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You know that rejection email that I read in the last episode?
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The one with all seven AI tells baked right in?
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Well, a bunch of you told me after that one that you wanted more info.
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So I went and I pulled one of the most popular episodes we've ever done back out for you.
00:00:13.439 --> 00:00:18.800
This week, then, a refresher on how to actually write like a human, not a bot, trying to sound like one.
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I'm about to hit the road for a run of uh speaking events in Halifax and Vancouver and Toronto and everywhere in between.
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So consider this your homework while I'm in the air.
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Two tools, both really simple, and things that you can use in your very next email.
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Here's the episode.
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Text and email are where most communication goes sideways.
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If your message sounds cold, confusing, or like a negotiation, it's not helping your career or your relationships.
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In this episode, I'll teach you how to communicate clearly and confidently in writing without sounding like a robot or a jerk.
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You'll learn my clear email method, a cool tool called draft and delay, and three emotional intelligence tips to make your written communication more human.
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Whether you're writing a pitch, a complaint, or just asking someone to respond to your fourth unanswered message, this episode's for you.
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Welcome to the Magnetic Communication Podcast, where we make emotional intelligence simple, real, and usable.
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I'm Sandy Gerber, speaker, author, and certified communication and emotional intelligence trainer.
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I'm here to give you quick tools you can use right now to talk better, lead stronger, and connect deeper.
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Let's go.
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Let's talk about all the ways we write and send messages every day.
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Texts, emails, Slack, teams, DMs, all the ways we think we're being clear, but often come across as confusing, cold, or just plain annoying.
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If you've ever written a message, reread it, and thought, yikes, that might get forwarded to HR, or that's not what I meant at all, then you already know how easy it is to get misunderstood in writing.
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Today's episode is all about how to communicate with emotional intelligence in writing, so your message actually gets heard, not misread.
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We're gonna cover the clear email method to structure your message for clarity and results, the draft and delay rule that saved one leader from setting fire to a major relationship, and three subtle but powerful digital connection cues that make your writing more human.
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Because written communication isn't just about what you say, it's about how it lands and how it makes people feel.
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So let's get to it.
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Most of our communication today is written.
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So whether you're hybrid, remote, or just trying to keep up with the 400 emails in your inbox, it's happening behind a keyboard.
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And the moment you take away face-to-face cues like body language, facial expressions, your tone, your words are on their own.
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Which means that one sentence that you thought was short and efficient might land as cold and passive aggressive.
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Or that emoji-free message might come across as robotic or rude.
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Emotionally intelligent written communication is now one of the most powerful skills you can have as a leader, team member, partner, and even as a parent.
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You don't need a PhD in grammar.
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You need tools to write like a real person with clarity, care, and confidence.
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So let's start with structure.
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When you're writing an email or even a long message in Teams, follow this formula, the clear email method.
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So it's an acronym, C-L-E-A-R.
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The C stands for clarifying your purpose.
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So you want to start strong.
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Say exactly why you're writing, not hope you're well or quick note.
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Instead, I'm reaching out to finalize the project date for approval.
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Or I need your decision on this proposal before Friday.
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So clarify why you're writing the email.
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L stands for list your specific needs.
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So don't leave them guessing.
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You want to avoid lines like, what are your thoughts?
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Instead, tell them what you need.
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Can you approve version B by Thursday?
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Do you want option one or option two for the client?
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Be specific.
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And then E.
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E is for edit for simplicity.
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People skim, they use short sentences.
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So break up long paragraphs and add bullets if it's a list.
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Just cut the fluff so that they can see it simply what you're asking for.
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A stands for ask for a response.
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So be clear about what you want and when.
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So say something like, please confirm by 3 p.m.
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Tuesday so I can move forward.
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Be specific about what you want them to do as a response.
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And R is really important.
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Reread your email before sending it.
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And before you hit send, read it out loud.
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If it sounds confusing to you, it is.
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That final check can save you hours of back and forth.
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Plus, when you read it out loud, it catches all the typos.
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I teach this method to CEOs and to parents.
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It works across industries and generations.
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It helps get clearer, faster replies, and it builds your reputation as someone who communicates with confidence and respect.
