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Every generation says exactly the same fucking thing.
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If my country ever went to war, I'd stay calm.
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Bullshit.
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You won't.
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I won't.
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None of us will.
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Because the first casualty of war isn't always truth.
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Sometimes it's calm.
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Long before the first missile fires, before politicians stand behind podiums, before generals start pointing at maps, before cable news digs up another retired colonel with enough metals to sink a freaking canoe, something else happens.
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Eighty-six billion neurons inside your skull go buck fucking nutty.
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Not because somebody told them to, because they were designed to.
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You see, your brain doesn't know the difference between an Iranian missile and the saber-toothed tiger hiding behind a bush.
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To your nervous system, dangerous danger.
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Doesn't care whether it has fur or uranium enrichment.
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Doesn't matter.
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Your brain has one job.
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Keep your ass alive.
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Everything else, career, mortgage, retirement, the vacation you've been planning, those all come second.
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Survival comes first.
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Always.
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That's why evolution built you this way.
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People love talking about evolution until they realize they're still running on software that's about 2,000 years old.
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We've got smartphones, artificial intelligence, hypersonic missiles, quantum computers, and inside every one of us, there's still a frightened cave dweller asking, What the hell made that noise?
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That's who you are.
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That's who I am.
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We're not as modern as we'd like to believe.
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We are ancient survival machines wearing Bluetooth earbuds.
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Think about it.
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Imagine you're walking through the woods 10,000 years ago.
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You hear something rustle in the bushes, you got two choices.
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Option one, it's probably nothing.
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Option two, holy shit.
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Which guy survives longer?
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Exactly.
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The paranoid one.
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Turns out your ancestors were professional overreactors.
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And because they survived, here you are.
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Congratulations.
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You're the descendant of people who assumed the worst.
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Evolution doesn't reward optimism, it rewards survival.
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If your great-great-great-great-great-great-great-grandfather panicked 10 times when there wasn't actually a lion, he may have lost a little bit of sleep over that.
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But if he had stayed calm the one time there actually was a lion, he became lunch.
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Guess whose DNA made it to you?
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That's why your brain has what's called negativity bias.
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Bad news grabs your attention faster than good news.
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Always has, always will.
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You receive 100 compliments and one insult.
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Guess which one you're going to be thinking about lying in bed tonight?
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Exactly.
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100 peaceful headlines, one headline about missiles.
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Guess which one gets your attention?
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See?
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You don't have an anxiety problem.
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You have an operating system, and it's been remarkably successful.
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The problem is that evolution never anticipated 24-hour news.
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It never anticipated social media.
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It never anticipated your phone buzzing every six minutes because somebody somewhere posted breaking news.
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Everything is breaking news.
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Markets are breaking, governments are breaking, celebrity marriages are breaking.
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My lawnmower broke yesterday.
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Nobody interrupted dinner for that.
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We've become addicted to urgency because urgency feels important.
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And conflict?
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Conflict is urgency on steroids.
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Suddenly, every headline matters, every rumor matters, every anonymous government source matters.
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Every blurry cell phone video becomes evidence of something.
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Nobody knows why, but it's definitely something.
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Your body doesn't wait for confirmation.
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It starts preparing.
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Heart rate goes up, stress hormones increase, muscles tighten, sleep gets lighter, you start checking your phone more often.
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Not because you enjoy it, because your brain thinks the next update might keep us alive.
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It's the psychological equivalent of repeatedly opening the refrigerator, hoping a pizza magically appears.
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You know nothing's changed, you check anyway.
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Then comes uncertainty.
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And uncertainty is a motherfucker.
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It might be the cruelest invention evolution has ever given us.
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People think they're afraid of war.
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Sometimes they're not.
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They're afraid of not knowing.
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Will this get worse?
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Will it spread?
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Will somebody retaliate?
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Will there be cyber attacks?
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Will fuel prices explode?
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Will my son deploy?
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Will my daughter deploy?
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Will there be another attack here?
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Notice something?
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Almost every question begins with will.
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Not did.
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The event hasn't happened.
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Your brain's already living there.
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Psychologists call this anticipatory anxiety.
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Your grandmother called it worrying yourself sick.
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Turns out grandma might have been on to something.
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The waiting usually the worst part.
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Worse than the thing that you're waiting for.
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Waiting for biopsy results, waiting outside the principal's office, waiting for your kid to make it home during a storm, waiting for the phone call, waiting.
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Human beings are terrible at waiting.
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Because while you're waiting, your imagination starts to work overtime.
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And your imagination is a complete asshole.
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It never imagines everything will probably be okay.
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No.
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It writes disaster movies, it casts them, it scores them, it wins an Academy Award, and all of that all before breakfast.
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Now, here's where things really start getting dangerous because fear never travels alone, it brings friends.
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Here's something we rarely think about: fear.
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It's social, spreads, not through blood, not through the air, through people.
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One frightened person creates ten frightened people.
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Those ten create a hundred.
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Those hundred create thousands.
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Pretty soon nobody remembers who was scared first.
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Fear doesn't need evidence, it needs witnesses.
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Think about how ridiculous we've become.
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A guy posts online: my cousin knows somebody at the Pentagon.
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Fan fucking tastic.
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My barber's neighbor saw Shaquille O'Neal buying mulch.
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Doesn't make him Secretary of Defense.
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Yet somehow, millions of people immediately think this sounds credible.
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Why?
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Because confidence is persuasive.
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People don't spread uncertainty.
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They spread certainty.
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I heard, I know, my friend works.
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My source says.
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Everybody's got a source.
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Nobody's got documentation.
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And social media?
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Social media rewards that.
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Think about the algorithm for a second.
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If somebody posts, let's wait for verified information, 10 likes maybe.
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Somebody posts, this is it, World War III has begun.
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3 million views.
