Ming Leone Started the I Love You Foundation to Impact Mental Health in Her Community

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This episode of Bailey and Buck Unplugged is generously sponsored
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by Lynx Health Advisors, where health gets personal again. Visit lynxhealthadvisors.com.
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So that foundation is for mental health awareness. It's for
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children and parents. I have a lot of friends who
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do deal with depression, and I see how their depression
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can affect their children. So I created it for, you know,
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my smaller circle of friends and also the community. So
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if I can help them, then we can help the
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community together. So that was my mission and my goal.
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So a lot of things I do, I do it
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with mother and daughters.
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That's awesome.
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That's awesome that you even got the name I Love
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You Foundation.
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Welcome to Bailey and Buck Unplugged, where we talk about sports, entertainment,
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and mental health in support of the Kennedy Kids Foundation.
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If you're struggling with mental health, we encourage you to speak.
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Up and get help.
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A great place to start is 988. That's the free
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crisis prevention lifeline. Or you can check out the resources
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tab at KennedyKids.org if you are in an absolute emergency situation.
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Please dial 911. Either way, we want you to know
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that you are not alone and that you don't have
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to struggle and speak up, get help. There are resources
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available to you and we are here to support you.
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If you're new around here, I want to introduce you
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to our hosts. I am Missy Buck. I am an
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author and a mental health and performance coach. And my
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co-hosts are Robert Bailey. He is the president of Rosenhouse Sports,
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the president of Kennedy Kids Foundation, He's a two-time Super
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Bowl champion, two-time college national champion. He's an NFL record holder,
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and he's an ESPY winner. And we are also joined
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by Bailey Brooks-Masburn. She is a celebrity wedding and event planner,
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a former NFL cheerleader, and the executive director of the
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Kennedy Kids Foundation.
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Bailey and Buck Unplugged is back, and we are kicking
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off this season with someone who is bringing music, meaning,
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and a whole lot of heart to the conversation.
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She's a powerful rap artist, entrepreneur, and the founder of
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the I Love You Foundation. Using her voice not just
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to make music, but to spread a message of love, purpose,
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and connection. She's authentic, she's fearless, and she's got a
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story you're definitely going to want to hear. So turn
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it up because we are officially getting unplugged with the.
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Incredible Ming Leone. Ming, welcome to Bailey and Buck Unplugged.
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Welcome.
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So happy to have you here. Thank you for having me.
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Me.
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I'm excited.
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Oh, I'm glad you're excited and I'm so happy that
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you said yes and you get to meet my extended family.
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We usually like to kick off our mental health podcast
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with a question about your personal journey and when you
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experienced any distress or had an experience just with mental health.
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Your journey is very extensive and you can share with
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us whatever you feel like the audience should hear about you.
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Okay.
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So you're asking me when did I realize when the
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mental health triggered?
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Well, yeah.
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When did you have to have you ever encountered an
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issue with mental health?
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Has anything ever impacted.
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Your mental health? What would you like to share with
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us about? Well, for me, I feel like I might
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deal with it every day. I lost my mom when
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I was nine. So that's something, you know, for a
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young woman, that's hard.
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To pull up and deal with. Teach yourself how.
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To be a woman on a day to day basis.
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You know, so I feel like I'll deal with that
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maybe for the rest of my life.
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I know how to cope with it.
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You know what I mean?
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But I'm not sad.
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I'm not a victim. You know, some people take that
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and become a victim or have a victim personality.
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I don't have that. I'm grateful. I lived longer than
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she was able to. And yeah.
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Do you remember?
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Do you remember at nine years old? this mental state
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you were in when you lost your mom? Is that,
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you know what I'm saying? Like, was that, is that
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something that was traumatic for you?
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Well, at nine, you.
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Don't understand that.
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So when I was told I'm thinking she's coming back,
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you know what I mean? You don't understand what that
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really is. So that's what actually that's, I started writing.
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So at nine, you know, I'm thinking maybe she'll be
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back in a year or whatever, you know.
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What I mean?
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So I started writing poetry to her and, you know,
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just waiting for her to come and she never came. So,
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I don't remember my mental state. I just know I
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wasn't aware what death was, and I was just always
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waiting for her to come home.
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So what age did it hit you that, you know, hey,
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she's not coming back? What age did that happen?
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I don't know what age it was, but, I mean,
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every day, it's my reality. So I'm not sure of
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the actual age that it hit me, but, you know,
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it hits me every day, honestly.
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Right. It's obviously still affecting you.
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To this, obviously, to this day, that's trauma that a
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lot of people go through when, you know, you lose someone,
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no matter what age it manifests itself later on.
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And you got to identify, hey, wait a second.
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This could be because I never dealt with the loss
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of my mother or anything like that.
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You know what I mean? Similar.
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Have you thought about getting therapy because of that loss?
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I went to therapy.
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Well, definitely.
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I went to therapy. My grandmother, she raised me. She
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put me in therapy when I was young because I
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was very angry. Because I didn't understand. So she put
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me in therapy. Me and her went together. And that
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was very helpful. But it still didn't change. So I'm
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assuming that's why I am how I am.
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Like, I'm a bubbly person.
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I'm shy. But if you know me, I'm bubbly. And
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I'm not walking around like a Debbie Downer. Some people would.
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You know what I mean? I'm assuming it's because of
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the therapy.
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Or, you know, I don't know.
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Or maybe what I do. So for me, music is
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my therapy. You know, that's a tool for therapy for me,
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you know.
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And is that how you use, is that the tool
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that you use to cope with?
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Yes.
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I'll shop.
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I'll do my music. I'll travel.
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Yeah.
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But then it hits me.
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I can go get on the jet and go to
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Paris or whatever. I can't take my mom with me.
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So then, you know what I mean?
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So it's like, Violence, I guess.
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When did you realize you love music?
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When I got older, I always loved music. When I
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was young, I was writing poetry. I would write, like
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I said, I would write letters to my mom, you know.
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And I was always really good at it, but I
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didn't take it serious. So when I got older, my
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brother was like, you should do music because I have
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the lifestyle, I have the thing. Like, you know, I
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look like an artist. So he was like, you should
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really get into it and take it serious. And then
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I started. I started about three years ago.
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Which is amazing.
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But you, so, you know, our foundation, Kennedy Kids Foundation
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actually deals with teen mental health and teen suicide prevention.
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And so as a teen that struggled.
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With mental health, like it's, literally struggled with the losing
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your mom and that trauma you had to work through
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and going to therapy. What were your thoughts on therapy
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at the time? Do you recall how you felt about
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going to therapy?
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I was angry because I'm like, I don't need it.
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You don't know.
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You're a kid. You don't know what you need as
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a child. You know what I'm saying?
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So I was angry.
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I'm like, why am I going to this? But she
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made me and I'm so grateful that she did.
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So you can see now, like, do you still recall
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some of the therapy sessions now as you're older? Like,
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that there were tools that they gave you during therapy?
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If I remember not that good now, Bailey.
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Bye.
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None of us are as are. So you're in the
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same group.
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You're in the right group right now.
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But, no, I don't remember the tools that they gave
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me back then.
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But you're living in a more positive light and you
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seem to be like using tools because you say you
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remember every day. So then you're working through life, assuming
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that the tools came out of the therapy session.
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And that's why you're.
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Assuming or maybe what I've done or, you know what
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I mean?
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My own personal things I've done, maybe.
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I don't know. I'm just.
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I am grateful.
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So even.
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So my grandmother raised me.
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When my mom passed, I was going to go live
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with my... I wanted to live with my dad. And
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I'm grateful that I did. And my grandma took me.
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And she wasn't very... She's not like a lover girl.
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She's not affectionate because she never met her parents.
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She grew up in foster care, so she never saw that.
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You know what I mean?
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She never experienced it.
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So she wasn't affectionate. But she put me in so
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many activities. She put me in active school, etiquette classes.
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She put me in all the things that keep me creative,
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which was a blessing because it kept my mind going.
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And even to this day, you know what I mean?
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So I'm grateful for that. But she wasn't loving. She
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wasn't saying, I love you or, you know, how was
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your day? But she, you know, she kept me busy.
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So I feel like if I was with my dad,
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I would have had a different lifestyle.
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You know what I mean?
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Why do you feel you would have? Like, how do
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you know what that was? What that lifestyle would be
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like with your dad?
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I don't know. I didn't know then, but I know now.
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I didn't know back then, but I just know now that.
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Just all the things she did, even to a school system.
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She put me in all Catholic schools.
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Oh, wow.
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She just invested a lot of money into me, I
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would say. She didn't put a lot of time, like herself,
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like personal, like sit down with me, but she put
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a lot of money so I can have, you know.
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Them extracurricular activities that are important.
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Right.
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You know what I mean?
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She put me in acting classes, so I was able
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to do my own TV show. I had my own
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sitcom at one point. So, you know, all of those
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things that she instilled in me.
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Now I can carry on to this day.
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So.
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Question.
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Did she, did you, so did you still, were you
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still able to maintain some semblance of a relationship.
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With your father? Did you facilitate that even though you
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didn't get to go live with him because you wanted to?
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No, no.
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So, um, it's so interesting because he passed about 10
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years ago and I was always angry at him you
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know what I mean I was always angry like why
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you know because although I didn't come live with you
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why didn't you come you know step up or take
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me play whatever And we spoke when he was in
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the hospital.
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I went to go see him, right? Me being mature.
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Holding the grudge all the time.
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And I just asked him, I said, why weren't you around?
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And he was like, you know, you reminded me too
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much of your mom.
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I couldn't. So, you know, that was his excuse. And
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it may be true.
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You know what I'm saying?
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But it is what it is.
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I was able to talk to him, you know, his
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last days. And I am glad that I did. Because,
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you know, some people always sit around and wonder.
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Right.
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You got to ask the question. Yeah. Without that question.
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Answer to the best of his ability.
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Without that question, it could have been, your mental state
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could have been a lot different today.
