The Truth About Burnout & Women's Health | FT Janeisha Mays | EP27

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Welcome to Be Real with Sarah, where the b mastein
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and the real never dies. Right, Hey, y'all, welcome to
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another episode of Be Real with Sarah. Y'all, we are
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in for a time. I don't know. I just feel
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like with the stresses of life and all the things
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that I currently have going on and you have going on,
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our nervous system is probably it's probably I don't know,
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jacked up maybe and not together where it should be.
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But y'all, we have not only do we have company,
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but we have a whole board certified family nurse practitioner
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that is going to get us together. Wellness educator, entrepreneur,
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nationally known for the work that she's done in her
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industry in her career, and again, I think we see
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women and men and all the people that are doing
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all the things, and we're probably wondering, like do they
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ever catch a break? Are they ever porn into themselves?
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And she's gonna talk to us about ways that we
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can do all of those things. So introducing her, the
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founder of the owner of Younemonia Beauty and Wellness. All welcome,
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Genisha may thank you.
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I need to take you everywhere.
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I gotta get my girl, honey for the word, and
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you official, I was like, she's gonna wear the cold?
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I am. I am definitely. I worked very hard to
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get this coat, so I'm definitely gonna works. And you know,
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my pins so that people understand, Okay, credential.
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Credential like real, we gotta we got the whole press
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towards and I got to look you up and you can.
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Look me up. It's gonna tell you credential.
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Absolutely, thank you for being here. So how do you
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feel today?
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I feel great, Like I absolutely feel great.
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Yes, I love it.
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That's not always it was not always a thing, but
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today I'm very calm, regulated, you know all the things.
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And I ask you that because you ask a lot.
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If you ask a lot of people how are they
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feeling today, They're gonna give you a whole other scenario
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or they're gonna lie, and it's something's going on. And
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so I want to kind of get into that about
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I know you deal with so many different people that
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have again we all have some much going on, but
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is it like an effect of like their life or
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how they're their nervous system. So kind of talk us
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through those individuals that you encounter, like that absolutely.
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So I feel like everyone is walking around with a
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chronically disregulated nervous system. And honestly, when I started my brand,
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The Regulated Woman, it really came to me from just
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out of nowhere. To be quite honest, I've never been
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formally educated on every system regulation, like even in undergrad
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and nursing school, not even in nurse practitioner school, Like
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we touch on the nervous system, but not what it
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means and how it integrates in people's lives. And I
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feel like that's a huge disservice because it affects so
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many systems that people just think, oh, it's just stress,
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Oh I just haven't slept, Oh, like it's always a
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reason why something's going on. But no one ever taps
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into what the nervous system is actually saying to the
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body and how you're showing up or your ability to
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even show up. And so for me, I have been
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through my own journey of I've been in the eur
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nurse for ten years before I became a nurse practitioner,
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and so I have always worked in an environment that's
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high stress. So for me, I just thought this was
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just you know, you're in a general and junkie and
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like this is just your thing. But it wasn't until
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I hit burnout a couple of years ago where I
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was just like, no, this may not just be your job.
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It could be that your job has disrupted your life
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so much that you don't even know what it looks
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like to even be regulated. And so once I started
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really tapping into nervous system regulation and what it looks like,
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I was like, oh, yeah, more people need to especially
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high achieving women. More women need to understand what this
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looks like, what does it mean, and what they can
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do so that they can live in a regulated state.
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Wow, it sounds like, again, we don't really even know
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that our nervous systm is so jactive. Like literally, no,
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I working in PR, we put the responsibility were not
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necessary responsibility, Like the fate of a lot of the
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success of the campaign is on other end of somebody
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else's yes, And so our minds are like all over
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the place, and so listening to you, I'm like, ooh,
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our our nervous system is probably jacked up to oh yeah,
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through stress and for sure for sure, and it impacts
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your daily routine for sure.
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So what I really like I am in my season
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of regulation. So my season came because I'm not a
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mom yet, but I'm preparing for motherhood. So preparing for
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motherhood looks different for other people. So I decided, I
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get to decide what type of mother I want to
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be for my children. So what does that look like
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for me to prepare now before they're here. This is
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not something that my mother, my grandmother like. They didn't
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get that opportunity to prepare. I get that, So what
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does that look like for me to do that? So
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it really made me start to have to dig into
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why genishes the way she is, the things that she
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enjoyed or doesn't enjoy, and where did that come from?
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And so when I really started to dig deep, I
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was like, oh, I don't like none of that. And
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so I had the conversation with on. So I talked
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to him, I'm about this a lot because I feel
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like a lot of women have a lot of unhealed
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mother wounds. Thankfully I'm not one of those, but my
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mom has mother wounds. And so for me to be
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able to connect to why and where things come from,
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we have to have these conversations. And so once I
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really started to dig, I was like, I feel like,
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I have probably been chronically disregulated since a little girl,
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because I've always been high achieving, high functioning, hyper independent,
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very ambitious, and to me, that was just who I was.
