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00:00:01.425what's up, gremlins?
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00:00:03.212Welcome back to another podcast.
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00:00:05.038My name is daddy j.
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00:00:06.884I hope everyone is doing it and doing it well.
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00:00:19.344This is the mature mischief podcast, oh shit what's up?
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00:00:22.766I just remember something you'll remember.
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00:00:37.177Okay, and I'm just now realizing that I didn't get to say this one part of the podcast that I normally always say I know it, you know it, the whole world fucking knows it.
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00:00:39.223My name is Daddy J.
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00:00:49.890Delicious d, delicious d what it do.
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00:00:50.973Yeah, I didn't even do that part.
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00:00:52.439I didn't do that like it's like I'm your host.
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00:00:58.472Dd, dd well, you can't, because it's delicious d today I know it's delicious d.
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00:01:02.465D sister deeds in the hills house.
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00:01:04.769She's going to be your freaky sister.
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00:01:08.594That does not sound good at all.
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00:01:11.058Oh my God, that's so bad.
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00:01:15.045Yes, that sounds very horrible.
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00:01:19.626I will not be role playing with nobody.
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00:01:23.984Look, sir, you said some shit on the last one.
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00:01:25.043What did I say on the last one?
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00:01:29.611I don't remember um, I don't remember.
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00:01:40.512I remember you used to listen to the podcast all the time after we recorded it, while you stopped listening you said dang it.
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00:01:40.992What are you saying?
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00:01:43.661that's gonna bug me see that's what happens when you don't listen.
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00:01:46.025You don't even listen to our own podcast.
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00:01:49.543The fuck, I don't even listen to our own podcast I listen to it occasionally.
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00:01:52.510I was gonna say why would I listen to it if we recorded it?
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00:01:59.981I know what we said because I listen to it just to see how it sounds back you know what I mean, and I think it's just so funny.
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00:02:02.965People are like you're listening to your own podcast, so I can critique it.
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00:02:05.268Yeah, I critique my own podcast.
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00:02:11.295It's funny, uh, although I say today is freaky friday, of course you know.
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00:02:21.987That's why I said I'm your host, daddy jay, and, um, I don't know what we're going to talk about yes I do know what we're going to talk about.
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00:02:44.491We're going to talk about because we do have a we're I'm setting up somebody on, hopefully, hopefully, we do have our very first sponsor, so I just need to send the information out or the email, which I have not done yet, which I need to already, and if we do and everything goes through the way we're supposed to, we may need to record all of this again with our sponsors.
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00:02:45.955Wonderful.
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00:02:55.567Just wonderful, I just need to get things settled in first and kind of go from there and see what happens.
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00:03:00.824So yes, we should have our first sponsor here soon.
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00:03:10.151So I just got to send out the email, which I should have already sent it out already by at least wednesday, hopefully wonderful.
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00:03:13.580Yes, yes, yes I'm super excited, I'm really excited.
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00:03:16.066Let's talk about, uh, poly relationships.
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00:03:48.219I know we've talked about it before in the past, but I kind of want to bring it up now because I know that it is a topic that people are still not too sure about still, that's fair all right, so we can talk about monogamy, we can talk about throuples, we can talk about everything, and I think it's one of those things that is very, very helpful to a lot of people when it comes to understanding, uh, what it is or what it's like to be in a, uh, throuple slash, poly relationship and what it's like here.
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00:04:01.895Right, I think we we've touched bases before, yeah, so I agree, because sometimes when I'm talking to people that I know and I'm describing like us hanging out or whatever, well, I'll say you know, oh, my best friend's husband, you know this and that, and it's like oh, yeah.
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00:04:04.104And then his boyfriend, they're just like wait, is it his husband?
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00:04:05.467I was, I was like oh, I'm sorry, one of each.
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00:04:31.418and they're like, oh yeah, and I'm like yeah, why you say it like that?
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00:04:39.119I think it's funny they don't, they're like it's not nothing negative the reaction.
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00:04:56.797They're just like really, you know, it was like yes, that's weird, like no, that's just interesting, like oh, okay, cool yeah it's funny because I'm just like, yeah, I love people's reactions too, especially when I talk to them and then just like, yeah, I have my uh husband, uh, then I have my boyfriend.
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00:05:00.951Then I got my other boyfriend and like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait back up.
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00:05:02.497What do you mean?
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00:05:03.540I'm in a poly relationship.
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00:05:05.360Like, what part did you know to get?
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00:05:16.062I have a boyfriend, I have a husband, because if you don't say that you're poly, they think you're just incredibly open about being married and cheating all at the same time, yeah, it's like what.
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00:05:17.848But then when you're like, oh no, they all know.
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00:05:24.507And they're like, oh, it's poly, like oh okay, you know, it's one of those questions I always get after I tell them that I'm in a poly.
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00:05:26.651Oh, I can never do it, I'm too possessive.
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00:05:27.673That's great.
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00:05:29.206No one asked you, but I appreciate it.
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00:05:33.024My thing is always like yeah, bro, I don't know how you do it, I'm like one's enough.
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00:05:51.048And you, juggling multiple, you do you boo, you know, juggling both Juggling poly relationship and a throuple relation and a regular relationship is not that bad if you think about it.
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00:05:51.408It's not that bad.
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00:05:51.911It really isn't a lot of.
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00:05:52.413It is just communication.
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00:05:57.348When you're talking, um, in the case of me and rad, since we're in a poly relationship, I'm his handler, his pop, I mean his handler, his dom or whatnot.
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00:05:59.978We have an understanding for each other.
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00:06:04.165We do that like we talked about it before, like the contracts, consent, all of that stuff.
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00:06:09.814But he's actually been keeping up contacting and I've been keeping up with him too as well.
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00:06:18.149I think we spent a little bit of time Monday, I believe, because he knew that I was going through a lot of health issues.
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00:06:20.608He's like I want to come spend some time with you.
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00:06:25.132I'm like, okay, cool, and then we're going to have date night here coming up soon too, as well, oh that's cool.
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00:06:28.721Yeah, some time with you.
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00:06:30.528I'm like, okay, cool, and then we're gonna have date night here coming up soon too as well.
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00:06:31.672Yeah, we're gonna have a little date night.
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00:06:33.156And then, uh, later on today no, wednesday we had date night with uh fabian.
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00:06:40.199Um, yeah, just a lot of time just for him to kind of just compress, because school finals, all that other shit, right.
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00:06:43.586But with rad, uh it's.
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00:06:49.863I want to say I have more relationships with rad than I do with uh other, with pup tart.
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00:06:52.730Pup tart is just friends with benefits, that's just pretty much it.
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00:06:54.062There's no contract, there's nothing.
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00:06:54.963He does his own thing.
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00:06:57.951I, I keep, I keep up with him and whatnot.
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00:07:07.194And because he's like I feel like I'm obligated to hang out with you because you bought this and that I'm like you're not obligated but it's appreciated.
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00:07:12.790And with Rad, I know we both have been seeing each other in a very good minute.
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00:07:16.170We haven't played at all period, though, but I think that's just.
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00:07:18.413You don't want to get electrocuted on your forehead with his butt again.
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00:07:21.725I forgot about that.
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00:07:22.709I'm just kidding.
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00:07:28.089No, it's not that I don't want to get electrocuted again, because that was actually a lot of fun.
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00:07:32.228It was just on my fucking forehead I know that was a joke, but yeah, I know you don't mind.
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00:07:35.408I had to put it out there again because it was hilarious.
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00:07:36.321I forgot.
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00:07:37.463He shocked me with his ass.
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00:07:39.629Thanks for the reminder.
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00:07:52.307I thought that was the best shit ever.
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00:07:56.093When you were telling the story I was like no, sir, but that shit, like I, like I was.
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00:07:57.595I don't know why I was so scared to touch him.
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00:07:59.706I guess because I wasn't expecting it.
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00:08:02.947But now I put this like fear in me.
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00:08:04.232But now I want to do it to him.
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00:08:06.319Yeah, because it's an adrenaline rush.
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00:08:08.569It is really an adrenaline rush at this point.
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00:08:15.146But I think it's even funnier too, because I can touch myself, just fine, right, because I won't shock myself.
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00:08:22.007But if he touches me because he's done it, because he's just like, oh hey, I'm just like, hi, you motherfucker.
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00:08:26.480So I go down and then what happens?
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00:08:29.367If I touch something else and I get shocked twice, it's hard, you know whatnot.
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00:08:31.632So I'm just like don't do that.
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00:08:45.630So because I try to sit down like with it, like I'm sitting on the bed and everything, but I'm feeling the electric currents through the mattress I'm just like, oh shit, because the mattress on the very bottom has its own vibration.
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00:08:48.490It's a vibrating bed because it has its own vibration.
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00:08:55.991No, so, with that being said, the electricity is actually being printed pretty fine.
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00:09:03.159But anyhow, coming back to the whole subject and everything of being a poly relationship, this is my true poly relationship.
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00:09:07.270I had my throuple in the past with my ex, which was a lot of fun.
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00:09:10.105We had good times, we had bad times and whatnot, whatever.
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00:09:11.649Just like any other relationship, right.
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00:09:15.562But communication is key With a throuple.
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00:09:23.248The thing is with a throuple is that it's three people who are in love with each other and all of them are in unison together.
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00:09:26.341They're basically working hand-to-hand together.
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00:09:29.591They're in love, they're doing things, they're going out, they're having a good time.
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00:09:34.089It's not just one person working on the other and whatnot.
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00:09:50.547Now there are people who will get into throuples where the third person is being very sneaky and try to you know, work, you know the other person, whatnot right, and that's kind kind of like how my throuple I was dealing with was similar to that, but not as bad.
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00:10:03.249But we can feel the strangeness on the relationship and how bad it became, because you can be in a toxic throuple period without anything and it can cause a friction between everybody else.
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00:10:18.456But communication is motherfucking key, but you need to still respect the primary relationship of a throuple, which is the people who brought you in to enjoy their relationship as a co.
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00:10:30.022If they have something already that has nothing to do with you and they need to talk one-on-one privately to be able to figure out some things that didn't involve you, you need to give them their space to be able to do that.
