S13 Ep. 3 Tool / Fighting for Marriage After the Fall

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Some days we feel like we can handle the stressors in our lives. Other days it feels like if one more thing happens, we’re going to break down, shut down, or lash out.

We all have a window of tolerance. When we’re within this window of emotional and mental stability, we feel we can handle life's challenges. Yes, we might feel stressed and will definitely still encounter problems, yet we feel we can stay emotionally regulated through them.

But when we’re outside this window, it’s a different story. When we try to solve conflict or respond to our spouse when we’re outside our window, it probably won’t end well for either person.

Alex provides a tool to help us first understand our and our partner’s window of tolerance and then to respect when either partner needs to pause.

Resources:

Season 13 Episode 3 Tool: Fall: Taking a Pause

Season 13 Episode 3 Tool: Window of Tolerance

Season 13 of Conversational Counseling on “Marriage.”

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