Caring For Aging Parents Without Losing Yourself

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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
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When you get off your cleanse, we'll better put out.
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You sure you the that first day gave you a day to spell.
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One day.
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That first day you pooped like nine times.
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It gave you a day to spell.
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You probably had that cholesterol disease or whatever it was.
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Cauliflower.
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Alright, here we go.
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And three, two, and one that you say.
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Ready?
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And hey guys, we're back.
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Where have you been?
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Where have we been?
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All summer long.
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All summer long.
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Where?
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We're back.
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Yeah, we didn't go anywhere.
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Like we used to.
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Ooh, do ooh, ooh, ooh.
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Well, we did.
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Well, we didn't take a trip trip.
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Yeah.
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Anywho, we were busy.
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And anyways, we'll kick it to you with Welcome back to Refreshing Normal, you guys.
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I am Kefla.
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I'm Cree.
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Welcome to season two.
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Two.
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Yes.
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Can you believe it's been a year?
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I can't believe it.
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Amazing.
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Amazing.
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Yeah.
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Um, but we had a little hiatus, ladies and gentlemen.
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Um can I tell them what the hiatus?
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Go ahead.
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You could you could do whatever you want to do, baby.
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Well, as you can see, things have changed.
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Things have changed.
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Do you see all of our new little updating?
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Yeah.
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And lighting and colors.
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Right.
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And walls and the um the uh ambiance has changed.
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Yes, it has.
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And somebody has just been in his perfectionist bag.
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Yeah, been in it.
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Doing all of the things.
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And so we had to wait on this, and we had to wait on that, and we had to wait on this, and we had to wait on that, and we had to wait out of that.
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Come on, it ain't my fault.
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It's Cree's fault.
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So blame it on Cree.
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If she wasn't the perfect wife, I wouldn't want everything else in my life to be perfect.
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That's your story.
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So you ain't want to be perfect.
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Um, your perfect sticking to it.
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Perfect stuff started in 2003.
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No, see, sometimes when stuff is so good, that imposter syndrome set in, I was like, I don't deserve all this, everything to be so perfect with my wife.
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And I said, Yes, I do.
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Even with a perfect wife, everything else can be perfect as well.
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And I had clarity, guys.
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I guess the new season started with what's your song?
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Lice, lies, lies.
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So now we start.
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I just told a lie.
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Yes.
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I told a lie.
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I told a lie.
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Anywho.
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Like it.
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We back.
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We up in this thing.
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Yeah.
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So what's up?
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Oh, somebody fell down the stairs.
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Thankful.
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That's Kahar.
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Oh, he jumped.
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Do you miss it?
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Did you miss it?
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I'm sorry.
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Well, first of all, let me just tell you, I thought we wasn't coming back.
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Okay.
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First of all, can you not answer the question?
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So yeah, of course.
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All right.
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I missed it too.
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Uh-huh.
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What did you miss?
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I just missed, I missed the uh, because it was routine.
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Like it was truly routine.
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It was routine.
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We were, we were consistent, you know, for almost an entire year.
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Yeah.
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But I also see why people um film leave a lot in the tank, because when they do take a hiatus like this, they still push out the episodes.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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Because we were ripping, running, running, ripping, things happening.
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It could have been done.
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Yes.
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Of course it could have been.
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But um now we kind of know how to plan, how to shift, how to maneuver, stuff like that.
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So it's like, okay, so you know, to prepare for the summer, because what if, let's say, like you said, what if you mess around, you take a trip and you know, hey, we're somewhere, we're doing things.
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I knew all this already.
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You got stuff in the tank.
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I knew all this already.
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I did too.
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I knew it too.
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I knew we should have had stuff in the tank.
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I and then remember that one day we tried to film it.
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It was like that week.
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We tried, it just stuff wasn't working right.
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Um remember we tried to do the zoom, we couldn't do the zoom.
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I know, but I I what I'm saying is probably probably prior to me even going to Kansas that the tank should have been filled a lot.
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Of course, we've always said that.
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But anyhow, yeah.
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And then we when the tank wasn't filled, we still try to gas up on the way.
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Yeah.
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But anyhow, here we are.
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Here we are.
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Here we is.
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Yeah.
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So I mean, talk to me about your summer.
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What what what did you do?
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You know, I I was I was uh a single parent.
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Nicole, I was a single, I know how single moms feel.
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Know it.
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He know it.
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Child, please.
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Anywho, y'all already know I had to go to Kansas to take care of all of the people.
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And so that was three.
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But what y'all don't know is what y'all don't know.
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What y'all don't know.
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And my mama told me, you better not go on that podcast telling all the stuff.
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Plenty.
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I got plenty of stuff.
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I ought to blackmail up.
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LMA.
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I better have$2,000 in the bank if you don't want me to tell your biz.
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I better get some more uh what y'all bought me?
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Seasonings.
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The thing.
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Oh, yeah, some more seasonings.
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And what's the thing out there in the patio?
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The blackstone, some more blackstone accessories, or else we're telling you.
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We're telling all the details.
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Everything.
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Anyways, went to Kansas for three weeks to take care of all the people.
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Like I said, three weeks.
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Yeah.
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I was strong as hell them three weeks in the gym.
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Were you?
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Yep.
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It was three weeks.
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And I'ma tell y'all something.
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This is what I, you know, we always feel like, what do you learn from something?
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All you know, this and that.
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So I knew I was gonna have to go and do some things.
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She knew it.
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Um, because my mom is a caretaker for my dad and my uncle.
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And um, so now not only me being there, it was she was out down and out for her knee, getting a whole full knee replacement, but which means I had to take care of her plus who she cares for.
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So I had three people.
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So I I really felt like I was running um a nursing home because I had all the things going, taking care of all the people.
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And, you know, I don't believe in half-ass and things.
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Like I'm gonna take good care of people, and that's what I was there to do, especially your loved ones.
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Yes, and that's what I was there to do.
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And so, you know, making sure I did all those things.
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But the one thing I learned from it is for everybody to kind of think about your parents as they get older.
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What's the plan?
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Um, what is the plan for them?
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So when they get to a space where they can't do the things they normally could do for themselves, and um like what is the plan for how you will be able to help them?
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Um one lady we saw when I took my mom to PT, it was a lady that was coming out of PT, and my mama had to tell everybody that I was here taking care of every time we went.
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She got to tell everybody out of it.
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It's my daughter.
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It's my daughter.
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She came from George, just take care of me.
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And so she had to tell everybody that.
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And so this lady says, Oh, that she says, you know what?
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You're gonna be blessed later.
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She says, because for my parents, um, I think some two accidents happened with their parents.
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So somebody had to be there to help both of her parents, the the lady said.
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And um, she said, um, so um her, she and her siblings um each took a month.
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Okay.
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So she had a month, and I think she had two uh two other siblings.
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So they the other one took a month, and the other one took a month, and um, to be able to take care of their parents.
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And so sometimes I said, Well, what a blessing that she had.
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All three of them were able to do that and were willing um to do that.
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Sometimes that's not the case.
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No, um, and so um I just thought about that.
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Like, as my parents get older and I'm the one who's gonna do what is that gonna look like?
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And yeah, and I don't live near them.
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And that's the hard part.
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Yeah, and then you have your parents and you don't, I mean, it's just like where how's that gonna look?
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So really been trying to think about like how will that look?
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How can we help them?
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And you know, when you're still working your job, still trying to take care of yourself and your family, and you can't just go and spend a month.
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I mean, lucky for me, I have a whole summer off.
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So we did that on purpose for her knee because I have six weeks off in the summer, and so but other than that, you gotta work.
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So then what do you do?
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So you gotta transfer to Kansas, teach in Kansas.
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Listen.
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I mean, I would if we had, you know, if one of us had to.
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Yeah.
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You know what I'm saying?
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I would.
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Yeah.
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I don't know.
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But even with that, it's still like you gotta find something.
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You still working.
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Yeah, of course.
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So through the day and through the stuff.
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I mean, like you still got to do it.
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But you still you got more help than you can.
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Yeah, you got more help than none.
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But yeah, that's just something to kind of think about.
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Like as your parents get older and money-wise, trying to have a a caretaker there that's you know, every day, all day, that's expensive.
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And so do they have the money for that?
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And did they plan for that?
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And yeah, it that to me was like something like to tell people like really and if you got the money, do the people have the heart to take care of your parents the way you want them taken care of?
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Yeah, you know, in a facility and all that stuff.
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In a facility or in a yeah, yeah.
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So as they as your parents get older, it's like, goodness gracious, like that really made me think about all of that.
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And as they get older, child, let me tell you.
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They sure know how to work a nerve.
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But you gotta think about it.
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You gotta now, okay.
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I didn't want to say that then because you know, you was you was going through.
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Yes.
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You know what I mean?
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I was and you know, I was always trying to be very positive every time you call.
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But like, you know how sometimes you'll say, like, I would I was, you know, you'll be like, when I'm when we go to my parents, and you'll be like, you know, you look at me or say, or, you know, grab my hand, because I'd be short and I'd be whatever, because you know, they still think, and I understand that because we're never, our age gap is never changing.
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Right.
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And so I'm still that little kid, even though I'm you know grown.
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Right.
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And so a lot of times you are the ones, I'm not gonna say pull me off the ledge, but you are the ones keeping me from going adult versus adult with my parents.
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And so when when I would call you, sometimes that same stuff you was holding me back from, was no hoes barred.
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I'm talking no hoes bar when I would hear you.
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I'd be like, all right, babe, I'm gonna let you, I'm gonna let you get off.
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I'm gonna let you go ahead and if you didn't already hang up on me because they done made you mad and you was like, all right, I gotta go back.
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Oh Lord, all right.
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So yes, but they'll work it.
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Yes, and so it is um, yeah, and I still was, but you know, I'm also um say what I need to say, but I didn't say it, I try not to say it mean.
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Yeah, you didn't, but you was you was hey, but I was saying, listen, so feel back in town.
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This house gonna be.
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You was going there.
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So I was just trying to get them all the way together.
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And since my daddy ain't gonna watch um any of this uh I'm gonna tell on him.
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And maybe this will make him stop.
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Let me tell y'all what he did.
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He is downstairs in his little room space.
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Now mind you, I have I'm doing breakfast, lunch, dinner, all day.
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I'm sitting up there.
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And all of a sudden, I hear somebody say, I'm hungry.
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I'm hungry.
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Did this just happen just one time?
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This was yes, this was the first time.
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But I'm saying it didn't happen just one time.
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It happened twice.
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Because you said, I know.
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Because I was if you tell on the phone, I said, I know what time it is.
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I know you're hungry.
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No, that was the medicine.
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But he would do that.
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And I said, so I went down there and I told him, I said, listen here, you had you are not gonna be down here yelling, you hungry.
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That's rude.
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Just know that while I'm here, you're gonna eat.
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I said, so you ain't got to worry about it.
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You're gonna have all your meals, boo-boo.
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I said, so please don't do that.
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And he took my face and went, I said, I'm gonna shush you.
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About to knock you out, Curtis Scott.
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You better get it together, brother.
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Down here yelling at.
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So then another time he did it, I said, that's probably what you heard when I said, Did I tell you don't be down there yelling that you're hungry?
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And I had to get my mama once.
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Sometimes my mama can get in a little mood.
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How to get her together.
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Then maybe almost it was time for me to leave, and I heard my uncle Harry tell my mama that girl, because my uncle Harry has, um, I'm not laughing, it's not fun.
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I'm laughing at him.
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He has it's it's um earl, it's like, I don't know, is Alzheimer's or dementia?
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I think he got both.
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Okay, so he he, you know, he's having trouble remembering people's names and all things.
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So I'm that girl.
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And so he said, That girl, she's so nice.
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She's so nice and always so fruit, friendly.
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She's so nice.
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And I heard my mama say, I don't think she thought I could hear him telling her that.
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And she said, hmm, she's been nice to you, she already got me and Curtis.
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They needed to get God.
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They did.
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Preacher.
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Yeah.
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They need to take their medicines.
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Listen, and everybody got medicine.
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I know what time it is.
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I got a loan for everybody.
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Everybody can have medicine.
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So my daddy takes his eight in the morning, eight at night.
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My Uncle Harry take his 10 in the morning, 10 at night.
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I know this.
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I put an alarm in my phone so I will not forget because all their medicines are very important.
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And y'all, when eight o'clock comes, I got four people.
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Medicine time, medicine, time, medicine, time, medicine.
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I said, please stop.
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Can y'all stop?
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I have an alarm set.
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I don't need y'all to remind me, I'm gonna get all the things done.
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And so I had to, I just had to kind of get um let people understand who was in charge.
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Okay.
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Charles in charge.
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Listen.
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So once we got everybody kind of squared and understanding, you were straight.
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We were fine.
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I had to get them.
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But I did.
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I had to get them, y'all.
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So that three weeks, honey I had to get them together.
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Three weeks, honey.
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And um, yeah, yeah.
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So anywho, I did that.
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Um, I will say, you know, I think that's the longest I have been in Wichita since I have left Wichita.
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Three weeks.
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Three weeks, yeah, of course.
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That's the longest that I've been there.
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Um, but you know before one of the long time when you when your dad was sick.
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Yeah, that was about a week.
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Yeah, that's it.
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It was like a week.
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That was like a week and a week and a half, something like that.
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That was like a week and a half when daddy was sick.
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But um, yeah, that was the longest I've been there.
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And you know, I just, you know, it it also is a privilege to be able to go and be able to do and all the things.
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And I'm glad I was there for my mama to have somebody that she could really depend upon to do all the things that needed to get done.
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So all the things in the house, everybody had doctor's appointments.
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I I'd admit to every doctor.
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But the one thing that I did do while I was there, I was like, so what can I do to kind of be something for me?
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Um, so the one thing I did do was when I took my mom to PT, um, Wichita has a lot of coffee shops.
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And I found that out by you telling me to get them mapped out.
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I didn't even get to all of them.
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But um And you probably could have gone to more had you lowered your standards.
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Maybe because you was always like, oh no, the reviews are bad.
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Oh no, but it's right across the street, but the reviews are horrible.
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I was like, child, just go get you a little point.
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It's subjective.