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00:10:37.250Don't don't be mean about it like, oh you don't want to talk to me about it, no, no, no, no, that's not it just had nothing to do with it, just had nothing to do with you.
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00:10:41.567That's all I'm not gonna, we're not gonna bring you in, yeah and a lot of times they would get mad.
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00:10:48.721Well, I'm in the relationship, so I mean, why not tell me now, because it doesn't involve you just yet?
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00:10:54.953Like this is something that we need to talk out first before we can bring in you into this particular conversation?
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00:10:59.211We don't know you that well to say, hey, this is us in a relationship, this is the law.
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00:11:02.802We're taking baby steps, just like any relationship period, you know.
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00:11:12.669And it's just like it would be, for instance, if I was in a relationship and I said, dede, I need to speak to you privately, and if it's like whatnot, then we would go somewhere to talk in privately.
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00:11:17.113Right, it's not because I want to try and not involve my husband, it's because I want to talk to you privately about something.
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00:11:17.673Maybe that happened.
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00:11:19.514That only has to do with you and I.
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00:11:19.794Right.
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00:11:30.740So it's no different than what a throuple is Right In a poly relationship.
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00:11:36.802It's what we call kind of like a hierarchy, almost in a sense you have me and my husband, then I have my boyfriend, which is Rad, and then Rad has his own relationship.
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00:11:38.227So he follows his whole hierarchy.
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00:11:38.690Right.
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00:11:43.211And I'm not relying on him for his finances.
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00:11:46.169He has his own finances, I have my own finances.
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00:11:52.393But if I feel that if he needs help with something financially, I will help out where I can Like a boyfriend and a girlfriend Right.
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00:11:53.966And then same with him.
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00:11:57.190If you wanted to help out, he would necessarily help out if you wanted to.
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00:12:00.629But this is just us if we want to.
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00:12:02.927Not because we're obligated to do anything.
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00:12:07.625Because then again they have their own money that they need to save and be able to do.
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00:12:08.687But we do have our trips.
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00:12:13.486Like we're having a trip coming up in september and we're sitting down, we're planning it.
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00:12:20.631So we already got the days off already for september coming up and we're going to go camping and it's going to be at a gay campground.
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00:12:22.806It's going to be, you know, pretty fun, pretty cool and whatnot.
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00:12:27.633I'm already working and I'm actually really excited because, one, it's a september.
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00:12:32.628Two, it's already going to be like close to fall, so it shouldn't be too hot.
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00:12:40.470Hopefully we're not going to talk about that, yeah and I'm getting uh, I'm getting new leather so, which is great.
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00:12:44.423So I have new leather coming in um as well, and I got one for hubby too as well.
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00:12:46.263Uh, I know he doesn't wear.
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00:12:54.909He's not part of the kink community at all whatsoever, but I try to give him something at least yeah that's leather related, but I always do it nerdy right.
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00:12:58.809So I know you're going to be working on something for me for my leather, which is great.
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00:12:59.231That's gonna.
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00:13:03.725I wanted to do dragon ball z but, as I said, I think I'm gonna do a gang.
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00:13:28.606I think that would be a very nice leather piece to actually have, which I will give to you here later now that you said that, yeah, so, uh, that is something that we're kind of working on as, too as well, and then, um, that's just pretty much just kind of like dealing with pretty much just all of that and whatnot, and I think that the main, the premises of it, is just having a lot of fun because and then you have your swingers too as well.
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00:13:41.625Right, your swingers are yeah, I saw it and I was like I have to show, jess, I have to show jess like not the poor pokemon in there.
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00:13:43.710Like no, that's a load.
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00:13:46.307No, I know, that's all.
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00:13:50.506I was like Can you imagine if you just hit a button one time and it opens up inside you?
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00:13:56.424Girl, you know what you get, what you get, whatever happens because of that.
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00:13:59.708That's what you get, pretty much Whatever Pokemon pops out that's what you get.
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00:14:00.937Right, you, that's what you get.
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00:14:12.969Right, you, I saw it and I'm just like saving this to show Bessie, because what is this?
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00:14:14.210You know what?
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00:14:17.052That would be a good one to have if I had it on a red vest.
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00:14:20.195That would be perfect if I had it on a red vest.
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00:14:22.616Now I want to get me a red vest.
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00:14:23.236Oh, my God.
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00:14:27.342So save that photo for future purposes.
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00:14:42.437That is insane, like what is yo don't ask we, we don't kiss and tell we listen and we don't judge no, you're gonna get judged bitch you're gonna get.
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00:14:45.486You're getting judged hard no, you didn't, that's pokemon.
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00:14:46.208You're getting judged.
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00:14:49.778You're getting judged I think that's the thing.
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00:15:10.351I think that's the best thing about being in like a kink community and being nerdy is that a lot of these fucking nerds are very very kinky and very very spicy and it's fine because, but they're also nerd of our divergent too as well, and some of them have a very, uh, some autistic feels to their personality, which is great.
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00:15:12.658Yeah, uh, I think rad's the same way.
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00:15:15.566He's a little, he has his autistic side or whatnot.
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00:15:30.544So I think it's just so funny because it's just like when we say certain things, or I tell or explain to him like you know, like punishments or whatnot, whatever, like he's not allowed to downgrade himself or say anything bad about him, and I'm not allowed to do that either as well.
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00:15:37.589So, um, and I try not to like when, if I'm feeling a particular type of way, I'm just like, I can't believe I'm so stupid, I can't believe I did that.
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00:15:38.841Like why in the fuck did I do that?
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00:15:40.842Like stupid, stupid, stupid.
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00:15:56.868And I'll say to myself when no one's around, just like but anywho, I think, uh, with rad it's so much fun because he's he's my little jump scarer like I can do something and he'll just jump really quickly.
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00:16:03.806This is why he doesn't do a lot of like scary movies or scary video games or whatnot, and it's just so fucking cute, you know.
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00:16:11.000And for my husband, um, I've known my husband already for almost nine years since we've been together, right and knowing him already.
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00:16:15.892I can't scare him and I can't scare rad either, because I'm gonna get throw punched like.
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00:16:16.841It's just like.
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00:16:26.511If I have to, I have to scare from a distance yeah but occasionally, and occasionally not on purpose, ryan and him will scare me out of fucking nowhere.
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00:16:28.547I'm like what the fuck?
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00:16:30.784Like I wasn't doing it on purpose.
00:16:30.784 -->
00:16:33.265I promise, I promise, I promise, and they're just like please don't scare me.
00:16:33.265 -->
00:16:33.927Please don't scare me.
00:16:36.681 -->
00:16:37.363That's what you get.
00:16:37.363 -->
00:16:38.948Bitch, that's what you get.
00:16:43.400 -->
00:16:49.563And I'm not easily scared Like I don't know what it is.
00:16:49.563 -->
00:16:53.961I just I know that I'm just not in tuned with anything because before it was so hard to scare me like way back now I'm just like a fucking pussy.
00:16:53.961 -->
00:16:56.048You can scare me, I'm fucking like.
00:16:56.048 -->
00:16:58.115But I like being scared.
00:16:58.115 -->
00:16:59.159I think that's the best part.
00:16:59.159 -->
00:17:05.317It's fun it's fun, sometimes it's sometimes if you're going to a haunted house and you know you're going in there for the thrill of it, right?
00:17:05.377 -->
00:17:07.445Yeah, but we did not expect it.
00:17:09.183 -->
00:17:20.752We were like boy do not go there, yeah, you will get throw punched Big time, but anywho, so we have this relationship and I know them.
00:17:20.752 -->
00:17:22.647They're two dynamic individuals.
00:17:22.647 -->
00:17:25.527My husband, he's very love and infection.
00:17:25.527 -->
00:17:27.404He's, uh, very understanding.
00:17:27.404 -->
00:17:29.576I give him as much as love and attention as I possibly can.
00:17:29.576 -->
00:17:34.373He's a fucking nerd when it comes to books and amongst other things too as well.
00:17:34.373 -->
00:17:40.086But I mean that man can fucking buy and he's like, oh, I buy my stuff.
00:17:40.086 -->
00:17:44.055I'm like, yeah, but bro, slow the fuck down.
00:17:44.055 -->
00:17:46.680And he's doing this thing right now with the claw machine.
00:17:46.680 -->
00:17:54.202It's so fucking cute with the books, it's super fucking adorable it is, I'm like it's super fucking cute, uh.
00:17:54.403 -->
00:17:55.484So he has that.
00:17:55.484 -->
00:17:57.949So I know each of them.
00:17:57.949 -->
00:17:59.090I uh rad.
00:17:59.090 -->
00:18:01.800He likes his uh magic of the gathering.
00:18:01.800 -->
00:18:03.384He's very into dnd.
00:18:03.384 -->
00:18:04.769He's having a lot of fun.
00:18:05.009 -->
00:18:07.443Uh, certain days he has dnd night, some days he doesn't.
00:18:07.443 -->
00:18:10.314I think saturdays or sundays is dnd night.
00:18:10.314 -->
00:18:16.189I mean, yeah, so if I get off work or whatnot, I kind of spend, I try to spend quality time, yeah, with it.
00:18:16.189 -->
00:18:17.992But tuesday wins monday.
00:18:17.992 -->
00:18:27.145Tuesday quality times with hubby I get to spend time with him because I get off like at seven and I get to kind of spend now, and then I have game night that I spend time with him, because I get off like at seven and I get to kind of spend now, and then I have game night that I spend time with him.
00:18:27.145 -->
00:18:33.059To be able to do that with hubby, yeah, I normally spend it with rather like going to like certain events.
00:18:33.059 -->
00:18:41.294Like I think this weekend he has an event coming up or one that I will probably end up going to and see how that's coming along and see how that's going and whatnot.
00:18:41.294 -->
00:18:45.314That's awesome, so kudos to him for that.
00:18:45.314 -->
00:18:49.509I think he's also going to be on call too as well, but I'm just like shit, dude sucks.
