Breaking the Groundhog Cycle: Recognize & Shift Your Patterns

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What's going on, everybody, and what's going on, folks? My name is David,
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and I'm your legendary host of this legendary podcast, the Deconstructed Topic Podcast.
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And once again, we got always a good one, always a good one.
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I'm over here, and I hope you're all doing well, my legendary people that are
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listening out there, that it's day one, day two, or you're brand new to this podcast.
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You know, we grab a little topic, and we kind of deconstructed the D-Wig,
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Which is, hey, that's my name, David. Let's go.
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Let's go. But today, I got a little story, story time.
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And it's one of those things that off the bat, I'm just going to tell you off
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the bat that this is a little podcast episodes in regards to where us as humans,
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we kind of tend to get caught,
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in these situations where we kind of feel like we kind of live in a cycle.
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You know and you repeat that cycle and it is the same patterns over and you know it kind of feels,
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in a sense deja vu but hey listen we're gonna talk about it now I'm not here
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to kind of tell you how to break your cycle because only you can but I'm here
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that one of the things that we need to do,
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when it comes to situations like that is we need to acknowledge what we can't do,
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and I did tell you that I do got a story time, so grab everybody out there that
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is listening, wherever you're listening to my podcast, crank it, you know.
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And be respectful for others in case that you crank it in a little bit too much.
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By all means, if you want to crank it on the train, you know,
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your little portable radio, by all means, people are probably going to be like,
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wow, this guy makes sense. And, you know, I actually thought about that.
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Kind of cranking my podcast because, once again, it's not radio or anything
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like that. It's not noise that's going to bother people. but my soothing voice
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will probably be like, huh, yo, I like this cat right here. Who that?
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But anyways, it is a deconstructing type of podcast. Take a deep breath when
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you're listening to my podcast. And once again, always put yourself in a situation.
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And in this one, in this episode where we kind of, I know people are going to
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probably sit down and wonder. It's like, wow, cycle. Like, you know,
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what is a pattern? What is a cycle that we kind of fall into?
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Hit the like button The like button is always appreciated In these channels,
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Wherever you're listening to my podcast And always, as always Feel free to share
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And there's a lot of people I always said in my podcast The motto is,
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Saving a mind is saving a life,
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And it was not too long ago.
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You know what? It was long ago, but not too long ago, right?
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And I find myself where I'm waking up today, ready to go to the gym,
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you know, set the tone, work, whatever it is, you know, a little bit of that balance.
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And, you know, I call a cab, and then as I, you know, get into the cab,
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me and the gentleman is having a conversation.
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And, you know, the conversation within five minutes came about,
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you know, out of nowhere.
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The dude was kind of feeling a little bit compelling. and I'm not going to say
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probably, okay, maybe 10 minutes, was compelled to kind of like,
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you know, there's a little, how can I say, his part with his things that he
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needs to address and so on and so forth, you know, in his household, he's working.
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I'm a little bit extra these days, you know, to do that thing thing.
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And the next thing I'm like, you know, that's interesting because I do got a,
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podcast. Here's my card.
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Check it out. And I even give him one of my cards or business cards with my
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info and my text if you need someone to talk to. And let me tell you something.
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That young brother fell elated. They was like, oh, my God, thank,
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you know, the Lord. I think everything happens for a reason for putting me in here.
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And, you know, you being a passenger, oh, my God, yo, this is a special moment
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because I've been thinking about doing a podcast and so on and so forth,
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but I don't even know where to start. So I'm like, okay, hold on.
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I appreciate the umbrella. Once I got off the cab, as I'm walking to the trainer,
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I start to get this sense.
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Now, it's not a sense of deja vu out of nowhere, but it's more of a calculated
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deja vu that you kind of sense, okay, I've seen this movie before.
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I've heard this before. I've been in that situation before.
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You know, and you start to kind of like, okay, because I always said,
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and it's very key, The moment, especially if you wake up in the morning,
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the way you set your day, the way you set the first hour of your day,
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it's what most likely is going to transpire for the rest of the day.
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I'm over here taking the public transportation, the train.
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I go to the gym and, you know, I'm having a decent workout. And then,
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you know, it's funny as I'm having a workout, then I can say I was just not feeling up to par.