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Do you get you a quick little coffee and get on?
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So, anyways, while she was in PT, I would go visit a coffee shop.
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Um, and so through that, if you live in Wichita, Fairmount, Fairmount Coffee.
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Is that your number one?
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Number one.
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So good.
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It's across from Wichita State on 17th Street.
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So good.
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Um, they I even one day I got egg bites and they make their egg bites from scratch.
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So it's like not, you know, like pre-packages open up.
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But the coffee, excellent.
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Best coffee in Wichita of the ones that I tried.
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Maybe somebody else out there.
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So I did that, and then also my other way to kind of cope and and kind of um escape running and going on walks.
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So I ran and walked every day.
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Sometimes I run in the morning and do a walk in the evening, and so I did all that.
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I said when I came back, somebody's gonna say, Are you sure she went to Kansas, took care of her mom and them?
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Because I had a super duper tan, look like I went to the Bahamas or somewhere.
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But no, that was just my running and kind of just trying to take care of myself as I care for other people.
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So creating that balance.
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So that's what I did when I came back.
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I just came back.
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We didn't do much because summer was filled with that and stuff.
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You'll talk about your stuff, but that I still saw my clients.
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So I saw them virtually while I was in Wichita.
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I didn't see all of them because some of them didn't want to do virtual, and so they just said they'd wait till I got back, but some of them still wanted to see me, so I saw them virtually.
00:19:26.799 --> 00:19:35.599
So it wasn't my full load, but it was still a pretty good group of them that um wanted to do virtual while I was away.
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So because I offered that to them because I felt like I should have.
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You did, you did the right thing.
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So anyhow.
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You did right by them.
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Yes.
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So, anyways, any who's what about you?
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Where you what you've been doing for uh how many weeks we've been gone off of here?
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About eight.
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Eight weeks.
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About eight weeks.
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Yeah.
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Um I've been exercising.
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I've been training for um my internship in practicum for the facility that I'm interning with.
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Um finally seeing clients on my own, you know, telehealth and in person.
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Um, but most of mine are far away, so I have to drive um, you know, a couple miles.
00:20:23.759 --> 00:20:29.599
Um you gotta go far away, but then I just got to drive a couple miles.
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I mean like 20 miles.
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It ain't like you.
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But I'm saying just gotta drive a couple miles up the street button.
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Last week was hard because this past week, because I was in Atlanta during the camp and then having to drive all the way past the crib back, going to the thing, and I was like in traffic for two hours on the way back every time.
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You know, two hours.
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And so it was I had to get up earlier just to get through the traffic in Atlanta.
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You know what I'm saying?
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So it was, it was it was rough, but it was only three days I really had to do that.
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Um, but my summer has been it's been a good summer, you know.
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It was lonely at the front, front end.
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Uh grass cutting, stormy weather.
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You know, I want to ride the motorcycle, but it rained almost every single day.
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And when you thought the weather was perfect and the phone says nothing, rain comes out of nowhere.
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Yeah, like Costa Rica.
00:21:29.359 --> 00:21:36.240
Yeah, like Cinnabon, she probably was like, I got so much anxiety medicine in my system, but you know, the storm was doing its thing.
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She needed it.
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Yeah, of course.
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She probably said thank you.
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The storm was doing its thing.
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And so uh, you know, one thing getting the studio right.
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Um, trying to get the garage right.
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I was upset because that one thing that I had for it.
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Oh I think he cried, y'all.
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I think when he got the phone with me because one time I didn't cry, but I was like,
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Call you back.
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I said, Oh, he's gonna cry when he hangs up.
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It got difficult.
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It got difficult.
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And then I realized it wasn't me.
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I was like, I know I'm not stupid.
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I know I know how to do this.
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I know I don't know how to measure.
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So maybe I'm tired.
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Maybe I'm you know hallucinating.
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I don't know.
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I said, What's going on?
00:22:17.599 --> 00:22:24.240
And come to find out it was just the way the house is structured, the beams that we have are not equipped to do overhead hanging.
00:22:24.640 --> 00:22:29.519
So I was like, they say it's a cheaper way, but it's supposed to be a strong way to do it.
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I was like, busters.
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Busters.
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We paying for it.
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Why y'all going cheap?
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I bet you charged is the same as if they would have used regular.
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Say what?
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Talking about the people when they built the house?
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Ah.
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The different kind of I it's uh it's called an I-beam.
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Yeah.
00:22:42.559 --> 00:22:44.240
But she said, I bet you Charles would do it.
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So I said, I bet they charged us the same.
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Oh no, Charles.
00:22:47.519 --> 00:22:49.039
I was like, what Charles got to do with this?
00:22:50.720 --> 00:22:53.279
Charles, your your lunch is ready.
00:22:54.000 --> 00:22:56.720
You seen that video where she was saying all those words wrong.
00:22:56.960 --> 00:22:57.440
I love that.
00:22:57.519 --> 00:22:58.720
That's my favorite one of my favorite videos.
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Po miss Ned.
00:23:00.400 --> 00:23:02.480
But she said she quit school in the sixth grade.
00:23:02.640 --> 00:23:03.599
Yeah, I believe it.
00:23:03.680 --> 00:23:04.880
So I believe it.
00:23:05.359 --> 00:23:07.119
But that's it from that's all really.
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Um like really that's that's it.
00:23:10.400 --> 00:23:12.319
Um it's been hot, hot.
00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:19.119
And um, yeah, that's it.
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That's it.
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We're trying to, well, next year, y'all know I turn 50.
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So next year we'll be taking a trip.
00:23:26.559 --> 00:23:34.400
The uh Kimani said, Ma, we gonna um uh I forgot the word he used.
00:23:34.720 --> 00:23:35.839
But turn up for your birthday.
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I think that's what he said.
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Yeah, when they when we either before we leave for our trip or we'll be back.
00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:41.200
So we turn up.
00:23:41.440 --> 00:23:43.519
So I was like, oh, are they going on a trip?
00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:49.359
They ain't going, they're not going on a trip with us.
00:23:50.880 --> 00:23:51.039
Okay.
00:23:51.359 --> 00:23:55.039
Turn up a pre-turn up or a post-turn up, but they are not going with us.
00:23:55.359 --> 00:23:57.279
So they're gonna turn up for my birthday.
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Ain't nobody got no money but us.
00:24:02.960 --> 00:24:05.599
Well, no, ain't like I said, ain't nobody got no money.
00:24:05.839 --> 00:24:10.079
Anywho, we gotta get a um and fam, y'all hear me.
00:24:11.359 --> 00:24:13.279
So we're gonna take us a good little trip.
00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:18.880
Yeah, but we I really want to do some kind of small getaway because we didn't get to do anything for the summer.
00:24:19.119 --> 00:24:21.680
So maybe like um fall.
00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:23.920
I mean fall break.
00:24:24.319 --> 00:24:25.359
Nothing expensive, you know.
00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:26.160
From you and I?
00:24:26.400 --> 00:24:27.519
Little sign, yeah.
00:24:27.680 --> 00:24:28.160
Oh, okay.
00:24:28.319 --> 00:24:29.759
Because we didn't get to do anything.
00:24:29.920 --> 00:24:30.160
Yeah.
00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:40.079
Um, I thought about for because what's coming up is our anniversary, which is the I know I'm talking about the year 23.
00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:40.799
Oh, yeah.
00:24:40.960 --> 00:24:41.039
Yeah.
00:24:41.359 --> 00:24:42.960
Always a year older than the boys.
00:24:43.279 --> 00:24:46.960
Our 23rd anniversary is coming up, so it's on a Sunday.
00:24:47.119 --> 00:24:50.480
So I thought about like something, but I don't know.
00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:52.880
Because I leave that next weekend.
00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:54.319
It's gonna be so busy.
00:24:54.480 --> 00:24:55.839
I mean, we're so busy.
00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:57.039
So I don't know.
00:24:57.200 --> 00:24:59.039
Uh anywho, we might just have to wait and do something.
00:24:59.359 --> 00:25:04.079
Oh, we plan something, make see we got some time off for uh, what's it, Labor Day, Memorial Day?
00:25:04.319 --> 00:25:05.279
Yeah, but that's the same thing.
00:25:05.440 --> 00:25:06.799
I know the price is gonna be yeah.
00:25:06.960 --> 00:25:08.960
But so we can, I mean, always it don't matter.
00:25:09.039 --> 00:25:14.240
We can wait till September or I don't know, but we'll we'll figure um that part out.
00:25:14.720 --> 00:25:22.319
And they uh the the governor gave teachers uh now we have five personal days you can use.
00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:25.039
So hey, I better save them for my birth.
00:25:25.200 --> 00:25:26.000
I don't know what we're gonna do.
00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:27.759
Anywho, yeah, do that.
00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:31.519
Save them for the yeah, that'll be perfect.
00:25:32.160 --> 00:25:35.599
So anywho, that's that's been the go-ins.
00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:37.759
Well, no, that ain't gonna matter.
00:25:38.400 --> 00:25:41.519
Because I'd rather go where we got you ain't gonna rush.
00:25:41.839 --> 00:25:42.319
Yeah, yeah.
00:25:42.400 --> 00:25:43.920
So anywho, that's a two-week window.
00:25:44.000 --> 00:25:44.480
We need two weeks.
00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:46.160
That's been the going zones.
00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:48.240
Yeah, that's been the going zone, ladies and gentlemen.
00:25:48.400 --> 00:25:48.559
Yeah.
00:25:48.720 --> 00:25:49.920
So I know y'all missed us.
00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:50.799
Y'all did.
00:25:50.880 --> 00:25:54.079
I know y'all missed us, but but but I ain't seen nobody say where y'all at.
00:25:54.400 --> 00:25:55.279
They don't care.
00:25:56.079 --> 00:25:57.839
Nobody did say where y'all at.
00:25:58.079 --> 00:25:58.720
Where y'all at?
00:25:58.880 --> 00:26:00.000
Nobody said that.
00:26:00.319 --> 00:26:01.599
Y'all don't care about us.
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No, one day they gonna care.
00:26:04.079 --> 00:26:04.880
One day.
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Saying I'm I'm about to I'm about done with y'all.
00:26:08.720 --> 00:26:09.680
Oh, don't be dumb.
00:26:10.000 --> 00:26:11.119
I'm gonna get some new peoples.
00:26:11.519 --> 00:26:12.240
Don't be done.
00:26:12.319 --> 00:26:13.680
We need some new peoples.
00:26:13.839 --> 00:26:14.960
Oh, I'm gonna go this way.
00:26:15.279 --> 00:26:15.680
Child.
00:26:16.480 --> 00:26:19.839
Do I need to put this over here so you still have an eye line with the camera?
00:26:20.000 --> 00:26:21.440
Because I was doing something, I'm looking at this.
00:26:22.000 --> 00:26:24.559
I know, it's very, yeah, it is true.
00:26:25.599 --> 00:26:26.559
We don't even need to worry about this.
00:26:26.880 --> 00:26:29.119
Normally the producer has that flipped around that way.
00:26:29.200 --> 00:26:29.279
Okay.
00:26:29.440 --> 00:26:35.359
And they'll be sitting over there saying, okay, uh, island, you know, but you know, we ain't got no producer right now, nobody we can pay.
00:26:35.440 --> 00:26:36.480
All right, moving on, brother.
00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:37.759
You moving on.
00:26:38.400 --> 00:26:38.720
Go.
00:26:39.279 --> 00:26:39.839
All right.
00:26:40.079 --> 00:26:43.440
So um we've caught up all the things.
00:26:43.519 --> 00:26:45.680
So now you heard both of them.
00:26:45.920 --> 00:26:46.240
I did.
00:26:46.319 --> 00:26:47.359
I'm gonna share the one.
00:26:47.519 --> 00:26:54.319
All right, so there's a story of um uh it's a husband and wife.
00:26:54.640 --> 00:27:03.599
Um, the wife's brother um lost his home and he needed a place to go.
00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:07.759
So he she allowed her brother to come live with them.
00:27:08.000 --> 00:27:13.519
Now, with the in her home is not just the wife and husband, she they also have a daughter.
00:27:13.759 --> 00:27:23.839
So the brother comes to live with them, and then soon after he has twin daughters who are 18 who also come to live there as well.
00:27:24.000 --> 00:27:26.480
And their daughter is 16.
00:27:26.799 --> 00:27:28.480
So I didn't know they had they were twins.
00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:41.519
And so with that, the girls living together, there were some issues with uh really boundaries and just really respect.
00:27:41.759 --> 00:27:43.759
However, people saw it differently.
00:27:44.000 --> 00:27:54.319
So that the t the cousins were going in and borrowing the daughter's things, their the 16-year-old's things.
00:27:54.400 --> 00:28:01.839
Like they'll take borrow clothes, borrow things from her room, and um and wouldn't ask.
00:28:02.000 --> 00:28:13.359
Um, and so the daughter would get upset and um they would talk to the uncle about it, and or the, you know, and he would just say, Oh, that's just normal things.
00:28:13.440 --> 00:28:14.559
That's just what girls do.
00:28:14.640 --> 00:28:17.599
When girls live together, they borrow each other's things.
00:28:17.759 --> 00:28:20.880
That's just regular girl teenage behavior.
00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:25.119
Um, but the daughter was like, Oh, I really no, those are my things.
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:26.160
Like, they shouldn't be coming back.
00:28:26.319 --> 00:28:27.119
She saved up her money.
00:28:27.279 --> 00:28:33.440
Yeah, she's and so she ended up the one thing I think that kind of what is it called, broke the camel's back.
00:28:33.680 --> 00:28:34.640
The straw that broke the camel's back.
00:28:34.720 --> 00:28:45.920
The straw that broke the camel's back was she had saved up money for a month to buy this eyeshadow palette from Mac that was$60.
00:28:46.880 --> 00:28:51.279
And so when she was gone, either to school, because I'm assuming that maybe the 18-year-olds weren't in school.
00:28:52.319 --> 00:29:00.000
So when she was gone to school, they went in a room and used her um Mac eyeshadow.
00:29:00.240 --> 00:29:05.359
And then to me, because I know how makeup works, okay.
00:29:05.519 --> 00:29:07.440
So me too.
