The Return

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All right, good evening. Welcome to WSBI, your resource for success.
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New podcasts return Unveiled, where all conversations are safe, revealing
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an uncuffed and tonight's show has partnered with Chris's Dishes.
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And guess what, you guys, I am back.
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I have some grazy, crazy criminals hanging out with me tonight,
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my new hosts, and I have some special hosts with
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me as well on who will be with us on
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the regular.
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But I also have something really special I really.
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Want to introduce, and he's.
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My new hubby. See I've been gone so long that.
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People are probably wondering why I left. I needed a break,
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but it's okay. I'm back now with action. We're gonna
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have something great for you guys coming out.
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Even for the new year.
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So this is just a snippet of what the new
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year is gonna look like. So please Hubby introduce yourself.
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Hello everyone, This is carmeil Pesci. I am the hobby
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of this wonderful woman that's doing this podcast. And I
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was a little apprehensive at first to even do something
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like this because I'm not a one who is out spoken.
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But I do like a good conversation and I decided
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that this is a good, good.
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Form to do it in. And I am not a criminal.
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She calls me a criminal, but I'm not a criminal.
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I am a disappointed gangster from Brooklyn, New York, but
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I am not a criminal. I'm not a criminal because
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I was never caught doing anything. So we will talk
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about that sometime later.
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One time you were young and needed the money.
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I always needed money when I was young. Now I
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got it.
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It was.
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It was a challenge, but I persevered. And that's a
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different story we'll have on a different podcast, because I
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will tell you this, I did see the inside of
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a jail cell judgment, but I was never convicted.
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Make sure you got your papers right for retirement, baby,
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because when they hear this, sir, we've been time for
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you to go. Okay, alrighty.
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So I have over here to my left and to
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my right these other wonderful hosts. One has definitely been
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with me on more than one occasion on my show.
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And he's also, like I said, he has partnered with
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us tonight with Chris's dishes. But I have wonderful Chris
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and Jen Chabez got a welcome.
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Welcome, welcome, wealthy again Hell hell, I try, ladies, go ahead.
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I so good evening everyone. It's a pleasure to be here. First,
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I want to thank him for inviting us to join
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her on this endeavor. It's definitely going to be exciting.
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My name is Jen Chavez and uh I have known
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Carmine and for quite some time. Not only did we
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used to work together, but we are actually more like family.
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Excited to have some revealing, uncuffed conversations, dig into some
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things that you might not necessarily be comfortable talking about,
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but we're going to make it comfortable for you.
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So enjoy.
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Chris Chavis, I am the owner operator of Chris's Dishes
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with my lovely wife. I belong to her. Jen, I
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am cuff there. I mean it happens so other than that,
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I mean this, I know this is like my third
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go around.
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I believe that it is.
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So that's kind of an honor to actually be a
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part of the crew. So I'm kind of looking forward
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to this because I've been getting inspired to do something
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like this too.
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All right, so well that's why I'm here.
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It' I'm all about inspiration, right, They all got to
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come out of our comfort zones. Yes, it's funny because
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we were kind of rehearsing and getting things prepped for
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yesterday for today, and I was telling karm so I
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went back and looked at and listened to some of
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my old, very first podcasts.
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I was like, I don't see how anybody in the
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world wanted to listen to me.
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It was bad.
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It was bad.
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So you know, when when you jump into something of
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the unknown, you just really don't know what you're getting too.
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But this has really become a huge part of what
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WSBI is all about.
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It's about creating, and I think this is absolually becoming
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a lot of what the world is into more now.
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So they're kind of getting away from like, you know,
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the you know, the four letter bad word news and
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moving into more of pot listening to podcasts and different
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their favorite hosts and people that were on those set
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those shows before. So now like for me, honestly, like
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I'll be honest, And I talked to them my buddy
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about this, and I tell the wife this all the time.
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It was like, the only reason why I really like
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watch the news nowadays is to watch the weather and
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the traffic, because if you live in Northern Virginia, you
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need both life.
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And everything else is nonsense.
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Yeah, and uh in the windows pretty much.
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I believe, I firmly believe that you believe none of
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what you hear and only half of what you're eating.
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And if you're lucky and and and you.
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Make your own opinions and you make you do your
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own uh due diligence in finding out what's real and
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what isn't real, And it comes from emotion.
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Except the traffic, because that's real. We have worse traffic
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here and then we had in New York.
