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Not all right?
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Hello, this is the Joseph Vivaldi podcasts and also improving
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your mental health because it'll be on both shows. I
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have two podcasts, so this is a good topic. As
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many were listening, you know the sand news that Robert
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Cardine headwed by polar had you know, meant his some
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time when death by his own hands, and that's like
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it touches a base of were talking about why mental
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illness is exploding.
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In some clauses.
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And I go through mental ilness myself, with my poor
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and we definitely want to know about why it's exploding.
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Some of the clauses and Brandon Fitness and that's.
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Where I don't know.
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Paks will talk about it.
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Yes, thank you.
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So why is mental uns exploding right now? Why is
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like why would somebody who has by poor or going
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through again the illness? Why does that happen?
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Well, it's not just one reason. I think it is
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a couple of reasons, very interesting things. Reason to know
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just that.
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I spoke yesterday with and I had an interview on
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the podcast with a bed of eighty five.
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Years old and he had also grown up in the Netlands,
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just like.
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Myself, and he said when we were young, nobody was
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talking about Mendalila.
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Yeah, and even though there were a lot of challenges.
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He grew up as a kid Indian where two of
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my parents did the same.
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But I knew nobody would have You never talk with
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people when there is quite poor burn out for stress
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or decreation or anxiety.
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Everybody had it and everybody knows someone where has it.
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But when I grew up, it was another thing. So
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that that's very important to understand. Why is this growth
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and it cannot be explained by a growth in population.
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I did that research and it's it's not because of that.
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It's also not because in the deism, which is the
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diagnostic statistic manual psychiatry where they define in which category
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of a mental disorder you fall, there were like a
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three hundred percent growth in number of labels to people.
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But that is also not of course, so it's something else. Well,
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part of the reason I think where's happening is stigma.
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In when I grew up an hour, let's say maybe
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fifty twenty years ago, not even fifteen years ago, there
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was a stigmund something and you didn't mention it, yeah,
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and or you just say, oh that that person is
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crazy or is like it, and it was not the
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rest at all. So coming to today's environment, I think
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there are a couple of reasons. Number one, I think
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we live in a very disfunctional and corrupt society. Yeah,
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whether it's well, you're in the US, I'm currently in
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Eastern Europe, it's everywhere in the world. It's everywhere, really
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crazy things happening. And we know that because previously there
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were also wars and poverties and murders and all of
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these things. But we didn't know it. So that brings
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me to reason number two, which is I sing the
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main corporate is these things your your your your mobile phones,
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in combination with social media and now more and more
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in combination with artificial intelligence, are those days are destroying
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people's brains. It's it's it's it's everywhere, but everywhere.
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From from literally source signed to psychosis, to overwhelmed, constant
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feeling or stress, not able to remember sayings, instant gratification
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needs it's.
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It's really really since the introduction, and it's getting worse
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and work by all. These are jet bots and and
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chet apps with with which are being introduced. So that's
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reason number two. The third reason I would say is
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a lack of sleep. People don't sleep. The people don't
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sleep enough, and even if they sleep, they put their
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phone on their cushion or on the nightstand or.
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The available twenty four seven.
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Yes, yes so, And it's not only if there's no measure,
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but this thing also gives a frequency and a radiation
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which he pets you. Yeah. And the fourth reason I
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would like to share is pologization of emotions that people
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don't understand that we live in a duality. What does
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that mean. It means that, well, what the weality means.
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When there's light, there's also dark, when there's things hope,
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when there are also things closed, when there is food, emotions,
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you're happy, you're joyful, you're fine, and you can also
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be angry and frustrated and stressed. Yeah, but that's the duility.
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It's it's like a sea sull Both things are there,
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but people can do now it's like, well, I'm not happy,
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I'm not a bit stressed, Like, oh, I should go
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to the doctor.
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I shouldn't have this isn't it. It's a part of
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line when like if you have a relationship not going
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fine that's been going on for thousands of years.
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Yeah, I like to I like to add this because
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I think there's a ladds to a discussion. I used
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to be a hockey goaltender in like where I was
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playing as a kid, like from thirteen to seventeen years old,
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and as a goaltender, you you gotta defend the part
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you have the anxiety not letting anything in everything else,
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but when the game is over there and they're on
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offense and you just sit there. You're sitting there with
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your thoughts, and your thoughts can be overwhelming when you're net.
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So I guess that's where early you know, signs or
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whatever I went through. But it was like game anxiety.
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Yeah, well, well I can't relate very much because I
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was also a goalkeeper. I feel coke, not that I
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know absolutely what you mean, because basically the role of
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the keep bird is that you can only make mistakes.
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If you do something well, people say, oh, it's that's
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supposed to do and when you miss something and like
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they start to blame you and everything around that.
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I was I lost nineteen nothing one game when when
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I first started and I was learning how to play,
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my coach said, let the game play. We played a
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really staged team. We lost nineteen nothing. How was the goaltender?