00:18:49.509 -->
00:19:15.451But that's the thing about poly relationships is that I do like, when I'm talking to other guys, I let my other boys know like, oh hey, I'm talking to this one guy, he seems really cool, um, but I'm getting to know him first before I, before I introduce them to anybody, anybody, it's you know I need to you need to know him first right, yeah, so naturally that's naturally, just like any other relationship
00:19:15.490 -->
00:19:24.961you get to know people before you commit yourself to said relationship and it's and it's cool because, um, a lot of a lot of people who who've seen rad?
00:19:24.961 -->
00:19:27.287They're just like, oh, I've seen a lot of change in him.
00:19:27.287 -->
00:19:28.811I'm like, oh, thank you, I appreciate that.
00:19:28.811 -->
00:19:32.227No, like you're his boy, he's your boy.
00:19:32.227 -->
00:19:33.069I'm like, yeah, he's my boy.
00:19:33.069 -->
00:19:37.590Like, wow, he's calmed down a whole lot.
00:19:37.590 -->
00:19:38.724Like what is it that you're doing?
00:19:38.724 -->
00:19:44.085I was like I just praise him Like that, praise them, like that's all all the boys need is just praising.
00:19:44.164 -->
00:19:48.709Like I'm proud of you, keep it up, be the best thing that you can.
00:19:48.709 -->
00:19:51.971And I'm on top of them when it comes to their medication and whatnot.
00:19:51.971 -->
00:19:53.313Like, hey, have you taken your prep?
00:19:53.313 -->
00:19:54.114Have you done this?
00:19:54.114 -->
00:19:55.315Have you had your water?
00:19:55.315 -->
00:19:56.715How's everything going?
00:19:56.715 -->
00:19:57.876I'm always asking how's it work?
00:19:57.876 -->
00:20:02.086It's good.
00:20:02.086 -->
00:20:03.308And I'm like that's fine.
00:20:03.308 -->
00:20:06.494Like I get that you're far away and I get that you're on these trips.
00:20:06.494 -->
00:20:15.450But just remember, it's because you're working and hopefully you're getting a little extra on top of that, right, and you're being a really good boy by doing your work.
00:20:15.450 -->
00:20:16.584So keep it up.
00:20:16.584 -->
00:20:22.031You know, and sometimes having those praises for a lot of people is just so fucking amazing, you know what I mean.
00:20:23.420 -->
00:20:24.643It's just so fucking amazing you know what I mean.
00:20:24.643 -->
00:20:25.865So yeah, because sometimes it makes all the difference.
00:20:25.865 -->
00:20:27.229It really does, because they're seen.
00:20:27.229 -->
00:20:27.548That's it.
00:20:27.548 -->
00:20:28.171Yeah, that's it.
00:20:28.171 -->
00:20:33.170Somebody saw them and they acknowledge them and their struggle, and that's it like his baby voice.
00:20:33.191 -->
00:20:35.163When he does his baby voice, it's so fucking cute.
00:20:35.163 -->
00:20:46.874It is so fucking cute because I like and he's like yay I'm just like oh so fucking cute, um, but I don't know where the baby voice has come from originally.
00:20:46.874 -->
00:20:58.980I haven't asked him, though, but he does like when he does talk, he talks normally, and when I, when I hear his normal voice, I know that he's like getting into a conversation right he's a big youtuber, just like my husband.
00:20:58.980 -->
00:21:03.246I'm just like her music choices.
00:21:03.246 -->
00:21:10.736I do have concerns wow, wow because you'll listen to something.
00:21:10.776 -->
00:21:12.161And he goes like daddy, can I put a song on?
00:21:12.161 -->
00:21:24.369I'm just saying you get one song and then you have to put it back, okay why?
00:21:24.450 -->
00:21:25.570what's so bad about it?
00:21:26.270 -->
00:21:30.253it's not my cup of tea for one and two, uh.
00:21:30.253 -->
00:21:36.217Um, when we're hanging out and normally when I just get off of work, I'm still in the like process of de-stressing.
00:21:36.217 -->
00:21:37.240So that's just.
00:21:37.240 -->
00:21:40.777The main thing is that I'm still decompressing on a lot of the situations.
00:21:40.777 -->
00:21:57.565So it's it's kind of like I'm trying to listen, I like I'm still trying to decompress whenever I get from over there and I haven't fully decompressed all the way and I'm just like sometimes I just need him to love on me, hug on me, and that's pretty much where I'm just like and he wants to sing and everything, which I got.
00:21:57.565 -->
00:21:59.788Nothing against the singing, because he sings fucking beautifully.
00:21:59.788 -->
00:22:01.369I love when he sings, it's great.
00:22:01.369 -->
00:22:07.403But sometimes I'm just like boy, shut the fuck up, just hold me really moment, because I'm just trying to fucking decompress from work.
00:22:07.403 -->
00:22:07.944God damn it.
00:22:07.944 -->
00:22:12.364I don't tell him these things because I feel bad.
00:22:13.016 -->
00:22:13.096And.
00:22:13.116 -->
00:22:13.917I'm not an asshole.
00:22:13.917 -->
00:22:15.300I Because I feel bad, and I'm not an asshole.
00:22:15.320 -->
00:22:16.002I mean, I am an asshole.
00:22:16.002 -->
00:22:17.727I was like, oh yeah, Don't lie.
00:22:18.007 -->
00:22:23.542I'm not, I really am not an asshole, maybe to y'all, because y'all deserve it, but still.
00:22:23.682 -->
00:22:26.880Excuse me, the hell we do.
00:22:26.880 -->
00:22:32.654We don't do nothing to deserve it it is just so funny.
00:22:32.654 -->
00:22:34.122Look, I've got enough shit for tonight, okay.
00:22:34.122 -->
00:22:42.560Bitch I haven't done anything yet no, not from you.
00:22:42.580 -->
00:22:43.222I'm talking about online shit.
00:22:43.242 -->
00:22:43.765Oh the stuff that I read.
00:22:43.765 -->
00:22:44.709Oh, that's right, that is just fucking.
00:22:44.709 -->
00:22:45.230I haven't touched it.
00:22:45.230 -->
00:22:46.214So who knows what's waiting for me now?
00:22:47.960 -->
00:22:49.986bitch, welcome to fucking social media.
00:22:49.986 -->
00:22:53.936Holy shit, people get their asses hurt, it's hilarious because, like I said, it's linked.
00:22:54.038 -->
00:22:57.787I'm never on that platform Ever, because I post what I post on Facebook.
00:22:57.967 -->
00:22:58.147Right.
00:22:58.335 -->
00:23:01.474Because it's linked, it automatically goes over there, but I never jump on it.
00:23:01.494 -->
00:23:05.508But you know, when people don't read the captions or the things that are above it, they just see that.
00:23:05.508 -->
00:23:07.255Yeah, and then all of a sudden, they're triggered by it.
00:23:08.876 -->
00:23:12.482Yeah, they just keep getting notification after going on with this me.
00:23:12.522 -->
00:23:16.469I just would be like so it's not that the red flag is this.
00:23:16.628 -->
00:23:26.836It's the red flag that you didn't read the captions that I put I'm like I put this thing because I was sharing it so that I can discredit it, because I don't feel that it's true I would be like, bro, are you fucking stupid?
00:23:27.018 -->
00:23:30.166like, see, that's the thing I look.
00:23:30.166 -->
00:23:33.035Yes, I'm an asshole in some points of you know, whatever.
00:23:33.035 -->
00:23:34.195Oh, my god, I'm getting defensive.
00:23:34.195 -->
00:23:45.705And it's funny because, yes, I'm an asshole when it comes to certain things, like if it's just like, really, I think that's everybody Really.
00:23:45.726 -->
00:23:46.446I think that's everybody.
00:23:46.446 -->
00:23:50.589Because, dude, if there's injustices, I will be like I'm sorry.
00:23:50.589 -->
00:23:56.703What I will dude, I'm like no, they didn't like.
00:23:56.723 -->
00:24:03.003If my boss I remember my, my former boss, yeah, my like.
00:24:03.003 -->
00:24:03.765Here's the s like.
00:24:03.765 -->
00:24:07.843Here's the example of me being an asshole, like major, like assholeness.
00:24:07.843 -->
00:24:10.634Is that my boss, my last boss that I worked for at ikea?
00:24:10.634 -->
00:24:12.018I called him a cunt.
00:24:12.018 -->
00:24:14.020Like he, I literally called him a cunt.
00:24:14.060 -->
00:24:30.843He's just like what I started just a little bit right are you naturally a cunt or is this is who you are as a person, like, because, naturally, like, I've dealt with a lot of cunts.
00:24:30.843 -->
00:24:36.521But, bro, you are more gay than I am and you got a girlfriend, the fuck like.
00:24:36.521 -->
00:24:39.962Well, I'm just doing what they're telling me and do you normally listen to what they say?
00:24:39.962 -->
00:24:42.002Like, are you naturally stupid?
00:24:42.255 -->
00:24:44.323Even when it's a douchebag move.
00:24:45.236 -->
00:24:46.160Yeah, that's the thing.
00:24:46.160 -->
00:24:52.220Like I'm cool, I'm down, but yeah, I guess I am an asshole.
00:24:52.220 -->
00:25:04.707Thank you, thank you, not on purpose, thank you when is dilly deserved I mean yes, absolutely when it's deserved what did I do to you?
00:25:07.382 -->
00:25:16.224let me tally that shit up real quick can wrap around the earth twice, that's awesome see.
00:25:16.346 -->
00:25:16.605I'm not.
00:25:16.605 -->
00:25:19.654I'm not a bad asshole with you or anybody else.
00:25:19.654 -->
00:25:21.019I'm a lovable asshole.
00:25:21.019 -->
00:25:21.821That's just like.
00:25:21.821 -->
00:25:26.945I'm gonna call it out for what it is because I think it's funny yeah because, like how they always ask me, do you know what time?
00:25:26.945 -->
00:25:30.541It is same time as yesterday, but 24 hours later, bitch bitch?
00:25:30.682 -->
00:25:33.579yeah, you're just, you're a smart-ass asshole yeah.
00:25:33.861 -->
00:25:34.923I am a smart-ass asshole.
00:25:34.963 -->
00:25:36.146Yeah, that's what you are.
