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Speaker 1: Hey, we're doing a brand new episode for you today. I feel like I say the same thing every time, but I am very grateful.
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Speaker 2: Thanks for being here. I mean, I do feel that way, though. You know, it's sincere. I just don't want people to feel like it's insincere, not insincere. Why not un? Why is it in? Okay, see, maybe we should just stick to the usual. This is what happens when you go... Okay.
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Speaker 3: All right.
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Speaker 2: I'd say off script, but there's no script. It's just my robot head. What do we got in comments? Someone said... I don't know if I can read this name. Zewakalemphilin. Okay. Definitely right.
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Speaker 4: Said, has Ashton ever done a voiceover for a cartoon show? I can't remember the name of the show, but it's got a creepy raccoon-like animal that's friends with a bird-like creature that looks like an ostrich. I watched this a few years ago, and every time I hear Ashton's voice, I'm reminded of the show.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 5: No, I have not, but I feel like I should get royalties from this just because.
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Speaker 2: You brought it up. We need to find out what it is first.
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Speaker 1: Why would you be a dirty little raccoon if you were an animated animal?
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Speaker 2: That just fits. He's not wrong.
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Speaker 6: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Little trash bandit.
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Speaker 5: Little trash bandit, yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: All right, let's get to it. Your new episode starts right now.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Second date update.
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Speaker 5: We do a lot of dating stuff on this show.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: A lot of studies about dating and building attraction. And I know one says don't shower for a month. to let your natural pheromones give off an intoxicating musk.
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Speaker 1: Ew!
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Speaker 2: Evan's on toxic.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. It's one way to try and lure someone in. We've also heard... Fear can actually help heighten romantic attraction between two people.
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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. Like trauma bonding.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. I was thinking more watching a scary movie together.
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Speaker 2: I was like, get in a car crash together.
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Speaker 5: Either one could bring you together. We should get robbed together. And while all of those ideas sound super fun, it's not nearly as effective as what most dating experts agree is just proximity.
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Speaker 3: What do you mean?
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Speaker 5: Being close to somebody physically, staying in their hemisphere, being in their surroundings, get noticed is one of the easiest ways to build attraction.
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Speaker 2: I feel like you're just saying that it's making me claustrophobic, but okay.
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Speaker 5: Why did you scoot your chair closer to me when I said it, though?
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Speaker 1: I did it.
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Speaker 5: That was a little weird.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. That'd be so funny.
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Speaker 5: Proximity is what happened for our listener, Eric, and how he met a woman recently. So, Eric, welcome to the show.
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Speaker 3: Hey, guys. How's it going?
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Speaker 6: Hey, Eric.
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Speaker 2: Did you sit in her lap at the bar? Is that how you guys met?
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Speaker 3: Not quite. No.
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Speaker 6: No?
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Speaker 5: How did you get proximity with this lady?
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Speaker 3: So we work together in the same office. We're not seated in the same cubicle. She's down a ways, but I can steer. Okay. So I would see when she gets up to go to the break room. It would be my cue for when I go to the break room too, right?
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Speaker 1: It's like the pencil sharpener in the elementary school all over again.
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Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker 5: Anytime you had a new shirt, immediately pencils, all of them getting sharpened. Hold on a second. For all the kids listening, you used to have to have wooden pencils in school that you would have to physically sharpen like a grinder.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and if your crush went up to the sharpener, you'd go too.
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Speaker 5: Yes, okay. Now that the history lesson is over, back to the dating thing. Do you know, what's this woman's name?
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Speaker 3: Her name is Regina.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 3: And I didn't have a pencil to sharpen, but I had to have some reason to be in the break room at the same time as her.
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Speaker 2: God, you're drinking so much coffee. Am I right?
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Speaker 3: I had to microwave. I had to microwave some food, right? Oh, there you go. And so I would use the time to talk to her. Okay. But one time she caught me because the only thing I had was my salad. So I just put the whole thing in the microwave. Oh. Oh.
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Speaker 5: Okay.
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Speaker 2: Did she call you out for it?
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Speaker 3: She did. And I had to, I had to admit it. And you know, she said, well, you could just ask me out instead. So I was feeling good. I said, all right, how about we go out on a real date 24 hours from now here in the break room. What?
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Speaker 2: In the break room?
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Speaker 5: Dude, you just dropped the ball so hard. I've got a second salad I could heat up for you if you want some.
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Speaker 2: What are you talking about?
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Speaker 3: I figured we could prep. I could bring flowers and food and we'd just have a date in the break room. Look, I thought it was a unique idea. I thought she would be into it.
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Speaker 2: Guess what? HR wouldn't be into it.
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Speaker 5: What did she think of the date inside of the office?
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Speaker 3: Well, she agreed at first, but then we were emailing and she was like, I don't know if this is such a good idea. You know, other people are going to be in the break room. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: What is done?
