00:01:35The Lobster And The Shell
00:04:07Naming The Messy Middle
00:04:48When Opportunity Triggers Identity Conflict
00:07:41Why Transformation Feels Lonely
00:08:33Seven Strategies To Bridge The Gap
00:11:15Trust The Process And Next Steps
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The hardest part of change is not the breakthrough, it’s what happens right before it, when the old you stops fitting and the new you still feels strange. We start with a simple story about a lobster outgrowing its shell, then use it to name something most personal growth advice skips: the gap. That in-between season can feel exposed, awkward, and confusing, but it may be the clearest evidence that your life is actually expanding.
We talk candidly about identity shift and why “being authentic” does not always feel familiar. If you’ve ever stepped toward a new opportunity and suddenly felt the urge to pull back, you’re not broken, you’re likely in identity conflict. We connect the dots between mindset, emotional safety, and self-sabotage, and we name the loneliness that can show up when your old conversations, habits, and environments no longer match who you’re becoming.
Then we get practical. We share seven strategies to bridge the gap, including measuring progress by alignment instead of comfort, treating awkwardness as practice, journaling from your future self, refusing to negotiate with limiting thoughts, trusting small evidence of change, creating space for reflection, and staying committed longer than your doubts. If you’re searching for personal transformation, intentional change, mindset coaching, or leadership coaching tools that actually help in real life, this one is built for you.
Subscribe for more episodes, share this with someone who’s in the messy middle, and leave a review if it helps you stay steady while you grow.
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Welcome to Transformative Living Radio, where we explore the power of intentional change for personal growth and fulfillment.
00:00:55.590 --> 00:00:59.829
I'm Andre Flax, your host and certified life and leadership coach.
00:01:00.070 --> 00:01:04.950
Now there's a story about a lobster that became trapped by its own growth.
00:01:05.189 --> 00:01:08.629
Now, on the surface, that sounds strange, doesn't it?
00:01:08.950 --> 00:01:10.469
But here's what happens.
00:01:10.790 --> 00:01:13.909
You see, a lobster shell doesn't grow with it.
00:01:14.230 --> 00:01:19.990
As the lobster grows larger, the shell that once protected it becomes restrictive.
00:01:20.150 --> 00:01:23.590
It becomes uncomfortable, tight, and confining.
00:01:24.069 --> 00:01:29.430
Eventually, the lobster reaches a point where it can no longer remain in the shell.
00:01:29.670 --> 00:01:31.430
But here's the challenge.
00:01:31.750 --> 00:01:35.750
To continue growing, it must leave the shell behind.
00:01:36.390 --> 00:01:40.150
And for a time, the lobster exists without protection.
00:01:40.469 --> 00:01:43.829
It's vulnerable, exposed, and uncomfortable.
00:01:44.069 --> 00:01:49.189
And if it could speak, I imagine it would wonder what is happening to me.
00:01:49.430 --> 00:01:53.989
The very thing that once protected it now feels restrictive.
00:01:54.230 --> 00:01:59.510
The old shell no longer fits, but the new shell hasn't fully formed yet.
00:01:59.750 --> 00:02:05.670
And I think that's exactly where many people find themselves during personal transformation.
00:02:06.070 --> 00:02:13.189
The old version of you no longer fit, but the new version of you doesn't feel fully natural yet.
00:02:13.350 --> 00:02:15.829
You're caught somewhere in between.
00:02:16.150 --> 00:02:20.949
Not who you were, and not fully who you're becoming.
00:02:21.269 --> 00:02:28.949
And if we're not careful, we can mistake this season for failure, when in reality, it may be evidence of growth.
00:02:29.269 --> 00:02:31.590
And that's what I want to talk about today.
00:02:31.829 --> 00:02:32.710
The gap.
00:03:20.550 --> 00:03:27.910
I mean, we celebrate breakthroughs, we celebrate the success stories, we even celebrate the before and the after.
00:03:28.149 --> 00:03:34.230
But very few people talk about the middle, the messy middle, the uncertain middle.
00:03:34.709 --> 00:03:41.829
The season where your old identity is dying, but your new identity hasn't fully stabilized.
00:03:42.470 --> 00:03:44.870
And that's often where people quit.
00:03:45.110 --> 00:03:54.949
Not because they lack potential, not because they lack talent, not because they lack purpose, they quit because growth feels awkward.
00:03:55.189 --> 00:03:56.949
They assume something is wrong.