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Now let's talk about one of the most powerful tools I teach.
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And it's one of the smartest things you can do when your emotions are high.
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It's called the draft and delay rule.
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So here's how it works: you write the message, you don't send it, and you come back to it later.
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And you read it like someone just forwarded it to HR.
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Or worse, your mom.
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So let me share a story of a deputy chief who lived this rule in real time.
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So it was after a tense incident in the community, his team was unfairly blamed in the media.
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I mean, he was furious.
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So he wrote an email to the mayor and the media, full of frustration, defense, and heat.
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And then he saved it as a draft and he went to bed.
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And the next morning, he reread it and he told me that he barely recognized the guy who wrote it.
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Instead of sending the email, he picked up the phone and he scheduled a meeting.
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And that meeting, it turned into one of the most productive conversations they've ever had across departments.
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He later said that email would have lit the whole thing on fire.
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That pause saved the relationship.
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So here's the takeaway.
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Emotionally intelligent leadership doesn't mean avoiding tough conversations.
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It just means pausing long enough to lead with values instead of reaction.
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So here's the challenge for you.
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I want you to think of the last message you wish you hadn't sent.
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Now imagine if you'd paused or delayed or rewritten.
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What would have changed?
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See, that's the power of draft and delay.
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And that's emotional intelligence in real life.
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Not avoiding the issue, not stuffing emotions down or throwing carbs at them, but pausing long enough to choose your response instead of reacting from adrenaline.
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So even though you're typing, not talking, your tone still shows up.
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Tone travels even in writing.
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And when it's missing, people fill in the blanks with their own assumptions.
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So here are three simple, powerful digital cues to help your written communication feel more human, more emotionally intelligent, and more likely to land well.
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Because remember, you're sending connection cues with every message.
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Number one, add a greeting.
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Don't skip high.
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Jumping straight into your ass can feel abrupt, even rude.
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So use their name, start warm.
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It's like a smile in writing.
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No greeting is like walking into someone's office and yelling, Where's my stapler?
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So start with a greeting.
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Use their name, it signals respect and warmth.
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The second is to break the brick wall.
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If your message is one long paragraph, it looks like a chore and people won't read it.
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So use white space, line breaks, break it up.
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Structure shows respect for your reader's time and their brain power.
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Structure equals readability.
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Readability equals a response.
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And the third, show humanity, not emotionally flat language.
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So if there's tension, don't ignore it.
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Acknowledge the emotion with a line, like, I know this is frustrating, I feel it too.
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Or this wasn't the result I hoped for, and I appreciate your help finding a solution.
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I know this wasn't the outcome we wanted, and I appreciate your patience.
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Emotionally intelligent writing isn't soft, it's real, it's smart, honest, human, and clear.
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Remember that every message you send is a chance to build trust or break it.
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So you want to use the clear method to get your message across clearly, use draft and delay when emotions are high, and use digital connection cues to sound human and confident.
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And the result?
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You'll get heard.
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You get responses, and you build relationships instead of tension.
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When you write like you lead, you communicate trust, and people respond to that.
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Now, if you want to build your emotionally intelligent communication muscle even further, I've got a free tool for you.
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Download my instant EQ audio toolkit at sandygerber.com.
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You'll get five short audio tools under five minutes each that help you center yourself, shift your self-talk, avoid emotional misfires, ask more powerful questions, and connect better in every kind of conversation.
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It's no course, no overwhelm, just clear tools in your pocket anytime you need them.
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In the next episode, we're diving into the emotional roller coaster of modern dating, where connection is easy to find, but clarity isn't.
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We'll talk about why situationships have become so common, how they mess with our confidence, and the simple emotional intelligence tools that can bring back calm, clarity, and honest communication.
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If you've ever found yourself wondering, what are we, or rewriting the same text 10 times before hitting send, you'll want to tune in.
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Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss it.
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And if you found this episode helpful, send it to a colleague, a friend, or someone who really needs to read their emails out loud before hitting send.
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Talk to you soon.
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So there you have it, the clear method and draft and delay.
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Two tools, zero excuses.