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I'm convinced, well, you know what, Uh at the time,
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I never looked at the traffic news.
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I just got in my car and drove.
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And I can't do that.
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I can't do that. Now. You could go out and
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think that there's no traffic.
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And like yesterday morning, right, make that turn, and all
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of a sudden I get yelled at because I let
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somebody in the who's in the year lane?
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Do you come in there? And she I'm worried about
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the cars behind. I'm being very Christian here, the person
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going very Christian and.
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The rest of we're sticking out on the other.
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Hand, right, I believe that just happened.
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Somebody's gonna flip you off the.
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Next time you do that, I so like going back
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to the murching. She hates when I do this. It's like,
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what are you in the corner? Like my instant like
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Afghan Iraq road rage kicks in. It's like do you
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not know? Have you not read the book? It is
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very front and back left to right. It says how
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to murder. It's called the Zipper effect. It's not that hard, people,
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it's very easy. But you get you can start going
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on Northern Virginia traffic is like I don't know what
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I'm doing. Yeah, And then when the kryptonite starts to fall,
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God help us. The rain snow, rain, snow. The first drop,
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you would have thought it was a nuclear holocaust. With
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some drivers around here, it's like, dude.
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Really exactly, because you're supposed to go faster.
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And break as hard as you can. Don't turn into
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the into the way you're drifting. I was like, I
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don't know.
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Oh my goodness, Well now we have revealed our drive
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in this household.
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We're good.
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So what do you guys want to really unveil?
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You know, Like you said something on your intro that
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I thought was really important, especially people in our age
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bracket about needing a break. You needed a break, you
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needed to take a minute. And I know for me,
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you know that was always a bad expression. Oh I
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needed a break, Like what the hell you need a
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break for? Get off your ass, go do some work,
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figure it out, right. But you needed a break from podcasting?
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Is you knew I needed a break from what we
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were doing at work.
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I needed a break from cooking.
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You needed a break from cooking.
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Exactly, we all need breaks.
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I needed a break from being alone.
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Well, yes, that's that's the most important.
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But because what happens is you become a recluse to
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your job.
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You become ten twelve hour days because there's nothing to
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come home to but a TV.
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And going off. What she's saying, like that is absolutely
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true that I don't think people realize that job a job. Okay, yes,
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a career. It can be people's careers. But for people,
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like the wife said in our age bracket, most of
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us have already had our careers. Like I was a
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twenty year veteran in the United States Army. You've been
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working for the government for how long she's had her
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own company. You've had your own company. It's more than
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It's like what we're doing now, It's like if you
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told me I could go home and garden and hunt
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and fish take care of the wife of the trophy housing. Dude,
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I'm all about it.
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That's the four years.
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Yeah, husband, I love it because I like I sked
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thell En tirement. I said, I'm so excited about him
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getting ready to prepare for retirement, and he doesn't really
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think about that. You've spent thirty years with one company
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and then you've turned around and started another.
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Whole new career with another.
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With the organization of the government, right, you get to
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the point where when is enough going to be enough?
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Hundred person, I would rather have you be a house
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hubby and hang around and be happy and do what
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you want to do. Then to keep thinking that the
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world that you owe him something. You've done your time.
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Who knows. I'll start my own podcast.
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There you go, There you go.
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You and Chris can start checking together own ship.
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Yeah, we got Italians down over the father.
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You here can't track now.
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I am just Rabbi mob.
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We're just gonna well because your nickname at work is
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always father. That's how I was going to do to him.
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I just like to for everybody that he is nor
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a father in necessity wears a thing around his neck white,
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nor is he a rabbi that he hate wears a
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big hat. Okay, everybody's tracking right, go on with your going.
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Needing a break is so. And we all worked together
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at one point or another in the last six years.
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We all worked and traveled and and did great things.
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And it came to a point where when I left
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the position working with you guys, I was almost embarrassed
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to tell people that I needed a break. And I
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started having people ask me, oh my god, why did
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you leave? And you know, why did you leave your position?
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And people aspire to get into where you were, And
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I'm like, that's cool, that's great, but I needed a break.
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I was going to proverbially hurt somebody if I didn't
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take that break. And I was talking to a friend
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of mine who works at the Navy, and she was
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saying how she needs a break, but she can't do
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it because she loves her job and people rely on her.
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And I'm sitting here thinking to myself, no, man like
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you are in your fifties, you need a break, and
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tell him.