00:25:36.146 -->
00:25:45.525And I've met some people who I can meet my match and just say, hmm, yeah, no, because then the rest of us were sitting there like, oh shit.
00:25:45.845 -->
00:25:48.230Yeah, exactly, here we go, here we go.
00:25:49.154 -->
00:25:52.750Because now nobody can be outdone in this group.
00:25:52.750 -->
00:25:58.086Dear Lord, no I wish we could record game night for you guys.
00:25:59.336 -->
00:26:01.403Because it's always me and the fucking twink.
00:26:01.403 -->
00:26:02.763They're always going head to head.
00:26:02.804 -->
00:26:06.142That's why, and then sometimes, Sometimes John will chime in, chime in.
00:26:06.234 -->
00:26:08.082I'm just like are you fucking for real?
00:26:08.102 -->
00:26:08.442dude.
00:26:08.442 -->
00:26:12.859Sometimes Fabian will chime in with everybody else, or him, and the twink will go.
00:26:12.859 -->
00:26:14.541I'm just like yo, you, but he yells for him in the twink.
00:26:14.582 -->
00:26:15.202I'm just like yo, you got.
00:26:15.202 -->
00:26:17.925You got a twink in the pub going after each other.
00:26:17.945 -->
00:26:22.691We're sitting across the table Just like shaking our heads Like oh my God.
00:26:24.134 -->
00:26:29.884And sometimes I don't have to do anything, like the pup just does everything for me, Like he some of the shit he says I'm like damn.
00:26:29.884 -->
00:26:37.848Cause he missed he's just like I know you don't like the twink, so it's not that I don't like the twink, as I tolerate the twink.
00:26:37.848 -->
00:26:43.551There's a fucking big difference, so but I think all of it is hilarious.
00:26:43.551 -->
00:26:46.833That's just me I digress, I mean, they don't well, because I'm not.
00:26:46.893 -->
00:26:48.034Yeah, I'm well, I'm not.
00:26:48.034 -->
00:26:49.376I'm just saying I'm not into.
00:26:49.376 -->
00:26:52.742I don't feel any particular way about anybody yeah that's why.
00:26:52.742 -->
00:26:54.125So my thing is like I love.
00:26:54.164 -->
00:26:59.233It's not that I don't like, so it's not that I don't like the twink because I can't say I don't like him.
00:26:59.233 -->
00:27:02.681I mean, he already knows that I feel a particular type of way about it.
00:27:02.761 -->
00:27:07.140You know whatnot yeah but we used to be close right so, but anyway, that's natural.
00:27:07.140 -->
00:27:11.193But anyway, back to like polyanthropals and whatnot.
00:27:11.193 -->
00:27:21.843Like that's the thing about, like it's what it's great about hanging out with the men that I've been with or whatnot, because it's a lot of fun.
00:27:21.843 -->
00:27:26.477It has been a lot of fun, it's been a great time it's been.
00:27:26.477 -->
00:27:29.705I wouldn't change it for the world at all period.
00:27:29.705 -->
00:27:32.063And a lot of people are just like, well, why do you do it?
00:27:32.063 -->
00:27:34.865I'm like the reason I do it's because I can.
00:27:34.865 -->
00:27:41.102I can love everybody genuinely but at the same time I'm still going to respect the relationship I have.
00:27:41.102 -->
00:27:46.439Uh, and I like my husband's not a very outdoorsy person.
00:27:46.439 -->
00:27:53.978Like if we wanted to go to that camping, he'd be like, yeah, no oh, it's camping, it's outside, outside.
00:27:54.018 -->
00:27:55.459Yeah, yeah, exactly.
00:27:55.459 -->
00:28:03.007But with Rad, he likes camping, but he likes these kind of things too, and it's part of the whole King Fest, king Keith.
00:28:03.067 -->
00:28:03.267Right.
00:28:03.807 -->
00:28:04.248It's his thing.
00:28:04.248 -->
00:28:04.808It's his thing.
00:28:04.808 -->
00:28:06.170So it's his thing, it's my thing.
00:28:06.170 -->
00:28:07.770We're going to have a fun, we're going to have a good time.
00:28:07.770 -->
00:28:24.134No-transcript.
00:28:24.134 -->
00:28:27.082Do you really want to do what I want to do?
00:28:27.082 -->
00:28:29.714Because what I want to do is not exactly what you want to do.
00:28:29.714 -->
00:28:34.962You know so, because you know let's, I don't know.
00:28:34.962 -->
00:28:40.851Uh, I think it's just a hubby's not he like we can go to.
00:28:40.851 -->
00:28:48.467We haven't gone to the san antonio zoo in a good minute though, but if we do go to the zoo, it's just like it's hot, and I'm just like he's already complaining.
00:28:48.567 -->
00:28:52.401I'm already like I'm gonna go home, the san antonio zoo no, not yet.
00:28:52.421 -->
00:28:53.566We need to go I don't.
00:28:54.007 -->
00:28:56.013I don't think I've ever been to the center.
00:28:56.013 -->
00:29:02.517That's what I'm saying, like ever ever I've been to the dallas zoo and I've been to the gladys porter zoo in brownsville.
00:29:02.557 -->
00:29:05.365But all I know is we take you.
00:29:05.365 -->
00:29:11.641We're taking a big ass umbrella and a shit ton of water bitch like charlie I forget my 100 spf.
00:29:11.641 -->
00:29:15.185Bitch, you need a 500 spf I do.
00:29:15.866 -->
00:29:16.709We can go in the fall.
00:29:16.709 -->
00:29:20.074I'm just saying this is not so.
00:29:20.074 -->
00:29:28.819I'm sure ryan would appreciate that too, because I'm just in the summer, at least in the fall it's still sunny enough.
00:29:29.142 -->
00:29:35.082It's just, it's nice and breezy, that's all yeah, there's not a much foot traffic though, but there's a lot of good stuff that goes on in the summertime.
00:29:35.824 -->
00:29:43.101Like what the little stations that sell snow cones yeah, that's fucking cool Snow cones.
00:29:43.121 -->
00:29:44.724Watch out now you can get snow cone anywhere.
00:29:44.724 -->
00:29:46.087I know they're really expensive.
00:29:46.555 -->
00:29:48.403You can literally go to a corner store on the west side.
00:29:49.394 -->
00:29:50.862Back on tracks, ma'am.
00:29:51.935 -->
00:29:59.659Sorry, you mentioned the zoo Squirrel sorry you mentioned the zoo squirrel.
00:29:59.679 -->
00:30:00.423Yeah, literally my adhd is kicking in.
00:30:00.423 -->
00:30:00.865You know what I think?
00:30:00.865 -->
00:30:01.186It's even funny.
00:30:01.186 -->
00:30:15.916People think that you and I are in a poly relationship because we're so close and we're always doing shit it's because we're brothers and sisters yeah, exactly, I'm just like no, that's not how that works no, that's not how that works at all no, at all, like hell, no I mean, we're not really brothers and sister, are you?
00:30:15.916 -->
00:30:16.397On love.
00:30:16.397 -->
00:30:23.309Define love, friends, friends, brother and sister, yep, oh so incest, no, no.
00:30:25.016 -->
00:30:25.958I'm sorry what.
00:30:27.340 -->
00:30:27.761Kill me.
00:30:27.761 -->
00:30:30.748You want to run that by me again.
00:30:30.768 -->
00:30:32.200It's like that's my little brother.
00:30:32.200 -->
00:30:38.084Yeah, she's my older sister.
00:30:38.084 -->
00:30:38.449That's disgusting.
00:30:38.449 -->
00:30:38.894Speaking of old Bitch.
00:30:38.894 -->
00:30:48.207Wow, look, I already said it one time I had enough shit for tonight.
00:30:48.207 -->
00:30:54.001I don't need it from you too, brother, you will not come at me.
00:30:54.829 -->
00:30:55.856I was going to for a moment.
00:30:55.876 -->
00:30:57.141I have done nothing to you.
00:30:57.843 -->
00:31:04.486I don't care but, I'm not an asshole someone told me how do you know how?
00:31:04.486 -->
00:31:06.048How do you think didi is?
00:31:06.048 -->
00:31:17.694I don't know, I just count the wrinkles on her forehead you're not an asshole, not at all I told that to ab the other day because because of his birthday just passed.
00:31:17.734 -->
00:31:18.898You're just a whole ass dick.
00:31:18.979 -->
00:31:20.464Yeah, yeah, Because his birthday passed.
00:31:20.464 -->
00:31:22.778He was like aw, you look your age, he goes.
00:31:22.778 -->
00:31:23.835What the fuck is that supposed to mean?
00:31:23.835 -->
00:31:25.060I can count the wrinkles on your forehead.
00:31:25.060 -->
00:31:27.742I was like aw, the bags underneath your eye.
00:31:27.742 -->
00:31:29.321You can put tundra underneath there.
00:31:29.321 -->
00:31:38.826If you add the bags under your eyes, you get your age.
00:31:38.826 -->
00:31:39.672I love this for you.
00:31:39.672 -->
00:31:42.098He's like fuck you, You're an asshole.
00:31:42.098 -->
00:31:44.405Happy birthday, we're aware.
00:31:46.175 -->
00:31:47.823You say this like you didn't know.
00:31:49.556 -->
00:32:03.321But I think my throuple that I had I don't regret it that I had, I don't regret it, I think it was, I don't think I know it was a very good learning curve and a learning tool, uh, for that relationship.
00:32:03.321 -->
00:32:17.829And what, um, if me and hubby was to ever find a throuple and we were to ever do that again, uh, there would be definitely some rules that we would place forward on there.
00:32:18.576 -->
00:32:21.224I think that was the whole purpose of it, to be honest, yeah.
00:32:22.498 -->
00:32:26.307I think we need to get to know the person a little bit better before anything else.
00:32:26.307 -->
00:32:34.059And I think the next step is they need to be financially stable, because that's going to be the main thing Like if something happens.
00:32:34.059 -->
00:32:34.561Like what are we?
00:32:34.561 -->
00:32:48.582Because when you're in a throuple and you know you're going to move in and you're making that big, drastic change, having someone move in into your whole life, you, you know, bills become more than what anticipated with.