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Because your brain notices danger before it notices accuracy.
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That's not stupidity.
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That's survival.
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The algorithm figured out what evolution already knew.
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Scared people pay attention.
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So it gives you more things to be scared about.
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It's not evil, it's math.
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Engagement equals money.
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Fear equals engagement.
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Therefore, fear equals money.
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Simple business model, terrible mental health strategy, and then comes doom scrolling.
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You know exactly what I'm talking about.
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I'm just checking one thing.
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45 minutes later, you're reading about underground bunkers in Finland, Chinese naval movements, oil futures, the price of wheat.
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And somehow you've ended up watching a guy in Nebraska explain geopolitics while sitting shirtless in a lawn chair.
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How the hell did we get here?
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Your coffee's cold.
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Your dog's looking at you like, dude, we used to go outside.
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Research has shown something fascinating.
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The more often you hear something, the more likely you are to believe it.
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Even if it's not true.
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Repetition changes belief, not evidence, repetition.
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And that's terrifying.
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Because now imagine millions of people sharing the same rumor.
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All day, every day.
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Eventually, your brain stops asking, is this true?
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Starts asking, why is everybody talking about it?
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That's a big difference.
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Then comes another psychological trap.
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Availability.
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If you see 20 videos about missiles today, your brain concludes missiles must be everywhere.
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Not because they are, because they're available in memory.
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Your brain mistakes are easy to remember for likely to happen.
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Why people become convinced they're surrounded by danger.
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Even when statistically nothing around them has changed.
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Your neighborhood's still quiet, your mailbox is still standing, your kids are still arguing over whose turn it is on the Xbox, but psychologically, you're already on a battlefield.
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That's the power of perception.
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Human brain doesn't respond to reality, it responds to understanding of reality.
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Sometimes those are the same thing.
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Sometimes they're miles apart.
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Then something even stranger happens.
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Everyone becomes an expert.
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Not next week, not after months of research.
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Immediately.
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The plumber suddenly understands Middle Eastern geopolitics.
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The accountant has opinions on carrier strike groups.
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The guy who couldn't find Canada on a map six months ago now has a 12-point strategy for preventing regional escalation.
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Amazing! Conflict apparently comes with honorary PhDs.
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You gotta understand something.
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People don't always search for the truth.
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Sometimes they're just searching for relief.
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Now that we've established fear, it's time to explain what people do to escape it.
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You ever notice something?
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The second a conflict starts, everybody becomes a geopolitical strategist.
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Yesterday, the guy who still needs his grandson to reset the Wi-Fi has a 12-step plan for stabilizing the Middle East.
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Amazing.
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Conflict apparently comes with honorary PhDs.
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Everybody knows what should happen.
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We should bomb them.
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We should stay out of it.
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We should negotiate.
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We should sanction.
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We should invade.
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We should mind our own business.
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Everybody starts every sentence the same way.
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They should.
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Who's they?
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The people who spent the last 30 years studying the problem should have just asked Steve from accounting.
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He had it figured out during halftime.
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And here's the funny thing.
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Most of us, including me, don't have anywhere near enough information to make those decisions.
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And that's okay.
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The problem is our brains don't like saying that.
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I don't know.
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Those three little words for some people, they're harder to say than I was wrong.
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Researchers actually have a name for that.
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The need for cognitive closure.
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Sounds complicated.
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It isn't.
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It simply means your brain hates unfinished stories.
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Imagine reading a mystery novel and somebody tears out the last 50 pages.
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You'd lose your friggin' mind.
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You'd invent an ending.
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Maybe not the right ending, but an ending.
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Because uncertainty is uncomfortable.
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Conflict works exactly the same way.
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You hear missiles, retaliation, military buildup, diplomatic warnings, satellite images.
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Nobody knows exactly what's coming next.
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So your brain starts writing the ending itself.
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Sometimes it's optimistic.
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Usually it's a Michael Bay movie.
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And because humans are social creatures, we don't write those endings alone.
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We compare notes.
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Somebody says, I heard.
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Then somebody else says, I read.
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Then somebody says, my cousin, can we stop for a fucking minute here?
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How many cousins work for intelligence agencies?
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Seriously, every national crisis, there are apparently four million cousins with top secret clearance.
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Either the CIA has the world's largest family reunion, or people are just full of shit.
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I'm leaning toward option two, but confidence, that's the magic ingredient.
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You ever notice that?
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Nobody spreads uncertainty.
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Nobody posts.
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I'm honestly not sure what's happening.
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No, people post, I know exactly what is going on.
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All in caps with three American flag emojis and a blurry screenshot from somewhere.
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Confidence spreads.
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Hesitation does not, which explains conspiracy theories.
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People think conspiracy theories are about believing weird shit.
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Sometimes, maybe, but mostly they're about escaping uncertainty.
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A conspiracy theory gives you a beginning, a middle, and an end.
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It also gives you a villain.
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That's psychologically comfortable.
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Reality usually doesn't.
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Reality says we're still investigating.
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Nobody likes that.
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People don't want investigations.
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They want endings.
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Now, histories filled with examples.
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The sinking of the USS Maine, Pearl Harbor, JFK, 9-11, COVID.
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Every major event before the facts were known generated rumors.
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Some turned out to contain pieces of truth.
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A lot of them didn't.
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But they all had one thing in common.
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They made people feel like they understood.
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Whether they actually did was another matter.
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See?
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Understanding and feeling like you understand are not the same thing.
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One requires evidence, the other requires confidence.
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Guess which one the internet rewards?
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Exactly.
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Then another strange thing happens.
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People stop asking, is this true?
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They start asking, does this fit what I already believe?
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That's confirmation bias.
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You've probably heard the term.
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Everybody thinks somebody else has it.
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Nope.
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We all do.
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Your brain loves information that agrees with you.