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Because you got that question out and you got the
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answer no matter what the answer is.
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Whether I agree with it or not.
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I got the answer.
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It gave you, yeah, it gave you a conclusion.
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Mm-hmm.
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That's amazing.
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Well, I'm really sorry for the loss of both your parents, Ming.
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I'm sorry that you went through that. That's a very
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hard thing to do. I lost my dad in 2008
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and I'm not looking forward to losing my mom at
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all because it's just a very hard time in a
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person's life to go through loss at all.
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Period, of course.
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So I would love to segue to the I Love
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You Foundation that was created. And if you could tell
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us a little bit more about that foundation that you
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started and how You created it, what the mission is about.
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I think it has an alignment with Kennedy Kids that
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I'd love for everyone to know.
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The I Love You Foundation, I created it three years ago.
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I had a foundation prior, it was called the Luxury Foundation,
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but it was just a little too, you know.
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Right. The Luxury Foundation.
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Right, so I had to get.
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Luxury foundation. I was like, what's a luxury foundation? But
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I get it.
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Please shop.
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Yeah. Don't judge me. So I changed it to the
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I Love You Foundation because, you know, what we're lacking
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in the world and even in my community is love,
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you know. So I feel like that was more relatable
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and softer. So that foundation is for mental health awareness.
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It's for children and parents, right? I have a lot
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of friends who do deal with depression and I see
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how their depression can affect their children. So I created
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it for, you know, my smaller circle of friends and.
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Also the community.
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So if I can help them, then we can help
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the community together. So that was my mission and my goal.
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So a lot of things I do, I do it
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with mother and daughters.
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That's awesome.
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That's awesome that you even got the name I Love
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You Foundation. It just seems like something that someone else
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would have. But the fact that you've got the I
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Love You Foundation, that in itself is just.
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A beautiful name.
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Thank you.
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Yes.
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You also deal with women suffering from postpartum depression as well, correct?
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Yes.
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Yes.
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I love that aspect of your organization. And I thought
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you were such a great fit for our podcast and
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for our mission as well, because the alignment is mental health,
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which is totally.
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And so in your career.
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And sorry to interrupt you, but let's talk about postpartum,
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not even just postpartum, even.
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Being a woman, right?
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So we've talked about this.
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I recently dealt with fibroids, but that causes depression in women.
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You know what I mean?
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So there's so many things that we deal with on
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a daily basis that people may not know, the world
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don't know, but, you know, it can cause depression. So
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thank God we're like, you know, we don't look like
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what we've been through.
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Right.
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So and she actually is not making a joke. She
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just went through fibroid surgery. So she does not look
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like she's just been.
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Through a walk the next day.
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I had six fibroids and I didn't even know what
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was going on. But as a woman, you get insecure
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because you're gaining weight and you can't have children at
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that point because it's like taking over your uterus. So
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it's just so many things that women deal with.
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It's just like, whoo.
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Right. Well, you guys give birth to humankind. God made
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you strong.
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I know.
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You guys are special. I realize that. Yes.
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My whole foundation is almost 90 plus percent women.
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Okay.
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Lucky you.
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Yes, exactly. I'm smart.
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I'm done. That's funny. I'm sorry. I'm like, wait a minute.
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That's funny.
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That's not what I thought you were about to say,
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but that's funny.
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What was he about to say?
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I didn't know he was going to say 90% of
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his foundation is women. I thought he was going to
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drop some mental health statistic at that point.
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No, I'm just talking about.
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It was his mental health statistic.
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Exactly.
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So Ming is also a rap artist, and she's dropped
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a few videos, and she's.
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Got her music.
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And we're so excited that she said she would be
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our first host of our Halloween gala that we are
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partnering with for Giselle this year on 1029, which is
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super cool.
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But Ming, like.
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As an artist in the industry and breaking through the
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glass ceiling, like what sort of challenges do you encounter
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that challenge your mental health while you're working in that space?
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Because that's an environment I know nothing about.
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Well, nothing really triggers.
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My mental health because I live now like I live
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in a state where you can't control what you can't control.
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So I live a very soft life. So I don't
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let things bother me. The only issue is it's predominantly men.
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And men think women are a little slower than they
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are for some reason.
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So that's the only issue, like, you know, dealing.
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With marketers or people that think they can outsmart you. Like,
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I didn't get to where I am because I'm not brilliant.
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So that's the only thing.
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But I don't let it affect me because, you know,
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you can't control what you can't control. And I do
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believe everything is, you know, divine timing.
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Yeah.
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But I am.
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Putting a project out, my first full project on my
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mom's birthday this year is 11-11.
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So I'm excited for that. Oh, that's awesome.
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Yes. How much of it have you gotten done so far?
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It's done. Oh, it's done. Oh, you're ready.
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Yes, I'm done.
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Locked and loaded. That's exciting.
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Yeah, I just have to do the content.
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So I'm going to be working on that in the
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next two.
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To three weeks.
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You know, just videos, photos, things of that nature, but
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all of it. I actually have three done, but I'm just,
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you know, taking my time.
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OK, we got some exclusive information right here.
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I do.
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That's awesome.
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Yeah, it's dropping 1111. Mark your numbers.
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And what's the name?
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Leon by Ming.
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Leon by Ming. I like it.
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Thank you. I'm sure it was available.
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It's not, I'll buy it.
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100%.
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So what outfit are you planning to wear at the
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Halloween party?
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See how men are never satisfied?
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You got an exclusive tip, but you wanted.
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A more exclusive tip.
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I want more exclusive.
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Actually, that's pretty unusual.
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Most men I know don't ask follow-up questions. This is
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one of my husband's, like, fatal flaw. He comes home
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and he tells me, oh, so-and-so broke up.
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But why?
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I don't know.
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I didn't ask.
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So, Robert, I appreciate that question.
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That's the follow-up. Yeah. What is... What did I go for, Robert?
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What do you think?
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You know, you're glamorous, right? And you're pretty.
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So I'm assuming it's not going to be anything that
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really aligns with horror.
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No.
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And no mask. You have to see my face.
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Exactly. Exactly.
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It's probably going to be something along the lines of like.
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Maybe like Spider-Woman or something like that. Something where you
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wear something tight or exotic. You're just not coming with
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anything horror.
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No, no way.
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I don't ever look scary. I don't like Halloween, honestly.
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I don't like being scared. I don't like scary movies.
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But I'm coming out for Bailey and, you know.
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It's going to be an amazing, amazing Halloween party.
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I'm excited.
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We want to do every year annually to be like
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a consistent fundraiser. Giselle's been a great partner.
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I know you love.
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Giselle, which is one of my favorite restaurants as well.
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So the owner has been a sponsor of several of
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our events throughout the history of Kennedy Kids Foundation, which
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I don't know if you probably know Alan directly or
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one of your assistants does. So that's why we picked
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it to do it with him there because it's the
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perfect spot. And I thought you'd be the perfect host
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to kick off our first annual and.
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Go from there. I'm excited.
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Yes, let's do it.
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Yeah, but you can work a lot harder on your costume.
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You don't have to tell anybody what your costume is today.
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I really don't have a clue, though, honestly. Yeah, that's
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where I'm at. I was thinking about Poison Ivy.
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I don't know. That'll be different.
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I don't know.
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I gotta think.
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It's gonna be here before you know it.
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And you know, you girls, I could probably put together
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my outfit in a week.
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Are you gonna be Batman?
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No.
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No.
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No.
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Not going to be Batman. But my point is, I
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could probably put together.
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An outfit in a week.
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I'm assuming you guys need a good amount of time, right?
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No, it's kind of easy for us. We have the...
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first part.
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Right.
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It's going to be pretty easy for us.
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Daily, I think.
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I like scary, so when I come, I don't cheat.
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I don't like for anybody to know it's me. Halloween
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has always been one of my favorite holidays. Yeah, only
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just since as a kid because I love candy and I.
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Have a sugar tooth. I love candy.
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So I loved trick-or-treating, especially with my own kids. So
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every year I've made a huge deal out about Halloween
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and everybody gets full dressed up, full everything. And typically
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I like for people not to know it's me when
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I'm standing in front of them.
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So that's me.
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The lengths at which I'm willing to go for our
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Halloween party. So I'm looking forward to planning something great,
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but I need at least like three weeks just to
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ship the stuff I.
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Need to put together.
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Yeah.
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No, you can look cute. You're the host, but anyway,
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to mental health went off the deep end on our
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next fundraiser event. But, um, Misty is, uh, life coach
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for athletes and is in this space. So, Misty, do
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you have any questions for our beautiful Ming Leon?
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Of course I have questions.
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First of all, cheers.
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I have sparkling water, but.
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Something told me to put it in a wine glass.
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Get the memo.
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Bailey's jealous over there. I know she is.
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I was just thinking that.
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When she said I didn't get the memo, I was like, okay,
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that was the cue for, hey, why didn't you tell me?
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FOMO, fair missing out.
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Always, always.
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We'll do it moving forward, Bailey.
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That'll be our thing.
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So Ming, of course, I want to thank you for
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your time and being here.
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And I love so much.
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There's so much I want to unpack about what you're
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saying and you have shared so far.
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But I love your ability.
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To have just this joyful bubbly, as you said, you have.
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This confidence about you.
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And I can really tell that that self-love and self-empowerment
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seems to be such a big part of just who
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you are naturally, like who you have just become in
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your life. And through your organization or when you're supporting
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women through postpartum or mothers and daughters or whatever it is,
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know self-love is something that we can struggle with a
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lot i think especially younger in our teenage years we're
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battling so many things that will make us look at
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ourselves and then as we get older right as moms
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like your life completely changes everything everything changes so that
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self-love part is really hard because now you're had this
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other expectation of what it is to be a mom
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right and so by doing a good enough job is
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always on my back of my mind So how do
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you encourage women? How do you take that natural, bubbly, self-loving,
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brilliant energy that you have and really help the women
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in your foundation do the same?