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And I do recall why I was not feeling up to par. And then the day before,
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you know, I ate something where I felt that like, wait a minute,
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I kind of got sick before, but it tastes good.
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You know, ever been in that situation that you know that you're going to eat
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something that doesn't do you good, but you still managed to eat it because it was good?
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So it's you fighting that little kind of thing in your gut instinct,
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like, baby, don't eat it, whatever.
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So I'm not feeling up to par, you know, feel a little bit nauseous,
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whatever the case might be. And then I'm like, damn, after I'm done with the
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gym, you know, I love my gym brothers and sister. They try to pep me up.
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But I'm like, damn, I've seen this movie before.
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I've, you know, basically it's that same moment of deja vu. Amen to that.
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You know, the situation with the young brother in the cab, the same situation,
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kind of similar to what's happening. I'm like, okay, you know,
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David's going to say amen to that. You know, I'm just saying,
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you know, amen. That's, you know, confirmation. But amen. Praise the Lord, right? Thank you.
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And I'm over here doing my thing that I, you know, do my professional thing.
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And again, a couple of things that, you know, needed to be addressed.
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And I'm like, damn, I feel like I'm been and I've seen this movie before.
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And it just starts to think and I'm like, okay, huh.
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So what do you do in that situation? It's midday. You're already going through
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these little cycles that life, it just continues.
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And then to top it off, there's a situation I'm going to tell you.
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And I want to say, when I say I'm networking, networking for me and for those,
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my audience out there, they'd be like, oh, what does that word mean?
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Networking. I'm always hearing networking. People that are close to me, networking.
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Networking to me, it could be self-explanatory, but it's basically anything
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that's anything to talk about my podcast.
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Whether I, you know, I just met a stranger or I went to a calculated little
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bar there, you know what I mean?
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Whether I go online, on my socials, boom, boom, boom That's what networking
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is And in the train, my beautiful public transportation here in New York City Ow!
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That's a whole different store As I'm doing this networking,
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there's a story developing.
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I'm not going to try to engage in details here. But on that day when I'm feeling
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like this cycle, where I'm living in, not just living a cycle,
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you live in a movie the whole day.
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When you've seen this movie before, you heard this story before,
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it is that thing where your mind, you're going to be like, damn,
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okay, what can I do different?
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There's a movie out there for those people out there that love movies.
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There's a movie called Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. This is an old movie,
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you know, from the 90s, I believe, early 90s, if I'm not mistaken.
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You know, the movie, it's one of those comedy, drama, whatever it is.
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And then, you know, it sets in the day of Groundhog Day for those people out
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there. Groundhog Day is that day that they grab this animal that is a groundhog,
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I believe in Pennsylvania or somewhere.
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And basically during the month of, what is it, February or the first week of
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February. Okay, how's the winter going to be?
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But in this movie, the premise of the movie is that this person starts to wake
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up every day, living the same life until he starts to realize,
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okay, what can I do different?
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Do anything that I do could change the outcome of the whole day.
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And of course, obviously, that would be one. But then you got to acknowledge
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what's going on, what's in front of me.
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As I'm in the train, again, that's a little story developing with somebody that I'm networking.
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And looking at the person from afar and I'm saying to myself,
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geez, I've seen this movie before.
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I've seen this story before. I mean, I'm sorry. I've heard this story before.
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It's a cycle that we just like, wow.
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So again, what's the lesson to learn here?
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We already know how life is. We're going to have more downs than up.
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I always say, look at sometimes in life, nine out of 10 times,
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something bad is going to happen. Somebody's going to get sick.
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People will pass away. There's going to be emergencies that you have no control,
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But what is it that you do that one time that something good happens?
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What are you going to do with it?
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And I'm not saying that we should expect that 9 out of 10 things that happen in our life.
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But a lot of times that comes from the cycles that we can't seem to break.
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So we got to kind of think about, okay, what does our cycle comes in?
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You know, because, you know, with stress comes procrastination,
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comes that thing of guilt, More stress you feel You know And hey listen I'm
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wanting to say That I got little demons You know In my closet You know I love to network.
