Living From The New Self

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Welcome to Transformative Living Radio, where we explore the power of intentional change for personal growth and fulfillment.
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I'm Andre Flax, your host and certified life and leadership coach.
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Every time you press play to listen to this podcast, you're making a decision.
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A decision to grow, a decision to reflect, and a decision to become more intentional about the life you're creating.
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Now, before we get into today's episode, I want to remind you of something that changed everything for me.
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There was a time in my life where on the outside I was doing everything right.
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But internally, I didn't believe I was worthy of lasting success.
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So even when good things happened, I couldn't fully embrace them.
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Because in the back of my mind, I was always waiting for something to go wrong.
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But everything began to shift when I realized something powerful.
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That the way I saw myself wasn't fixed.
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And that real change doesn't start on the outside, it starts from within.
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And that's what this podcast is all about: helping you to master yourself from the inside out so your life can begin to reflect the person you're becoming.
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So grab a pen and a pad, and if you're ready, let's begin.
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Hello and welcome to another empowering episode of Transformative Living Radio.
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I'm Andre Flax, your host and certified life and leadership coach.
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Now it's written in the Bible that after the resurrection of Jesus, two of his followers were walking along the road.
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They were confused, discouraged, trying to make sense of everything that just happened.
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And as they were walking, the Bible says a third person joined them in the form of Jesus.
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But here's what's powerful they don't recognize him.
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They walk with him, they talk with him, they even listen to him, but they still see him through the lens of what they believe before.
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It isn't until later when their awareness shifts that they finally realize who's been with them the entire time.
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Now let's bring this close to home, because you don't have to be on that road to experience that moment.
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You've been doing the work, you've been growing, thinking differently, responding differently, and yet there are moments where you step into a situation that calls for the new version of you.
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Maybe it's a conversation, a new opportunity, or a decision that needs to be made.
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And instead of standing fully in who you've become, you hesitate, you second guess, you shrink, even if it's just a little.
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You go back to the old language, the old patterns, old ways of seeing yourself.
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Not because you haven't changed, but because part of you is still looking at yourself through an old lens.
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And that's what we want to talk about today.
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Because it's one thing to release the old version of you, it's another thing to fully live as the new one.
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So today we're stepping into what it really means to live from the new self.
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Not occasionally, not when it feels comfortable, but consistently.
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Now, at the beginning of your transformational journey, everything feels like effort.
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You're trying to think differently, you're trying to respond differently, you're trying to show up differently, and that's all a part of the process.
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But eventually something shifts.
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You're no longer trying to be the new version of you, you begin becoming it.
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There's a difference between acting confident and being someone who is confident.
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There's a difference between practicing peace and being someone who lives from peace.
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You see, the shift happens when behavior becomes identity.
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Not something you do, but something you are.
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Now most people live their lives reaching, reaching for success, reaching for validation, reaching for peace.
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But when you live from the new self, you're no longer reaching.
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You're expressing.
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You're not trying to get confidence, you're moving as someone who already has it.
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You're not trying to find peace, you're making decisions from it.
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You don't wait for life to confirm who you are, you live from that identity first.
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Now here's the truth.
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Even after you step into this new version of yourself, the old version may still try to resurface.
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Not because you've failed, but because it's well practiced.
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This is where stability matters.
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When the old self rises, you don't panic, you don't question your growth, you return.
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Return to your awareness, you return to your identity, you return to who you've chosen to be.
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So, how do we consistently live from the new self?
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Well, let me give you five simple but powerful ways to continue living from the new self.
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Number one, make decisions from identity, not emotion.
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You see, most people make decisions based on how they feel.
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But feelings fluctuate.
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Identity anchors.
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Instead of asking, how do I feel right now?
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You might ask, who am I choosing to be in this moment?
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You might feel nervous, but the version of you you're becoming still speaks.
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You might feel uncertain, but that version still moves.
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Number two is to speak from alignment.
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Pay attention to your language.
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Are you still speaking from the old version of you?
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Saying things like, I'm not ready, I'm trying, I don't know.
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Or are you speaking from alignment?
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Saying things like, I'm growing into this, I'm learning this, or I'm becoming this.
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You see, what you consistently say, you begin to believe.
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And what you believe becomes identity.
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Number three is to move with consistency, not intensity.
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You see, most people rely on motivation, but motivation fades.
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But consistency builds identity.
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Small actions, daily alignment, that's how the new self is built.
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Number four is to trust a transformational process without constant validation.
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Now there'll be moments where life hasn't caught up yet, and in those moments, you trust.
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You don't need constant proof because the shift has already happened.
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Now, number five is to stay present.
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You see, your old self lives in the past, but the new self lives now.
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Ask yourself, how would the new version of me show up right now and then do that?
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You see, you don't step into the new self someday, you step into your new self right now.
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Now, as we come to the end of this episode, I want to take us back to the road where the two men were walking.
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They were confused, searching, trying to make sense of what had just happened.
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And the whole time, what they were looking for was already walking beside them.
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Now they weren't lost, they just didn't recognize what was already present because they were still seeing through an old lens.
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And maybe that's where you've been.
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You've been growing, you've been doing the work, becoming someone new.
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But you're still looking at yourself through the eyes of who you used to be.
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Still questioning, still hesitating, still waiting for confirmation for something that has already happened within you.
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Because here's the truth: you're not becoming the new self.
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You've already become them.
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The confidence you are looking for, the clarity you've been searching for, the stability you've been trying to build, it's already within you.
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The only shift left is recognition.
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Just like those two men on the road, the moment they saw clearly, everything changed.
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So this week, stop waiting to become.
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Stop waiting to feel ready.
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And start living from who you already are.
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Because what you've been searching for has been walking with you.
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Well, that's our show for today.
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We hope that you found this episode both insightful and inspiring.
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Join us each week for practical tips, actionable insight, and inspiring stories to help you transform your life.
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We hope you can join us.
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We'll see you soon.
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