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First off, no one's perfect and nothing is perfect.
551
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I used to be an.
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Overthinker back in my day. So I really just sit
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there and talk to them and tell them, you know,
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you could be whoever you want to be.
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They could be whoever.
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But the most important part is you got to have
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the confidence and they have to see it in you first. Like,
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you know what I mean? Like, for instance, I have
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a friend and she's like, oh, she wants to steal
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certain things of her.
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Child or her children. She has two children. And I'm like,
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they have to see it in you first.
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So I actively, you know, try to help them build
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up their confidence first.
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Like you can't they're watching you.
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They're a sponge.
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You can't bring them to me or, you know, have
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them around me and think they're going to have my life,
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you know, or have my confidence because they're around you
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most of the time. So, you know, just encouraging them.
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you know, to love yourself, you know, every day is
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going to be better than, you know, the day before.
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You just have to be, there's nothing you can do.
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Your life is your life and you just have to
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find your confidence however you can. You know, how I
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found mine may not be how you find yours, but
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you have to find it some way, especially if you
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have children. I don't have any children yet, but hopefully
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once I do, you know, I'll be even more confident
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and I'm able to instill those things in them.
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So.
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I love that.
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But do you let me ask you, do you feel
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pressure to come off as confident at all times? You
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said nobody is perfect and you're going to have days
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that aren't necessarily great that are great. So you don't
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like as a role model to them, like I have
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to always be.
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No, I'm if I have to cry, I cry.
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I don't hold things in.
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You know what I mean?
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I'm not.
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No, not at all. I'm very much like.
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Transparent as I can be you know what I'm saying
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I don't ever feel pressured to be confident at all
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no because I know no one is confident you know
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all the time no they're just not realistic so.
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Right right right right I think that's really go ahead
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Robert no.
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I was just saying that's that's interesting how open and
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transparent you are and I'm just thinking you know usually
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when when someone starts a foundation, there's something or reason
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that causes them to start the foundation.
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Me, obviously, I lost my daughter. People who do.
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Cancer foundation charity, someone in their family. What made you
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start the I Love You Foundation? What is it that
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drove you to say, I need.
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To do this?
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Well, definitely me losing my mom, but mental health runs
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in my family. So, and I see it, you know,
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I see how it passes down from mother to daughter.
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So that's really what made me start. Like I see
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it in my eye and how it passed down to
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her children.
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So that's the experience that you have.
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Right. That was my experience.
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And I have friends and I see how they're depressed
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and their children watching me depressed and crying. And it's like,
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but you're depressed over a guy like, you know, I'm
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not saying that you can't be. But, you know, I'm
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not walking like I'm not crying. I lost my parents.
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Like that's ultimate.
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You know what I mean?
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So it's so that's like just me experiencing within my
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friend group, my family and knowing that, you know, at
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some point, statistically, everyone will experience mental health.
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Everybody will experience. Sorry.
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Sorry.
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Lauren, everyone will experience some type of mental health in
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their life.
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So a hundred percent, everyone, a hundred percent.
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And that's, and that's why I named it the, I
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love you founder. Cause everyone needs love.
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And that's what a lot of people are lacking.
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Like even when I did, I did a vision board
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party with moms and daughters, or I did different things.
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Like I went around the groups and talk to different people,
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like in schools, like what is it? I know it's
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the juveniles when they get arrested.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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Yes. I know someone who runs, she's like the social
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worker there.
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And me and her was talking and she was like, yeah,
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a lot of them.
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I actually had her come on my show and talk about,
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you know, what, why, like when she talks to the children,
648
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you know, why do they do certain things? And they say,
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my mom don't tell me she loves me. My mom
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don't hug me. So it's so much lack of love
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in the world.
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So, you know, that's basically why.
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I think there's a big, I think there's a sad.
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Yeah.
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I think there's a big disconnect between the.
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Age groups.
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Like my mom and a lot of friends that I know,
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their parents that are, you know, my friends that are
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my age and their parents, yeah, they grew up during
660
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a time where, you know, we're in the streets, we're playing.
661
00:27:19.869 --> 00:27:22.210
It wasn't like, I love you so much.
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You know what I mean?
663
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It was like tough love, like, Come home before the
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lights are on, go to school, go to bed, boy.
665
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You know what I mean? Go to football practice.
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Whatever the case may be, but it wasn't really lovey-dovey.
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Hey, I love you.
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00:27:36.930 --> 00:27:39.970
No, I was like, listen, the food's on the stove.
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Get the food. You know what I mean?
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But now, I think a lot of parents are trying
671
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to be more loving, right? But the parents that are
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our age, and I think because... They look back on
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their life and they say, I didn't get this. Let
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me do it this way. And then, you know what
675
00:28:02.789 --> 00:28:06.119
I mean? You get two different parenting aspects.
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00:28:06.859 --> 00:28:07.960
Which is a blessing, though.
677
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You realize what you didn't get and what you lacked.
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Because some people don't realize that.
679
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You know what I'm saying?
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Exactly.
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But the flip side is a lot of kids are
682
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getting that, but that along with technology and everything, our
683
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:34.099
suicide rate is still up. It's higher. Mental health, all
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00:28:34.140 --> 00:28:40.420
the issues that kids are having is up. It's incredible.
685
00:28:40.440 --> 00:28:43.960
It's an epidemic now. Back in the day when parents
686
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weren't saying that, but obviously we didn't have the technology.
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We didn't have social media where we knew what was
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going on everywhere our friends were. Back in the day,
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we just knew what was going on from as far
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as we could see. And if we got the opportunity
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to get on the phone with that long wire, that
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00:29:03.900 --> 00:29:07.559
long cord on it, we got a chance. And when
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00:29:07.579 --> 00:29:09.529
we did get a chance, our parents would be like,
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you got five more minutes, get off that phone.
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00:29:12.210 --> 00:29:13.730
So you didn't.
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00:29:13.529 --> 00:29:16.700
Have an opportunity to bring all of the other your friends,
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all their problems into your life or what you see
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or what, you know, it's just a different, it was
699
00:29:22.180 --> 00:29:23.980
just a different time.
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You know?
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00:29:25.509 --> 00:29:28.029
So I love your, you know, the I Love You
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Project and it's 100% needed. And I hope one day
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00:29:33.410 --> 00:29:35.970
we can collaborate and do something together.
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00:29:36.509 --> 00:29:37.049
Definitely.
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00:29:37.109 --> 00:29:37.730
I'm interested.
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00:29:38.509 --> 00:29:39.150
Oh, go ahead.
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00:29:40.160 --> 00:29:44.059
Love the Kennedy Kids Foundation also. Y'all are doing amazing work.
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00:29:44.579 --> 00:29:46.960
I love the 5K that you guys just did.
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Hopefully next year you can come down and speak and
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talk on the stage.
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00:29:52.150 --> 00:29:52.910
Definitely.
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Maybe perform a song.
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00:29:57.299 --> 00:29:58.319
Rob is reaching.
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00:29:59.259 --> 00:30:00.799
Definitely, though.
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I got you. I got to ask. I got you
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00:30:02.579 --> 00:30:03.339
right here, you know.
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00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:08.369
Close mouth, don't get fat.
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00:30:08.430 --> 00:30:13.049
Maybe I'm asking her like, you know, we're in high school.
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00:30:13.589 --> 00:30:15.309
Come perform at my house party.
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00:30:15.450 --> 00:30:20.779
Okay, ask away. I think it'd be better if she
721
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performed at Giselle, though, but yeah.
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But anyways.
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00:30:26.089 --> 00:30:29.069
Funny um misty you had a question.
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For her sorry no i just was saying i was
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00:30:30.730 --> 00:30:33.109
just making an observation with what you we've been talking
726
00:30:33.150 --> 00:30:36.049
about here and i it it really sounds like you
727
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know and when i'm coaching people we do a lot
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of kind of stepping back and looking at the whole
729
00:30:43.240 --> 00:30:46.380
the whole situation and really like the theme it sounds
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00:30:46.400 --> 00:30:48.539
like that we're talking about is that love is an
731
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action word and so People can show love in different ways.
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00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:56.539
It's a lot from someone saying like, oh, I love you, right?
733
00:30:56.759 --> 00:30:59.099
Talking and doing are two very different things. So if
734
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you have somebody who's saying I love you, but they're
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00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:03.539
always on their phone or they're not prioritizing you or
736
00:31:03.579 --> 00:31:05.380
this or that, you're not going to feel loved even
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00:31:05.400 --> 00:31:07.319
though the words are coming out of their mouth. Maybe
738
00:31:07.339 --> 00:31:11.059
they're not saying to you, I love you, but they're
739
00:31:11.400 --> 00:31:12.539
putting you in acting classes.
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00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:14.579
They're putting you in this school. They're making sure.
741
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That you're fed.
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00:31:15.990 --> 00:31:17.599
They're making sure that this is taken care of.
743
00:31:17.599 --> 00:31:19.839
So, you know, like maybe they're not saying it, but
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00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:21.859
you feel in your heart that you are loved and
745
00:31:21.880 --> 00:31:24.259
you are a priority to that person. And I think
746
00:31:24.359 --> 00:31:28.079
that that's that that's so important, such an important piece
747
00:31:29.690 --> 00:31:31.930
of what it means to love. And it just was
748
00:31:32.190 --> 00:31:33.430
I don't know, it just was it just was an
749
00:31:33.470 --> 00:31:36.190
observation that I was making because being here, you are
750
00:31:36.230 --> 00:31:39.410
you taking action to do that through your foundation?
751
00:31:39.430 --> 00:31:40.299
And I think that's amazing.
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00:31:40.990 --> 00:31:42.750
And my grandmother just said to me the other day
753
00:31:42.789 --> 00:31:44.309
on the phone, well, her birthday was, like, a.
754
00:31:44.269 --> 00:31:44.990
Couple weeks ago.