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I love to network But I found myself Hey You know But networking And I'm Having
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beers at the same time I mean That's all cool and dandy Until you wake up the
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next day You be like You know,
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Loneliness Isolation,
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You start to feel like a failure You start doubting yourself You start avoiding everything,
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And these are these little patterns That I did mention That hey listen If there's
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one thing about this episode And again I'm not here,
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What can I say? We all have our little cycle to break.
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But what I'm here is to kind of remind you, or at least pep you up,
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that we have to acknowledge some of our patterns.
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You know, we become too comfortable. We believe in something,
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but we can't kind of like not break it, you know?
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Sometimes we got like a little bit of lack of awareness of what's going on.
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Like we can't change the pattern. Like, wait a minute.
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What can we do that's different? What did you say yesterday that could be different today?
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Can it be that if the same thing is happening, it's that you're doing exactly the same thing?
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Once again, we got to break these little patterns, these little cycles, these little things.
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I remember years ago, there was a very endearing friend of mine who basically
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was saying, damn, why do I feel like there's always something happening?
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It's not me getting sick, there's somebody in my family, and it's a cycle.
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And look, respectfully so We must understand the world that we live in Because
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living in this world I mean, hey, listen We're all going to breathe,
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some air That's not good for us We're all going to eat something that's going
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to harm us We're all going to drink something that's going to harm us We're
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all going to do something,
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But the one thing that we can control,
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Is our emotions in terms of What we can control,
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And in life we shouldn't be Those in that spot Where we're going to harm others because hey, listen,
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this is why we're going to fall into the same pattern.
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So breaking that pattern, acknowledging it, you know, you got to identify what's
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triggering, what's triggering that thing that up.
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That cycle. What do you do when you wake up? And listen, I've heard some people
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say, listen, you know, hey, same stuff, you know, same prep. What does that mean?
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Oh, I'm over here hanging in there. You know, what does that mean?
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When somebody tells me I'm hanging in there, I tell them, hey,
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listen, go to a discount, go to Target, go to somewhere, Amazon,
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get a new pair of hangers.
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You know? But we got to identify that stuff. We got to kind of interrupt that
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routine. We got to practice somewhat of a new response.
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You know, one time not too long ago, I was in a, you know, taking my little
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cab, you know, to the train station and I started engaging in,
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you know, what's going on with the city when it comes to crime.
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Like, hey, I've lived in New York City and crime has always been a thing. But you know what?
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Towards the end of the ride, I kind of flipped. Like, OK, what can we do?
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What can we set our sights on something positive? You know what I mean?
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Because if we always, you know, focus on those little things That's why I say
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when we focus on certain things that are negative That backfires,
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I mean, not backfires, but it reflects you,
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And then you start to live at it You start to live, you know,
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with that cycle If in this place there's a cycle of crime And then we thinking
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about it, we always got that in our mind Obviously, you want to be aware of
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your surroundings Then we live that,
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So breaking the cycle It's not just something where you could just be like Okay,
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you have to make that decision What are you going to do?
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It takes a lot of things, man But the choices And start practicing Something different.
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Always remember is this and then I always tell people you're not don't let habits
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dictate your life now I'm one to say that we kind of live the past the present
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and the future all at once,
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but you're not the past you know you're not you know you're the cycles that
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are happening it's it's cycles it's not a bad cycle it's not good cycles for
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the most part these are not good cycles that's why we kind of wake up with that stress.
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But just remember that day that you had a wonderful day.
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What happened that day? What was that cycle about?
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Because if it's a pattern that you're going to start to learn,
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hey, listen, you could always apply it again, you know, relearn it.
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Because, you know, if you want to start, and if we all want to start something
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new, then you got to kind of take that moment to stop repeating that story that
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you always told yourself,
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acknowledge the cycle and address it don't end and start the day oh here we go again,
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because the cycle will end and you will start a new one and eventually a new
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one will come in but seize the moment to what extent you're gonna say not this time,
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not this time all right my peoples this is the constructing topic podcast feel
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free to reach out to me you already know all the information.
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Feel free to, you know, let away listen. I got my donation thing. I got my email.
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Feel free to share. I mean, YouTube, Podbeam, you already know.
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I'm all over the place. And keep yourself aware.
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As always, remember in this episode, I always feel that it's that time to acknowledge,
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those cycles and start new patterns.
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All right, take care. I'm out of here. It's your boy, Deconstructing Topic Podcast. I'm out. Peace.