The 4 Elements Every High Performer Needs to Stop Running on Autopilot with Laura G. Patac (Pt. 2)

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One of the healthiest things we can do is to allow ourselves to redefine success consciously instead of staying loyal to an old version or old definition of success.
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So to me, the danger is not changing.
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The danger is continuing to live according to a definition of success that not longer belongs to you.
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Welcome to Evoke Greatness, the podcast for bold leaders and big dreamers who refuse to settle.
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I'm your host, Sonny, CEO, entrepreneur, and someone who's spent over 20 years building, leading, and learning what it really takes to rise.
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Every step of that journey has taught me something worth passing on.
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Lessons in business, leadership, resilience, and the psychology behind it all.
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Here you'll hear raw conversations, unfiltered truths, and the kind of wisdom that ignites something deeper in you, your courage, your conviction, and your calling.
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This is your place to grow.
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Let's rise together.
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What if you think back to your journey?
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What was the hardest part of that identity shift for you personally?
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Yeah, that's uh, you know, I get this question, but all the time I'm thinking about it because I might come with a with a very different answer.
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I think that the hardest, one of the hardest lessons for me personally was learning to have patience with myself first and also to ask for help.
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I think those were the two very hard lessons.
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Because when I was incorporate, I was one of the very impatient people and you know, trying to drive things like very fast to achieve timelines, to achieve targets.
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And I think that, you know, in a process of reinvention, and when you get into that space, you really need to be very graceful to yourself and to allow yourself the time.
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The other hard lesson was to be able to ask for help.
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And this is because many high-performing people are often perceived as capable, resilient, dependable, and emotionally strong.
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So over time they become used to carry everything alone.
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But growth requires reflection, and reflection often becomes clearer through conversations, but also through that through that, you know, silence and a bit of patience to allow the process to evolve and you to evolve through the process.
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So sometimes a single question from the right person can change the way you see an entire situation.
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And that's why I believe that, you know, I believe deeply in mentorship and in coaching, and in also having the right to attract the people resonating with your season of life and with your intention and with your direction.
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And, you know, meaningful communities are the spaces where people are allowed to think honestly about their lives without having any judgment.
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So I really had to learn that, and I had to learn to be patient, but also to belong to those communities where actually I could be very vulnerable and very authentic and to be exactly who I am without proving anything.
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That was hard for me to learn.
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You explain it in almost a poetic way, and it's so beautiful to hear you describe the process in general for helping others navigate, but for you personally to give a spotlight into your personal journey.
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So I love how you just have a gift in being able to articulate what that journey was like.
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Storytelling, we do stories uh I think 90% of our time.
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And I also believe that through stories we connect emotionally, but also in my season of life right now, sharing becomes very intentional because I believe that every shared story can support someone else's success, maybe in a different season of life.
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So I do believe that conversations as we have right now are very intentional.
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Being in one room with one topic, the stories which you bring, you know, I bring and the questions, they might create the success path for someone else.
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Absolutely.
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You created the Strengths Velocity Lab.
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I'm curious how this addresses both the strengths trap and the identity piece at the same time.
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Yes, the philosophy behind Strengths Velocity Lab starts from the idea that each and every of us we do do sit on a very unique foundation.
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And that unique foundation has four important elements which are equally important and they are connected, connected between them.
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The first element, it's the story, the origin story.
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I'm calling origin story because it's the story, those kind of important experiences, challenges, some of the life shifts we which brought you where you are right now.
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And they are unique because even if we had the same aspirations when you were young when we were young, the way how you achieved and the journey you went through versus mine is very different, right?
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So the the origin story it's unique to individual.
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And here is where the strengths they become a very important element.
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Because each and every of us, we do have a set of top natural talents very unique to individual.
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They can be discovered very simple, there are assessments for that.
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But the most important thing is not just to name what those natural talents are, it's important to understand how you use them.
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And how you use them, you understand how you use them in your past stories.
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And this is where you understand patterns because there are some patterns that they are keep repeating.
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When you ask yourself the question, how did I use my top natural talents in that kind of situation?
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What was the outcome?
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What is still keep repeating in my life?
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Then you understand patterns and understanding patterns which are driven by strengths that they are becoming very loud, therefore you have the opportunity to calibrate them.
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And that that calibration is the moment when when you become conscious about your strengths, the power which is in your hand, very unique, and you also you have the ability to put them at work very intentionally in what comes next for you as a story.
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The third element is about the values, and values, I think, is what is important and meaningful to each and every of us.