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My mom always made sure, like, you know, you need
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to seize the things that you want to do, and
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how else are you going to figure this out if
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you don't explore things. So I played multiple sports instruments
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like it was always something. So my tabs started being
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open from a very young age and so that so
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I just thought that's just always how I was. Until
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I realized I was just like, but this doesn't have
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to be how I have to be. And so that's
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really what made me start to be like, well, dang,
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where did this come from? So the more in depth
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I started to go, I started to uncover a lot
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more things that I was just like, Wow, some of
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these I like and some of the things I don't.
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So how do we get rid of the things that
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we've always done and create a new And that's kind
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of where I am right now.
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Okay that says a lot. So for one someone listening,
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how can they say, you know, I really need to
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regulate my nervous system. That's been my life and I
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feel like that's a lot of our lives, especially as
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black women. We're always onto the next doing multiple things,
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pointing everybody else, pointing to ourselves, still not hitting the
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glass ceilings, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. How do
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we just like recalibrate our nervous system?
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Like, so I get this question a lot, and I
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will say, there's not one thing that's gonna make you
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be like this is gonna switch. It takes time to
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actually reregulate because when you think about it, it's the
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same like with weight, Like when people say, oh, I
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want to lose weight, and I tell people all the time,
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you didn't gain the weight overnight, so you're not going
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to lose it overnight. It's time that it took. So
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you have to think of the nervous system the same
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exact way. If you have been in a chronic disregulated
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state for years, some people have been in this state
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for decades, it is going to take a lot of
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time to unlearn a lot of bad habits that you
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have learned over the years. So the easiest way to
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start is an assessment of your life. So what does
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that look like? So for me, I've been on night
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shift for about fourteen years, so that in itself has
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disrupted my whole life because my circadian rhythm has been switched.
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So now you take into that effect of just the
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sleep component. So my quartersol levels, which cortisol is the
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stress hormone, and so the natural quartersol hormone is supposed
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to fluctuate throughout the day. But since I'm a person
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that's been on nights for so long, my cortsol and
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my circadian rhythm are kind of at an inverse effect.
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So when my quartersol is supposed to be high, which
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would be like in the mornings, mine is lower because
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I'm sleep And at night time, when it's supposed to
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be lower, mine is high because I'm awake. So it
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goes back to regulating that system. So regulating your sleep,
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what does that look like? There are a lot of
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people who'll be like, oh, I just need a few
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hours and I can recalibrate, But really, the destruction of
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you not sleeping is doing so much damage to your
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body because you're not able to have any mental recovery.
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You're not getting into deep sleep enough, so you're not
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getting the physical recovery that comes with sleep. Sleep alone
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is like the number one thing to focus on. Then
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once you decide that you're going to regulate your sleep,
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now you have to look at your physical activity. A
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lot of people think that regulation is a top down thing.
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It is really a bottom up because your vegus nerve
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that helps to keep this system going really is eighty
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percent body to brain. So people think that I just
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need to just think happy thoughts and do breath work,
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and that is great, but if we're not physically active,
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working out, making sure we're eating properly. Because you have
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so many neurons in your gut alone, that's why they
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call it the second brain. You have five hundred million
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neurons in your gut by itself, so when you start
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to look at that piece of it, people don't move enough.
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So if you're not physically active, you're not sleeping that
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in itself, you're gonna be chronically disregulated. Every day.
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Girl, I'm just looking at you like woow yeah, because girl,
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I've been missing sleep for like five days.
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Yeah, that was my life. I used to sleep ten
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hours a week.
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A week what yeah, yeah, and you.
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Just I conditioned myself so when I started my business,
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I was still working nights, and so I would have
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to work at night, see clients during the day, and
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then go back to work sometimes so I would only
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sleep maybe two or three hours a day, drink two
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bangs a shift, power through, take a nap, and my
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thing was I would catch up on the weekend, so
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then I would sleep for ten twelve hours straight. I
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would do that for weeks.
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That don't even sound.
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No, it's definitely not. It was definitely terrible. So when
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I started to evaluate, the weight was the first thing
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that I was evaluated because I said to myself, you're
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in a health and wellness industry, but you don't even
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fit your own brand, because how do you expect people
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to take you serious and educate them on weight loss
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when you're overweight girl? So I had to look in
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the mirror and be like, Okay, that's cool. So that
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means if I wanted to fix, if I wanted to
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grow my brand, this was my thought process. If I
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wanted to grow a brand, I had to be my
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first client. So I was already overweight. I wasn't sleeping,
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my cholesterol levels were through the roof. I did not
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like how I look, how I felt, and I was
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two steps from burnout. Realistically, I probably was already in it,
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but it took someone saying I don't think it's stress
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that's your problem. I think you're burnt out. I didn't
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even evaluate myself to even think that was a thing,
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because I'm like, no, I work in highest stressful inns.