00:29:07.920 --> 00:29:14.480
So when she came back, they had put it back, but then all the colors were all mixed up.
00:29:15.200 --> 00:29:19.119
Um, and so that was on purpose.
00:29:19.359 --> 00:29:21.599
Yeah, I thought I thought about that too.
00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:23.119
That was on purpose.
00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:24.319
Because nobody does that.
00:29:24.400 --> 00:29:24.640
Yeah.
00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:26.960
I mean, you would have to really on purpose.
00:29:27.279 --> 00:29:27.920
Unless.
00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:36.640
Because you would really, unless they unless they unless you are a blender.
00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:44.559
You know, we know some people when they be having that light, they be looking like they got fish scales and aqua or uh mermaid, mermaid skin on their eyes.
00:29:44.880 --> 00:29:48.640
I don't know, but anywho, when you got mermaid skin on your eye, that's like that's a lot of colors.
00:29:49.200 --> 00:29:51.279
Anyways, it made me feel like they did it on purpose.
00:29:51.440 --> 00:29:51.920
They probably did.
00:29:52.079 --> 00:29:59.200
But anyways, I don't know, but they came back and that$60 she spent on that, on those eyeshadows was gone.
00:29:59.359 --> 00:29:59.680
Was gone.
00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:00.400
Yeah, it was gone.
00:30:00.720 --> 00:30:01.119
It was a waste.
00:30:01.440 --> 00:30:08.640
When they told the uncle about it, he was like, that's not, I mean, you again, that's what girls do, that's what teenage girls do.
00:30:08.880 --> 00:30:12.480
Um, and first of all, why are y'all letting her buy makeup like that?
00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:13.440
She's just 16.
00:30:13.519 --> 00:30:14.240
Yeah, she should be buying.
00:30:15.599 --> 00:30:20.799
Yeah, she should be buying 15,$15 Walgreens, Walmart makeup.
00:30:20.960 --> 00:30:23.200
Why y'all letting her do this and this and that?
00:30:23.359 --> 00:30:26.720
She can go buy some more from there because that's what she should be buying, anyways.
00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:30.960
Well, the mom really wasn't standing up for her daughter.
00:30:31.200 --> 00:30:39.200
She's taking the brother's side and she was kind of taking the brother's side, or or maybe she just doesn't know how to set boundaries with the brother.
00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:41.599
But the dad was upset.
00:30:42.240 --> 00:30:43.279
And what did he do?
00:30:43.519 --> 00:30:55.039
So what he did was he put a lock on his daughter's door so that when she went to school or wherever she went, nobody could get inside of her room.
00:30:55.119 --> 00:30:55.440
Yep.
00:30:55.599 --> 00:31:00.640
And he put the lock visible because he wanted them to know the lock is on here.
00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:02.160
Things gonna change around here.
00:31:02.319 --> 00:31:07.519
Yes, and so they got upset because they were like, is he trying to make it like we're stealing from her?
00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:08.799
This and that.
00:31:09.039 --> 00:31:36.240
Technically you are, and this and that, and so um the wife got upset because she said that he's you know created this conflict and the girls are upset and it's created this stuff, and the dad, um, her brother was upset about it, and um, so the dad was like, I don't care, all y'all can be upset, but the lock is not coming off the door until your brother and his girls move out of this house.
00:31:36.400 --> 00:31:36.880
Get out of here.
00:31:37.039 --> 00:31:45.359
It felt like he was coddling the daughter and and um this entitlement he they were offering her and all of the things.
00:31:45.440 --> 00:31:54.960
And so the question I guess he was trying to see, was he the asshole for going as far as to put a lock on his door to door's room door?
00:31:55.359 --> 00:32:01.359
Personally, to me, no, because if I'd have talked to my my spouse and said, Hey, yeah, we need to.
00:32:01.519 --> 00:32:02.559
What can we do to keep him out?
00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:03.519
We can't keep him out.
00:32:03.680 --> 00:32:04.880
No, all right, we just locked up.
00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:08.079
This is not anytime for anything.
00:32:08.880 --> 00:32:10.799
You asked to borrow things from people.
00:32:10.880 --> 00:32:16.400
So I would tell my wife, so it's okay for them to come up in your room, take all your clothes, use all your makeup, and do all the stuff.
00:32:16.720 --> 00:32:17.599
That's all right to do.
00:32:18.000 --> 00:32:19.599
We're gonna let them come do your stuff like that.
00:32:19.839 --> 00:32:21.119
Or I just let them drive her car.
00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:21.599
Yeah.
00:32:21.759 --> 00:32:22.559
That's what girls do.
00:32:22.640 --> 00:32:23.680
You just said that's what girls do.
00:32:23.839 --> 00:32:24.799
Yeah, they can't borrow your keys.
00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:25.359
We love them driving.
00:32:25.680 --> 00:32:26.079
That's family.
00:32:26.160 --> 00:32:26.640
That's what family.
00:32:26.799 --> 00:32:28.000
Family always borrow people's cars.
00:32:28.079 --> 00:32:28.880
That's what family do.
00:32:29.039 --> 00:32:33.599
Yeah, so I personally feel like the dad did what he needed to do to make his point.
00:32:33.759 --> 00:32:34.079
Yeah.
00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:36.400
So if you And protect his daughter stuff.
00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:36.720
Yeah.
00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:38.079
And you know, make a point.
00:32:38.160 --> 00:32:40.960
Yep, no, I'm we're gonna protect my daughter's stuff then.
00:32:41.039 --> 00:32:42.240
Because point doesn't need to be made.
00:32:42.400 --> 00:32:44.160
Um now we're beyond points being made.
00:32:44.240 --> 00:32:47.759
We're action, and the action means protect my protect my daughter's stuff.
00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:48.319
Yes.
00:32:48.559 --> 00:32:55.599
And obviously, obviously, um, they had said something to them.
00:32:55.759 --> 00:32:59.279
Because that to me is like, okay, we done said all we had to say.
00:32:59.519 --> 00:33:01.519
Y'all still coming and taking her things.
00:33:01.839 --> 00:33:02.880
So here's what we're doing.
00:33:02.960 --> 00:33:08.160
And not only was the mom upset, I believe the whole side of the family was upset with the husband and what he did.
00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:11.759
And then that was my question was well, y'all come let him live with y'all.
00:33:12.160 --> 00:33:12.480
Exactly.
00:33:12.640 --> 00:33:13.519
Always, always.
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:17.359
You have no room to be upset if I took him in.
00:33:18.400 --> 00:33:21.680
And they, I'm sure you I wasn't the first, you know, person.
00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:26.000
And even still, you could be like, well, you know, he got kids, dah, yeah, da-da-da.
00:33:26.319 --> 00:33:27.759
How you can come stay with us.
00:33:27.920 --> 00:33:28.319
Mm-hmm.
00:33:28.480 --> 00:33:28.720
Nope.
00:33:29.039 --> 00:33:32.000
And why and how why now do you remember why he lost his house?
00:33:32.240 --> 00:33:32.559
Mm-mm.
00:33:33.759 --> 00:33:41.440
I'm just saying, sometimes people who I don't know if he's lost homes often or if he's one that always ha finds himself in a.
00:33:41.759 --> 00:33:43.359
I don't know, but even he didn't seem grateful.
00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:45.359
He wasn't seem grateful.
00:33:45.599 --> 00:33:55.599
But sometimes people like that tend to want to go live with the person who doesn't have boundaries because then they can they can still do what they always do.
00:33:55.839 --> 00:34:03.599
People like that love who cannot doesn't they don't know how to set boundaries and they can kind of run over them and do the things that they want to do.
00:34:03.920 --> 00:34:06.240
That's why they, you know, they choose to go live there.
00:34:06.400 --> 00:34:11.360
They don't want to live with somebody, they got rules, expectations gonna make you follow them, or you need to get on out.
00:34:11.519 --> 00:34:12.880
That's not comfortable for them.
00:34:13.199 --> 00:34:14.320
Ain't signed up for this.
00:34:15.360 --> 00:34:18.400
So I think that all of that was no.
00:34:18.480 --> 00:34:20.079
I think the dad did exactly what he needed to do.
00:34:20.159 --> 00:34:22.480
And if the wife is upset, then guess what?
00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:24.239
Hey, I don't know.
00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:34.159
Hopefully it doesn't impact their marriage, and hopefully it doesn't impact the relationship with the daughter and the mom, because she will she say, Well, my mama let somebody treat me this way.
00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:35.679
Yeah, I don't know.
00:34:36.239 --> 00:34:38.159
So you think it's good for everybody to take my stuff?
00:34:38.480 --> 00:34:39.039
All right, bet.
00:34:39.360 --> 00:34:39.760
Mm-hmm.
00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:40.320
Okay.
00:34:40.719 --> 00:34:44.239
Because even with that, I mean, because I don't know what else she could have said.
00:34:44.559 --> 00:34:47.440
It definitely is gonna affect the relationship between uh the mother and daughter.
00:34:47.760 --> 00:34:49.039
Because you can't she can't lock up everything.
00:34:49.119 --> 00:34:53.039
I mean, like, I was trying to think of could she have done that on her own, but that's impossible, lock up your whole room.
00:34:53.119 --> 00:34:56.480
And the only thing to do is to put a locker on the door where they can't get in.
00:34:56.559 --> 00:34:56.880
Yeah.
00:34:57.039 --> 00:34:58.320
That's the only thing you could do.
00:34:58.559 --> 00:34:58.800
Yeah.
00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:02.800
Cause you put a basic lock on there, you got those little keys you can get in on.
00:35:03.199 --> 00:35:04.000
You know what I'm saying?
00:35:04.079 --> 00:35:05.840
So you gotta put a lock lock on there.
00:35:06.880 --> 00:35:07.199
Yeah.
00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:11.519
I would have put a lock on there with like a keypad and all kind of things.
00:35:11.840 --> 00:35:12.480
All of the things.
00:35:12.559 --> 00:35:15.199
So no, he did exactly what he needed to do.
00:35:15.519 --> 00:35:18.800
So, sir, you are not the a-ho.
00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:21.039
Brother.
00:35:21.440 --> 00:35:28.800
I it was another one that I for I sent to you too, where that guy was talking about his wife, she needed a break for 90 days.
00:35:29.280 --> 00:35:30.719
That story is crazy too.
00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:31.039
Yeah.
00:35:31.280 --> 00:35:32.880
So we'll talk about that another time.
00:35:33.199 --> 00:35:34.880
But it is, it's a good story.
00:35:35.039 --> 00:35:38.559
And then the other one that I sent to you, you see what I said when I sent the story to you?
00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:40.639
I sent like I said in a message.
00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:42.000
The one you, the other one you listened to.
00:35:42.320 --> 00:35:44.000
The one with the moving in with somebody else.
00:35:44.159 --> 00:35:45.760
So it was another thing when somebody moving in with it.
00:35:46.159 --> 00:35:47.519
I said, Oh, you probably ain't gonna want to read.
00:35:47.599 --> 00:35:54.639
That's that's too much like uh you know, because it sounds just like something that we know.
00:35:54.880 --> 00:35:55.760
Does it really?
00:35:56.000 --> 00:35:56.239
Yes.
00:35:56.480 --> 00:35:56.800
I gotta.
00:35:57.119 --> 00:35:59.440
But I'm saying, like, your side.
00:35:59.599 --> 00:36:00.400
And my side.
00:36:00.559 --> 00:36:01.039
Yes.
00:36:01.199 --> 00:36:03.440
I said, ooh, this is I gotta listen to it.
00:36:03.519 --> 00:36:04.960
I didn't get to listen to that one all the way by this.
00:36:05.199 --> 00:36:05.840
This is yeah.
00:36:06.159 --> 00:36:08.320
So but the and then and then the guy with the wife.
00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:10.480
That that one's crazy.
00:36:10.719 --> 00:36:11.039
Yeah.
00:36:11.280 --> 00:36:12.960
She needed a 90-day break from her family?
00:36:13.119 --> 00:36:13.920
She needed 90 days.
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:15.519
I think I've heard that before.
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:18.480
Yeah, he was like, She's talking about she needn't, she wanted 90 days.
00:36:18.639 --> 00:36:20.159
I think I've I think I've heard that story.
00:36:20.639 --> 00:36:22.000
So he shut, he said, okay, bet.
00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:23.199
You want 90 days?
00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:23.760
Yeah.
00:36:24.000 --> 00:36:28.880
And so he he um changed his check, his direct deposit of his check into another account.
00:36:29.039 --> 00:36:29.360
Uh-huh.
00:36:29.599 --> 00:36:33.360
And so she had already, um she told, he said, I don't want us to do 90 days.
00:36:33.440 --> 00:36:38.079
She said, Well, uh, um, you you figure out what you need to do.
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:39.119
Who said that?
00:36:39.280 --> 00:36:40.480
That's the mic said that to him.
00:36:40.559 --> 00:36:41.039
Oh, yeah.
00:36:41.119 --> 00:36:41.440
And she left.
00:36:41.840 --> 00:36:42.239
Oh, she left.
00:36:42.400 --> 00:36:44.880
She said, You figure out what you need to do, because I'm taking these 90 days.
00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:46.559
So did she work?
00:36:47.119 --> 00:36:47.440
No.
00:36:47.840 --> 00:36:49.039
Oh, what did she do then?
00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:51.199
She moved in when she took her bag with her sister.
00:36:51.440 --> 00:36:53.840
She took her bag and moved to with her sister.
00:36:54.400 --> 00:37:01.039
Because the day he was supposed to make the decision, um, she said, You thought of it, she said, look, I know you you don't had enough time.
00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:03.119
He said, No, I don't want to, I don't want to do this.
00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:06.000
And so she said, Well, and he so he said, I saw she had a bag.
00:37:06.079 --> 00:37:07.280
So she had already made up her mind.
00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:08.239
She's gone anyway.
00:37:08.960 --> 00:37:13.840
And so he said, She went with her sister, and um, I think for like the weekend.
00:37:13.920 --> 00:37:19.440
And so Monday, he got on the phone with HR early in the morning, you know, did his check.