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00:31:45.329 --> 00:31:48.009
And she was like, I'm so grateful your mom left
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00:31:48.069 --> 00:31:50.710
you with me. She was like, I'm so blessed. Like,
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00:31:50.750 --> 00:31:52.829
I didn't realize when it, you know, first happened. Because,
758
00:31:52.869 --> 00:31:55.250
of course, you lost a child. And that was her
759
00:31:55.450 --> 00:31:58.170
first child. And they were very close. Like, they grew
760
00:31:58.250 --> 00:31:59.869
up together. You know, you had that first child that
761
00:31:59.890 --> 00:32:02.130
you grew up with and go through so much with.
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00:32:02.569 --> 00:32:05.480
So she was like, um. She was like, I'm so grateful.
763
00:32:05.500 --> 00:32:07.349
I didn't realize it in time, but she was like,
764
00:32:07.369 --> 00:32:09.779
you know, because there's so much going on, but.
765
00:32:09.640 --> 00:32:12.609
I'm so grateful. Like, you're such a blessing. I'm like, oh,
766
00:32:12.609 --> 00:32:13.650
that was such a compliment.
767
00:32:15.730 --> 00:32:19.509
Oh, that's a huge compliment. And I was about to
768
00:32:19.630 --> 00:32:22.730
ask if your grandmother was still with you. So I'm glad. Yes,
769
00:32:22.769 --> 00:32:24.109
we're very close, actually.
770
00:32:24.470 --> 00:32:27.569
And now she's so, she's so affectionate now, which is
771
00:32:27.609 --> 00:32:28.809
so interesting.
772
00:32:29.230 --> 00:32:30.410
But it's fine.
773
00:32:30.430 --> 00:32:34.289
She's like, I love you. You're so pretty. It's so crazy, right?
774
00:32:34.309 --> 00:32:36.769
Because I had my dad's nose, right? So when I
775
00:32:36.789 --> 00:32:38.450
was young, my girl was like, I'm giving you a
776
00:32:38.490 --> 00:32:42.519
nose job. So I went to my dad and I
777
00:32:42.519 --> 00:32:44.380
was like, my grandma's giving me a nose job. I
778
00:32:44.400 --> 00:32:47.940
was excited. I'm like 10 or 11. And I'm telling
779
00:32:47.980 --> 00:32:50.779
her now, that's not okay.
780
00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:51.119
Right.
781
00:32:53.150 --> 00:32:55.089
I don't think he liked your daddy very much.
782
00:32:56.029 --> 00:32:58.230
He was very annoyed. He was like, because I had
783
00:32:58.269 --> 00:32:58.690
his nose.
784
00:32:58.730 --> 00:33:01.089
Can you imagine? So he was like, no, she's not.
785
00:33:01.109 --> 00:33:02.269
I'm like, yes, yes, she is.
786
00:33:02.289 --> 00:33:02.869
I'm excited.
787
00:33:03.089 --> 00:33:03.309
Right.
788
00:33:03.970 --> 00:33:06.009
So I'm telling my grandma, this was a couple years ago.
789
00:33:06.039 --> 00:33:07.019
I was like, you said you were giving.
790
00:33:06.920 --> 00:33:07.539
Me a nose job.
791
00:33:07.559 --> 00:33:07.900
What happened?
792
00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:09.759
I'm playing with her now, though. She was like, you
793
00:33:09.779 --> 00:33:10.880
have the cutest nose.
794
00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:11.819
You grew into it.
795
00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:12.859
I was like, what?
796
00:33:12.900 --> 00:33:16.480
But that affects a child's, you know, insecurity.
797
00:33:16.500 --> 00:33:16.579
Yeah.
798
00:33:19.150 --> 00:33:21.769
Yeah, because they start worrying about their nose and being
799
00:33:21.789 --> 00:33:22.740
self-conscious about it.
800
00:33:22.750 --> 00:33:24.710
The things you can laugh about now, but back then,
801
00:33:24.809 --> 00:33:25.369
I'm like.
802
00:33:26.210 --> 00:33:26.950
Okay, when?
803
00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:29.660
That's funny.
804
00:33:29.900 --> 00:33:34.720
That's a funny, you know, what Misty said, because my
805
00:33:34.819 --> 00:33:38.299
mom was, as I mentioned, she didn't tell us that
806
00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:42.160
she loved us, but somehow I just knew that she.
807
00:33:42.089 --> 00:33:43.140
Was in love with us.
808
00:33:43.490 --> 00:33:47.589
You know, just through all the spankings and the yellings
809
00:33:47.950 --> 00:33:53.670
and you know, making sure I was doing everything with schoolwork.
810
00:33:53.849 --> 00:33:57.539
Like my mom was like that typical Jamaican lady that
811
00:33:57.579 --> 00:33:59.619
would beat me with the belt.
812
00:33:59.720 --> 00:34:00.420
And then when I'm.
813
00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:02.980
Walking away, throw the shoe at me in the back
814
00:34:03.019 --> 00:34:05.140
of the head. But I still.
815
00:34:06.359 --> 00:34:09.179
Knew that she loved the mess out of me.
816
00:34:09.659 --> 00:34:10.000
Yeah.
817
00:34:10.079 --> 00:34:13.719
And I tell her a lot now. I tell her
818
00:34:13.739 --> 00:34:15.610
a lot. Hey, mom, I love you. And I make,
819
00:34:15.650 --> 00:34:17.269
I said, tell me you love me back.
820
00:34:17.409 --> 00:34:21.000
I force her. Right? And then she tells me. And
821
00:34:21.039 --> 00:34:21.980
I can tell it's still a.
822
00:34:21.980 --> 00:34:25.829
Little awkward, but I know that lady loves me to death.
823
00:34:26.349 --> 00:34:26.510
Right.
824
00:34:26.570 --> 00:34:28.590
And she probably didn't experience that either. You know what
825
00:34:28.610 --> 00:34:29.050
I mean?
826
00:34:29.110 --> 00:34:30.909
That's my point. A hundred percent.
827
00:34:30.969 --> 00:34:33.150
People only know what they know.
828
00:34:33.210 --> 00:34:33.489
Right.
829
00:34:33.530 --> 00:34:33.789
So.
830
00:34:33.909 --> 00:34:36.070
As long as you're telling your kids you love.
831
00:34:35.889 --> 00:34:36.989
Them, you know, we got to.
832
00:34:37.050 --> 00:34:38.659
Right. You know?
833
00:34:38.949 --> 00:34:41.219
And you don't know what people went through when they
834
00:34:41.260 --> 00:34:42.800
were young. You don't know their trauma.
835
00:34:43.239 --> 00:34:43.460
Right.
836
00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:45.739
And I think, you know, a lot... We have to be.
837
00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:51.429
more compassionate with our parents and the people who raised us.
838
00:34:51.710 --> 00:34:55.489
And instead of pointing fingers at parents or, you know,
839
00:34:56.130 --> 00:35:00.150
you got to just take into consideration that what did
840
00:35:00.190 --> 00:35:00.929
they go through?
841
00:35:01.050 --> 00:35:04.679
What was happening in their life? You know, what was their...
842
00:35:05.500 --> 00:35:07.519
It may not have anything to do with you.
843
00:35:07.599 --> 00:35:11.380
You were just a product of the trauma that they
844
00:35:11.420 --> 00:35:12.500
went through, right?
845
00:35:12.519 --> 00:35:14.800
This is true, right. And then when you're young, you
846
00:35:14.820 --> 00:35:15.239
don't realize.
847
00:35:15.260 --> 00:35:18.179
But now I'm like, I understand. You never you were
848
00:35:18.199 --> 00:35:21.599
never told you that anyone loved you. So I understand.
849
00:35:21.619 --> 00:35:23.719
But I tell myself every day.
850
00:35:25.579 --> 00:35:27.380
And even my friend the other day, she was like,
851
00:35:27.440 --> 00:35:29.280
you are your mom's wildest dreams.
852
00:35:29.320 --> 00:35:31.619
Like that was such a compliment to me.
853
00:35:31.659 --> 00:35:32.360
You know what I mean?
854
00:35:32.780 --> 00:35:35.099
So things like that, like the things that make me
855
00:35:35.159 --> 00:35:38.730
happy now, you know, is just like. Like, I unintentionally
856
00:35:38.789 --> 00:35:41.369
grew a pumpkin patch outside my house, and that just
857
00:35:41.389 --> 00:35:41.690
makes me.
858
00:35:42.070 --> 00:35:43.780
It brings me so much joy.
859
00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:46.760
How did you... Wait a sec. Were you throwing the
860
00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:48.460
seeds out the window, and then it just.
861
00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:51.940
No, I decorate every season, and I guess one of
862
00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:54.320
the pumpkins must have fell, like, in the, you know,
863
00:35:54.420 --> 00:35:55.400
on the side of my house.
864
00:35:55.480 --> 00:35:57.440
And maybe a squirrel ate it. I don't know, but
865
00:35:57.519 --> 00:35:59.110
it's such a beautiful pumpkin patch.
866
00:35:59.159 --> 00:35:59.889
And I'm like.
867
00:36:00.199 --> 00:36:02.329
Like, the things that bring me joy.
868
00:36:01.949 --> 00:36:02.809
Now, it just, like.
869
00:36:03.190 --> 00:36:04.369
That's hilarious.
870
00:36:04.849 --> 00:36:07.190
I bet if I tried to grow a pumpkin patch,
871
00:36:07.289 --> 00:36:08.010
it wouldn't happen.
872
00:36:08.349 --> 00:36:10.909
Yours just fell off of something into the ground, and
873
00:36:10.949 --> 00:36:12.949
now you've got this beautiful pumpkin patch.
874
00:36:12.969 --> 00:36:16.480
Beautiful patch, just like, I said, wow, you know?
875
00:36:16.519 --> 00:36:18.900
Do you have siblings?
