Reset and Rise

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Welcome to the Thrive Mindset Podcast, where manifesting your dreams isn't magic, it's momentum.
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I'm your host, Carrie Dale, entrepreneur, author, and manifestation coach, and I'm here to help you stop holding yourself back and start building the life you've been craving.
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Each week, I'll share real stories, practical tools, and powerful mindset shifts to help you reframe the negative, embrace gratitude, and take aligned action toward your goals.
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If you're ready to uplevel your life, your relationships, your success, then this is your place.
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Let's dive in.
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Because sometimes the most productive things you can do for your dreams, is to step away from them.
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Hi everyone, welcome back to the Thrive Mindset podcast.
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I'm Carrie Dale, and in today's episode, we're going to be a little different.
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It's going to be a recap, but not the kind where I just tell you what I did.
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It's the kind where I show you how ordinary weeks, the ones filled with rest and cleaning out the closet and a full moon overhead, can actually be the exact ingredients your next season of abundance needs.
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Let's get into it.
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A few weeks ago, before any trip, was even on the calendar.
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I got this urge to clean everything out.
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And I don't mean just my junk drawers, which actually I don't have any junk drawers, but my closets, my house, it was everything, my health habits, all of it.
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And here's the thing, it came out of nowhere.
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I really can't say what it was, other than I was feeling a little out of control.
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Not like I was doing things out of control, but I was feeling like a lot of things were coming at me.
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And when that happens and it overwhelms me, I immediately find the things I can control, which for me is cleaning, organizing, getting things in place because I always feel better.
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But this was a little bit more.
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It was really going through like the cupboards I haven't been through in quite a while and going through my closet and clearing out clothes.
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It was cleaning up my office, my desk, my vials, everything.
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And it was cleaning up myself, which the most interesting thing about that was uh I don't do dry January.
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I don't do these bad things because I think it's just a thing.
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But it had been a while since I could say that I hadn't had a glass of wine in the evening or really gone any time without drinking.
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So one of those things that I did was I decided I wasn't gonna drink for several weeks.
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Now, I don't have a problem with drinking, so it wasn't about that, but it was still the idea of control and what I can control and to see what it did for me.
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And it was such a funny thing because it did something so different than I thought it would.
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It didn't make my sleep better, like so many people talk about.
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In fact, I struggled quite a bit with sleep because wine is one of those things that does help me sleep better.
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And I know for many of you it doesn't, but for me, it was that was definitely a struggle.
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But what it did was it made me recognize that I didn't miss drinking a glass of wine, I didn't miss the socialization.
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Why?
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Because the thing that I love so much about that is not the alcohol, the thing that I love is the ceremony.
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So in the evening, I at first I was a little caught off guard because I'm like, I really want a glass of wine, but I knew it wasn't the wine that was wanting.
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And so I grabbed a wine glass and I just put soda water in it.
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And once I did that, there was just something about the mood it created, the something about the feeling.
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And it became this realization over those few weeks that that's that all I wanted was the ceremony.
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And I didn't plan any of this clearing out in this way.
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It just happened, right?
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And looking back, I don't think it was a coincidence.
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Because when you clear out physical clutter, you're actually sending a message to the universe that you're ready for something new.
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There's no room for abundance to land if every shelf, every drawer, every corner, every bit of your being is already full of things that are no longer serving you.
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And this is the part of manifestation that nobody talks about enough.
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It's not just the fission boards and the affirmations, it's also seriously, the garbage bags and donation piles.
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It's the health habit that you finally let go of.
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It's the version of your home and your life that actually reflects who you're becoming instead of who you used to be.
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So I want to ask you what I asked myself.
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What needs to go so that what's coming has somewhere to land?
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And then once the clearing was done, something else happened.
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We went away.
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Twice specifically.
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And I want to be honest with you, I thought it was just going to be a vacation, a break from the calendar.
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What I didn't expect was how much I needed it and how ready I was for it.
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Jeff a few weeks ago had said, I think we just need time.
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And he booked and planned the trip.
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But it wasn't until I was out walking every day and exploring and revisiting so many things from my past that it really hit me how much I needed this rest and what it did for me.