00:37:19.840 --> 00:37:32.320
And he said, later, I think, because he was getting paid, and so she all of a sudden, like a day or so later, she called him just fussing, like, uh, something's wrong with the credit card, or something wrong with the card.
00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:33.119
The debit card.
00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:34.480
Yes, it's decline.
00:37:34.639 --> 00:37:37.280
And he was like, Oh, well, call and see what's wrong with it.
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:39.599
She said, It's it's not where he said, Well, use another card.
00:37:39.679 --> 00:37:40.639
I don't have another card.
00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:44.000
Oh, okay, well, um, all right, I'll talk to you later.
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:44.320
Boom.
00:37:44.480 --> 00:37:45.039
He hung up.
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:48.320
And she called him back, her sister called him back.
00:37:48.400 --> 00:37:49.360
She said, Oh, that is wrong.
00:37:49.440 --> 00:37:50.000
You're so wrong.
00:37:50.159 --> 00:37:52.800
She said, Look, you know, y'all figure it out.
00:37:52.880 --> 00:37:55.199
I'm not funding your 90-day thing.
00:37:55.360 --> 00:37:57.199
Because she had a budget for him, too.
00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:58.880
She said, This is how much it's gonna cost.
00:37:58.960 --> 00:37:59.920
I want an apartment.
00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:00.480
Oh, yeah.
00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:02.079
Yeah, so she had already got an apartment.
00:38:02.400 --> 00:38:03.280
For him to fund.
00:38:03.760 --> 00:38:07.039
For him to fund her 90-day sabbatical or whatever you want to call it.
00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:09.280
He was like, I'm not funding that.
00:38:09.440 --> 00:38:09.760
Yeah.
00:38:09.920 --> 00:38:10.159
Yeah.
00:38:10.320 --> 00:38:20.880
And so then um, so she got real pissed about him not, you know, funding because her she was taking her and her sister out to get the nails done and probably the parties say, I'm not doing that.
00:38:20.960 --> 00:38:21.679
I'm not funding that.
00:38:22.159 --> 00:38:22.960
And she said, What?
00:38:23.039 --> 00:38:24.159
That is so low down.
00:38:24.239 --> 00:38:25.119
That is so low down.
00:38:25.280 --> 00:38:28.719
I said, Look, he said, I'm gonna take care of the bills, I'm gonna take care of everything.
00:38:28.800 --> 00:38:30.320
I need to take care of this house.
00:38:30.480 --> 00:38:35.599
He said, but I'm not funding your 90-day, you know, thing that I didn't agree with.
00:38:35.760 --> 00:38:38.000
You're the you want this, not me.
00:38:38.880 --> 00:38:46.159
And so he said, uh, uh, like a few days later, whatever, she came around and he she came back.
00:38:46.639 --> 00:38:48.159
And so he let her back.
00:38:48.320 --> 00:38:51.760
He said, but it's been it's not been the same since.
00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:55.280
She's been back for like they've been married for 20 years, I think he said.
00:38:55.440 --> 00:39:06.639
So did she she wanted a break because was she trying to figure out if she still wanted to be married or it's obvious she didn't know she yeah, she didn't she didn't she said she wanted to be a break from the marriage.
00:39:06.719 --> 00:39:08.239
So she said, I need a break from the marriage.
00:39:08.800 --> 00:39:11.280
And that's um so when she left, yeah, you know.
00:39:11.599 --> 00:39:27.519
So she just kind of wanted to see if she so maybe it was her trying to figure out if she left, if she if she what if she was gone, was she trying to make the decision of she was already gone if she wanted to be married.
00:39:27.840 --> 00:39:32.159
She was already she already didn't want to be married, but she wanted the the spoils of everything.
00:39:32.480 --> 00:39:34.239
But he's done everything for her.
00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:50.159
I know, I don't understand what you're saying, but I'm saying if she if she was she thinking, I'm gonna take these 90s days just to see what it's like not to be married, to see you know, maybe she felt like she was missing a spark or her joy or her something.
00:39:50.559 --> 00:39:59.039
Did she think that with the 90 days gone, it would help her to figure out if she truly wanted to be married?
00:39:59.119 --> 00:39:59.599
How you know?
00:39:59.760 --> 00:40:00.639
You know the lady.
00:40:00.800 --> 00:40:01.280
Yep.
00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:03.280
I know people like her.
00:40:03.519 --> 00:40:04.079
Oh my god.
00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:13.440
And when she left, she left with the intent that 90 days will make us grow apart more so.
00:40:13.679 --> 00:40:16.800
It's easier to say, you know what, after all this coverage.
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:17.760
Well, that's exactly what I'm saying.
00:40:18.800 --> 00:40:19.840
No, she's already out.
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:21.280
Mentally, she's already gone.
00:40:21.519 --> 00:40:21.840
Okay.
00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:22.960
She's already gone.
00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:24.079
She's ready to bounce.
00:40:24.239 --> 00:40:30.159
So you think she wanted the 90 days to kind of have time to kind of get a job, get herself settled, do all of that.
00:40:30.400 --> 00:40:32.639
She was gonna live off, she thought he was gonna live.
00:40:32.960 --> 00:40:33.280
Forever?
00:40:33.760 --> 00:40:36.880
Listen, she thought that was gonna be the plan?
00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:42.159
Until until the the the the dingling she was I because I guarantee she was on some other dingling.
00:40:42.480 --> 00:40:48.480
Until the dingling she was messing with, or another dingling, was gonna fund her, fund her new life that she wanted.
00:40:48.719 --> 00:40:50.400
That's your assumption.
00:40:50.639 --> 00:40:51.920
That's that's yep.
00:40:52.239 --> 00:40:55.280
Because she came back when the money dried up.
00:40:55.440 --> 00:40:57.280
She ain't come back because the love dried up.
00:40:57.360 --> 00:40:59.280
She didn't come back for no other reason.
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:02.559
So for night, you want to be gone for 90 days, but now so, oh, well, you know what?
00:41:03.039 --> 00:41:05.360
Well, that maybe No, no, no, no, that ain't no, no, no, no.
00:41:05.440 --> 00:41:05.679
I don't know.
00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:08.639
Well, maybe you need to hear it and you'll hear because maybe I'm leaving out some words and something.
00:41:08.880 --> 00:41:13.920
Maybe so, because I'm just thinking she had to come back because she didn't have any money.
00:41:14.159 --> 00:41:15.280
She could stay with her sister.
00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:16.880
She was staying with her sister.
00:41:17.119 --> 00:41:18.400
I understand that.
00:41:18.639 --> 00:41:21.679
But she could stay with her sister and have a place to live.
00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:26.719
But her sister in regards to eating, she didn't need no bills.
00:41:26.960 --> 00:41:30.239
But I'm saying she had no cars that she had to pay for.
00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:31.280
I understand that.
00:41:31.440 --> 00:41:38.400
But what I'm saying to you in regards to just having money to day-to-day live, to eat.
00:41:38.719 --> 00:41:43.360
If you were to go out and do something, I mean, like, she didn't have.
00:41:44.800 --> 00:41:49.039
That's what I'm saying to you, is this so the purpose?
00:41:49.920 --> 00:41:55.599
So that's what I'm saying to you, is so she had to, because she didn't have any money.
00:41:55.760 --> 00:41:59.199
Now, what she could have done, I mean, she could have So she had to come back home.
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:00.239
No, she didn't have to.
00:42:00.400 --> 00:42:00.960
That's what I'm saying.
00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:06.480
She could have gone and found a job when she realized, oh, he's not gonna give me any money, let me go find a job.
00:42:06.880 --> 00:42:08.559
So why did she come back home?
00:42:08.800 --> 00:42:11.840
Because she didn't because she all of a sudden the love was back.
00:42:12.000 --> 00:42:13.280
No, it ain't a love back.
00:42:13.760 --> 00:42:20.000
Because um what she thought was gonna be wasn't what she thought it was gonna be.
00:42:20.239 --> 00:42:29.199
What she thought was she would have an opportunity to go and live with her sister and she won't live with her sister, member the apartment.
00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:36.639
But she was she went to her sister um immediately because she was like Oh, okay.
00:42:37.840 --> 00:42:38.239
Okay, okay.
00:42:38.320 --> 00:42:45.840
So what you're saying is what she was gonna plan to do is she went to her sisters, but the plan was she gonna go put down a deposit on an apartment.
00:42:46.079 --> 00:42:46.800
She gave him the budget.
00:42:47.280 --> 00:42:50.480
Oh, she gave him the budget of what she needed to fund her 90 days.
00:42:50.719 --> 00:42:56.239
Okay, so she had to come back because the sister was gonna be like, now you didn't say you're gonna come live with me for one.
00:42:56.480 --> 00:43:02.800
And so it the whole plane changed when that money whole plan changed when she couldn't get no money out the bank.
00:43:04.239 --> 00:43:06.559
Her financial backing was not what she thought about.
00:43:06.880 --> 00:43:08.320
She couldn't get no money out of the bank.
00:43:08.559 --> 00:43:09.599
Oh, yeah.
00:43:09.920 --> 00:43:11.280
And now she back.
00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:12.239
Yeah.
00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:16.559
And he said, Look, I'm controlling all the finances now.
00:43:16.639 --> 00:43:22.559
Because before he was giving her anything, like she she could get in, she could get whatever she wanted because you know she had her own debit called Connect.
00:43:22.639 --> 00:43:25.920
He said, We had the account was joint accounts, everything.
00:43:26.000 --> 00:43:33.599
Yeah, but when I took my piece out, yeah, he said, I still give her what she needs and some things of what she wants.
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:34.079
Yeah.
00:43:34.480 --> 00:43:36.159
But it's not what she can go and get it free.
00:43:36.400 --> 00:43:37.360
And stack money, whatever.
00:43:37.840 --> 00:43:38.000
Yeah.
00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:47.119
So so in actuality, I don't know what her plan was in regards to what she was gonna do for the 90 days, or if that was her kind of on out the door thing.
00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:55.360
Because at some point, she had to have known that he was gonna be like after 90 days, if he wasn't gonna pay for her.
00:43:55.840 --> 00:43:58.960
She was hoping that it would it would fizzle like just fade to black.
00:43:59.280 --> 00:43:59.760
She didn't even plan.
00:44:00.400 --> 00:44:05.599
Appropriately, if that's what you were trying to do, uh, she really thought he was a sucker MC as well.
00:44:05.920 --> 00:44:06.960
That's what she thought he was.
00:44:07.039 --> 00:44:08.960
Um, because he still was, yeah.
00:44:09.280 --> 00:44:09.679
She came back.
00:44:09.920 --> 00:44:10.079
Yeah.
00:44:10.239 --> 00:44:11.440
She that's what she thought.
00:44:11.519 --> 00:44:13.920
So she she didn't plan appropriately.
00:44:14.000 --> 00:44:23.599
Because if that's what I'm doing, then what people try to say is like you kind of put if you know you aren't the sole provider, then you just take little bits and put it to the side.
00:44:23.679 --> 00:44:23.760
Yeah.
00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:24.960
So when you're 90 that's a good one.
00:44:25.119 --> 00:44:26.159
When it's time to bounce, you there.
00:44:26.559 --> 00:44:29.119
You you said you don't even need any of the things that you're doing.
00:44:29.280 --> 00:44:30.000
I would have told her look.
00:44:30.559 --> 00:44:34.320
But she didn't she didn't prepare, but that's because she thought he wasn't sucking MC.
00:44:34.559 --> 00:44:39.760
I would say I need 90 days now for her to prove to me that she's coming back for the right reasons.
00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:43.039
So you give me 90 days to before you come back up here.
00:44:43.280 --> 00:44:54.559
Well, I think I would have said, if it were me, and my spouse or person said they need 90 days away, then I would just say, Well, if you leave, don't come back.
00:44:54.800 --> 00:44:55.199
Yeah.
00:44:55.360 --> 00:44:56.880
I'm gonna give you more than 90.
00:44:57.599 --> 00:44:59.199
I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna give you more than 90.
00:44:59.440 --> 00:45:01.280
Because I uh 90 days is a long time.
00:45:01.440 --> 00:45:02.559
You can work it out in here.
00:45:02.800 --> 00:45:03.119
Yeah.
00:45:03.360 --> 00:45:07.760
I give you your side of the room, you know, I'm I plan myself to move away from you know, whatever.
00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:33.360
You know, but uh And if she wanted to like kind of be done with like whatever, I don't know if she had kids or or what the duties were of like not knowing of like what the wife then then if you want to like say, hey, can't we just kinda live separate little things to kind of see where we at, where my head is at, that but as soon as you left out the door, then I just be like, Well, if you leave, just know you gone.
00:45:33.440 --> 00:45:33.920
Mm-hmm.
00:45:34.960 --> 00:45:35.599
And that's that.
00:45:35.840 --> 00:45:36.719
That's what I was, yeah.
00:45:36.800 --> 00:45:38.159
90 days, you got to go.
00:45:38.800 --> 00:45:42.719
And then you try to come back, because I know I'm heartbroken, because it wasn't my decision.
00:45:42.960 --> 00:45:43.199
Right.
00:45:43.360 --> 00:45:47.679
But then all of a sudden, after I see that, oh now you wanna come back because I cut them funds off.
00:45:48.639 --> 00:45:49.519
You know what I mean?
00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:50.880
So I'm like, look.
00:45:51.039 --> 00:45:52.400
You should have got him a new lock.
00:45:52.559 --> 00:45:58.559
I need 90 days for you to um before you can come back.
00:45:58.719 --> 00:45:58.880
Yeah.
00:45:59.360 --> 00:46:02.320
Because I need to see if this is really what you wanted.
00:46:02.559 --> 00:46:08.400
And and obviously they should have taken it at this point, they definitely need to do some couples therapy.
00:46:09.039 --> 00:46:14.719
And yeah, that can can kind of help them decide whether to stay or to go.
00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:17.280
Because couples therapy don't mean you're gonna stay together.
00:46:17.519 --> 00:46:17.920
It don't.
00:46:18.079 --> 00:46:18.320
At all.
00:46:19.039 --> 00:46:22.159
Therapy can mean that y'all do, and it can mean that you don't.
00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:22.880
You're done.
00:46:23.280 --> 00:46:23.760
You're done.