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Speaker 5: Watching it happen.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So instead we decided to go out to lunch. It's a really good place that I like. It's this Greek Vietnamese fusion place.
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Speaker 5: That's an interesting comment.
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Speaker 2: It's a unique place.
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Speaker 3: She got the tzatziki bun bowl. Yum. I got banh mi souvlaki with the grilled pork. I was going to say, at least it's grilled.
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Speaker 5: Like, that's kind of nice.
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Speaker 2: I'm not against that second one.
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Speaker 5: I can't even picture what it looks like, though. It just sounds really wet. Are you dipping in pho or are you dipping in tzatziki?
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Speaker 2: Okay, we are concentrating on the wrong thing. It doesn't matter what he was eating.
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Speaker 3: But, you know, I mean, we got along. We got to know each other better, like, outside of work. Okay.
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Speaker 5: Was there like a highlight?
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Speaker 3: There was a moment. I don't know if I would consider it a highlight. It was a little embarrassing. So we're eating, right? And I noticed that her bra strap was showing like it had kind of fallen down, you know?
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Speaker 5: Off her shoulder?
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Speaker 3: Her hands were all covered in tzatziki sauce. So I just reached over and just kind of pushed it back up for her over her shoulder.
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Speaker 4: That makes me so uncomfortable.
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Speaker 3: I was just, I was, I was trying to be helpful and not make a big deal out of it.
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Speaker 1: And I could see it as like your opportunity to kind of like reach out and touch her a little.
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Speaker 3: Bit.
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Speaker 5: What was her reaction when you put her bra back on for her? Did she appreciate that?
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Speaker 3: Well, she kind of stopped eating and she looked at me funny and she was like, thanks. Okay. We kind of brushed off past that, and after lunch, we drove back to the parking garage, and there was a moment where I thought maybe something was going to happen, right? Oh. Oh.
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Speaker 2: Lunch date in the parking.
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Speaker 5: Lot?
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Speaker 2: I'm hoping you're reading this right.
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Speaker 5: He just touched her bra, bro. Obviously. Okay.
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Speaker 3: Well, the problem was our breath was not great. They had mints, but they were like these fish mints. Yeah, I guess that's a thing. So we did not kiss.
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Speaker 5: Probably good.
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Speaker 2: You have to go back to the office after all of this.
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Speaker 1: What is the vibe when you guys both go back to your cubicles?
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Speaker 3: Well, now that she knows my trick of going into the break room with her, I can't do that, obviously.
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Speaker 2: Oh, you can't.
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Speaker 3: So I really don't know, you guys. I really don't know, and I need help.
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Speaker 5: It sounds like you've definitely lost the romantic momentum that you had gained early on.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so.
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Speaker 5: Can we pinpoint why?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Hopefully it's not everything. It couldn't be the bras touching. The choice of restaurant.
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Speaker 2: The attempt at a break room date.
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Speaker 1: Just the lunch date to begin with.
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Speaker 5: There's a lot of layers. There's got to be something else. Something else that's holding her back from seeing you one more time. We'll give her a call when we come back and do your second date update right after this. Hold on.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Second date update.
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Speaker 5: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. And if you're just joining us, really interesting in-person date we just heard about.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Our listener, Eric, asked out a woman from his workplace.
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Speaker 2: Always risky.
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Speaker 5: Her name's Regina. And thankfully, they did not end up doing their first idea, which was a candlelight lunch in their office break room.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know that it was their idea. I think it was definitely his.
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Speaker 5: It was brought up and agreed upon, but they thought more of it and scrapped it for a Greek-Vietnamese fusion place. Which we're all dying to try now. With fish mints to complement it at the end of the meal. So they got to know each other. And maybe the only non-highlight, according to Eric, was he adjusted her bra for her during lunch.
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Speaker 2: Not the cups, you guys, just the strap.
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Speaker 5: The strap. Because her fingers were covered in tzatziki sauce, and she couldn't do it herself.
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Speaker 2: But she didn't ask him.
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Speaker 5: He just did it. Reached over the table. Not even making this up. And now he's wondering... why he's not getting a chance for another date.
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Speaker 1: I will say, to your credit, she was very into the idea of you asking her out. So it's interesting to me that she wouldn't give you another shot. You know, like everybody can have a date, one date, go bad, especially a lunch date.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Like I said, it went well. There were a couple of hiccups, but I think overall it was a good date.
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Speaker 2: It's interesting hearing that recap.
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Speaker 5: Well, we're trying to move forward from this. We'll move on from the fish mints and the Vietnamese style. And we're going to get you hopefully another date with Regina here. I'm going to dial her number right now. Let's see if she picks up.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 6: All right, man.
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Speaker 5: Here we go.
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Speaker 6: Hello?