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I mean, I sat and I read books.
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I haven't done that in quite a while, which is very unlike me because I love to read.
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I listened to birds, which I don't like as if you know me.
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But I watched the sunrise, I watched the sunset, I listened to the waves crash, I hiked so many different trails, I just was.
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And here's what I learned about that rest.
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Real rest.
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And I don't mean like the scrolling on the couch kind of rest.
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I mean when you actually let your body and your mind stop performing for a minute.
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And something interesting happens in that.
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The noise clears.
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And underneath that noise is usually the thing that you've been too tired to hear.
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And for me, that was like an excitement.
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It was a real genuine can't wait to get home excitement about the things I'm working on and manifesting.
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It let me redefine and get clearer on what it is I want.
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Rest didn't distract me from my goals, it reconnected me with them.
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And looking back, I think cleansing my home and myself made that rest possible.
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Because I couldn't fully let go on that beach until I'd already let go at home.
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And if you're running on empty right now, hear me on this.
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You are not behind because you're rested.
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You might actually be exactly on time.
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Something else happened on that trip that I had in a quiet moment when I was walking and reflecting on life.
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So we were on Maui, a space that I lived on in my youth, in my 20s, when I had my middle son.
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And I would go on walks constantly.
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And I didn't have a lot then other than just love of kids and life and youth, right?
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But I would walk past on my daily walks, I would walk past these condos in a neighborhood that was just gorgeous.
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And I would dream about one day being able to live there.
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And at that time, these were so out of reach for me.
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There was no way it could happen, but I would just dream of the ability to be someone living in that space.
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I didn't even think about it when Jeff was booking this trip and he asked me where I wanted to stay, and when we picked out the condo that we stayed in.
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But the ironic part was that we stayed in those exact condos.
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But as I was walking this neighborhood by myself, and just kind of remembering doing it all those years ago, it hit me that oh my god, I'm here.
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I'm in this space.
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I have done that.
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And I just smiled thinking, God, the 20-year-old version of me would be so proud of the person I am today.
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She would be so excited that she did it, that she got that.
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Because I can tell you back then, I didn't believe I could.
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I didn't believe it was even possible.
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I didn't believe that was ever in the cards for me.
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And here I was.
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And I'm sharing that not to brag, but because I think we forget to look back and measure the distance that we've traveled.
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We're so focused on the next goal, the next manifestation, the next version of ourselves that we skip the part where we actually honor how far we've already come.
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So here's your invitation.
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Think about the you from 10, 15, 20 years ago.
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Would she be proud of you?
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Because I'm willing to bet the answer is yes, even in ways you haven't even given yourself credit for.
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It's a true gift if you can look back and do that.
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And I've told my kids this since we've been home, and I've told some friends since we've been home, and my friends can all do it, and I love that.
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And the kids all kind of smiled and lit up, thinking that's exciting.
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Like there's a possibility.
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Like I'm excited about that.
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All right.
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And then right on cue, the full moon showed up.
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Actually, the full moon showed up the last night that we were in Hawaii.
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And as all of you know, there's something really special about the full moon for me and reflecting and letting go.
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And being there last night and watching it come up over the volcano and and just knowing that we were going home, it was it was kind of all this serendipitous moment for me.
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It was just very coming back around.
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And there's something about the full moon that always feels like a confirmation.
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Like the universe is tapping you on the shoulder and saying, good work.
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Now release and rest.
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So I came home from Hawaii to fall creeping in, which is also a new start.
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The light was changing, the air was shifting, it was a little colder, and it really felt fitting.
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That summer rest and that full moon release, and now a new season of asking me to rise into it.
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So here's what I want to leave you with today Rest is not the opposite of ambition, it's the fuel for it.
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And a cleanse, whether it's your closet or your calendar or your health, it's not a chore.
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It's an invitation.
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And looking back at who you used to be is not nostalgia.
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It's proof of what you've done and where you've gone.
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So wherever you are right now, whatever season you're stepping into, I hope that this is your permission to rest when you need it, where would no longer fit.
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Look back and be proud.
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And then write.
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That's it for the way.
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And as always, I'm turning you on.
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And above all else, I believe you want to.