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But but you know, it's like I laugh at it
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down but I wasn't laughing then, but it's like, you know,
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it's like one of those things like that's why I
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think Kyphreen like humor has got to play a role
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in a lot of things with life.
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I think, Yeah, and that means that you're really gonna
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be very carefully managing what messages you consume. Yeah, what
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what are you reading? What are you the vidus? You're
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watching different and now it's the shorts. They're terrible for
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your brain. So it's like if you're consuming that and
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most people are consuming that's six to eight hours per day, Yeah,
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that has a and I would say ninety percent of
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them are based on fear. They are based on aggression
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or negative stuff that has an influence. That's that's that's
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just a given. It's not something is wrong with you
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or me. You're no, that's normally if you for hours
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per day get fed, we fear based messages that will
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impact you. There's no doubt about that issue. That is
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why I say, just like that, you have to manage
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what you eat, what you put in buddy, you also
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have to manage what you put as messages into your brain.
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I mean, I have to add this to the conversation
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because there's a there. I don't know if you heard,
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you probably heard, but there is a massive storm where
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I live in New Jersey, like twenty two inches of stone.
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Unheard of. But it's like going for shopping, everyone was
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there and everything else. It's like you you have the
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fight in flight and then the freeze. It seemed like
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I was just more in fight mode when it came
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to that. It's like you turn into the survival instincts.
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Yeah, And.
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Like I said, we're living in a total disfunctional career
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society where all these things are happening and then normal,
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it's not you cannot explain them just just by natural
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call or physics.
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Then there are many, many different causes, which are a
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lot of them men made. And then yeah, they call
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it geo engineering, and that impacts people. Yeah, it's it's
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like and I think the goal is to to make
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you angry. The goal is to make you nervous. The
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goal is to to make you always in a state
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of fight or fly, and that has a negative impact
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on your total health.
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No, No, I agree, it's had it's had a toll
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for me for several months. Like it's like I've been
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constantly in that mode due to life experiences. And if
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I'm in New Jersey, you know it's crazy and you're
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traffic everywhere and it's it's crazy.
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Yeah, absolutely, but that impacts everyone.
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Yeah, and then people start to blame other people and
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they start to be arguing and polarizing and everything that
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is all adding to the confusion, that's all adding to
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that that you're not feeling good. So that's why I
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say you have to be really careful, like what are
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you're reading? And I would say stop using your phone
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as much. And if you if you look at things,
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look at positive news, look at good news, look at
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something which you want to learn, where you want to grow.
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It's also important the people you deal with have be good.
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A lot of people well if you, yeah, you might have.
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Even at friends, they're always complaining and they're like, oh,
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this is not good, that it's not working with those
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are not real friends. You sure, we like it's it's
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like it's everything which comes at you and then in
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you as an impact on you.
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So so tell me how important communication and connection is
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with this, because I think you briefly discussed it the
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last time we met. But bring it home to the
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people who haven't heard it, because in this part in
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this podcast.
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We like and you know, yeah, it's it's absolutely true.
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We humans, we most like that are we to communicate?
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We use words, We use language muh but I think
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language is a straight because the language is imperfect. It's
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even if we use the same words, we might have
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a different meaning.
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Everything is different, is different.
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I used the example a few days ago against against
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my with my business partner, and I said, if I
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tell you it's like I got a headache, and then
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you say, oh, I know a headache. You're not nice,
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but your headache is totally different from my headache.
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You're you're.
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So it's like we're using exactly the same word, but
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you give a meaning to that word which is totally
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different from my meaning, but we still think we are
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we're talking about the same thing. Yeah. So that's why
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I say language is imperfect incomplete. It's it's it creates
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a little misunderstanding. And I'm not even talking because what
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I assume English is your mother tongue, but for me
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it's Dutch. It's like, yeah, I'm talking in a different language.
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And like.
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It's like the communication you have to be really careful
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and really especially when we talk about emotions and feelings,
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because when you say I'm stressed, I might say it's
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like I'm nervous. Yeah, yes, and I need to understand
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you what you mean by it and what is causing it,
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and they even maybe wearing your body, do you feel
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it or whatever? Like yeah, some people when they're stretch
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they bing in their name, getting their shoulders, but they're
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a little.
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When you get straight, you get painting a little way back. Yes,
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it was like nothing is the same, but you have
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to explain it more because.
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That's that that that's very I agree with you, and
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it's very true. I mean it's like you have to
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I have to explain whatever that is. Many other people
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have to explain it, and like it's very true. It's
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like everyone has different meanings for everything.
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It's like I was.
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Watching wrestling today old school in nineteen eighty seven, and
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I'm a big fan of wrestling WWF or WWE or
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something like that World Wrestling Federation. But I was watching
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it's the wrestler Sika and Kamala communicate. Now, I'd understand
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what they were talking about if viewers didn't understand what
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they were talking about, But whenever they communicated, it seemed
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like they both understood what they were talking about in
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their own language, in their own different liguages.
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this I think it's now in one of the podcasts,
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well at least in the US, but a single world
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why it's called the telepathy types. Are you listening to that?