00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:25.440
So, um Dum dumb dumb.
00:46:26.000 --> 00:46:29.760
I mean, that if he was gonna let it back in, that would have been one of my things.
00:46:29.840 --> 00:46:32.000
Cause I need to understand why you need nine to dance.
00:46:32.079 --> 00:46:32.320
Yes.
00:46:32.639 --> 00:46:34.320
Help me understand that.
00:46:34.639 --> 00:46:35.039
Yep.
00:46:35.280 --> 00:46:42.079
So unless he knew that he, I mean, we only really heard that side.
00:46:42.239 --> 00:46:43.920
We didn't hear the other side.
00:46:44.079 --> 00:46:45.199
You don't need to hear no other side.
00:46:45.280 --> 00:46:46.719
A lot of times we don't hear no other side.
00:46:46.800 --> 00:46:49.280
We hear one side and we make our decision on that.
00:46:49.440 --> 00:46:50.400
That's all we need to hear.
00:46:51.599 --> 00:46:51.840
That's it.
00:46:53.519 --> 00:46:53.760
Yep.
00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:55.599
I guess that's my believer sister.
00:46:55.760 --> 00:46:58.079
That is, believe it, sister, and she brought her a little side.
00:46:58.320 --> 00:46:58.880
She came back.
00:46:59.039 --> 00:46:59.599
She came back.
00:47:00.159 --> 00:47:00.880
She came back.
00:47:01.519 --> 00:47:02.239
Believe it, sister.
00:47:02.800 --> 00:47:03.440
Believe it.
00:47:03.599 --> 00:47:04.239
Believe it, sister.
00:47:04.320 --> 00:47:05.199
And she let her back.
00:47:05.280 --> 00:47:05.840
Believe that.
00:47:07.760 --> 00:47:08.320
He did.
00:47:08.480 --> 00:47:09.039
Mm-hmm.
00:47:09.840 --> 00:47:10.880
She tricked him.
00:47:12.159 --> 00:47:13.199
No, she tricked him.
00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:16.719
She pulled, she pulled Orlando on him.
00:47:17.039 --> 00:47:18.079
Who Orlando?
00:47:18.639 --> 00:47:24.320
I just, you know, sometimes they say when people uh trick somebody into something and then they leave them.
00:47:24.480 --> 00:47:24.639
Yeah.
00:47:24.880 --> 00:47:28.639
You know, they call it Orlando, because some people people do that sometime in Florida.
00:47:29.039 --> 00:47:30.159
I ain't never heard of such a thing.
00:47:30.400 --> 00:47:31.360
Did you just make that up?
00:47:31.679 --> 00:47:32.480
You never heard of that.
00:47:32.559 --> 00:47:39.280
Does people people be together with their loved one or whatever in Florida and they leave them in Orlando?
00:47:40.079 --> 00:47:41.679
Oh You never heard that.
00:47:41.840 --> 00:47:44.320
I ain't never heard of that, but it sounds like Foley.
00:47:44.480 --> 00:47:46.400
It probably hey, yeah.
00:47:47.280 --> 00:47:48.800
That's full time for sure.
00:47:49.039 --> 00:47:49.519
For sure.
00:47:49.760 --> 00:47:51.599
Cause you know, folk, we love to go to Orlando.
00:47:52.000 --> 00:47:52.480
Disney.
00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:56.000
You know, that's the best place to be for some folk.
00:47:56.239 --> 00:47:56.960
Going to Disney.
00:47:57.199 --> 00:47:58.719
Everybody went to Orlando this summer.
00:47:59.119 --> 00:48:01.280
Even my some of my little clients went.
00:48:01.599 --> 00:48:03.039
I got two of mine going.
00:48:03.280 --> 00:48:06.159
Well, one one came back, one going now for two weeks.
00:48:06.400 --> 00:48:06.880
Yeah.
00:48:07.119 --> 00:48:07.440
So.
00:48:07.760 --> 00:48:08.960
Hopefully they come back.
00:48:09.199 --> 00:48:09.519
Yeah.
00:48:09.679 --> 00:48:09.920
Yeah.
00:48:10.159 --> 00:48:11.599
Alright, got a surprise.
00:48:11.760 --> 00:48:12.000
Ooh.
00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:13.360
Ready for the surprise?
00:48:13.599 --> 00:48:14.239
It's a gift?
00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:15.360
Yep, it's a gift.
00:48:15.519 --> 00:48:16.480
Here we go.
00:48:16.719 --> 00:48:18.480
What is a surprise?
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:21.599
A little surprise for y'all.
00:48:22.079 --> 00:48:22.559
Watch this.
00:48:23.199 --> 00:48:23.920
What is it?
00:48:24.079 --> 00:48:25.119
It's pretty dope.
00:48:25.840 --> 00:48:27.199
Oh, I think I know what it is.
00:48:27.440 --> 00:48:28.000
You know what it is.
00:48:28.239 --> 00:48:28.559
What it is.
00:48:28.880 --> 00:48:30.559
Because I think I saw it on a bank account.
00:48:30.800 --> 00:48:32.159
You might have on a bank account.
00:48:32.400 --> 00:48:32.800
Yeah.
00:48:33.440 --> 00:48:37.679
You always do stuff that ain't gonna turn out to be no surprise because I can see it on the bank account.
00:48:39.280 --> 00:48:42.960
I'll be sitting at work and then all of a sudden I go check the bank account.
00:48:43.119 --> 00:48:44.719
I go, What?
00:48:45.039 --> 00:48:46.159
Flowers are us.
00:48:46.239 --> 00:48:48.000
Oh, child, flowers coming to me today.
00:48:48.239 --> 00:48:49.760
I need to give me a new account on the idea.
00:48:50.000 --> 00:48:54.800
Told you, just do it away, little credit cards, then pay credit card payment with the at the check account.
00:48:54.880 --> 00:48:58.320
I won't know if it just says Amex$70.
00:48:58.960 --> 00:48:59.679
That's true.
00:48:59.920 --> 00:49:03.920
I always know when flowers come because he I said this for years.
00:49:04.639 --> 00:49:06.159
And he ain't got his life together.
00:49:06.960 --> 00:49:08.880
I had it, but it went away.
00:49:09.119 --> 00:49:09.760
Surprise.
00:49:10.800 --> 00:49:11.440
Surprise.
00:49:13.360 --> 00:49:14.880
Surprise, surprise.
00:49:15.599 --> 00:49:17.440
You don't know where it is.
00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:22.480
How long have we been going thus far on this season two?
00:49:22.719 --> 00:49:25.840
You wanna try again um episode two?
00:49:26.079 --> 00:49:27.760
Because you should have had that pulled up and ready.
00:49:28.719 --> 00:49:30.000
Sit on down, Tyrone.
00:49:30.079 --> 00:49:30.880
You don't got it together.
00:49:33.280 --> 00:49:34.159
Yep, just sit down.
00:49:34.400 --> 00:49:35.199
Oh my god.
00:49:35.760 --> 00:49:37.599
You ought to be ashamed of yourself.
00:49:37.840 --> 00:49:40.079
Well, we'll we'll edit in post.
00:49:40.239 --> 00:49:40.480
Hold on.
00:49:40.960 --> 00:49:41.920
It's live.
00:49:42.320 --> 00:49:42.559
Okay.
00:49:43.039 --> 00:49:44.400
Don't worry about it.
00:49:45.119 --> 00:49:47.119
Um, sit on down, Tyrone.
00:49:47.199 --> 00:49:48.079
You wasted it.
00:49:48.159 --> 00:49:49.679
You're wasting air time.
00:49:50.559 --> 00:49:51.760
Lord have mercy.
00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:52.639
You ready?
00:49:52.960 --> 00:49:53.599
Ready.
00:49:59.519 --> 00:50:01.440
Now the pronunciation will be different.
00:50:01.599 --> 00:50:02.480
It's gonna be the right way.
00:50:03.039 --> 00:50:04.159
The pronunciation.
00:50:04.400 --> 00:50:05.840
You said pronunciation.
00:50:06.639 --> 00:50:07.519
Pronunciation?
00:50:10.639 --> 00:50:12.480
Back in the tourist one.
00:50:18.000 --> 00:50:21.119
That's where I first started to look crazy.
00:50:21.599 --> 00:50:24.960
And my whole work started to fall.
00:50:27.119 --> 00:50:27.679
Look crazy.
00:50:35.039 --> 00:50:38.320
Why do I drink my gift felt?
00:50:41.840 --> 00:50:42.639
Oh yeah.
00:51:05.440 --> 00:51:07.039
That's my romantic way to say it.
00:52:57.119 --> 00:52:59.519
I still can be bad.
00:53:26.079 --> 00:53:26.800
Thank you.
00:53:27.280 --> 00:53:28.480
I ain't gonna beat no sucker.
00:53:28.719 --> 00:53:29.760
I ain't crazy.
00:53:31.360 --> 00:53:33.440
Well, that was my jam, yeah.
00:53:33.599 --> 00:53:40.239
So that was so I was like, I'm not gonna wait until anniversary for it.
00:53:40.400 --> 00:53:41.760
I'm not gonna wait till anniversary.
00:53:41.840 --> 00:53:42.400
I gotta.
00:53:42.559 --> 00:53:47.679
I wanted to play it way before, but um I said the best thing to do is play it now.
00:53:48.159 --> 00:53:49.360
That was nice.
00:53:50.079 --> 00:53:50.639
Thank you.
00:53:50.960 --> 00:53:52.480
I've listened to that song so many times.
00:53:52.639 --> 00:53:53.039
It's so good.
00:53:53.760 --> 00:53:54.400
It's so good.
00:53:54.559 --> 00:53:55.199
Yeah.
00:53:55.920 --> 00:53:56.480
Yeah.
00:53:56.800 --> 00:53:57.119
Oh.
00:53:58.639 --> 00:54:03.039
Because you gotta type up everything about it, you know, what it does and how you feel.
00:54:03.119 --> 00:54:03.360
Yeah.
00:54:03.599 --> 00:54:08.239
And then, you know, AI does its thing and love it.
00:54:08.559 --> 00:54:10.079
I feel so special.
00:54:10.320 --> 00:54:11.280
You should.
00:54:11.599 --> 00:54:12.079
You should.
00:54:12.400 --> 00:54:13.760
Oh, they're trying to be tough.
00:54:14.000 --> 00:54:14.559
Anything else?
00:54:14.639 --> 00:54:16.480
Now, if it was Netflix, you would have cried.
00:54:16.639 --> 00:54:20.320
But but for me and the people that love you, you only want to cry.
00:54:21.039 --> 00:54:22.559
Netflix, you'll be over there.
00:54:23.920 --> 00:54:25.119
That's not true.
00:54:25.599 --> 00:54:26.559
Be over there crying.
00:54:26.719 --> 00:54:27.440
But it's all good.
00:54:28.079 --> 00:54:28.559
Oh my god.
00:54:28.719 --> 00:54:29.440
No, I'm happy.
00:54:29.599 --> 00:54:30.400
I'm glad you like it.
00:54:30.639 --> 00:54:31.199
I do.
00:54:31.679 --> 00:54:33.280
And we'll share it with your mom and stuff.
00:54:33.440 --> 00:54:34.800
Now we can share it with people.
00:54:34.880 --> 00:54:37.519
And then because I I I had it on Apple.
00:54:37.920 --> 00:54:39.440
Remember the place when we was in the car?
00:54:39.840 --> 00:54:41.920
Remember that song when we went to eat?
00:54:42.079 --> 00:54:42.320
Oh, yeah.
00:54:42.559 --> 00:54:43.920
And I said, Oh no, no, you can't play that yet.
00:54:44.079 --> 00:54:44.719
Can't play that yet.
00:54:44.880 --> 00:54:45.440
That was the song.
00:54:45.599 --> 00:54:46.480
Because you said, what's this?
00:54:46.559 --> 00:54:47.360
It's right here.
00:54:47.679 --> 00:54:47.840
Oh.
00:54:48.320 --> 00:54:49.119
Yeah, that was it.
00:54:49.360 --> 00:54:50.559
Because it had your name in the title.
00:54:50.639 --> 00:54:52.880
It was like Kree's song or Krisha's song or something like that.
00:54:53.039 --> 00:54:53.679
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:54:53.920 --> 00:54:54.880
Yeah, and you was getting ready to play it.
00:54:54.960 --> 00:54:56.079
I said, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:54:56.719 --> 00:54:57.760
You know what I thought it was?
00:54:58.000 --> 00:54:58.320
What?
00:54:58.559 --> 00:55:02.800
I thought it was one of your uh love making playlists.
00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:03.440
Oh no.
00:55:03.599 --> 00:55:05.440
And you were saving it for something else.
00:55:05.599 --> 00:55:07.039
So that's what I thought it was.
00:55:07.199 --> 00:55:09.280
I was like, what he saving his playlist for?
00:55:09.360 --> 00:55:10.079
Maybe do it and go play.
00:55:10.239 --> 00:55:11.760
And all the time be like, play it tonight.
00:55:11.920 --> 00:55:13.440
I thought, dang, I hope she ain't played it.
00:55:14.079 --> 00:55:14.320
I did.
00:55:14.559 --> 00:55:18.079
But then I had to think about okay, because I think our apples is different.
00:55:18.239 --> 00:55:18.480
Yeah.
00:55:18.639 --> 00:55:19.840
So I don't never use Apple.
00:55:19.920 --> 00:55:21.039
So you don't have to worry about that.
00:55:21.199 --> 00:55:22.400
I never use Alpha.
00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:23.280
I'm glad.
00:55:24.239 --> 00:55:25.360
I'm glad you enjoyed it.
00:55:25.519 --> 00:55:26.639
That's really good.
00:55:27.039 --> 00:55:27.199
Good.
00:55:27.440 --> 00:55:28.880
I'ma listen to it again.
00:55:29.119 --> 00:55:30.159
Yes, I'll share it with you.
00:55:30.320 --> 00:55:31.599
I just didn't want to be no sucker.
00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:32.880
Oh my God.
00:55:33.119 --> 00:55:33.599
Thanks.
00:55:33.760 --> 00:55:34.960
Because the people want to see it.
00:55:35.039 --> 00:55:35.679
The people that make it.