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I know how to reregulate myself. I'm a nurse, Like,
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what do you mean? And then for me to evaluate that,
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and I had to actually look at the definition of
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what burnout was and to understand the difference between stress
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and burnout because people think it's synonymous and it's not.
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And so once I started looking at the definition, I
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was like, oh, yeah.
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You probably are what the definition of burnout?
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So people think that when you're stressed, this is just
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your body just saying like you have stressful situations. And
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this is the analogy I give people all the time
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when it comes to your cortisol and your HPA access
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and your nervous system. Your body does not know the
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difference between you being chased by a bear and somebody
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cutting you off in traffic. You're going to get the
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same response to your nervous system. The burnout comes when
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it's a deeper level beneath that, so it looks different
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for everybody. I was a very high functioning individual. Nobody
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and my circle knew that I was burnt out. There
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was one person that knew that I was burnt out,
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and that was my boyfriend. And he was the only
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person who said, something is wrong. I don't know what
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it is, and I know I can't fix it, but
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something's not right with you, and I don't know what
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that is. And I was like, no, I'm fine, but
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I wasn't. Because the month of Janey, this is twenty
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twenty four, twenty three, one of those years, the month
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of January, there's thirty one days. I worked twenty six
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of those thirty one days that month, and mind you,
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I worked twelve hour shifts. Oh so I worked twenty
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six of those thirty one days. My body had it
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had already shut down, but I was just you know,
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patching it up, patching it up, and I would go
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home some nights I couldn't get out of bed, or
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some mornings I couldn't get out of bed. I was
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eating just crazy sugar. Everything was just like crazy everything.
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And then that's when I was just like, no, your
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weight really is a problem. Because why are your cholesterol
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levels so high? And I started evaluating I had a
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lot of abdominal fat, and so I was just like,
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you gotta lose the weight. Later on, I realized it
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was a lot of quartisol and stress that was sitting
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in my body as well, and it looked like it
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was weight, which it was. Now not saying that wasn't
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the thing that definitely was Okay, I definitely had to
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shed those forty pounds. But once I was able to
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do that, then it became, oh, the fibroids was a thing.
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But then I'm like, the gut is still there, Like
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if fibirds are gone, the weight is gone, but why
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you still have this lower abdominal fat. And that's when
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I was like, it's your quartisol issue.
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What Yeah, so okay, and you fix that and fixing
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you're fixing and fixing currently, yes, okay, and what are
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your steps to doing that?
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So now that I'm in a season of regulation, the
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very first thing and me and my friend have this
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running joke of quarter saw spikers. So there are people
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around you that will spike your quartersaw like they absolutely
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stretch you out and they make you just irritated. Let's
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just say that word. And so it's really a lot
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of mirror reflecting and a lot of exercises to see,
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like what that looks like. And so I started seeing
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the quarter saw spikers in my life. I was my
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own quarter Saw Spiker because I was always feeling like
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I was always having to be in rush. And a
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huge thing that a lot of women don't realize is
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urgency is chronic disregulation, because we're always hurting to do
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the next thing. I gotta do this, I gotta do this,
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like we never allow ourselves to just slow down and rest.
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So the very first thing I had to do for
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me was to give myself permission to rest without guilt.
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And that was the most uncomfortable thing that I had
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to do. And I remember the very first time that
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I was just like Judicia, you have to just sit
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here and just rest.
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I cried.
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I sat on my couch and I cried because I
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felt so guilty that you have this running list of
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tasks that you need to do, but you just sitting
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here doing it. Made me feel like I was being lazy. Yeah,
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and my issue with my weight was that reality was
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you're very lazy. You're not physically active like that was
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a thing that I had to have that come to
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Jesus with myself, and so giving myself that permission to
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rest without guilt was the very first thing I had
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to learn, and honestly, that was probably the hardest thing
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I had to do for me because we're so used
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to always going to the next thing, always doing the
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next thing, always making sure we have fifty million things
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to go on, and we don't even give ourself the
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permission to just rest. So once I mastered that, I
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still struggle because I always feel like you're supposed to
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be doing something. But now I have to tell myself, Jenisia,
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you have to listen to your body. And a lot
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of times we ignore the body gives all the signals. Yeah,
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we ignore every single one. And so once I decided
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that I had to give myself the permission to do that,
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everything else started to kind of fall in line. So
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then I was like, well, what type of person do
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you want to be? What do you want to be?
