Why Your Child’s Behaviour Isn’t the Problem | Geoff Owen | AEM #170

What if difficult behaviour is not something to control—but something to understand?

In Episode 170 of An Evolving Man Podcast, Piers Cross speaks with Geoff Owen, founder of Biologically Aligned Parenting and author of The Parenting Assumption.

Geoff argues that children are born with innate needs for safety, certainty, connection and regulation. When those needs are not sufficiently met, behaviours we label as defiant, aggressive, withdrawn or difficult may emerge as adaptations.

Rather than immediately asking, “How do I stop this behaviour?”, Jeff encourages parents to ask:

“What is this behaviour telling me?”

Piers and Geoff explore parental stress, nervous-system regulation, punishment and rewards, high-performing parents bringing workplace management strategies home, learning through observation, attachment, boarding school and the fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses children may develop.

They also discuss a different vision of parenting: creating an environment in which children feel trusted, capable and secure enough to develop naturally.

A thought-provoking conversation about parenting, attachment, emotional intelligence and our assumptions about children.

Find Geoff:
https://geoffreyowen.com/

Find Piers:
 https://piers-cross.com

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. 

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 

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Piers Cross 

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