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It hugs it, it feeds it, it shares it.
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Information that disagrees with you, your brain becomes a lawyer cross-examining every sentence, looking for flaws.
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Funny how that works.
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We're not objective.
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We're consistent, and consistency feels safe, even when it's wrong.
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Here's the irony.
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The smartest people I ever met aren't the ones with the fastest answers.
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They're usually the ones comfortable saying, I don't know yet.
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That's not weakness.
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That's discipline.
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Because in times of conflict, certainty can be comforting.
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But certainty without evidence can also be dangerous.
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And once enough people become certain about different versions of reality, something else begins.
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We stop arguing about facts, we start defending tribes, and that's where things get ugly.
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Fear has a funny way of changing clothes.
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It starts quietly, concern, anxiety, uneasiness.
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Then, after enough headlines, enough arguments, enough sleepless nights, fear gets tired of being afraid.
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So it becomes angry.
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Think about your own life.
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How many times have you snapped at somebody when you were really just stressed?
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Kids weren't the problem.
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The dog wasn't the problem.
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The guy driving 25 and a 45, well, he's a dick, but he's not the problem.
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You were overloaded.
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National conflict does the same thing.
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Fear says I'm vulnerable.
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Anger says I'm in control.
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That's why anger feels so much better.
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It's active.
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Fear curls up.
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Anger stands up.
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Fear whispers.
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Anger screams.
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The problem is anger also demands a target.
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Now somebody has to be responsible.
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Government, media, military, politicians, the previous administration, the current administration, the news, social media, oil companies, defense contractors, your neighbor somehow.
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It doesn't matter.
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Your brain wants a face because random danger is terrifying.
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A villain?
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At least that gives you somewhere to point.
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Then comes tribalism.
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This is one of the oldest survival mechanisms we have.
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Imagine you're living 5,000 years ago.
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Another tribe appears over the hill.
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Your brain immediately asks one question friend or enemy.
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It doesn't ask, let's hear both sides.
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That's not how survival worked.
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Fast decisions kept people alive.
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Today, that same instinct is still there.
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Only now, the tribes are political, ideological, religious, online.
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Everybody wants jerseys.
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Red, blue, left, right, us, them.
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Life becomes a football game.
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The problem?
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The real world doesn't have referees, and people aren't teams.
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They're people.
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But fear hates nuance.
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Nuance requires thinking.
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Fear prefers shortcuts.
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They're all like that.
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Really?
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All?
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Every single one?
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Amazing.
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You met millions of people this morning.
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History has shown us over and over that frightened societies begin simplifying people.
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Entire cultures become stereotypes.
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Entire religions become headlines.
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Entire populations become suspects.
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It happens so gradually.
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Most people don't notice they're doing it until years later, when everyone asks, How could that happen?
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Simple.
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One frightened shortcut at a time.
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Then comes moral certainty.
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Now, this one's dangerous because once you convince yourself your side is incapable of doing wrong and the other side is incapable of doing right, thinking stops.
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Everything becomes justification.
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Our mistakes are accidents.
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Their mistakes prove they're evil.
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Same behavior, different judgment, depending on whose flag is flying.
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That's not objectivity, that's identity.
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Social psychologists have studied this for decades.
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Our brains naturally favor people we see as part of our own group, even when those groups were assigned randomly in laboratory experiments.
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Think about that.
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Researchers literally divided strangers into meaningless teams, and within minutes, people started favoring their own group.
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Now imagine adding politics, religion, history, war, and fear.
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No wonder things escalate.
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We're all vulnerable to it.
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Not Democrats, not Republicans, not conservatives, not liberals, human beings.
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The software is the same, only the bumper stickers are different.
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And while we're busy defending our tribe, the algorithms smile because nothing generates engagement, quite like outrage.
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Tom people don't spend six hours arguing online.
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Angry people do.
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Fear becomes anger.
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Anger becomes clicks.
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Clicks become money.
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We're not just participants anymore.
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We're products.
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And before you know it, you've spent three hours arguing with a guy whose profile picture is an eagle wearing sunglasses.
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Congratulations! The greatest scientific achievement in human history, the internet, has convinced two grown adults to hate each other over a meme.
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That's almost impressive.
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Almost.
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But eventually, even anger runs out of gas because your nervous system can't stay at red line forever.
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Eventually, something else happens.
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None of this is new.
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Not one damn bit of it.
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You think we're living through something unprecedented?
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We always do.
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Every generation thinks this has never happened before.
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Meanwhile, history's sitting in the corner, rolling its eyes.
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Go back to Pearl Harbor.
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People bought maps, food, fuel.
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Rumors spread faster than newspapers could print corrections.
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Neighbors watched neighbors.
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People suddenly became suspicious of anyone who looked different.
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Fear did exactly what fear always does.
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Fast forward, the Cuban Missile Crisis.
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Kids practice hiding under school desks.
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Under desks.
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Do you remember that?
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As if a sheet of plywood and some chewing gum were gonna stop a thermonuclear weapon.
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Think about that.
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Entire generations crawled under desks because adults didn't know what else to tell them.
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Did it make strategic sense?
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Probably not.
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Did it make psychological sense?
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Absolutely.
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People needed to feel like they were doing something, anything, because doing nothing is emotionally unbearable.
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Then came Vietnam.
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Television changed everything.
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For the first time, war wasn't something you read about tomorrow morning.
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It came directly into your living room.
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Families ate meatloaf while helicopters flew across the evening news.
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The battlefield moved without moving.
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Then came the Cold War.
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Remember that?
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Some of us do.
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Every movie convinced us nuclear annihilation was about 17 minutes away.
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The day after, Red Dawn.
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War games.
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Hell, we made entertainment out of existential dread.
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Generation X did not invent dark humor.
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We inherited it.