00:32:48.582 -->
00:32:49.144You know what I mean.
00:32:49.246 -->
00:33:02.643but I think this time it's just going to be like make sure you have your own vehicle, have your own insurance right you need to pay for that, yeah, um, but as far as like groceries, all that stuff, that's something you all have to talk about when it comes to the throuples, because the people are like, well, how are the bills?
00:33:02.643 -->
00:33:03.808Like it doesn't get more expensive.
00:33:03.808 -->
00:33:13.681I think it gets more crowded, because you definitely need a bigger setting when it comes to a house, because it's not just your stuff, it's also their stuff too as well.
00:33:13.681 -->
00:33:18.328So you need a bigger um area to kind of call home.
00:33:18.328 -->
00:33:19.298You know what I mean.
00:33:19.298 -->
00:33:23.457So I think that's another thing that people don't realize, especially a poly relationship.
00:33:23.457 -->
00:33:32.919You don't need a whole lot of space when it comes to poly relationship because, necessarily, they have their own space, they have their own house, they have their own place where they can kind of go.
00:33:32.919 -->
00:33:42.816And I think that's kind of like the thing that when we were trying to look for a house, we were trying to figure out where it's going to be more convenient for a lot of places.
00:33:42.915 -->
00:33:45.280Hubby said he likes the thousand oaks area.
00:33:45.280 -->
00:33:57.987I kind of liked it where master cad and rad were at, because that area is pretty much growing and it's booming and it's kind of closer to um traders village.
00:33:57.987 -->
00:34:00.210So yeah, that's.
00:34:00.210 -->
00:34:04.465They're close to that way, remember, because we went, you went with us, they're going there.
00:34:04.465 -->
00:34:05.615Yeah, that's south.
00:34:05.615 -->
00:34:12.456So for ryan and ryan wants to kind of come over here by a thousand oaks because he said he really likes that area, whatnot?
00:34:12.456 -->
00:34:17.523I'm like, okay, well, that's fine, I just tend to do whatever he wants, like, okay, that's what you want, that's what you want.
00:34:17.523 -->
00:34:25.164But I'm just like, fuck, I don't think he goes, well, because, would that matter?
00:34:25.164 -->
00:34:29.521I was like it doesn't matter, you just got to remember, wherever we got to go, I have to still pick up dd.
00:34:29.521 -->
00:34:31.807So it's going to be in that distance.
00:34:31.807 -->
00:34:39.318And and we're just like, when we just have dd moving with us, I'm like, well, that's not an issue, but we need a big space.
00:34:39.318 -->
00:34:59.608So if we're gonna do a big space and we just need to do it or not and we both joke, because we joked with you guys why she can be the help of my bitch- wouldn't be any different than what I've been my entire life bro the help lives here because we had ongoing jokes at my mom's house too yeah, no people
00:34:59.628 -->
00:35:10.101come over and everybody's sitting at the dining table and they're eating and I'm over there by the counter just eating off my plate and they're like you're not gonna sit down and I would joke and I would be like, oh no, I'm the help and I'm not allowed to sit at the table.
00:35:10.101 -->
00:35:11.585And they're like, oh yeah.
00:35:11.585 -->
00:35:12.956And they're like what?
00:35:12.956 -->
00:35:22.706And of course my mom and dad are like really, really, and I was like I'm kidding, oh my God, like I'm good, like yeah, I would joke, like I'd literally just be like did?
00:35:22.746 -->
00:35:24.146you really just say that and make us look bad.
00:35:24.146 -->
00:35:27.269That is fucking hilarious, yeah, and you know what's funny?
00:35:27.269 -->
00:35:28.731Our friends would actually believe it.
00:35:30.956 -->
00:35:31.536Like you're a dick.
00:35:31.536 -->
00:35:34.079Yeah, I know you would be like oh no, they don't let me sit at the table.
00:35:34.079 -->
00:35:35.661They're like what?
00:35:35.661 -->
00:35:40.909Oh shit, it's gonna be if if it ever comes, if we ever move in together.
00:35:41.068 -->
00:35:47.885It's gonna be a thing this is so fucking hilarious, but it's, that's funny.
00:35:47.885 -->
00:36:07.400It's one of those things like I just I genuinely love our friendship, hannah, because friendships and if you think about friends, friends genuinely are just like a poly relationship, because your friends have their own friends and friends and then you have the hierarchy friends where you have your og friends that you grew up with, that you initially would hang out with besides your other friends, right.
00:36:07.400 -->
00:36:13.885So it's kind of like that, like when I call like my, my best friends from corpus and like oh you have another best friend.
00:36:13.905 -->
00:36:16.918I'm like bitch, I barely fucking talk to you like what the fuck you mean.
00:36:16.918 -->
00:36:22.284But it's funny because the other friends will get like five best friends yeah, you can have five best friends, that's what I said.
00:36:22.344 -->
00:36:23.436No, I think I have like five.
00:36:23.436 -->
00:36:26.422I got five yeah but nobody's nobody.
00:36:26.422 -->
00:36:29.315Nobody feels any type of way about any of the others, you know what I mean.
00:36:29.335 -->
00:36:31.559It's on my friends, it's just fucking hilarious.
00:36:31.579 -->
00:36:32.161That's weird.
00:36:32.161 -->
00:36:34.164It's like, oh, they're my best friend and not yours.
00:36:34.164 -->
00:36:38.539Like, okay, they're not your person, they're your best friend.
00:36:38.539 -->
00:36:39.402Like what?
00:36:40.887 -->
00:36:49.958I think it's funny because the best friend, as a best friend title, it feels that it's given to them because they're the only friend and they don't realize their other.
00:36:49.958 -->
00:36:52.226Like I have my bad bitches click.
00:36:52.226 -->
00:36:53.269You know what I mean I have.
00:36:53.269 -->
00:36:55.155I have my click and I know the click.
00:36:55.155 -->
00:37:00.686Who I hang around with will know exactly, I know who have my back and I know who will question going.
00:37:01.728 -->
00:37:03.197I don't know, yeah, you know what I mean.
00:37:03.257 -->
00:37:05.742So it's, uh, becomes very that.
00:37:05.742 -->
00:37:11.302So for the most part, I just kind of kind of just chill for a moment.
00:37:11.302 -->
00:37:26.192You know what I mean, because I think naturally I just need, I like that, I like that you're here, I like that we're doing this podcast and everything else here as well now, because this is what technically our friendship would be technically a poly relationship, but for friends right.
00:37:26.432 -->
00:37:36.164So yeah, because to kind of think about it, that's how it is, it's like it's like family, look like you said all the time like brother and sister or whatever, but we're like that brother and sister that grew up tight yeah, you know what I mean, like it.
00:37:36.164 -->
00:37:38.387Oh so he was my ride or die the whole time.
00:37:38.387 -->
00:37:39.735We grew up and vice versa.
00:37:39.735 -->
00:37:40.217You know what I?
00:37:40.659 -->
00:37:54.164mean, yeah, like we were friends all the way through, like from like wrestling and whatnot, like we weren't as closed during wrestling but we would talk shit or whatnot to say things, and we would be in the corner like, oh wow, you know, but that was before, I think.
00:37:54.164 -->
00:37:57.856I don't know, was I already out of the closet or did I come out of the closet?
00:37:57.876 -->
00:38:06.134you came out of the closet because I think, I think we were like the second or third people that you told right yeah, and we're just kind of like oh, thank you for trusting us.
00:38:06.213 -->
00:38:12.396Yeah, it was like me coming out to y'all fine, and I wasn't fully comfortable with my sexuality at that time.
00:38:12.396 -->
00:38:24.666I was still kind of, I think people would they peg me to be like very straight, like very I was sure, yeah, for sure, because when you came out I I honestly wouldn't have known but, especially because when I met you, you were with your girlfriend at the time, yeah.
00:38:25.175 -->
00:38:27.603So I was just kind of like oh yeah, straight dude, like no biggie.
00:38:27.603 -->
00:38:38.309So when you were like you came out where I was like oh faggot wow no, that's hilarious, that's so bad.
00:38:38.309 -->
00:38:45.768Dang, just paint me and james as bad people.
00:38:45.927 -->
00:38:48.492Dang, no, we didn't they would, they really would come.
00:38:48.514 -->
00:38:51.221No, we're just like dude that was cool, like that was.
00:38:51.221 -->
00:39:01.061That was cool because, like I said, we felt proud that you were comfortable enough with us to come out, like for us to be some of the first people.
00:39:01.375 -->
00:39:03.601Yeah, because you've seen some of the shit that I've been through.
00:39:03.601 -->
00:39:07.362Like for some of the relationships I'm just like holy shit.
00:39:07.362 -->
00:39:09.722And then even now I'm just like damn.
00:39:09.722 -->
00:39:15.407Like how do you get back into the same situation that you were in before, but in a throuple Like it doesn't make any sense.
00:39:15.407 -->
00:39:19.519No, you get you back into the same situation that you were in before, but in a throuple like it doesn't make any sense.
00:39:19.483 -->
00:39:19.905No, not no more, because guess what?
00:39:19.905 -->
00:39:22.831His sister lives here with him now, I know so when he brings somebody, he'll be like I don't like this one bitch.
00:39:22.831 -->
00:39:24.275It's like why?
00:39:24.335 -->
00:39:31.762because he's something he's acting like the others as soon as she says that you're deuces.
00:39:31.802 -->
00:39:34.425I'm sorry he's like no, no, we have to go our separate ways.
00:39:34.425 -->
00:39:35.068It's not?
00:39:35.068 -->
00:39:38.922It's not me, it's you yep, it's not him, it's you.
00:39:38.922 -->
00:39:44.101You're not gonna, you're not about to do my brother wrong but no, it's uh.
00:39:44.121 -->
00:39:49.077but that's just a thing, because you, when relationship you take serious, you take any relationship seriously.
00:39:49.077 -->
00:39:53.958Now I'm not knocking monogamous relationship, because, yeah, monogamy is where it's at for a lot of people.
00:39:53.958 -->
00:39:56.405I mean, if you just want to do that, you can, that's not a problem.
