --> 00:37:31.679
She's been great.
00:37:31.679 --> 00:37:34.400
As long as those bowlers stay like out.
00:37:34.400 --> 00:37:35.840
Those are smoking.
00:37:36.320 --> 00:37:37.039
She's been doing that.
00:37:37.039 --> 00:37:40.159
So we're officially going to be the Incredibles.
00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:40.960
Oh, yeah.
00:37:40.960 --> 00:37:42.880
Our costumes are flying through the ether.
00:37:43.360 --> 00:37:51.119
It's coming from Spirit Halloween or there are so many Halloween stores to buy stuff from right now.
00:37:51.119 --> 00:37:52.159
It's it's very nice.
00:37:52.159 --> 00:37:52.880
So many choices.
00:37:52.880 --> 00:37:54.000
So lots of choices.
00:37:54.159 --> 00:37:56.880
So unless they don't fit, and then we'll have to re-wrack and be something else.
00:37:56.880 --> 00:37:59.360
But um, so far, the Incredibles.
00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:01.440
I did not go with the fake muscles.
00:38:01.679 --> 00:38:05.440
So I gotta start you had to start lifting because I didn't get you the padded one.
00:38:05.440 --> 00:38:12.400
But I also, if you had to wear an all-stretchy skirt, there was an option that mine had like a you have to wear an all-stretchy outfit.
00:38:12.400 --> 00:38:14.480
There was an option that mine had like a built-in skirt.
00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:16.320
And I was like, I feel like that's cheating.
00:38:16.320 --> 00:38:18.960
If you have to wear the spandex outfit, I have to wear the full spandex outfit.
00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:19.840
Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:38:19.840 --> 00:38:21.840
So we're all three of us in spandex.
00:38:22.159 --> 00:38:27.760
Which is different than your normal outfit of stretchy clothes all the time.
00:38:28.159 --> 00:38:29.039
These ones are red.
00:38:29.039 --> 00:38:30.000
Normally I wear orange.
00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:32.000
Normally they're black, so it's fine.
00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:33.199
It is.
00:38:33.360 --> 00:38:33.679
Yeah.
00:38:33.679 --> 00:38:41.360
Uh if there are any mid-thirties moms or not even moms out there, what do you wear?
00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:43.599
I don't like I don't have regular clothes.
00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:44.320
And I need to.
00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:45.599
You're talking about during the day.
00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:46.079
Yeah.
00:38:46.079 --> 00:38:49.119
Like non-streak I wear this.
00:38:49.119 --> 00:38:52.800
I wear a t-shirt and shorts because it's so hot.
00:38:52.800 --> 00:38:55.679
But like even when it gets colder, I'll wear stretchy pants.
00:38:55.679 --> 00:38:57.599
But I think that's like very out of fashion now.
00:38:57.679 --> 00:39:02.800
So if people could tell me what uh Somebody please say you like bell bottom jeans.
00:39:03.039 --> 00:39:05.280
I like I don't know, those could be back in.
00:39:05.599 --> 00:39:11.679
Didn't your sister come and make fun of us for not being up to date with the like the white socks?
00:39:12.000 --> 00:39:20.719
Oh yeah, because we were still wearing the low socks, and then I switched and I so I was trying to try to wear the high sock, and then she was like, They're too tied, they're too kind of bunchy.
00:39:20.719 --> 00:39:22.239
They gotta be like bunchy.
00:39:22.239 --> 00:39:23.599
And I was like, We can be bunching.
00:39:23.599 --> 00:39:26.800
Like I already feel like I have cankles and we can't just like it's hard.
00:39:26.800 --> 00:39:28.239
Yes, we need we need help.
00:39:28.239 --> 00:39:28.800
Yeah.
00:39:28.800 --> 00:39:31.119
Um, fashion, fashion advice.
00:39:31.119 --> 00:39:33.440
Welcomed and encouraged uh in this house.
00:39:33.440 --> 00:39:34.239
Joe looks great.
00:39:34.239 --> 00:39:35.679
I still am trying to figure it out.
00:39:37.039 --> 00:39:41.039
Well, so next time we talk, you'll be uh yeah, I don't know.
00:39:41.360 --> 00:39:48.400
We can we'll we'll talk about how your solo weekend went and hopefully it was flawless and hopefully that she slept just right through the night and was great.
00:39:48.400 --> 00:39:50.320
Thank you guys for listening.
00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:51.039
Talk soon.
00:39:51.039 --> 00:39:51.440
Bye.