00:03:57.189 --> 00:04:00.949
When in reality, something may finally be changing.
00:04:01.269 --> 00:04:03.509
And I know this space personally.
00:04:03.990 --> 00:04:09.589
Growing up in Camden, New Jersey, I learned to survive before I learned possibility.
00:04:09.829 --> 00:04:18.389
I learned how to navigate struggle, how to stay alert, how to manage uncertainty, and how to keep moving despite obstacles.
00:04:18.949 --> 00:04:29.110
But what I didn't realize was that while I eventually left that environment physically, parts of those environments remained inside of me psychologically.
00:04:29.589 --> 00:04:38.709
I carried old assumptions, old fears, old limitations, old stories about what was possible for someone like me.
00:04:39.269 --> 00:04:44.709
And when opportunities began showing up in my life, something strange happened.
00:04:45.430 --> 00:04:52.069
Part of me wanted the opportunity, but another part of me didn't recognize myself inside it.
00:04:52.709 --> 00:04:54.550
Have you ever experienced that?
00:04:55.110 --> 00:05:00.709
I mean, you pray for growth, then growth arrives and makes you uncomfortable.
00:05:00.949 --> 00:05:06.230
You ask for expansion, then expansion challenges everything familiar.
00:05:06.629 --> 00:05:12.710
You ask for a new life, then realize that a new life requires a new identity.
00:05:13.270 --> 00:05:14.949
And that's the gap.
00:05:15.509 --> 00:05:20.790
One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing that authenticity means familiarity.
00:05:21.110 --> 00:05:22.069
It doesn't.
00:05:22.310 --> 00:05:26.390
Sometimes the healthiest version of you feels unfamiliar.
00:05:26.629 --> 00:05:30.470
Not because it's false, but because it's new.
00:05:30.870 --> 00:05:32.150
Now think about it.
00:05:32.390 --> 00:05:38.390
If you spent years rehearsing insecurity, confidence will initially feel unnatural.
00:05:38.790 --> 00:05:44.550
If you spent years expecting rejection, self-worth may feel uncomfortable.
00:05:44.870 --> 00:05:50.710
If you spent years living from limitations, possibilities may feel foreign.
00:05:50.949 --> 00:05:53.509
That doesn't mean the new self is fake.
00:05:53.750 --> 00:05:57.110
It means you've practiced the old self longer.
00:05:57.509 --> 00:06:03.830
You see, the brain is drawn towards familiarity, even when familiarity is unhealthy.
00:06:04.150 --> 00:06:09.350
That's why so many people retreat back to the old patterns after a breakthrough moment.
00:06:09.830 --> 00:06:14.230
The old identity feels safer, not better, just familiar.
00:06:14.550 --> 00:06:18.550
People often believe they sabotage because they don't want success.
00:06:18.870 --> 00:06:20.310
I don't think that's true.
00:06:20.470 --> 00:06:25.350
I think most people sabotage because success introduces identity conflict.
00:06:25.590 --> 00:06:31.509
Your old self says, this isn't who we are, this isn't normal, this doesn't feel right.
00:06:31.750 --> 00:06:36.069
And so the mind tries to return to what feels emotionally familiar.
00:06:36.310 --> 00:06:39.430
Not because it's right, but because it's known.
00:06:39.670 --> 00:06:43.750
That's why some people get close to opportunities and pull back.
00:06:43.990 --> 00:06:46.390
They get close to love and pull back.
00:06:46.550 --> 00:06:49.189
They they get close to abundance and pull back.
00:06:49.590 --> 00:06:54.230
They're not fighting success, they're struggling with identity expansion.
00:06:54.470 --> 00:07:02.390
Now, there's another part of the journey people don't often discuss, and that is transformation can feel lonely.
00:07:02.710 --> 00:07:05.990
Not because you're alone, but because you're changing.
00:07:06.230 --> 00:07:10.710
Sometimes the people around you still relate to the old version of you.
00:07:11.030 --> 00:07:13.990
Sometimes conversations don't fit anymore.
00:07:14.230 --> 00:07:21.030
Sometimes old environments feel small, and sometimes old habits lose their appeal.
00:07:21.350 --> 00:07:27.670
And for a season, it can feel like you've outgrown one chapter without fully arriving into the next.
00:07:27.910 --> 00:07:29.189
And that's normal.
