If you've tried to love yourself first and it hasn't worked, there's nothing wrong with you. Dr. Amen Kaur explains why self-love is learned through connection, what happens when you stop feeling you deserve good things, and the place inside you where you discover you are love.
Have you been told to love yourself first, tried hard, and still felt stuck? You're not failing. Research on attachment shows we learn how to treat ourselves from how others treated us, so self-love was never meant to be learned alone.
In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur shares her own story of learning self-love, a client story of going from burnout to promotion, and five lessons to help you stop being so hard on yourself and reach your next level.
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In this episode you'll learn:
Can you learn self-love on your own?
You can, but it's slow and hard. Most people learn self-love through how they're treated. Research on earned security shows that adults who started out insecure can become secure later in life, often helped by mentors, partners, teachers or a supportive group.
Why is it so hard to love yourself?
Because you see everything about yourself, including choices nobody else sees. That closeness makes self-judgment easy. But being hard on yourself doesn't move you forward. It keeps you stuck.
What is self-love, really?
Self-love isn't telling yourself you're wonderful. It's bringing love, understanding and compassion to the parts of you that you'd rather avoid, including the parts you judge, hide or feel guilt about.
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Work with Dr. Amen Kaur:
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