Why Former Boarders Become Perfectionists — And Burn Out | Piers Cross

Why do so many former boarders struggle with perfectionism, overworking and the feeling that they are never quite good enough?

In this episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, Piers Cross explores the link between boarding school syndrome, perfectionism, the inner critic and burnout.

At boarding school, mistakes can carry a social cost. Vulnerability may be hidden, everyone else can appear to have it “sorted”, and achievement becomes a way of proving our worth. Underneath can sit a much deeper belief:

“I’m not good enough.”

Piers explores:

•  Why boarding school can encourage perfectionism 
•  The fear of mistakes, failure and vulnerability 
•  Fixed mindset versus growth mindset 
•  The link between perfectionism and the brutal inner critic 
•  How perfectionism can create burnout and an inability to switch off 
•  Why control can become a childhood survival strategy 
•  Learning to replace impossible standards with “I’m good enough”
•  Using calm, mindfulness and self-compassion to change the pattern 

Drawing on Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving and Emma Seppälä’s The Happiness Track, Piers offers practical ways to begin loosening perfectionism.  

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. 

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 

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Many blessings, 

Piers Cross 

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