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Then, September 11th.
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If you were old enough, you remember exactly where you were, not because your memory suddenly got better, because trauma burns itself into memory.
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The smell, the television, the silence, the phone calls, the uncertainty.
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Nobody knew what was coming next.
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People watched the news for days, not because the news had answers, because not watching somehow felt irresponsible.
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As though turning off the television might allow something terrible to happen.
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It wouldn't.
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But the brain doesn't negotiate with logic during uncertainty.
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Then COVID.
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What the fuck?
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COVID.
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Talk about a master class in human psychology.
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Remember the toilet paper?
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Still one of my favorite chapters in human behavior.
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Somewhere, one guy bought extra toilet paper.
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The next guy thought he probably knows something.
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Then everybody thought they all know something.
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Next thing you know, grown adults are fighting in Costco over Charming.
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Think about that.
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Not medicine, not food.
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Toilet paper.
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Anthropologists are going to study us someday and conclude we apparently believed respiratory viruses attacked in the bathroom.
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What actually happened?
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Fear.
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Uncertainty.
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Herd behavior.
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Nobody wants to be the only person who didn't prepare, even if nobody knew what they were preparing for.
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That's the thing.
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History changes uniform.
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Sometimes it's Pearl Harbor, sometimes it's a virus, sometimes it's terrorism, sometimes it's missiles.
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The trigger changes.
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The human brain does not.
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We've upgraded everything.
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Cars, medicine, communication, computers.
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The human operating system, still version one caveman.
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Still looking for movement in the bushes.
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Still assuming the worst.
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Still trying to survive.
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There's an old saying, history repeats itself.
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I don't think that's true.
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History changes names.
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People repeat themselves.
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That's the part we never seem to fix.
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After everything we've talked about, fear, anger, tribes, history, rumors, certainty.
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What's the dreadful truth?
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It's not that nations go to war, they always have.
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It's not that politicians argue, they always will.
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It's not that the media chases dramatic stories.
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Drama, for them, pays the bills.
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No.
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The dreadful truth is much more uncomfortable.
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The dreadful truth is us.
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We're predictable, painfully predictable.
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Every single time that we panic, that we speculate, we choose sides, we spread rumors, that we mistake confidence for competence, we confuse repetition with evidence.
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We mistake outrage for action.
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Slowly we adapt.
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That's another strange thing about humans.
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We're unbelievably fragile.
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Right up until we're unbelievably resilient.
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Think about it.
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Cities have been bombed, rebuilt, bombed again, rebuilt again.
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Communities survive hurricanes, earthquakes, wars, pandemics.
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Families bury loved ones.
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And somehow they still celebrate birthdays, still fall in love, still tell jokes, still complain about traffic.
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Human beings are weird.
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We can endure almost anything once we've accepted it.
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That's resilience.
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But resilience has a dark cousin.
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Complacency.
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Eventually, the breaking news isn't breaking anymore.
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The war moves to page six.
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The alerts stop buzzing.
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People stop paying attention.
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Not because they stopped caring, because the human nervous system cannot stay in emergency mode forever.
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It would destroy itself so it conserves energy.
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Psychologists call it habituation.
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Your grandfather probably called it.
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Life goes on.
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And it does.
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Pools still need cleaning.
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Kids still need rides to school.
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Dogs still bark at squirrels.
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The lawn still needs mowing.
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The bills still show up.
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Life keeps demanding your attention, even while history is being written somewhere else.
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Maybe that's one of the most beautiful things about humanity.
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We're capable of surviving emotionally without forgetting completely.
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But here's the danger.
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Every conflict teaches us something.
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The question is, what?
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Do we learn patience or suspicion?
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Do we learn compassion or hatred?
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Do we learn humility or certainty?
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Because here's another dreadful truth.
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Fear isn't evil.
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Fear kept your ancestors alive.
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Anger isn't evil.
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Sometimes anger tells us something needs to change.
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Anxiety is not weakness.
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It's biology.
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The problem is when we stop questioning those emotions.
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Emotions are information.
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They're not instructions.
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Just because you're afraid doesn't mean you're in danger.
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Just because you're angry doesn't mean you're right.
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Just because everybody believes something doesn't make it true.
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One of the healthiest things a human being can say, especially during a national crisis, is I don't know.
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Those four words have become almost revolutionary.
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I don't know.
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I know.
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That was three words.
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How about this one?
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I need more evidence.
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I am going to wait.
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Imagine if more people did that.
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Imagine if social media rewarded that.
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Imagine if politicians said that.
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Imagine if news organizations admitted that.
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Imagine if we all became just a little bit more comfortable living with uncertainty instead of immediately filling the silence with rumors.
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Because that's really what this entire episode has been about.
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Not Iran, not America, not missiles, not politics, not governments, not the human mind.
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The same human mind that survived ice ages, crossed oceans, built civilizations, invented electricity, walked on the moon, created the internet, and then somehow used it to argue with complete strangers over things neither personally actually understands.
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We're magnificent, we're ridiculous.
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Sometimes within the same five minutes.
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And maybe that's the lesson.
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The next conflict will come.
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History guarantees it.
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I don't know where, I don't know when, I don't know why, neither do you, but I know something else.
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I know exactly what millions of people will feel.
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Fear, confusion, anger, hope, patriotism, grief, compassion, suspicion, love.
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All of it.
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Because the human heart hasn't evolved nearly as fast as technology.
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The missiles changed, the aircraft changed, the satellites changed, the phones changed, the algorithms changed.
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We did not.
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We're still listening for something moving in the bushes, still wondering if it's coming for us.
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Sometimes it is.
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Most of the time, it isn't.
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The trick is knowing the difference.
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Because if we lose that ability, the enemy doesn't have to defeat us.
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Our own imagination will do it for them.
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And that is the dreadful truth.