876
00:36:19.400 --> 00:36:21.440
Yes. Not on my mom's side. I'm the only child
877
00:36:21.460 --> 00:36:23.500
on my mom's side. I have an older brother and
878
00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:26.639
sister on my dad's side. And a younger, actually a
879
00:36:26.679 --> 00:36:30.599
younger sister that I recently found out about off of Ancestry.com.
880
00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:35.500
What? Yep. Are you, did you meet her yet?
881
00:36:36.139 --> 00:36:38.539
I met her a couple, about like five years ago.
882
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:41.800
You were excited. Were you excited to meet her? How
883
00:36:41.820 --> 00:36:42.559
was those feelings?
884
00:36:43.500 --> 00:36:45.280
Okay, to be honest, at first I was like, I
885
00:36:45.300 --> 00:36:46.119
don't have any sisters.
886
00:36:46.139 --> 00:36:48.949
So my grandmother, like I said, she was, well, she
887
00:36:48.969 --> 00:36:50.610
was brought up in foster care.
888
00:36:50.630 --> 00:36:52.429
She never met her family.
889
00:36:52.650 --> 00:36:55.230
When she was younger, yeah, she was put into foster care.
890
00:36:55.250 --> 00:36:57.429
So her whole life she's been on Ancestry trying to
891
00:36:57.469 --> 00:36:58.289
find clues.
892
00:36:59.070 --> 00:37:01.150
So she had all of us do a DNA test,
893
00:37:01.190 --> 00:37:02.300
my aunt, my uncle, my cousin.
894
00:37:02.320 --> 00:37:04.699
We all did like a DNA test just to see,
895
00:37:05.219 --> 00:37:08.460
you know, guess who our relatives are. And me, I
896
00:37:08.480 --> 00:37:09.380
don't care at this point.
897
00:37:09.420 --> 00:37:09.760
I don't know.
898
00:37:09.780 --> 00:37:12.320
I know who I know, whatever. But she put her
899
00:37:12.340 --> 00:37:14.719
results on there. My sister reached out to her. And
900
00:37:14.739 --> 00:37:18.360
she was like, what's your granddaughter's dad name? I think
901
00:37:18.409 --> 00:37:22.429
we have the same father. But listen to how mental.
902
00:37:22.190 --> 00:37:22.929
Health is, right?
903
00:37:23.309 --> 00:37:26.969
Her mom... She's one year younger than me. Her mom
904
00:37:27.010 --> 00:37:30.280
named her after, like, very close, right, to my name.
905
00:37:31.019 --> 00:37:31.199
And.
906
00:37:33.460 --> 00:37:34.000
Very close.
907
00:37:34.340 --> 00:37:35.360
And her, um.
908
00:37:37.300 --> 00:37:39.960
And her mom didn't tell her who her dad was
909
00:37:40.139 --> 00:37:40.980
until she was 18.
910
00:37:40.980 --> 00:37:41.639
Oh.
911
00:37:43.420 --> 00:37:45.260
So that's what made her go in ancestry. That's how
912
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:47.489
we found each other. But we're very close, very similar.
913
00:37:47.550 --> 00:37:49.650
It's so funny. Like, can we talk about, like, how
914
00:37:49.730 --> 00:37:51.739
old we have been? We would have grew up together, but.
915
00:37:51.769 --> 00:37:56.130
Right. Right. How was that on your mental health when
916
00:37:56.170 --> 00:37:57.090
you went through all that?
917
00:37:57.690 --> 00:38:00.150
Well, my grandma told me I wasn't interested because I'm like,
918
00:38:00.269 --> 00:38:02.150
I don't know. I'm like attached to my mom so
919
00:38:02.190 --> 00:38:05.190
much because he obviously, we were one year apart and.
920
00:38:05.130 --> 00:38:05.889
He was with my mom.
921
00:38:05.929 --> 00:38:08.139
So I'm like, I don't have a sister. At first,
922
00:38:08.179 --> 00:38:09.960
I'm like, no, thank you. I'm not interested.
923
00:38:10.340 --> 00:38:12.900
And she lived in New York and she messaged me
924
00:38:12.960 --> 00:38:14.019
on Instagram or whatever.
925
00:38:14.039 --> 00:38:15.920
So I'm like, I'm not interested.
926
00:38:16.019 --> 00:38:18.030
But once I was in New York and something just
927
00:38:18.050 --> 00:38:19.139
came over me, I reached out.
928
00:38:19.159 --> 00:38:20.409
So I was like, yeah, I'm in New York. Let's
929
00:38:20.429 --> 00:38:20.889
have dinner.
930
00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:22.239
Oh, wow.
931
00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:23.320
Yeah, and it was cool.
932
00:38:23.579 --> 00:38:25.280
And now you got a good relationship.
933
00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:27.179
Yeah, yeah, we have a good relationship.
934
00:38:27.300 --> 00:38:30.639
That is wild, but I understand.
935
00:38:30.659 --> 00:38:33.719
It's wild from the perspective of I didn't meet my
936
00:38:33.840 --> 00:38:38.400
older sister until I was 30. Okay. I found out
937
00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:41.440
I had an older brother and sister when I was
938
00:38:41.679 --> 00:38:44.929
really young. So my mom, who was raised in the
939
00:38:45.030 --> 00:38:48.429
bushes of Trinidad, and when I say bush, I mean
940
00:38:48.510 --> 00:38:50.250
bush because I went and looked at it when I
941
00:38:50.289 --> 00:38:52.510
was 30, and it's actual bush, like the height of
942
00:38:52.579 --> 00:38:52.960
my head.
943
00:38:53.059 --> 00:38:55.420
When she used to say.
944
00:38:55.280 --> 00:38:56.920
It, I thought she was exaggerating that she was in
945
00:38:57.280 --> 00:38:57.679
the bushes.
946
00:38:58.199 --> 00:39:00.780
But no, I went and she was not lying.
947
00:39:01.380 --> 00:39:03.659
The way she described it was what it still looked
948
00:39:03.719 --> 00:39:04.989
like at 30.
949
00:39:04.989 --> 00:39:06.170
And so I can't imagine.
950
00:39:05.909 --> 00:39:07.889
What it had looked like 30 years before that. So
951
00:39:07.929 --> 00:39:10.289
going back to tying into what Robert said about our
952
00:39:10.329 --> 00:39:12.789
parents with like a belt and a shoe at your
953
00:39:12.809 --> 00:39:14.869
head while you're walking away, like that's how my mom
954
00:39:14.909 --> 00:39:15.530
raised me too.
955
00:39:15.570 --> 00:39:18.170
But she didn't know what she didn't know. Like she
956
00:39:18.210 --> 00:39:19.380
didn't have the parenting.
957
00:39:19.409 --> 00:39:22.440
She escaped family when she was 15 and it was
958
00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:27.280
super abusive and type of upbringing. And so I have
959
00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:30.400
an older siblings that were products of rape and so
960
00:39:30.440 --> 00:39:32.829
when my mom left she left them like because she
961
00:39:32.869 --> 00:39:35.829
wasn't raising them they were children that were produced as
962
00:39:35.869 --> 00:39:39.900
a result of that scenario And then so by people
963
00:39:39.940 --> 00:39:40.980
she doesn't even know.
964
00:39:41.420 --> 00:39:44.760
And so they were raised by other members of her family.
965
00:39:44.940 --> 00:39:47.940
And so when I turned, when I was in seventh grade,
966
00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:49.780
I remember my mom telling us that we had a
967
00:39:49.820 --> 00:39:52.099
brother and a sister that were older than me. Now
968
00:39:52.139 --> 00:39:54.559
that messed with me because I was raised as the oldest.
969
00:39:54.639 --> 00:39:56.619
The whole time I thought I was the oldest. And
970
00:39:56.639 --> 00:39:59.929
then come to find out I'm the middle child, like they're... Like,
971
00:39:59.949 --> 00:40:04.070
you know, so she brought my brother down and my
972
00:40:04.110 --> 00:40:06.710
brother really messed up. He tried to abuse me and
973
00:40:06.750 --> 00:40:09.949
my three younger sisters. So she sent him back away
974
00:40:09.989 --> 00:40:11.150
and then she never talked to.
975
00:40:11.130 --> 00:40:11.929
My older sister.
976
00:40:11.969 --> 00:40:14.690
And then when I was 27, she, I, and I
977
00:40:14.730 --> 00:40:17.760
lived in Miami and cause the beginning I was living
978
00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:21.619
in Canada. My uncle brought my sister to Florida and
979
00:40:21.639 --> 00:40:23.500
my mom told me she was here and we all
980
00:40:24.019 --> 00:40:27.139
like collaborated. All my sisters and I collaborated to meet her.
981
00:40:27.159 --> 00:40:30.289
And when I saw her, I just about died because
982
00:40:30.570 --> 00:40:33.559
my whole life I struggled with how I looked because
983
00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:36.119
I always looked like my dad had adopted me or
984
00:40:36.159 --> 00:40:38.880
my mom had adopted me because of being of a
985
00:40:39.179 --> 00:40:41.019
German father and a Trinidadian mother.
986
00:40:41.039 --> 00:40:42.800
I didn't like either of them.
987
00:40:43.219 --> 00:40:46.809
And so when we met her, she looks exactly like
988
00:40:46.889 --> 00:40:49.309
my mother. And I cried my eyes out because I
989
00:40:49.369 --> 00:40:50.889
never got to look like my mom.
990
00:40:50.909 --> 00:40:51.510
Yeah.
991
00:40:52.659 --> 00:40:54.840
She did the whole time and she wasn't with us.
992
00:40:54.940 --> 00:40:57.610
And it was like a really hard thing to process.
993
00:40:57.639 --> 00:41:00.090
And so I can't imagine meeting your sister for the
994
00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:03.590
first time, but also only finding out like as recent
995
00:41:03.650 --> 00:41:06.030
as you did and then getting to meet her quickly.