00:55:35.920 --> 00:55:39.920
They'd be like, when you keep a video so that we can share the video on our site.
00:55:41.039 --> 00:55:42.239
I still smile the whole time.
00:55:42.559 --> 00:55:49.039
But if you would have, if you would have teared up, they'd have been like, oh that you would have went viral.
00:55:49.440 --> 00:55:51.440
Now you done, you know, you know, unviraled yourself.
00:55:51.679 --> 00:55:52.719
I was being myself.
00:55:52.880 --> 00:55:54.159
You know, unviral yourself.
00:55:54.480 --> 00:55:54.960
Oh my gosh.
00:55:55.199 --> 00:55:56.400
Well, that's my surprise.
00:55:56.559 --> 00:55:57.199
That's so nice.
00:55:57.280 --> 00:55:59.679
I have a surprise for you for your anniversary, but it's not here yet.
00:55:59.920 --> 00:56:00.639
Okay, no problem.
00:56:00.960 --> 00:56:03.039
But I have to good.
00:56:03.440 --> 00:56:04.639
I think I did good with that one.
00:56:04.800 --> 00:56:06.000
You did too good.
00:56:06.239 --> 00:56:06.480
All right.
00:56:06.639 --> 00:56:08.639
I would have never expected you to do that.
00:56:08.800 --> 00:56:09.119
Yeah.
00:56:09.760 --> 00:56:10.000
Good.
00:56:10.320 --> 00:56:11.760
It's because I was gonna change it.
00:56:11.920 --> 00:56:13.280
I said, oh, they pronounced her name right.
00:56:13.440 --> 00:56:16.320
I said, but no, that's the actual way of how it's pronounced.
00:56:16.719 --> 00:56:17.280
Lucrezia.
00:56:17.519 --> 00:56:17.599
Right.
00:56:17.679 --> 00:56:18.239
You remember saying?
00:56:18.320 --> 00:56:19.440
And that's when you said that.
00:56:19.599 --> 00:56:28.559
I said, or RB is known for taking things and you know, Frenching it up like, you know, voulez voulet.
00:56:28.800 --> 00:56:31.360
So moving forward, everybody called me.
00:56:32.639 --> 00:56:33.599
Lucracia.
00:56:34.480 --> 00:56:37.519
Right if somebody says, you watch the podcast?
00:56:40.400 --> 00:56:41.280
That's me.
00:56:42.639 --> 00:56:43.199
That's me.
00:56:43.519 --> 00:56:44.239
So yeah.
00:56:44.480 --> 00:56:50.960
But um those things can be they can be expensive because you gotta you pay for the song, then you gotta pay for the rights.
00:56:51.280 --> 00:56:56.400
So we pay for the I pay for the rights to download and use it on podcasts or whatever.
00:56:57.039 --> 00:57:06.400
And then, but then there's another way you can pay for it to have a QR code, and just you can frame your QR code in your room or somewhere, and then people, you know, it'll be like, what is this?
00:57:06.480 --> 00:57:07.920
And they click it and then they'll hit a song.
00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:09.760
Oh, oh, that's pretty cool.
00:57:09.920 --> 00:57:17.280
So if you make a special one for like more than one person, yeah, like the family or something like that, you know what I mean?
00:57:17.440 --> 00:57:19.440
And you just have that QR code on there.
00:57:19.519 --> 00:57:24.719
So um Yeah, I think I might make one for the Refreshly Normal Podcast.
00:57:24.880 --> 00:57:25.519
That would be a good thing.
00:57:25.679 --> 00:57:26.639
And then have a QR code.
00:57:27.280 --> 00:57:34.559
And then that way when people, you know, put it on a sweater or something or shirt, they can be like Refreshly Normal Podcast.
00:57:34.800 --> 00:57:36.000
And then it hooks them.
00:57:37.280 --> 00:57:37.760
You know.
00:57:38.000 --> 00:57:38.719
Maybe.
00:57:39.360 --> 00:57:44.719
Maybe we'll see it, but it's definitely for the theme, the opening of the theme song in the play.
00:57:45.039 --> 00:57:46.480
Alright, so moving right along.
00:57:46.559 --> 00:57:49.280
So, gentlemen, if you want to surprise, like that stuff works.
00:57:49.440 --> 00:57:53.519
You see, you see, y'all see her eyes over there looking like she was a crackpiper.
00:57:53.920 --> 00:57:54.559
How was that doing?
00:57:54.719 --> 00:57:56.000
The eye, they were glassy.
00:57:56.079 --> 00:57:57.119
They would you wouldn't cry.
00:57:57.199 --> 00:58:01.360
You know, when you see people that be like on that stuff real heavy, them eyes look real glassy.
00:58:01.440 --> 00:58:01.519
Oh.
00:58:01.840 --> 00:58:03.920
And your eye was like real glassy.
00:58:04.639 --> 00:58:05.280
Oh my god.
00:58:05.440 --> 00:58:06.719
I ain't gonna cry.
00:58:07.519 --> 00:58:09.599
Karata man crying inside.
00:58:09.840 --> 00:58:11.679
Y'all know that from Eddie Murphy saying that.
00:58:12.079 --> 00:58:13.360
All right, so what are you grateful for?
00:58:13.519 --> 00:58:15.360
I'm grateful for my song.
00:58:15.760 --> 00:58:16.320
Good.
00:58:16.480 --> 00:58:22.960
Um, I'm also grateful for uh one of my colleagues who is also a Delta Sarah.
00:58:23.280 --> 00:58:24.000
Sarah.
00:58:24.960 --> 00:58:25.039
Yeah.
00:58:25.920 --> 00:58:27.440
Hey, Sarah, depending on where you're from.
00:58:29.199 --> 00:58:37.679
Anyways, um, there her chapter is having a retreat, and she asked if I would come talk about wellness.
00:58:38.159 --> 00:58:43.760
Um, and so um I'm grateful that she actually thought about me to come.
00:58:44.239 --> 00:58:45.119
Where is it gonna be?
00:58:45.440 --> 00:58:46.400
Morehouse.
00:58:46.559 --> 00:58:48.079
It's gonna be at Morehouse.
00:58:48.239 --> 00:59:00.639
Um, so I'm excited about being able to go and share about wellness, and you know, so um I already know what I'm gonna do and um for their presentation, but just be able to go do that.
00:59:00.719 --> 00:59:02.800
I think I do it twice on that day.
00:59:02.960 --> 00:59:12.960
So, anyways, I'm gonna go and speak to um ladies that look like me about the importance of taking care of themselves.
00:59:13.199 --> 00:59:21.119
And you can speak on behalf of you and not of um where I work binding.
00:59:22.800 --> 00:59:25.760
Things that you're right, things that that that you're binded by.
00:59:26.239 --> 00:59:32.400
So, like, yeah, so this will be kind of like yeah, this will be my first outside of work.
00:59:34.000 --> 00:59:34.800
You know what I mean?
00:59:35.039 --> 00:59:36.000
Speaking engagement.
00:59:36.159 --> 00:59:36.880
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:59:37.119 --> 00:59:39.840
So this will be my first outside of work, like speaking engagement.
00:59:40.079 --> 00:59:45.280
Let me know if you need any, you know, pointers, because you know, your boy used to travel around the world to do that.
00:59:45.519 --> 00:59:46.719
He already knows.
00:59:46.960 --> 00:59:48.800
He's traveling around the world.
00:59:50.079 --> 00:59:51.119
I got this.
00:59:51.360 --> 00:59:51.760
You do.
00:59:52.000 --> 00:59:52.480
I'm excited.
00:59:52.960 --> 00:59:53.119
Yeah.
00:59:53.199 --> 00:59:54.719
So, anyways, I'm really excited.
00:59:54.800 --> 01:00:01.679
I'm really grateful for that opportunity and they're grateful that somebody thought about me in a room when I wasn't there.
01:00:01.920 --> 01:00:04.800
And when they were thinking about who could come do this, she thought about me.
01:00:05.039 --> 01:00:05.920
So I don't know.
01:00:06.000 --> 01:00:07.519
That made me feel pretty good there.
01:00:07.760 --> 01:00:08.639
You gotta set it up, right?
01:00:08.719 --> 01:00:13.679
You gotta put your nice when you do your PowerPoint, because you gotta talk a little bit about yourself.
01:00:13.840 --> 01:00:14.239
Mm-hmm.
01:00:14.960 --> 01:00:15.440
You know.
01:00:15.760 --> 01:00:16.239
Yep.
01:00:16.559 --> 01:00:18.639
So yeah, I'm really excited about it.
01:00:18.719 --> 01:00:25.679
Um not last minute, like it's it's something that's not till the end of August.
01:00:25.840 --> 01:00:26.079
Yeah.
01:00:26.159 --> 01:00:29.679
So she gave me, she told me about it a couple a few weeks ago.
01:00:29.920 --> 01:00:30.719
Two and a half weeks ago?
01:00:30.800 --> 01:00:32.480
Yeah, a couple weeks ago, she told me about it.
01:00:32.559 --> 01:00:38.719
So plenty of time for me not to feel rushed and to get the things done that I would want to get done for it.
01:00:38.800 --> 01:00:46.880
And so I'm just grateful that um, yeah, that she thought about me when they were trying to figure out how who they were gonna have and what they were gonna do.
01:00:47.039 --> 01:00:48.079
And so yeah.
01:00:48.480 --> 01:00:53.760
So you need to now work on what is available for the presentation.
01:00:54.000 --> 01:00:54.800
What do you mean?
01:00:55.039 --> 01:01:00.559
Like what you know, the uh is it a um what do you call it?
01:01:01.199 --> 01:01:02.719
Is it an overhead projector?
01:01:02.960 --> 01:01:04.719
Oh, she told me to tell her what I needed.
01:01:04.880 --> 01:01:05.199
Okay.
01:01:05.440 --> 01:01:06.639
So, um, yeah.
01:01:06.800 --> 01:01:08.880
So I'm gonna put together clicker.
01:01:09.280 --> 01:01:10.159
I got my own clicker.
01:01:10.559 --> 01:01:11.039
Okay, good.
01:01:11.199 --> 01:01:14.159
Um so, anyways, I I really just need a projector.
01:01:14.400 --> 01:01:15.920
Um, is pretty much it.
01:01:16.079 --> 01:01:20.639
Um yeah, that's all I need projector for that, but I already know what I'm gonna do.
01:01:20.880 --> 01:01:22.960
So I'm excited for you.
01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:24.800
Is this what you want to do?
01:01:25.039 --> 01:01:32.239
Yeah, so I'm grateful for um somebody thinking about me or feeling like and what does she do?
01:01:32.480 --> 01:01:33.679
Um school counselor.
01:01:34.159 --> 01:01:34.480
Okay.
01:01:35.920 --> 01:01:39.119
And the retreat is for women or is for kids?
01:01:39.679 --> 01:01:42.639
No, it's for w it's for the their chapter chapter of retreat.
01:01:42.880 --> 01:01:44.079
See, that's what I was trying to say.
01:01:44.159 --> 01:01:51.280
Like, this is it for kids, it's different, but if it's for adults, then somebody be like, well, let's get that one lady that spoke.
01:01:51.760 --> 01:01:59.280
You know, even if you they want you to speak at the church thing, sometimes women have the the health things, and you know, now you now you start developing your contracts.
01:01:59.519 --> 01:01:59.840
Yeah.
01:02:00.079 --> 01:02:02.880
So, anyways, I'm really excited about it.
01:02:03.199 --> 01:02:18.079
And um, you know, I've all I think for the I think for I've been heavily for the last year or so just praying for all of us opportunity.
01:02:18.639 --> 01:02:31.119
So for different opportunities to be able to do the things that we do well and to also to um fulfill the purpose and the will that God has on our life.
01:02:31.199 --> 01:02:41.199
And so I don't know, I feel like you know, what's in your yeah, that definitely has been in your wish list, your prayer list, your, you know, would be cool to do lists.
01:02:41.360 --> 01:02:48.000
And I didn't say exactly what they are because I feel like sometimes what what we may want for an opportunity different than what God wants.
01:02:48.159 --> 01:02:55.039
It's different than what God wants, but I don't we don't also think sometimes as big as he may our potential.
01:02:55.440 --> 01:02:57.599
Yeah, sometimes we don't get it because we didn't ask for it.
01:02:57.679 --> 01:03:03.039
He's like, dude, then I just say you know what I'm capable of.
01:03:03.599 --> 01:03:06.639
You know the needs and you know all the things.
01:03:06.800 --> 01:03:08.239
So hey, set me up.
01:03:08.400 --> 01:03:09.519
Set me up right.
01:03:09.679 --> 01:03:10.159
Mm-hmm.
01:03:10.400 --> 01:03:12.639
So, anyways, yeah.
01:03:12.800 --> 01:03:14.800
So, anyways, um that's I'm grateful for that.
01:03:14.880 --> 01:03:15.360
What are you doing?
01:03:15.440 --> 01:03:16.880
You gotta get your fit together.
01:03:17.039 --> 01:03:18.000
We gotta start now.
01:03:18.159 --> 01:03:21.440
Oh, it's not you're gonna you're trying to put anxiousness on me.
01:03:21.519 --> 01:03:23.199
I'm I'm gonna be calm, cool, collected.
01:03:23.280 --> 01:03:24.559
I'm not gonna buy anything.
01:03:24.719 --> 01:03:26.639
It's gonna be I'm listen.
01:03:27.280 --> 01:03:28.400
But we gotta put it together.
01:03:28.559 --> 01:03:29.599
Yeah, we could put it together.
01:03:29.760 --> 01:03:32.400
But I'm not putting a level of gotta wear your pearls.
01:03:32.559 --> 01:03:33.119
I gave you.
01:03:33.199 --> 01:03:33.440
Yep.
01:03:34.000 --> 01:03:36.079
Well, can y'all wear pearls in events?
01:03:36.239 --> 01:03:42.159
Because you know, 20 pearls, you know, the aka is always talking about pretty girl with 20 pearls, all that stuff.
01:03:42.400 --> 01:03:46.000
Anyways, I'm not gonna allow you to put all that on me, right, on anxiousness.