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Speaker 5: Hey, is this Regina?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, speaking.
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Speaker 1: Who's this?
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Speaker 5: Hey, Regina. This is Jeff from a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning.
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Speaker 3: Hey, Regina.
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Speaker 5: Yes, the Jeff. You're speaking to him.
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Speaker 2: I knew that was going to be your follow-up question. Is this the Jeff?
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 2: She's not laughing.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: That's fine. So I don't know if you've heard of our show, but we do kind of a popular segment here. It's called a second date update.
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Speaker 6: Okay.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: I'm going to move faster based on your tone here. So basically we're trying to help out a listener of ours that you went out with one time, a really nice guy. His name was Eric.
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Speaker 2: You probably know him from work.
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Speaker 3: Maybe.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: Wait, he, he called you guys.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. Because we heard you two went out and had, A lunch date. A lunch date.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 5: Very fun, interesting time, according to Eric. And the vibes that he's getting now afterwards seem to be much colder than before.
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Speaker 2: Is he reading that right?
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Speaker 3: Yes.
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Speaker 6: Okay.
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Speaker 3: Yes. He is. Okay.
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Speaker 5: He thought the date went pretty well. He did think it went well, but he also acknowledges maybe there were some strange moments.
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Speaker 3: Some low points.
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Speaker 5: That he's willing to fess up to. Okay.
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Speaker 2: With your bra strap? Do you just want to say it?
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Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know how much I can say.
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Speaker 4: It makes us uncomfortable.
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Speaker 2: Regina, do you know what we're talking about? The bra strap moment. Was that a moment for you?
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Speaker 6: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And it was not a moment for me, but yes, I know what you were talking about.
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Speaker 6: He explained it to me. So I'm like, okay, cool.
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Speaker 3: Like I understand.
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Speaker 6: Like I personally would never have done that, but I understand.
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Speaker 5: Right.
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Speaker 2: All right. So that, that is not the reason things have gotten cold.
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Speaker 6: No.
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Speaker 5: Okay, that's good. So, well, we're trying to figure out what the other reason might be because Eric is kind of clueless.
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Speaker 6: Okay, so, I mean, obviously he told you about our date.
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Speaker 3: Did he tell you, like, everything?
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Speaker 1: Well, that was the big highlight he mentioned was the bra strap incident.
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Speaker 6: Hmm, okay. So, well, I will tell you guys, um.
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Speaker 3: As we were driving back from the restaurant, he's.
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Speaker 6: Like, oh, we have some time to kill.
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Speaker 3: Like before we have to go back to.
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Speaker 6: Work, let's, you know, like make up money from what I spent on lunch.
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Speaker 3: And I'm just like, what?
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Speaker 2: Make up money?
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Speaker 5: What does that mean?
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So before I could even ask him, he whipped.
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Speaker 6: Out his phone and signed into Uber and was like, oh, this is perfect. This is right here.
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Speaker 3: We can just do this quick drive.
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Speaker 6: Wait, wait, wait.
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Speaker 5: He's calling an Uber?
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Speaker 6: No, no.
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Speaker 2: He is going to be the Uber.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, he's going to be the Uber driver. With you in the car with him?
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Speaker 6: Yeah, so we did pick up this older guy and we brought.
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Speaker 3: Him to the mall. And so I'm like, this is so weird. Like, this is so awkward.
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Speaker 6: But I'm like, you know, like, I do like him. So like, let me talk to him. So I was trying to talk and he looks at me and goes, he requested no talking.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: Oh my God. Somebody shushed you in the Uber?
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Speaker 6: He shushed me, like with his finger to his lips and went.
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Speaker 5: Oh, God. Okay. That makes things a little bit more clear for us.
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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I mean, is that really a reason not to go out with somebody again?
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Speaker 2: You already met at work.
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Speaker 1: What's the difference between you're at work together and now you're just at a different job together, you know?
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Speaker 3: No, because one, I signed up for my other job.
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Speaker 6: I never signed up to be a co-Uber driver person.
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Speaker 3: And also, he shushed me like a child.
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Speaker 2: Okay, that was a problem.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: Well, I'm not going to shush you right now, Regina, but I am going to tell you to be quiet for a second.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: While we bring Eric on the other phone line, because he's been listening to this call the entire time.
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Speaker 6: Are you kidding me?
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Speaker 5: No, I'm not.
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Speaker 3: Eric. I. Hey, Regina.
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Speaker 6: Hi, Eric.
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Speaker 5: You better not be in an Uber right now, dude.
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Speaker 3: Eric. No, I'm not working right now.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you missed a pretty important detail from the drive from the restaurant back to work.
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Speaker 3: But to me, it just made sense. I mean, I checked on the app. It was literally on the way. So it was like, why wouldn't we make a little bit of extra money on the way back?
