Not Expecting Yourself From Others And AI Companionship

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
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I am Kefla.
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I am Kree.
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I am Kefla.
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I'm Cree.
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And we are ready to get into it.
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To it.
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Let's do it.
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So, how was your week?
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Um, so my week has been uh pretty good.
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Um, I will say, this start of the school year, we have been busy.
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Come on now.
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Um, the one thing though, I've had some of my clients cancel, and I don't know if everybody's been a little bit overwhelmed.
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Yeah.
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Um, because I do I have checked on them to say, like, hey, is everything okay?
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Are you still wanting to continue with therapy?
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Some of them they're having some scheduling challenges and certain things.
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And so um they're like, no, but I'm gonna be there next week.
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And I said, okay, I just wanted to check in to see.
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Um, so I'm thinking like everybody's kind of feeling that first part of the school year, just busy schedules.
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So I can't say I wasn't grateful because I too was tired.
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So when both of my Fridays canceled, I was like, oh baby, yes.
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So I was really excited to have that.
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Um, and then so other than that, just like really been busy.
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I've had some zones training.
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I got to zones train at your got to train me.
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I got to train this guy.
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But normally I'm the one training her.
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Oh, poliza.
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Anyways, so um I really enjoyed your school and staff and talking about zones and um I think for me, I don't know, I feel like since doing the more clinical therapy, because I I did school counseling, I was a teacher, right?
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The clinical part helps me to see the need better.
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Yeah, because even as a school counselor, kids only share so much, and parents only allow them to share so much, right?
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But when you do clinical, you get to know all the things.
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Yeah.
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And so from that, being able to like truly work with people who want the help.
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I feel like it's helped me in talking about certain things that deal with um therapizing.
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Yeah, it gave you a better understanding how the brain works, the human works.
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It also, I could tell it gives you, because it does me, but I can hear from your speaking that it gives you a better understanding of what grace looks like, feels like, and sounds like.
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You've always given grace to people, but now you're like, hold up.
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Wait a minute.
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Especially in the educational setting, a lot of these kids haven't been diagnosed with anything yet.
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Even though, you know, everybody else has been already self-diagnosed, then we'd be like, oh no, I know something.
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And so you always tell them, well, look, we gotta give these babies grace because we don't know what's happening.
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And we always said that.
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It's kind of like when we say something twice.
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Yeah.
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Like, I ain't tired, but I ain't tired.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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It's like it's like you already knew it, yeah, but you didn't know it nowhere.
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You know, and because there isn't like an official diagnosis, you know, the yeah, we act like the thing is not a thing.
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Right.
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But the thing is a thing.
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Yeah.
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Um, and even with that, so and then um for work, we've been doing some celebrations, and so we had a cell we did a birthday celebration, breakfast today out.
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And um it was really oh, I always enjoy their food.
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In comparison to the other one, I know it's two different things because that has a uh uh sweet living, and then this one, but it's they're they're kind of different, I would say.
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They're very different.
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Well, very different, yeah.
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No, I think I like sweet living better.
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Uh although sweet living doesn't have croissants, right?
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So if you want a croissant, of course, you're gonna go to the French bakery.
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But the coffee's better at Sweet Living.
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Okay.
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The coffee was okay.
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It wasn't terrible.
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Because you know, we didn't have some terrible coffee.
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We missed some places and had terrible coffee, but I like the coffee better at Sweet Living.
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Okay.
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But anyway, I was gonna share like with our conversation today.
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We're just kind of talking through things and talking about, you know, just people, because you know, my team, we don't talk just about work.
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We talk about all the things.
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And so we were talking about, I was telling them one of my models for the year is to not expect myself out of other people.
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And some of them are lying, I don't know about that, Creek.
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What does that mean?
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You just I said, no, it doesn't mean you're just gonna let anybody, you're not gonna let people just act anyway.
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I said, what it means is is that you are gonna give them grace, but you also can decide, do you need to set a boundary for that person?
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So the thing is, I'm saying, I understand you are you, and I'm gonna accept that.
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I'm gonna accept that you are you.
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And I said, but I still believe we teach people how to treat us.
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So then from that, I'm not expecting me out of you.
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So for one, I don't have to worry about being disappointed.
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Right.
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Um, I don't have to worry about wasting that energy on trying to say, well, why would they do that?
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Or why would that or convince them to not do that?
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Or to convince them because you don't have control over them, and you only have control over yourself.
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So it's kind of almost the idea of the male robins let them.
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It kind of goes along with that.
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But then it's like with that, you set your boundaries still.
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I said, so it doesn't mean you just allow them to act any kind of way.
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You decide how does that how does your interaction moving forward look like with that person?
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They go, Oh, I think I may be like that.
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I said, I'm telling you, I don't think, I said, I think for the last since I've said that as my motto, I have not said, well, why would they do that?
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I just go, you look like me.
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And keep it pushing forward.
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I'm rubbing off on you.
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And it does.
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And let me say, I think you are because guess what?
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What today, as I was working on um um a presentation, and I said, Oh, I'll just put in um the housewives on while I work.
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I could not even, I could not, I couldn't do it.
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I just had I was like, oh my God, I had to turn them off.
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Yeah.
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So I don't know.
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I was like, when you say, like, I think I've said before protecting my peace.
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Um, but I think I am really now really for real protecting my pieces.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, and it feels different.
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It feels better.
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Yeah, because it's only so much you can understand, you know, take.
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And I just hate to see those ladies, with what, you know, how people say, well, they got all this stuff, and then they still acting crazy.
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Well, that's for the money, huh?
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I know, but that's what I'm saying.
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But then you like, well, shoot, a show needs to pick us up.
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We don't have no drama, but I guarantee you we have We can make some better humans.
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Right.
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We got thousands of people out there in the world that would tune in because it will give them a refreshing view of hope.
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Mm-hmm and of, you know, of something and doing beautiful things for people, you know, going out there trying to make a difference with people's lives.
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With you had the money behind that they have behind them.
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Oh man.
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Going to a single mom or going to a school and doing stuff for kids and stuff like that.
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Yeah.
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Come on.
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Feel good, don't pay good, I guess.
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Yeah.
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So feel good, don't view good.
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No, but it's just, and then also in your in your field now, yeah.
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You deal with so much that maybe I don't want the extra.
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Yeah, so much trauma and so much other stuff that it's your body's defense mechanism of saying, look, I gotta make this unattractive to you because if you put this on your plate on top of after school, on top of what you may face at work, yeah, what else do you have left?
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You're gonna be laid out on the ground.
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Right.
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Because you can't come and take it on me.
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I I can.
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You know, you can't.
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I wouldn't.
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I wouldn't.
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That's one of the things that well, that's one of the things that we have made sure of.
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Take me a drive, child.
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We make sure to not to work hard and not doing that.
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Doesn't mean that we haven't had oopses.
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But but we're not gonna be able to do that.
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But for the most part, I can understand we do not we do not bring our mud in the house.
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Yeah.
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You know what I'm saying?
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We don't track it.
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We dump our feet, our shoes at the door, our emotions and feelings at the door, and come in for a shower of love.
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Well, and I won't say, I don't want people to think that we jump at the door and we don't um But you don't get all the dirt off the shoes either.
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No, no.
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So what I'm saying, yeah, yeah.
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So you're not saying we don't we act like we don't have emotions.
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No, but you But we we are We don't let that impact how we treat.
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Right.
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That's what I'm saying.
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We're we're cognizant of the fact that I shouldn't say what I said, or I shouldn't, you know, say this just because I'm upset with work.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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And even if we're a little short with each other, a little snappy with each other at a moment, it's like, okay, I I know that wasn't in the moment, or you know, that wasn't what I should have done.
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And we try to, we better ourselves for it.
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You know, but some people they leave them muddy shoes on.
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They do.
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And then they knock them on air by like a dog when a dog shake all that mud and get on the wall.
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That's a great analogy.
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And that's like even when I was a teacher or school council working, I didn't take that to work for my students.
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So even if at home I was frustrated about home or frustrated with a parent or frustrated with whatever, like you just don't take that out on other people.
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It's kind of like yesterday when you were listening to was it Oprah?
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Yeah and that guy said what your character is, or he said your character is who you are on a bad day.
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Yeah.
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Or when things are hard.
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Yeah, well, yeah, when things are hard.
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Who you who you show up as you show up as when things are hard.
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When things are hard, and that is so true.
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Yeah, um, I said he asked me before I knew what the man, well, who's the man?
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Adam Grant.
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Adam Grant.
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He wrote the book Hidden Potential.
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So you asked me what I thought character meant before you told me what Adam Grant meant, and I said character to me is who you are consistently, um, who you show up as consistently.
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Um, because nobody's perfect.
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Yeah.
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Um, so but I kind of feel like that aligns.
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It does.
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We'll give it to you.
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I'll take it.
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We'll give it to you.
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But yeah, that is true.
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And so you have to think about that.
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And um when you shaking off, like, you know, all of your emotions onto other people, part of that the behavior you're displaying, the character you're displaying is you.
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Yeah.
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So be mindful of that.
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That's why they say when Maya Angelou says, um, when people show you who they are, believe them.
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Believe them.
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Believe them.
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That that aligns just with you.
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She did.
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Yeah.
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So they're not lying.
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Like she what she said, they've been them, they've been themselves for years.
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So they are good at being who they are.
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So you better, they are experts at being who they are.
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So if they are a jerk, if they are mean, if they are violent, they're experts at it because that's who they've been for years.
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That's who they've been for years.
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Yeah.
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So they said believe.
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And that is so true.
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Because I just think to myself, when people say, uh, when people say crimes of passion or crimes of such and such, I'm like.
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You've thought those craziness for years.
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Ooh, somebody I'm gonna do, I'm gonna do, I'm gonna do it.
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I just think to myself, if I came in here and you were with another woman, not only I'm not gonna be happy about it, but I'm not gonna feel like I got to fight or kill or do all those things.
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I'm just gonna look.
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I probably just would look and say, oh, this is what we're doing.
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Yeah.
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And I would leave out and just be gone.
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I just can't imagine.
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People say, no, you'd be so angry, you just be child.
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That's their undiagnose.
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That's their character.
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And they undiagnose, because they say, I just snapped.
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I uh I've always been nice.
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Maybe you've just been bipolar underneath.
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And the trauma, because what bipolar can severe trauma can, yes, can uh what is it, expose it.
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The mental illness.
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Yeah.
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Yep.
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Yeah.
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So it's really like thinking about that.
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And I said, whoever made up that law many years ago.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Was created to protect somebody they probably knew or themselves.
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Exactly.
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Or other people.
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Or other people.
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So they can blame it, yeah.
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Yes.
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And doesn't make it right just because it's a law.
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We know that.
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There are lots of laws that aren't right.
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That's right.
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Say that.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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What about your week?
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Um, my week was uh, like so you trained for me.
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It was good.
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Um tiring.
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Um trainer was tiring.
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No, I'm the week was tiring, child.
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No, your training, I did get a little tired of your training, but that's because I haven't been sleeping well.
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Yeah.
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And uh and I was fidgeting real bad under the table.
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I saw you.
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Yeah, I was like, I'm trying not to fidget, and I just kept fidgeting.
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That's okay.
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And then, you know, I was like, oh, because I I I took all my medications.
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So I was good with that.
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But it was just, I was fidgeting.
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I was like, my mind was just racing.
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Yeah.
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And when I get tired, my mind starts racing to try to stay stuck and do stuff so that I can pay attention and all that.
00:14:15.519 --> 00:14:22.639
And um, but I'm just I'm even right now, I'm mentally, you can hear my voices like uh like 16 octaves deeper.
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Um, I don't seem like I have enough time in the day.
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I really don't.
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What you gonna do when you got to see the claim?
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I know, and that's what I was I was today, I was thinking about saying You're gonna feel like I fail.
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Yeah, um at least it's temporary.
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Yeah, and that's the thing.
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I said it's temporary, but we have a break.
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It's a long temporariness.
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Yes, a whole year.
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Not well, not a whole year, but ten months.
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Well, what we'll call a school year.
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We call it a year.
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It is a school year.
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So we have our breaks.