00:07:29.430 --> 00:07:43.110
You see, every significant transformation includes a period of transition, a bridge between identities, a season where you're learning how to belong to yourself before you fully belong to your future.
00:07:43.430 --> 00:07:46.069
Trust that season, don't rush it.
00:07:46.710 --> 00:07:54.150
So let me give you seven powerful strategies to help you bridge the gap between who you were and now who you're becoming.
00:07:54.470 --> 00:07:59.350
Strategy number one is to stop measuring your progress by comfort.
00:07:59.590 --> 00:08:02.470
You see, growth often feels uncomfortable.
00:08:02.790 --> 00:08:05.830
So don't ask, does this feel comfortable?
00:08:06.069 --> 00:08:09.910
A better question is, does this align with who I'm becoming?
00:08:10.150 --> 00:08:13.350
Because comfort is not always the best indicator.
00:08:13.670 --> 00:08:14.870
Alignment is.
00:08:15.270 --> 00:08:18.790
Strategy number two is to normalize feeling awkward.
00:08:19.030 --> 00:08:19.990
What do I mean?
00:08:20.230 --> 00:08:23.750
New behaviors feel awkward before they feel natural.
00:08:23.990 --> 00:08:29.270
Public speaking feels awkward, leadership feels awkward, confidence feels awkward.
00:08:29.509 --> 00:08:34.309
Everything unfamiliar feels awkward until repetition makes it familiar.
00:08:34.549 --> 00:08:37.509
Don't interpret your awkwardness as failure.
00:08:37.750 --> 00:08:39.509
Interpret it as practice.
00:08:40.309 --> 00:08:44.149
Strategy number three is to journal from your future self.
00:08:44.549 --> 00:08:48.789
Each morning ask, what would the future version of me believe today?
00:08:49.029 --> 00:08:50.549
What would they focus on?
00:08:50.789 --> 00:08:52.710
What would they stop worrying about?
00:08:53.189 --> 00:08:58.389
Begin strengthening the emotional connection between where you are and where you're headed.
00:08:59.189 --> 00:09:03.669
Strategy number four is to stop negotiating with the old identity.
00:09:04.230 --> 00:09:07.350
When old limiting thoughts appear, don't debate them.
00:09:07.509 --> 00:09:12.949
Recognize them, acknowledge them, then return your focus to the person you're becoming.
00:09:13.189 --> 00:09:15.509
You don't need to argue with the old self.
00:09:15.669 --> 00:09:17.509
You simply stop feeding it.
00:09:18.069 --> 00:09:21.429
Strategy number five is to trust small evidence.
00:09:21.909 --> 00:09:25.349
You see, most transformations happen quietly.
00:09:25.669 --> 00:09:27.509
So look for subtle victories.
00:09:27.990 --> 00:09:34.069
A different reaction, a healthier decision, a calmer response, a courageous conversation.
00:09:34.549 --> 00:09:38.389
You see, small shifts often signal deeper change.
00:09:39.029 --> 00:09:43.110
Strategy number six is to create space for reflection.
00:09:43.669 --> 00:09:49.990
You see, the gap between who you were and who you're becoming, it becomes clearer when you slow down.
00:09:50.229 --> 00:09:52.389
So spend some time in stillness.
00:09:52.789 --> 00:09:57.750
And while there, ask yourself, what beliefs am I outgrowing?
00:09:58.149 --> 00:10:00.309
What assumptions am I releasing?
00:10:00.870 --> 00:10:03.189
What identity am I strengthening?
00:10:03.669 --> 00:10:07.909
Because here's the thing awareness accelerates transformation.
00:10:08.309 --> 00:10:13.110
Finally, strategy number seven is to stay committed longer than your doubts.
00:10:13.909 --> 00:10:23.669
You see, doubt will visit, fear will visit, uncertainty will visit, but don't allow temporary emotions to determine permanent decisions.
00:10:23.909 --> 00:10:28.069
Stay committed long enough for the new identity to become familiar.
00:10:28.389 --> 00:10:32.389
Now, as we wrap up this episode, I want you to remember something.
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The gap between who you were and who you're becoming is not a sign that something is wrong.
00:10:39.029 --> 00:10:41.829
It's often evidence that something is working.
00:10:42.069 --> 00:10:44.069
The old shell is cracking.
00:10:44.309 --> 00:10:46.870
The old identity is loosening its grip.
00:10:47.110 --> 00:10:49.909
The old assumptions are losing their authority.