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Speaker 2: Dude, I'm with him. That sounds great to me.
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Speaker 5: Brooke, this is not your talking portion.
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Speaker 2: But like Regina, can't you see?
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Speaker 6: It occurs to me now.
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Speaker 3: That I don't think I asked you first.
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Speaker 5: Oh. Would it have helped if he had asked you permission to do an Uber ride?
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Speaker 6: I mean, I would... I would have said, let me get out because I don't want to.
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Speaker 2: Be like, I could have, cause no.
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Speaker 6: Cause also my thing is, it just seemed like he was just focused on him and what he wanted. And you were like, well, I need this.
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Speaker 3: I'm going to do this.
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Speaker 6: And you're going to be my hostage for however long.
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Speaker 2: I think you're missing the point, Regina. You heard Eric. He just fell on his sword. He apologized. He wishes he would have asked you first. He knows that's a mistake.
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Speaker 5: Locking the doors was a bad idea.
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Speaker 3: You guys know the worst, the worst part. He only gave me a $ 3 tip. Oh, I know.
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Speaker 6: You complained about it the whole way back to the office.
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Speaker 3: That's going to pay for maybe pita bread.
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Speaker 5: Maybe.
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Speaker 2: So are you saying maybe the drive wasn't worth it?
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Speaker 3: I mean, I did not mean to upset her. And now the shushing... definitely also looks bad, but I'm working and the guy requested silence and I had to like, I was just the quickest way I could convey that to her.
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Speaker 1: Isn't the silence like when you request it, it's just you don't want to be talked to?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Like, because my Uber drivers are always on the phone. Always. Yeah, that's I don't like, yeah, do you?
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Speaker 3: I don't know. This guy did not seem like he wanted us chatting about our new budding relationship while he was going to the mall. Oh.
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Speaker 5: Do you still feel like it's budding? Because if you do, I'm willing to offer to send you two on another date.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: And we would pay for it, Regina.
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Speaker 3: I mean... I'm hesitant, to be honest, because, yeah, like, we had our cute little moment in the.
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Speaker 6: Break room and stuff like that. But at the end of the day, he just wasn't as considerate as I thought he would.
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Speaker 3: And kind of what I'm looking for. I think I'm very considerate. What about when I fixed your bra strap? Yeah.
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Speaker 5: What a gentleman.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I mean, yes, but also, he could have just let it ride.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: But to answer y'all's question, if you were serious about Payne, I will give him another shot because I don't.
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Speaker 3: Want to do another Uber trip.
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Speaker 5: So a free lunch Or are we doing dinner?
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Speaker 3: I do like breakfast No dinner We'll find a non-fusion dinner restaurant To send you to.
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Speaker 5: Hey now that was not the problem But congratulations Eric You got yourself another date with your co-worker Who would have seen this coming?
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Speaker 3: Thank you guys so much.
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Speaker 1: Don't screw this up. It's already going to be awkward enough in your workplace.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but think of how much we can laugh about this in a couple of years.
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Speaker 2: Years.
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Speaker 3: Hold up. I agreed to a second date. I did not agree to my future with you, Celestia. And go from there.
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Speaker 4: Talk to her years back in your pocket.
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Speaker 2: I feel like those are famous last words.
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Speaker 3: One step at a time.
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Speaker 5: I just cannot wait to send them on their romantic dinner in the break room.
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Speaker 2: After hours in the office.
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Speaker 5: It's going to be hot. Normally we wait a few weeks or months for update updates, but I just got an email from Eric.
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Speaker 6: What?
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Speaker 3: We did?
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Speaker 2: We got one?
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Speaker 5: He's very excited about his next hangout and just found a new Scandinavian curry joint.
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Speaker 2: Get out of here. You are making that up.
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Speaker 5: The craziest fusion. They serve the best tandoori lutefisk kebabs.
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Speaker 2: That sounds so gross.
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Speaker 5: He is set. I don't know where they're going to go yet, but.
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Speaker 6: I don't know.
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Speaker 5: Do you guys think that they have what it takes to actually be a legit couple?
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Speaker 6: She does.
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Speaker 5: It was her and someone else.
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Speaker 2: I like that he's a hustler. He's doing what he can.
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Speaker 1: She's got to know what about he gets paid since he works in the same office as her.
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Speaker 5: The good part is he does seem like he's actually trying to be thoughtful and considerate in some of the things that he does. He's failing. Spectacularly.
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Speaker 2: You know what? But that's where the bar is, Jeff.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. Just try to put a little effort in.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: So we'll see what happens with them and keep you updated. But if you need a little help in your love life, email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling you back. Go find all of our second day podcasts. They're up online wherever you get yours at Brooke and Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: Hey, we're doing a brand new episode for you today. I feel like I say the same thing every time, but I am very grateful.