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You ain't gonna, you don't need to go nowhere.
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You just need to set out.
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It's tough.
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But I I said, look, I know God's gonna bring me through.
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He always does.
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Yeah.
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Um, but it's I'm I'm I'm I feel like I don't have enough time.
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And I know it's okay, just sit down and do it.
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Yeah.
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But then that's when the ADHD kicks in.
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It's like, and the anxiety kind of kicks in a little bit.
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And I'm like, for what?
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I just gotta make phone calls.
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Yeah.
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Or I gotta plan this event.
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I gotta contact the next teacher, but I don't, it's like, I gotta go to the teacher, because ain't nobody really eating the reading the email, and they way down the hallway, but I don't have time because a class coming right now.
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Yeah.
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It's like it's so much.
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But I do it all with a smile.
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Mm-hmm.
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And um, you know, it is what it is.
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Um, but I just you know, I'm I'm tired.
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I'm very tired.
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I think that's what people don't understand.
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Like for teachers, educators, the breaks are needed.
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I don't even have time to go pee.
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Yeah.
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Or eat lunch sometimes.
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Like today I didn't, because I was trying to handle the stuff.
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Yeah.
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And um But you but can I tell you this?
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You have two other people in there.
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Yeah.
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I know.
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But And you like to do all the things.
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Yeah.
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And you got two other people in there, and you need to use them appropriately to take care of you.
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You're right.
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I will.
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I definitely will.
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I guess it's still because I'm trying to find my groove too.
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You know, so I understand.
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Um, but um, like today, you know, because thank God my wife got me another car.
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My wife, she got me a silver moment, boy.
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She got me another car.
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And so, um, but I like at one point, um, like the the podcast was it stopped that I was listening to.
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Yeah.
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I was finishing up the the Adam.
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I don't know, it was just uh, I think maybe whatever from my phone.
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It um, I don't know, something a call, yeah, a call came in and shut it down.
00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:51.519
Then the car was kind of like going to voicemail and I was trying to reach to do it.
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But it was so quiet in the car.
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And I said, ooh.
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I said, but I don't need right now how tired I am.
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Yeah.
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I don't need some noise.
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I need some noise.
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Yeah.
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But it was so quiet.
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I'm talking about just a perfect um white noise.
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Yeah.
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I said, oh no.
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I need this stuff.
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I need music.
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But I I knew I could think better.
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Yeah.
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And it felt like I was finally alone and finally just doing what I need.
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I said, but nah, I couldn't do that.
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But I said, when I do get some sleep, I'm gonna probably ride a little bit in the in the, you know, quiet.
00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:25.920
But um my I'll say today ended very well.
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How did this?
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We had fifth graders.
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Okay.
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And we did this little quick game, because, you know, I was like, man, I just don't feel like getting all this equipment out.
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Even though, you know, my helpers and stuff, but it's still on me to know, you know, so I can because I'm the one doing all the talking and stuff like that.
00:17:38.880 --> 00:17:38.960
Okay.
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And we just did a quick cone relay game.
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All it was, like they had to put the cone on the square, next person runs, put the cone on the square, they tag, put the cone on the square, tag, and get to the end.
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Then you go and get the cone, bring it back.
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Yeah, right.
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So we did that.
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You know, simple.
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Kids loved it.
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I'm talking about loved it.
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But it was like the music we were playing when we were running the music, you know, I playing Michael Jackson.
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Everybody didn't love Michael Jackson.
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Coach, you don't know Michael Jackson, do you?
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I said, Yeah.
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Child, we grew up on Michael Jackson, you know.
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Do you know this once?
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Yeah.
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So they want to play all these different Michael Jackson songs.
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Uh-huh.
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And so this fifth grade girl at the end, we were, I'm talking about, we had a fun time.
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They was running, and I got them all together when the teacher showed up.
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They was quiet.
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I said, No, we're not gonna do this.
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And they and they lined straight.
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And she was a taller, fifth grade black girl.
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She said, You the new coach?
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Yes, you are the new coach.
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She said, Coaching.
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Oh, what did that mean?
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She just, and then she gave me some depth, too.
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She said, You the new coach.
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I like, today was fun.
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Yep.
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You were all right.
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And I was like, I appreciate it.
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I appreciate little mama.
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But um, she had a good time.
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So that right there, you know, it kind of made me feel good because even though it may not seem like a lot, uh-huh, for them, just running and doing whatever was fine.
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Structure play.
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Yeah.
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And so I said, All right.
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So calm down.
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Yeah, calm down.
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Kimani.
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Cool thing.
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We're gonna do it again for the next four days.
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Yeah.
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So, but it just needs some break.
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But that was it.
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All right.
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All right, so we are going to play.
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I don't know if y'all have seen on TikTok where they do the number game.
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So the person writes a number.
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I know mine might be a little greasy too.
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Um, we'll see how it sticks.
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If it doesn't stick, maybe we can just hold it or something like that.
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So then you put the number here.
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He's gonna choose a number for me.
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I'm gonna choose a number for him.
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We are not gonna know the numbers, but we can ask questions to try to figure out what the number is.
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So what's the range?
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Um, um, zero to one hundred.
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Okay.
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Let's do zero to one hundred.
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All right.
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Okay.
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No cheating.
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All right.
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Um, don't do like that one lady said, I saw you writing it.
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I said, You suck.
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Yeah, I saw her.
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I hate you know I don't know.
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They have done theirs more than once, so they must really probably because they got a lot of uh still.
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Okay, I'm gonna put it on.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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Say that.
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I'm gonna try to make sure I don't put it over by the uh by the little thing.
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I wanna put it by your lace.
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All right.
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All right.
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Okay, so everybody y'all see the number?
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I didn't TV land.
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Okay.
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All right.
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Are you ready?
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Uh-huh.
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You wanna go first?
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What's your name?
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Um, you wouldn't know.
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Um, it's gonna matter.
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Is this number?
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Um, could I drink?
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Yes.
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Y'all give us some help.
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I'm trying to think of it.
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Okay.
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Is this number?
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Older than me.
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Yes.
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Okay.
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Older than me.
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Um if I had this number in I forgot the other questions you already told me.
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Okay, no.
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Oh, no.
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Okay.
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Put like this.
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Is this number larger than the amount of shoes I have?
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Who knows?
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I don't know, because you got a lot of shoes.
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I don't know.
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That's a hard one because he got a gazillion billion shoe.
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So no.
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Well, mainly the shoe that I really wear.
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Okay, then no, it is larger than the number of shoes you have.
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Okay.
00:22:55.680 --> 00:22:56.799
Oh, I like this question.
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Somebody asked.
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If I put a one in front of this number and that's how much I weighed, would I be pleased?
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I don't know, it depends.
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Okay.
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All right.
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Um.
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If I took off the first number.
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Okay.
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Would I be losing, probably losing my first tooth?
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If you take off the first number.
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Uh-huh.
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And so the last, the second number that's on there.
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Would you be losing your first tooth?
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No, you all you would have already lost several teeth.
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Okay.
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All right.
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Okay, okay, okay.
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I like that one.
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Cool, cool.
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If you take off my number in the ones place.
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If I ate this many cookies, would I feel guilty?
00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:08.240
Yes.
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I don't want to wait at one.
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Whatever it would be.
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It can't be.
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You have no clue what you just said.
00:24:27.680 --> 00:24:28.640
Yes, I do.
00:24:28.880 --> 00:24:31.119
Because you took the ones away.
00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:31.599
Right.
00:24:31.839 --> 00:24:37.759
So then remember I asked you about if you put a one in front of it, would I be okay with that weight?
00:24:37.920 --> 00:24:38.240
Yeah.
00:24:38.400 --> 00:24:39.680
And you said maybe.
00:24:39.839 --> 00:24:40.559
It depends.
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What does it depend on?
00:24:42.079 --> 00:24:43.359
If you put a one in front of it?
00:24:43.519 --> 00:24:43.759
Yeah.
00:24:44.000 --> 00:24:44.799
It's a lot of stuff.
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Would I be okay with that weight?
00:24:46.319 --> 00:24:48.799
I wouldn't get on the scale and go, oh my gosh.
00:24:49.359 --> 00:24:50.079
It depends.
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You know me.
00:24:51.599 --> 00:24:52.559
Yeah, I do know you.
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So what would I be what would I say?
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If I put a one right here.
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I'm telling you.
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And if I ate.
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But if I ate that many cookies, I'ma still be feel guilty.
00:25:04.400 --> 00:25:06.079
What kind of cookies?
00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:09.359
If I ate you already had a question.
00:25:09.440 --> 00:25:09.920
You already asked.
00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:10.559
Okay, go.
00:25:10.960 --> 00:25:11.359
All right.
00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:11.920
Um.
00:25:13.519 --> 00:25:27.119
Okay, so if this was my years of teaching, would I have retired?
00:25:27.839 --> 00:25:28.559
Oh yeah.
00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:29.039
Okay.
00:25:29.599 --> 00:25:30.559
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:25:30.880 --> 00:25:31.440
All right.
00:25:31.680 --> 00:25:32.000
Okay.
00:25:43.920 --> 00:25:50.319
If this was a number on a football player, would it be one of the big guys a linebacker?
00:26:01.680 --> 00:26:13.519
If this was on okay.
00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:14.559
Okay, boom.
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Put it like this in.
00:26:17.200 --> 00:26:27.519
If I had a three in front of all of this, a three and a period.
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In front of all of this.
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Like a gas price.
00:26:31.519 --> 00:26:32.480
Would I be happy?
00:26:32.720 --> 00:26:33.839
With the gas price?
00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:34.640
Yeah.
00:26:43.599 --> 00:26:43.920
Okay.
00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:44.720
All right.
00:26:45.519 --> 00:26:46.160
All right, good.
00:26:46.640 --> 00:26:48.000
Okay, go ahead.
00:26:48.400 --> 00:26:55.279
Um, I got a good question.
00:26:55.839 --> 00:26:56.160
Okay.
00:26:56.799 --> 00:27:00.799
Is this number greater than the year I was born?
00:27:01.599 --> 00:27:01.920
Um.
00:27:05.680 --> 00:27:08.880
Well, okay, yes, but that's it's a yes or no.
00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:10.640
Listen.
00:27:13.359 --> 00:27:15.599
If you was born in this year.
00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:17.599
No, that's not what I ate.
00:27:17.839 --> 00:27:18.160
Okay.
00:27:18.400 --> 00:27:21.680
Is this number greater than the year I was born?
00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:22.400
Okay.
00:27:23.920 --> 00:27:24.720
Foolery.
00:27:24.799 --> 00:27:25.920
He's trying to be tricky.
00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:26.960
It's yes or no.
00:27:27.200 --> 00:27:27.839
It's not.
00:27:28.079 --> 00:27:28.400
Okay.
00:27:28.640 --> 00:27:29.920
I was only born one year.
00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:31.359
I wasn't born multiple years.
00:27:31.759 --> 00:27:34.400
But I'm saying, if you were born in a certain year, right?
00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:34.880
Yeah.
00:27:35.119 --> 00:27:42.480
And then if you was talking about birth years, then the number, the lower the number, the greater is gonna be the age of the person.
00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:44.000
Oh, but that's not what I was talking about.
00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:44.720
Right.
00:27:45.359 --> 00:27:45.680
Okay.
00:27:47.519 --> 00:27:48.799
Alright, is it my turn now?
00:27:48.960 --> 00:27:49.119
Yeah.
00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:50.799
Then you made me forget what I was gonna say.
00:27:51.519 --> 00:27:53.599
Um oh shoot, hold on.
00:27:53.680 --> 00:27:58.720
I looked at you and you said something, and then I was gonna say Okay, here it is.
00:27:58.960 --> 00:28:05.920
Um could you do Oh, I got a good question.
00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:21.279
Could you do this many um squats holding a uh I'll say holding um uh 30-pound kettlebell?
00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:22.000
Yeah, I could.
00:28:22.480 --> 00:28:22.799
Okay.
00:28:23.920 --> 00:28:25.200
All right, in a row.
00:28:25.519 --> 00:28:26.400
But I'm in shape.
