Ep. 96 Wrecklessly In Love

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm still reckless forever, but I'm really trying to rebrand myself, but still maintain reckless.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to remain myself while still changing mode.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What's going on, everybody?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Welcome back to another episode of Just A The Podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I am your host, Jay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have an amazing guest today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Miss reckless, raya herself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The queen, everything sex, everything amazing, everything reckless.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's me, hello.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Coming at you live.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We start for thanking you for being a part of something that was literally a dream.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean that with all sincerity, it was a dream.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I literally said, I want to do a old female.
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[SPEAKER_00]: up in rising a podcast lineup and in my mind, because this is just the way I think, I like yeah, but I'm never going to be able to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm never going to be able to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It sounds good, but I'm never going to be able to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then when I really started putting pedal to the metal in contact with people,
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you were literally one of the first people I thought, I said, I have, I hope she agrees to it, but I have to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we put a dream to reality and it was a night to remember.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have to say from my perspective, I had been away from podcasting.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I probably like, maybe four or five months at that point.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that was like, being in that first of all, I was so honored that you asked me, I was like, wait a minute, this is literally, I remember her telling me this year, and now I'm a part of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I love that, and then the lineup of women was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: For me, that was the biggest battery in my back to start getting, I didn't, I unfortunately didn't come back after that, hello.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You back now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Back now, hello.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, that was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, that was an amazing event.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I love, and I have to give you, I know I said thank you already, but I have to thank you again.
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[SPEAKER_01]: for how you set me up in that area.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because first of all, having me last, not only did you get the crowd hype and ready for me, but you made sure that I was good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You said, okay, you ready need five minutes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Cool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll go up here and I'll stall and you did just that I was so appreciative of how you let me shine that night, because I had never been much shine like that before.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I and my parents got to see it all of our family and friends got to see it that was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So shout out to you because I really appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really do, Jay, and I want to say something about you even making that observation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that I'm a woman of many hats.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And one of the hats that I wear very proudly is I'm a business woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think about business.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK, the business is very important.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Although this is my passion, my love, all of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I'm a business woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: when we were talking about tickets and ballet and getting our names out there, I and all of the woman did amazing, this is not to take away from anyone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody did amazing, it was a beautiful turnout, but I really saw your push and your drive and your hunger.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I saw those tickets being sold and I told my wife, I said, Jay is going last.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I told that I said I bet, I said Jay is going last,
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[SPEAKER_00]: people were ready to see you so I want you to sit in that people were ready to see you people were ready here and give people came out and they showed out they showed out
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was surprised to see how many of my people actually and they had a good time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got such great feedback from that guy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what I really enjoyed about all of the women and this is the most important thing in this game is that
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[SPEAKER_00]: There was no competition that I, there was no competition.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody's people came out, but everybody else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My people was there for everybody.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Jay's people was there clapping for everybody.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody had a good time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I really appreciated that even though it was a female line up and they see if people was a caddy and stuff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's very not that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was very much fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody was showing love to everybody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we was hyping each other up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was also, I'm so sorry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Shout out to your wife.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because she helped them out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She made sure everybody had a fan.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What's it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I told her that day and it was probably weird because you just met me and I told her I love her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I think she is so dope and the way she was so supportive with that, I was really ready for like, okay, what you need.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's more like, I was like, girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, she's a writer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, my wife, she holds it down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She holds it down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I have this on my notes and we was going to get back to it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have to say it now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think I've ever seen you this happy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: ever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And even when we did our show in 2022, like we had just begun to know each other, I have never seen you this happy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have never seen you this happy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that feeling.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is different?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know it's her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know it's just part of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How to, she's a big part of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I think it was just getting in myself to immensely healthy space.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that one thing that I never tried away from when I started my podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this is the reason I got the audience that I did
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do have challenges with mental health, so I feel like I had to give myself to a good space to receive this love that she had to offer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: 2022, I was not ready to receive a woman like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it started with me and then I met someone that added so much value to my life and I appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just had to say, oh, you see my happiness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I see yours too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are a good place to sister.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's okay, there we go.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But we are very much in good places.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I love seeing you and Jamaica.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been on your story, how do you think?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm in Jamaica.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just went away, too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I went to Costa Rica.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I had a good time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I better not have no little babies on a way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK. Don't worry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You'll know first before anybody else.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Things happen in Costa Rica.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Things happen, but not over here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it wasn't good time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was a great time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we both have been on hiatus, I guess you could say, which is actually amazing because I'm glad that we're here to talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like
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[SPEAKER_01]: When it comes to podcasting, sometimes we get in our heads a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We've been away for so long and someone's like, is my audience going to wait for me?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think it'll be receptive to the film.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because you got to remember, like, every time you step in front of a camera, you're perspective means something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So how do you balance that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you balance taking that step away and being like, okay, I need to build my brand and create something different?
