MENGENAI EPISOD INI
Parenting half the time was not the plan. In this mini episode, my sister Pudding talks about what shared care and control actually feels like when you don't see your child every day: nesting, handovers, decisions you both have to agree on, and the one thing she'd tell a parent about to start.Pudding is a divorced mom of one with a shared care and control order, nearly two years in. This is one person's lived experience, not legal advice, and every family's arrangement is different.In this episode:- Why most of us never plan for a week without our child- How nesting turned into two days, three days, then a week at a time- What she does with the days she doesn't have her daughter- What happens when one parent wants the extracurricular and the other says "not on my time"- Why handovers work better for them when the parents never cross paths- The one thing she'd tell a parent starting out: don't take it personally// CHAPTERS00:00 The assumption nobody talks about01:14 What shared care and control actually means02:41 Co-parent vs counter-parent03:08 The thing she said that stuck with me04:04 When it hit that it wouldn't be every day06:47 Getting comfortable: nesting, two days, three days, a week09:04 Finding the beauty in the week without her11:31 Who makes the decisions13:02 Even good systems have hard mornings14:53 Extracurriculars and "not on my time"18:25 Handovers, uniforms and favourite toys20:47 Why the parents don't cross paths at handover22:28 The one thing she'd tell a parent starting out23:02 Don't take it personally25:06 Be kind to yourself: grace and space26:15 Wrapping up and what's next// RESOURCES🔥 Learn how you can achieve an Amicable Divorce with my free workshop: https://divorceatelier.com/amicable-workshop🔥 Get prepared for your upcoming mediation with the frameworks on communication and negotiation that work, whether your divorce is amicable or not: https://divorceatelier.com/mediation-arc
About Iman:Iman Ibrahim spent 19 years as a family lawyer in Singapore and England before founding The Divorce Atelier where she helps people navigate divorce with the decision-making, negotiation, and communication frameworks that actually move you forward. She's a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, mediator, parenting coach and hosts Divorce, Actually.Let's connect:Iman Ibrahim https://www.instagram.com/theimanibrahim/ Pudding ibrahim https://www.instagram.com/puddingibrahim/// DISCLAIMERThis podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not legal advice, and listening to it does not create a coach-client, lawyer-client, or therapeutic relationship. Divorce law and process vary by jurisdiction — nothing here substitutes for advice from a lawyer licensed where you live, or support from a licensed mental health professional. Guest views are their own.Keywords: amicable divorce, mutual agreement divorce, divorce by mutual agreement, divorce mediation, uncontested divorce, divorce without conflict, co-parenting after divorce, how to have an amicable divorce, divorce settlement process, divorce coach, family law, shared care and control, care and control, custody, Divorce Actually podcast, Iman Ibrahim