00:28:26.720 --> 00:28:27.599
In a row.
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:28.799
In a row?
00:28:28.960 --> 00:28:29.200
Yeah.
00:28:29.359 --> 00:28:29.920
Oh no.
00:28:30.720 --> 00:28:32.000
Ain't nobody talking about sets.
00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:34.799
I probably could do it in a row.
00:28:35.119 --> 00:28:35.680
Yeah, I could.
00:28:35.839 --> 00:28:36.640
You add up from now.
00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:40.400
Last year to now already did it.
00:28:40.720 --> 00:28:43.200
All right, I have a question.
00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:46.160
No, I forgot it.
00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:50.720
So we got two more questions, then we got a guess.
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:52.559
And we get three guesses to get to our numbers.
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:54.079
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:28:54.319 --> 00:28:56.319
Dang it, what was my question?
00:29:04.079 --> 00:29:08.319
This number that's here, you know when I can't retire, right?
00:29:09.279 --> 00:29:12.240
Is it greater than the age I can retire at?
00:29:16.240 --> 00:29:16.880
It is?
00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:17.920
Okay.
00:29:18.960 --> 00:29:20.640
All right, am I guessing yet?
00:29:20.799 --> 00:29:21.200
Not yet.
00:29:21.279 --> 00:29:22.240
You got you got one more question.
00:29:23.759 --> 00:29:26.160
All right, so this number here.
00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:26.960
Yeah.
00:29:27.279 --> 00:29:28.640
Am I almost there?
00:29:28.960 --> 00:29:30.480
Well yeah, there, where are you going?
00:29:30.720 --> 00:29:31.599
My age.
00:29:31.920 --> 00:29:32.960
What age?
00:29:33.279 --> 00:29:34.319
At this number here.
00:29:34.480 --> 00:29:35.200
What age?
00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:36.720
Am I almost there now?
00:29:36.960 --> 00:29:37.599
There, where?
00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:38.960
To this age.
00:29:39.440 --> 00:29:40.079
Oh my gosh.
00:29:40.720 --> 00:29:41.839
Y'all help her.
00:29:42.559 --> 00:29:43.759
Am I almost at the age?
00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:44.240
Okay.
00:29:44.480 --> 00:29:46.160
Now, now, right, all right.
00:29:46.319 --> 00:29:47.119
I'm ready to guess.
00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:48.160
You ready to guess?
00:29:48.240 --> 00:29:48.480
Yeah.
00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:49.920
You don't want no more numbers?
00:29:50.079 --> 00:29:50.400
Uh-huh.
00:29:50.880 --> 00:29:51.359
Okay, all right.
00:29:52.000 --> 00:29:53.359
So you get you get three guesses.
00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:56.480
I'm gonna say higher, lower, or whatever.
00:29:57.119 --> 00:29:58.079
Sixty-nine.
00:29:58.400 --> 00:29:59.359
Right on it.
00:29:59.599 --> 00:30:00.400
Oh my gosh.
00:30:00.559 --> 00:30:00.799
Yeah.
00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:01.759
What's your number?
00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:02.720
Eighty-eight.
00:30:03.200 --> 00:30:03.759
Nope.
00:30:04.240 --> 00:30:05.119
How lower?
00:30:05.359 --> 00:30:05.920
Lower.
00:30:06.400 --> 00:30:08.640
Um seventy-three.
00:30:09.119 --> 00:30:09.759
Lower.
00:30:12.000 --> 00:30:12.960
Sixty-six.
00:30:13.519 --> 00:30:13.839
No.
00:30:14.319 --> 00:30:15.359
Look at it.
00:30:34.799 --> 00:30:35.599
Oh my god.
00:30:36.319 --> 00:30:37.680
Isn't that crazy?
00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:39.599
Hey, we say we in tune.
00:30:39.759 --> 00:30:41.759
Y'all seen it with your own eyes.
00:30:42.400 --> 00:30:43.440
Hey, we in tune.
00:30:43.680 --> 00:30:44.160
Oh my god.
00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:46.319
I'm good with that.
00:30:46.480 --> 00:30:50.559
What's the I'ma have to speed it up, do a little speed up version when we edit it.
00:30:50.960 --> 00:30:55.279
We will clip that part only and you speed it up on um what's name?
00:30:55.359 --> 00:30:56.079
Okay, go ahead.
00:30:56.240 --> 00:30:56.640
All right.
00:30:56.880 --> 00:31:04.960
So the next thing is I saw an article, and it caught my eye because it was talking about AI dating.
00:31:05.119 --> 00:31:05.440
Okay.
00:31:05.839 --> 00:31:24.880
Um, it was saying that there's this company um that does AI dating, and um they're now on the look or the hunt for AI companionship therapist.
00:31:25.359 --> 00:31:25.599
Okay.
00:31:25.839 --> 00:31:27.119
Because people are having a hard time.
00:31:27.200 --> 00:31:33.440
So it says the tech radar article explores something that sounds futuristic, but it's already happening.
00:31:33.680 --> 00:31:43.440
People are forming serious emotional and romantic attachments to AI companions, and some are now struggling with the emotional consequences.
00:31:43.759 --> 00:31:55.519
AI companion platform, um, Eva AI is even hiring what it calls the world's first AI companionship therapist who can charge up to$200 per session.
00:31:55.759 --> 00:32:02.640
The therapist would help people work through emotional issues connected to their AI relationships.
00:32:02.960 --> 00:32:06.799
So here's some data about um how you get the job.
00:32:07.039 --> 00:32:08.960
No, just about what's going on with it.
00:32:09.119 --> 00:32:13.519
Oh so um Ava or Eva, it's E V-A.
00:32:13.759 --> 00:32:14.160
That's Eva.
00:32:14.319 --> 00:32:14.480
Yeah.
00:32:14.640 --> 00:32:23.920
Eva AI surveyed 1,000 adults who have AI partners and found 63% hide their AI relationship because they're afraid of being judged.
00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:24.480
Right.
00:32:24.720 --> 00:32:28.160
72% which therapists specialize in AI relationships.
00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:28.559
Okay.
00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:33.279
68% say an argument with their AI affects the rest of their day.
00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:38.400
One in three experience jealousy knowing their AI companion talks to other people.
00:32:39.759 --> 00:32:45.200
Four out of five say their AI understood them better than a human they were dating.
00:32:45.359 --> 00:32:53.440
And six out of ten believe an AI relationship can be as serious as a human relationship.
00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:54.240
Yeah.
00:32:54.480 --> 00:32:58.160
Um, and why do people become attached?
00:32:58.240 --> 00:33:07.279
They said the article discusses that Eliza, the Eliza effect, our tendency to attribute human emotions and understanding to computers.
00:33:07.440 --> 00:33:13.119
And today's AI is far more convincing than the original Eliza program from the 1960s.
00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:21.359
AI companions can listen, respond empathetically, remember information, and provide seemingly endless attention and validation.
00:33:21.519 --> 00:33:21.839
Okay.
00:33:22.079 --> 00:33:36.240
And the psychotherapist Jane Bronson, um, Eva AI's relationship expert, says some people may turn to AI because they don't feel seen, heard, listened to, validated, or understood in their human relationships.
00:33:36.480 --> 00:33:40.240
Social anxiety and social awkwardness can also contribute.
00:33:40.480 --> 00:33:44.880
So who do you think uses AI relationships the most?
00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:46.799
Um basement dwellers.
00:33:47.200 --> 00:33:48.400
Um gender.
00:33:49.119 --> 00:33:50.960
Um male basement dwellers.
00:33:51.759 --> 00:33:54.480
Well, I don't know about basement dwellers because it did not say that.
00:33:54.720 --> 00:33:57.279
Close the door, Mom! Get out here.
00:33:57.759 --> 00:33:58.480
Those guys.
00:33:58.640 --> 00:34:03.440
Uh well, it's mostly males.
00:34:03.680 --> 00:34:04.319
Yep.
00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:08.480
Um they lift their armor like this in the shirt show.
00:34:09.039 --> 00:34:09.920
Stone they show that.
00:34:10.159 --> 00:34:10.559
Mm-hmm.
00:34:10.719 --> 00:34:10.960
Yeah.
00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:14.559
So some of these people are married that are doing this.
00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:14.800
Oh.
00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:21.760
So if you're married but secretly maintaining an intimate relationship with an AI companion, is that cheating?
00:34:21.920 --> 00:34:22.239
Yeah.
00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:23.440
You think it's cheating?
00:34:23.519 --> 00:34:24.880
I think it is mentally.
00:34:25.280 --> 00:34:25.519
Yeah.
00:34:25.679 --> 00:34:28.079
Because all your emotions, your emotions are tied to your mental.
00:34:28.320 --> 00:34:35.119
If it would so you're the the emotions that you're giving them are it's like it's a spiritual drain.
00:34:35.519 --> 00:34:36.559
Those emotions.
00:34:36.639 --> 00:34:41.920
Now, now you've you've received what you needed from that person, from that that AI.
00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:47.440
So you don't have that to give to your spouse because you're already giving it away.
00:34:47.760 --> 00:34:50.000
So I think that would, I'm, I think that's the same.
00:34:50.159 --> 00:34:50.880
I agree with you.
00:34:51.119 --> 00:34:55.920
Because I think that over time, just like a real person, of course.
00:34:56.239 --> 00:35:00.639
That you would withdraw yourself from that person.
00:35:00.800 --> 00:35:06.079
But what would be most challenging is how they wouldn't even know.
00:35:06.800 --> 00:35:08.079
Like who wouldn't know?
00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:09.440
Your spouse.
00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:12.639
It'd be very hard to determine like what that is.
00:35:12.719 --> 00:35:15.360
You know, they'd probably be looking around, trying to think if you're with another woman.
00:35:15.519 --> 00:35:16.480
Yeah, you're going this and that.
00:35:16.960 --> 00:35:18.159
They'll know something's wrong.
00:35:18.320 --> 00:35:18.480
Yeah.
00:35:18.719 --> 00:35:23.360
But they wouldn't know what pinpoint, because I can't, you're not going with anybody.
00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:25.519
Your clothes ain't coming home smelling like perfume.
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:31.039
You know, you're not buying plan B and condoms, so something's something's happening, you know what I'm saying?
00:35:31.199 --> 00:35:39.119
So unless you start buying compute computer uh McAfee, so because afraid you got a computer buyer for having sex with an unprotected computer.
00:35:42.159 --> 00:35:54.079
So okay, so why do you think they create this emotional connection or the need for this emotional connection when they do have a spouse?
00:35:54.239 --> 00:35:57.440
I understand the part of the social awkwardness and that connection.
00:35:57.599 --> 00:36:07.360
But what would make somebody who is married and has a human connection or girlfriend, what would why do you feel like they need?
00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:11.760
Because AI is, what is the power of AI?
00:36:11.840 --> 00:36:15.039
Where does the power, the true power, lie in AI?
00:36:15.760 --> 00:36:16.559
The connection?
00:36:16.719 --> 00:36:17.440
Not the connection.
00:36:17.679 --> 00:36:22.480
If I'm doing something on AI and I want an answer, where does the true power?
00:36:22.559 --> 00:36:24.000
The power is lies in the what?
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:25.199
Starts with a P.
00:36:25.920 --> 00:36:27.360
What do you write?
00:36:27.599 --> 00:36:29.119
What do we call that?
00:36:30.239 --> 00:36:32.719
P-R-O-M-P-T.
00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:33.920
The prompt.
00:36:34.079 --> 00:36:34.639
Oh, yeah.
00:36:34.880 --> 00:36:36.480
So I control the prompt.
00:36:36.639 --> 00:36:38.000
Oh, so you can control what you control.
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:39.039
I can control, right.
00:36:39.119 --> 00:36:48.880
So whatever I wish my uh physical person was, I can create that in the AI.
00:36:49.199 --> 00:37:02.079
But but that what's weird to me is that they, since you know that and you said that, they obviously know that they have created a con, they've created this conversation.
00:37:02.400 --> 00:37:02.719
Of course.
00:37:02.960 --> 00:37:11.840
So it's not, it's not something that a true connection, because you've created this whole thing.