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[SPEAKER_01]: While also knowing my audience is always going to be there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a really good question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a good idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Actually, your question is yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I answer that, will you answer that too?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I really want to know your answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was something that I struggled with because I feel like old me, I'm still reckless forever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I think I had a way of approaching situations, a way of expressing my thoughts on women.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bitches, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, whey, wh
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that who I am now, I'm really trying to re-brand myself, but still maintain reckless and I think that I've hasn't challenged in that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've spoken to my wife about that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It hasn't been easy, but I want to remain myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: while still changing because, yes, my audience stayed the same, but we're all, we're getting older.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The things we like 60 years ago, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We don't like no more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think I'm going with the flow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really learning how to stay true to self, but move with time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to say my answer then be very similar because I feel like my podcast started when I was 21.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Outside, when you're 21, you're outside you literally.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm 26 now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't be outside?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do, but I don't feel the same way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what I was trying to say.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hear you watching my own episode back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, well, I don't agree.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't feel that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just had a moment like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was really scary.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a spooky.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's spooky.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow, I feel like you're talking to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can I say that in the kitchen?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, I don't recognize this person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's very spooky because it's like, damn, this is, this was, I was so her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was so into being this person and now I don't agree with her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And now trying to build my own paralleling, what do you said about like, you know, your mindset are different, but also,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not really as open to talking about things that I'm going through currently because I feel like I have a whole different process of coping now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So before I get on the camera and talk about it, I need to go through my steps in my mind of like, okay, is this something I want to share number one?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because that's another thing too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like we do this podcast because we love it and it's for us, we forget to just people watching.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like they're sorry, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're talking.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking to you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me know when you get out of there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you're back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there are people watching.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's like, do I want them to know me as like the 21 year old who's outside?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not giving a fuck about Niggas or do I want to be this 26 year old woman who's now found this love and found this passion has this new career, all these things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm even I'm different.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm like, Dan, how do I go about this being different when I've been this person this whole time?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's very difficult, but I think also I find a little bit of peace knowing that every time I do come back and go like my audience is always still there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a totally different, because they don't even know what they're getting when I call you back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we could do this with our job.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So your hiatus has been similar to how long mine has been.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a little over a year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But you've been working now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been doing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm making my comeback.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's coming back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's coming back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's coming back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So your show was based on like an Instagram live kind of thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I used to do it from like I still throw that in there, but I like the the tape.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, okay, because I was going to say is there a change in how you're branding and how you're showing up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I was going to change in the way I'm showing up, doing branding, the kind of things I'm doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I used to listen, when I started, I was doing parties.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Good parties.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I say, I'm talking about holding wall parties.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have a bid to erect a regular party back in what 20 23, you know what I'm talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm talking about we was part of it and I feel like I'm in a space now we're even with my brand and just how I feel as a person and how grown.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't do those kind of things for more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I did love the Instagram live, kind of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are you doing?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I did, but I remember when we first met, I was like, how are you doing this?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, how is live?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can't catch a breath.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can't edit nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so true.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, how are you doing?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But my best moment is doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not gonna lie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's fun.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, you have so many things that were going to come out of somebody's mouth and you're just going to go it And then you got the comments on the thing too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's like, oh my god, I want to add in the phone I used to have a lot of phone like what you could go to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They used to be going It's harder than all that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you think you're going to come back being more consistent I'm asking you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I should be asking myself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We should be asking each other.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's like
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to come back more consistent.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I do is, well, I'm glad I started with you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm glad you and my first guest after a year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I'm like, I had to get my cousin.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And can't be somebody else.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I'm a talk to him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm happy to see you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I should have interviewed you, but I'm going to let you live.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to let you live.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Looking back at our first episode together, is there anything you tell that version of yourself?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Knowing what you know now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry, you get really, really deep question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, now you've got me think, um, I remember our first interview together, I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know what, orange.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I did.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have an orange all the time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At the point, I remember that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I knew it came prepared.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She didn't think I did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He had my pen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't forget stuff like this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't forget stuff because I like this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't get a question as a business person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She came prepared and I really appreciated that about you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that you remember that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I do remember that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I wish I was a little bit older because I feel like in that age, the sex topic was kind of something that I hadn't really expected.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's my quote.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry!
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't see that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My dad asked me a question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what you're saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna lose this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're gonna get a busy person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I've never got the answer to the question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, it's anything you tell you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This fucking Prosecco.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She bought me a Prosecco, guys.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was you're coming on the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Please bring me some Prosecco.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would love you to have her hilarious.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think that I did, because my show was so reckless.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And of course, I wanted to talk about all of the amazing things that you had going on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think I needed to add some segment of reckless insects.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I wish I would have spoken to you about it more because I could tell that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you were a little more close than I hear yet.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Although you answered the questions, I think the other questions you just gave a little bit more than those kind of questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I would it to myself as a businesswoman to just make sure that before we started the interview, the question that I had, you will come to, you know, comfortable talking about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's how I felt though.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's really how I felt though because I was thinking about that when I was writing my question and I was like, Dan, if I could do that episode over right now, it would be lit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We'd have something to talk about.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but I was like.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was young, it was twenty-two.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You were like, I don't know you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I said, you're the fuck, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wait, you're the extra, of course, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I wish I would have been more open to that and more understanding of that and be like, all right, that's the topic.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what we're gonna have to talk about.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love the reflection.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm trying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did have some good questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just don't get to tell you if you back, you back, you back, you back, you back, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I needed the record because we had that time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I have to talk about this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Welcome to Long Island.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Alan's Girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Does that take away my hood card?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think you're good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you sure?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think you'll have it forever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think so.
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[SPEAKER_01]: A little salty stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I haven't been invited to you guys' house.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We'll talk about that off camera.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I actually invite you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And be serious.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You live in Long Island too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can easily say, Ray, what are you doing?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We want to stop by.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was that important of a cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You think I just cool anybody my cousin?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, I thought it was a play cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A real cousin?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're a real cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're doing a barbecue this summer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my God.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't listen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What did you learn about me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't lie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said you and my other cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, they're coming to the bar of you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my God.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Very interesting.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Our lobby there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We haven't had like a big group at the house yet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, what I've seen, like I said, I'll be in her story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm probably a little too in your story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I'm saying that's weird.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I do be in it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm alive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: House looks beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Life looks great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything looks fantastic.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Back to our live show.