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Highly recommend it. It's really interesting. It has to just
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one point season is that in the season two it's
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called the telepathy types. It's weird. A community of people
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or non speaking. They cannot speak, and so it's not
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that they will not they cannot speak. So how do
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you communicate with someone you cannot speak? Well, whether they
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think that you're spelling yes, or they maybe type of
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some kind of a keyboard whenever they need to learn
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that or whatever. But the pe is that most of these,
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maybe even all of them, can communicate via teleivity. The
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televity means I hear your thoughts, I hear what you
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are thinking, I hear what's going on with you. So
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that means that language is no very because I go
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straight into your head. Yeah, I know what's going on.
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So I can respond to that. And because that person
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cannot speak or or she cannot speak, they have a
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very very direct form of communication, which means they weeds
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you much better communication because it's not like, well, I'm
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using the world words or I didn't want to say that.
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Now they go straight into your idea and that's dell
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it with me.
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We can't do that.
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You and I can do that, and these books can
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well they have to do it because they have no
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other means of communicating. But it's it shows that if
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you remove language and the words you use, and everything
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seems to become more pure, more direct, more easy. We've
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heard so many times when nine years ago, when when
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I worked from the corporate environment, and if people won't
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say so diversit. No, I agree with this project, and
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I think it's good that we do it, and then
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we go in this direction and we do this and
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that that's just works. But that be it any sooner
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or later. They did nothing to make that change issue.
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It's just they say the words, but inner they don't.
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But you cannot say I'm not gonna do that because
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people will like you should they say yeah, really it's right,
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but they're not doing it.
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Issue.
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The words is and and words and what you do
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are what I call the top of the iceberg. That's
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what you see, that's what you hear, But what's really
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going on below the sugar level and like with an iceberg,
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that's nine tenths of the iceberg, which you don't know
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where you can't see, but that is what's really happening.
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See, upples, Upples have this way in this dead they
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just seem to know what the others think.
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Of you know, they just seem being like, no, they know.
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Your mind, they know your heart. It's like they just know.
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It and that's where they grow, right, Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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that's why it is. It is not good to or
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shume did you think you know? Well?
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You do?
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You like?
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And it's better to bunch and to let them explain.
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Like we just said, that improves in relationship, being your
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communication because then you don't feel eating what the other
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person is saying or thinking.
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Hey guys, it's more like don't shoot.
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Just an okay.
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Might be yours. In communication, it's really difficult. We don't
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pay enough attention to it. We make all kinds of assumptions,
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and we have our own history, which out the words
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or experiences or companies, and then we assume the other
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person knows that. But I got fifty years of experience
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with something like that. And then the other person who's
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gathering only two months of experience, I know what you're
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talking about, do no, no.
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No, I know I'm talking about from my perspective, but
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I don't know from another person's perspective exactly.
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That's why I say, because we we we make assing
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that the fault is in the education system and in
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our repread. Then we assume that every person is the same.
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That's why there's this big samification happening at the moment
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you get to school or you're you get to get
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to get to university or work that want you to
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behave in the same way as everybody else. When you
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look the same, when you behave the same, do the
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same with the same program, you get the same stuff whatever.
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That totally dilutes the fact that every human being is unique.
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M every human being is essentially totally different from anyone else.
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Nobody has Joseph's experiences of knowledge DNA. Everything is different,
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but we issume and it's all the same. And that's
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why I say the fault is in the system, because
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we are made. Everything is the same, whereas we are
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all unique.
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Definitely all are. Because I know me and my significant other,
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we're completely opposite. But you know it's just by design.
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But but you know you need somebody to challenge you
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and support like you need somebody to push you.
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Yeah, and I'm the same man.
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You need that support. And you know we we do both.
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We push each other to be better and we give
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each other support to talk to each other when something
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is going wrong.
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You're not feeling about it.
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Yeah, man, that is not easy, every man. And if
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you push and pull at the wrong moment or whatever,
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can be completely missed verstood. That's why I say is
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that if you realize that each person is unique, and
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you basically don't understand the ship about someone else, you
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might have a relationship of decades. Most people don't know themselves.
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I cannot say I know myself for one hundred percent.
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I've been working on this for twenty five years, day
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and night to understand myself. And I'm improving, I mean
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the next day, but there's still layer with which I'm like,
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She's like, so if I don't even know completely myself,
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how can I expect someone else to do?
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You know, I I have to be the most from
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whatever I've done. I think I'm the most confusing person
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that I know. I mean, I don't know how much
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I actually put out the long second, it's I'm confused.
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People are going to be diffused.
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M hm. That is not strange. That is, but you
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acknowledge it. You put in the work that most people
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ignore it and they don't put in the work and
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they just assume that everybody else understand what's going on
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inside of that. But that is again a totally yesh, Like, well,
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you and I have been with ourselves for all of
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our lives, but a relationship or a business partner or
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a friend or whatever, wells being only a small part
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of that. I mean by issue, it's it's it's I
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think it's even impossible for someone else to get to know.