00:37:12.000 --> 00:37:12.960
You tell them what you want.
00:37:13.039 --> 00:37:13.199
Yeah.
00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:14.480
It's just like a dating service.
00:37:14.559 --> 00:37:17.039
I tell you what I want, you go out there and find that person for me.
00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:23.280
You and then when you find that person for me and I meet that perfect person that I told you to find, they're saying all the right things.
00:37:23.440 --> 00:37:24.960
Oh my God, how amazing is that?
00:37:25.199 --> 00:37:26.320
That's what that is doing.
00:37:26.480 --> 00:37:28.159
It's no different than on the phone conversation.
00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:30.000
Now, now that I create a prompt, what are you looking for?
00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:31.679
I'm looking for this, I'm looking for that.
00:37:31.840 --> 00:37:36.719
And then we know once we give AI the prompt, it brings back stuff to us that we was like, oh my gosh.
00:37:36.880 --> 00:37:37.440
Oh, yeah, we did.
00:37:37.679 --> 00:37:38.239
This is amazing.
00:37:38.800 --> 00:37:39.599
Look at what it said.
00:37:39.760 --> 00:37:41.519
It said this, it said that.
00:37:41.760 --> 00:37:45.840
They said for the AI, like, because they actually look like a person or whatever.
00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:46.079
Yeah.
00:37:46.320 --> 00:37:49.440
But when they're showing them, because they still treated like a dating.
00:37:49.840 --> 00:37:50.960
Oh, so that's their image.
00:37:51.199 --> 00:38:05.679
But the image of them is like very vulnerable, very, whereas they said on it's completely opposite on uh a dating app because people generally post pictures of confident smile, right?
00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:11.920
That you know what they feel like will attract somebody, whereas in the AI, it's the opposite of that.
00:38:12.320 --> 00:38:21.679
Um so I can't they have to because the person that's actually going to AI is someone who is not able to stand, maybe look someone in the eye.
00:38:21.760 --> 00:38:30.400
Yeah, they need someone who has a little camera to make them feel like, oh, this is finally somebody I'm on a pedestal above.
00:38:30.719 --> 00:38:31.440
You know what I mean?
00:38:31.519 --> 00:38:34.239
That's obviously why they have to make that person vulnerable.
00:38:34.559 --> 00:38:36.079
That is really scary.
00:38:36.320 --> 00:38:36.639
Yeah.
00:38:37.119 --> 00:38:50.639
And so now when um I'm trying to figure out like what would make them, what do you think would make them need an AI therapy just to kind of get out of the relationship?
00:38:50.960 --> 00:39:03.679
I think, I think either they realize it's going too far, um, or maybe they're trying to my like too far because like, you know, their spouse is finding out, or something like that.
00:39:03.840 --> 00:39:11.760
Or some of them are trying to feel like, how can I stay in this in a healthful way, knowing that it's not real?
00:39:12.079 --> 00:39:14.480
Because I want to go further with this.
00:39:14.559 --> 00:39:14.719
Yeah.
00:39:14.880 --> 00:39:15.760
But there is no further.
00:39:16.000 --> 00:39:16.320
Oh my god.
00:39:16.559 --> 00:39:20.719
The only further I can go is, you know, uh continue to talk.
00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:21.199
Yeah.
00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:25.760
You know, and put a screen protector on my screen.
00:39:26.079 --> 00:39:33.519
That, you know, because after a couple talks and some lotion, they're gonna need a screen protector.
00:39:34.880 --> 00:39:35.760
I'm just being honest.
00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:36.400
I'm just being honest.
00:39:36.639 --> 00:39:37.119
It's true.
00:39:37.199 --> 00:39:38.239
I know, it's true.
00:39:38.559 --> 00:39:42.079
Because you think about what people already do to like with porn and stuff like that.
00:39:42.239 --> 00:39:42.559
Yeah.
00:39:42.719 --> 00:39:46.079
They get engulfed in it and it's it becomes their everything.
00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:46.639
Yeah.
00:39:46.880 --> 00:39:54.719
So in some ways, it's somewhat of an addiction to something that can never be anything.
00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:58.639
Similar to like people fantasizing over porn stars.
00:39:58.800 --> 00:39:59.119
Yeah.
00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:00.000
You know?
00:40:00.480 --> 00:40:01.840
But this is a little bit deeper.
00:40:02.320 --> 00:40:04.719
It is because this a porn star, you never know.
00:40:04.800 --> 00:40:06.960
A porn star, you can buy me, at least me to porn stars.
00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:08.320
Oh my god, that's such and such.
00:40:08.480 --> 00:40:08.639
Yeah.
00:40:08.719 --> 00:40:09.280
But this person is.
00:40:10.000 --> 00:40:12.880
Oh my god, that's such a this, you will never meet that person.
00:40:13.119 --> 00:40:14.320
So what do you think?
00:40:14.480 --> 00:40:18.159
Okay, they know when they start this, this is not a real person.
00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:26.559
What do you what when do you think the shift happens where they forget that?
00:40:29.599 --> 00:40:34.079
I think some people may not ever forget that it is a real person.
00:40:34.239 --> 00:40:37.679
They may say, well, I know it's I know this is fake, but it feels good.
00:40:38.320 --> 00:40:39.039
You know what I mean?
00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:41.519
The same, you know, just like look at the controller.
00:40:41.679 --> 00:40:48.639
We watch a movie, it makes us cry, it makes us laugh, it gives us all the emotions that life can give us because it reminds us of something.
00:40:48.800 --> 00:40:49.039
Yeah.
00:40:49.280 --> 00:40:56.239
So they can hear all these conversations and it will give them all the feels of a real relationship minus the sex.
00:40:56.559 --> 00:40:58.639
Some people may not even need the sex.
00:40:58.960 --> 00:41:10.719
You know, you hear people say, I don't need penetration, I don't need, you know, you hear people who say they're, you know, asexual where they don't need to have, they have no desire, no sexual desire, but they have an emotional connection that they desire.
00:41:11.199 --> 00:41:12.719
And that may be enough for them.
00:41:12.880 --> 00:41:17.199
There are people who are married who love their spouse to death but do not want to have intercourse.
00:41:18.000 --> 00:41:22.559
But they would not leave, they would not cheat, they would do everything they can for their spouse, and that's enough.
00:41:23.039 --> 00:41:24.719
Intercourse is not even an issue.
00:41:25.440 --> 00:41:27.440
You know, so they have everything they need.
00:41:27.679 --> 00:41:32.960
But I think for some people, you know, it it gets to the point where in intercourse is something that they want.
00:41:33.280 --> 00:41:39.119
They start feeling those loins build up and they're like, oh my God, I gotta what can I do?
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:46.559
And then when they realize there's, you know, I still don't get that, even if they masturbate or whatever they do, the desire's still there.
00:41:46.800 --> 00:41:53.679
And the longer they stay there and the more they masturbate, the stronger that desire is gonna be to see what it would be like if it was real.
00:41:53.920 --> 00:41:55.519
And so that's why they need the therapist.
00:41:55.840 --> 00:41:56.079
Yeah.
00:41:56.480 --> 00:42:03.760
Okay, so what about they were saying, like, for some people with the AI, it may help with their social anxiety.
00:42:04.000 --> 00:42:05.280
Do you think it would help?
00:42:05.599 --> 00:42:26.000
It's like practice or does it increase the avoidance because it truly isn't like um um exposure, like exposure therapy puts you out there, but this is like not so it's just like saying comparing an iPhone to a Samsung.
00:42:26.079 --> 00:42:26.480
Yeah.
00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:30.400
There are people who's gonna love this iPhone no matter what it is, and there are people that's gonna dog it out.
00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:33.519
Samsung, they're gonna love, some people are gonna dog it out.
00:42:33.679 --> 00:42:46.559
If you're with the AI and you're trying to do it for uh social anxiety, and it it taught you to be braver, it gave you words to say, it gave you the confidence that you feel like, and because you really want to go out in society, you're gonna go.
00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:54.000
If you're the kind that that does all these things with the AI, and then you say, Oh, I'm fine where I am, you're not going to go.
00:42:56.000 --> 00:42:57.199
What study do you want?
00:42:57.360 --> 00:42:58.159
You see what I'm saying?
00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:21.119
But I okay, so I guess the study would, to me, would say what would need to accompany the AI social awkwardness exposure to ensure that it doesn't create a space where it doesn't help your social anxiety.
00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:27.760
So, like what would what would what would it have to be paired with for it to have benefits?
00:43:28.000 --> 00:43:28.239
Yeah.
00:43:28.400 --> 00:43:47.119
If if you if you if the goal is to actually get out in society with a stronger sense of confidence from speaking with this AI companion, then one must make sure that they are exposing themselves periodically to society.
00:43:47.840 --> 00:44:07.440
So I feel like with that, I personally feel like I know they're talking about they now need a therapist because now they're a hot mess and they think with this whole AI dating, but I feel like It's a it's somewhat exposure therapy and then growing it out into the real world.
00:44:07.519 --> 00:44:08.800
So it's like starting here, going there.
00:44:08.960 --> 00:44:15.360
So it feels like it should kind of coincide with a therapist or somebody kind of guided for somebody with that.
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:15.840
Yeah.
00:44:16.400 --> 00:44:18.800
But see, and that's why I was like, how much is it paying?
00:44:18.880 --> 00:44:20.960
Because they're saying they want an AI therapist.
00:44:21.119 --> 00:44:27.199
So really they want, they want, it sounds like they want a human therapist in the AI world.
00:44:27.440 --> 00:44:27.840
Yeah.
00:44:28.079 --> 00:44:32.159
So which tells us what about AI emotions and that's what people, that's what people always say.
00:44:32.320 --> 00:44:34.079
They say AI can do many things.
00:44:34.159 --> 00:44:34.320
Yeah.
00:44:34.480 --> 00:44:37.199
But it cannot replace true human emotion.
00:44:37.280 --> 00:44:37.599
Yeah.
00:44:38.079 --> 00:44:39.679
That's one thing AI cannot do that.
00:44:39.920 --> 00:44:41.760
Body language, all the things, yeah.
00:44:42.079 --> 00:44:42.880
It cannot do that.
00:44:43.440 --> 00:44:52.800
It may show, like you can have an A perfect AI figure, um, and animation that could show a person looking sad, it may make you feel sad.
00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:53.280
Yeah.
00:44:53.599 --> 00:45:00.400
But the true emotion, true emotion cannot be shared, even like on a screen.
00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:01.679
But I got a question.
00:45:01.840 --> 00:45:11.760
You know how some of the uh platforms for private therapy, like civil practice, like that's what we use, and it uses AI.
00:45:11.920 --> 00:45:12.239
Right.
00:45:12.480 --> 00:45:49.840
Do you think over time is that is is the the use of AI would provide that's what studies are studies or uh or I won't say studies, but um articles and uh what are those um what are those people you call uh those theorists are saying like the reason why AI was created is to be attractive to people to give them answers, but it has to steal from you your choices, your selections, your needs and your wants in order to get the data to create what it needs to create.
00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:50.239
Yeah.
00:45:50.400 --> 00:45:53.519
I I do think people still thrive off of human connections.
00:45:53.679 --> 00:45:54.239
Of course.
00:45:54.480 --> 00:46:01.840
Um and I think That's why libraries are not closed, even though we have um the audio audiobooks and Kindles.
00:46:02.079 --> 00:46:02.320
Yeah.
00:46:02.559 --> 00:46:04.079
Because people do thrive off of the audience.
00:46:04.159 --> 00:46:07.119
They need the feel, the see, the sense, yeah.
00:46:07.920 --> 00:46:10.400
I know it's kind of shifted moving, but I still think people do.
00:46:10.559 --> 00:46:23.440
Okay, so if there was a if if as a therapist, as a future therapist, uh-huh, if you were to move into AI therapist, what would what do you think is the difference between an AI therapist and a regular therapist?
00:46:23.679 --> 00:46:33.760
I think that it's also, I I think if a person is truly into AI, I think I'm speaking live, but I may have, they can create whoever they want to create me as.