00:10:50.149 --> 00:10:56.469
And while that process may feel uncomfortable, it's often the birthplace of your next level of growth.
00:10:56.709 --> 00:10:58.549
So be patient with yourself.
00:10:58.709 --> 00:11:00.069
Give yourself grace.
00:11:00.309 --> 00:11:01.429
Trust the process.
00:11:01.589 --> 00:11:03.829
Trust the work you're doing internally.
00:11:04.149 --> 00:11:11.189
Trust the person you're becoming, and more importantly, don't run back to the familiar simply because it's familiar.
00:11:11.429 --> 00:11:18.389
Because the future you're seeking may require for you to remain faithful to a version of yourself that still feels new.
00:11:18.629 --> 00:11:20.389
Well, that's our show for today.
00:11:20.549 --> 00:11:24.549
We hope that you found this episode both insightful and inspiring.
00:11:24.789 --> 00:11:31.829
Join us each week for practical tips, actionable insights, and inspiring stories to help you transform your life.
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We hope you can join us.
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We'll see you soon.
00:11:35.509 --> 00:11:43.750
To experience a free coaching session with Andre Flax, click the link in the show notes or contact him at Andre at Transformative LivingRadio.com.
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00:00:48.070 --> 00:00:55.429
Welcome to Transformative Living Radio, where we explore the power of intentional change for personal growth and fulfillment.
00:00:55.590 --> 00:00:59.829
I'm Andre Flax, your host and certified life and leadership coach.
00:01:00.070 --> 00:01:04.950
Now there's a story about a lobster that became trapped by its own growth.
00:01:05.189 --> 00:01:08.629
Now, on the surface, that sounds strange, doesn't it?
00:01:08.950 --> 00:01:10.469
But here's what happens.
00:01:10.790 --> 00:01:13.909
You see, a lobster shell doesn't grow with it.
00:01:14.230 --> 00:01:19.990
As the lobster grows larger, the shell that once protected it becomes restrictive.
00:01:20.150 --> 00:01:23.590
It becomes uncomfortable, tight, and confining.
00:01:24.069 --> 00:01:29.430
Eventually, the lobster reaches a point where it can no longer remain in the shell.
00:01:29.670 --> 00:01:31.430
But here's the challenge.
00:01:31.750 --> 00:01:35.750
To continue growing, it must leave the shell behind.
00:01:36.390 --> 00:01:40.150
And for a time, the lobster exists without protection.
00:01:40.469 --> 00:01:43.829
It's vulnerable, exposed, and uncomfortable.
00:01:44.069 --> 00:01:49.189
And if it could speak, I imagine it would wonder what is happening to me.
00:01:49.430 --> 00:01:53.989
The very thing that once protected it now feels restrictive.
00:01:54.230 --> 00:01:59.510
The old shell no longer fits, but the new shell hasn't fully formed yet.
00:01:59.750 --> 00:02:05.670
And I think that's exactly where many people find themselves during personal transformation.
00:02:06.070 --> 00:02:13.189
The old version of you no longer fit, but the new version of you doesn't feel fully natural yet.
00:02:13.350 --> 00:02:15.829
You're caught somewhere in between.
00:02:16.150 --> 00:02:20.949
Not who you were, and not fully who you're becoming.
00:02:21.269 --> 00:02:28.949
And if we're not careful, we can mistake this season for failure, when in reality, it may be evidence of growth.
00:02:29.269 --> 00:02:31.590
And that's what I want to talk about today.
00:02:31.829 --> 00:02:32.710
The gap.
00:03:20.550 --> 00:03:27.910
I mean, we celebrate breakthroughs, we celebrate the success stories, we even celebrate the before and the after.
00:03:28.149 --> 00:03:34.230
But very few people talk about the middle, the messy middle, the uncertain middle.
00:03:34.709 --> 00:03:41.829
The season where your old identity is dying, but your new identity hasn't fully stabilized.
00:03:42.470 --> 00:03:44.870
And that's often where people quit.
00:03:45.110 --> 00:03:54.949
Not because they lack potential, not because they lack talent, not because they lack purpose, they quit because growth feels awkward.
00:03:55.189 --> 00:03:56.949
They assume something is wrong.
00:03:57.189 --> 00:04:00.949
When in reality, something may finally be changing.
00:04:01.269 --> 00:04:03.509
And I know this space personally.