00:39:56.405 -->
00:39:58.057I can do monogamy.
00:39:58.057 -->
00:40:03.259If hubby was 100% what I was doing, I could probably do monogamy.
00:40:03.259 -->
00:40:09.947In that sense, I would only keep it open unless we decided to bring someone else home and we were both agreeing on to it.
00:40:09.947 -->
00:40:10.929We had a conversation.
00:40:10.929 -->
00:40:13.262Then we would become the whole swingers.
00:40:13.262 -->
00:40:15.202So that's the thing.
00:40:15.202 -->
00:40:21.155You have different aspects and different relationships and different cultures and how they have it.
00:40:21.155 -->
00:40:22.500It's just how it is.
00:40:22.500 -->
00:40:24.798Like some cultures, people have five wives.
00:40:24.798 -->
00:40:28.306Take the fuck Like okay Kudos to you Shit.
00:40:28.487 -->
00:40:35.286Like hey, I don't want that, that's what I said.
00:40:35.407 -->
00:40:40.096I'm like I, that's what I said.
00:40:40.096 -->
00:40:41.077I'm like I'm cool with just the one dude.
00:40:41.077 -->
00:40:49.217I'm not about to juggle multiple because china, bro, I mean granted, granted, they're being the men that I expect them to be or want them to be, because I'm for me.
00:40:49.217 -->
00:40:52.541This is just my opinion, my preference for me.
00:40:52.541 -->
00:40:58.469Whenever I'm with my man, I want him to lead as a man.
00:40:58.469 -->
00:41:00.490All right, I want him to be the leader.
00:41:00.490 -->
00:41:01.737Like, does it be?
00:41:01.737 -->
00:41:04.222Like, oh, you're gonna be a follower, like I would.
00:41:04.222 -->
00:41:05.987I'd love to live in my femininity.
00:41:05.987 -->
00:41:07.898Yes, yeah, you guess what?
00:41:07.898 -->
00:41:10.826Because I've lived in my entire life in my masculinity.
00:41:10.826 -->
00:41:11.835I don't want to do that, no more.
00:41:11.896 -->
00:41:14.362Like, you want somebody who's take the lead.
00:41:14.362 -->
00:41:17.981You know who can take the lead but also coddle you in a sense.
00:41:18.121 -->
00:41:23.239Oh yeah, like no, no yeah, absolutely, he can take the lead, but I'm still being worshipped, bitch you know what I mean.
00:41:23.239 -->
00:41:38.186Like no, no, no let's get this right let's get this, yeah it's not me being a follower and just like a little puppy, like no, I need you to lead the right way you know, I don't know if you ever meet somebody, I might have to punch him in the throat why not, if he's doing that?
00:41:38.525 -->
00:41:40.148if he's not, because you're taking my best friend away.
00:41:40.148 -->
00:41:42.438No, don't do that oh don't don't.
00:41:42.599 -->
00:41:44.885Don't take her away, but how is he taking me away?
00:41:45.065 -->
00:41:46.347don't take her away.
00:41:46.347 -->
00:41:47.378He's not taking me away.
00:41:47.398 -->
00:41:49.483Technically, he'll be giving me what I freaking need.
00:41:49.483 -->
00:41:50.545That's all.
00:41:50.545 -->
00:41:52.338And you want me to be happy?
00:41:52.338 -->
00:41:53.581Hello, hello.
00:41:53.702 -->
00:41:54.001Sure.
00:41:54.041 -->
00:41:55.065Let's go with that.
00:41:55.065 -->
00:42:03.440So look, I will be a good sister to you, you will be a good brother to me.
00:42:04.835 -->
00:42:05.518I don't like you.
00:42:05.518 -->
00:42:08.722Why you took her away from me, bitch?
00:42:09.094 -->
00:42:13.119I'll be like really dude, be like, don't be petty brother.
00:42:13.420 -->
00:42:14.764Don't be petty, but you're being nice to her.
00:42:14.764 -->
00:42:20.101But if I find out you touch her in any way, shape or form and I'm not talking.
00:42:20.242 -->
00:42:38.603I'm not talking sexually, but if you beat her, ain't gonna happen if I see a black eye on her ain't gonna happen, because the moment somebody raised their voice to me, I will throat punch that hoe can you imagine being in a relationship and you accidentally get a black eye, like legitimately, accidentally get a black eye?
00:42:39.244 -->
00:42:40.146that would be fun.
00:42:40.146 -->
00:42:42.177I'd be looking at you like that would be.
00:42:42.177 -->
00:42:50.717So I would be like that, better be fucking makeup that Like you, better Hold on Hold on.
00:42:50.717 -->
00:42:52.181Hold on, we have a good.
00:42:52.550 -->
00:42:56.722I need you to sit and I need to explain why the hell you have that on your face right now.
00:42:56.722 -->
00:43:05.242You're like I promise you wasn't this Because I swear to God, if I look like that, if it was that and I look like this, you should look at homeboy.
00:43:05.242 -->
00:43:10.454I'm going to tell you right now, All I know is homeboy better sleep with one eye open.
00:43:10.514 -->
00:43:14.001That's for sure, Because we're not doing the Jennifer Lopez.
00:43:14.001 -->
00:43:15.063Enough bullshit here.
00:43:15.063 -->
00:43:18.311Man Trying to escape.
00:43:18.411 -->
00:43:21.958That's awesome, he's asleep.
00:43:25.764 -->
00:43:39.340That's awesome, but I think that's just the thing nobody didn't realize is that you know you can have a cycle relationship in poly monogamy or in a thruple period.
00:43:39.380 -->
00:43:47.855I mean, that's just yeah, that's just how it is, because that's based on the person, not necessarily the relationship preference, which really sucks.
00:43:48.135 -->
00:43:49.619But it is what it is.
00:43:49.619 -->
00:43:52.956At the end of the day, you there's not that much you can do about preferences.
00:43:52.956 -->
00:44:04.204I mean you can about preferences because everybody has a preference, right, but you can't do anything that when true colors are finally shown and you see it and you're just like God damn it yeah.
00:44:04.871 -->
00:44:22.760That's why I said my thing is everybody's in such a rush because they're looking for instant gratification, they're looking to fulfill something that they cannot fulfill themselves, or they're choosing not to fulfill themselves, um, or they're looking for it out of loneliness, because they're avoiding things.
00:44:22.760 -->
00:44:29.521When they do that, they're not giving themselves, nor the other person, enough time to get to know each other before they just jump into shit.
00:44:29.521 -->
00:44:34.657So later down the line, when something pops off, that's when the real color show and they're like oh shit, I'm stuck.
00:44:34.657 -->
00:44:37.623Yeah, how come you didn't take your time, dude?
00:44:37.623 -->
00:44:49.541Everybody's still like oh, because we don't have a lot of time for what the shit that's meant for you will happen as it's meant for you yeah, I think a lot of a lot of it too is um, you find out.
00:44:49.681 -->
00:44:50.963Even this is why.
00:44:50.963 -->
00:45:04.858Uh, there was a story that I just saw really quickly just to kind of go off off subject here really quickly because I found something on TikTok and the guy was talking about let me find it here really quickly, it won't take me long.
00:45:04.858 -->
00:45:09.496So he was talking about like how he's not trying to find what he was like what's up with the gay community?
00:45:09.496 -->
00:45:18.898I'm not trying to find um, you know x, y and z on certain things and whatnot and I'm just like okay, where is he going with this?
00:45:18.898 -->
00:45:28.878And it dawned on me that the guy is literally just wanting someone to love here.
00:45:28.898 -->
00:45:34.023It is Probably a little bit of a shocker for some of the gay men out there because sex is so like normalized in the gay community.
00:45:34.023 -->
00:45:35.505But I don't want to fuck on the first date.
00:45:35.505 -->
00:45:37.215I don't even really want you to touch me.
00:45:37.215 -->
00:45:41.201I don't want any intimate actions on the first date because I don't fucking know you.
00:45:41.201 -->
00:45:42.755You are a stranger to me.
00:45:42.755 -->
00:45:43.835I'm trying to get to know you.
00:45:43.835 -->
00:45:46.436Why is it so normalized?
00:45:46.436 -->
00:45:49.018Why is it like an expectation at this point?
00:45:51.530 -->
00:45:53.378at this point it might be a little bit of a shocker for some of the gay men out there.
00:45:53.378 -->
00:45:53.619I get that.
00:45:53.639 -->
00:46:00.494So, and I get that too because, like I said, it's a preference, it is a preference but remember what I used to talk about and I said okay, if you're going to go on a date, fuck on the first night, right?
00:46:00.494 -->
00:46:11.925I also got to remember that doesn't work for everybody yeah you know what I mean, but I've only my thing was I'm more like homeboy yeah I'm just kind of like uh, I can't do that, I for me right personally, I'm like I can't.
00:46:12.728 -->
00:46:16.737I can't have sexual relations with anybody that I don't, I cannot bond with.
00:46:16.737 -->
00:46:17.719How do you bond with somebody?
00:46:17.719 -->
00:46:20.054You got to get to know that in a poly relationship.
00:46:20.193 -->
00:46:20.976I'm the same way too.
00:46:20.976 -->
00:46:23.670I can't just get with somebody because there's a lot of gays.
00:46:23.670 -->
00:46:32.721They're just like oh, I, I want to be in a throuple with you and your husband, I want to be, and it gets cute to kind of go back and forth and just like whatever, though, but at the same time I'm just like bro.
00:46:32.721 -->
00:46:41.684These are like when I see you talking about or say something, and I see something on your post and you say something out loud and I'm just like I'm not.
00:46:41.704 -->
00:46:46.181I'm not about that once they're starting to to suggest being in a relationship with you.
00:46:46.181 -->
00:46:50.713That's where it's like okay, but that's something that's very serious yeah you see what I'm saying.
00:46:50.713 -->
00:47:02.090So it's like we could do, you know, the messing around, but when you take it there, that's, that's something I have to make a big decision on, whereas for me, I'm like it doesn't even have to be the relationship part, just even the sex alone.
00:47:02.090 -->
00:47:07.260I'm like for me that's something serious yeah, so I'm just like no for me.