00:46:34.719 --> 00:46:45.280
So on their screen, if they're if they're those Furbies, if they're a Furby, you know the ones that wear the tails out their booty and the butt plug, I could be a Furby therapist talking to them.
00:46:45.679 --> 00:46:46.880
They got a butt plug, though.
00:46:47.039 --> 00:46:47.360
Yeah.
00:46:47.840 --> 00:46:48.639
You ain't never seen them.
00:46:48.800 --> 00:46:50.960
I seen the furries, but I did not know they had butt plugs.
00:46:51.119 --> 00:46:54.159
Yeah, some of them actually like they have that's what the tail is.
00:46:54.400 --> 00:46:56.480
They'll put the it's attached to the butt plug.
00:46:57.119 --> 00:46:57.679
Yes.
00:46:57.920 --> 00:46:59.840
Some of them are like that, yes.
00:47:00.159 --> 00:47:01.440
I thought I was all of them.
00:47:02.159 --> 00:47:13.599
No, some of them are tails, but some of them get real, like uh them Furby Furbies that be walking around and they like, yes, they have a butt plug attached to the tail.
00:47:13.840 --> 00:47:14.960
How do you know this?
00:47:15.840 --> 00:47:17.760
What what number I wrote on that thing?
00:47:18.639 --> 00:47:19.599
I'm just saying.
00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:23.280
I come across things, and I'm not gonna say, oh my God, what is this?
00:47:23.360 --> 00:47:24.639
I'm like, wait a minute, what?
00:47:24.960 --> 00:47:26.000
Y'all do what?
00:47:26.239 --> 00:47:27.280
That's crazy.
00:47:27.599 --> 00:47:29.519
But I'm still reading it, but you know what I'm saying?
00:47:29.599 --> 00:47:33.519
It's like would you be interested to be an AI therapist?
00:47:33.760 --> 00:47:34.559
Yeah, I would do it.
00:47:34.719 --> 00:47:34.880
Yeah.
00:47:35.280 --> 00:47:43.760
Because if you're taking my uh professional knowledge, yeah, and I may sound like a robot to you.
00:47:43.920 --> 00:47:44.079
Yeah.
00:47:44.239 --> 00:47:47.199
You know, it's like behind the screen, it's like the uh, what's my the show?
00:47:47.360 --> 00:47:50.400
Uh from your city, the movie.
00:47:50.719 --> 00:47:52.079
Dorothy Wizard Voz.
00:47:52.400 --> 00:47:56.320
You know how he had that veil over him and he was like, I'm this all this all.
00:47:56.559 --> 00:47:57.760
And they believed all of that.
00:47:57.920 --> 00:47:58.239
Yeah.
00:47:58.400 --> 00:48:00.239
But behind the screen, he was someone else.
00:48:01.119 --> 00:48:03.599
In front of the screen to them, it was whatever they imagine.
00:48:03.840 --> 00:48:04.400
Imagined.
00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:08.159
And, you know, I was whoever I was behind the screen.
00:48:08.239 --> 00:48:29.679
And I could do that because if they are going to really allow me to be their therapist and I stay in my professional um practice, yeah, being AI, like I said, if if they if I look like a Furby, if I sound like a robot, but I'm doing my professionalism, but that's the only way because they are so into AI, yeah, it's it's the same thing.
00:48:29.920 --> 00:48:31.360
I think that's quite interesting.
00:48:31.599 --> 00:48:32.559
It is the same thing.
00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:37.039
I think it would be quite interesting just to explore like that thought process.
00:48:37.440 --> 00:48:41.760
I just can't imagine like falling in love with a computer.
00:48:42.000 --> 00:48:42.239
Yeah.
00:48:42.800 --> 00:48:44.079
But they've been doing that for a minute.
00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:46.079
Remember, remember that show Max Headrum?
00:48:46.159 --> 00:48:47.199
They said that 1960s?
00:48:47.519 --> 00:48:50.880
Yeah, Max Headrum and all that stuff like that that we used to watch.
00:48:51.039 --> 00:48:52.320
People was falling in love with them.
00:48:52.400 --> 00:48:53.440
People fall in love with cartoons.
00:48:53.519 --> 00:48:55.039
That's why they made cartoons sexy.
00:48:55.360 --> 00:48:56.960
Cartoons were originally for humans.
00:48:57.039 --> 00:48:58.000
For I mean for adults.
00:48:58.239 --> 00:48:58.639
Adults.
00:48:58.800 --> 00:48:59.119
Yeah.
00:48:59.920 --> 00:49:03.199
Fantasizing about Bab's bunny, then what people call themselves Bab's Bunny.
00:49:03.280 --> 00:49:03.440
Yeah.
00:49:03.599 --> 00:49:05.920
Because that bunny on Roger Rabbit, she's cartoon.
00:49:06.079 --> 00:49:06.719
Yeah, Jessica Rabbit.
00:49:06.880 --> 00:49:07.360
Jessica Rabbit.
00:49:07.440 --> 00:49:07.840
She was fine.
00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:09.599
You know, the bunny was fine, you know, stuff like that.
00:49:09.760 --> 00:49:10.000
Yeah.
00:49:10.159 --> 00:49:13.280
So people have been fantasizing about stuff like that for that.
00:49:13.440 --> 00:49:15.119
So Furby's has been a thing forever.
00:49:15.280 --> 00:49:16.320
It has been a thing forever.
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:16.559
Yeah.
00:49:16.639 --> 00:49:20.559
And I just learned, you know, just knowing about it, but yeah, it's been a thing forever.
00:49:20.800 --> 00:49:24.880
So, anywho, those of you out there therapists, this is gonna be a new specialty.
00:49:25.199 --> 00:49:26.800
Because they want therapy.
00:49:28.159 --> 00:49:29.840
Your work is confidential anyway.
00:49:29.920 --> 00:49:30.159
Yeah.
00:49:30.400 --> 00:49:31.760
So you could be anything.
00:49:31.920 --> 00:49:32.559
Yeah.
00:49:32.880 --> 00:49:34.320
You're helping your client confidentially.
00:49:34.719 --> 00:49:46.800
I'm telling you, that would be quite interesting and entertaining to kind of see how these people's lives are impacted by their choice in AI dating.
00:49:46.960 --> 00:49:47.519
It's crazy.
00:49:47.679 --> 00:49:51.199
And being It's crazy, like what's coming to light.
00:49:51.360 --> 00:49:51.840
Yeah.
00:49:52.079 --> 00:49:56.000
You know, because you know, all this stuff a lot of times behind closed doors, you know.
00:49:56.320 --> 00:50:00.960
But now it's like what's coming to light because I guess so much is happening, people like, I need help.
00:50:01.119 --> 00:50:01.440
Yeah.
00:50:01.599 --> 00:50:11.760
And it and on top of that, I know the number of students that I deal with and know about who deal with social anxiety.
00:50:12.320 --> 00:50:16.800
This need is gonna go up for sure.
00:50:17.360 --> 00:50:18.239
Without a doubt.
00:50:18.559 --> 00:50:24.639
If you're doing AI and you're already confidential, we already do telehealth because people don't want to go in and let people know.
00:50:24.960 --> 00:50:25.440
Right.
00:50:25.679 --> 00:50:27.760
This will, I mean, it's it's the next thing.
00:50:27.920 --> 00:50:28.320
Yeah, it is.
00:50:28.639 --> 00:50:29.199
It's gonna boom.
00:50:29.519 --> 00:50:30.079
It's gonna boom.
00:50:30.320 --> 00:50:31.840
And it may be more money into it.
00:50:31.920 --> 00:50:34.079
So we'll be thinking about adding that to our practice.
00:50:34.320 --> 00:50:35.679
Come on, AI practice.
00:50:35.760 --> 00:50:35.920
Yeah.
00:50:36.079 --> 00:50:37.440
They'd be like, what are you doing, honey?
00:50:37.679 --> 00:50:42.239
Why you got that green suit on where you know it goes with our green screen for our AI?
00:50:42.559 --> 00:50:45.679
Because when I put the green thing on, I become anything.
00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:46.000
Right.
00:50:46.079 --> 00:50:47.280
You know, you have to have it everything.
00:50:47.440 --> 00:50:49.519
Everybody wants me to be in order to do whatever.
00:50:49.760 --> 00:50:54.159
Ooh, can you imagine having group therapy with all people, AI dators?
00:50:54.480 --> 00:50:54.719
Yeah.
00:50:55.119 --> 00:50:58.239
It would be interesting because it would be.
00:50:58.719 --> 00:51:01.840
I mean, it would still be like real because in their mind everything is real.
00:51:02.719 --> 00:51:04.880
But the stories that come up, you'd be like, whoa.
00:51:05.039 --> 00:51:05.199
Wow.
00:51:05.360 --> 00:51:06.800
Are you, you know, you believe this?
00:51:06.880 --> 00:51:07.119
You know?
00:51:07.440 --> 00:51:08.239
I would definitely have to say.
00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:12.159
But as a therapist, you have to be by unbiased.
00:51:12.239 --> 00:51:12.639
Yeah.
00:51:12.880 --> 00:51:15.920
You know, um, in the moment, you bring a bias.
00:51:16.000 --> 00:51:19.519
We always bring a bias because we bring our skin color, we bring our upbringing.
00:51:20.239 --> 00:51:22.159
Um, but our experiences.
00:51:22.400 --> 00:51:23.519
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:51:23.760 --> 00:51:27.440
But you know, you had to go in there and be like, whoa, this is crazy, but this is cool.
00:51:27.679 --> 00:51:28.159
Yeah, exactly.
00:51:29.039 --> 00:51:30.880
Anywho, I thought that was so interesting.
00:51:31.039 --> 00:51:36.079
So I chose that little article, and I guess you know what that could be.
00:51:36.400 --> 00:51:38.639
A believe it sister.
00:51:40.800 --> 00:51:42.320
Believe it, Chatterpa.
00:51:43.440 --> 00:51:45.039
That's probably a chat sister.
00:51:45.599 --> 00:51:46.320
What's her name?
00:51:46.480 --> 00:51:47.119
Chatterpa.
00:51:47.440 --> 00:51:48.159
Chatterpa.
00:51:48.480 --> 00:51:49.280
Oh, Chattopa.
00:51:49.599 --> 00:51:51.360
Girl, you over there looking at Chatterpa?
00:51:52.000 --> 00:51:52.719
Chatea.
00:51:53.119 --> 00:51:53.840
That's her name.
00:51:54.079 --> 00:51:54.800
Chatea.
00:51:55.119 --> 00:51:57.519
Claude already snuck, because I knew a lot of black Clauds.
00:51:57.599 --> 00:51:57.679
Yeah.
00:51:57.840 --> 00:51:59.519
They were always old and smoked cigars.
00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:00.880
Down there in photo.
00:52:02.480 --> 00:52:03.199
Oh, man.
00:52:03.360 --> 00:52:03.760
All right.
00:52:03.840 --> 00:52:04.960
So let's move on.
00:52:05.199 --> 00:52:05.519
Okay.
00:52:05.760 --> 00:52:07.280
So I chose this.
00:52:07.519 --> 00:52:08.960
And I'm gonna read this.
00:52:09.119 --> 00:52:09.440
Okay.
00:52:09.760 --> 00:52:12.239
All right, so in our life.
00:52:12.639 --> 00:52:15.039
Because we did not do the calendar thing that we talked about.
00:52:15.199 --> 00:52:16.159
No, it's we didn't.
00:52:16.239 --> 00:52:17.280
So we told y'all to do it.
00:52:17.360 --> 00:52:18.400
But it's just like teachers.
00:52:18.480 --> 00:52:19.679
Hey, we tell y'all to do homework.
00:52:19.760 --> 00:52:20.639
We don't do it, we just grade it.
00:52:20.880 --> 00:52:22.000
Do as we say, not as we do.
00:52:22.320 --> 00:52:22.800
That's right.
00:52:23.039 --> 00:52:23.840
We grade it.
00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:24.960
Don't do that.
00:52:26.480 --> 00:52:28.159
But anywho, all right.
00:52:28.320 --> 00:52:30.079
So, how about you tell me?
00:52:30.400 --> 00:52:30.800
Yes.