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Every generation says exactly the same fucking thing.
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If my country ever went to war, I'd stay calm.
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Bullshit.
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You won't.
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I won't.
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None of us will.
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Because the first casualty of war isn't always truth.
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Sometimes it's calm.
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Long before the first missile fires, before politicians stand behind podiums, before generals start pointing at maps, before cable news digs up another retired colonel with enough metals to sink a freaking canoe, something else happens.
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Eighty-six billion neurons inside your skull go buck fucking nutty.
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Not because somebody told them to, because they were designed to.
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You see, your brain doesn't know the difference between an Iranian missile and the saber-toothed tiger hiding behind a bush.
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To your nervous system, dangerous danger.
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Doesn't care whether it has fur or uranium enrichment.
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Doesn't matter.
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Your brain has one job.
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Keep your ass alive.
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Everything else, career, mortgage, retirement, the vacation you've been planning, those all come second.
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Survival comes first.
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Always.
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That's why evolution built you this way.
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People love talking about evolution until they realize they're still running on software that's about 2,000 years old.
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We've got smartphones, artificial intelligence, hypersonic missiles, quantum computers, and inside every one of us, there's still a frightened cave dweller asking, What the hell made that noise?
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That's who you are.
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That's who I am.
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We're not as modern as we'd like to believe.
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We are ancient survival machines wearing Bluetooth earbuds.
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Think about it.
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Imagine you're walking through the woods 10,000 years ago.
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You hear something rustle in the bushes, you got two choices.
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Option one, it's probably nothing.
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Option two, holy shit.
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Which guy survives longer?
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Exactly.
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The paranoid one.
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Turns out your ancestors were professional overreactors.
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And because they survived, here you are.
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Congratulations.
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You're the descendant of people who assumed the worst.
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Evolution doesn't reward optimism, it rewards survival.
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If your great-great-great-great-great-great-great-grandfather panicked 10 times when there wasn't actually a lion, he may have lost a little bit of sleep over that.
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But if he had stayed calm the one time there actually was a lion, he became lunch.
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Guess whose DNA made it to you?
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That's why your brain has what's called negativity bias.
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Bad news grabs your attention faster than good news.
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Always has, always will.
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You receive 100 compliments and one insult.
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Guess which one you're going to be thinking about lying in bed tonight?
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Exactly.
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100 peaceful headlines, one headline about missiles.
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Guess which one gets your attention?
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See?
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You don't have an anxiety problem.
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You have an operating system, and it's been remarkably successful.
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The problem is that evolution never anticipated 24-hour news.
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It never anticipated social media.
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It never anticipated your phone buzzing every six minutes because somebody somewhere posted breaking news.
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Everything is breaking news.
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Markets are breaking, governments are breaking, celebrity marriages are breaking.
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My lawnmower broke yesterday.
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Nobody interrupted dinner for that.
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We've become addicted to urgency because urgency feels important.
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And conflict?
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Conflict is urgency on steroids.
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Suddenly, every headline matters, every rumor matters, every anonymous government source matters.
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Every blurry cell phone video becomes evidence of something.
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Nobody knows why, but it's definitely something.
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Your body doesn't wait for confirmation.
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It starts preparing.
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Heart rate goes up, stress hormones increase, muscles tighten, sleep gets lighter, you start checking your phone more often.
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Not because you enjoy it, because your brain thinks the next update might keep us alive.
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It's the psychological equivalent of repeatedly opening the refrigerator, hoping a pizza magically appears.
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You know nothing's changed, you check anyway.
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Then comes uncertainty.
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And uncertainty is a motherfucker.
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It might be the cruelest invention evolution has ever given us.
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People think they're afraid of war.
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Sometimes they're not.
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They're afraid of not knowing.
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Will this get worse?
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Will it spread?
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Will somebody retaliate?
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Will there be cyber attacks?
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Will fuel prices explode?
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Will my son deploy?
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Will my daughter deploy?
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Will there be another attack here?
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Notice something?
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Almost every question begins with will.
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Not did.
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The event hasn't happened.
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Your brain's already living there.
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Psychologists call this anticipatory anxiety.
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Your grandmother called it worrying yourself sick.
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Turns out grandma might have been on to something.
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The waiting usually the worst part.
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Worse than the thing that you're waiting for.
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Waiting for biopsy results, waiting outside the principal's office, waiting for your kid to make it home during a storm, waiting for the phone call, waiting.
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Human beings are terrible at waiting.
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Because while you're waiting, your imagination starts to work overtime.
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And your imagination is a complete asshole.
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It never imagines everything will probably be okay.
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No.
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It writes disaster movies, it casts them, it scores them, it wins an Academy Award, and all of that all before breakfast.
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Now, here's where things really start getting dangerous because fear never travels alone, it brings friends.
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Here's something we rarely think about: fear.
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It's social, spreads, not through blood, not through the air, through people.
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One frightened person creates ten frightened people.
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Those ten create a hundred.
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Those hundred create thousands.
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Pretty soon nobody remembers who was scared first.
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Fear doesn't need evidence, it needs witnesses.
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Think about how ridiculous we've become.
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A guy posts online: my cousin knows somebody at the Pentagon.
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Fan fucking tastic.
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My barber's neighbor saw Shaquille O'Neal buying mulch.
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Doesn't make him Secretary of Defense.
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Yet somehow, millions of people immediately think this sounds credible.
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Why?
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Because confidence is persuasive.
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People don't spread uncertainty.
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They spread certainty.
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I heard, I know, my friend works.
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My source says.
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Everybody's got a source.
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Nobody's got documentation.
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And social media?
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Social media rewards that.
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Think about the algorithm for a second.
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If somebody posts, let's wait for verified information, 10 likes maybe.
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Somebody posts, this is it, World War III has begun.
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3 million views.
