When It's Taking Longer Than You Thought

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Well, welcome back to the Thrive Mindset podcast.
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I'm so glad that you're here today because this episode, this one, I think is for those of us who are doing the work, who are holding that vision and saying the affirmations and writing in our journals and still looking around, wondering, why isn't this happening yet?
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Yeah, we need to talk about that.
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Yeah, we need to talk about that.
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There's this moment that I think every single one of us has been in.
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You set the intentions, you have gotten really clear on what you want, and you've taken steps towards it, and then it just gets quiet.
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Or maybe it gets hard, or it just doesn't look the way you thought it would by now.
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And that gap, that space between where you are and where you thought you'd be can feel really loud and big and hard and painful.
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And it starts whispering things like, maybe this isn't for me.
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Maybe I was wrong to go this way.
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Maybe I just need to be more realistic.
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And those those voices they get louder, those whispers, right?
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They start to become shouting at you.
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Those whispers, they start to become louder and louder and louder, and it becomes almost like a shout.
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But I want one of but I want to sit with you in that space for a minute today, because I think we rush past it too fast.
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We either white knuckle through it and we abandon or we abandon ship.
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But there's actually something really powerful and available to you right there in the middle if you're willing to stay.
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So ironically, this feels very um relatable to me right now, and not like on a huge scale, but you all know I created this course this last year, and um I had the publisher of the books that I've been part of that she put it out on her platform, and I thought that was going to be a really great thing.
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They had a marketing team, they um just had a lot of resources that I thought were great, and it also motivated me to actually get that course created and done, which was great.
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It was something on my goal list, right?
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It was something I wanted to do.
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But I had noticed it wasn't really doing anything, and I thought it was just me, right?
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Um it was it was supposed to be marketed on her end, it was supposed to be like put out to the world that way, and of course, I've been sharing it with with people here, I've been sharing it in my um Motivational Monday letters, I've been sharing it, but I haven't been doing like the work that I need to do in order to put it out into the world.
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I also haven't been reaping any benefits from it, it's just sitting there, it's sitting there being unused, which has really like been this bummer.
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And I've kind of been thinking, oh, maybe like maybe it's not good, maybe I didn't do a good job.
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But the reality of it is this last week we had the Zoom meeting with um the publisher and and several of the other course creators, and it wasn't us, it wasn't our courses, it was the inefficiencies that were happening there, and it really wasn't in her heart to have this platform.
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I could feel it in the conversation, and um while it the idea was there and it was great, it just wasn't happening.
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And what happened though is that it's allowing me to take back the control of that course and have it in my own space and in my own platform, and then be able to put it out in a new way where I benefit a hundred percent from it, um, and that that business isn't going to be benefiting from sales of what I've done, and yeah, it it's look it's just looking different than what I imagined, but here I was for a moment, right, listening to all the noise, and it wasn't right, it just was a different path.
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So here's what I've come to know that the timeline is not the truth when things slow down or they shift sideways, our brains immediately decide that means no.
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But what if it just means not yet or not this way, like it did for me?
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What if that do what if that detour is actually the point?
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And I think in my case it was, right?
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In my case, it got me to create the course, it got me motivated, got me excited.
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It also showed me what wasn't working, and I watched this happen again and again in my own life and in the lives of women that I coach, and the thing that I wanted to show up today and be here for you to say is just and the thing they wanted to show up, and here's the thing the thing they wanted showed up, just not in the package they were expecting, and almost every single time they said the same thing.
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I'm so glad it didn't happen the way I originally planned it, and that's not toxic positivity, and that's not toxic, and that's not toxic positivity, that's just pattern recognition, that's faith backed by experience, that's knowing that you're gonna get where you're going.
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You just don't need to know the exact way, and you don't need to worry about how it turns out, you just know it's coming.
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So, how do you stay in it without burning out or giving up?
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Here's a few things that I think genuinely help.
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And first, I want to say come back to why it matters, not the goal itself, but the feeling underneath it.
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What do you want to feel when the thing arrives?
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Do you want to be secure?
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Do you want to be free?
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Do you want to be seen?
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Maybe you want to be purposeful.
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You can start cultivating that feeling right now, and you don't have to wait to be at the destination to feel like that.
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You should start doing that now.
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Come back to it.
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Number two, look for evidence of movement, not just arriving at the end.
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So progress, it isn't always the milestone.
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Sometimes it's the conversation that's shifted your perspective.
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Sometimes it's the door that closed, so another can open.
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I mean, remember, I just said that that platform for me is going away, the door's closing, but it's opening a new one for me, right?
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It's opening me, it's opening a door for me to have the ability of full control and doing what I do best.
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Because you know, a lesson that can only come through the hard.
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I think it's important to remember that a lot of times lessons can only come through that hard stretch, right?
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But when we train your eyes to see that movement in the in-between and then these hard times instead of just the outcomes, you'll stop feeling stuck.
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And three, give yourself permission to feel frustrated and stay committed.
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They're not opposite things.
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You can feel frustrated that it takes longer.
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You can feel frustrated that it's taking longer than you want it, and still choose to keep going.
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You don't have to be perfectly positive to stay on that path.
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You just have to keep showing up.
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You're not doing it wrong.
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You are coming, and that is not nothing, that is everything.
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So stay in it.
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Trust the process and know that the fact that you're still here and still listening and still hoping, that's not naivety.
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That's not being naive, that's having courage.
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Thanks for spending time with me today.
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If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it.
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And I'll see you back here next week.
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And I'll see you back here next week.
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But above all else, remember that I believe in you, and you can manifest the life of your dreams.