01:03:46.079 --> 01:03:47.599
I'm gonna be very calm, cool, collective.
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:48.639
That's make you anxious.
01:03:48.800 --> 01:03:51.920
Yeah, because you're you immediately went to, did you get this?
01:03:52.000 --> 01:03:52.960
And you got to wear this.
01:03:53.280 --> 01:03:53.760
I'm so excited.
01:03:54.719 --> 01:03:56.639
And you got to do that, and you got to do that.
01:03:56.960 --> 01:03:59.039
I'm trying to find a way to sneak up in that thing.
01:03:59.199 --> 01:04:01.440
I'm trying to be Let me let me pull the wagon.
01:04:01.679 --> 01:04:06.800
Yeah, so yeah, you immediately went into all these things, and I'm like, this is big.
01:04:07.039 --> 01:04:08.880
This is your this is your big deal.
01:04:09.039 --> 01:04:15.360
I I want to I mean, not I'm not saying big deal to be nervous, but I'm like, this is so freaking cool.
01:04:15.599 --> 01:04:20.000
Yeah, so I'm just like treating it like this is what I do, Nestle.
01:04:20.159 --> 01:04:23.599
Like, I was excited when you was doing the um presentation.
01:04:23.920 --> 01:04:24.960
What presentation, honey?
01:04:25.199 --> 01:04:26.079
In Savannah.
01:04:26.400 --> 01:04:28.880
Oh man, I kept saying, oh yeah, my wife's presenting.
01:04:28.960 --> 01:04:29.920
Every time I in the elevator.
01:04:30.159 --> 01:04:31.199
He talked everybody.
01:04:31.519 --> 01:04:32.079
You from the district?
01:04:32.159 --> 01:04:33.679
Uh I mean so what district are you from?
01:04:33.760 --> 01:04:34.880
Where we're from, Bartow.
01:04:34.960 --> 01:04:36.079
I said, Oh, my wife's presented.
01:04:36.159 --> 01:04:36.639
Oh, she is.
01:04:37.119 --> 01:04:42.320
Then when we were sitting there before we got ready to present at the conference, he'd text me, talking about, hey, what bring me all in?
01:04:42.400 --> 01:04:44.000
I got people out here looking for a place to go.
01:04:44.079 --> 01:04:45.920
I'm trying to send them your house away.
01:04:46.239 --> 01:04:46.639
See them.
01:04:47.679 --> 01:04:49.840
Hey, I was hey, I was the wingman.
01:04:49.920 --> 01:04:51.920
I was looking I was the promoter.
01:04:52.079 --> 01:04:53.119
I was the party promoter.
01:04:53.440 --> 01:04:53.599
Yeah.
01:04:53.679 --> 01:05:00.400
I'm I'm not like, you know, I really want to be on my own speaking in front of people.
01:05:00.639 --> 01:05:05.679
Um, I've gotten so much better, but before I used to always wear black because I'd sweat my office.
01:05:06.000 --> 01:05:07.679
Um I feel like I've gotten better at that.
01:05:07.840 --> 01:05:13.199
Sometimes I do um maybe like the first uh 30 minutes in.
01:05:13.679 --> 01:05:14.400
30 minutes.
01:05:14.639 --> 01:05:15.199
No, no, no.
01:05:15.440 --> 01:05:17.679
Because I sometimes present multiple times.
01:05:17.840 --> 01:05:20.239
So it just depends on what it is and what it's.
01:05:20.480 --> 01:05:27.760
But usually about 15 minutes and 30 minutes in, there's a I just where I'm getting my You zoning.
01:05:27.840 --> 01:05:28.480
You're in the zone.
01:05:28.880 --> 01:05:29.119
Yeah.
01:05:29.199 --> 01:05:29.440
Yeah.
01:05:29.599 --> 01:05:29.840
Yeah.
01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:31.039
So uh Yeah.
01:05:31.199 --> 01:05:36.400
So but no, but yeah, this one, this guy immediately just went to da da da da da da da.
01:05:37.119 --> 01:05:37.360
Ready.
01:05:37.599 --> 01:05:37.920
Uh uh.
01:05:38.239 --> 01:05:38.719
I'm ready.
01:05:39.199 --> 01:05:40.880
I don't want all that on me.
01:05:41.519 --> 01:05:42.800
Cause you know what I could do.
01:05:42.960 --> 01:05:43.599
Don't put it on me.
01:05:43.840 --> 01:05:46.559
When you're getting ready to you sitting in the back, you sitting in the back, right?
01:05:46.639 --> 01:05:48.960
Before you can come out, I'll play that song.
01:05:49.199 --> 01:05:51.920
So, ladies and gentlemen, get ready for Lucrecia.
01:05:52.559 --> 01:05:55.599
No, please don't have a DJ.
01:05:56.079 --> 01:05:58.079
She had a DJ in this thing, y'all.
01:05:58.400 --> 01:05:59.440
She was jammy.
01:06:01.760 --> 01:06:04.239
Anyways, what are you grateful for?
01:06:04.480 --> 01:06:07.519
Um, grateful for my new gig.
01:06:07.840 --> 01:06:09.280
Nervous about it a little bit.
01:06:09.679 --> 01:06:13.119
Um, you know, I haven't done you know, everything else was like second nature.
01:06:13.280 --> 01:06:13.519
Yeah.
01:06:13.840 --> 01:06:23.519
Even when I did sped, even, you know, it was second nature because of the fact that I knew the kids, the grade levels, things have changed over those years when I've taught elementary again.
01:06:24.239 --> 01:06:28.400
That's uh what, twenty two years ago?
01:06:28.880 --> 01:06:30.880
Twenty-three years ago since I've taught elementary school.
01:06:31.599 --> 01:06:32.320
You know what I mean?
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So things have changed.
01:06:36.239 --> 01:06:42.400
You know, there's a lot of new drugs out there that in these kids' system now that I gotta deal with on an early age.
01:06:42.719 --> 01:06:43.519
And new parenting.
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New parenting.
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That's what I'm saying, you know.
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And so uh, but nah, I'm um I'm not I'm I'm a little nervous just because you know me, I like to be.
01:06:53.599 --> 01:06:54.639
Is this a grateful part?
01:06:54.960 --> 01:06:55.599
Because you're talking about.
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Yeah, I'm grateful.
01:06:57.360 --> 01:07:00.079
I'm nervous, but I'm I'm grateful, but I'm a little nervous.
01:07:00.239 --> 01:07:10.239
Okay but I'm grateful that what I've wanted, which was elementary PE, came back around.
01:07:10.639 --> 01:07:16.079
And it came back around at a perfect time because the internship.
01:07:17.280 --> 01:07:17.760
Remember?
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Because things look like, I'm in middle school, middle school hours are later.
01:07:22.079 --> 01:07:23.519
I ain't gonna get my hours.
01:07:23.760 --> 01:07:25.679
And he boom, he said, I got you.
01:07:25.840 --> 01:07:26.639
Don't worry about it.
01:07:26.719 --> 01:07:27.360
I got you.
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And so, you know, I'm grateful that that he does have me, that God does have me.
01:07:33.039 --> 01:07:39.119
I'm grateful that I'm able to recognize and see when he has me.
01:07:39.679 --> 01:07:46.639
Um I went to the gym, you know, that when I, you know, before, and I saw the gym, I was like, oh, this thing's nice.
01:07:46.880 --> 01:07:47.519
It was nice.
01:07:47.760 --> 01:07:49.119
They got all the stuff I need.
01:07:49.199 --> 01:07:53.440
I'm I'm I'm upset I didn't go play with the the thing, that the big screen thing.
01:07:53.679 --> 01:07:54.320
You got all week.
01:07:54.800 --> 01:07:56.159
I know, but I wanted to, you know.
01:07:56.400 --> 01:07:57.039
You got all week.
01:07:57.280 --> 01:07:59.039
Yeah, but I'm grateful we got that.
01:08:00.079 --> 01:08:07.360
Um I'm just I'm just I'm happy that man, it's you know, it's in a nice area.
01:08:07.599 --> 01:08:14.719
Um and it's like I'm grateful that it's in the area because I can go get different things to eat.
01:08:15.519 --> 01:08:17.119
You know, it's just so cool.
01:08:17.199 --> 01:08:19.520
Like, you know, when we have like our planning days or whatever.
01:08:19.760 --> 01:08:19.840
Yeah.
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Like, where y'all going to lunch?
01:08:21.119 --> 01:08:22.239
It's like, oh, I'm gonna try that, try this.
01:08:22.479 --> 01:08:23.520
It's so many different places.
01:08:23.600 --> 01:08:23.760
Yeah.
01:08:23.920 --> 01:08:25.600
And then like you can be like, hey, I'm gonna meet you here.
01:08:25.680 --> 01:08:26.479
Yeah, we'll be over here.
01:08:27.359 --> 01:08:27.520
Right.
01:08:27.600 --> 01:08:30.399
Let's meet this place, let's meet this place, let's meet whatever, you know.
01:08:30.880 --> 01:08:31.600
It's just so many.
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And then you remember like before, like, if we wanted to go somewhere after work, you know what I mean?
01:08:37.279 --> 01:08:38.000
Do they have a shower?
01:08:38.079 --> 01:08:39.520
I think they did say they there's a shower there.
01:08:39.600 --> 01:08:42.720
So I'd be like, hey, let's go meet over here, drive over and just boom, you know.
01:08:42.960 --> 01:08:49.359
It's just it just seems like it's it's popping off to finish my career how I wanted it to.
01:08:49.920 --> 01:08:51.439
You know, exciting and different.
01:08:52.079 --> 01:08:57.600
Um, I'm also grateful for my health.
01:08:58.399 --> 01:09:01.760
You know, I had my colonoscopy turn out to be amazing.
01:09:01.920 --> 01:09:04.640
Now it's seven years as opposed to five years apart.
01:09:05.279 --> 01:09:07.840
Um my blood pressure is great, they said.
01:09:08.399 --> 01:09:17.039
All my levels, my A1C, all that stuff, you know, for like with prostate, you know, because we're at that age now where things start you being alert, and everything was good.
01:09:17.199 --> 01:09:19.439
My consistency in the gym has been amazing.
01:09:19.680 --> 01:09:21.600
My injuries have been down.
01:09:22.079 --> 01:09:25.359
Um, just things are just doing what they're supposed to do.
01:09:26.159 --> 01:09:30.560
The power bill is low, and the house is cold.
01:09:30.880 --> 01:09:31.279
Cold.
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Y'all.
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Mooy frill.
01:09:34.479 --> 01:09:43.119
I'm talking about like where Kimani is running around here with a uh thick cardigan on, and he is hot natured.
01:09:43.439 --> 01:09:45.359
I said, Child, why do you have that cardigan on?
01:09:45.439 --> 01:09:47.840
I'm thinking, is he trying to get in his teacher mode?
01:09:48.000 --> 01:09:49.119
He said, I'm cold.
01:09:49.279 --> 01:09:51.520
And then he's like, Yes, I had a sweatshirt on inside.
01:09:51.600 --> 01:09:52.239
Sweatshirt and sweats.
01:09:52.720 --> 01:09:55.600
And it will be on 71, 72, and we are live.
01:09:55.920 --> 01:09:57.359
It's cold in here for a reason.
01:09:57.439 --> 01:09:57.840
So yeah.
01:09:58.079 --> 01:09:58.880
Yeah, it's amazing.
01:09:58.960 --> 01:10:04.720
So I don't think we ever, ever with our other air conditioner felt that.
01:10:04.880 --> 01:10:05.199
No.
01:10:05.520 --> 01:10:07.600
Which kind of tells us we it was wrong from the jump.
01:10:07.760 --> 01:10:08.319
From the jump.
01:10:08.479 --> 01:10:09.039
From the jump.
01:10:09.199 --> 01:10:10.640
Yeah, paying that high electric bill.
01:10:11.199 --> 01:10:11.680
I mean, it was cold.
01:10:11.920 --> 01:10:12.960
Yeah, it was it was comfortable.
01:10:13.119 --> 01:10:13.600
It was comfortable.
01:10:13.760 --> 01:10:18.000
But it's like here, we still ain't like we be playing with the thing, like, shoot, it's 72.
01:10:18.079 --> 01:10:19.520
And we still look chilly.
01:10:19.920 --> 01:10:21.119
You know, and then you get it right.
01:10:21.199 --> 01:10:25.279
It's like, okay, because it it holds the temperature in the house so well.
01:10:25.680 --> 01:10:26.319
Amazingly well.
01:10:26.479 --> 01:10:27.039
Oh man.
01:10:27.600 --> 01:10:27.840
Yes.
01:10:28.319 --> 01:10:28.479
Yeah.
01:10:28.640 --> 01:10:31.840
And at this time of year, our power bill would be like$354.
01:10:32.239 --> 01:10:33.039
$350,$400.
01:10:33.520 --> 01:10:34.960
Now$150.
01:10:35.920 --> 01:10:36.399
Come on now, y'all.
01:10:36.479 --> 01:10:37.359
We had sitting at one point.
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Listen, listen.
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And everybody's home.
01:10:40.159 --> 01:10:40.960
You know what I'm saying?
01:10:41.039 --> 01:10:43.119
So everybody's home to burn the air.
01:10:43.279 --> 01:10:44.000
It's yeah.
01:10:44.239 --> 01:10:44.479
So.
01:10:45.119 --> 01:10:51.199
But I'm grateful for it, just seems like, you know, it's a lot going on in the world, but God got us, man.
01:10:51.279 --> 01:10:53.199
And I'm so thank you, Lord.
01:10:53.520 --> 01:10:54.560
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
01:10:54.960 --> 01:10:56.800
All right, what do you do looking forward to?
01:10:57.199 --> 01:10:58.640
Well, let's see.
01:11:02.640 --> 01:11:04.479
What am I looking forward to?
01:11:04.640 --> 01:11:05.279
I don't know.
01:11:05.520 --> 01:11:12.000
I'm back into the seasons, work seasons, and I'm still doing all the things.
01:11:12.159 --> 01:11:13.279
Oh, oh, wait.
01:11:13.520 --> 01:11:14.079
I got it.
01:11:14.159 --> 01:11:14.560
I got it.
