Stop Chasing Confidence

I did not know Blair is a professional profiler, and at the end, he shares his “take” on me!

“You are very authentic and intelligent. You hold back your intelligence so you don’t look too smart, but you can usually outthink most people in any room you’re in. It’s rare for you to find people that outstrip your ability to think through an issue. Very intelligent, very quick with your ability to grab information and suck it in, and you retain it. You take inference from that and you adapt it quickly, and you see application and utility.”

STOP CHASING CONFIDENCE

Some of the most powerful conversations happen when people are willing to speak honestly about the moments that changed them.

In this episode, I sit down with Blair Dunkley for a conversation about identity, authenticity, and the unexpected ways life can force us to rediscover ourselves. Blair shares pieces of his journey through divorce after more than three decades of marriage, serious health challenges, and the deep personal reflection that followed. What emerges from that story is not just resilience, but a new way of understanding how our minds actually shape the lives we experience.

One of the most fascinating parts of our discussion centers around the difference between confidence and self-confidence, a distinction that often goes unnoticed but can completely change how we see ourselves and how we move through the world. Blair explains how confidence is often built on external validation, while self-confidence comes from recognizing our own effectiveness and value from within. That shift alone can transform the way people approach relationships, work, and personal growth.

We also explore Blair’s Mind Model Method, which challenges traditional mindset approaches by focusing on behavior rather than belief alone. Instead of endlessly asking why something isn’t working, his models help people identify patterns and make practical changes that create real momentum forward.

Connect with Blair:

www.blairdunkley.com

Learn more about Amy, apply to be a guest on the podcast, or schedule a personal Holding Space session for yourself, your business, school, community, organization, etc. here:

amy@getamyshelp.com

linktr.ee/getamyshelp

https://www.getamyshelp.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amythurman

https://www.instagram.com/amycthurman