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[UNKNOWN]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Will you nervous?
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[SPEAKER_01]: about any aspect of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like if you were, nobody was going to know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was getting nervous during interviews.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Really.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I loved you on like the stage and the like host carrying the show bag.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was nervous.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you bought it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's fucking weird.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have kind of
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[SPEAKER_01]: Did you know that that was when you first said, okay, I'm actually gonna do this, was that the specific group of girls that you had in mind?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So there were a few that changed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even on the flyer, there was a female on the flyer that eventually didn't end up showing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I started with a few, everybody's interested until it's time to do the work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, let's do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But just gonna take all of us to do this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, I'm gonna advertise.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna promote.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna take care of the menu.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna do all of the behind stuff.
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[SPEAKER_00]: behind the scenes, but I still want you to push yourself, you know, I want you to get it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I didn't have to change a few people, but I feel very lucky with the group that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I, that we live in there already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that was solid.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you feel like everybody came with something different.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've done that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's funny because when we did the Instagram live, when we were trying to get to know each other, I was like, oh, this is going to work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was a good idea.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was a great idea.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, oh, this is going to work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just from that simple conversation, because, and even when you were asking everybody, like, oh, like, what's your show about?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, tell me, everybody was different.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was like, oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is going to, like, work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it did.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right, a lot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you surprised by the audience reaction.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or did you expect that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I expect that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: OK. And it made me say, next time, we don't envy that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Please keep me on the line up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Please, please stay on the line up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to be on the line up so bad that you have the line up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so fucking fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to do that every fucking line.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, true.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I'm dead serious.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I realized how much of a celebrity I truly am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The song choice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would say, Morgan, other party B was put out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You've got it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, I really, really, I really, I really, really, I really,
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're on the line of okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was just I didn't confirm.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What message did you hope people left with that night?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My question is getting a little scary.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You want to talk about something that you're going to give me a bit of an end of the shift.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got no money.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, you have amazing questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What message did I want people to leave with?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted all of us ladies to feel like the celebrities that we are.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was definitely worth anything for me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Definitely not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that people don't celebrate themselves on that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I know I put in work in podcast and I put in work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And whatever that means in my world, I put in work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and I think people are always looking for something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: on a mountain too high, and we don't take them up time to celebrate exactly where we are.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So that was very important for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanted us all to have a night when we felt like we...
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[SPEAKER_00]: We do it what we do like we do we do that was very important and just the woman in power I'm all about women and us feeling empowered that was important shout out to Miss T Talk Tiana because seeing her was like And the fact that she was like oh, I know you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this is good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was so fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was lit
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, it was the run point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Girl, one of the things with a good dog.
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[SPEAKER_00]: First of all, Nick, let me tell you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I told my name.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I told my name.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Shut up, I'll see you at the bar.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Fucking me up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: See you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She had a heavy hair.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm walking on the stage, live, I said.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, I was like, well, you did it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was very hard for me to hide it, but I was fucking lit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was trying to suck, because my makeup drinkin' my damn run punches.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was like, well, you're like, real.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Where you up?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What the fuck?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I was like, I was like, yeah, I was like, yeah, I was like, yeah, I was like, yeah, I was like, yeah, I was like, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yeah, I was fantastic, though.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It really was.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Honestly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It really was.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We talked about marry life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Motherhood.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, tell me about your daughter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How old is she now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: My daughter is going to be 17.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And about a month?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you excited for like the college?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh man, it's been a journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've been looking at colleges.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've been talking about colleges.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My life is on top of her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a journey, but yeah, I can't believe I have a sermon to you, Role.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was about to go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was about to go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I look good as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hell yeah, hello.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel good as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's a blessing, because I'm watching her becoming young woman.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is my greatest gift.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just killing her ready for womanhood.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I show personal questions?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can ask me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You need to be telling me now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, when you met your lovely wife.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Was it a hard transition for your daughter to to meet somebody now?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Um, the relationship, it took a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It took a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It took a lot of work, um, a lot of long conversations, a lot of hard conversations, a lot of the conversations.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Um, but it took work and it took all three people put in the work at the same time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was time to wear my daughter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I found what was up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: More a long time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just been me a hot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've dated other women, but she's never seen me date someone to the this extent where it's future.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Um, so I think her guards were up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's like, this is my mom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it was a lot of work, but to see where they are at this point, it was worth
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[SPEAKER_01]: every cry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love you long conversation at the table.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Every conversation that I had to have with my wife one-to-one personally.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was worth it because they have such a beautiful relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like she called my wife before she called me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that!
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love those everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love those.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Schools, vegetables, vegetables.
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[SPEAKER_00]: she's they have a beautiful relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that okay and has their relationship blossomed into as beautiful as it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Strengthen your relationship with her with your daughter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or is it always been kind of no we've always had a very strong relationship okay I think
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[SPEAKER_00]: their relationship blossoming just is strengthen our relationship with a family just as a family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's what was missing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We all had our own bonds, but to have that and we're all under the same umbrella has been such a beautiful thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you got to meet my man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: First of all, what did you meet can actually do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, we met at work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: what I what well I still kind of am was a bit of school counselor okay he was a security guard okay girl this fine ass man sitting at the front desk that's not even watching the first person you see when you walk in so I'm like
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why would they put that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why would you put him here?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I cannot focus.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, why would you do that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wasn't paying them no mind.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I said, I wasn't in the space.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We've been to spaces.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was not checking for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At first, Ella.