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You totally say, like, so if we expect that we
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we we put the month's requirements even on someone else,
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which is totally incorrect.
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It's like it's like applying for a job. It's like
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you have a resume and it's like, here, here's the job.
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Do it. If the job description answer for me, it
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will be a grand sube.
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But it's like, you know, that's why I go think
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I try to go things is an open like like
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I open. I'm not trying to be an open book,
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but I try to like approach things like I'm gonna
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approach things a new situation. But however, I have the
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baggage from the past hovering over me. So it's like
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it's a tugging war type of thing.
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Yeah, but that's why why I say, and a lot
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of people say, is that you should approach a lot
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of things with the beginner's mind. Yeah. Yeah, it's like
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I don't know, well how that's gonna work out, or
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it's in your environment, this is it is, I just
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look at it. It's like, for the first time in
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your life, you account of that. That is a better
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approach than oh I know everything and I know I
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will work out than I will do. That will create
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a lot of misunderstanding. But if you have a beginner's mind,
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it's like I don't know I want to learn, tell.
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Me yeah, yeah, I mean I'm just thinking. I'm thinking
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to myself, yeah yeah, because I'm thinking it's something that
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I should be doing. Guys should be doing more of. Well,
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I should have been doing more of like reading or
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you know, just learning and you know, just understanding people
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more than I do on a daily basis, because when
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you go and when I go day to day, it's
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the rush of life rather than being present in the moment.
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Exectly, exectly. That's very good, Joseph's that's why we must
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not make all these assumptions, either about ourselves or about
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other people, and just ask to say, can you please explain?
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Or yeah, okay, you say you have addache, but please
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give me a little bit more detail and help me
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explain when you get it ato headache and how does
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it work and how does it go away? Or is
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having this beginner mind is not I know you have adache,
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I know what it is. No, you don't like if
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you are more questioning and we're asking and more like, hey,
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I want to learn, that's better than who I don't.
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No, what is the definition of a headache? What what
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constitutes is a headache? And what constitutes his anxiety and
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where in the body and what can explain where it
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comes from and what's more?
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Yeah, but it like it can be physical and it
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most likely it will be physical and psychological and all
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these things you don't know. Is so it's like that's
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why using these great descriptions is not helping you. But
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it's also not helping someone else because it's too vague.
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It's like, yeah, it's like, oh, I have stress if
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I if I mold my hand, like that also creates
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stress in my hand. Yes, it's like yeah, it's like yes.
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So it's like they're fine from the thousands that form
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of stress you. So it's like we should we should
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provide more detail and be more thorough and really is
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like okay, but what is it? What's course? Or it
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is like I'm fearful or I'm angry, okay, but angry
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about what?
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What time? Anger?
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Yeah? Yeah, what does it happen? I say, like anger
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at myself and somebody else? So all the thing we
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used to superficial kind of words, and then we assume
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that everybody I.
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Know anger about what situation?
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Yeah? Yeah, but it might have been an anger or
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something and experience with you years ago. Let me give
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an example. A few years ago, and I was running
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sidewalk and the rope was I end up clothes. They
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were doing some work there and the game whatever suit
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bikes and wherever. They were also supposed to walk out
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over the side side walk and I was running and
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all of a sudden, I feel something behind me against
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my legs and it was a guy biking.
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He was running.
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He was driving against me, and I'm like, like, there you.
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Should go with hide and I'm like, this is a
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sidebook you're not allowed to buy here, And all of
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a sudden, I felt so angry.
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I felt hugely angry, and normally I'm not an angry person.
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And I'm like I had to postrain myself. I was like,
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I want to beat this guy up. It's like, I'm
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just running here on the side of the book that's
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allowed your biking here, and you you you.
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To push against me, that's all the land.
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I didn't. I'm not angry and I never beat people
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up or whatever you like. Yeah, and then I realized
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that it's gotta do with it big trauma my life
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that I'm not being seen I'm not good enough. So
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I felt by that guy he was not seeing me.
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He was just pushing into me with his spot You
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so it wasn't holt well and present trauma, which which
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had the huge impact on me, which made me angry
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because it basically had nothing to do with that guy
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on the pike that happened fifty years before, because my
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father never saw us. You se it like no, no,
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I knew where it was coming from and how it
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impacted me and my behavior. You need to know that
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your so pis to explain to other people, because otherwise
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it doesn't make sense.
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My trauma. I have several traumas. My trauma was that
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was with work. I kept on running around doing things
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like unloading, like crushing boxes and delivering packages. It seems
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like the thing that upset me was I became the
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reliable person and then they counted on me too much.
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Scared me because when I was reliable, too reliable, it
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put a lot of pressure on me, and it's like
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I needed breathe for a few seconds and rest becroup.
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I couldn't do that because I had.
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Oh, I had a worker, I had.
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Managers oversee whatever I was going.
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At work, and I could.
