Stop Blocking Your Progress

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Welcome back to the Queenwood Sanders Podcast.
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I am John Tay, and today we are talking about how to stop blocking your progress.
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That's right.
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I'm giving you the T on what is standing in the way of you and moving forward because again, we are in a season of rebuilding.
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So we want to step toward that vision.
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But guess what?
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There's always something, always something, right, that keeps us from moving toward that vision that God has given us.
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And a lot of times it's you.
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Sometimes it's you.
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Sometimes it's us, me.
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I'm still there working and pawing and scratching my way out.
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But today we are going to talk about ways that we can overcome these three things that are blocking our progress.
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You're listening to the Queen with Standards Podcast, where we journey together to rediscover joy, clarity, purpose, and walk in strong faith the entire way together.
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Keep it right here.
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I'm your host, John Tay, and let's get into this week's new episode.
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Okay, we are back, and we are focusing on how we can stop getting stuck and blocking our own blessings.
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And as I said, sometimes it's you, sometimes it's me, sometimes it's us, sis.
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We have to acknowledge that, okay?
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So we're gonna talk about three things, okay?
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We're gonna first identify three main things that are blocking our progress of taking steps toward the vision that God has given us in this season.
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We are also gonna talk about how we can overcome them, right?
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Because why are we listening to the bad without having a solution?
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You know, you always want to come with a solution.
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So I got you on that today, okay?
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So first and foremost, let's talk about how detrimental it is to have blocked progress, okay?
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Because it's not just a small thing.
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We all know that we don't want to rush, we don't want to move in timing that is not God's timing.
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But once we feel like we've received a word from him, we've received direction and marching orders and all the things, and then we're like, okay, I'm ready.
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Sometimes we get stuck in preparation mode, okay.
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This is not one of the three things that I was gonna give you, but this is the important piece, right?
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We get stuck in preparation and really it's a great way to distract ourselves, okay?
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I mean, if you're working on a book, if you're working on a new business, if you're working, whatever it is, the small details can keep you inundated.
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It just can keep you busy.
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And it's especially the creative piece because we all love the creative parts, right?
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Well, not everybody, because some people are the executors and some people need help with the creative piece.
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Whatever position that you are in, one or the other, we can get stuck in those phases that we like, right?
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And we know that there's more than one phase.
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We can't just get stuck in the creative mode, and we definitely can't just execute because you have to focus on the details in order to make your execution excellent and successful, right?
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And so we have to be careful of that.
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If you're a perfectionist, I'm with you, girl, because I'm a perfectionist.
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However, I really had to learn that nothing is perfect, you have to have a starting point, and also this is also the time of AI.
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I'm kind of a dinosaur.
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I was anyway until recently.
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I was like, well, I'm a writer.
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Why in the world am I using this?
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But really, it saves so much time, it saves you time and energy.
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And we don't have a lot of that, right?
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So that's one of the things I just want to jump out with and say first.
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If you are preparing to do your next thing and you find yourself day after day after day working on small details here, small details there, sometimes you just have to pick up the mic and hit record.
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Worry about the details later, but let me record and get this off my heart and my mind.
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And that first step will help to propel you into step two and three and four and five, right?
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So that's what I wanted to start with.
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But now let's get into the three main things that are blocking our progress, okay?
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And the first is a distracted mind.
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And it can come about in many different ways.
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When you think about waking up in the morning and not reaching for your phone first, and some of us have to reach for our phone first, right?
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But what are you allowing to dictate what you think about first?
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It could be an email, it could be a message from somebody important.
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I don't know, you check on a family member, mother, kids, whatever the case, right?
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But it should not be content, right?
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It should not be social media.
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Why?
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It's designed to keep your attention, it's designed to boost your endorphins from second to second to second.
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And so what we want to do is avoid that.
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Avoid that at all costs.
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If that means putting a limit on your social media, blocking it before a certain hour, I mean, our phones have so many capabilities, whatever works for you, but just set your mind and heart to not do that first.
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That's the first thing, right?
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So how you start your day, but then how am I moving throughout the day, right?
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If I know that I want to write today, if I know that I want to handle some business today, the worst thing to do is to turn on the TV.
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Once you're in a mindset to do those things, guess what?
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You're not in a mindset to create.
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I am not thinking of how to bring forth the vision that God's given me, how to make it come to life that it can be a blessing to other people.
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I'm not even thinking about that because now I've started watching this series, and baby, I might as well finish it because I'm in the mode for that.
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Now, one tip I can give you on binging series, I don't is I would just set aside a day.
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Be productive throughout my week on Thursdays will be the day that I binge and chill.
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It's all about balance.
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So if you know that you like to do something, binging in this case is actually where it's a good thing.
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Because now you've only spent one day, a little block of time, as opposed to a day here, a day here, a day here, a day here.
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And even if it's one hour, it's one hour you're distracted from thinking about the things that you need to be thinking about, right?
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It's like getting your mind in a certain mood.
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And how do we overcome a distracted mind?
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By setting the tone.
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Just the opposite.
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So we set the tone, we get up with intention, we're intentional about what we listen to.
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Oh, that's a big thing.
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I love all types of music.