00:04:03.990 --> 00:04:09.589
Growing up in Camden, New Jersey, I learned to survive before I learned possibility.
00:04:09.829 --> 00:04:18.389
I learned how to navigate struggle, how to stay alert, how to manage uncertainty, and how to keep moving despite obstacles.
00:04:18.949 --> 00:04:29.110
But what I didn't realize was that while I eventually left that environment physically, parts of those environments remained inside of me psychologically.
00:04:29.589 --> 00:04:38.709
I carried old assumptions, old fears, old limitations, old stories about what was possible for someone like me.
00:04:39.269 --> 00:04:44.709
And when opportunities began showing up in my life, something strange happened.
00:04:45.430 --> 00:04:52.069
Part of me wanted the opportunity, but another part of me didn't recognize myself inside it.
00:04:52.709 --> 00:04:54.550
Have you ever experienced that?
00:04:55.110 --> 00:05:00.709
I mean, you pray for growth, then growth arrives and makes you uncomfortable.
00:05:00.949 --> 00:05:06.230
You ask for expansion, then expansion challenges everything familiar.
00:05:06.629 --> 00:05:12.710
You ask for a new life, then realize that a new life requires a new identity.
00:05:13.270 --> 00:05:14.949
And that's the gap.
00:05:15.509 --> 00:05:20.790
One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing that authenticity means familiarity.
00:05:21.110 --> 00:05:22.069
It doesn't.
00:05:22.310 --> 00:05:26.390
Sometimes the healthiest version of you feels unfamiliar.
00:05:26.629 --> 00:05:30.470
Not because it's false, but because it's new.
00:05:30.870 --> 00:05:32.150
Now think about it.
00:05:32.390 --> 00:05:38.390
If you spent years rehearsing insecurity, confidence will initially feel unnatural.
00:05:38.790 --> 00:05:44.550
If you spent years expecting rejection, self-worth may feel uncomfortable.
00:05:44.870 --> 00:05:50.710
If you spent years living from limitations, possibilities may feel foreign.
00:05:50.949 --> 00:05:53.509
That doesn't mean the new self is fake.
00:05:53.750 --> 00:05:57.110
It means you've practiced the old self longer.
00:05:57.509 --> 00:06:03.830
You see, the brain is drawn towards familiarity, even when familiarity is unhealthy.
00:06:04.150 --> 00:06:09.350
That's why so many people retreat back to the old patterns after a breakthrough moment.
00:06:09.830 --> 00:06:14.230
The old identity feels safer, not better, just familiar.
00:06:14.550 --> 00:06:18.550
People often believe they sabotage because they don't want success.
00:06:18.870 --> 00:06:20.310
I don't think that's true.
00:06:20.470 --> 00:06:25.350
I think most people sabotage because success introduces identity conflict.
00:06:25.590 --> 00:06:31.509
Your old self says, this isn't who we are, this isn't normal, this doesn't feel right.
00:06:31.750 --> 00:06:36.069
And so the mind tries to return to what feels emotionally familiar.
00:06:36.310 --> 00:06:39.430
Not because it's right, but because it's known.
00:06:39.670 --> 00:06:43.750
That's why some people get close to opportunities and pull back.
00:06:43.990 --> 00:06:46.390
They get close to love and pull back.
00:06:46.550 --> 00:06:49.189
They they get close to abundance and pull back.
00:06:49.590 --> 00:06:54.230
They're not fighting success, they're struggling with identity expansion.
00:06:54.470 --> 00:07:02.390
Now, there's another part of the journey people don't often discuss, and that is transformation can feel lonely.
00:07:02.710 --> 00:07:05.990
Not because you're alone, but because you're changing.
00:07:06.230 --> 00:07:10.710
Sometimes the people around you still relate to the old version of you.
00:07:11.030 --> 00:07:13.990
Sometimes conversations don't fit anymore.
00:07:14.230 --> 00:07:21.030
Sometimes old environments feel small, and sometimes old habits lose their appeal.
00:07:21.350 --> 00:07:27.670
And for a season, it can feel like you've outgrown one chapter without fully arriving into the next.
00:07:27.910 --> 00:07:29.189
And that's normal.
00:07:29.430 --> 00:07:43.110
You see, every significant transformation includes a period of transition, a bridge between identities, a season where you're learning how to belong to yourself before you fully belong to your future.
00:07:43.430 --> 00:07:46.069
Trust that season, don't rush it.