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Never cycle up because he always wanted me to do
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the job. That's it at length. So it was in
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one time we got in trouble because informing one of
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my coworkers about the shift, I had like, whatever you
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think I was needed, And I got in trouble one
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of my managers because they felt that I was lacking off.
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That's just a little little work trauma.
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Yeah, but what we all have. But still we carry
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the trauma in their backpack and that influences our behavior,
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but we we are not always aware about that. Yeah,
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And that's why dealing with other people is so challenging.
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And that's why you should be much more considering and
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more patient and give them more background than understanding, because
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otherwise they they don't understand. And it comes back to
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what I said earlier. Understand that each person they might
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be using the same word, but every person is unique,
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and as a unique you might use the same label,
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but they doesn't that mean the same experience.
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Mm hm.
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I hate that point because it's not because I'm just agreeing,
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but emotionally, emotionally, I feel that.
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It just.
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Happens. It's like it resonates because even though I can't
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express it with my mind and I can't feel the
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sense of the ports right now, but I know deep
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down inside here it resonates.
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That's what comes.
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I know.
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We're at the forty minute mark.
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I want to.
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Continue on with the podcast or.
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Whatever. Trying video Joseph.
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Dot dot wrap it up. A little tired right now.
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I haven't slept yet. It's about three thirty seven am
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where I am. Well, what time is it wherever you are?
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So it's about.
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One time for you and Lee morning mid morning, and
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it's about it's about breakfast time for me or sleep time,
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sleep time.
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But uh, have a have a good guy, and thank.
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You for being on the podcast, Arnold, and uh, this
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show's gonna be here and Joseph podcasts improving your mental health?
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Is there anything you like?
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I mean, the two things I want to say. Number
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one is be kind to yourself. That sounds simple, but
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it's not.
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I've really really encouraged people to be kind to yourself
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because that's the only thing which you kind of accept internally,
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and that's the only thing which is really gonna help
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you instead of beating yourself up.
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So be kind to yourself. And if people want to
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enjoy join our free brain Fitnish community. It would ask
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them to go.
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To school dot com.
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School is eskey help slaship brain up. Great, it's one thing.
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I'm great. We have a free community show. I would
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like to find you.
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Okay, I'm gonna put it links to website in the
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description section.
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And I'm gonna let people.
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Arnold's pitch and.
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You can check this.
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Podcast out on Joseph Vivaldi podcast and also improving your
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mental health because this is okay topic for that podcast.
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So have it. Have a good day, and Arnold, thank
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you for being a part of the podcast.
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Thinking jose.
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Hello, this is our flightship for our flagships show, the
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Hello, this is the Joseph Vivaldi podcasts and also improving
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your mental health because it'll be on both shows. I
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have two podcasts, so this is a good topic. As
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many were listening, you know the sand news that Robert
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Cardine headwed by polar had you know, meant his some
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time when death by his own hands, and that's like
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it touches a base of were talking about why mental
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illness is exploding.
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In some clauses.
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And I go through mental ilness myself, with my poor
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and we definitely want to know about why it's exploding.
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Some of the clauses and Brandon Fitness and that's.
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Where I don't know.
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Paks will talk about it.
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Yes, thank you.
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So why is mental uns exploding right now? Why is
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like why would somebody who has by poor or going
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through again the illness? Why does that happen?
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a couple of reasons, very interesting things. Reason to know
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just that.
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I spoke yesterday with and I had an interview on
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the podcast with a bed of eighty five.
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Years old and he had also grown up in the Netlands,
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just like.
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Myself, and he said when we were young, nobody was
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talking about Mendalila.
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He grew up as a kid Indian where two of
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my parents did the same.
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people when there is quite poor burn out for stress
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or decreation or anxiety.
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Everybody had it and everybody knows someone where has it.
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that that's very important to understand. Why is this growth
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and it cannot be explained by a growth in population.
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I did that research and it's it's not because of that.
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diagnostic statistic manual psychiatry where they define in which category
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of a mental disorder you fall, there were like a
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three hundred percent growth in number of labels to people.
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part of the reason I think where's happening is stigma.
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fifty twenty years ago, not even fifteen years ago, there
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was a stigmund something and you didn't mention it, yeah,
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crazy or is like it, and it was not the
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rest at all. So coming to today's environment, I think
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we live in a very disfunctional and corrupt society. Yeah,
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whether it's well, you're in the US, I'm currently in
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Eastern Europe, it's everywhere in the world. It's everywhere, really
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crazy things happening. And we know that because previously there
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were also wars and poverties and murders and all of
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these things. But we didn't know it. So that brings
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me to reason number two, which is I sing the
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main corporate is these things your your your your mobile phones,
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in combination with social media and now more and more
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in combination with artificial intelligence, are those days are destroying
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people's brains. It's it's it's it's everywhere, but everywhere.
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feeling or stress, not able to remember sayings, instant gratification
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which he pets you. Yeah. And the fourth reason I
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don't understand that we live in a duality. What does
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when there are also things closed, when there is food, emotions,
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you're happy, you're joyful, you're fine, and you can also
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be angry and frustrated and stressed. Yeah, but that's the duility.