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What type of woman do you want to be for
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your husband? What type of mother do you want to
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be for your kids? Like what does that look like
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for you? Because in order for you to achieve it,
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you first have to see it, and I had to
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see who it is that I wanted to become before
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I could work towards becoming her. And that's where I
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am now, and that's just kind of where I started.
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Yeah, I mean, I think what you're saying is speaking
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to a lot of high achieving women. I think, you know,
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we can become as a high achieving woman myself, addicted
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to success and trying to go into the next level
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and to the next level, and we completely forget about
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ourselves and then we're complaining. We're at home and we
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know something is off, but we're like, well, I got
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to do this and I got to do that. And
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I think it's just a snowball effect to really like
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your body making you shut down. My mom always says,
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it's like, you don't want your body to make you
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sit down, because it will definitely. And that's what you
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are speaking to. So to the people that are like, Okay,
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I hear what she's saying, but I can't stop. I
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won't stop. I gotta get this money, I gotta get
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this bag. You know, that's the topic, that's the conversation
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from being in your field, What would you say to them?
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So The beauty of where I love this space I'm
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in right now is because I get to have these
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conversations with a lot of high achieving women and they
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get to hit them on both sides. So Regulated Woman
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is my nervous system brand, but I also have Unimonia
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Wellness and Beauty, which is my preventive wellness brand. So
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with me focusing on prevention and my wellness brand, now
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I get to hit the women on both sides because
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a lot of women come to me that they're like,
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I know something's not right, but I'm not sure what
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it is. I know I feel off, but I don't
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know what that looks like to feel on, you know.
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So I always take the approach of prevention and moving
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into integrative and functional medicine, which is kind of like
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the in between of conventional society that we know and
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completely holistic medication. I'm right in the middle, and so
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I always start with lab work first because, believe it
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or not, a lot of women neglect their health when
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it comes to lab testing, probably more than anybody I've
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known black men two. But we don't take into account
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the simplicity of just checking your blood work because a
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lot of times you can feel tired and off because
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your vitamin D levels are in the single digits. So
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a lot of people don't know that sometimes your body
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is fighting against you because there is something that's actually
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going on. And so that's always the first place I
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want to start. So the beauty is people can come
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to me and we have a full lab at our SPA,
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so we're gonna check labs first, so we do preventive
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wellness assessments, so it's not just a regular intake for like, yes,
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I want to know when what's your medical history, what's
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your surgical history, you know, what's your family history. But
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I also want to know what is your stress levels,
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like how much do you sleep, what are your triggers,
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you know, what are your cycles looking like? Because this
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is giving me a full picture of what your body
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is saying that you might not take say to me
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because I tell people all the time your body tells
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a story that your mouth does not, and the number
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one truth that's always going to give the one hundred
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percent facts of those blow work. Yeah, So even if
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you tell me, oh yeah, girl, I do this, and
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I work out five times a week and I have
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a clean diet, I just be like, oh, okay, one,
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I'm gonna look at you and I no, no, that's
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not the case. But as soon as I check those
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labs and be like, I absolutely know that that's not
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the case. So it's always a place that I start
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because I need I'm a science girly, so a lot
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of people don't believe I could tell you a lot
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of things. But once you see the data, then you're
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looking at me like, okay, now I need to Now
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I need to work on some things. So I make
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sure that we do comprehensive assessments, but we also do
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comprehensive lab tests. And I also do lab tests. They're
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not always checked by your primary care and so that
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that's the beauty on why I love it because one
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primary care, I love that they have such a very
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intricate job, but because they do a lot of times
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there are things because of our healthcare system that certain
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tests are not going to be covered. Vitamin D is
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one of those things. There was an article that came
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out a couple of years ago and interocrinologists basically said
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that running a routine vitamin D level is not necessary
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in a healthy individual. And so because of this, health
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insurance stopped covering the lab test. So even if you
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would want to get the lab test done, if you
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don't have any indicators that says yes, we should check it,
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They're not going to routinely check. And ninety five percent
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of my clients that come through my door are vitamin
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D deficient, every single one. And I'm like, okay, I
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was vitamin D deficient. Yeah, so exactly. So majority of
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my clients are African American, so majority of my clients
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come in and their vitamin D levels are in the
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single digits. So then now when you add that on
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top of the food industry, the foods are more and
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more full of chemicals and antibiotics and hormones. So when
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you add that on top of the physical inactivity, now
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your body is telling a whole different story as well.
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So it's always me starting with just the basis of
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checking labs. So then we can get a full clinical
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picture so that I can see what is your blood
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work showing, what are you saying, and then let's put
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the picture together.
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Wow, No, you definitely hit on something with the vitamin
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D because I actually went to the doctor, I say,
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may and I just knew my energy was off again.