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[SPEAKER_01]: One of my students actually was like, no, I think he likes you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, no, he's just being nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She was like, no, I'm, I go to the school.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I see him every day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's never that nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, wait a minute.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, it's okay, just don't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Again, wasn't in the space.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Two periods later, she comes back to my office.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She's like, you know, he told me that he wants you to go downstairs and give him your phone number.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I said shit, okay, shit, wrote it down, slid it to him across the desk, she never said that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He never said that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She said me out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What?
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[SPEAKER_01]: She said me out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She said me out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then as I was walking out the door, he was like, thank you and gave me a hug.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I said, oh, so I'm thinking, she said the whole day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, lie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But here we are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you a leader?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he was so against doing the whole podcast thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So the fact that you got him up on that stage, I was like, what is this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Family.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Then he loved you forever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was like, y'all have to say, all right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know he's so much fun.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Up there, answer your questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can I answer your question?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know this is your show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I love him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He will ask me questions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you sure?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, please.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think he's good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What makes this different because I We cousins I want you to because I need to make sure you say right there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need to make sure my current my cousin good You are in a previous relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is that okay to say yeah, okay?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You are in a previous relationship
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[SPEAKER_00]: And like you said, this relationship I see a completely different you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what makes this feel different?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know what's funny?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not to put it on the spot again, but Tiana had hit me up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Probably about two months into our relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She had asked me the same thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Really?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because she was like, yo, like, it just seemed so different.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And not to say that like, I had broke up at one and got right with the other.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it really wasn't that vibe.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had also mentally checked out in that relationship way before I left.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was gone like six months before I actually stepped out the door.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So for me it was like, it was very easy for me to move on because I was already moving on with you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I was just so unhappy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like it just wasn't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, there's certain things that I would say in my head like my husband wouldn't move like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I just, it just wasn't it, but because we had been together for a while and I felt like we had gone through some real shit together, I felt bad, leaving.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So again, and that, I think that I definitely need to tell learn that lesson because now I know once I'm done, I'm done, like, walk away faster because you waste time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, I do regret not walking away faster, but I also don't because it opened up my whole perspective on like giving people a chance after that, because after that I was like, I'm done dating, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I met him, like I said, I was so closed off to where it took him a long time to knock down the walls and actually get me to be like receptive to even getting to know him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I think the way he handles me in general is just totally different from how I've ever been treated.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, he reminds me a lot of my dad.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I used to always say, I want to man just like my dad and it's crazy because my dad a couple of weeks ago, him and my dad have the best relationship I've ever seen my dad have with anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think my dad was just tolerated in the niggas before.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So respect, I do respect that's very fatherly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I think he was definitely just tolerated in him because like a sea of difference.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, that was on the couch watching TV, he was making chicken.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's like, you know, I made this for Jordan, huh?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You, I live here too, man, which means you made it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they just got a different romance going on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he had said to one of my uncles one day, like, no, this is like Jay is like person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like this is, I've never seen anybody love her the way that I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And when he said that I was like, okay, he sees it too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's just, he's very, he's calm with me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't make me feel like I have to hurry up and unlearn all the toxic things that I had in my past.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's very patient.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just think he's, I don't know, I call him an angel
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[SPEAKER_01]: Haven't said.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, Jay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just saying.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, all right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You got the gas him up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, Jay, all that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wait, are you coming to my wedding?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, I'm coming to the wedding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, gosh.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I better have a seat.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why would you say it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what I'm so happy that we're both kind of in different places in our lives.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I agree.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like someone needs to go watch our first interview and then come watch this one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to put it on the screen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That would be fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because then you'll be like, whoa, night and day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Look at these women grown.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, grown in shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What the fuck?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm up a sec.
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[UNKNOWN]: Yeah, I'm up a sec.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There he is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, damn.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What's your opinion on dating apps?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you get a date or an apps?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, before I was a married woman, shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was a switey dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No way, I was a switey dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No way, I was a switey dad.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's true.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not a view.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, I was on a dating at one time and it was the worst experience of my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had to delete the whole life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have some bad experiences, but what was your own?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happened?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It was like a cabbage.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, it wasn't cabbage, totally was him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He had like two babies under two.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He didn't put that in his arm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We didn't tell me that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like two, three days.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, wow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bamboo's with me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it was worth it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's my life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to delete the whole app.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was just like, never again.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I touched the absence.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I used to be a
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[SPEAKER_00]: a swipe like win and okay change my ways very it was your opinion on social media in relationships a tough one is a tough one that's a tough one I think because at some point I was so public with most of my relationships I think that
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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason my current relationship is so successful is because we have such a level of privacy So look me and her has has built No one has had any say on right no one has had any opinion on right no one knows except for the people closest to us
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get people asking me, like, why don't you post your wife, you, you was posting other girls, what do you ashamed of?