00:47:07.380 -->
00:47:08.523I think the sex for me.
00:47:08.523 -->
00:47:15.597When I say that you know fucking the first night, it's because it tells me on the first date If I'm going to spend all this and.
00:47:15.657 -->
00:47:18.061I say I'm the one to say, hey, I would like to take you on a date.
00:47:18.061 -->
00:47:20.583Yeah, my treat, you don't have to worry about anything or whatnot.
00:47:20.583 -->
00:47:22.025It's because if I can afford it, I can afford it.
00:47:22.025 -->
00:47:22.726Right, I'll do it.
00:47:23.690 -->
00:47:35.284I, in a poly relationship, if I'm going to go on a date, see what he's all about or whatnot, and goes, is he like, is it's like for work or is it like no, I genuinely like the guy.
00:47:35.284 -->
00:47:37.106I want to get to know him and see what he's about.
00:47:37.106 -->
00:47:38.632He likes me and he wants to know what he's about.
00:47:38.632 -->
00:47:40.159He finds you attractive.
00:47:40.159 -->
00:47:48.190So let me test out and see how everything works out and kind of go from there and if it works out and say, yeah, it's great, then we'll all hang out and whatnot.
00:47:48.190 -->
00:47:50.976Yeah, uh, so it's just kind of like something like that.
00:47:50.976 -->
00:48:06.320Like I said, I learned from the last relationship too as well that we just kind of all need to be on this on the same footing yeah, period, you have to get to know somebody in the long run yeah, because if hubby doesn't like you and he doesn't and he finds you annoying, like he's, just like it's not gonna work out.
00:48:06.579 -->
00:48:13.980yep, because I may find you attractive, I may find you fun, but if that's only for me and you and not for him, Exactly what kind of how?
00:48:14.460 -->
00:48:16.985honestly, honestly, how long do you expect that throuple to last?
00:48:17.204 -->
00:48:17.485Right.
00:48:17.485 -->
00:48:23.943So it's just like in the more in the meantime, I'm just kind of like I'm not looking for one.
00:48:23.943 -->
00:48:30.057I'm not looking for anything because I can't take the right medication that I need to take, just to be able to have the fun that I need to have fun.
00:48:30.057 -->
00:48:32.139So, yes, I need to be able to have the fun that I need to have fun.
00:48:32.139 -->
00:48:33.219So, yes, I need to be like homeboy here, right?
00:48:33.219 -->
00:48:35.501So it's uh, it's just pretty much that I can't.
00:48:35.501 -->
00:48:41.485I can't do the things that I want to do, even if I do decide to want to bottom, I'm gonna have to wear a condom.
00:48:41.485 -->
00:48:46.114I have the other person wear a condom on me right normally I'm a fucking breeder.
00:48:46.233 -->
00:48:47.614So, yeah, naturally.
00:48:47.614 -->
00:48:56.206But I have to be more cautious and I told, I told rad and I I told everybody else I can't be that same person.
00:48:56.206 -->
00:49:09.885It's sexually, as frustrating as it may be, I have to be more cautious about myself because if I get sick, I can't take the medicine that is supposed to help out HIV, to bring down the viral loads or whatnot.
00:49:09.885 -->
00:49:11.858That's going to be fucking hell on earth for me.
00:49:11.858 -->
00:49:13.117So, yeah, this is for me.
00:49:13.117 -->
00:49:18.362So, yeah, this is occasionally a me going, this is the universal leader, going, fuck you, you need to slow down.
00:49:18.362 -->
00:49:19.030You know what I mean?
00:49:19.030 -->
00:49:19.833You're not young.
00:49:19.833 -->
00:49:23.621I mean, yes, I'm young, but I'm not young like I used to be.
00:49:23.621 -->
00:49:29.670You know, and when the people are like, oh, you're 37, you're still a baby, you're like, yeah, says the 50 year old.
00:49:29.670 -->
00:49:31.275You know, it's just like fuck off.
00:49:31.275 -->
00:49:43.099You know, even when the phone calls are just like, oh, yeah, I'm 80, no, don't ever get old man, I'm 37, that's hilarious like I'm 37 people say actually I love when people say don't have kids.
00:49:43.681 -->
00:49:48.918I love when they tell me that because, yeah, because my mom would always tell me that, which is funny because she's the one that had all the kids.
00:49:48.918 -->
00:49:54.480So she would always be like don't have kids, and I'll just be like, okay, right, and everybody would just laugh.
00:49:54.480 -->
00:49:59.436So now, when they tell me it's like don't have kids, I'm like I listened.
00:49:59.436 -->
00:50:06.235I mean not, that that wasn't the reason why, you guys, but I like just saying that response, like I listened don't worry about it.
00:50:06.315 -->
00:50:13.679I got it and she's just and it's funny because the one time I did tell her she was like, okay, well, at least have one, you know, so I can have one grandkid from you, whatever.
00:50:13.679 -->
00:50:18.369And I'm like, nope, too late, sorry, sorry I know, that's my prime.
00:50:19.311 -->
00:50:21.215My mom's like am I ever gonna have kids from you?
00:50:21.215 -->
00:50:23.762Nope yeah nope, and it's funny.
00:50:23.762 -->
00:50:27.518You can have the four-legged kind, but that's the best you're gonna get lady sorry it's pretty much.
00:50:27.518 -->
00:50:31.474It like yeah, if you're not showing up at their funeral, don't come, don Don't bother.
00:50:32.115 -->
00:50:35.001And it's funny because people were just like, oh well, did you want kids?
00:50:35.001 -->
00:50:37.554Like yeah, when I was younger I wanted like at least.
00:50:37.554 -->
00:50:39.579Oh, if I can at least have one of each, I'd be cool with that.
00:50:39.579 -->
00:50:40.059You know what I mean.
00:50:40.059 -->
00:50:41.463If it's more, it's more, whatever.
00:50:41.463 -->
00:50:42.916But it's weird.
00:50:42.916 -->
00:50:52.777I never did anything preventative, I just.
00:50:52.777 -->
00:50:53.757It probably would have been James.
00:50:54.177 -->
00:50:54.398Right.
00:50:54.777 -->
00:51:08.907The ironic thing is James didn't survive this lifetime, so it's kind of a good thing that I didn't, because I honestly can't imagine having to deal with his death and having to mother an infant Right, because that would have killed me.
00:51:09.307 -->
00:51:13.599Oh yeah, that would have fucking killed me.
00:51:13.599 -->
00:51:15.708We would have been the gay uncles taking care of you.
00:51:15.708 -->
00:51:17.335We would have been the gay uncles.
00:51:17.889 -->
00:51:23.693But for whatever reason it didn't work out and I'm kind of like because, that's how it was meant to go, and did I really need to?
00:51:23.954 -->
00:51:24.677No, no, no, no, no.
00:51:24.677 -->
00:51:35.646But I think that's kind of like the beauty of like.
00:51:35.646 -->
00:51:39.706If you're going to have a kid, you need to be financially stable to have a kid period and you need to have the space and you need to have the time to focus your time and attention.
00:51:39.628 -->
00:51:42.436For me, I, I think if I'm gonna do a kid, you need to be prepared uh, it's not that I'm prepared.
00:51:42.436 -->
00:51:49.630I think I won't do kids or be a foster parent until I was agreeing with you, like if you're, if you plan on having a kid, you just need to be prepared.
00:51:49.711 -->
00:51:53.300Oh yeah, as a whole I think for me I would be a foster parent.
00:51:53.300 -->
00:51:59.313But I wouldn't be a foster parent till like way in my 50s, like I would start late, like why do you want to be foster parents?
00:52:00.094 -->
00:52:11.777I got plenty of room and I am retired, so I'm hoping to retire by time I'm 15, plenty of time yeah, I know, if retirement's like you're not tools to retire into your 70s, yeah, I'm not waiting that long, I'm gonna retire when I'm 50.
00:52:11.777 -->
00:52:14.161Bitch like no, I gotta make money now.
00:52:14.161 -->
00:52:14.963That's why I'm pushing hard.
00:52:14.983 -->
00:52:20.398I have a co-worker who is retired really you'll never guess how old she is how old?
00:52:20.398 -->
00:52:25.331She's 38 nice, nice yeah, and I'm like I'm sorry what?
00:52:25.331 -->
00:52:27.784She's like yeah, and I'm just like so why are you working here?
00:52:27.784 -->
00:52:29.010She's like so, I have something to do.
00:52:29.010 -->
00:52:33.447I'm like oh, my god, that is awesome like what she's like.
00:52:33.447 -->
00:52:35.438Yeah, she's like I'm actually trying to find like a house around here.
00:52:35.438 -->
00:52:37.369She's like this area or whatever of the city.
00:52:37.449 -->
00:52:50.922I'm like girl good for you like what I'm trying to find it because it's like I mean genuinely I would just love to just sit back and just retire and just kind of kick back and just let it happen.
00:52:50.922 -->
00:52:52.239Whatever kind of happens.
00:52:52.239 -->
00:52:56.940Like I want money to flow the way it needs to, how, whatever business that is.
00:52:56.960 -->
00:53:12.056Like I don't want to work forever I definitely don't want to be well in my 70s or 60s I wouldn't invest something into where I'm just like, ah, this is where I just let my investment take care of whatever needs to take care of or whatnot.
00:53:13.338 -->
00:53:15.621But yeah, no, I just I.
00:53:15.621 -->
00:53:19.186Kids in a poly relationship is great.
00:53:19.186 -->
00:53:31.722I think that's also another communication that people there's a polyamorous group that I'm in on Telegram that they do talk about how they take care of kids and a lot of them have a lot of issues when it comes to mental health that they all talk about and everything.
00:53:31.722 -->
00:53:37.838So they're all there and they all ask questions like, hey, how do you handle this and whatnot.
00:53:37.838 -->
00:53:38.239That's cool.
00:53:38.239 -->
00:53:43.175I'm young and I don't have any of those issues and my issues that I have that I've already speak to uh, rad and hubby about.
00:53:43.175 -->
00:53:55.094It's just like we're all on the same wavelengths, that we we kind of like sit down and we sit down, we talk and we chat and we talk more about what we need to get fixed and what needs to be done, and as simple as that.