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Holly stress in a Holly trust field and they told
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me they was like not looked at the dosage for
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the vitamin D. I can't even remember. And it was
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so hot, like, hey, did y'all write the right prescription?
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It's like your vitamin D is extremely low. Like it
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was like, you got to be super aggressive with taking
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this medication multi. You gotta take a multi vitamin and
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I just couldn't. I was shocked. I'm like, because no
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one talks about that. I'm just like, oh, I just
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need some iron supplements.
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That's what everybody thinks.
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They're like, no, your vitamin D is bad, Like I said, well,
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don't go to get out in the sun and something.
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Yes, but that's usually what a lot of people think.
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But the thing is, for us melanated individuals, we don't
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absorb the vitamin D from the sun like our non
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melanated counterparts because the melanin in our skin actually prevents
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us from absorbing it like we need to. So you
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put that aspect on top, and then you add a
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lot of black people don't like being in the sun
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in general. We don't like being hot, and so when
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you add those two things, you're just like, what are
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you going to do so you're just chronically vitamin D
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deficient all the time. So it took me. Vitamin D
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your number should be in between like thirty and fifty.
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That's optimal. As a integrative provider, I want your numbers
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to really between like fifty and seventy. So my vitamin
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D levels were a nine and I was like, girl, like,
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you ain't got nothing circulating. So it took time. But
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that's another thing. It took time. So yes, I was
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on a high dose of vitamin D. But the thing
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is the doctor will give you your dose of your
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vitamin D for three months. Once you finish taking it,
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they don't recheck your levels. So how do you know
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do I need to continue on this high dose for
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a while or do I just need to go to
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a daily supplement. These are the things that I've seen
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in our system where I'm like, no, genishu, we have
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to fix these things. This is where the prevention comes
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in because you come to me now after those three
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months of that high dose, We're definitely going to recheck
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that number. A vitamin dtest is twenty two dollars. What
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twenty two dollars.
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You spend that at the drive Okay.
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So these are just the things that are in our
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system that I'm just like, I don't love it.
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Yeah. Oh wow, so you offered like with ivy hydration treatment.
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So you know, social media has us like on this
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whole self care thing, like we need massages. And what
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would you say, as a high achieving woman to the
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business entrepreneur professional, what are some in your practice that
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you think, like on a regular basis, they really need
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to be putting into their self.
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Self care routine. So the conversation of the suffware, I
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absolutely feel like you should definitely do things that are relaxing, right,
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But it also makes me think like why is it
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as a society we feel like we always have to
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do we always have to escape our reality. There are
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so many people that I only go on vacation so
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I can relax. But I only go on vacation. What time,
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Oh I have to do a self care thing? Like, yes,
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you should take care of your body, absolutely, but in
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order for you to take care of your body, that
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means you actually have to do the things to take
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care of your body. And because a massage is great, Okay,
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an aqua massage recess my nervous sys and like nothing
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I've ever experienced in my life. So when we're getting
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to that level, that's the type of self care that
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that is doing. But for me, my self care comes
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with resting like I need you to, and that means
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resting with nothing else, just you and your own thoughts
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and resting. And for me, doing the things that take
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care of your body means making sure you're good in
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your labs done on a routine basis. So if you
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are a healthy individual, once a year it's great. If
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you know you got some things in your labs that
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ain't really sitting well or you're on medication, you may
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need to follow up more often. It may be every
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three to six months instead of every year. Doing those
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things is the real self care. Making sure you're sleeping,
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that's the real self care. Making sure that you are exercising,
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that's the real self care. There's a reason why the
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American Heart Association says one hundred and fifty minutes a week.
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So many people think that that is just so unattainable.
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That's not I tell my clients. It breaks down into
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thirty minutes five days a week, or fifty minutes three
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days a week. Like however, we want to pick your struggle,
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but one hundred and fifty minutes a week, that's all
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we need. You have to do those things to really
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take care of your body, because the massage is cute,
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but if you're not really taking care of the temple,
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everything else is really just gonna roll off. So in
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my spot, the things that we do ivyhydration is amazing.
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I'm giving you concentrated dosaging of vitamins, minerals, and aminos
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directly into your bloodstream so you get one hundred percent
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availability right away. So for me, I'm gonna get me
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a drip. I am now optimizing my supplements and what
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does that look like? Because I want to make sure
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that my body can perform at its highest peak for
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as long as possible. So that's why we now do
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a lot of longevity stuff in our SPA. So we're
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doing things like NAD infusions and NAD injections and getting
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born to other peptides that we're looking at the longevity
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because ultimately, like I want to be here for as
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long as possible, but in order for me to do that,
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I have to take care of the only thing that
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I don't get another thing.
