HAVE YOU EVER BEEN GHOSTED? MEZ OF THE SPLENDID BOHEMIANS CONSULTS THE ORACLE ABOUT HOW TO DEAL WITH IT.

I CHING: GHOSTED

Wikipedia defines being “ghosted” as: “someone you are communicating with suddenly stops all contact and ignores your messages without giving any explanation.”

Have you ever been ghosted by a friend, lover, or family member? It’s a bad feeling. It can gnaw away at your ego and make you question your sense of reality. “What did I do to warrant this rude behavior?” Is it me or you? I mean, I could understand it if it were a new-ish relationship - it can be awkward, so better to let it go and move on. But, what if its a friendship of long standing? Doesn’t the rift deserve some honest dialogue, and be given a chance to repair itself? Perhaps, being generous, one might intuit that the recalcitrant person is going through some shit of their own - something personal and private. But, without an explanation, its impossible to know. 

So, instead of tearing myself apart trying to figure out what to do, I’ll ask the oracle: WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I’M BEING ‘GHOSTED’?

ANSWER:

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