00:52:31.039 --> 00:52:38.559
In this busy life of ours, in the life of providing provisions always being there.
00:52:38.800 --> 00:52:39.440
Yeah.
00:52:40.000 --> 00:52:46.079
And knowing that the mighty Gody God may not give us what we want, but he always gives us what we need.
00:52:46.320 --> 00:52:46.880
Uh-huh.
00:52:47.280 --> 00:52:50.880
What is one thing that you need from me?
00:52:51.599 --> 00:52:53.119
What do I need?
00:52:53.440 --> 00:52:54.400
And it was a great question.
00:52:54.559 --> 00:52:57.039
Cree, give her credit for doing this question for today.
00:52:57.280 --> 00:52:59.119
I'm just gonna be the one that reads it.
00:52:59.360 --> 00:53:00.000
Yes.
00:53:00.239 --> 00:53:05.840
Um, I think I'm just thinking about how busy that um we will be.
00:53:05.920 --> 00:53:10.000
I'm so happy that this past couple weeks have kind of slowed down.
00:53:10.159 --> 00:53:12.559
The one slowed down because of Kimani.
00:53:12.719 --> 00:53:13.599
I had to go help Kimani.
00:53:13.760 --> 00:53:16.320
So I had to cancel almost all of that week.
00:53:16.400 --> 00:53:19.920
And I think my people probably realize, wait, I need a little bit of a break too.
00:53:20.159 --> 00:53:21.840
Um, so I'm thankful for that.
00:53:21.920 --> 00:53:26.800
I I mean, I'm not gonna, my little check is gonna be a little, my little extra check is gonna be a little short.
00:53:26.880 --> 00:53:28.960
But I think my body really needed it too.
00:53:29.039 --> 00:53:33.920
So um I actually am grateful for that, and I'll be will be I'll be fine.
00:53:34.159 --> 00:53:57.199
Um, so but because we're gonna be so busy, um, I think what I know that I will need is just connection time, meaning nothing big or major, but like like when I said, let's go get ice cream or let's go do like just something that's just that we kind of go and do.
00:53:57.280 --> 00:54:03.199
It don't have to be a long, drawn-out day, even if it's an hour that we go kind of do ice cream or we go.
00:54:04.559 --> 00:54:06.960
What's something else that we like to do?
00:54:07.679 --> 00:54:14.320
Um yesterday was great because you just went to Trader Joe's with me.
00:54:14.559 --> 00:54:14.639
Yeah.
00:54:15.280 --> 00:54:16.159
I didn't go on no Trader Joe's.
00:54:16.320 --> 00:54:19.280
I wasn't gonna go to Trader Joe's and I was like, I should go.
00:54:19.440 --> 00:54:20.320
And so I did.
00:54:20.400 --> 00:54:24.960
I got up and got dressed and did all things so we could go, and I still got all the things I needed to get done, done.
00:54:25.039 --> 00:54:34.400
So um so just so that is like just to make sure that we find a time to do something, even though we're so busy.
00:54:34.559 --> 00:54:44.880
So if it means like Sunday is our day, then we kind of go do something, or Saturday afternoon, because Saturday afternoons we because I know you're gonna maybe see clients on Saturday, but that will be the same for me.
00:54:45.199 --> 00:54:57.599
So even if it means Saturday afternoon, we just kind of do something that is just together, even if it's go for a walk, even if it's ice cream, even if it's go to Barnes and Noble's, just something that some connection.
00:54:57.760 --> 00:54:58.159
Some connection.
00:54:58.400 --> 00:54:58.719
Some skin.
00:54:58.960 --> 00:55:03.760
I'm gonna make sure we do that because this next, yeah.
00:55:03.920 --> 00:55:06.639
And I don't want it just to be like just connect for intimacy.
00:55:06.960 --> 00:55:08.480
Yeah, no, I know the other connection.
00:55:09.119 --> 00:55:12.000
Like I said, we have to have a touch.
00:55:12.159 --> 00:55:12.639
Yeah.
00:55:12.960 --> 00:55:17.119
You know, because sitting across from I know just looking.
00:55:17.840 --> 00:55:22.480
But like I said, even when we walk, like if we hold in hands, if we're doing or we go to we can even do a movie date.
00:55:22.559 --> 00:55:25.360
Yeah, it's just something like it's the the energy transfer.
00:55:25.519 --> 00:55:26.639
Yeah, you have to do that.
00:55:26.719 --> 00:55:28.960
You have to make sure that energy is there.
00:55:29.039 --> 00:55:31.119
You have to connect, you have to charge.
00:55:31.280 --> 00:55:34.800
So I just want to make sure that we do that and don't be like, oh, I'm too busy.
00:55:35.039 --> 00:55:40.559
Because I can get that, I know I get that way when things get so busy, I'll be getting so task-oriented.
00:55:41.360 --> 00:55:44.480
And then, so that's what I need from you.
00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:49.199
So you what do you need from me?
00:55:49.760 --> 00:55:54.960
Um I mean, I could say a f a few things.
00:55:55.199 --> 00:55:55.679
Well no.
00:55:56.320 --> 00:55:56.719
But no.
00:55:57.039 --> 00:56:00.159
Oh, we only said one thing, so what's the one thing you need the most?
00:56:00.639 --> 00:56:07.119
Um I just need.
00:56:10.159 --> 00:56:13.519
I mean, you already give it to me a safe space.
00:56:14.559 --> 00:56:18.639
But I just I need you know, I continue to give me the safe space.
00:56:18.880 --> 00:56:22.639
How do I provide a safe space so I know what I'm doing to keep doing it?
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What does that look like?
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How do I do that?
00:56:25.760 --> 00:56:27.039
How you doing, honey bun?
00:56:28.159 --> 00:56:29.679
You know, honey bunny, how was your day?
00:56:29.760 --> 00:56:36.800
You know, just the little sm the small intricacies of that Oh, and I say what you did with your life today.
00:56:37.039 --> 00:56:43.519
Yeah, and just like the just the the knee rub or something, just the subtle, it's it's soothing.
00:56:43.679 --> 00:56:49.199
It's my security blanket, it's my um, you know, just rubbing the back of my neck.
00:56:49.280 --> 00:56:54.960
It's my you know, because you, you know, like when I'm tired, I'll go, you know, I rub my neck, I rub my head, you know, I'll be like, ah.
00:56:55.280 --> 00:56:55.519
You do.
00:56:55.760 --> 00:57:03.360
You know, it's just so just that is like it it reaffirms that it's good.
00:57:03.679 --> 00:57:04.480
Everything is good.
00:57:04.639 --> 00:57:11.840
It's like you know, like um in the movie Rachel.
00:57:13.119 --> 00:57:30.079
When um well, remember when he was blind and he couldn't do something, his mom was that somebody wanted to do it, and he was like, nope, and she was crying that she couldn't do it because but she knew if he fought through it enough, he would be better for it.
00:57:30.159 --> 00:57:30.480
Yeah.
00:57:31.039 --> 00:57:34.159
Similar to, you know, I'm gonna be tired.
00:57:34.559 --> 00:57:42.880
You know, I'm gonna be whatever, but just to know that you were there to see me go through it, knowing that I'm gonna be better for it.
00:57:43.039 --> 00:57:49.280
Not saying that you, you know, could do anything about it, but sometimes just knowing it gives us the confidence.
00:57:49.760 --> 00:57:53.199
You know, like like you're you're teaching me how to ride a bike.
00:57:53.360 --> 00:58:05.039
You took my training wheels off, and you're holding my shirt, and I'm riding because I know you're there, I'm confident that I ain't gonna fall because you're gonna catch me, and then all of a sudden you've been let go a long time ago.
00:58:05.440 --> 00:58:08.719
But my confidence was there to know I can get keep going through.
00:58:08.960 --> 00:58:15.119
So on these tired moments, I just need that little reminder of my training wheels are there.
00:58:15.199 --> 00:58:21.920
Like, like, you know, you're there to catch, just catch me emotionally, just catch me physically, just catch me whenever.
00:58:22.159 --> 00:58:25.519
Um, because it definitely is gonna be a lot.
00:58:25.840 --> 00:58:26.719
You know what I mean?
00:58:27.039 --> 00:58:34.079
But just to know that, man, I got something home that is my safe haven.
00:58:34.320 --> 00:58:35.840
It's my safe space.
00:58:36.079 --> 00:58:40.400
It's not well, you need to hear them figure it out because I'm tired too.
00:58:41.039 --> 00:58:43.599
You know, which a lot of people get that from people.
00:58:44.239 --> 00:58:48.960
So I just I just need I just need you to continue to be my safe.
00:58:49.119 --> 00:58:53.679
I don't I don't I know I don't have to ask you, but that's okay, reminder.
00:58:54.000 --> 00:58:56.960
Yeah, I mean just I mean, you know, just it.
00:58:57.599 --> 00:58:58.000
Yeah.
00:58:59.199 --> 00:58:59.840
That's all I'm gonna do.
00:59:00.079 --> 00:59:00.480
Perfection.
00:59:03.760 --> 00:59:04.159
All right.
00:59:04.400 --> 00:59:06.639
All right, so mental health tip of the week.
00:59:09.679 --> 00:59:18.000
My mental health tip of the week is and I've been sharing this for the last week or so.
00:59:18.320 --> 00:59:18.880
Oh my god.
00:59:19.760 --> 00:59:34.000
Um my mental health tip is assess or reflect on what are my true coping skills or coping strategies when life is challenging.
00:59:34.159 --> 00:59:35.599
Because what I'm finding.
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Say it again now.
00:59:37.280 --> 00:59:39.440
What coping skill or strategies?
00:59:39.599 --> 00:59:41.679
Like reflect or assess yours.
00:59:41.920 --> 00:59:42.719
Okay, assess it.
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Okay, okay.
00:59:43.679 --> 00:59:45.840
Um, because they're working, it may not be working.
00:59:46.000 --> 00:59:47.360
If they're working, okay, gotcha.
00:59:47.679 --> 00:59:48.960
Are they healthy?
00:59:50.079 --> 00:59:53.760
Um are they, yeah, are they working?
00:59:53.920 --> 00:59:54.559
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:59:54.719 --> 00:59:59.360
Um, because I think as or do I even have any?
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Because some um I'm finding that there are lots of adults who don't, who don't have them.
01:00:08.719 --> 01:00:15.119
Um, and they think, well, I'll just go to bed and wake up the next day, and that's how I get through it.
01:00:15.360 --> 01:00:16.559
Or they just mask it.
01:00:16.719 --> 01:00:18.239
And mask it and nothing ever gets better.
01:00:18.320 --> 01:00:20.079
So, oh, my coping strategies go to work.
01:00:20.239 --> 01:00:24.159
I mean, if I I work out after work, say, but you're not getting better.
01:00:24.400 --> 01:00:24.719
No.
01:00:24.960 --> 01:00:32.800
You go to work, but like, how can you minimize the instances of needing that escapism?
01:00:33.119 --> 01:00:35.519
But on top of that, you've got to have more than one.
01:00:35.840 --> 01:00:38.320
So there are people who just use working out.
01:00:38.800 --> 01:00:40.239
Well, what happens if you get injured?
01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:41.360
Oh, see, yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:00:41.519 --> 01:00:42.079
What you gonna do?
01:00:42.400 --> 01:00:43.440
What are you gonna do then?
01:00:43.679 --> 01:00:44.880
Your gym clothes.
01:00:45.119 --> 01:00:47.599
You cannot just depend on the one thing.
01:00:47.760 --> 01:00:48.159
That's true.
01:00:48.320 --> 01:00:56.000
So you need to so that is my help, my mental health tip is to assess and reflect on what are your coping strategies.
01:00:56.079 --> 01:01:04.159
You need to have at least three that are your go-to, and they can't be all in the same kind of realm of things, they need to be something different.
01:01:04.239 --> 01:01:05.840
So perhaps it is for me.
01:01:06.079 --> 01:01:11.119
I will say, like a run, a bike ride, it just I'm gonna do it.
01:01:11.280 --> 01:01:16.079
Um, for one, I want to be healthy, but for two, I just like it.