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Of Yeah wow. So listening to that for those that say,
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man like I would love to come to her spa,
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but what are some supplements? Cause that's what I'm learning
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to in my early thirties. Maybe my kitchen counter has
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so many supplements, but I'm being honest, like, what supplements
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do we really need to take every day?
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So this is a thing. So this is we actually
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started a supplement optimization part of the business because I
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was starting to get this question. A lot people think
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that their supplements are just like a one size fit all,
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and they're not. I recommend supplements that you need for
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your body. So every one of my clients that get
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supplement recommendations, I know what their labs look like because
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I need to know what you're deficient in so I
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can know if we need to replace that or if
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we're just needing to just optimize these things. So I
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do feel like every individual should have a good multivitamin.
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But I do understand, and my mom helped me understand
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that because my mom was like, well, I do take
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a multivitamin, and I'm like, there's no way you take
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a multivitamin because your labs are told me you're not.
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But a multi vitamin just definitely just means multiple vitamins
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and appeal. Yeah, and her vitamin literally had three things
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in it. I'm like, girl, that's not doing anything for you.
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She was like, well, it is a multivitamin. It is.
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But the way that marketing of supplements and everything is
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all a gimmick. Okay, it's all propaganda if you ask me. So,
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everyone needs a multivitamin, for sure, but not every multivitamin
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is made the same. I understand that. So, because of
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the way our foods are, we're not getting the right
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amount of nutrients from our foods like we should. Unless
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you're intentional about what you're eating and making sure you're
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getting the right amount of fiber and minerals, you're going
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to need to supplement. And so that's always top of line.
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At least have a multivitamin. If there are things that
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you know you're deficient in, then we may need to
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look to see do we need to add an iron supplement?
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Is this something that we need to do to add
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other minerals onto your brand. I am in a pre
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motherhood season, so my stack looks very different than somebody
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else's because my goal is to optimize eg quality to
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make sure that I'm having the right vitamins to so
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that I can have a healthy pregnancy. So my stack
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includes I take twelve supplements a day and people be like,
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that's a lot I do, But because they all are
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doing my optimization and what I'm looking for is very different.
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So I do twelve vitamins a day plus two shots
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every week. And that's because my goals are different. So
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it's never like a one size fits all, and I
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feel like the industry has made it like, oh, you
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just need to take this, this, this and this and
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that'll be great. I can't say that because I don't
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know what you will need nutritionally. I don't know what
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you need. But a multivitamin definitely top of the line.
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Definitely top of line.
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Definitely.
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I love it. I love it. I love it. Now
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we talk about the regulated woman, but you're actually having
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an event.
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Yeah, at them. So I had a miomexomy, which is
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a removal of fibroids from the uterus last year. So
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I had twenty two fibroids removed from my uterus, one ovarian,
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and I also had Grade two endometriosis, and so fivebroids
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run very heavy in my family. Every single woman in
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my family except for maybe two has had fibroids at
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some point, and so I knew that it would probably
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be something that was that would be a thing for me,
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But I did not realize my unhealthy habits were definitely
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making the fibroids worse. So before I decided to get
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my fibers removed. When I got I switched birth control
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to an IUD, and when my ID was placed, I
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had four fibroids at the time. Four years later, when
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I got my IUD out, I had twenty two in
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four years now the caveat I could have had more
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than four fibroids when I first put my IOD in place,
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but that's just what was able to be shown on
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the ultrasound, So it could have been more because at
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the time it surgery, we thought that there were fifteen
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or maybe twelve, and when she removed twenty two. So
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there were a lot of small ones that had been
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hidden behind some of the larger ones. And so when
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I decided to do the mile mext me because it
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wasn't an easy decision for me. I have always wanted
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to have like a natural birth, and I want to
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go to a birthing center, and all of these things
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and my doctor is like, yeah, no, you'll be c
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section only after we take these off. So for me,
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that was just like oh Jesus, like, that's a very
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hard decision for me to make. But shout out to
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my doctor, doctor Craible, She's most amazing. She said, the
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goal is a healthy baby, no matter how they get here,
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that's the goal. So before I decided to do the surgery,
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I went to my own holistic journey of removing my
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fiber OIDs and that included acupuncture. Acupuncture change my life.
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When I tell you, my acupunctures is hands down the
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best acupunctures. Now, granted I ain't never been to nobody else,
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but there's nobody else that I feel like is so
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in tune with the body. So shout out to doctor
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Nancy Catto with Connection on Wellness. She is hands down
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the most amazing acupuncturist I've ever experienced. And so I
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started going to acupuncture weekly. That's when I really started
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to realize my nervous system was really out of whack
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because the emotions that came out of acupuncture, the feelings,
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and that was the smallest my gut had ever been.