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but people can do now it's like, well, I'm not happy,
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I'm not a bit stressed, Like, oh, I should go
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I shouldn't have this isn't it. It's a part of
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fine that's been going on for thousands of years.
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I think there's a ladds to a discussion. I used
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to be a hockey goaltender in like where I was
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playing as a kid, like from thirteen to seventeen years old,
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you have the anxiety not letting anything in everything else,
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offense and you just sit there. You're sitting there with
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your thoughts, and your thoughts can be overwhelming when you're net.
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whatever I went through. But it was like game anxiety.
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was also a goalkeeper. I feel coke, not that I
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know absolutely what you mean, because basically the role of
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the keep bird is that you can only make mistakes.
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If you do something well, people say, oh, it's that's
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supposed to do and when you miss something and like
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they start to blame you and everything around that.
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I first started and I was learning how to play,
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my coach said, let the game play. We played a
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really staged team. We lost nineteen nothing. How was the goaltender?
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But but you know, it's like I laugh at it
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it's like one of those things like that's why I
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think Kyphreen like humor has got to play a role
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in a lot of things with life.
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I think, Yeah, and that means that you're really gonna
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be very carefully managing what messages you consume. Yeah, what
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what are you reading? What are you the vidus? You're
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watching different and now it's the shorts. They're terrible for
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your brain. So it's like if you're consuming that and
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most people are consuming that's six to eight hours per day, Yeah,
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that has a and I would say ninety percent of
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them are based on fear. They are based on aggression
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or negative stuff that has an influence. That's that's that's
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just a given. It's not something is wrong with you
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or me. You're no, that's normally if you for hours
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per day get fed, we fear based messages that will
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impact you. There's no doubt about that issue. That is
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why I say, just like that, you have to manage
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what you eat, what you put in buddy, you also
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have to manage what you put as messages into your brain.
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I mean, I have to add this to the conversation
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because there's a there. I don't know if you heard,
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you probably heard, but there is a massive storm where
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I live in New Jersey, like twenty two inches of stone.
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Unheard of. But it's like going for shopping, everyone was
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there and everything else. It's like you you have the
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fight in flight and then the freeze. It seemed like
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I was just more in fight mode when it came
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to that. It's like you turn into the survival instincts.
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society where all these things are happening and then normal,
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lot of them men made. And then yeah, they call
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it geo engineering, and that impacts people. Yeah, it's it's
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you angry. The goal is to make you nervous. The
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goal is to to make you always in a state
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of fight or fly, and that has a negative impact
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on your total health.
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for me for several months. Like it's like I've been
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constantly in that mode due to life experiences. And if
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I'm in New Jersey, you know it's crazy and you're
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traffic everywhere and it's it's crazy.
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Yeah, absolutely, but that impacts everyone.
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they start to be arguing and polarizing and everything that
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that that you're not feeling good. So that's why I
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say you have to be really careful, like what are
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you're reading? And I would say stop using your phone
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as much. And if you if you look at things,
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look at positive news, look at good news, look at
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something which you want to learn, where you want to grow.
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this is not good, that it's not working with those
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are not real friends. You sure, we like it's it's
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like it's everything which comes at you and then in
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you as an impact on you.
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So so tell me how important communication and connection is
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with this, because I think you briefly discussed it the
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last time we met. But bring it home to the
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people who haven't heard it, because in this part in
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We humans, we most like that are we to communicate?
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Everything is different, is different.
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my with my business partner, and I said, if I
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tell you it's like I got a headache, and then
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but your headache is totally different from my headache.
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different from my meaning, but we still think we are
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we're talking about the same thing. Yeah. So that's why
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I say language is imperfect incomplete. It's it's it creates
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a little misunderstanding. And I'm not even talking because what
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it's Dutch. It's like, yeah, I'm talking in a different language.
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like I'm nervous. Yeah, yes, and I need to understand
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you what you mean by it and what is causing it,
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and they even maybe wearing your body, do you feel
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it or whatever? Like yeah, some people when they're stretch
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I have to explain whatever that is. Many other people
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like everyone has different meanings for everything.
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something like that World Wrestling Federation. But I was watching
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it's the wrestler Sika and Kamala communicate. Now, I'd understand
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what they were talking about if viewers didn't understand what
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they were talking about, But whenever they communicated, it seemed
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like they both understood what they were talking about in
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their own language, in their own different liguages.
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why it's called the telepathy types. Are you listening to that?
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one point season is that in the season two it's
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called the telepathy types. It's weird. A community of people
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that they will not they cannot speak. So how do
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think that you're spelling yes, or they maybe type of
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some kind of a keyboard whenever they need to learn
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that or whatever. But the pe is that most of these,
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maybe even all of them, can communicate via teleivity. The
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televity means I hear your thoughts, I hear what you
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straight into your head. Yeah, I know what's going on.