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Speaker 2: Thanks for being here. I mean, I do feel that way, though. You know, it's sincere. I just don't want people to feel like it's insincere, not insincere. Why not un? Why is it in? Okay, see, maybe we should just stick to the usual. This is what happens when you go... Okay.
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Speaker 3: All right.
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Speaker 2: I'd say off script, but there's no script. It's just my robot head. What do we got in comments? Someone said... I don't know if I can read this name. Zewakalemphilin. Okay. Definitely right.
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Speaker 4: Said, has Ashton ever done a voiceover for a cartoon show? I can't remember the name of the show, but it's got a creepy raccoon-like animal that's friends with a bird-like creature that looks like an ostrich. I watched this a few years ago, and every time I hear Ashton's voice, I'm reminded of the show.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 5: No, I have not, but I feel like I should get royalties from this just because.
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Speaker 2: You brought it up. We need to find out what it is first.
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Speaker 1: Why would you be a dirty little raccoon if you were an animated animal?
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Speaker 2: That just fits. He's not wrong.
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Speaker 6: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Little trash bandit.
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Speaker 5: Little trash bandit, yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: All right, let's get to it. Your new episode starts right now.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Second date update.
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Speaker 5: We do a lot of dating stuff on this show.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: A lot of studies about dating and building attraction. And I know one says don't shower for a month. to let your natural pheromones give off an intoxicating musk.
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Speaker 1: Ew!
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Speaker 2: Evan's on toxic.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. It's one way to try and lure someone in. We've also heard... Fear can actually help heighten romantic attraction between two people.
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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. Like trauma bonding.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. I was thinking more watching a scary movie together.
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Speaker 2: I was like, get in a car crash together.
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Speaker 5: Either one could bring you together. We should get robbed together. And while all of those ideas sound super fun, it's not nearly as effective as what most dating experts agree is just proximity.
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Speaker 3: What do you mean?
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Speaker 5: Being close to somebody physically, staying in their hemisphere, being in their surroundings, get noticed is one of the easiest ways to build attraction.
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Speaker 2: I feel like you're just saying that it's making me claustrophobic, but okay.
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Speaker 5: Why did you scoot your chair closer to me when I said it, though?
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Speaker 1: I did it.
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Speaker 5: That was a little weird.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. That'd be so funny.
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Speaker 5: Proximity is what happened for our listener, Eric, and how he met a woman recently. So, Eric, welcome to the show.
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Speaker 3: Hey, guys. How's it going?
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Speaker 6: Hey, Eric.
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Speaker 2: Did you sit in her lap at the bar? Is that how you guys met?
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Speaker 3: Not quite. No.
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Speaker 6: No?
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Speaker 5: How did you get proximity with this lady?
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Speaker 3: So we work together in the same office. We're not seated in the same cubicle. She's down a ways, but I can steer. Okay. So I would see when she gets up to go to the break room. It would be my cue for when I go to the break room too, right?
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Speaker 1: It's like the pencil sharpener in the elementary school all over again.
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Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker 5: Anytime you had a new shirt, immediately pencils, all of them getting sharpened. Hold on a second. For all the kids listening, you used to have to have wooden pencils in school that you would have to physically sharpen like a grinder.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and if your crush went up to the sharpener, you'd go too.
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Speaker 5: Yes, okay. Now that the history lesson is over, back to the dating thing. Do you know, what's this woman's name?
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Speaker 3: Her name is Regina.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 3: And I didn't have a pencil to sharpen, but I had to have some reason to be in the break room at the same time as her.
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Speaker 2: God, you're drinking so much coffee. Am I right?
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Speaker 3: I had to microwave. I had to microwave some food, right? Oh, there you go. And so I would use the time to talk to her. Okay. But one time she caught me because the only thing I had was my salad. So I just put the whole thing in the microwave. Oh. Oh.
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Speaker 5: Okay.
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Speaker 2: Did she call you out for it?
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Speaker 3: She did. And I had to, I had to admit it. And you know, she said, well, you could just ask me out instead. So I was feeling good. I said, all right, how about we go out on a real date 24 hours from now here in the break room. What?
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Speaker 2: In the break room?
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Speaker 5: Dude, you just dropped the ball so hard. I've got a second salad I could heat up for you if you want some.
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Speaker 2: What are you talking about?
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Speaker 3: I figured we could prep. I could bring flowers and food and we'd just have a date in the break room. Look, I thought it was a unique idea. I thought she would be into it.
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Speaker 2: Guess what? HR wouldn't be into it.
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Speaker 5: What did she think of the date inside of the office?
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Speaker 3: Well, she agreed at first, but then we were emailing and she was like, I don't know if this is such a good idea. You know, other people are going to be in the break room. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: What is done?