996
00:41:06.110 --> 00:41:09.389
Like it was, that's, that's, that does something to you,
997
00:41:09.710 --> 00:41:11.789
you know? And, but I still operate as the oldest
998
00:41:11.829 --> 00:41:14.610
child because no one's ever been in the household ahead
999
00:41:14.650 --> 00:41:15.869
of me, you know?
1000
00:41:15.969 --> 00:41:16.550
Yeah.
1001
00:41:17.389 --> 00:41:18.590
I'm the youngest on my day.
1002
00:41:18.610 --> 00:41:25.130
Well, I was, and now she's the youngest. Whatever.
1003
00:41:25.489 --> 00:41:27.369
And you know that the baby never likes.
1004
00:41:28.849 --> 00:41:31.030
Any attention taking away from them when they're the baby
1005
00:41:31.269 --> 00:41:31.909
until they find out.
1006
00:41:31.869 --> 00:41:34.510
They're not the baby anymore. I'll always be the baby.
1007
00:41:34.530 --> 00:41:36.650
It's incredible.
1008
00:41:36.690 --> 00:41:38.550
Everybody's family has like.
1009
00:41:38.369 --> 00:41:41.829
These stories that we didn't talk about.
1010
00:41:42.349 --> 00:41:47.409
Everybody's family has these stories and we're on here today
1011
00:41:47.429 --> 00:41:52.110
and there's probably so many more stories we still don't know.
1012
00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:57.159
But it's like, when do you find out what age
1013
00:41:57.239 --> 00:42:00.909
are you? How did it affect you? You know, is
1014
00:42:01.050 --> 00:42:03.869
it better that you just, you shouldn't have found out?
1015
00:42:04.030 --> 00:42:05.289
You know what I mean? Like, how does it affect
1016
00:42:05.309 --> 00:42:05.849
your mental health?
1017
00:42:05.889 --> 00:42:08.690
How does it affect your relationship with whoever the party
1018
00:42:08.730 --> 00:42:10.110
is of the people, right?
1019
00:42:10.139 --> 00:42:11.320
Is it your mom, your dad?
1020
00:42:11.659 --> 00:42:14.440
All these different stories and things that people go, like,
1021
00:42:14.460 --> 00:42:18.860
we're talking about what we've been through now, but there's
1022
00:42:18.880 --> 00:42:23.239
going to be generations and generations in the future. that
1023
00:42:23.849 --> 00:42:27.309
aren't gonna know how you met your sister right not
1024
00:42:27.329 --> 00:42:30.489
gonna understand your story baby but but they're gonna be
1025
00:42:30.570 --> 00:42:33.510
our family you know what i mean and so they're
1026
00:42:33.530 --> 00:42:36.380
not gonna know what your mental health was you know
1027
00:42:36.409 --> 00:42:39.159
what traumas you had and they're gonna be going through
1028
00:42:39.199 --> 00:42:43.800
their traumas you know and it could be heavenly's kids
1029
00:42:43.980 --> 00:42:46.880
or my kids kids you know where's the grandparent and
1030
00:42:47.400 --> 00:42:49.639
and so forth and so on and and they'll just
1031
00:42:49.989 --> 00:42:53.909
they'll just stop at heavenly right and as in terms
1032
00:42:53.989 --> 00:42:57.650
of like being, heavily being a mother, right? Or the
1033
00:42:57.889 --> 00:43:01.090
grandmother or the great-grandmother who's gone and they don't know
1034
00:43:01.150 --> 00:43:02.030
that side.
1035
00:43:02.050 --> 00:43:04.769
So it's just so much out there.
1036
00:43:04.789 --> 00:43:05.570
So much to unpack.
1037
00:43:06.269 --> 00:43:07.750
Yes, a lot to unpack.
1038
00:43:07.949 --> 00:43:11.219
What's funny is we've never talked about this, but that
1039
00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:13.699
brings this to light, Robert, is we were raised in
1040
00:43:13.760 --> 00:43:16.539
an era where you weren't allowed to talk about what
1041
00:43:16.579 --> 00:43:19.679
was going on in your house with anyone else. If
1042
00:43:19.719 --> 00:43:22.440
you said anything outside of the walls of the house,
1043
00:43:22.739 --> 00:43:25.250
it was like an ass whooping.
1044
00:43:25.329 --> 00:43:26.730
For lack of a better word.
1045
00:43:27.010 --> 00:43:27.230
Yes.
1046
00:43:27.309 --> 00:43:29.190
So that's how I was raised too.
1047
00:43:29.530 --> 00:43:32.199
And then now to hear all this stuff that's coming up,
1048
00:43:32.510 --> 00:43:35.539
like when would have been the right time for a parent.
1049
00:43:35.239 --> 00:43:38.960
To tell that to a child and to impact the
1050
00:43:38.980 --> 00:43:39.480
mental health?
1051
00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:42.300
Because now what we're seeing in society on a day-to-day
1052
00:43:42.340 --> 00:43:45.849
basis is, is we're seeing people being held accountable for
1053
00:43:45.909 --> 00:43:49.570
decisions they made 30 years ago. But 30 years ago,
1054
00:43:49.639 --> 00:43:52.059
the decision was made based on the information that was
1055
00:43:52.119 --> 00:43:54.860
had at the time, and we're judging people for decisions
1056
00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:59.519
they made 30 years ago, but with today's.
1057
00:43:59.179 --> 00:44:01.309
Information, which is also a very.
1058
00:44:02.900 --> 00:44:05.539
Mentally unhealthy struggle to go through. Like, how do you
1059
00:44:05.579 --> 00:44:07.800
know when to tell your child that, hi, I was
1060
00:44:07.900 --> 00:44:10.460
raped when I was little, and you have a brother
1061
00:44:10.519 --> 00:44:10.980
and sister?
1062
00:44:11.019 --> 00:44:12.920
When should my mom have sat me down and shared
1063
00:44:12.940 --> 00:44:13.539
that information?
1064
00:44:13.579 --> 00:44:13.820
Right.
1065
00:44:14.340 --> 00:44:18.599
Some parents don't, won't tell you, you know? Yeah. And
1066
00:44:18.639 --> 00:44:19.500
some parents will.
1067
00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:21.519
And some parents will tell you when you're young, and
1068
00:44:21.539 --> 00:44:23.030
some parents will tell you when you're older.
1069
00:44:23.090 --> 00:44:24.409
It's just, who knows?
1070
00:44:24.429 --> 00:44:27.329
Like, for me, when should your dad have told you
1071
00:44:27.369 --> 00:44:29.030
to have another daughter, you know?
1072
00:44:29.050 --> 00:44:31.570
Yeah, I don't think he ever would have told me.
1073
00:44:32.190 --> 00:44:32.409
Right.
1074
00:44:33.670 --> 00:44:35.789
I don't think he ever went his home, which is
1075
00:44:35.809 --> 00:44:36.869
so interesting.
1076
00:44:36.889 --> 00:44:37.650
And I have a.
1077
00:44:38.710 --> 00:44:42.809
Little brother, too. I have a little brother. I've never
1078
00:44:42.849 --> 00:44:44.710
met him before, so I don't even claim him.
1079
00:44:44.869 --> 00:44:45.530
I don't know.
1080
00:44:46.130 --> 00:44:47.230
But I never met him.
1081
00:44:47.929 --> 00:44:51.130
So imagine if he lived a long time. You would
1082
00:44:51.170 --> 00:44:54.989
still be living now and not know about your sister.
1083
00:44:55.349 --> 00:44:59.289
And then, in fact, you have all these other siblings.
1084
00:44:59.730 --> 00:45:01.989
And he didn't tell you when you spoke to him
1085
00:45:02.030 --> 00:45:04.070
before he passed. No.
1086
00:45:04.630 --> 00:45:06.510
Like, he didn't even bring it up then.
1087
00:45:06.530 --> 00:45:08.250
He didn't even think about it, I don't think.
1088
00:45:08.369 --> 00:45:11.449
He wasn't even thinking about that, no.
1089
00:45:11.530 --> 00:45:13.730
At that point, he's not trying to go deep into
1090
00:45:13.750 --> 00:45:15.389
the bag of bones.
1091
00:45:15.730 --> 00:45:17.389
But at that point, I.
1092
00:45:17.349 --> 00:45:21.539
Would have told her. But that's me. That's you.
1093
00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:23.840
Everybody's different. Everybody's different.
1094
00:45:24.380 --> 00:45:27.219
Maybe he felt like, listen, she's already asking me why
1095
00:45:27.280 --> 00:45:28.039
I wasn't around.
1096
00:45:28.119 --> 00:45:31.650
I'm not going to throw this also into the pot. So....
1097
00:45:32.869 --> 00:45:36.650
And, and, and at the end of the day, we don't,
1098
00:45:37.150 --> 00:45:39.130
I don't know you, you know, I don't know, Ming,
1099
00:45:39.170 --> 00:45:40.750
I don't know if you know, but you don't know
1100
00:45:40.789 --> 00:45:43.230
how he grew up, you know, how, how are things
1101
00:45:43.269 --> 00:45:44.570
for him at 10 years old?
1102
00:45:44.969 --> 00:45:47.750
You know, what did he go through? You know, you.
1103
00:45:47.630 --> 00:45:50.190
Talk about things that happened in the family, your brother
1104
00:45:50.230 --> 00:45:52.690
tried to do this and who knows who tried to
1105
00:45:52.750 --> 00:45:56.630
do something to him and his, and maybe he saw
1106
00:45:56.690 --> 00:46:01.030
something happening with his parents and, You know, he went through,
1107
00:46:01.150 --> 00:46:04.650
he probably unpacked a lot of stuff from the people
1108
00:46:04.670 --> 00:46:05.409
before him.
1109
00:46:05.449 --> 00:46:08.320
Well, it's interesting because I did ask him before, like,
1110
00:46:08.409 --> 00:46:10.619
when I was younger. I'm like, what? Because he would
1111
00:46:10.659 --> 00:46:13.300
say he was going to do stuff, you know, and
1112
00:46:13.320 --> 00:46:15.380
didn't do it. But it's so funny because Drake say this,
1113
00:46:15.679 --> 00:46:17.300
Black American dad story.