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And this was before I had my surgery. That's how
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I knew something was wrong with my cortisol because I
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was just like, well, man, I lost this way. I
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still have five birds in and now my stomach is
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like she almost on flat, so I ain't. So that
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was the first inclination. So then I did that, and
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then it still came down to girl, we gotta get
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these firebirds out, and so I decided to record the process.
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I didn't know what I was gonna do with that.
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I didn't know how it was gonna come about, but
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I was just like, we're going to I'm gonna share it.
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So I started sharing the journey. My dms were flooded
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with women who were I've gone through the same thing.
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I have fiberds too, Like so many women were sending
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me messages that I was just like, Wow, we don't
662
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have a space for women to talk about these things.
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We don't have a space for women to be comfortable
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with talking to experts about what's going on for them
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to understand what their options are. So many women were like,
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I have these fibers and they've been here for years.
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I'm having heavy cycles and nobody addresses it. So that's
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where the fiber room came from So it came from
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me sharing my own experience. And so I say my
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story birthed the room because it was allowing other women
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the opportunity to have the conversations that we weren't ever
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meant to have, to really understand what it means for
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your body, your warmb health, hormonal issues, and for us
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to have an intimate conversation about it. So this is
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actually our second year doing it, and the panelists thankfully
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that they loved me so much. So my obgen who
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performed my milemectomy, is our keynote again. So doctor Quanne
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de Craible, she's also the keynote for the second year
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this year, and then my acupuncturists she's also on the
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panel two. And so I bring together the things that
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I feel like people are missing. When I found out
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that I had the fibroids, we just watch and wait,
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but I didn't know what that meant in order to
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watch and wait. So my stress levels were extremely high,
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which contribute to the fibroids. My eating habits were not great,
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which were contributing to the fibroids. My physical inactivity was
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not very well, which was contributing to my fibroids. So
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there were so many things that I I was doing
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in my life that were probably making my fiber I
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created a breeding or Oh, and my caffeine levels were
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crazy because I was drinking two bangs a shift, So
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my caffeine levels were so high they were contributing to
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my fibroids too. So there were so many things that
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I learned that we can't say what causes the fibroids,
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but we know what makes worse. And so creating that
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space for women to be able to have the conversations
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with experts, having the conversations about what that means to
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really heal your womb. So we have a therapist there
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because those are conversations that women don't realize that there
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is a connection between your womb and how you move
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throughout the throughout your life, and a lot of women
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have traumas to their wombs and that contributes to your
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fibroids too, And so it's creating the space. This year,
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we're also doing a dietician because having the types of
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foods that you eat also contributes to them too, So
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I try to make sure that I'm hitting all of
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the things that people need in this space. So we're
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doing the Fibril Room again this year July twenty six
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here in Dallas, but we're adding some key components this year.
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So we're doing four activation stations this year, which is
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basically things that you get to have that can contribute.
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So we're going to have iron panels being ran this year,
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so because a lot of women don't realize low iron
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contribute to your fibrils. And we're doing hormone assessments, so
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we'll have a Women's Health nurse pectitioner that's going to
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be sitting there doing a hormone assessment to kind of
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figure out where you are. We're doing ear seats, our
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acupuncture is going to be doing the ear seats. So
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it's really going to be an amazing immersive experience while
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you still get the opportunity to ask your questions, get information,
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and kind of figure out what your options are because
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I realized last year a lot of women didn't even
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know what options they had when it came to their
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fibroids because the only thing they've ever been told is
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have a hysterectomy.
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Yeah, yeah, that is one of the most common.
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Yeah, which if that is the thing that needs to happen,
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then for sure, like do that. But so many the
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women didn't even know a mile makes me existed. They
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had no clue. When I told them, they were like,
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what's that. They're like, oh, you still have a uterus?
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Like yeah, girl, I haven't had kids here and I
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want kids. And they're like, oh, I didn't even know
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that was an option.
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It's not even being told no.
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And that is the blows my mind. And so more
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women need to have And a lot of women think
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that because it's called the fibreroom, that we're only talking
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about fibroids, Like, yes, we are talking about fibers. When
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we're talking about hormonal imbalances, we're talking about womb wellness
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like all women need. Even if you don't haven't experienced it,
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you may have had somebody that has, or you have
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questions about womb health, you have questions about hormonal issues,
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like it's all going to be covered within this Oh
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wow wow.
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And you up hit something earlier on about the different
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types of food that we eat, So it has to
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be some foods that we are eating normally, especially as
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black women, that are like one of the top triggers
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in body weight hormones. What have you seen as the
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most common foods that we need to stay away from.