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Speaker 5: Watching it happen.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So instead we decided to go out to lunch. It's a really good place that I like. It's this Greek Vietnamese fusion place.
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Speaker 5: That's an interesting comment.
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Speaker 2: It's a unique place.
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Speaker 3: She got the tzatziki bun bowl. Yum. I got banh mi souvlaki with the grilled pork. I was going to say, at least it's grilled.
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Speaker 5: Like, that's kind of nice.
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Speaker 2: I'm not against that second one.
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Speaker 5: I can't even picture what it looks like, though. It just sounds really wet. Are you dipping in pho or are you dipping in tzatziki?
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Speaker 2: Okay, we are concentrating on the wrong thing. It doesn't matter what he was eating.
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Speaker 3: But, you know, I mean, we got along. We got to know each other better, like, outside of work. Okay.
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Speaker 5: Was there like a highlight?
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Speaker 3: There was a moment. I don't know if I would consider it a highlight. It was a little embarrassing. So we're eating, right? And I noticed that her bra strap was showing like it had kind of fallen down, you know?
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Speaker 5: Off her shoulder?
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Speaker 3: Her hands were all covered in tzatziki sauce. So I just reached over and just kind of pushed it back up for her over her shoulder.
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Speaker 4: That makes me so uncomfortable.
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Speaker 3: I was just, I was, I was trying to be helpful and not make a big deal out of it.
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Speaker 1: And I could see it as like your opportunity to kind of like reach out and touch her a little.
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Speaker 3: Bit.
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Speaker 5: What was her reaction when you put her bra back on for her? Did she appreciate that?
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Speaker 3: Well, she kind of stopped eating and she looked at me funny and she was like, thanks. Okay. We kind of brushed off past that, and after lunch, we drove back to the parking garage, and there was a moment where I thought maybe something was going to happen, right? Oh. Oh.
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Speaker 2: Lunch date in the parking.
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Speaker 5: Lot?
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Speaker 2: I'm hoping you're reading this right.
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Speaker 5: He just touched her bra, bro. Obviously. Okay.
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Speaker 3: Well, the problem was our breath was not great. They had mints, but they were like these fish mints. Yeah, I guess that's a thing. So we did not kiss.
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Speaker 5: Probably good.
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Speaker 2: You have to go back to the office after all of this.
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Speaker 1: What is the vibe when you guys both go back to your cubicles?
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Speaker 3: Well, now that she knows my trick of going into the break room with her, I can't do that, obviously.
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Speaker 2: Oh, you can't.
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Speaker 3: So I really don't know, you guys. I really don't know, and I need help.
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Speaker 5: It sounds like you've definitely lost the romantic momentum that you had gained early on.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so.
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Speaker 5: Can we pinpoint why?
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Hopefully it's not everything. It couldn't be the bras touching. The choice of restaurant.
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Speaker 2: The attempt at a break room date.
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Speaker 1: Just the lunch date to begin with.
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Speaker 5: There's a lot of layers. There's got to be something else. Something else that's holding her back from seeing you one more time. We'll give her a call when we come back and do your second date update right after this. Hold on.
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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Speaker 2: Second date update.
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Speaker 5: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. And if you're just joining us, really interesting in-person date we just heard about.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Our listener, Eric, asked out a woman from his workplace.
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Speaker 2: Always risky.
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Speaker 5: Her name's Regina. And thankfully, they did not end up doing their first idea, which was a candlelight lunch in their office break room.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know that it was their idea. I think it was definitely his.
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Speaker 5: It was brought up and agreed upon, but they thought more of it and scrapped it for a Greek-Vietnamese fusion place. Which we're all dying to try now. With fish mints to complement it at the end of the meal. So they got to know each other. And maybe the only non-highlight, according to Eric, was he adjusted her bra for her during lunch.
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Speaker 2: Not the cups, you guys, just the strap.
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Speaker 5: The strap. Because her fingers were covered in tzatziki sauce, and she couldn't do it herself.
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Speaker 2: But she didn't ask him.
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Speaker 5: He just did it. Reached over the table. Not even making this up. And now he's wondering... why he's not getting a chance for another date.
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Speaker 1: I will say, to your credit, she was very into the idea of you asking her out. So it's interesting to me that she wouldn't give you another shot. You know, like everybody can have a date, one date, go bad, especially a lunch date.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Like I said, it went well. There were a couple of hiccups, but I think overall it was a good date.
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Speaker 2: It's interesting hearing that recap.
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Speaker 5: Well, we're trying to move forward from this. We'll move on from the fish mints and the Vietnamese style. And we're going to get you hopefully another date with Regina here. I'm going to dial her number right now. Let's see if she picks up.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 6: All right, man.
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Speaker 5: Here we go.
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Speaker 6: Hello?
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Speaker 5: Hey, is this Regina?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, speaking.