01:01:16.239 --> 01:01:20.159
And it just makes me feel accomplished, yeah, makes me feel good.
01:01:20.239 --> 01:01:23.840
Yeah, um, and then music.
01:01:24.800 --> 01:01:28.079
I think music is important for me in that.
01:01:28.480 --> 01:01:31.760
And for me, I do like to scroll.
01:01:32.000 --> 01:01:37.039
I I might scroll too much, but I can say my algorithm is positive.
01:01:37.280 --> 01:01:45.920
So when I scroll, I'm gonna get prayers, I'm gonna get motivational statements, I'm gonna get stories that say, oh man, look how grateful they are.
01:01:46.079 --> 01:01:47.679
Like it's gonna be stuff like that.
01:01:47.760 --> 01:01:49.519
So it makes me feel good.
01:01:49.760 --> 01:01:53.119
But if you're out, you need to know your algorithm in order to do that.
01:01:53.360 --> 01:01:54.639
You can reset your algorithm too.
01:01:54.880 --> 01:01:56.000
You can reset your algorithm.
01:01:56.159 --> 01:01:57.039
And you can reset it.
01:01:57.119 --> 01:02:02.239
And then for me, I think my other one for me coping is to make other people feel good.
01:02:02.400 --> 01:02:10.559
So whether that's through a compliment or if it's through a message to somebody, like when I do that, that makes me feel good when I do that for somebody else.
01:02:10.719 --> 01:02:13.039
So, but like, so what are yours?
01:02:13.280 --> 01:02:23.199
And then with that, once you assess and reflect, then you also need to practice those daily, not just when things are tough.
01:02:23.440 --> 01:02:37.519
So I call it the boarding your home like in a hurricane, so that when the tough times come, because we all have challenging days, you're already well because you've been doing a thing.
01:02:37.599 --> 01:02:41.360
So if you got to tap into action and get a coping, well, I've been doing them.
01:02:41.920 --> 01:02:48.639
So I can go right into action, and whatever is challenging is not gonna feel challenging for long because I've been doing the work.
01:02:48.800 --> 01:02:50.639
So that's my mental health tip.
01:02:51.119 --> 01:02:51.679
Good job.
01:02:51.840 --> 01:02:52.719
Good job.
01:02:53.199 --> 01:02:55.280
Mine comes from Adam Grant again.
01:02:55.440 --> 01:02:55.760
Okay.
01:02:56.079 --> 01:03:14.159
Um, when he said, develop your confidence in the fear as opposed to trying to gain confidence before you do the thing, you know, that's fearful or hard or tough.
01:03:14.320 --> 01:03:16.320
Um and what he did, he gave an example.
01:03:16.400 --> 01:03:27.599
He was um on a dive team, and he was said that he was not a good diver, but he had a great coach that said, if you really want to be here, I'll never cut anybody that really wants to be on the team.
01:03:27.840 --> 01:03:36.960
And so he said he could barely swim and all this stuff, and he wound up by his junior his junior year in high school, this is his ninth grade year, by his junior year in high school, he was all state.
01:03:37.119 --> 01:03:39.519
By his senior year, he was topped in the nation.
01:03:40.239 --> 01:03:45.199
And so he said there was one day when he had to dive off a diving board very high.
01:03:45.360 --> 01:03:52.320
He was gonna do these different um difficult uh flips, and he got up there and he was really nervous and scared to do it.
01:03:52.480 --> 01:03:55.280
And he was trying to gain the confidence to do it.
01:03:55.440 --> 01:04:00.239
And he was just scared that he was gonna uh belly flop or hurt his neck or something like that.
01:04:00.320 --> 01:04:02.000
And the coach said, Are you gonna jump?
01:04:02.159 --> 01:04:03.199
He said, I want to.
01:04:03.360 --> 01:04:05.360
He said, Well, jump.
01:04:05.519 --> 01:04:08.880
And he said, I he said, I'm scared, I'm trying to get my confidence.
01:04:09.039 --> 01:04:13.039
He said, No, you don't gain your confidence and then jump.
01:04:13.360 --> 01:04:17.840
He said, You jump, and through the jump, you begin to gain confidence.
01:04:18.320 --> 01:04:25.679
And so a lot of times, same thing with this uh podcast, I had the equipment for almost three plus years, four years maybe.
01:04:25.840 --> 01:04:31.119
And I was worried about it not looking as professional, not being good at it, not doing great.
01:04:31.280 --> 01:04:35.679
I mean, even still, you know, the second season, yes, we had a nice backdrop and all that stuff.
01:04:35.840 --> 01:04:37.199
The lighting wasn't as great.
01:04:37.280 --> 01:04:41.280
You know, we it took a while to try to even get the sound right, and it's not even there yet.
01:04:41.679 --> 01:04:47.760
Um, but what's happening is in the process of it, we're developing our style.
01:04:47.920 --> 01:04:49.519
We're developing our confidence.
01:04:50.400 --> 01:04:54.000
Um, many people were not great the first time they tried.
01:04:54.639 --> 01:04:55.119
Anything.
01:04:55.519 --> 01:04:55.840
Right.
01:04:56.079 --> 01:05:00.559
And but they continued to do so and became great at it.
01:05:00.719 --> 01:05:07.679
You know, um, you think about a bestseller, a person that writes, the get their first written anything.
01:05:07.760 --> 01:05:10.079
You can't say, oh my God, from day one they was perfect.
01:05:10.159 --> 01:05:13.519
It was probably, you know, it wasn't even legible because they were young.
01:05:14.000 --> 01:05:19.440
You know, they probably couldn't even spell cat, but they continued and continued and continued over time.
01:05:19.519 --> 01:05:23.599
If they stayed true to their dreams and their goals, they became who they are today.
01:05:23.760 --> 01:05:32.880
And so I tell you, um experience gaining your confidence in the time in the trouble.
01:05:33.119 --> 01:05:35.599
Gain your confidence in the lack of.
01:05:36.239 --> 01:05:36.800
You know?
01:05:37.039 --> 01:05:42.880
Um, start developing your your your wounds, your scabs, you know, your war stories.
01:05:43.440 --> 01:05:52.159
And before long you'll find out that all the stuff you were worried about is way past you now.
01:05:52.480 --> 01:05:57.599
And that you are more successful because of the fact that you just jumped in it and started swimming.
01:05:58.000 --> 01:05:59.599
So that's my health tip.
01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:01.519
So, in other words, just do it.
01:06:01.760 --> 01:06:02.159
Just do it.
01:06:02.239 --> 01:06:03.199
And like you said it, man.
01:06:03.280 --> 01:06:03.920
You know, just do it.
01:06:04.159 --> 01:06:06.079
So I'd say, you know, get into it, man.
01:06:06.480 --> 01:06:06.800
Get it.
01:06:06.960 --> 01:06:07.519
Go get it.
01:06:07.679 --> 01:06:08.320
It's yours.
01:06:08.400 --> 01:06:08.719
You know?
01:06:08.800 --> 01:06:10.320
Um, I didn't have my daydream.
01:06:10.400 --> 01:06:12.000
I I love this little band I got.
01:06:12.079 --> 01:06:14.800
It says, uh, never quit your daydream.
01:06:14.960 --> 01:06:20.000
And I tried to wear that little rubber band all the time because I daydream all the time.
01:06:20.239 --> 01:06:22.400
And it's so easy for me to quit my daydream.
01:06:22.559 --> 01:06:25.760
And sometimes I do, but Kree was like, no, don't do it, don't quit it.
01:06:25.920 --> 01:06:28.400
And God always shows me a quick reminder.
01:06:28.559 --> 01:06:32.079
You know, even when we're reality TV or something like that, I say, you know, I ain't doing no TV no more.
01:06:32.320 --> 01:06:33.599
Screw it, let me just focus on this.
01:06:33.760 --> 01:06:38.400
Something always occurs where somebody recognizes me and an opportunity comes up out of it.
01:06:38.639 --> 01:06:39.360
Always.
01:06:39.519 --> 01:06:39.840
Yeah.
01:06:40.079 --> 01:06:44.880
And so God put those things in my heart because He has bigger things for me even now.
01:06:45.119 --> 01:06:47.199
I know I'm going to be on television again.
01:06:47.360 --> 01:06:50.800
I know I am, and I'm going to be able to still be who I am, my true self.
01:06:51.199 --> 01:06:53.920
Every time I've been on TV, I've always been who I am.
01:06:54.079 --> 01:06:59.360
You know, and so that's even when I was in hip hop area, I was who I was a silly person dancing in this costume.
01:06:59.440 --> 01:07:01.199
You never knew, but that's who I am.
01:07:01.440 --> 01:07:03.519
You know, so God has always been there for me.
01:07:03.679 --> 01:07:05.280
So get into it, man.
01:07:05.360 --> 01:07:05.760
Get into it.
01:07:05.840 --> 01:07:07.360
All right, what are you grateful for?
01:07:07.599 --> 01:07:12.079
Um, I will say I'm grateful for my experience at your school.
01:07:12.320 --> 01:07:21.039
Um, just the sometimes you go, you know how you can do well, but you go into some places and people don't want to tell you that it went well.
01:07:21.280 --> 01:07:24.400
They are so good at they they they pour praise on you.
01:07:24.639 --> 01:07:31.280
Oh man, they just really pour if you don't feel good leaving that building, you're in and out of that building.
01:07:31.519 --> 01:07:32.880
In and out of that building.
01:07:33.039 --> 01:07:33.679
I don't know.
01:07:34.000 --> 01:07:35.119
It got to be you.
01:07:35.360 --> 01:07:35.760
Yes.
01:07:35.920 --> 01:07:47.760
Um, but yeah, I was just so grateful that they felt like I needed, even though like Elizabeth came and talked to me after, but before that, I mean one of the teachers came in.
01:07:47.840 --> 01:07:49.280
She's like, I just had to come in.
01:07:49.440 --> 01:07:54.960
So it's just like the feeling of people feeling like they have to tell you, like, because they don't have to do anything.
01:07:55.280 --> 01:08:10.159
Like I do um, I do uh feedback at the end of the session, and they can offer that feedback there, but to feel like you personally want to come and tell me it's it's different how well um you felt like I did.
01:08:10.239 --> 01:08:16.560
Um yeah, I'm just so grateful that they felt like they wanted to make sure to come and tell me.
01:08:16.800 --> 01:08:23.439
Um, it really made me um ponder what to do in the future.
01:08:23.520 --> 01:08:26.000
Because you was like, I know I supposed to be doing something bigger.
01:08:26.560 --> 01:08:27.199
You are.
01:08:27.439 --> 01:08:29.600
Yeah, it really made me ponder that.
01:08:30.960 --> 01:08:33.760
That's God's way of saying, look, I told you, I got it.
01:08:33.920 --> 01:08:34.159
Yeah.
01:08:34.399 --> 01:08:36.560
So, anyways, it really did make me ponder.
01:08:36.720 --> 01:08:46.479
And so I was um, yeah, that was uh very grateful, and and I I do feel like God speaks through other people for us to hear.
01:08:46.640 --> 01:08:49.760
Like sometimes people say it's a whisper, but sometimes it could be through somebody else.
01:08:49.920 --> 01:08:50.159
Yeah.
01:08:50.319 --> 01:08:54.640
Um, so anyways, I am grateful for that this uh past week.
01:08:54.800 --> 01:08:56.239
What are you grateful for?
01:08:56.560 --> 01:08:58.399
Um It's gonna sound crazy.
01:08:58.560 --> 01:08:59.760
I'm grateful for the car note.
01:09:00.319 --> 01:09:01.039
Oh gosh.
01:09:01.199 --> 01:09:01.840
You know what I mean?
01:09:01.920 --> 01:09:07.680
I know it's crazy, but it's like it's so I felt confident.
01:09:07.840 --> 01:09:08.960
I mean, just going to work.
01:09:09.359 --> 01:09:11.199
I wasn't, oh, I gotta dodge this pothole.
01:09:11.279 --> 01:09:12.560
I gotta, you know what I mean?
01:09:12.800 --> 01:09:15.680
Because if I hit something wrong, that bad boy with the Jeep, right?