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's no comparison.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right, literally, there's no comparison.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that privacy can be beautiful in a relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've learned that I've shared too much if I can be honest at some point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I'm shared too much and I'm happy with what I share now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think that's also what I've been kind of wrecking my brain about as far as being away from podcasting for so long.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because now I'm in a relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like I don't even know if I really want to share that with y'all.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you know, I love y'all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're such a sacred thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like even the question you just asked me, I've never really spoken about him like that really on the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, because it's been a year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, yeah, because I just he's so special.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't really want to share him with y'all I really don't you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't even really want him to sit on the camera because I don't need you drooling up a man bitch That would be all Hello, that's all I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't he might have to say where she's sitting and just talk from the you know Because I just don't know about that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you do can I actually or how do you deal with that because I'm sure you know
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[SPEAKER_00]: Listen, you know I love women, but I can say a man is attractive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's a very attractive male.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's a he's a attractive man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me tell you something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How you know your man is vibe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you feel with that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's all.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm so fucking funny, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: My grandma.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My dad's a Virgo.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My grandma's a Virgo also.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had brought him to my grandma's house and I had already warned him because my grandma she know a fine man what you see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I said listen my grandma's going to hit on you about probably four times.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just laugh it off whatever
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[SPEAKER_01]: As soon as he stepped his big toe in the door, and she seen that big ass beer, she said, Oh, my goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You done the off-grading girl?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, she asked me for the daddy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm afraid of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I asked him if he had a daddy, a grandpa, I said, Oh, this is crazy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're my aunt met him the other day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she was like, girl, wow, he's very handsome.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think also he never...
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[SPEAKER_00]: He knows.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't ever make me feel like I have to compete with anybody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I really don't do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm also very secure in what we have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know him, like, he's not, he's not checking for nobody else, but me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So like, that's my, that's why she's my cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That could secure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he probably would say this, well, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's a little jealous bird, but he's not jealous bird.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, you know, you know, but, and also don't see nobody else either.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm like, I'm not dressing up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Girl.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Girl.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You see that man?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Have you seen that man?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been in relationships where I've literally walked in the house to my man or whoever, whatever, whatever, wherever you were, I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're laid up with the next one in the house.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's, I have to do some shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that's why this is so different to where I'm like, I'm not going to a phone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not pulling up on you at the grave if you're not answering.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't give a fuck.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to bed like this is what it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because the truth comes out all the time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm not doing all that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he doesn't make me feel like I have to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She is a looker.
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[UNKNOWN]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's sexy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She's a blood.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She's just so genius.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She knows everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So make a blood.
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[UNKNOWN]: Sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, you know, I think it goes to security.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She makes me feel very secure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, she makes me feel very secure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Communication is amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's so important in relationships.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think if people met my wife at first glance, they wouldn't think that she knows me as well as she does.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody knows where it'll know me the way my wife does.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, she knows the good, the bad, the reckless, the hip-width between.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I feel like we had to talk a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We had to build trust.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have a lot of fun.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get into the sexual conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Shall we?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not too crazy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna lie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not too crazy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I need to read it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, we're gonna get deep.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Then we're gonna get crazy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You need some more?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A little bit of business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you have my title low title?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you fit to mission?
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Reference and mission.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yo, if every guest bought me a recycle, I swear I'd be a happy woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just saying every guest will be fuller.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Reice at a standard.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I said a standard.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she didn't even know I like recycled.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Recycle.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Come on now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was very cousinly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Very cousinly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: OK. What advice would you give someone who's trying to become more confident discussing their needs with their partner?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm Jay, can I give my opinion first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You really want it to come back?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, because I kind of want you to therapy me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's why I have extra questions to them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going through some of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love her desire and I love her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm being bullied.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like for me, one of the biggest things that my boyfriend complains about a lot is that I don't initiate as often as I used to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: me personally as a career woman.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I know it's going to sound like an excuse.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying not to use my life as an excuse.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying not to use my life as an excuse anymore.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But it's hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've seen this TikTok video where a woman was talking about how her man is having the same problem, like you don't initiate, like you know, I would like for you to be like, you know,
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[SPEAKER_01]: And she was like, I would love to, but I'm just so tired because I'm doing this, this, this, this, this, this, I'm taking care of this person, this person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So like, I still want my man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love my man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, that's just not a priority for me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you navigate that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why is I not a priority?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have to challenge you there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's, it is a priority.
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[SPEAKER_01]: with them sex was kind of used as something to get over a problem or I would say get over a problem or like it was used as something like if we're not seeing I do I we do that we might get back on good terms so for me it's like I have an unhealthy perception of it and I'm trying to learn that but it's hard in the moment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate your honest view.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'll be trying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that was real honest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think the first thing I would challenge you at is that it is a priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sex is a priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that I love sex.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man, do I. I really do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I think I met a woman who understood that it is a priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the same way we prioritize cooking together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Seeing in the house.
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[SPEAKER_00]: all of those everyday things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sex is our priority too.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just it's part of the relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You was just over here going crazy about your man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a it's a priority.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not everything, you know, it's not everything, but it's one of the things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I think also I feel like I kind of feel bad because he always compares it to like when we first started dating You know when you first started dating somebody you're like, oh, let's just get it on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, man, you know, because I'm heavy, but now it's like my way of has the world now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, oh, man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I do feel bad because you know, it's not that's not heavy and I'm sorry, sir.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like, you know, that's just the kind of What do you feel like can get you back on that space?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I'm also someone where, you know how they say like the four place starts in the morning or starts during the day, you do little acts of service or other things little check-ins.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like I don't always give them the chance to even do that because I'm already so like, all right, I got to do this today, I got to do this, so I'm I tend to put him on the back burner and I really shouldn't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You come in with a lot of honesty today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I realized recently that some of the issues, I mean that, I'm not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry, my rebranding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Probably my rebranding is being honest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're doing your thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But then I do love him, I really do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm trying to like not, you know, usually be like all right, whatever, you have this problem with me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's just how I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I know that it's a problem.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know that you feel some type of way about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But like it's hard for me to navigate it because all these amazing pieces are turning right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying to get back into podcasting, which again,
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[SPEAKER_01]: using my life as an excuse.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're talking about that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My therapist.