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I used to tell you all the time. Same thing
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about the army trains keeps going, And honestly, when you're gone,
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no one really cares.
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Thank you hellout.
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No, they'll be that little minker of someone who misses
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you because they relied on you so much, exactly, and
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they feel that how are they going to function function
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without you?
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Right? But that goes away relatively quickly.
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You're absolutely right that if one thing taught me in
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the commercial world is that no one's indispensable and everybody.
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Exactly.
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It's almost like if my best way to equate it
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is like a restaurant, Okay, no matter what, there's another
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restaurant you can go try out. You know, there's another
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place you can always go and sample something else. But
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when you're gone and you've left the restaurant, most people
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want to remember your name, except if you go to
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certain restaurant's way too many times, they're like, you, guys,
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haven't been here in a while.
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Then you're like, oh, boycot, see how much money you've
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been spending now.
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But that analogy is really good because because you go
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to a restaurant frequently and a chef could leave, the
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wait staff could leave, and it becomes mediocre. Ye but
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you're still married to the fact that this is my
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favorite place. Yes, even though I don't like the food anymore.
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You know, I'm out of here right and I'm never
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coming back. So what we do is we stay in
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that that that bubble.
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Yes, But like I was toning Jen, is that the
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other last two weekends ago when we all went out
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to brunch and what not? Yes, I told her. When
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was like, we can't go back there because they changed
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the menu because I was so looking forward to a
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particular item because it was so good. I did, like
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I did a little bit. I mean like I was like,
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are you serious? Like, okay, listen to people.
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When I got out of the Army, I went to
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culinary school in case y'all didn't know, and I did
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savory pastry on my own business with the wife, and
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you know, I kind of moonlight in other places. But
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it's very hard to find a serious croaked mado in
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this you sound, so you know what It's true. It's
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really true. But a good croake, madam, is just so good.
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Okay, are you done?
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So you know I'm always interested to hear how people
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are where they are in their careers. Again, you know,
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we've all had businesses, we've all had our first careers,
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and this is supposed to be what I refer to
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as our sunset career, right right out into the wind.
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Here we go.
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Let's just get this go and get it done and
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move out. But you become, to your point, Carmine, married
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to the job. You become emotionally invested. And I just
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love the fact that you said you needed a break
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and you turned the off switch, the switch to off
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rather and said I'm taking this break, and it was.
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For your health.
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been podcasting for almost eight years, and then when you
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think about having an interview almost three hundred people in
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the eight years, and amount of work and time and
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effort it goes to it. I felt like I was
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going to be disappointing too many people. I still have
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people reaching out to me every week, Hey, I Cannect,
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we want to get on your podcast.
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I got this person that you want I.
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Need you to interview.
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But nobody thinks about what goes on in the background now.
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And it wasn't just the podcasting.
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It was all the other business stuff that I literally
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was running a full time business, and a lot of
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people don't realize that even though you have a career,
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a part of my career in life was about doing
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my businesses and taking a break from the business and
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going back into the work world.
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Now that people don't understand, why do you do that?
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Right? Let me ask you how did that make you feel?
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It was at first it was kind of like, you know,
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I miss what you know. I really enjoyed working for myself.
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I don't have to answer anybody, but there was people that,
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excuse me, that depended on me, So it's a little different.
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Your attitude is very different about what you're doing.
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But depending on you for work, I mean, you know the.
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Paycheck that you know, I'm you know, they me to
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make sure I'm giving them their money. They needed to survive.
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So when you're making those types of decisions, it's you know,
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what is really going to be valuable and what isn't
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going to be valuable.
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But what I needed to do was realize that.
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I had to take some time off, and then when
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you asked me to come back, I struggled for a minute,
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but I really did because I was really starting to
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rebuild something that I thought was amazing, being able to
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do a lot of corpor to corp type business work,
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building a brand that was truly coming to fruition. It
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was no longer just about helping people write books, helping
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people set up podcasts, helping them see their vision. My
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vision was starting to elevate. But then I was also
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at the same time worn out. I had been doing
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this for years.
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I was starting to just I.
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Don't want to be here anymore scenario in my mind.
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It just everything was starting to come to a head.
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So taking this break that I took has been beyond
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what I thought I could ever be. So in this
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break time that I have been out for doing your podcasting.
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Your aha moment came.