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I'm a 90s girl at heart, but if I'm listening to music that is super hype and getting me ready for a fun or a timeout, that is not gonna get me in a mode to work.
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So I actually have a bunch of playlists on my phone, and one of the playlists is success mode, work mode.
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If you're a YouTube girly, a great thing to do is to type in motivational work music, focused music.
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I love to do that as well.
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Sometimes I set that mood just in my house, I put it on the TV.
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That can help to get your mind in a focused mindset.
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So those are some of the tips that you can do, right?
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You want to set the tone for what you're planning to accomplish.
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And that is to keep your mind clear, to keep your mind focused.
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So that is the first thing, a distracted mind, and we overcome that by setting the tone ourselves.
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The second thing that is blocking our blessings is we are skipping motivated moments.
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That's right, we're taking it for granted.
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And what do I mean by motivated moments?
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How many of you know that when you are inspired, you're feeling inspired and you're feeling energetic?
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Now you want to work, like you feel like you can take on the world.
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Those are the moments that you want to capitalize on.
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Those are the times that you want to sit down and write.
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You want to sit down and work on your business plan.
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You want to sit down and make the calls to business coaches.
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Those are the times that you are sparked to inspire.
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You're sparked for inspiration, you're sparked for creativity, you are inspired to work.
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And that's when you have the most progress.
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So we won't want to skip those moments, and it can happen really quickly.
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I have been in a position where I'm like, oh my God, I feel so good today.
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I got up, I got sufficient rest last night.
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I've had my tea, my coffee, um, I did a little bit of exercise.
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I feel so inspired.
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But guess what will creep in?
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The enemy is very crafty.
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He does not want you to capitalize on those days because he wants to keep you in a state of being blocked.
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Okay, a state of not moving forward.
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And so, what you have to do, what I have learned to do is to do it.
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Just do it.
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Because before I would say, I'm gonna work on it tomorrow, or I'll work on it on Friday, you know, when the kids are at school, or I'll do all these things.
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But guess what?
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You have no control over what happens the next day.
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You have no control over what your mood will be the next day.
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You could wake up to bad news, right?
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You know what I mean?
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You could have a busier day at work.
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The kids could be sick.
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Anything could happen.
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So, one of the best things that you can do, jump on it when you have it.
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And so if you're feeling it, you're feeling inspired, do the thing.
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Even if you have limited time, say, I'm gonna set this timer and I'm gonna work for an hour, and then I'm gonna get to the other things that I have to do.
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But that is when you'll get your most creative things.
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Even if you're out, if you're at work, if you're driving and you have just a moment to take some notes down, write down bullet points of the things that you've been inspired by, what new points you have, what new ideas you have, what new angles on your business that you have, right?
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And what new contacts that you thought about.
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Write those things down in the moment and then you can get back to them.
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But again, sis, do not skip the motivated moments.
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This is a huge, huge one that has really allowed me to step forward in this rebuilding season.
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Okay, and the last one is the consuming confusion trap.
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And yes, we're back to social media.
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There can be inspiration, right?
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But there can be a point where it's too much.
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And what happens is comparison can creep in, right?
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And that is this, we're all human.
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It can happen.
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Comparison can creep in.
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Hopefully, envy does not, but that can be attached to that as well.
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Again, you're losing time.
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We do not get time back.
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Listen, the older I get, I value time so much more.
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Trust me, time is so valuable.
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It is the only thing you cannot get back.
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You can't turn the clock back on it, right?
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So use it so wisely.
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One thing that happens is doubt takes over.
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So now you might experience a little bit of imposter syndrome.
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You're watching other people, they're having success.
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And now you can begin to doubt.
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Oh my God, did too much time go by?
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Has the moment passed?
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Am I capable of doing this?
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What makes me think I can do this?
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All the things that will cause you to stop in your tracks, right?
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And so we don't want that.
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We have to stop consuming so much and get to creating.
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You don't want your ideas to be based on what other people think.
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God speaks to you.
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What is he saying to you?
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What do you have to offer?
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What is he giving you?
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Have you been feeling stuck, discouraged?
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Queenwood Standards coaching is an invitation to help you rediscover joy, clarity, purpose.
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And so the last thing that can happen from this is discouragement.
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And it becomes a very dangerous cycle.
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And so now once you're discouraged, then you're not making any progress.
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And now you are then probably consuming more and sitting and wasting more time and having more doubt, right?
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And so we want to avoid that.
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And how do we avoid it?
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Limit your time and modify what you're watching, right?
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I've gotten to the point to all my feeds.
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If I see something I don't want to see, I don't have time to be really focused on it.
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One of the things that had me in a chokehold was the forensic file videos that come up on Facebook.
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And I'll watch them and they'll draw you in in the first five seconds.
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And not only that, it's not putting me in a good headspace to get done, to move.
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And this is the season where we are moving and making progress.
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And so these that I've shared right now today, I gave you the T on what's blocking our progress and also how to overcome those things so we can continue to move forward in this season of rebuilding.
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So thank you for sticking with me through this episode.
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Apply some of these things as I'm applying these things in this season because again, we are taking this journey to rebuilding in a new season together, right here on the Clean of Sanders podcast.
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I'll see you next time.