1114
00:46:17.340 --> 00:46:19.219
Like, and it's so true.
1115
00:46:19.340 --> 00:46:22.079
Like, we all, I mean, not we all, but so
1116
00:46:22.099 --> 00:46:24.380
many people experience it. But I asked him, I'm like,
1117
00:46:24.480 --> 00:46:27.059
why aren't you stepping up? You're saying you're going to
1118
00:46:27.079 --> 00:46:28.230
do this and you're not doing it.
1119
00:46:28.260 --> 00:46:30.360
Like, I guess I was a little mature.
1120
00:46:30.019 --> 00:46:31.659
When I was, you know, when I'm thinking about it now,
1121
00:46:31.699 --> 00:46:33.980
like to even ask these questions. But I'm like, what's
1122
00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:36.739
going on? You're putting everything on my grandmom's plate. You know,
1123
00:46:36.760 --> 00:46:38.219
I'm not really her responsibility.
1124
00:46:38.619 --> 00:46:41.019
And he was like, you know, I didn't know how,
1125
00:46:41.039 --> 00:46:42.860
I don't know how to be a dad.
1126
00:46:43.739 --> 00:46:45.409
I'm like, okay.
1127
00:46:45.739 --> 00:46:49.289
So, but my brain, I think like, okay, I know
1128
00:46:49.309 --> 00:46:51.210
what I lack. So I want to be better. But
1129
00:46:51.230 --> 00:46:53.449
he didn't think like that. He just don't know what
1130
00:46:53.489 --> 00:46:55.369
he don't know. And he's fine with not knowing.
1131
00:46:55.389 --> 00:46:56.809
So, you know, everyone's different.
1132
00:46:58.039 --> 00:47:01.059
And sometimes you got, I mean, you got to look
1133
00:47:01.139 --> 00:47:04.800
at it like, if he says, I don't know how
1134
00:47:04.840 --> 00:47:09.199
to be a dad, that does not mean I don't
1135
00:47:09.289 --> 00:47:09.730
love you.
1136
00:47:11.409 --> 00:47:14.809
Where's that action, Bert? I don't see no action, so.
1137
00:47:14.909 --> 00:47:17.710
I know, but in my eyes, but there, you know,
1138
00:47:17.869 --> 00:47:20.809
I could see someone saying, I don't know how to,
1139
00:47:21.530 --> 00:47:23.510
I don't know how to be a dad, but.
1140
00:47:23.829 --> 00:47:26.159
Deep down, I love you. Like, You know, I know
1141
00:47:26.179 --> 00:47:26.559
a lot of.
1142
00:47:26.980 --> 00:47:29.239
I've been around a lot of people who have gone
1143
00:47:29.300 --> 00:47:34.139
through that type of scenario where maybe the mom was
1144
00:47:34.340 --> 00:47:39.530
so bitter, she created this environment that this man didn't
1145
00:47:39.550 --> 00:47:43.110
want to be around, and she made the kids... Like,
1146
00:47:43.150 --> 00:47:45.030
you know, Brian McKnight, we interviewed him.
1147
00:47:45.329 --> 00:47:46.489
No, I hear of that a lot.
1148
00:47:46.730 --> 00:47:47.690
And he's going through.
1149
00:47:47.550 --> 00:47:51.150
That now where his kids hate him, and the public
1150
00:47:51.210 --> 00:47:51.889
hates him, and.
1151
00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:55.579
They make it seem like he loves his other family.
1152
00:47:56.019 --> 00:47:57.679
He just don't want to be in that nick because
1153
00:47:57.699 --> 00:48:01.769
the mom turned the kids against him. And the kids
1154
00:48:01.809 --> 00:48:03.789
hate him. He doesn't talk to his kids. But when
1155
00:48:03.869 --> 00:48:07.989
I talk to him personally, he loves his kids. But
1156
00:48:08.010 --> 00:48:13.150
he just can't get through that energy that's coming back.
1157
00:48:13.670 --> 00:48:15.639
Because that toxic environment was set up.
1158
00:48:15.650 --> 00:48:17.530
Very toxic, yeah. Yeah, yeah.
1159
00:48:17.610 --> 00:48:20.530
Well, for me, I know when I was young, my mom, like,
1160
00:48:20.590 --> 00:48:22.579
I have so many books. Thank God I have pictures
1161
00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:24.980
and memories. But my dad was in jail when I
1162
00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:27.719
was young, right? And I remember my mom used to
1163
00:48:27.739 --> 00:48:29.519
take me up there to go see him every weekend.
1164
00:48:30.000 --> 00:48:32.719
She was, like, so in love with him. I used
1165
00:48:32.739 --> 00:48:35.389
to take me to a jail, like... I mean, and
1166
00:48:35.409 --> 00:48:37.429
then he comes out and then he's not around.
1167
00:48:37.469 --> 00:48:38.289
It's just so weird.
1168
00:48:38.309 --> 00:48:38.409
Right.
1169
00:48:38.789 --> 00:48:40.170
But, you know, so I know.
1170
00:48:40.090 --> 00:48:41.030
That wasn't my.
1171
00:48:41.050 --> 00:48:43.150
You saw him more when he was locked up than
1172
00:48:43.190 --> 00:48:45.179
you did when he... Right.
1173
00:48:45.610 --> 00:48:47.780
Right. But I have all my pictures. I'm such a
1174
00:48:47.820 --> 00:48:50.039
daddy's girl and all my... When I was young, when
1175
00:48:50.059 --> 00:48:52.860
they were, you know... I'm like, what the heck? So
1176
00:48:53.000 --> 00:48:56.539
it plays mind games on you. It's like, wait, I'm confused.
1177
00:48:56.579 --> 00:49:00.929
When it's time to be a daddy's girl, daddy's not around. But,
1178
00:49:01.349 --> 00:49:03.730
you know, that's my story and there's nothing.
1179
00:49:03.489 --> 00:49:04.269
I can do, but.
1180
00:49:05.329 --> 00:49:09.500
So I think one thing that's really interesting here that
1181
00:49:10.500 --> 00:49:13.659
is also emerging as a theme is the fact that
1182
00:49:13.699 --> 00:49:15.690
we don't know what someone else is going through and
1183
00:49:15.730 --> 00:49:19.429
that a lot of times people are carrying a whole
1184
00:49:19.489 --> 00:49:25.349
lot and it will look like they are just fine, right?
1185
00:49:25.369 --> 00:49:27.010
Like they come off like they're just fine and you
1186
00:49:27.030 --> 00:49:31.980
wouldn't really necessarily know. So I'm just curious, Ming, in
1187
00:49:32.019 --> 00:49:34.760
your work with people through the foundation and just your
1188
00:49:34.880 --> 00:49:39.380
day-to-day life in general, How do you approach that? Like,
1189
00:49:39.400 --> 00:49:41.519
how do you do a meaningful mental health check in
1190
00:49:41.539 --> 00:49:44.099
with somebody when you kind of maybe when you get
1191
00:49:44.119 --> 00:49:47.030
the feeling like something's off, but they're really good at
1192
00:49:47.090 --> 00:49:48.889
hiding it and kind of keeping it to themselves?
1193
00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:52.239
I'm so intuitive, it's almost scary, right?
1194
00:49:52.659 --> 00:49:55.590
So I can literally look at someone or hear their voice,
1195
00:49:55.719 --> 00:49:57.829
and I know, like, I'm so into it.
1196
00:49:57.849 --> 00:49:59.429
My friends are like, you're a witch. Like, how do
1197
00:49:59.449 --> 00:49:59.949
you know?
1198
00:50:00.630 --> 00:50:02.550
And not, like, witch in a bad way, but it's just,
1199
00:50:02.630 --> 00:50:05.869
I'm so intuitive. So I can just automatically tell. Like,
1200
00:50:05.909 --> 00:50:07.590
I'll just ask them, how are you feeling today?
1201
00:50:07.650 --> 00:50:09.360
Are you feeling loved? Are you feeling beautiful?
1202
00:50:09.739 --> 00:50:11.880
Like, I'll just come up and I'll just ask them
1203
00:50:12.199 --> 00:50:12.659
and not.
1204
00:50:12.539 --> 00:50:13.280
In a weird way.
1205
00:50:13.300 --> 00:50:15.579
Like, how's your mental health? Like, you know what I mean?
1206
00:50:15.599 --> 00:50:17.980
Because people don't like to talk about this sometimes, you know?
1207
00:50:18.019 --> 00:50:18.360
Right.
1208
00:50:18.460 --> 00:50:19.679
So I'll just say, that's.
1209
00:50:19.480 --> 00:50:20.079
Why we're here.
1210
00:50:20.099 --> 00:50:21.639
Right.
1211
00:50:22.059 --> 00:50:23.420
Awareness.
1212
00:50:23.539 --> 00:50:24.800
Or I'll just compliment them.
1213
00:50:24.860 --> 00:50:27.539
And some people haven't heard a compliment in forever.
1214
00:50:27.619 --> 00:50:30.980
So, you know what I mean? So that will help them. Definitely. Like,
1215
00:50:31.539 --> 00:50:34.039
I'll just say, oh, you look beautiful, or I love you.
1216
00:50:34.159 --> 00:50:34.960
Even me saying I.
1217
00:50:34.900 --> 00:50:37.510
Love you to my friends, like, that make, you know,
1218
00:50:37.760 --> 00:50:39.369
you don't know when the last time someone heard that.
1219
00:50:39.449 --> 00:50:40.550
It's just so much, so.
1220
00:50:40.889 --> 00:50:44.329
What do you think started that intuition in you, that
1221
00:50:44.369 --> 00:50:45.070
awareness to.
1222
00:50:45.469 --> 00:50:48.269
I mean, to even ask people about their mental health.
1223
00:50:48.449 --> 00:50:49.389
I want to be honest.