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My aha moment came. Now I'm a married woman. Never
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thought about getting remarried. We're going to and we will
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have a separate podcast. But it's like everything has changed
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by seven months. This last seven months of my life
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has been tremendous. But it's been the best part because
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I can have been able to rely not just on
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myself and be able to have a partner in life
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where I can truly grow with until the day I'm
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no longer here and we have Like I said, there
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will be another podcast, but it's just understanding your role
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and understanding where you're at in your life. And like say,
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I'm in my mid fifties almost sixties, so it's I'm
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just truly ready to slow down and I'm there and
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so doing this again.
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I wasn't being forced into it. I decided I really
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want to get back into it, but on my own terms. Right,
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there's a choice, and there's a choice.
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And when at the beginning of this year twenty four,
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I had to have a shirt conversation with her about
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Chris's dishes that I was I was honestly, it came
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to it for came to fruition because of an incident
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that happened in twenty two two. Yeah twenty two was
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it twenty two? It was, yeah, twenty two where I
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not to like kill the mood, but I went out
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and I contemplated doing something really stupid to myself, okay,
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and it was doing doing something that I really am
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very passionate about, you know, and going out hunting, and
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I was like, I'm days a day. But ten years
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ago I would have been like I'm going to attempt this.
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I went home and I told her, and I was like, wow,
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that is just a ballsy thing to do, to tell
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your wife what you were about to do. So I
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had to go. I started seeing a doc again. But
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it got to the beginning of the end of twenty
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three and I did a party on my birthday down
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in a place in Virginia, yep, two and a half
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hours away. Drove there, did the party, drove back out
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home at like two o'clock in the morning, got up,
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started unpacked. The next day, got up, started unpacking, cleaning everything,
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so on and so forth. And then I realized I
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was like, I am doing exactly what I was doing
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when I was in the army. This is nothing more
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than like planning, planning to go to the field for
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five six days and coming back and be totally exhausted.
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And then what does that do. It's like, I'm missing
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my time with my wife. So that was my reason
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for taking a break. But then also, you know, when
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I started Christ's Dishes, I was going to culinary school,
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I was had a big nine to five job, and
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I was starting to try try to run a business,
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and it it just drove me into the ground. So
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now when you said, aha moment, I've had some moments
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where I'm like, ah, that's great. Ah, oh okay, I
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could do that and then but it's now I see
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where you're at and like the thought process of like
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having someone to converse with it and make it happen.
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Like she had her own nine to five routine, and
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you know, I tried to like we tried to do
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as much as we could with Chris's dishes. But at
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the same time, I was like, I know she was
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very determined to be, you know, number one at what
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she did, so I was like, Okay, I'm gonna do
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a lot of this, Like, oh, she helped as much
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as possible. And now it's like I have a thought
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in my head which I've played with with her out loud,
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just bits and pieces here and there, but I want
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to like this could work in this fashion, but not
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take away from the time with her because they probably
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could include her and she doesn't know anything about this.
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Tell me the whole, the whole, the.
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Whole thing behind this is like you, yeah, that was
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my first hitting just so we know, but the whole,
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the whole where I was going with this between need
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and a break and come back to the aha moment,
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Like there is a particular time, especially for people who
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have gone. For me, it was from the age of
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eighteen on the twenty fourth of July nineteen ninety seven,
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when I had my head shaved, to the thirty first
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of July twenty seventeen, I was one thousand miles an hour,
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And on the August first of twenty seventeen, I was
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one mile an hour and it was rough.
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Stopped.
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Yeah, it's literally stopped.
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Carmen, Are you expecting to hear that hit that one
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mile per hour?
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Are you ready for that one mile hour?
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I'm decreasing my speed as I go along, are yeah?
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I seriously, you know, I never thought that. I thought
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that before she came into my life. I really thought
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that I was going to work till I die, And
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that was like the stupidest thing to even think about it, right,
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because because I can never imagine stopping or slowing down, right,
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but being married again and being in life again, I
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love it. It proves the fact that you can decelerate.
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You just need a plan to do that because work
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is not.
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As important as it is the relationship.
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Because you're not gonna take that well wrong exactly.
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No matter how much money you save, no matter how
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big the house, big, the house.
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Is, whatever you buy to put in it. When you leave,
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everything's somebody's gonna be making a decision where it's gonna go. Now.
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Obviously we got kids. Great, they're gonna get someone, but
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they're not gonna want everything we have.
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But they want us around, right exactly. And I'm now
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being a grandpa. I want to be around Luna, and
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and I don't want to be worried about oh ship,
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I can't take off from work. I'm gonna take off
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from work.