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[SPEAKER_01]: First up is acknowledging.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so I want to answer your question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You said, how do you talk?
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you get comfortable talking about sex with a partner?
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[SPEAKER_00]: you just talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is that too direct?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's talking about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just talk about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I use going to any partnership.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It has to be part of the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not saying the most important part or the first part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the same way I'm going to ask you, what's your favorite color?
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[SPEAKER_00]: We grown as people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What do you like sexually?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are you into?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's just, it starts really just talking about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you respond to criticism from people who think conversations about sex should have made private?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've
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[SPEAKER_01]: Really?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Especially when I first started, the way I used to talk about pussy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but I feel like if you're right on pussy, you don't have to watch, bro.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why do you have some music before?
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[SPEAKER_00]: They thought I was against women and that was just, oh my god.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My first person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I used to talk about bitches' whole pussy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All that shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that was an arrow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's fine, I was wearing this era.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it was going to be great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got so many messages like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like you said, there's an audience for everybody.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm not here for everybody.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm not everybody's audience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Some people will hear my shit in the same.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, that's too much.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're like, girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You thought it out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm okay with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm okay with that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, other people that I heard have been like, oh, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is what I've been saying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, she's like, my name is mine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what she's doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're saying shit that I would never say, but I want to hear it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what's next for your podcast?
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[SPEAKER_01]: First of all, how long have you been doing it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, since podcasting in general, the pandemic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I started.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't have a cast in during the pandemic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's been six years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what's next?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I definitely want to keep doing events.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want my events to get just on a bigger platform, I think.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I started in a space that made me feel like I did it and I could do it again, hell yeah, I'm going to do it again and every step I just want to get bigger and bigger of bigger audience, but I'm really into the vents right now, okay, I wanted to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But some reason I really enjoy live podcasts, no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think some people like, you either got to know how to do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, don't do it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just gonna say that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or just don't do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I think I'm good at it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't roll with the punches.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can read the crowd.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm like, I gotta stay some crazy shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm really into that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to get back into that and just build it and keep building my audience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was on a show now the question you just don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is next from my podcast first?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to get back into it, which is this is good that we're doing it, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, first that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love the live show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I like that shit, like, because I had always been in the mindset, like you said, I don't know if I'll ever do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if I'll ever be on a stage like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the fact that I was, it was like, oh, this is kind of open up new opportunities.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I can actually do a lot of this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I would love to do that again, because that was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I would love to just keep growing my audience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Honestly, could I have been away for a year?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm kind of got to get the momentum and the consistency back?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my God.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think that's what I'm gonna focus on for the rest of the summer, just, you know, get a nap, get it back to it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What's your dream venue?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you have a dream venue?
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[SPEAKER_01]: The biggest one in New York?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't remember the dream venue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't, you should, but you just put a question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh come on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, think about that as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna put your in venue.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Cause honestly, the venue that we did, you could have did that time story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Absolutely, because I think that also, and I got a lot of messages too after the show that was like damn I wish I would have been there damn this looks so fun Hey, dad, I just said that don't you hate that shit
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just don't even, it's like, like, get up and come on out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because you shouldn't have bitten it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Literally.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I tell you my inbox was flooded with people, oh, I look so lit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to jump.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll be at the next one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I should have bitten.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Boom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because you should have bitten it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it wasn't even that long of a turn around.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When you said you wanted to do it, tell me, didn't it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I loved that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I feel like, us all working on depression, it's kind of like, okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's put our bitch pants on right now and get her all together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I did to that thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just so proud of you, ladies.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I planned everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I couldn't have done that night with how you guys.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I literally couldn't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You think you're going to do a segment next time or a long segment?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I feel like me personally as the one running everything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think you got enough spotlight.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're really, truly, really.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The way you had that crowd ready to talk about.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They, they shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think they would have sat through whatever you had to say for however long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really, no, I truly appreciate that because I have so much of me a message that meant the world to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And they said, you know, I really, you're so good at cheering people on, you know, getting people's attention.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I wanted to hear more from you than that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I said, but like I told my wife, I wanted that night to be about me presenting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: other amazing artists.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like I reach my goal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I would love to do a live show and make you do a set just so that you could step out of the hosting it bag and step into the reckless bag.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm just putting it out there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I like to live manifest and that's my manifestation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is my reckless too much for your audience?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a question, a real question I have for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is my reckless a little too much for your audience?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because we talk about different audiences.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I talk a lot of show on this podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think your recklessness would be the perfect amount of recklessness for my audience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not gonna lie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because my shit gets a little d because a little serious.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I do, you know, we don't be laughed, but I think your level of recklessness would have been perfect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no, I'm.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, I have a fun little segment before we, you know, that's called Red Flag, Green Flag or Base Flag.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you've got to tell me what the flag means.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Red flag is you're not fucking with it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The green flag is you if I put it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not that bad of a thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, base flag in between.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm in less scenarios.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So pages in between green.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm fucking with it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I would do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Red, I'm not fucking right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Double texting, green.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, period same.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're locating what you're partner.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't look at me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just saw that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You could be shocked with somebody's answers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Please, I'll give you a show.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Red blood.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Really?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Tell me why.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bye, Lucy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I just feel like we grown and I'm okay with I give you now have a different answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm always I'm open to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like we're grown.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I work so hard for this level of privacy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and my partner has as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, if she wants to stop and get ice cream and she doesn't need me to know that because right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, yeah, of course I want to know that she's safe and I feel like that goes back to communication if she's leaving the house and she's going somewhere huge she's gonna let me know yeah, but if she's running to the grocery store do I really like I just feel like some people use it but a wrong things there's some people that use it put her right things but I've heard too many stories my friend.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I know he's been here.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm not on it like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but you like you have it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, he has mine.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have his case, but that's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I didn't have a daughter and I wanted to hear you as but My daughter 17 she has my location and I feel like my daughter's on it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She will call me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why are you over there Brooklyn?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, and I'm like what do you want?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_00]: My location.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but my wife knows that you
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not answering my phone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not communicating.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She's going to tell my daughter, where's your mother?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But we just have a trust in relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I like it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's very grown woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, why do you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm curious.