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very very direct form of communication, which means they weeds
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you much better communication because it's not like, well, I'm
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Now they go straight into your idea and that's dell
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well they have to do it because they have no
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other means of communicating. But it's it shows that if
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seems to become more pure, more direct, more easy. We've
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I worked from the corporate environment, and if people won't
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say so diversit. No, I agree with this project, and
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we go in this direction and we do this and
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that that's just works. But that be it any sooner
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people will like you should they say yeah, really it's right,
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The words is and and words and what you do
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what you see, that's what you hear, But what's really
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going on below the sugar level and like with an iceberg,
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that's nine tenths of the iceberg, which you don't know
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where you can't see, but that is what's really happening.
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just seem to know what the others think.
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Of you know, they just seem being like, no, they know.
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Your mind, they know your heart. It's like they just know.
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that's why it is. It is not good to or
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shume did you think you know? Well?
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Like we just said, that improves in relationship, being your
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communication because then you don't feel eating what the other
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person is saying or thinking.
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Hey guys, it's more like don't shoot.
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Just an okay.
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Might be yours. In communication, it's really difficult. We don't
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pay enough attention to it. We make all kinds of assumptions,
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and we have our own history, which out the words
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or experiences or companies, and then we assume the other
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person knows that. But I got fifty years of experience
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with something like that. And then the other person who's
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gathering only two months of experience, I know what you're
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talking about, do no, no.
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that the fault is in the education system and in
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our repread. Then we assume that every person is the same.
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That's why there's this big samification happening at the moment
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you get to school or you're you get to get
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to get to university or work that want you to
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behave in the same way as everybody else. When you
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look the same, when you behave the same, do the
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same with the same program, you get the same stuff whatever.
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That totally dilutes the fact that every human being is unique.
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M every human being is essentially totally different from anyone else.
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Nobody has Joseph's experiences of knowledge DNA. Everything is different,
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but we issume and it's all the same. And that's
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why I say the fault is in the system, because
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we are made. Everything is the same, whereas we are
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all unique.
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Definitely all are. Because I know me and my significant other,
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we're completely opposite. But you know it's just by design.
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But but you know you need somebody to challenge you
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and support like you need somebody to push you.
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Yeah, and I'm the same man.
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You need that support. And you know we we do both.
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We push each other to be better and we give
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each other support to talk to each other when something
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you push and pull at the wrong moment or whatever,
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can be completely missed verstood. That's why I say is
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that if you realize that each person is unique, and
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you basically don't understand the ship about someone else, you
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might have a relationship of decades. Most people don't know themselves.
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and night to understand myself. And I'm improving, I mean
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the next day, but there's still layer with which I'm like,
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how can I expect someone else to do?
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whatever I've done. I think I'm the most confusing person
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that I know. I mean, I don't know how much
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acknowledge it. You put in the work that most people
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ignore it and they don't put in the work and
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inside of that. But that is again a totally yesh, Like, well,
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a friend or whatever, wells being only a small part
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which is totally incorrect.
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you have a resume and it's like, here, here's the job.
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approach things a new situation. But however, I have the
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baggage from the past hovering over me. So it's like
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it's a tugging war type of thing.
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Yeah, but that's why why I say, and a lot
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of people say, is that you should approach a lot
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of things with the beginner's mind. Yeah. Yeah, it's like
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I don't know, well how that's gonna work out, or
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it's in your environment, this is it is, I just
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look at it. It's like, for the first time in
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your life, you account of that. That is a better
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approach than oh I know everything and I know I
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will work out than I will do. That will create
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a lot of misunderstanding. But if you have a beginner's mind,
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it's like I don't know I want to learn, tell.
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Me yeah, yeah, I mean I'm just thinking. I'm thinking
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to myself, yeah yeah, because I'm thinking it's something that
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I should be doing. Guys should be doing more of. Well,
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I should have been doing more of like reading or
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you know, just learning and you know, just understanding people
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more than I do on a daily basis, because when
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you go and when I go day to day, it's
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the rush of life rather than being present in the moment.
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Exectly, exectly. That's very good, Joseph's that's why we must
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not make all these assumptions, either about ourselves or about
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other people, and just ask to say, can you please explain?
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Or yeah, okay, you say you have addache, but please
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give me a little bit more detail and help me
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explain when you get it ato headache and how does
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it work and how does it go away? Or is
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having this beginner mind is not I know you have adache,
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I know what it is. No, you don't like if
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you are more questioning and we're asking and more like, hey,
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I want to learn, that's better than who I don't.
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No, what is the definition of a headache? What what
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constitutes is a headache? And what constitutes his anxiety and
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where in the body and what can explain where it
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comes from and what's more?
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Yeah, but it like it can be physical and it
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most likely it will be physical and psychological and all
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these things you don't know. Is so it's like that's
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why using these great descriptions is not helping you. But
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it's also not helping someone else because it's too vague.
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It's like, yeah, it's like, oh, I have stress if
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I if I mold my hand, like that also creates
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stress in my hand. Yes, it's like yeah, it's like yes.