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Yeah. So like that's like going back to what just
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happened lately with us. It's like I went back to
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a new job for the third time, the same at
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the same place. Really really really it was just to
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help somebody out. But like she made a comment and
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I've been really thinking about it. And but we we
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have her and I we have an ad goal and
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but it's where we work. There is no happiness there,
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Oh my god, no, no one like like the level
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of what's the right word, the lack of leadership, well
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that too. The mora, the morale is gone. Yeah, it's gone.
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It's like it's it's so bad that it tasts people
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to stand up to other people. So like, I'll give
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you a really good example. The other day, somebody came
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in and said, hey, we got to start doing this,
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and I was like, uh no, we're.
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Not doing that.
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And I just got the look. And now, mind you,
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I'm on my third day, in the third or fourth
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day in the office, and everybody was like, what just happened?
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Like it was like it was a brand new thing.
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You can't say no oh, but the way I said
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it was abruptly and you guys know that. The face
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and you guys know that. And it may not sound
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like it, but I'm a very a man of very
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few words. But when I say things, I know what
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I'm talking about and I will back it up. And
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I and I have I'm pointing for the viewers who
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can't see anything to the wife here is you know,
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I have my arsenal of tools to back things up.
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So it was like, hey, we need to do this.
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I'll like I started rallying things all like, that's not
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my job, that's your supervisor. That's a super government supervisors job,
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because that's what they're tasked to do, I'm not doing
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your job, and I just went on about my business
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and everybody was just like, well, okay, so here we go.
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It's interesting. People might not realize. So the four of
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us all worked in the same organization.
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At one point right in different everybody here has been
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a contractor government.
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Yes, ask me.
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I've never been contracted the whole time.
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But so when you left, right, we still carried the
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torch to Chris's point, you know, still goes forward. And
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then I had my I need a break, and I left,
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and you guys are still there, and now Chris is
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back there.
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Im I the only one that stuck it out for
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some reason.
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And I.
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Remind me to say this later. Okay, right, it's it's
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it's like that ride that is not ended yet and
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I want it never but we'll talk about that later.
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It's interesting. So if you look it from the outside,
493
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which I've been doing from the outside, looking in, I
494
00:24:45.880 --> 00:24:48.759
realized how toxic I became. And I was. I was
495
00:24:48.839 --> 00:24:53.559
so solely focused to make sure that everybody succeeded, and
496
00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:56.119
I never let people, not that I never let I
497
00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:59.759
did let certain people fail with intention, but.
498
00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:02.559
With intention.
499
00:25:03.079 --> 00:25:05.759
But when I got to the point where I knew
500
00:25:06.079 --> 00:25:09.720
that I was being let down not by people who
501
00:25:09.799 --> 00:25:12.559
worked with me and not by the team who worked
502
00:25:12.960 --> 00:25:17.240
under my direction, but by my leadership. That's when I
503
00:25:17.359 --> 00:25:20.640
was like, I need a break, I need to recaliber myself,
504
00:25:20.799 --> 00:25:24.119
and I need to reconnect to my spouse because we're
505
00:25:24.119 --> 00:25:26.759
not getting any younger. There are more years behind us
506
00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:28.799
that are in front of us. Let's let's be real
507
00:25:29.519 --> 00:25:32.079
and it's quality over quantity at this point.
508
00:25:32.759 --> 00:25:34.319
All right, And.
509
00:25:35.960 --> 00:25:38.960
I'm gonna preface this love you don't want me to
510
00:25:39.079 --> 00:25:39.279
kick you.
511
00:25:39.680 --> 00:25:44.720
I love you a lot. You hurt that hard, Okay, okay.
512
00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:46.680
But you still have travel on that ship.
513
00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:50.559
Twenty twenty four for the Chavas household has probably about
514
00:25:50.799 --> 00:25:54.880
been one of the best years we've ever had together,
515
00:25:55.640 --> 00:25:57.839
just because it's like thirty.
516
00:25:57.680 --> 00:26:01.720
Years has that been going on? Jesus?
517
00:26:02.119 --> 00:26:06.200
Wow? There, yeah, going on eleven took you this long
518
00:26:06.279 --> 00:26:07.119
to have a good year?
519
00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:13.720
Well, no, this is what the people are going to
520
00:26:14.279 --> 00:26:16.240
But when I'm saying to be eleven years before I'm
521
00:26:16.319 --> 00:26:18.920
happy in my marriage seven years.