1224
00:50:49.429 --> 00:50:51.449
When I was a kid, right, it's so weird.
1225
00:50:51.730 --> 00:50:54.030
Before my mom passed away, so she went on a
1226
00:50:54.070 --> 00:50:57.309
trip with a friend and never returned, right? But before
1227
00:50:57.329 --> 00:50:58.809
that happened, when I was a kid, I had a
1228
00:50:58.849 --> 00:51:01.090
dream that she was being taken from me, right?
1229
00:51:01.210 --> 00:51:02.739
And I told her about it, right?
1230
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:04.090
Before it happened, I had a dream.
1231
00:51:04.139 --> 00:51:05.639
So it went back all the time when I was
1232
00:51:05.699 --> 00:51:07.019
a kid, unfortunately.
1233
00:51:07.480 --> 00:51:09.360
But, so I don't know.
1234
00:51:09.380 --> 00:51:12.239
That's amazing that you had that kind of dream.
1235
00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:16.809
I really did. So I'm like, But, yeah.
1236
00:51:17.130 --> 00:51:17.849
You probably do.
1237
00:51:17.969 --> 00:51:21.739
I mean, that is an intuition within itself on a
1238
00:51:21.840 --> 00:51:26.219
subconscious level, right, Misty? To have that kind of dream
1239
00:51:27.920 --> 00:51:32.369
and then actually go through something that aligns with that.
1240
00:51:34.050 --> 00:51:37.829
You may be a good witch.
1241
00:51:38.170 --> 00:51:40.869
My husband's like that. He's dreamt of the lotto numbers
1242
00:51:40.889 --> 00:51:42.840
but only remembered five. Right, come on.
1243
00:51:49.190 --> 00:51:49.909
Lord have mercy.
1244
00:51:50.329 --> 00:51:52.210
Well, I think me, one of the things that I
1245
00:51:52.309 --> 00:51:55.010
love too about you is that there's this saying, I
1246
00:51:55.010 --> 00:51:56.710
don't know if you've heard of it before, but it's
1247
00:51:56.989 --> 00:51:58.269
a safe place is.
1248
00:51:58.210 --> 00:51:59.329
A consistent space.
1249
00:51:59.690 --> 00:52:04.429
And I can see through, you know, this conversation today,
1250
00:52:04.449 --> 00:52:09.550
how you create that consistent, loving, joyful space for everybody
1251
00:52:09.630 --> 00:52:12.269
around you. And so as we get ready, we're coming
1252
00:52:12.429 --> 00:52:14.050
up on an hour already. Of course, we want to
1253
00:52:14.070 --> 00:52:14.570
be respectful.
1254
00:52:14.590 --> 00:52:15.829
Wow, that went fast.
1255
00:52:16.150 --> 00:52:16.989
I know.
1256
00:52:17.269 --> 00:52:20.429
We got to do a part two. A real table.
1257
00:52:20.449 --> 00:52:23.340
Because this conversation, people don't talk about this on a
1258
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:25.059
daily basis. It's necessary.
1259
00:52:26.059 --> 00:52:26.400
Right.
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Yeah.
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I mean, that's the whole purpose for sure.
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So I want to thank you for being that safe
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and consistent place for people because it does make a difference.
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Like every ripple that we cast... as individuals, matters.
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In the community, right?
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And so I want to thank you for your time
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and for being that place of light and safety.
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And love for others. And Robert and Bailey, I don't know.
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If you have any final questions before we get to
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our final, final question.
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I'm just so glad that we had her on.
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And she, you know, you come across as like a
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breath of fresh air.
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You are bubbly. You are very energetic.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, keep doing that. You're, you know, you're someone that
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the community needs. And I'm glad you started the I
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Love You Foundation. And I'm excited about the future for
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you personally, but for also for your foundation with the
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type of energy that you have. And you're the type
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of person and, you know, foundation that we would love
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to collaborate on.
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Something in the future, girl, we're going to do something.
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Definitely.
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Definitely.
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I'm interested.
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Yeah.
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I know Ming's not going anywhere from my life, and
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she says I love you to me every time she
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calls me or we hang out.
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You guys look like sisters a little bit, you know?
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That's it.
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Thank you.
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That's awesome and funny at the same time. I'm only
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20 years her senior, I think, or close to that.
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Maybe 13.
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Okay.
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Doesn't matter.
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But Ming, I'm just so grateful you said yes and
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that I am really looking forward to seeing you do
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big things with the I Love You Foundation as well.
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And of course, we're always here to support and align
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with you.
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00:54:10.360 --> 00:54:12.800
And I know Misty has our final question for you
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because she's closing us out today.
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00:54:14.239 --> 00:54:18.340
So our final question that we typically ask of every
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guest is when you are maybe not having the best
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day or you do feel like your mental health is
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00:54:23.739 --> 00:54:25.869
slipping into not.
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00:54:25.219 --> 00:54:26.409
The greatest state.
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What are the top three things that you do to
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lift your mood or make yourself feel better and get
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back on track?
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I'll go to the gym, for sure.
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I feel like health is wealth, really. So I'll go
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to the.
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Gym, I'll swim, whatever.
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Whatever activity I decide to do, I'll pray. I pray
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for sure. I pray to my mom more so, honestly.
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And I play with my dogs. They're my emotional support.
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You know, animals.
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So they make me happy.
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They're cute.
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They're colorful. So those are my three things.
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Are you going to have dogs for the rest of
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your life? Are you going to always have a dog
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around you?
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Yes. I had, I had a dog for 18 years.
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She just recently passed and she was my girl. So
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I got two more and it's like, Oh, it's not
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quite the same. I'm settling, but dogs.
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Are such a breath of fresh air.
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00:55:21.010 --> 00:55:22.309
So they don't talk.
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But, you know, they love you no matter what day
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you're having or you come home.
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00:55:31.469 --> 00:55:33.829
Right. They make you feel special.
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Right.
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Right.
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And it's so funny because I let my dog now
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sit in my window, like, on my couch. And my
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neighbor was saying, she was like, I was having a
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horrible day and I saw your dogs in the window
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00:55:45.289 --> 00:55:46.630
and it's just bright in my day.
1344
00:55:46.710 --> 00:55:48.730
Thank you. So it's like unintentionally.
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The dog's taking on your energy.
1346
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Right, right.
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The dogs are also multiple colors because they go to
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the spa every week or every two weeks.
1349
00:56:00.940 --> 00:56:01.659
Oh, wow.
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They're like pink and blue and green and yellow.
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It is so cute.
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00:56:04.940 --> 00:56:06.099
They're having the best life.
1353
00:56:06.119 --> 00:56:06.579
Yes, they are.
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00:56:06.659 --> 00:56:07.739
They're going to be.
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Mad when you have kids.
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Lordy.
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00:56:17.610 --> 00:56:21.429
So before we close up final, how can people support
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the I Love You Foundation? How can they get in
1359
00:56:23.329 --> 00:56:25.110
touch with you, keep up with your work and all
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00:56:25.130 --> 00:56:25.610
the good stuff?
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00:56:26.090 --> 00:56:30.400
So I have a website, MingLeon.com, but my Instagram is
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at Ming.Leon. It's the I Love You Foundation as well
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00:56:35.280 --> 00:56:39.929
on Instagram. And I also have a website that is
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called La Vie Royale. It means a royal life in French.
1365
00:56:43.210 --> 00:56:45.750
And I have to bring some products to you guys
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for the Halloween party. I actually have a face and
1367
00:56:49.349 --> 00:56:52.869
body oil, and it actually is made by aromatherapists. And
1368
00:56:52.909 --> 00:56:54.550
it helps with your mental health. So if you're having
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00:56:54.590 --> 00:56:56.789
a bad day, you can just rub your hands together
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and smell it.
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00:56:57.329 --> 00:56:59.840
It'll actually, it really works too. And it gives you-
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That's awesome.
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Take one gallon.
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00:57:05.989 --> 00:57:09.869
But i'll start you i'll try to bring what i
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can and you know you know our foundation we give
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00:57:13.670 --> 00:57:18.630
out gift bags all the time we're the foundation so okay.
1377
00:57:18.349 --> 00:57:20.510
Well i'll definitely put some in there for the next
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your next event or when we do an event together
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00:57:22.690 --> 00:57:24.769
i'm excited to collab with you guys i love.
1380
00:57:24.630 --> 00:57:27.340
The work that y'all are doing and keep it up
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00:57:28.650 --> 00:57:31.110
We definitely can't wait to see you. I think it's
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the 29th.
1383
00:57:31.699 --> 00:57:33.659
You guys, we nailed down that date, it sounds like.
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So the 29th, look for information on that event. And again,
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this podcast is brought to you by the Kennedy Kids Foundation.
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00:57:41.280 --> 00:57:45.329
If you are struggling with your mental health, please don't wait.
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00:57:45.489 --> 00:57:46.889
You never have to wait for it to be bad
1388
00:57:46.929 --> 00:57:48.809
enough or whatever you think might be bad enough to
1389
00:57:48.849 --> 00:57:49.250
get help.
1390
00:57:49.309 --> 00:57:51.869
If you're struggling, you're struggling. Dial 988.
1391
00:57:51.869 --> 00:57:55.230
If it's an absolute emergency, please dial 911.
1392
00:57:55.230 --> 00:57:57.030
Go to your nearest emergency room.
1393
00:57:57.449 --> 00:57:59.190
And of course, if you want to support the cause
1394
00:57:59.250 --> 00:58:01.750
or find out more about the resources that we have available,
1395
00:58:02.070 --> 00:58:04.690
please visit KennedyKids.org.
1396
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And Ming, thank you again.
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For your time. And we will definitely do a part two.
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This has been such a delight.
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All right.
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And guess what?
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Thank you, Ming.
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And I love you.
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One day we gonna get on.
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This episode of Bailey and Buck Unplugged is generously sponsored
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by Lynx Health Advisors, where health gets personal again. visit lynxhealthadvisors.com.