00:53:55.094 -->
00:53:58.240Like it's just how it is, you know.
00:53:58.742 -->
00:53:59.322No, I agree.
00:54:00.815 -->
00:54:01.318But I think it was.
00:54:01.530 -->
00:54:14.025Especially because the way the world is changing, it's like the idea of having kids or the people that do have kids, like they're already struggling way more than they should or way more than they need, because they have said somebody who has like 15 kids.
00:54:14.025 -->
00:54:19.273I'm like bro, stay off of her not like that, like how are you even surviving in this economy?
00:54:19.494 -->
00:54:28.179I'm just wondering how the girlfriend is surviving in this economy, like, how are you even still moving, like you carried how many kids?
00:54:28.179 -->
00:54:58.239That just goes to show you all well, because here's the thing like I see women who have like kids back to back and I know that women need to build up their nutrition right back because they need the certain nutrition to be able to hold a baby and I don't think nutrition like getting that nutrition within a year is literally not in today's it depends, it depends if you're healthy and you're taking care of yourself, then probably I was going to say it depends, Because sometimes their genetics it just makes it tank.
00:54:58.820 -->
00:54:59.612Yeah, and there's other girls.
00:54:59.612 -->
00:55:00.396They can handle it.
00:55:00.396 -->
00:55:01.342They're cool.
00:55:01.342 -->
00:55:05.400They don't tank as well or I mean as bad as the other girls.
00:55:05.400 -->
00:55:08.418Because there's this particular girl online.
00:55:08.418 -->
00:55:14.753I think she has five kids In between her second and her third.
00:55:14.753 -->
00:55:20.891Her nutrition levels were so incredibly low she lost a ridiculous amount of her teeth wow they literally just fell out.
00:55:20.952 -->
00:55:29.777There was no gingivitis, there was no, like you know, underlying disease, uh, dental disease, it she was so malnourished which was crazy, because she wasn't skinny, it was just.
00:55:29.777 -->
00:55:35.268It took everything from her to create and birth that child.
00:55:35.949 -->
00:55:36.311Yeah, because.
00:55:36.351 -->
00:55:38.244I'm like, I'm sorry, what.
00:55:38.244 -->
00:55:38.869That is insane.
00:55:38.949 -->
00:55:41.458I don't think women realize like I'm not trying.
00:55:41.458 -->
00:55:42.179Oh, here I am.
00:55:42.179 -->
00:55:45.440I'm going to try not explaining something here real quickly.
00:55:45.440 -->
00:55:49.275Jesus, how dare you man, explain my body?
00:55:49.275 -->
00:55:55.112I know I'm sorry, I do apologize, let's see mansplain to me.
00:55:55.112 -->
00:56:02.063I think it's important for a woman to be very nourished, very healthy, to be able to go I'm ready to have another kid.
00:56:02.063 -->
00:56:10.110I think there's, there has to be, a way to tell if a woman is nourished enough to be able to carry another kid.
00:56:10.110 -->
00:56:20.795I think this is why, when I see kids parents are having kids like one after another, like year, a year after year after year, year after year I'm just like, how are you doing health wise?
00:56:21.297 -->
00:56:33.690because I am genuinely concerned for you yeah, because it says certain ones yes yeah, certain ones, I don't know, dude, they they're built different and that just pop them suckers out Like nobody's business Like little gremlins.
00:56:33.690 -->
00:56:35.072And they're gravy.
00:56:35.072 -->
00:56:38.059I'm like girl, what you go.
00:56:38.079 -->
00:56:47.092Wonder Woman, I'm sorry, is sperm like your water base, like we're not supposed to feed you after midnight, like, damn, like I get you need nutrition.
00:56:47.092 -->
00:56:49.193But damn, what's your fucking husband?
00:56:49.193 -->
00:56:50.036Is your husband?
00:56:50.036 -->
00:56:55.061Pi, pi, god damn, fucking, shooting out like cannons and God damn man.
00:56:55.222 -->
00:56:56.443Yeah.
00:56:56.463 -->
00:56:57.364Like it depends.
00:56:57.364 -->
00:57:00.286It depends on the woman's body.
00:57:00.286 -->
00:57:05.362No, I get it and I'm just like, and I'm like ladies, please take care of yourself.
00:57:05.362 -->
00:57:09.460I'm genuinely concerned on your well-being.
00:57:09.460 -->
00:57:14.076And I know someone's going to be like how dare you say that?
00:57:14.076 -->
00:57:16.561No, I don't know.
00:57:16.561 -->
00:57:17.751I mean that wasn't maxine.
00:57:17.811 -->
00:57:19.717I'm just genuinely concerned like how is your?
00:57:19.717 -->
00:57:23.213Nutrition it's nothing malicious, no like how's your nutrition?
00:57:23.253 -->
00:57:37.300because genuinely I wonder if doctors genuinely do check that, like hey, you need to get your nutrition levels up before you decide to do that, and I don't think the doctor's gonna do that unless you're rich and you do it just because you want to be on top of your own health.
00:57:37.621 -->
00:57:43.610So you, obviously you have the doctor do that for you, but now, other than that, not until you're pregnant.
00:57:44.150 -->
00:57:51.336Then they'll be like, okay, well then, cool, take your I'm just wondering like are you building like the winchester house?
00:57:51.336 -->
00:57:55.869Like are there rooms on top of rooms on top of rooms?
00:57:56.431 -->
00:58:00.695They don't give you what you need until after finding out, hence why you're prescribed prenatals.
00:58:00.996 -->
00:58:02.474Yeah, I'm just like damn.
00:58:02.650 -->
00:58:06.172But by then I'm like, well, that's for the baby though, yeah.
00:58:06.172 -->
00:58:06.891That's for the baby.
00:58:06.891 -->
00:58:07.632That's it.
00:58:07.632 -->
00:58:11.795That's all I like and her what about her.
00:58:11.795 -->
00:58:12.514Supposedly enough.
00:58:12.514 -->
00:58:13.556Supposedly it's enough.
00:58:13.556 -->
00:58:16.518So I'm like I mean I'm not a mom.
00:58:16.518 -->
00:58:18.139I never birthed a child.
00:58:18.278 -->
00:58:18.898I'm not a dad.
00:58:18.898 -->
00:58:23.101I've never planted a seed anywhere besides men, and I'll keep it that way.
00:58:24.141 -->
00:58:27.643So it's funny, my friends get after me when I say that it's like well, I'm not a mom.
00:58:27.643 -->
00:58:31.826They're like you're a mom, you're just, you didn't have one and I'm like so then I'm not a mom.
00:58:31.826 -->
00:58:34.867They're like no, because you raised a bunch of them, you, you know.
00:58:34.867 -->
00:58:37.092And I'm like okay whatever.
00:58:37.112 -->
00:58:39.599Don't mean I'm a fucking mom just because I raised them.
00:58:39.599 -->
00:58:55.063I mean no, I get it because I I feel the same way when it comes to my niece and Damn, they're going to grow up to have a fucked up life and I know one of them is going to come like Theo, can I come live with you?
00:58:55.063 -->
00:58:59.186No, like why?
00:58:59.186 -->
00:59:01.514Because I don't like it here.
00:59:01.514 -->
00:59:08.934They've been treating me well, all right, well Fine, but you're going to live in the shack.
00:59:09.215 -->
00:59:12.811What the French Be like.
00:59:12.831 -->
00:59:18.112Didi, you got to go go we have, we have another, we have to move you out of them.
00:59:18.693 -->
00:59:19.596Well, dude, that's my.
00:59:19.596 -->
00:59:20.657We have to move you out of the shed.
00:59:20.657 -->
00:59:28.826We're upgrading for a younger model, I'll be like story of my life.
00:59:28.965 -->
00:59:38.389No, I'm just kidding you know I know you're halfway to 50 but like, are you genuinely happy for your 50th coming up, or because I know my 40s are coming up and I'm just like you?
00:59:38.409 -->
00:59:39.072know what I'm?
00:59:39.072 -->
00:59:40.036I'm not bothered.
00:59:40.036 -->
00:59:41.262No, I thought I would be.
00:59:41.262 -->
00:59:43.672I thought it'd be like oh my god we'll have to save that for another podcast.
00:59:43.672 -->
00:59:47.490You know I'm like what, but I'm not bothered we'll save that for shenanigans.
00:59:48.112 -->
00:59:50.157Absolutely, here we go, all right.
00:59:50.157 -->
00:59:51.298Well, that's the end of our podcast.
00:59:51.298 -->
00:59:53.643Thank you so much for tuning into the Mature Mischief podcast.
00:59:53.643 -->
00:59:54.795This has been Freaky Friday.
00:59:54.795 -->
00:59:56.615I am your host, daddy J.
00:59:56.929 -->
00:59:58.476And I am your co-host, Delicious D.
00:59:59.130 -->
01:00:01.038Thank you for tuning in Until we meet again.
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01:00:07.143And the moral of the story is hashtag find your finding in a relationship Communication.
01:00:07.143 -->
01:00:08.876I know that's a big ass hashtag.
01:00:08.876 -->
01:00:16.471So hashtag, don't rush this hashtag.
01:00:16.471 -->
01:00:17.592So hashtag, don't rush damn hashtag.
01:00:17.592 -->
01:00:18.755The fuck are y'all doing?
01:00:18.755 -->
01:00:22.442Hashtag women are you, are you okay, taking your vitamins?
01:00:22.442 -->
01:00:24.204Are you, are you eating?
01:00:26.934 -->
01:00:30.699a piece of cheese how's your vagina?
01:00:33.123 -->
01:00:34.905that's gotta take a beating man.
01:00:34.905 -->
01:00:42.090Damn, that's a lot of big heads going through you shit and they think we're the weaker species.
01:00:42.090 -->
01:00:46.335I never said y'all were weak and we need to save that.
01:00:46.710 -->
01:00:48.492I said they, so you know what?
01:00:48.614 -->
01:00:49.858that's gonna be a Monday topic.
01:00:49.858 -->
01:00:53.422So alright, talk to y'all later.
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01:00:54.487Love y'all, bye, ciao.