522
00:26:21.480 --> 00:26:22.240
That's what's gonna happen.
523
00:26:22.279 --> 00:26:23.960
So what I really meant to say was what it
524
00:26:24.000 --> 00:26:28.599
happened with is that like there was no go go, go,
525
00:26:28.799 --> 00:26:31.039
go go for anyone else. It was go go, go
526
00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:36.799
go for us. Like we we have our little things
527
00:26:36.799 --> 00:26:38.960
that we do all the time. Like right now we're
528
00:26:39.039 --> 00:26:44.440
watching Bizarre Food America with Andrew zimmer zimmer Zim. Sorry
529
00:26:45.400 --> 00:26:51.519
I butchered it. But we went clamming one year on
530
00:26:51.640 --> 00:26:56.240
the eastern short of Virginia and she she she found
531
00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:59.599
a place where you drove met a guy had a
532
00:26:59.599 --> 00:27:01.880
couple of I actually paddled to the spot and he'd
533
00:27:02.200 --> 00:27:04.960
watched you for like two and a half hours through
534
00:27:05.000 --> 00:27:07.519
the processice how it all works and how to get
535
00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:10.920
the clams. And you picked up your own clams. You
536
00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:14.720
took them back and we actually I made klamling glean
537
00:27:15.039 --> 00:27:18.039
in white wine sauce. It was by far one of
538
00:27:18.119 --> 00:27:21.279
the one of those experiences you're just like, this is awesome,
539
00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:24.240
this is great. Now, going back to my statement about
540
00:27:24.240 --> 00:27:26.559
twenty twenty four, that's what this has been like. This
541
00:27:26.640 --> 00:27:29.839
whole year has been exactly like that experiences.
542
00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:32.200
Not just go go go, Yeah exactly exactly.
543
00:27:32.279 --> 00:27:35.839
You guys know, because yeah, we travel for work and
544
00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:38.759
it's not your traveling on a Monday and coming back Tuesday. No, No,
545
00:27:39.279 --> 00:27:42.279
it's you're out Monday, and if it's a good week,
546
00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:45.880
you're coming home Thursday or Friday if you're lucky, right,
547
00:27:46.279 --> 00:27:48.559
I mean, we're not all heading off to Miami for
548
00:27:48.680 --> 00:27:49.519
two weeks.
549
00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:54.680
Right, exactly. It's worked well, exactly for some people.
550
00:27:55.880 --> 00:27:57.680
Yeah, but every now and then you got an idiot
551
00:27:57.720 --> 00:27:59.880
that will decide to bring a captive work that shouldn't bring.
552
00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:03.759
Somebody who decides that they're just not gonna go to
553
00:28:03.920 --> 00:28:05.799
the site and anywhere.
554
00:28:06.039 --> 00:28:11.240
I'm gonna go hang out somewhere else and never show
555
00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:12.000
up for work.
556
00:28:12.400 --> 00:28:16.799
Exactly to that, you guys independently.
557
00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:19.799
It's on my phone.
558
00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:22.359
I look at it every now and again for a laugh.
559
00:28:23.519 --> 00:28:28.799
You guys kept going and going and going, and at
560
00:28:28.920 --> 00:28:32.400
some point there was an aha moment where y'all realized
561
00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:35.799
that you wanted to be together and that's amazing.
562
00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:40.440
And then oh, yeah that before you jump over to me,
563
00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:43.880
do I get to kick you again. We're going to
564
00:28:43.960 --> 00:28:45.880
revisit that because I think that is a story that
565
00:28:46.000 --> 00:28:48.039
needs to be told for everyone to hear.
566
00:28:50.440 --> 00:28:51.279
For bringing her back.
567
00:28:53.599 --> 00:28:54.720
Remember she left.
568
00:29:00.079 --> 00:29:04.400
Touch on that. So when I think about that, like, yeah,
569
00:29:04.440 --> 00:29:06.319
we won one hundred miles an hour because we had
570
00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:08.759
a mission we had our own mission, like we wanted
571
00:29:08.799 --> 00:29:10.799
to get a certain amount of money in the bank
572
00:29:10.880 --> 00:29:13.599
and a certain amount of things done and needed to
573
00:29:13.680 --> 00:29:17.039
rebuild and coping with his PTSD and coping with my
574
00:29:17.200 --> 00:29:21.319
transitions into this life that we lived down here, absolutely
575
00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:25.599
very different, significantly different than what one might be used to.