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And we all have different values, but there are for individuals there are at least one or two which we do not compromise.
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And that is important for us to understand.
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Because sometimes values, values are the foundation of how we create connections with others because we share the same values.
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When you go and you you get hired in an organization, you might want to check your personal values with the values of the organization to see if there is a certain fit, right?
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So values are important.
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And last but not least, and I take this as being a again, maybe an individual responsibility, is to start thinking about your purpose.
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All right, let's hop back into the episode.
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What motivates you?
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Why are you doing what you are doing?
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What is that is that kind of like, you know, lifestyle or something that gives you energy and keeps you going every day?
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What is that why behind?
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And you know, there were like so many books oh uh written about find your why.
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But I think purpose, it's it's a very important element in this equation of individual unique foundation along with the strengths, along with the values and the story that brought us where we are right now.
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So Strengths Velocity Lab is helping you go through this journey of discovery because ultimately, when you understand how you create patterns, how you create relationships, how you how you influence people through your strengths, how you inspire people through your story, therefore it's very easy to put all this at work to your new identity, new direction which you want to create in life, or for that matter, any kind of booth pattern.
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In your book, Whole, not perfect, you make the case that wholeness is the goal, not not perfection, rather.
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How does that reframe change how a high performer approaches their own growth?
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So remember at the beginning of the conversation, I mentioned very briefly that perfectionism it's it's what is the validation which we are trying to get from the external world, while wholeness it's about um uh it's about integration to have that kind of like very meaningful recognition of who we are internally and live in alignment with that.
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I think for um for high um high performing individuals, this reinvention and this alignment, uh it's not about becoming someone else.
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This wholeness, it's a recognition of our strengths, values, our voice, our story, and the purpose.
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And integrating that integrating that meaningfully into what we do career-wise or personal-wise or from the relationships perspective.
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Things I think people sometimes they believe that, you know, reinvention it's something like, you know, very dramatic as transformation, you know, that you really need to leave something behind and become something totally different.
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But from my experience, reinvention is actually this integration process.
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It's about as a high-performing professional reconnecting intentionally in what you do, your career path, the decisions you make, the path you choose as career, connect intentionally with your strengths, your values, your purpose.
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It's about it's not about creating a new identity, but removing layers as you go through your career that no longer feel aligned.
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And I think, you know, I think this is important because many people believe that they really need to start over something when actually what they need is to understand themselves more deeply.
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The intentionality around that.
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But we also that there's intentionality in it that we have to set, but I also think there's a sense of responsibility.
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We are responsible for that shift.
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We are responsible for taking the time and pausing and getting clear on what does it look like next, or what do I need to let go of.
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Well, Laura, as we wrap up, I always love to ask a question to everyone, and that is you are so beautifully articulate your journey, and I am sure you've picked up so much wisdom along the way.
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If it were your last standard, and of all that you have learned and experienced, and you could only impart one piece of wisdom with the world, what would that be?
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I would say for everyone who gets to a season of life when they feel uncomfortable, when they feel that there is a struggle, but also an energy which is almost pushing you to a direction.
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What all I want to say is that they should embrace that moment because that is the moment when actually life can become much more fulfilled, listening to what is meaningful and important for you, and aligning that with the direction you are taking in life.
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And and I think, you know, I just want to uh reiterate that the danger is not changing.
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The danger is to continue to live according to a definition of success that not longer belongs to you.
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Beautifully said.
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Beautifully said.
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Laura, I will have everything in the show notes, but where can people find you, follow you?
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Where can they go grab a copy of the book?
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The book is available on Amazon and on all the other um digital marketplaces.
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Hall not perfect, the stories to support your reinvention without asking permission, very boldly said.
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And also they can connect with me.
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And I love having a cup of coffee with one of my readers through LinkedIn.
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Um, and I'm just a click away for anyone who wants to share anything about their thoughts about the book, what resonated most with them, and also to continue a conversation about reinvention without any kind of apologies and going through the process, which is so meaningful, irrespective of the season of life you are in.
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Fantastic.
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Well, I will have everything linked in the show notes to where you can go out.
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Make sure to get a copy of the book.
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You only heard a little portion of it today.
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Thank you, Laura, for just showing up, for navigating your journey in such a manner where you now can share that experience with others and helping them find theirs.
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Thank you, Son Sony, for having me.
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Pleasure to meet your listeners and viewers wherever they are.
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And um, thank you for today's experience and journey.
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