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Because your brain notices danger before it notices accuracy.
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That's not stupidity.
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That's survival.
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The algorithm figured out what evolution already knew.
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Scared people pay attention.
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So it gives you more things to be scared about.
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It's not evil, it's math.
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Engagement equals money.
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Fear equals engagement.
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Therefore, fear equals money.
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Simple business model, terrible mental health strategy, and then comes doom scrolling.
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You know exactly what I'm talking about.
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I'm just checking one thing.
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45 minutes later, you're reading about underground bunkers in Finland, Chinese naval movements, oil futures, the price of wheat.
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And somehow you've ended up watching a guy in Nebraska explain geopolitics while sitting shirtless in a lawn chair.
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How the hell did we get here?
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Your coffee's cold.
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Your dog's looking at you like, dude, we used to go outside.
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Research has shown something fascinating.
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The more often you hear something, the more likely you are to believe it.
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Even if it's not true.
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Repetition changes belief, not evidence, repetition.
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And that's terrifying.
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Because now imagine millions of people sharing the same rumor.
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All day, every day.
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Eventually, your brain stops asking, is this true?
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Starts asking, why is everybody talking about it?
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That's a big difference.
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Then comes another psychological trap.
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Availability.
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If you see 20 videos about missiles today, your brain concludes missiles must be everywhere.
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Not because they are, because they're available in memory.
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Your brain mistakes are easy to remember for likely to happen.
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Why people become convinced they're surrounded by danger.
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Even when statistically nothing around them has changed.
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Your neighborhood's still quiet, your mailbox is still standing, your kids are still arguing over whose turn it is on the Xbox, but psychologically, you're already on a battlefield.
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That's the power of perception.
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Human brain doesn't respond to reality, it responds to understanding of reality.
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Sometimes those are the same thing.
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Sometimes they're miles apart.
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Then something even stranger happens.
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Everyone becomes an expert.
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Not next week, not after months of research.
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Immediately.
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The plumber suddenly understands Middle Eastern geopolitics.
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The accountant has opinions on carrier strike groups.
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The guy who couldn't find Canada on a map six months ago now has a 12-point strategy for preventing regional escalation.
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Amazing! Conflict apparently comes with honorary PhDs.
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You gotta understand something.
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People don't always search for the truth.
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Sometimes they're just searching for relief.
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Now that we've established fear, it's time to explain what people do to escape it.
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You ever notice something?
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The second a conflict starts, everybody becomes a geopolitical strategist.
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Yesterday, the guy who still needs his grandson to reset the Wi-Fi has a 12-step plan for stabilizing the Middle East.
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Amazing.
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Conflict apparently comes with honorary PhDs.
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Everybody knows what should happen.
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We should bomb them.
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We should stay out of it.
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We should negotiate.
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We should sanction.
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We should invade.
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We should mind our own business.
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Everybody starts every sentence the same way.
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They should.
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Who's they?
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The people who spent the last 30 years studying the problem should have just asked Steve from accounting.
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He had it figured out during halftime.
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And here's the funny thing.
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Most of us, including me, don't have anywhere near enough information to make those decisions.
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And that's okay.
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The problem is our brains don't like saying that.
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I don't know.
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Those three little words for some people, they're harder to say than I was wrong.
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Researchers actually have a name for that.
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The need for cognitive closure.
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Sounds complicated.
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It isn't.
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It simply means your brain hates unfinished stories.
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Imagine reading a mystery novel and somebody tears out the last 50 pages.
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You'd lose your friggin' mind.
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You'd invent an ending.
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Maybe not the right ending, but an ending.
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Because uncertainty is uncomfortable.
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Conflict works exactly the same way.
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You hear missiles, retaliation, military buildup, diplomatic warnings, satellite images.
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Nobody knows exactly what's coming next.
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So your brain starts writing the ending itself.
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Sometimes it's optimistic.
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Usually it's a Michael Bay movie.
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And because humans are social creatures, we don't write those endings alone.
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We compare notes.
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Somebody says, I heard.
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Then somebody else says, I read.
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Then somebody says, my cousin, can we stop for a fucking minute here?
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How many cousins work for intelligence agencies?
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Seriously, every national crisis, there are apparently four million cousins with top secret clearance.
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Either the CIA has the world's largest family reunion, or people are just full of shit.
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I'm leaning toward option two, but confidence, that's the magic ingredient.
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You ever notice that?
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Nobody spreads uncertainty.
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Nobody posts.
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I'm honestly not sure what's happening.
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No, people post, I know exactly what is going on.
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All in caps with three American flag emojis and a blurry screenshot from somewhere.
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Confidence spreads.
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Hesitation does not, which explains conspiracy theories.
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People think conspiracy theories are about believing weird shit.
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Sometimes, maybe, but mostly they're about escaping uncertainty.
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A conspiracy theory gives you a beginning, a middle, and an end.
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It also gives you a villain.
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That's psychologically comfortable.
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Reality usually doesn't.
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Reality says we're still investigating.
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Nobody likes that.
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People don't want investigations.
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They want endings.
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Now, histories filled with examples.
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The sinking of the USS Maine, Pearl Harbor, JFK, 9-11, COVID.
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Every major event before the facts were known generated rumors.
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Some turned out to contain pieces of truth.
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A lot of them didn't.
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But they all had one thing in common.
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They made people feel like they understood.
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Whether they actually did was another matter.
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See?
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Understanding and feeling like you understand are not the same thing.
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One requires evidence, the other requires confidence.
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Guess which one the internet rewards?
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Exactly.
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Then another strange thing happens.
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People stop asking, is this true?
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They start asking, does this fit what I already believe?
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That's confirmation bias.
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You've probably heard the term.
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Everybody thinks somebody else has it.
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Nope.
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We all do.
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Your brain loves information that agrees with you.