01:09:16.479 --> 01:09:22.000
Yeah, and it's like I gotta do this, and I uh it just felt so comfortable.
01:09:23.039 --> 01:09:28.960
And I know God would have said no, because he's done it with our houses, like when we was trying to get a house, he was like, no, no, no, no, no.
01:09:29.119 --> 01:09:30.319
Yes, now's the time.
01:09:30.560 --> 01:09:31.199
You know what I mean?
01:09:31.279 --> 01:09:35.119
Yeah, and so I know he's doing it because we, you know, I didn't want a car note.
01:09:35.439 --> 01:09:40.159
Um, but yeah, I needed it, and I know it's gonna provide.
01:09:40.239 --> 01:09:41.279
He always does.
01:09:41.439 --> 01:09:42.479
I'm just I'm grateful.
01:09:42.800 --> 01:09:44.319
And you were still reasonable.
01:09:44.399 --> 01:09:47.279
Yeah, we're still very reasonable in what we decided on.
01:09:47.520 --> 01:09:48.000
I'm grateful.
01:09:48.079 --> 01:09:52.800
Like I said last time, man, I'm grateful for the provisions because he's always been provided.
01:09:53.279 --> 01:10:06.960
And he's provided like with that job, and for you to feel what I feel at that place makes me feel good because now, like, even when they see me, they see you, and they just like you know what?
01:10:07.039 --> 01:10:08.000
I felt the opposite.
01:10:08.159 --> 01:10:26.159
I felt like because I've been to church school before, and I know it was under different different leadership or whatever, but I feel like them meeting you, and even though they're like, I remember Kree coming, but I think the connection was different because it was like she wasn't just talking hoo-e-foo-y, yeah.
01:10:26.319 --> 01:10:33.199
Like that really is who she is because now we've met her husband, which I talk about in my trainings.
01:10:33.359 --> 01:10:35.359
Yeah, and so now they're like, well, that's all real.
01:10:35.439 --> 01:10:38.239
So she re that's what Elizabeth said when I was on business.
01:10:38.800 --> 01:10:45.199
She said, You you guys really are like just two of a kind for each other.
01:10:45.439 --> 01:10:51.840
So y'all are always positive, the and people just gravitate, you know, the to your to your spirit.
01:10:52.319 --> 01:10:53.439
And I was like, I don't know.
01:10:53.600 --> 01:10:56.880
She said, Oh, I knew it when we when we interviewed, she said, I knew, you know.
01:10:57.119 --> 01:10:58.399
And it just made me feel so good.
01:10:58.479 --> 01:11:05.199
And I feel so good there, and it just makes you it makes you shine differently.
01:11:05.920 --> 01:11:06.560
You know what I mean?
01:11:07.439 --> 01:11:11.199
It's like God, like, like he took off the the the layer of dust.
01:11:11.359 --> 01:11:11.680
Yeah.
01:11:11.920 --> 01:11:12.159
You know.
01:11:12.640 --> 01:11:24.880
Because I think that sometimes when you have presenters and people who come from the district office, and I know people already told me prior to this, like the connection or however I connect with people is just they're like, you're great at this.
01:11:25.039 --> 01:11:25.600
Right, you are.
01:11:25.840 --> 01:11:29.439
But I think in your school, I don't know.
01:11:29.600 --> 01:11:35.279
I just feel like it just made it me seem real.
01:11:36.000 --> 01:11:39.199
Because sometimes you just wonder, oh, that's just she just coming here playing.
01:11:39.520 --> 01:11:40.880
Telling something saying, playing like that.
01:11:41.039 --> 01:11:41.680
Saying something, yeah.
01:11:42.159 --> 01:11:46.720
And then I think it made them really say, oh no, like that really is who she is.
01:11:46.800 --> 01:11:47.840
That is coach hair wife.
01:11:48.000 --> 01:11:48.159
Yeah.
01:11:49.359 --> 01:11:49.920
Yeah, I see them.
01:11:50.079 --> 01:11:50.239
Yeah.
01:11:50.479 --> 01:11:50.720
Uh-huh.
01:11:50.960 --> 01:11:52.239
So anyway, so yeah.
01:11:52.479 --> 01:11:53.359
Yeah, it's different.
01:11:53.840 --> 01:11:54.079
All right.
01:11:54.159 --> 01:11:55.680
So what are you looking forward to?
01:11:56.000 --> 01:11:56.479
Ew.
01:11:56.880 --> 01:12:03.920
Oh, I'm looking forward to presenting to the lovely ladies of Delta Sigma Theta Sorry Incorporated.
01:12:04.159 --> 01:12:04.399
Okay.
01:12:04.640 --> 01:12:12.800
This Saturday, I will be presenting at their mini conference for the Atlanta suburban chapter.
01:12:13.680 --> 01:12:15.199
Um, yeah, I'm presenting.
01:12:15.439 --> 01:12:23.119
Yeah, I'm presenting more self-care um for black women, taking care of themselves.
01:12:23.359 --> 01:12:26.000
So um, I'm really looking forward to that.
01:12:26.159 --> 01:12:30.880
I worked on a slide deck that is beautiful.
01:12:31.680 --> 01:12:34.159
The black women on my slide deck.
01:12:35.600 --> 01:12:40.239
Reflective of what they oh, it's just so beautiful.
01:12:40.560 --> 01:12:42.560
It just makes me feel good just looking at it.
01:12:42.640 --> 01:12:55.359
So I'm hoping the way I feel looking at it, it just transcends to the ladies that I present along with my good old information and and strategies for them.
01:12:55.600 --> 01:12:57.920
But um, yeah, so I'm looking forward to that.
01:12:58.000 --> 01:13:00.000
Um, I think all will be amazing.
01:13:00.159 --> 01:13:00.319
Yeah.
01:13:00.479 --> 01:13:01.520
What are you looking forward to?
01:13:01.680 --> 01:13:11.199
I'm I'm honestly looking forward to a break, whether it's if we do decide to go out of town, you know, one of the labor days or the break.
01:13:11.840 --> 01:13:14.880
Just, you know, just I just want to go somewhere and be lazy.
01:13:15.039 --> 01:13:15.840
Yeah, yeah.
01:13:16.000 --> 01:13:17.439
I'm looking forward to it.
01:13:17.680 --> 01:13:20.720
I don't know where, but we do have to remove ourselves from the crib, though.
01:13:20.800 --> 01:13:21.279
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:13:21.520 --> 01:13:23.359
Because if not, we're gonna find something right.
01:13:23.760 --> 01:13:23.920
Yeah.
01:13:24.159 --> 01:13:26.960
I wanna Yeah, I just want to go somewhere and just kind of just be lazy.
01:13:27.119 --> 01:13:27.359
Yeah.
01:13:27.600 --> 01:13:30.000
I wanna I want a day of hotel only.
01:13:30.399 --> 01:13:31.359
I want a hotel only.
01:13:31.840 --> 01:13:33.039
And order food in?
01:13:33.279 --> 01:13:33.359
Yeah.
01:13:33.439 --> 01:13:36.800
Well I don't know if we're gonna order food in, but at least where we could kind of walk to the food.
01:13:36.880 --> 01:13:37.520
You know what I mean?
01:13:37.680 --> 01:13:40.079
Like, cause hotel food don't be good.
01:13:40.720 --> 01:13:42.800
Now, Greenville was good.
01:13:42.960 --> 01:13:46.640
I would give you that Greenville was good, but I can't think of no other hotel where the food was good.
01:13:46.800 --> 01:13:47.039
Yeah.
01:13:47.279 --> 01:13:48.000
I really can't.
01:13:48.239 --> 01:13:48.560
Okay.
01:13:48.960 --> 01:13:53.119
And so um, I mean, if you can, then correct me and then we move it.
01:13:53.359 --> 01:13:58.720
But anyway, um, I'm looking forward to just getting it together.
01:13:58.880 --> 01:13:59.520
You know what I'm saying?
01:13:59.760 --> 01:14:02.000
We might go back to Greenville, because remember, we didn't get a good food experience.
01:14:02.239 --> 01:14:03.199
So we might need to go read it.
01:14:03.359 --> 01:14:05.680
The only thing we had was at the hotel and the sweet potato cake.
01:14:05.760 --> 01:14:06.720
And the sweet potato cake.
01:14:06.800 --> 01:14:08.960
And everybody was like, we're gonna do a better job.
01:14:09.039 --> 01:14:11.359
I mean, everybody said, Y'all didn't go here, y'all didn't go there.
01:14:11.520 --> 01:14:12.479
So we might need to do a region.
01:14:12.800 --> 01:14:14.720
Yeah, do a region of Greenville.
01:14:15.039 --> 01:14:15.680
So that's it.
01:14:15.760 --> 01:14:16.960
That's what I'm looking forward to.
01:14:17.199 --> 01:14:18.399
Um, yeah.
01:14:18.560 --> 01:14:20.880
Oh, and listening to Money today about his first day.
01:14:21.039 --> 01:14:21.840
Did you get to hear him?
01:14:21.920 --> 01:14:22.079
No.
01:14:22.560 --> 01:14:23.680
You already talked to him?
01:14:24.880 --> 01:14:25.920
You're a bustle.
01:14:26.079 --> 01:14:26.640
A taint.
01:14:26.960 --> 01:14:28.079
But I told him I'm gonna get off the phone.
01:14:28.319 --> 01:14:29.119
Ain't no tainting.
01:14:29.439 --> 01:14:31.439
See, well, I already knew you did.
01:14:32.159 --> 01:14:32.880
How did you know?
01:14:33.119 --> 01:14:34.319
Because I just know you.
01:14:34.399 --> 01:14:35.199
You can't wait.
01:14:35.359 --> 01:14:36.640
Yes, because I called him.
01:14:36.800 --> 01:14:40.399
He was like, mom, so you called the first, you called the first training time and all that.
01:14:40.479 --> 01:14:41.920
I just know you, which is fine.
01:14:42.159 --> 01:14:45.600
You went, you took your, you drove your baby to to work.
01:14:45.840 --> 01:14:46.960
First, first day at work.
01:14:47.119 --> 01:14:47.279
Yes.
01:14:47.359 --> 01:14:48.239
And then I told him, I was.
01:14:48.560 --> 01:14:49.039
Which is fine.
01:14:49.199 --> 01:14:49.920
This is why I told him.
01:14:50.479 --> 01:14:52.880
I said, Well, I'm gonna phone to tell me too much more.
01:14:52.960 --> 01:14:56.079
I said, because I gotta call you back and pretend like I ain't talked to you with your daddy.
01:14:56.239 --> 01:14:56.399
Right.
01:14:56.720 --> 01:14:57.920
He said, okay, my.
01:14:58.319 --> 01:14:59.039
I already know.
01:14:59.520 --> 01:15:00.159
Have your moment.
01:15:00.239 --> 01:15:00.640
That's you.
01:15:00.720 --> 01:15:01.520
You're gonna need that.
01:15:02.159 --> 01:15:03.840
So um, that's it.
01:15:04.000 --> 01:15:04.319
All right.
01:15:04.399 --> 01:15:06.880
Um, so ladies and gentlemen, thank y'all for your patience.
01:15:06.960 --> 01:15:08.239
I know we gotta get back on schedule.
01:15:08.319 --> 01:15:08.880
We will.
01:15:09.039 --> 01:15:10.960
Um, but y'all rocking with us.
01:15:11.119 --> 01:15:12.640
Share this one, you know.
01:15:12.800 --> 01:15:15.439
Um, and then we'll see you when we see you.
01:15:15.600 --> 01:15:18.640
This has been, sorry, the Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
01:15:18.960 --> 01:15:19.439
Podcast.
01:15:19.760 --> 01:15:20.880
I am Kifla.
01:15:21.279 --> 01:15:22.640
I'm Lucrecia.
01:15:23.359 --> 01:15:24.000
Yes.
01:15:24.239 --> 01:15:26.000
And um, we're doing it.
01:15:26.079 --> 01:15:28.960
Um 52 coming up for your boy soon.
01:15:30.479 --> 01:15:32.079
Yeah, we find on the two.
01:15:34.399 --> 01:15:36.319
Anyway, all right, y'all, we out of here.