576
00:29:26.119 --> 00:29:30.680
You made big adjustments also in your personal life, prim
577
00:29:30.720 --> 00:29:33.799
I huge adjustments so to sit back and say, Okay,
578
00:29:35.200 --> 00:29:37.880
I'm in my fifties, right, so I'll be fifty two
579
00:29:37.920 --> 00:29:40.359
in December, and what do I have.
580
00:29:40.640 --> 00:29:42.480
And what do I truly need?
581
00:29:43.079 --> 00:29:47.000
And it wasn't until I looked at him and I
582
00:29:47.079 --> 00:29:50.720
said I need a break. I can't continue to do this.
583
00:29:51.200 --> 00:29:55.880
I would come home a miserable, cantankerous wretch and that's
584
00:29:55.920 --> 00:29:56.319
truly what.
585
00:29:56.400 --> 00:30:01.000
I was, and sometimes I was even she worked from home.
586
00:30:01.279 --> 00:30:04.200
Yes, wow, yeah, I mean well yeah, because you had
587
00:30:04.279 --> 00:30:06.039
no peace even when you're at home. No, you were
588
00:30:06.119 --> 00:30:08.039
literally at the point where I know you were working
589
00:30:08.079 --> 00:30:09.759
seven days a week. And the reason why I knew
590
00:30:09.799 --> 00:30:12.680
is that you get up on a Monday, you'd see emails,
591
00:30:13.079 --> 00:30:16.000
you know, Sunday or Saturday, late in the evening and it's.
592
00:30:15.920 --> 00:30:17.759
Just like, what is this worth?
593
00:30:18.079 --> 00:30:21.039
And for you, and I'm sorry, but I will say this,
594
00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:23.599
and you know you can say what it is. But
595
00:30:24.039 --> 00:30:28.640
for the organizations that email people on the weekend, shame
596
00:30:28.720 --> 00:30:31.279
on you. Yeah, absolutely shame on you for taking not
597
00:30:31.480 --> 00:30:36.480
just for like intruding on your employees or your workers time,
598
00:30:36.799 --> 00:30:38.440
but on your own family.
599
00:30:39.400 --> 00:30:40.359
That's more than anything.
600
00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:43.039
That's an absolute shameful.
601
00:30:43.400 --> 00:30:46.279
But we live in a society that tells you that
602
00:30:46.759 --> 00:30:49.400
all the person who can outwork the next person is
603
00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:51.559
going to be the one who wins. And at the
604
00:30:51.680 --> 00:30:53.839
end of the day, yeah, you may win for a minute,
605
00:30:54.079 --> 00:30:56.279
but when you die off or when you decide to
606
00:30:56.279 --> 00:30:58.200
walk up there down give like said we were talking earlier,
607
00:30:58.240 --> 00:30:59.920
they don't give a two cents about who you really are,
608
00:31:00.079 --> 00:31:02.400
what you've accomplished, and what you've truly done. And you
609
00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:06.039
can give me a million certificates, it does not change
610
00:31:06.480 --> 00:31:09.359
how I've become or who I've become because of the
611
00:31:09.759 --> 00:31:13.880
situation that you know, they keep you in because they
612
00:31:13.960 --> 00:31:16.000
make you feel like if you don't do this, you're
613
00:31:16.039 --> 00:31:18.680
not gonna make it here. You got to be elevated there,
614
00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:20.400
you know, tell us what your career is going to be, like,
615
00:31:20.440 --> 00:31:21.559
what do you want to be when you want.
616
00:31:21.400 --> 00:31:21.799
To grow up.
617
00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:24.039
I know what I want to be. I don't need
618
00:31:24.119 --> 00:31:25.880
you to tell me how I need to be. And
619
00:31:26.039 --> 00:31:27.920
that's part of the problem, right, And.
620
00:31:29.160 --> 00:31:31.799
Her mine knows I'm that Israel individual will tell you
621
00:31:31.960 --> 00:31:32.880
f off at a minute, I.
622
00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:34.880
Don't have time for your nonsense.
623
00:31:35.519 --> 00:31:38.359
And she'll tell you the best story that when we
624
00:31:38.440 --> 00:31:41.279
were on the call, she said, the look on your face,
625
00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:43.119
and I just can't help it.