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Next time you're staring at a message that sounds cold, confusing, or like it was written by a robot pretending to be a person, you now know what to do.
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I'll be out on the road for the next little while talking to rooms full of people exactly about this stuff.
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So if you're at one of those events, come and say hi.
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And if you're not, I'll see you back here for the next episode.
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Thanks for listening.
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Write like you lead.
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I'll talk to you soon.
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You know, I really believe the more that we build our emotional intelligence and learn to communicate with intention, the more connection and love we create in the world.
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If something landed for you today, please pass it on.
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Share it with a friend, post it, or just start a better conversation.
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And you can grab tools and training anytime at sandygrober.com.
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And you can find me on Instagram at ConnectWithSandy G or Connected Conversations HQ.
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Or over on YouTube at Connected Conversations SQ.
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Let's keep learning to communicate to connect.
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You know that rejection email that I read in the last episode?
00:00:02.879 --> 00:00:05.360
The one with all seven AI tells baked right in?
00:00:05.440 --> 00:00:08.400
Well, a bunch of you told me after that one that you wanted more info.
00:00:08.560 --> 00:00:13.279
So I went and I pulled one of the most popular episodes we've ever done back out for you.
00:00:13.439 --> 00:00:18.800
This week, then, a refresher on how to actually write like a human, not a bot, trying to sound like one.
00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:24.559
I'm about to hit the road for a run of uh speaking events in Halifax and Vancouver and Toronto and everywhere in between.
00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:27.199
So consider this your homework while I'm in the air.
00:00:27.440 --> 00:00:32.079
Two tools, both really simple, and things that you can use in your very next email.
00:00:32.240 --> 00:00:33.039
Here's the episode.
00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:36.479
Text and email are where most communication goes sideways.
00:00:36.640 --> 00:00:42.960
If your message sounds cold, confusing, or like a negotiation, it's not helping your career or your relationships.
00:00:43.200 --> 00:00:50.479
In this episode, I'll teach you how to communicate clearly and confidently in writing without sounding like a robot or a jerk.
00:00:50.640 --> 00:01:00.159
You'll learn my clear email method, a cool tool called draft and delay, and three emotional intelligence tips to make your written communication more human.
00:01:00.399 --> 00:01:07.280
Whether you're writing a pitch, a complaint, or just asking someone to respond to your fourth unanswered message, this episode's for you.
00:01:07.519 --> 00:01:13.599
Welcome to the Magnetic Communication Podcast, where we make emotional intelligence simple, real, and usable.
00:01:13.760 --> 00:01:18.959
I'm Sandy Gerber, speaker, author, and certified communication and emotional intelligence trainer.
00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:24.959
I'm here to give you quick tools you can use right now to talk better, lead stronger, and connect deeper.
00:01:25.120 --> 00:01:25.599
Let's go.
00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:29.359
Let's talk about all the ways we write and send messages every day.
00:01:29.599 --> 00:01:38.799
Texts, emails, Slack, teams, DMs, all the ways we think we're being clear, but often come across as confusing, cold, or just plain annoying.
00:01:38.959 --> 00:01:49.760
If you've ever written a message, reread it, and thought, yikes, that might get forwarded to HR, or that's not what I meant at all, then you already know how easy it is to get misunderstood in writing.
00:01:50.000 --> 00:01:58.239
Today's episode is all about how to communicate with emotional intelligence in writing, so your message actually gets heard, not misread.
00:01:58.400 --> 00:02:13.199
We're gonna cover the clear email method to structure your message for clarity and results, the draft and delay rule that saved one leader from setting fire to a major relationship, and three subtle but powerful digital connection cues that make your writing more human.
00:02:13.439 --> 00:02:19.680
Because written communication isn't just about what you say, it's about how it lands and how it makes people feel.
00:02:19.840 --> 00:02:20.639
So let's get to it.
00:02:20.800 --> 00:02:22.639
Most of our communication today is written.
00:02:22.719 --> 00:02:28.879
So whether you're hybrid, remote, or just trying to keep up with the 400 emails in your inbox, it's happening behind a keyboard.