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Speaker 1: Who's this?
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Speaker 5: Hey, Regina. This is Jeff from a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning.
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Speaker 3: Hey, Regina.
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Speaker 5: Yes, the Jeff. You're speaking to him.
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Speaker 2: I knew that was going to be your follow-up question. Is this the Jeff?
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 2: She's not laughing.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: That's fine. So I don't know if you've heard of our show, but we do kind of a popular segment here. It's called a second date update.
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Speaker 6: Okay.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: I'm going to move faster based on your tone here. So basically we're trying to help out a listener of ours that you went out with one time, a really nice guy. His name was Eric.
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Speaker 2: You probably know him from work.
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Speaker 3: Maybe.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: Wait, he, he called you guys.
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Speaker 5: Yeah. Because we heard you two went out and had, A lunch date. A lunch date.
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Speaker 2: Yep.
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Speaker 5: Very fun, interesting time, according to Eric. And the vibes that he's getting now afterwards seem to be much colder than before.
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Speaker 2: Is he reading that right?
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Speaker 3: Yes.
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Speaker 6: Okay.
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Speaker 3: Yes. He is. Okay.
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Speaker 5: He thought the date went pretty well. He did think it went well, but he also acknowledges maybe there were some strange moments.
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Speaker 3: Some low points.
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Speaker 5: That he's willing to fess up to. Okay.
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Speaker 2: With your bra strap? Do you just want to say it?
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Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know how much I can say.
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Speaker 4: It makes us uncomfortable.
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Speaker 2: Regina, do you know what we're talking about? The bra strap moment. Was that a moment for you?
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Speaker 6: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And it was not a moment for me, but yes, I know what you were talking about.
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Speaker 6: He explained it to me. So I'm like, okay, cool.
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Speaker 3: Like I understand.
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Speaker 6: Like I personally would never have done that, but I understand.
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Speaker 5: Right.
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Speaker 2: All right. So that, that is not the reason things have gotten cold.
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Speaker 6: No.
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Speaker 5: Okay, that's good. So, well, we're trying to figure out what the other reason might be because Eric is kind of clueless.
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Speaker 6: Okay, so, I mean, obviously he told you about our date.
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Speaker 3: Did he tell you, like, everything?
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Speaker 1: Well, that was the big highlight he mentioned was the bra strap incident.
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Speaker 6: Hmm, okay. So, well, I will tell you guys, um.
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Speaker 3: As we were driving back from the restaurant, he's.
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Speaker 6: Like, oh, we have some time to kill.
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Speaker 3: Like before we have to go back to.
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Speaker 6: Work, let's, you know, like make up money from what I spent on lunch.
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Speaker 3: And I'm just like, what?
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Speaker 2: Make up money?
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Speaker 5: What does that mean?
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So before I could even ask him, he whipped.
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Speaker 6: Out his phone and signed into Uber and was like, oh, this is perfect. This is right here.
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Speaker 3: We can just do this quick drive.
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Speaker 6: Wait, wait, wait.
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Speaker 5: He's calling an Uber?
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Speaker 6: No, no.
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Speaker 2: He is going to be the Uber.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, he's going to be the Uber driver. With you in the car with him?
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Speaker 6: Yeah, so we did pick up this older guy and we brought.
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Speaker 3: Him to the mall. And so I'm like, this is so weird. Like, this is so awkward.
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Speaker 6: But I'm like, you know, like, I do like him. So like, let me talk to him. So I was trying to talk and he looks at me and goes, he requested no talking.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: Oh my God. Somebody shushed you in the Uber?
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Speaker 6: He shushed me, like with his finger to his lips and went.
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Speaker 5: Oh, God. Okay. That makes things a little bit more clear for us.
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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I mean, is that really a reason not to go out with somebody again?
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Speaker 2: You already met at work.
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Speaker 1: What's the difference between you're at work together and now you're just at a different job together, you know?
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Speaker 3: No, because one, I signed up for my other job.
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Speaker 6: I never signed up to be a co-Uber driver person.
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Speaker 3: And also, he shushed me like a child.
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Speaker 2: Okay, that was a problem.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: Well, I'm not going to shush you right now, Regina, but I am going to tell you to be quiet for a second.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 5: While we bring Eric on the other phone line, because he's been listening to this call the entire time.
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Speaker 6: Are you kidding me?
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Speaker 5: No, I'm not.
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Speaker 3: Eric. I. Hey, Regina.
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Speaker 6: Hi, Eric.
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Speaker 5: You better not be in an Uber right now, dude.
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Speaker 3: Eric. No, I'm not working right now.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you missed a pretty important detail from the drive from the restaurant back to work.
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Speaker 3: But to me, it just made sense. I mean, I checked on the app. It was literally on the way. So it was like, why wouldn't we make a little bit of extra money on the way back?