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It hugs it, it feeds it, it shares it.
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Information that disagrees with you, your brain becomes a lawyer cross-examining every sentence, looking for flaws.
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Funny how that works.
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We're not objective.
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We're consistent, and consistency feels safe, even when it's wrong.
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Here's the irony.
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The smartest people I ever met aren't the ones with the fastest answers.
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They're usually the ones comfortable saying, I don't know yet.
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That's not weakness.
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That's discipline.
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Because in times of conflict, certainty can be comforting.
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But certainty without evidence can also be dangerous.
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And once enough people become certain about different versions of reality, something else begins.
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We stop arguing about facts, we start defending tribes, and that's where things get ugly.
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Fear has a funny way of changing clothes.
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It starts quietly, concern, anxiety, uneasiness.
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Then, after enough headlines, enough arguments, enough sleepless nights, fear gets tired of being afraid.
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So it becomes angry.
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Think about your own life.
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How many times have you snapped at somebody when you were really just stressed?
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Kids weren't the problem.
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The dog wasn't the problem.
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The guy driving 25 and a 45, well, he's a dick, but he's not the problem.
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You were overloaded.
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National conflict does the same thing.
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Fear says I'm vulnerable.
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Anger says I'm in control.
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That's why anger feels so much better.
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It's active.
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Fear curls up.
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Anger stands up.
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Fear whispers.
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Anger screams.
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The problem is anger also demands a target.
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Now somebody has to be responsible.
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Government, media, military, politicians, the previous administration, the current administration, the news, social media, oil companies, defense contractors, your neighbor somehow.
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It doesn't matter.
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Your brain wants a face because random danger is terrifying.
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A villain?
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At least that gives you somewhere to point.
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Then comes tribalism.
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This is one of the oldest survival mechanisms we have.
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Imagine you're living 5,000 years ago.
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Another tribe appears over the hill.
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Your brain immediately asks one question friend or enemy.
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It doesn't ask, let's hear both sides.
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That's not how survival worked.
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Fast decisions kept people alive.
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Today, that same instinct is still there.
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Only now, the tribes are political, ideological, religious, online.
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Everybody wants jerseys.
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Red, blue, left, right, us, them.
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Life becomes a football game.
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The problem?
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The real world doesn't have referees, and people aren't teams.
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They're people.
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But fear hates nuance.
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Nuance requires thinking.
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Fear prefers shortcuts.
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They're all like that.
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Really?
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All?
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Every single one?
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Amazing.
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You met millions of people this morning.
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History has shown us over and over that frightened societies begin simplifying people.
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Entire cultures become stereotypes.
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Entire religions become headlines.
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Entire populations become suspects.
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It happens so gradually.
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Most people don't notice they're doing it until years later, when everyone asks, How could that happen?
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Simple.
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One frightened shortcut at a time.
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Then comes moral certainty.
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Now, this one's dangerous because once you convince yourself your side is incapable of doing wrong and the other side is incapable of doing right, thinking stops.
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Everything becomes justification.
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Our mistakes are accidents.
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Their mistakes prove they're evil.
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Same behavior, different judgment, depending on whose flag is flying.
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That's not objectivity, that's identity.
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Social psychologists have studied this for decades.
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Our brains naturally favor people we see as part of our own group, even when those groups were assigned randomly in laboratory experiments.
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Think about that.
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Researchers literally divided strangers into meaningless teams, and within minutes, people started favoring their own group.
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Now imagine adding politics, religion, history, war, and fear.
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No wonder things escalate.
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We're all vulnerable to it.
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Not Democrats, not Republicans, not conservatives, not liberals, human beings.
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The software is the same, only the bumper stickers are different.
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And while we're busy defending our tribe, the algorithms smile because nothing generates engagement, quite like outrage.
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Tom people don't spend six hours arguing online.
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Angry people do.
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Fear becomes anger.
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Anger becomes clicks.
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Clicks become money.
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We're not just participants anymore.
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We're products.
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And before you know it, you've spent three hours arguing with a guy whose profile picture is an eagle wearing sunglasses.
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Congratulations! The greatest scientific achievement in human history, the internet, has convinced two grown adults to hate each other over a meme.
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That's almost impressive.
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Almost.
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But eventually, even anger runs out of gas because your nervous system can't stay at red line forever.
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Eventually, something else happens.
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None of this is new.
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Not one damn bit of it.
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You think we're living through something unprecedented?
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We always do.
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Every generation thinks this has never happened before.
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Meanwhile, history's sitting in the corner, rolling its eyes.
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Go back to Pearl Harbor.
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People bought maps, food, fuel.
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Rumors spread faster than newspapers could print corrections.
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Neighbors watched neighbors.
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People suddenly became suspicious of anyone who looked different.
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Fear did exactly what fear always does.
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Fast forward, the Cuban Missile Crisis.
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Kids practice hiding under school desks.
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Under desks.
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Do you remember that?
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As if a sheet of plywood and some chewing gum were gonna stop a thermonuclear weapon.
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Think about that.
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Entire generations crawled under desks because adults didn't know what else to tell them.
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Did it make strategic sense?
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Probably not.
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Did it make psychological sense?
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Absolutely.
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People needed to feel like they were doing something, anything, because doing nothing is emotionally unbearable.
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Then came Vietnam.
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Television changed everything.
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For the first time, war wasn't something you read about tomorrow morning.
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It came directly into your living room.
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Families ate meatloaf while helicopters flew across the evening news.
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The battlefield moved without moving.
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Then came the Cold War.
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Remember that?
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Some of us do.
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Every movie convinced us nuclear annihilation was about 17 minutes away.
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The day after, Red Dawn.
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War games.
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Hell, we made entertainment out of existential dread.
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Generation X did not invent dark humor.
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We inherited it.