00:02:28.960 --> 00:02:36.240
And the moment you take away face-to-face cues like body language, facial expressions, your tone, your words are on their own.
00:02:36.479 --> 00:02:42.719
Which means that one sentence that you thought was short and efficient might land as cold and passive aggressive.
00:02:42.879 --> 00:02:46.719
Or that emoji-free message might come across as robotic or rude.
00:02:46.879 --> 00:02:54.400
Emotionally intelligent written communication is now one of the most powerful skills you can have as a leader, team member, partner, and even as a parent.
00:02:54.560 --> 00:02:56.400
You don't need a PhD in grammar.
00:02:56.560 --> 00:03:01.280
You need tools to write like a real person with clarity, care, and confidence.
00:03:01.520 --> 00:03:02.879
So let's start with structure.
00:03:03.039 --> 00:03:10.000
When you're writing an email or even a long message in Teams, follow this formula, the clear email method.
00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:12.400
So it's an acronym, C-L-E-A-R.
00:03:12.719 --> 00:03:14.800
The C stands for clarifying your purpose.
00:03:15.120 --> 00:03:16.479
So you want to start strong.
00:03:16.639 --> 00:03:20.560
Say exactly why you're writing, not hope you're well or quick note.
00:03:20.719 --> 00:03:24.319
Instead, I'm reaching out to finalize the project date for approval.
00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:27.439
Or I need your decision on this proposal before Friday.
00:03:27.599 --> 00:03:30.159
So clarify why you're writing the email.
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L stands for list your specific needs.
00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:34.479
So don't leave them guessing.
00:03:34.639 --> 00:03:37.280
You want to avoid lines like, what are your thoughts?
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Instead, tell them what you need.
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Can you approve version B by Thursday?
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Do you want option one or option two for the client?
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Be specific.
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And then E.
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E is for edit for simplicity.
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People skim, they use short sentences.
00:03:51.759 --> 00:03:55.360
So break up long paragraphs and add bullets if it's a list.
00:03:55.439 --> 00:03:59.599
Just cut the fluff so that they can see it simply what you're asking for.
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A stands for ask for a response.
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So be clear about what you want and when.
00:04:05.199 --> 00:04:07.759
So say something like, please confirm by 3 p.m.
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Tuesday so I can move forward.
00:04:09.759 --> 00:04:13.840
Be specific about what you want them to do as a response.
00:04:14.080 --> 00:04:16.319
And R is really important.
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Reread your email before sending it.
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And before you hit send, read it out loud.
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If it sounds confusing to you, it is.
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That final check can save you hours of back and forth.
00:04:27.040 --> 00:04:30.000
Plus, when you read it out loud, it catches all the typos.
00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:32.879
I teach this method to CEOs and to parents.
00:04:33.040 --> 00:04:35.600
It works across industries and generations.
00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:42.639
It helps get clearer, faster replies, and it builds your reputation as someone who communicates with confidence and respect.
00:04:42.879 --> 00:04:45.519
Now let's talk about one of the most powerful tools I teach.
00:04:45.600 --> 00:04:48.639
And it's one of the smartest things you can do when your emotions are high.
00:04:48.720 --> 00:04:50.399
It's called the draft and delay rule.
00:04:50.560 --> 00:04:55.920
So here's how it works: you write the message, you don't send it, and you come back to it later.
00:04:56.000 --> 00:04:58.639
And you read it like someone just forwarded it to HR.
00:04:58.720 --> 00:05:00.000
Or worse, your mom.
00:05:00.639 --> 00:05:05.040
So let me share a story of a deputy chief who lived this rule in real time.
00:05:05.199 --> 00:05:10.240
So it was after a tense incident in the community, his team was unfairly blamed in the media.
00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:11.920
I mean, he was furious.
00:05:12.079 --> 00:05:17.600
So he wrote an email to the mayor and the media, full of frustration, defense, and heat.
00:05:17.759 --> 00:05:20.560
And then he saved it as a draft and he went to bed.
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And the next morning, he reread it and he told me that he barely recognized the guy who wrote it.
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Instead of sending the email, he picked up the phone and he scheduled a meeting.
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And that meeting, it turned into one of the most productive conversations they've ever had across departments.