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Speaker 2: Dude, I'm with him. That sounds great to me.
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Speaker 5: Brooke, this is not your talking portion.
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Speaker 2: But like Regina, can't you see?
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Speaker 6: It occurs to me now.
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Speaker 3: That I don't think I asked you first.
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Speaker 5: Oh. Would it have helped if he had asked you permission to do an Uber ride?
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Speaker 6: I mean, I would... I would have said, let me get out because I don't want to.
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Speaker 2: Be like, I could have, cause no.
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Speaker 6: Cause also my thing is, it just seemed like he was just focused on him and what he wanted. And you were like, well, I need this.
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Speaker 3: I'm going to do this.
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Speaker 6: And you're going to be my hostage for however long.
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Speaker 2: I think you're missing the point, Regina. You heard Eric. He just fell on his sword. He apologized. He wishes he would have asked you first. He knows that's a mistake.
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Speaker 5: Locking the doors was a bad idea.
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Speaker 3: You guys know the worst, the worst part. He only gave me a $ 3 tip. Oh, I know.
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Speaker 6: You complained about it the whole way back to the office.
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Speaker 3: That's going to pay for maybe pita bread.
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Speaker 5: Maybe.
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Speaker 2: So are you saying maybe the drive wasn't worth it?
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Speaker 3: I mean, I did not mean to upset her. And now the shushing... definitely also looks bad, but I'm working and the guy requested silence and I had to like, I was just the quickest way I could convey that to her.
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Speaker 1: Isn't the silence like when you request it, it's just you don't want to be talked to?
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Like, because my Uber drivers are always on the phone. Always. Yeah, that's I don't like, yeah, do you?
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Speaker 3: I don't know. This guy did not seem like he wanted us chatting about our new budding relationship while he was going to the mall. Oh.
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Speaker 5: Do you still feel like it's budding? Because if you do, I'm willing to offer to send you two on another date.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 5: And we would pay for it, Regina.
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Speaker 3: I mean... I'm hesitant, to be honest, because, yeah, like, we had our cute little moment in the.
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Speaker 6: Break room and stuff like that. But at the end of the day, he just wasn't as considerate as I thought he would.
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Speaker 3: And kind of what I'm looking for. I think I'm very considerate. What about when I fixed your bra strap? Yeah.
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Speaker 5: What a gentleman.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I mean, yes, but also, he could have just let it ride.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: But to answer y'all's question, if you were serious about Payne, I will give him another shot because I don't.
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Speaker 3: Want to do another Uber trip.
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Speaker 5: So a free lunch Or are we doing dinner?
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Speaker 3: I do like breakfast No dinner We'll find a non-fusion dinner restaurant To send you to.
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Speaker 5: Hey now that was not the problem But congratulations Eric You got yourself another date with your co-worker Who would have seen this coming?
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Speaker 3: Thank you guys so much.
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Speaker 1: Don't screw this up. It's already going to be awkward enough in your workplace.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but think of how much we can laugh about this in a couple of years.
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Speaker 2: Years.
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Speaker 3: Hold up. I agreed to a second date. I did not agree to my future with you, Celestia. And go from there.
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Speaker 4: Talk to her years back in your pocket.
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Speaker 2: I feel like those are famous last words.
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Speaker 3: One step at a time.
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Speaker 5: I just cannot wait to send them on their romantic dinner in the break room.
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Speaker 2: After hours in the office.
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Speaker 5: It's going to be hot. Normally we wait a few weeks or months for update updates, but I just got an email from Eric.
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Speaker 6: What?
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Speaker 3: We did?
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Speaker 2: We got one?
00:17:52
Speaker 5: He's very excited about his next hangout and just found a new Scandinavian curry joint.
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Speaker 2: Get out of here. You are making that up.
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Speaker 5: The craziest fusion. They serve the best tandoori lutefisk kebabs.
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Speaker 2: That sounds so gross.
00:18:07
Speaker 5: He is set. I don't know where they're going to go yet, but.
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Speaker 6: I don't know.
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Speaker 5: Do you guys think that they have what it takes to actually be a legit couple?
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Speaker 6: She does.
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Speaker 5: It was her and someone else.
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Speaker 2: I like that he's a hustler. He's doing what he can.
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Speaker 1: She's got to know what about he gets paid since he works in the same office as her.
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Speaker 5: The good part is he does seem like he's actually trying to be thoughtful and considerate in some of the things that he does. He's failing. Spectacularly.
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Speaker 2: You know what? But that's where the bar is, Jeff.
00:18:40
Speaker 5: Yeah. Just try to put a little effort in.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: So we'll see what happens with them and keep you updated. But if you need a little help in your love life, email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling you back. Go find all of our second day podcasts. They're up online wherever you get yours at Brooke and Jeffrey.
