Ep. 88. Understanding your child’s brain-based differences

This episode is a wonderful conversation discussing how we as parents can shift our focus, our reactivity and the lens in which we view our children with brain-based differences. You get to hear from expert Eileen Devine on how she approaches parenting frustrating behaviors from a skill deficiency lens vs an intentional defiant lens. I hope you enjoy this conversation and feel hopeful in how we can start to shift as parents with our children whose brains function differently. Bio: Eileen Devine is a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Brain First Parenting. She lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and two teenage children, one of whom lives with a serious brain-based difference. She has over 20 years of clinical experience and for the last dozen of those years, has focused solely on supporting parents who have kids with neurobehavioral conditions. In addition to her clinical work with parents, she facilitates dozens of workshops and trainings each year for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals and is a trainer for the Center for Adoption Support and Education’s (C.A.S.E.) accredited Training for Adoption Competency (TAC) Program, where she instructs other clinicians across the state of Oregon on what it means to be an adoption and foster competent therapist. https://www.eileendevine.com/ FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you’ll have access to me DAILY through DM’s and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You’ll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course “The Strong-Willed Language Series!” Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what\'s happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what\'s going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5