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Then, September 11th.
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If you were old enough, you remember exactly where you were, not because your memory suddenly got better, because trauma burns itself into memory.
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The smell, the television, the silence, the phone calls, the uncertainty.
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Nobody knew what was coming next.
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People watched the news for days, not because the news had answers, because not watching somehow felt irresponsible.
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As though turning off the television might allow something terrible to happen.
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It wouldn't.
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But the brain doesn't negotiate with logic during uncertainty.
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Then COVID.
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What the fuck?
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COVID.
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Talk about a master class in human psychology.
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Remember the toilet paper?
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Still one of my favorite chapters in human behavior.
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Somewhere, one guy bought extra toilet paper.
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The next guy thought he probably knows something.
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Then everybody thought they all know something.
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Next thing you know, grown adults are fighting in Costco over Charming.
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Think about that.
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Not medicine, not food.
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Toilet paper.
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Anthropologists are going to study us someday and conclude we apparently believed respiratory viruses attacked in the bathroom.
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What actually happened?
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Fear.
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Uncertainty.
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Herd behavior.
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Nobody wants to be the only person who didn't prepare, even if nobody knew what they were preparing for.
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That's the thing.
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History changes uniform.
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Sometimes it's Pearl Harbor, sometimes it's a virus, sometimes it's terrorism, sometimes it's missiles.
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The trigger changes.
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The human brain does not.
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We've upgraded everything.
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Cars, medicine, communication, computers.
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The human operating system, still version one caveman.
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Still looking for movement in the bushes.
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Still assuming the worst.
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Still trying to survive.
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There's an old saying, history repeats itself.
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I don't think that's true.
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History changes names.
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People repeat themselves.
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That's the part we never seem to fix.
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After everything we've talked about, fear, anger, tribes, history, rumors, certainty.
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What's the dreadful truth?
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It's not that nations go to war, they always have.
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It's not that politicians argue, they always will.
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It's not that the media chases dramatic stories.
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Drama, for them, pays the bills.
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No.
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The dreadful truth is much more uncomfortable.
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The dreadful truth is us.
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We're predictable, painfully predictable.
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Every single time that we panic, that we speculate, we choose sides, we spread rumors, that we mistake confidence for competence, we confuse repetition with evidence.
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We mistake outrage for action.
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Slowly we adapt.
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That's another strange thing about humans.
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We're unbelievably fragile.
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Right up until we're unbelievably resilient.
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Think about it.
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Cities have been bombed, rebuilt, bombed again, rebuilt again.
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Communities survive hurricanes, earthquakes, wars, pandemics.
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Families bury loved ones.
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And somehow they still celebrate birthdays, still fall in love, still tell jokes, still complain about traffic.
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Human beings are weird.
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We can endure almost anything once we've accepted it.
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That's resilience.
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But resilience has a dark cousin.
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Complacency.
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Eventually, the breaking news isn't breaking anymore.
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The war moves to page six.
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The alerts stop buzzing.
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People stop paying attention.
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Not because they stopped caring, because the human nervous system cannot stay in emergency mode forever.
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It would destroy itself so it conserves energy.
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Psychologists call it habituation.
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Your grandfather probably called it.
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Life goes on.
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And it does.
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Pools still need cleaning.
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Kids still need rides to school.
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Dogs still bark at squirrels.
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The lawn still needs mowing.
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The bills still show up.
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Life keeps demanding your attention, even while history is being written somewhere else.
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Maybe that's one of the most beautiful things about humanity.
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We're capable of surviving emotionally without forgetting completely.
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But here's the danger.
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Every conflict teaches us something.
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The question is, what?
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Do we learn patience or suspicion?
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Do we learn compassion or hatred?
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Do we learn humility or certainty?
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Because here's another dreadful truth.
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Fear isn't evil.
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Fear kept your ancestors alive.
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Anger isn't evil.
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Sometimes anger tells us something needs to change.
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Anxiety is not weakness.
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It's biology.
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The problem is when we stop questioning those emotions.
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Emotions are information.
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They're not instructions.
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Just because you're afraid doesn't mean you're in danger.
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Just because you're angry doesn't mean you're right.
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Just because everybody believes something doesn't make it true.
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One of the healthiest things a human being can say, especially during a national crisis, is I don't know.
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Those four words have become almost revolutionary.
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I don't know.
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I know.
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That was three words.
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How about this one?
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I need more evidence.
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I am going to wait.
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Imagine if more people did that.
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Imagine if social media rewarded that.
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Imagine if politicians said that.
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Imagine if news organizations admitted that.
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Imagine if we all became just a little bit more comfortable living with uncertainty instead of immediately filling the silence with rumors.
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Because that's really what this entire episode has been about.
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Not Iran, not America, not missiles, not politics, not governments, not the human mind.
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The same human mind that survived ice ages, crossed oceans, built civilizations, invented electricity, walked on the moon, created the internet, and then somehow used it to argue with complete strangers over things neither personally actually understands.
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We're magnificent, we're ridiculous.
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Sometimes within the same five minutes.
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And maybe that's the lesson.
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The next conflict will come.
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History guarantees it.
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I don't know where, I don't know when, I don't know why, neither do you, but I know something else.
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I know exactly what millions of people will feel.
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Fear, confusion, anger, hope, patriotism, grief, compassion, suspicion, love.
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All of it.
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Because the human heart hasn't evolved nearly as fast as technology.
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The missiles changed, the aircraft changed, the satellites changed, the phones changed, the algorithms changed.
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We did not.
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We're still listening for something moving in the bushes, still wondering if it's coming for us.
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Sometimes it is.
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Most of the time, it isn't.
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The trick is knowing the difference.
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Because if we lose that ability, the enemy doesn't have to defeat us.
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Our own imagination will do it for them.
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And that is the dreadful truth.