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I will say this, I love being black, and every
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lifetime I'm gonna choose black. Okay, but a lot of
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times how we cook and prepare our foods is not
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the healthiest, even if like I love greens, Okay, greens
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are great for us, but sometimes we always putting them
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hamhocks in there, and that ain't that's not the thing
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that we need to do, like throw a little turkey
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neck in there or something like a lot of the times,
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it's how we prepare our foods. We douse it in butter,
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and we want to add all the sugar to sweet potatoes. Like,
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there are healthier alternatives that we can use so that
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we can still have the foods. I'm gonna saying you
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can't have it at all, But there's moderation. And that's
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the thing that people forget. I love a Southern meal
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at any moment, but I cannot eat that every week,
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maybe even once a month is really a lot if
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I'm not if I'm being realistic, like, these are things
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that we can have sometimes, So really understanding what you're consuming,
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where you're buying your food because that's a big issue too.
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Where you're getting your foods from is going to determine
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the quality too. So I have switched completely where I shop,
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Like Trader Joe's is my girl. I'm in Trader Joe's
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every single week, okay all the time. But even like
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where I'm getting my meats from is going to a butcher,
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It's going to places that I know for sure they
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are farm raised these things. My eggs come from my
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aunt's neighbor has a chicken across the street, So guess
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what we get fresh eggs Like it's great. And so
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it really had to come down to what ultimately do
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I want for my body. So high inflammatory foods for
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a lot of women is sugaring, and so I had
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to decide that I had to go on a low
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inflammatory diet. So dairy. I'm a little mildly lactose anyway,
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but like dairy products, it'd be swelling us up our gut.
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Don't love it. So there are things like that. My
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acupuncture is the one who told me, like, you gotta aliviate,
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alleviate the three whites. So that's white, sugar, white flour,
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and dairy. So if you look at those three things alone.
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It's in everything we eat. It is every single thing.
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So I had to switch from white sugar to a
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sugar alternative. So now I do a monk fruit sweetener,
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super simple. It works the same. People feel like it
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tastes different, but to me, it tastes the same. So
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I've completely I have no white sugar in my house,
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I have no white flour in my house, and I
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don't do a lot of dairy. If I do, I
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have to go out and get it, or like, like,
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I love Mexican food, so I'm definitely gonna have cheese
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on my anchelatis. But in my house, I've now switched
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to like a coconut yogurt things like that. It's like
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small changes that you have to make because ultimately I
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want this cortisol good go. So they're just things I
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have to do that I didn't do before.
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I think this is why you say you and your
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regulator like you, you look good, you taga you you
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didn't already you know, dissect it like I'm going to
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shop here, and that's what that's what it takes.
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But at the time, it did take Oh yes, it
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took some. It took some time to get to who
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this is right now? Yes, and that's the part nobody
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wants to do. Nobody want to look in the mirror
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and say, Jenisia here the issue. Okay, Jenisha, You're the
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reason why you are the way you are. You're the
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reason you're overweight. You're the reason why things keep happening
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to you. You are the problem. Who want to sit
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there and tell themselves?
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Yeah self denial? Yeah, oh well tell us one how
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people can get involved with you and then you know, give,
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give the audience, be real with there's some advice in
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this season because you said so much that was probably
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like what do I need to do right now?
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So the one thing that I will say for anyone
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listening is you have to make the decision that you
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want to do something different. Once you decide that you
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want to do something different, it starts there. Making the
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decision is often the hardest part that people run away from.
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And like Sarah said, it took some time for me
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to become this woman that I am right now. But
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the first thing I had to do was decide who
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I wanted to be and the woman that I looked
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in the mirror and saw every day, I wasn't happy
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with her, so I had to decide that I wanted
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to be and do something different. So that's the first thing,
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and then I need y'all to get to those labs done.
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That's if you don't do nothing else, you take nothing
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else away. You need to evaluate and say when is
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the last time I had my blood work drawn? And
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if it has been six months or or more, then
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it's time for you to go ahead and come on in. Okay,
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for you to get your bowwork done. So we can
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be found on all social platforms you Pneumonia, Wellness, Dot
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Beauty and the Regulated Woman. And I hope that you
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found some information that is very good today. If you
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have questions, I am an open book. You can always
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send me a DM email us because we're happy to
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answer whatever questions you may have.
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Who girl, Okay, it's a lot of information. You're gonna
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have to talk about this. No sleep with me, and
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we're gonna talk about that like author camera, because what's
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going on, y'all. I mean, honestly, you know, I liked it.
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Like I said, I always bring great company in the hive,
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all right, But if you didn't take anything from her,
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just no that we got to get on track, like
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we got half of the rest of the year, and
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we need to literally get regulated. Like all of the
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medical terms and all the things that she said. Y'all,
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it went over your head, but she told you what
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to do, all right, So listen, y'all know what I
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tell y'all to do here is to always be real,
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spread the honey, and just be you until next time.
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