00:07:46.710 --> 00:07:54.150
So let me give you seven powerful strategies to help you bridge the gap between who you were and now who you're becoming.
00:07:54.470 --> 00:07:59.350
Strategy number one is to stop measuring your progress by comfort.
00:07:59.590 --> 00:08:02.470
You see, growth often feels uncomfortable.
00:08:02.790 --> 00:08:05.830
So don't ask, does this feel comfortable?
00:08:06.069 --> 00:08:09.910
A better question is, does this align with who I'm becoming?
00:08:10.150 --> 00:08:13.350
Because comfort is not always the best indicator.
00:08:13.670 --> 00:08:14.870
Alignment is.
00:08:15.270 --> 00:08:18.790
Strategy number two is to normalize feeling awkward.
00:08:19.030 --> 00:08:19.990
What do I mean?
00:08:20.230 --> 00:08:23.750
New behaviors feel awkward before they feel natural.
00:08:23.990 --> 00:08:29.270
Public speaking feels awkward, leadership feels awkward, confidence feels awkward.
00:08:29.509 --> 00:08:34.309
Everything unfamiliar feels awkward until repetition makes it familiar.
00:08:34.549 --> 00:08:37.509
Don't interpret your awkwardness as failure.
00:08:37.750 --> 00:08:39.509
Interpret it as practice.
00:08:40.309 --> 00:08:44.149
Strategy number three is to journal from your future self.
00:08:44.549 --> 00:08:48.789
Each morning ask, what would the future version of me believe today?
00:08:49.029 --> 00:08:50.549
What would they focus on?
00:08:50.789 --> 00:08:52.710
What would they stop worrying about?
00:08:53.189 --> 00:08:58.389
Begin strengthening the emotional connection between where you are and where you're headed.
00:08:59.189 --> 00:09:03.669
Strategy number four is to stop negotiating with the old identity.
00:09:04.230 --> 00:09:07.350
When old limiting thoughts appear, don't debate them.
00:09:07.509 --> 00:09:12.949
Recognize them, acknowledge them, then return your focus to the person you're becoming.
00:09:13.189 --> 00:09:15.509
You don't need to argue with the old self.
00:09:15.669 --> 00:09:17.509
You simply stop feeding it.
00:09:18.069 --> 00:09:21.429
Strategy number five is to trust small evidence.
00:09:21.909 --> 00:09:25.349
You see, most transformations happen quietly.
00:09:25.669 --> 00:09:27.509
So look for subtle victories.
00:09:27.990 --> 00:09:34.069
A different reaction, a healthier decision, a calmer response, a courageous conversation.
00:09:34.549 --> 00:09:38.389
You see, small shifts often signal deeper change.
00:09:39.029 --> 00:09:43.110
Strategy number six is to create space for reflection.
00:09:43.669 --> 00:09:49.990
You see, the gap between who you were and who you're becoming, it becomes clearer when you slow down.
00:09:50.229 --> 00:09:52.389
So spend some time in stillness.
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And while there, ask yourself, what beliefs am I outgrowing?
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What assumptions am I releasing?
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What identity am I strengthening?
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Because here's the thing awareness accelerates transformation.
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Finally, strategy number seven is to stay committed longer than your doubts.
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You see, doubt will visit, fear will visit, uncertainty will visit, but don't allow temporary emotions to determine permanent decisions.
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Stay committed long enough for the new identity to become familiar.
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Now, as we wrap up this episode, I want you to remember something.
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The gap between who you were and who you're becoming is not a sign that something is wrong.
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It's often evidence that something is working.
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The old shell is cracking.
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The old identity is loosening its grip.
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The old assumptions are losing their authority.
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And while that process may feel uncomfortable, it's often the birthplace of your next level of growth.
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So be patient with yourself.
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Give yourself grace.
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Trust the process.
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Trust the work you're doing internally.
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Trust the person you're becoming, and more importantly, don't run back to the familiar simply because it's familiar.
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Because the future you're seeking may require for you to remain faithful to a version of yourself that still feels new.
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Well, that's our show for today.
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We hope that you found this episode both insightful and inspiring.
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Join us each week for practical tips, actionable insights, and inspiring stories to help you transform your life.
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We hope you can join us.
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We'll see you soon.
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To experience a free coaching session with Andre Flax, click the link in the show notes or contact him at Andre at Transformative LivingRadio.com.
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