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He later said that email would have lit the whole thing on fire.
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That pause saved the relationship.
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So here's the takeaway.
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Emotionally intelligent leadership doesn't mean avoiding tough conversations.
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It just means pausing long enough to lead with values instead of reaction.
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So here's the challenge for you.
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I want you to think of the last message you wish you hadn't sent.
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Now imagine if you'd paused or delayed or rewritten.
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What would have changed?
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See, that's the power of draft and delay.
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And that's emotional intelligence in real life.
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Not avoiding the issue, not stuffing emotions down or throwing carbs at them, but pausing long enough to choose your response instead of reacting from adrenaline.
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So even though you're typing, not talking, your tone still shows up.
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Tone travels even in writing.
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And when it's missing, people fill in the blanks with their own assumptions.
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So here are three simple, powerful digital cues to help your written communication feel more human, more emotionally intelligent, and more likely to land well.
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Because remember, you're sending connection cues with every message.
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Number one, add a greeting.
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Don't skip high.
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Jumping straight into your ass can feel abrupt, even rude.
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So use their name, start warm.
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It's like a smile in writing.
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No greeting is like walking into someone's office and yelling, Where's my stapler?
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So start with a greeting.
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Use their name, it signals respect and warmth.
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The second is to break the brick wall.
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If your message is one long paragraph, it looks like a chore and people won't read it.
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So use white space, line breaks, break it up.
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Structure shows respect for your reader's time and their brain power.
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Structure equals readability.
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Readability equals a response.
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And the third, show humanity, not emotionally flat language.
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So if there's tension, don't ignore it.
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Acknowledge the emotion with a line, like, I know this is frustrating, I feel it too.
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Or this wasn't the result I hoped for, and I appreciate your help finding a solution.
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I know this wasn't the outcome we wanted, and I appreciate your patience.
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Emotionally intelligent writing isn't soft, it's real, it's smart, honest, human, and clear.
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Remember that every message you send is a chance to build trust or break it.
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So you want to use the clear method to get your message across clearly, use draft and delay when emotions are high, and use digital connection cues to sound human and confident.
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And the result?
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You'll get heard.
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You get responses, and you build relationships instead of tension.
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When you write like you lead, you communicate trust, and people respond to that.
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Now, if you want to build your emotionally intelligent communication muscle even further, I've got a free tool for you.
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Download my instant EQ audio toolkit at sandygerber.com.
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You'll get five short audio tools under five minutes each that help you center yourself, shift your self-talk, avoid emotional misfires, ask more powerful questions, and connect better in every kind of conversation.
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It's no course, no overwhelm, just clear tools in your pocket anytime you need them.
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In the next episode, we're diving into the emotional roller coaster of modern dating, where connection is easy to find, but clarity isn't.
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We'll talk about why situationships have become so common, how they mess with our confidence, and the simple emotional intelligence tools that can bring back calm, clarity, and honest communication.
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If you've ever found yourself wondering, what are we, or rewriting the same text 10 times before hitting send, you'll want to tune in.
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Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss it.
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And if you found this episode helpful, send it to a colleague, a friend, or someone who really needs to read their emails out loud before hitting send.
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Talk to you soon.
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So there you have it, the clear method and draft and delay.
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Two tools, zero excuses.
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Next time you're staring at a message that sounds cold, confusing, or like it was written by a robot pretending to be a person, you now know what to do.
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I'll be out on the road for the next little while talking to rooms full of people exactly about this stuff.
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So if you're at one of those events, come and say hi.
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And if you're not, I'll see you back here for the next episode.
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Thanks for listening.
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Write like you lead.
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I'll talk to you soon.
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You know, I really believe the more that we build our emotional intelligence and learn to communicate with intention, the more connection and love we create in the world.
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If something landed for you today, please pass it on.
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Share it with a friend, post it, or just start a better conversation.
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And you can grab tools and training anytime at sandygrober.com.
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And you can find me on Instagram at ConnectWithSandy G or Connected Conversations HQ.
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Or over on YouTube at Connected Conversations SQ.
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Let's keep learning to communicate to connect.