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So it's like they're fine from the thousands that form
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of stress you. So it's like we should we should
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provide more detail and be more thorough and really is
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like okay, but what is it? What's course? Or it
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is like I'm fearful or I'm angry, okay, but angry
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about what?
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What time? Anger?
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Yeah? Yeah, what does it happen? I say, like anger
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at myself and somebody else? So all the thing we
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used to superficial kind of words, and then we assume
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that everybody I.
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Know anger about what situation?
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Yeah? Yeah, but it might have been an anger or
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something and experience with you years ago. Let me give
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an example. A few years ago, and I was running
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sidewalk and the rope was I end up clothes. They
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were doing some work there and the game whatever suit
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bikes and wherever. They were also supposed to walk out
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over the side side walk and I was running and
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all of a sudden, I feel something behind me against
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my legs and it was a guy biking.
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He was running.
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He was driving against me, and I'm like, like, there you.
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Should go with hide and I'm like, this is a
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sidebook you're not allowed to buy here, And all of
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a sudden, I felt so angry.
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I felt hugely angry, and normally I'm not an angry person.
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And I'm like I had to postrain myself. I was like,
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I want to beat this guy up. It's like, I'm
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just running here on the side of the book that's
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allowed your biking here, and you you you.
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To push against me, that's all the land.
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And then later on that thing, I think it's anger.
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I didn't. I'm not angry and I never beat people
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up or whatever you like. Yeah, and then I realized
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that it's gotta do with it big trauma my life
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that I'm not being seen I'm not good enough. So
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I felt by that guy he was not seeing me.
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He was just pushing into me with his spot You
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so it wasn't holt well and present trauma, which which
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had the huge impact on me, which made me angry
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because it basically had nothing to do with that guy
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on the pike that happened fifty years before, because my
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father never saw us. You se it like no, no,
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I knew where it was coming from and how it
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impacted me and my behavior. You need to know that
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your so pis to explain to other people, because otherwise
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it doesn't make sense.
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My trauma. I have several traumas. My trauma was that
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was with work. I kept on running around doing things
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like unloading, like crushing boxes and delivering packages. It seems
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like the thing that upset me was I became the
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reliable person and then they counted on me too much.
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Scared me because when I was reliable, too reliable, it
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put a lot of pressure on me, and it's like
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I needed breathe for a few seconds and rest becroup.
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I couldn't do that because I had.
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Oh, I had a worker, I had.
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Managers oversee whatever I was going.
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At work, and I could.
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Never cycle up because he always wanted me to do
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the job. That's it at length. So it was in
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one time we got in trouble because informing one of
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my coworkers about the shift, I had like, whatever you
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think I was needed, And I got in trouble one
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of my managers because they felt that I was lacking off.
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That's just a little little work trauma.
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Yeah, but what we all have. But still we carry
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the trauma in their backpack and that influences our behavior,
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but we we are not always aware about that. Yeah,
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And that's why dealing with other people is so challenging.
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And that's why you should be much more considering and
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more patient and give them more background than understanding, because
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otherwise they they don't understand. And it comes back to
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what I said earlier. Understand that each person they might
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be using the same word, but every person is unique,
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and as a unique you might use the same label,
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but they doesn't that mean the same experience.
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Mm hm.
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I hate that point because it's not because I'm just agreeing,
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but emotionally, emotionally, I feel that.
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It just.
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Happens. It's like it resonates because even though I can't
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express it with my mind and I can't feel the
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sense of the ports right now, but I know deep
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down inside here it resonates.
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That's what comes.
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I know.
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We're at the forty minute mark.
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I want to.
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Continue on with the podcast or.
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Whatever. Trying video Joseph.
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Dot dot wrap it up. A little tired right now.
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I haven't slept yet. It's about three thirty seven am
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where I am. Well, what time is it wherever you are?
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So it's about.
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One time for you and Lee morning mid morning, and
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it's about it's about breakfast time for me or sleep time,
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sleep time.
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But uh, have a have a good guy, and thank.
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You for being on the podcast, Arnold, and uh, this
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show's gonna be here and Joseph podcasts improving your mental health?
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Is there anything you like?
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I mean, the two things I want to say. Number
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one is be kind to yourself. That sounds simple, but
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it's not.
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I've really really encouraged people to be kind to yourself
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because that's the only thing which you kind of accept internally,
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and that's the only thing which is really gonna help
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you instead of beating yourself up.
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So be kind to yourself. And if people want to
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enjoy join our free brain Fitnish community. It would ask
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them to go.
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To school dot com.
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School is eskey help slaship brain up. Great, it's one thing.
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I'm great. We have a free community show. I would
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like to find you.
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Okay, I'm gonna put it links to website in the
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description section.
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And I'm gonna let people.
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Arnold's pitch and.
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You can check this.
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Podcast out on Joseph Vivaldi podcast and also improving your
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mental health because this is okay topic for that podcast.
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So have it. Have a good day, and Arnold, thank
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you for being a part of the podcast.
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Thinking jose.
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