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[SPEAKER_01]: For me, I think that
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[SPEAKER_01]: I agree with it was like kind of a security thing, or it's like my boyfriend's a security guard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So every time I step out the house, be safe, drive safe, make sure you, so I know it eases his mind too to know that like he can always, if something happens, he knows where I am at all times, which I respect, but I'm not sitting on that thing all day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like, he'll probably be like, oh, I went here today, I'm like, really?
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, you have my, I don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but you're one out of,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just wasn't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These girls don't just own it like this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like imagine I couldn't imagine being somewhere and you're like, Why are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just pulled in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's your dog.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like your perspective.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Keeping pictures of your ex.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It gets progressively worse.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But go ahead.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Jay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm sorry.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Jay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to say beige.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not that I have pitchers, but I have thousands of pitchers.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, okay, okay, let's say if I roll back 4,000 pitchers, I'm not going to find something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, okay, yeah, because I'm not that like recent or I'm looking at or nothing, but years ago, right, yeah, okay, I was going to say what kind of pitchers, but you know, anyway, I'm moving on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going through your partner's phone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: red blood period.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do not go to my phone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you want to do that phone, you're going to find something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're always going to find something to find.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you don't probably prefer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it doesn't even have to be a communication.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could mean anything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It could be a picture, like you said.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A text message from six years ago.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's somebody because you know women.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They got a squirrel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They know kids grow in like, no, I don't have stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, no phones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have full trust in my wife.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm pretty sure she has full trust in me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: True.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Being friends with the next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Red.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why red?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was the X?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, because you're not a breakfast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was the X or someone that you've been intimate with?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, there's a difference.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a difference, cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Both.
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[SPEAKER_00]: X is like a X relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like we were in a relationship.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Fucking me, we just did what we did.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, okay, I can see that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can respect that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So which friendship are we talking about?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna say the relationship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Relationship?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, the other one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bage.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I'm not going to actually elaborate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, you want to go ahead.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I feel like it's circumstance.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Why did you look into?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes you may have had a situation with someone, and you know what, you all said, it didn't work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We are really good friends.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I've had situations
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's just my home girl.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like I think I'm here for nothing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are very grown up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm here for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You really mean I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really like I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fucking world woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean definitely.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is how we're gonna do white beer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm splitting the bill on the first date.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Red.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Red.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Red.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're not a woman saying that right right I'm a woman saying this that is tacky Yeah, that is tacky.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do not do that agree or court in a woman you make her feel like a woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's corny waiting three days to text back Red we grown.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, how do you feel about that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: By the time you text me back, I'm going to be forgotten.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, no.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So please don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I get the number, and I'm not interested, I'm called, I'm texting them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm texting them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going it down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, hey, no, I'm just a period.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right, what's happening?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, it's real.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Having separate bank accounts after marriage, charge a BT gave me that one by the way, because I had to make it marriage related.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that's my last one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You let me know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not married, but I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We still are eight minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the last question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I got another one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to say, we have time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Separate baking counts after marriage.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Bage.
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[SPEAKER_01]: OK. OK.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm OK with separate baking counts, but once we're married, we should have one together as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We can still have our separate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll see that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I believe we feel about that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I do agree.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And this is the conversation made my way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm glad I've been because we're
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to put too much of on business out there, but we've been like, you know, dibbling and diluting the conversation of living together, you know?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I knew he was going to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I knew he was going to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why, I just said, yay!
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, but it's just a conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We just, you know, clicked in the seats.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I feel like we're both so in the thick of like creating our careers and figuring out where we want to be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't want to put us in that situation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and be financially stressed or just be not where we want to be and I also feel like, you know, they say stay with your parents until you, you know, get enough money to where you feel like you come to go and that is my vibe that's what I'm trying to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think, you know, it's been a conversation and I'm not opposed to creating a big account together so that we can build that and, you know, add to it for that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's a very grown-up me, correct?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel weirdy with saying it, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, man, you don't know where you're building.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You feel amazing, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, you feel, I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you the kind of, like, okay, and let's say it a week span, some in days.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How many days are there to week do you usually spend together?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so he has two jobs, so I would say at a seven days probably five.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, four to five.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you already lived?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what are we talking about?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, match it in my heart.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are we talking about?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hope in the closet is more shit for him.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, all right, well, what are we doing?
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is kind of crazy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what would be the biggest difference in you guys officially?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Besides the finances and the things that come with that, what do you feel like mentally would be the biggest difference in you guys actually living together?