01:11:14.720 --> 01:11:18.399
So I was getting ready to say, I'm trying to figure out what am I looking forward to because I'm so busy.
01:11:18.560 --> 01:11:19.840
My day starts at 5 a.m.
01:11:20.000 --> 01:11:22.319
with exercising because now I got exercise in the morning.
01:11:22.560 --> 01:11:26.479
And then um most days I'm I'm not done till 8 p.m.
01:11:27.199 --> 01:11:27.279
Yeah.
01:11:27.520 --> 01:11:28.239
To 8 p.m.
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and then home.
01:11:29.680 --> 01:11:41.520
But I will say, what I'm looking forward to is I turned in my application um to take that A out of my LAPC to just be an LPC.
01:11:41.680 --> 01:11:43.439
So I got all my documents together.
01:11:43.600 --> 01:11:44.159
Yes, yes.
01:11:44.479 --> 01:11:45.359
Turned that in.
01:11:45.520 --> 01:11:50.560
So I guess I'm looking forward to um oftentimes you don't have all things you need.
01:11:51.279 --> 01:11:53.840
Um, you'll get they call it a deficiency letter.
01:11:53.920 --> 01:11:54.960
I don't know why they call it that.
01:11:55.039 --> 01:12:03.039
That just sounds so when I got my first one when I was doing my LAPC, I said, well, I I was like really freaking out because I didn't really know what that meant.
01:12:03.279 --> 01:12:04.720
Um, but it's not a big deal.
01:12:04.800 --> 01:12:06.399
It's just really them saying, here's what you need.
01:12:06.960 --> 01:12:10.239
Checklist, you know, something else you need to do or whatever.
01:12:10.479 --> 01:12:12.319
Um they need to figure out a different word.
01:12:12.399 --> 01:12:16.479
That's just such a harsh that's the therapeutic word, you know, health-wise, you know.
01:12:16.800 --> 01:12:17.680
Deficiency.
01:12:17.920 --> 01:12:20.239
Um just call it lacking letter.
01:12:20.720 --> 01:12:21.840
No, this is what you're lacking.
01:12:22.079 --> 01:12:22.800
You're missing something.
01:12:22.960 --> 01:12:24.399
Missing, missing something.
01:12:24.960 --> 01:12:25.439
I don't know.
01:12:25.600 --> 01:12:25.840
Yeah, yeah.
01:12:26.000 --> 01:12:33.359
But, anyways, I'm hoping there's nothing missing and that within, I think they'll let you know something within 10 to 20 business days.
01:12:33.680 --> 01:12:34.319
You're gonna be sure.
01:12:34.560 --> 01:12:34.880
Um, yeah.
01:12:35.039 --> 01:12:37.119
So hopefully everything is what it needs to be.
01:12:37.279 --> 01:12:47.600
I probably put more in there than I needed to because some people telling me you needed this, and somebody said you didn't need that, but you somebody so whatever somebody said I needed, honey.
01:12:47.680 --> 01:12:48.800
I uploaded all that.
01:12:48.960 --> 01:12:53.199
So it's all that's what I could just throw it away if you don't need it.
01:12:53.680 --> 01:12:54.479
But you got it.
01:12:54.800 --> 01:12:55.279
Over shit.
01:12:56.880 --> 01:12:59.199
I'm over, I put whatever, all of it.
01:12:59.279 --> 01:13:02.239
So um, what you ain't gonna do is say you ain't did nothing.
01:13:02.479 --> 01:13:02.720
Okay.
01:13:02.880 --> 01:13:03.359
She did a lot.
01:13:03.760 --> 01:13:05.520
She did a lot, a lot more than she needed to.
01:13:06.000 --> 01:13:06.560
She needed to.
01:13:06.800 --> 01:13:08.159
Give that child her license.
01:13:08.399 --> 01:13:08.560
Right.
01:13:08.800 --> 01:13:09.840
Matter of fact, give her her two.
01:13:10.159 --> 01:13:10.800
Give her two.
01:13:11.119 --> 01:13:12.960
She didn't work for two people.
01:13:13.119 --> 01:13:14.720
So, anyways, I did all that.
01:13:14.800 --> 01:13:19.840
So um, I'm looking forward to saying approved.
01:13:20.319 --> 01:13:21.039
There you go.
01:13:21.359 --> 01:13:24.880
And I will um not have to work under supervision.
01:13:25.039 --> 01:13:27.199
I can just work all on my loan.
01:13:27.520 --> 01:13:29.520
So anyway, that's what I'm looking forward to.
01:13:29.600 --> 01:13:30.319
What do you look forward to?
01:13:30.479 --> 01:13:34.319
I'm looking forward to one of the semesters about to be over this next week.
01:13:34.479 --> 01:13:37.119
Um so it's gonna be busy.
01:13:37.199 --> 01:13:38.880
Like tomorrow, I got a lot of work to do.
01:13:39.600 --> 01:13:45.600
Um, I got, you know, some my hours and stuff like just make sure they're tabulated right.
01:13:45.760 --> 01:13:47.279
Uh, a few little assignments.
01:13:47.439 --> 01:14:02.399
I gotta send some um audio uh things to my advisor to research, not research, but uh dictate on, kind of, you know, to let me know where I should, you know, do some different things.
01:14:02.560 --> 01:14:03.840
And that's really it.
01:14:04.000 --> 01:14:09.760
But on still, on top of that, we starting school and um still got clients.
01:14:10.239 --> 01:14:13.119
And I gotta find my workout time.
01:14:13.439 --> 01:14:14.239
Yeah, you got it.
01:14:14.399 --> 01:14:15.600
That's gonna be the hardest part.
01:14:15.840 --> 01:14:20.479
I mean, like for me, I'm not a morning person, but um, it's better to do something than nothing.
01:14:20.640 --> 01:14:25.920
So typically, like this one Can't say you're not a morning person when you have been successfully doing your morning.
01:14:26.159 --> 01:14:28.079
Yeah, but I think it's an adjustment.
01:14:28.239 --> 01:14:30.319
I mean, like while I say something's better than nothing.
01:14:30.399 --> 01:14:30.720
Yeah.
01:14:30.880 --> 01:14:41.039
Um, I would like to get up and do like like a normal after work when I didn't have clients, it'd be my cardio, some sort of weights, or whatever.
01:14:41.279 --> 01:14:44.800
But for now, I'm just like, something is better than nothing.
01:14:45.039 --> 01:14:48.000
And so um I just try to switch it up a run.
01:14:48.319 --> 01:14:48.960
But it's working.
01:14:49.039 --> 01:14:55.920
Um, and I do the bike because the bike actually the resistance is that's pressure leg stuff.
01:14:56.079 --> 01:15:00.319
And um then I try to incorporate the one where they got the uh now.
01:15:00.479 --> 01:15:02.479
I'm doing like the bike with the with the weights.
01:15:02.640 --> 01:15:03.279
With the weights, yeah.
01:15:03.439 --> 01:15:04.159
So arms.
01:15:04.319 --> 01:15:07.039
So whatever, because something is better than you not doing anything.
01:15:07.119 --> 01:15:17.439
So if I if all I can get in is 30 minutes or 20-minute interval training or whatever on the bike or or treadmill, it's better than me doing going that whole day not doing anything.
01:15:17.680 --> 01:15:26.319
So that's just kind of what I set my mind to is that, and then when our breaks come, then that's the opportunity for me to do my longer ones when I that I can do workouts, yeah.
01:15:26.560 --> 01:15:28.960
But just doing something.
01:15:29.199 --> 01:15:38.239
So yeah, so I I get up and do it before work and um yeah, and I'm just I just getting up and doing it, baby.
01:15:38.479 --> 01:15:47.039
Because that was that's what I also learned with my mom and daddy them is that I want to at their age, I want to be up still traveling, moving and doing.
01:15:47.279 --> 01:15:53.439
Yes, I don't want to be confined, movement confined, home confined.
01:15:53.600 --> 01:15:55.439
I just don't want to have that.
01:15:55.600 --> 01:15:59.279
Um I I'd like to be moving to my last day.
01:15:59.680 --> 01:16:02.319
Um, but just that that part.
01:16:02.399 --> 01:16:07.199
And so making sure you stay active and and healthy.
01:16:07.920 --> 01:16:10.800
And we still enjoy scrumptious goodies.
01:16:10.960 --> 01:16:22.479
I mean, everything in moderation, but just taking care of your body and your health the best way that you can so that you can be that 80-year-old that's hiking up um somewhere.
01:16:22.720 --> 01:16:36.079
Yeah, or them like you know, you see those stories like she's 65 years old, and look at her, you know, but like she's still wearing the leggings, yeah, or tights and working out, yeah, you know, still exceeding limitations, you know what I'm saying?
01:16:36.159 --> 01:16:38.640
So that's my goal for myself, you know.
01:16:38.800 --> 01:16:43.840
And so, you know, people say, you know, you never know when's your last day, but you don't, but still.
01:16:44.079 --> 01:16:45.199
But you do the right things.
01:16:45.359 --> 01:16:51.680
If everything works accordingly, you can have some say-so in how long and how well your days are.
01:16:51.920 --> 01:16:52.159
Yeah.
01:16:52.319 --> 01:16:56.479
And at least you can say that you're doing all the things.
01:16:56.640 --> 01:17:00.479
Yeah, you know, so, anyways, that's also what I that I took from that.
01:17:00.560 --> 01:17:02.079
I was like, no, I want to make sure.
01:17:02.159 --> 01:17:08.079
And so this to me is like um, like Kirsten says, I I love to run, I get to run.
01:17:08.880 --> 01:17:10.079
Kirsten said get to.
01:17:10.159 --> 01:17:10.479
Uh-huh.
01:17:10.640 --> 01:17:11.439
Who said it first?
01:17:11.680 --> 01:17:12.399
I didn't say that.
01:17:12.479 --> 01:17:13.760
I know you said it first.
01:17:14.239 --> 01:17:15.199
He makes us change all things.
01:17:15.279 --> 01:17:18.000
When I say, Oh Lord, I oh, I gotta go to work.
01:17:18.079 --> 01:17:19.920
And he says, No, you get to go to work.
01:17:20.079 --> 01:17:21.600
You get to do this, and you get to do this.
01:17:22.640 --> 01:17:24.239
So, anyway, so that's true.
01:17:24.319 --> 01:17:25.359
So you get to.
01:17:25.439 --> 01:17:30.239
Um, even like I had to switch that with my mom, taking care of them.
01:17:30.319 --> 01:17:30.960
Like, I get to.
01:17:31.039 --> 01:17:35.279
It's plenty of people that wish their mamas were still here to get to take care of them.
01:17:35.439 --> 01:17:36.479
Yeah, to get to take care of them.
01:17:36.720 --> 01:17:40.000
So, anyways, so yeah, just changing your your mind frame.
01:17:40.159 --> 01:17:41.680
So I'm gonna figure it out.
01:17:41.840 --> 01:17:44.560
Like, even if I do have to get up early.
01:17:45.039 --> 01:17:52.000
I feel like you will be able to get up at 4, 4:30, yeah, and be able to get your workout in.
01:17:52.159 --> 01:18:00.800
It ain't gonna be your normal at the gym stuff, but it'll be an adjustment as you are just doing what you have to do right now.
01:18:00.960 --> 01:18:02.239
Because this is temporary.
01:18:02.399 --> 01:18:02.880
Yeah.
01:18:03.119 --> 01:18:09.520
So I even thought about changing like a gym that allows me to go to the gym early, early.
01:18:09.680 --> 01:18:13.920
You know, I said, but man, I love I love the sauna at at uh crunch.
01:18:14.079 --> 01:18:15.039
So I'm gonna figure it out.
01:18:15.119 --> 01:18:15.279
Yeah.
01:18:15.439 --> 01:18:16.239
Because even when I go back to it.
01:18:16.399 --> 01:18:26.800
I think you can I think really you try uh he's gonna do what he won't do because he's gonna be trying to be somewhere too much and doing too much, and then you're gonna be like, oh Lord, I was doing so well now.
01:18:26.880 --> 01:18:28.800
My body breaking down because you're doing too damn much.
01:18:28.960 --> 01:18:31.840
I'm doing what I've been doing for a year and I've been great.
01:18:32.079 --> 01:18:34.800
But your schedule is getting ready to be different.
01:18:35.119 --> 01:18:45.600
I know, but in regards to rest and and recharging and all of the things, your schedule is getting ready to be different.
01:18:45.840 --> 01:18:46.479
Hey.
01:18:47.039 --> 01:18:47.920
We're gonna make it work.
01:18:48.079 --> 01:18:49.119
Okay, you do you.
01:18:49.199 --> 01:18:50.960
But when you okay.
01:18:51.520 --> 01:18:52.720
We're gonna make it work.
01:18:52.880 --> 01:18:53.840
We'll see.
01:18:54.079 --> 01:18:55.119
We'll see.
01:18:55.760 --> 01:18:56.720
We'll see.
01:18:57.039 --> 01:18:58.399
And we didn't even get a chance to talk.
01:18:58.560 --> 01:19:03.279
So next, next week we're gonna talk about our favorite movie of the summer, our favorite show of the summer.
01:19:03.600 --> 01:19:04.800
Polygamus.
01:19:05.039 --> 01:19:06.239
Oh, yeah, we'll talk about that movie.
01:19:06.319 --> 01:19:06.880
That movie's great.
01:19:07.199 --> 01:19:08.079
That's movie crazy.
01:19:08.319 --> 01:19:10.560
All right, ladies and gentlemen, we're about to bounce up out of here.
01:19:11.279 --> 01:19:14.399
Hopefully, Keemani got our charcuterie boy ready.
01:19:15.359 --> 01:19:19.680
So it's been an honor being with you guys uh for season two.
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Two.
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Two's our fate, one of our favorite numbers.
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Yeah.
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Two.
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Everything about two.
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Two, everybody was born on Tuesday.
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Tuesday.
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That's right.
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So it's just us.
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Yeah.
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So thank you again.
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This has been the Refreshingly Normal Podcast.
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I am Kefla.
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I am Lucrecia.
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Lucracia.
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So we'll see you when we see it.
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The Refreshingly Normal Podcast.