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[SPEAKER_01]: great fucking question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm a little nervous because I'm someone who thrives in isolation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have to be I have to have like a day or two by myself to really recharge my battery fully.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he's not necessarily like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I know there's just going to have to cause us to create a system where it's like, okay, when I need my jail of days, so it's happening, you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Which is harder than it sounds, obviously.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I think that would be my biggest thing that I'm concerned about, where it's like, I know me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know when I get in those modes, why I need to be by myself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's gonna.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If we're kind of things do you do now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you guys spend the whole day together, and you just need like a moment, will you like go, work outside?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like what will you do to get that time?
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[SPEAKER_01]: He, like I said, he works two jobs.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So on the nights that he's working, and he's also getting really good at this, I will say, to where he knows when I need it now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's almost like, all right, I'm going to work tonight.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to go home.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to let you have your time, you know, or if I'm like, if he's at work and I'm at home, text me later.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to let you, which I love, because I didn't help you, is that, though?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can help you, like, how?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So this is the health mission of every group that we look at that and say, oh, what are you doing?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, what would you like?
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is some healthy shit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And in the beginning of our relationship, I didn't want that to be like, because that's hard for people to understand that I'm not like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So at first I was kind of trying to mask it and I was burnt out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Social battery drained as fuck for my man and I'm like them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, I really, really need that time to myself and even press.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that was hard for him to grasp at first because I was hiding it for so long.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think, you know, now that we're having conversations about it, it's more of a thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know, so I, I'm gonna need me a nice little orange room, lock me in the room, okay?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't knock on the door, you know, give me some of that, give me my space, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think that's my biggest mental thing that I'm thinking about that I need to prepare for when that time comes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm pretty sure.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's the only point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think to even when me and my life decided to live together, that was something that we have to talk about with us our own time look like and we're still in the house together.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we have a separate room that I call it her room, her address and her own, but we do have a third room that we utilize.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're wearing a bad space,
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes we're in a good space and we just need that time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and I think we've we really made a work so I want you guys to really
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[SPEAKER_00]: really consider that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if you already have a healthy regimen, just continue that, even if you don't do the same rule, continue that same thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think in the beginning also was hard for him to not take it personal, because it was almost like damn, am I doing something wrong?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why do you need space for me?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, oh, it has nothing to do with you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love you down, but like, give me a few minutes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Give me like a couple of hours.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's about me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You ready for mental health
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that's not close at all, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Hi, I love this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: After every episode, if I am into real-enigas, I'd like to do the mental health check-in at the end because I like to see how you're leaving the conversation and if I did my job as an interviewer and if I made you feel at home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought I'd not get a bill in the mail.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I hear me right now, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: She might have not sent me a bill in voice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: She brought me a psycho, so there's no time for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No way, I love the mental health check-in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you feel right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Those are two questions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Both.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I feel right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel very comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel very, I feel like my time was appreciated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I mean, I feel like my time was appreciated and that's something very big for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been in situations where I didn't know how much time I had left.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I give my time to people and when people give their time to me, I want them to really appreciate it because I appreciate people's time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I feel like my time was appreciated here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like, yeah, I was very comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have this forum about you that you just,
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, and I want you to take that with you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that anybody that interviews with you would be lucky because you Bring so much depth to a conversation and most people miss it And when you said that to me earlier, you know, as I didn't answer right when you said that I'm looking forward to the depth that you're gonna bring to the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was nervous a shit
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I was like, I know her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So like the questions I was going to ask to you, I kind of had to start all the way from the beginning, so my audience can know you first.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hear you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I wasn't as confident in my script as I could have been.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: On the way here, I'm like shit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When did you start feeling that confidence?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because you did you think?
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you said that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, because I was like, I don't really need the script because I know that you know the conversation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we're not new to this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're very true to this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, when you get to podcasts, you know it's going to date three times.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Script don't really need it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I agree.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm happy that I made you feel appreciated, though.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, how do you feel?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How was the drive, first of all?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not that bad because I'm not a queez anymore.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, thank you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When I was coming from Queens, oh, my goodness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But, um, what was it like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: 45 minutes?
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[SPEAKER_00]: 45, 15?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It wasn't that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How far is this for me to go?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I lived like 10 minutes from here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Stop it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Swear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, you don't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'd be up here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ten minutes really?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, you live this deep in love.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yes, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why, why,
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sorry, I like to put the people that are watching on the spot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just love her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just love her.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to interview her.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to interview you one day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's awesome.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You didn't answer me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do you feel?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You saw me deflecting, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, you did.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Um, and I was going to come back to it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel a little podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you know that, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is why I'm so happy that you were the first guest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I interviewed coming back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel really good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think this kind of broke the ice from me to where it was like.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know why I had this feeling of like, I forgot how to do it, because I'm not I'm like, even doing it so long, like, just, it's just talking and talking all the time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You talk a fucking lot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, it's not that hard, so I'm very happy that you were the first person that I decided to interview again, being back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, I'm in a great space in life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I feel like it's hard for me to articulate it though with this new rebranding and you know coming back after a year.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I'm very excited for where both of our shows are going to go after this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I really appreciate it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I would love to be a guest again, just saying the new and approved me guess right up all that cousin barbecue's all summer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Jay, thank you so much for letting me be on your show.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that your rebrand you are so ready.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to speak some life into you are so ready.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This interview was amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so honored to be here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You made me feel very comfortable in your questions.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Give me something to leave with.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you are ready.
01:00:05.978 --> 01:00:06.978
[SPEAKER_00]: You are doing a thing.
01:00:07.499 --> 01:00:09.540
[SPEAKER_00]: And as a fellow podcast, I am your cousin.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hello.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right, let's try it everybody.