626
00:31:43.559 --> 00:31:45.359
And one of those individuals that don't have time for
627
00:31:45.440 --> 00:31:46.920
the nonsense. I've got work to do.
628
00:31:47.000 --> 00:31:48.240
I want to get it done. I want to get
629
00:31:48.240 --> 00:31:50.240
it done in time and manner. I don't need you
630
00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:52.599
to sit here and play games with me when we're
631
00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:54.400
in a meeting. You know, we got things we need
632
00:31:54.440 --> 00:31:56.640
to do, right, So, but to kind of go back
633
00:31:56.680 --> 00:31:59.440
to where we're all talking, it's just it's the reality
634
00:31:59.680 --> 00:32:02.519
of what we've become, and we truly understand what it
635
00:32:02.559 --> 00:32:05.119
means to grow up right. And I think that's where
636
00:32:05.160 --> 00:32:07.319
it's really about, is that sometimes we don't sit back
637
00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:08.680
and think, you know, you hear that word, well, what
638
00:32:08.759 --> 00:32:09.880
do you want to become when you grow up? I
639
00:32:09.920 --> 00:32:12.680
already know what I am now. I just need for
640
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:14.279
you to leave me alone, so I can get there.
641
00:32:14.680 --> 00:32:16.920
And it's not that you don't appreciate having a job,
642
00:32:16.960 --> 00:32:19.559
because we know without having those jobs or running a
643
00:32:19.640 --> 00:32:22.119
business or whatever the case may be, because you depend
644
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:24.119
on people for everything. Right, So at the end of
645
00:32:24.160 --> 00:32:26.799
the day, without having these items, you can't live the
646
00:32:26.839 --> 00:32:29.039
way we live. And we've made the choice to live
647
00:32:29.079 --> 00:32:31.480
that we the way we want to live. I can
648
00:32:31.559 --> 00:32:33.440
sit around and do nothing all day and get my
649
00:32:33.480 --> 00:32:36.880
little government check and be good, but that's not the
650
00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:38.079
life I want to live.
651
00:32:38.799 --> 00:32:42.440
So let's be clear that we all worked or worked
652
00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:46.079
or work in the same place, and this is not
653
00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:51.079
this discussion is not specific to the government work that
654
00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:51.440
we do.
655
00:32:51.640 --> 00:32:53.559
It's specific to life in general.
656
00:32:53.680 --> 00:32:54.519
Yes, exactly.
657
00:32:54.640 --> 00:32:56.559
Yeah, in the commercial world it's.
658
00:32:56.519 --> 00:33:00.559
The same, and in the government world it's the same.
659
00:33:00.680 --> 00:33:04.000
There's always someone who feels that they know what the
660
00:33:04.079 --> 00:33:09.519
direction is. And I've learned to accept change. It's it's
661
00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:12.279
always there, it's constant, and you go with it, and
662
00:33:12.680 --> 00:33:14.799
you have that moment where you say, I told them so,
663
00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:18.039
but they didn't want to listen. But that's that's that
664
00:33:18.200 --> 00:33:21.519
is something that needs to happen naturally. So I just
665
00:33:21.599 --> 00:33:24.160
wanted to say that, you know, we're not. We're not
666
00:33:25.200 --> 00:33:25.559
and it's not.
667
00:33:25.720 --> 00:33:28.000
But at the end of the day, people can still relate, right, Yes,
668
00:33:28.519 --> 00:33:31.480
somebody is going to relate to every one of our
669
00:33:31.559 --> 00:33:33.920
stories and connect with it because this is the real
670
00:33:34.000 --> 00:33:36.799
world we live in. Society has made it very difficult
671
00:33:36.880 --> 00:33:39.559
to make you feel like you. People become feel like
672
00:33:39.599 --> 00:33:41.720
there are nobody when they because they don't feel like
673
00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:43.759
they've excelled because everybody's sonning.
674
00:33:43.880 --> 00:33:45.279
You have to have it itself.
675
00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:48.200
You have to have exactly it's every day, not a
676
00:33:48.279 --> 00:33:52.119
real housewife or one of those reality TV shows or
677
00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:54.160
socialize you know, yeah.
678
00:33:53.960 --> 00:33:57.160
I mean it's not. I mean reality everything. Like I'm
679
00:33:57.279 --> 00:34:01.680
going off car is like, is you want a real
680
00:34:01.759 --> 00:34:04.000
look at like what it means to be nobody and
681
00:34:04.119 --> 00:34:07.920
get paid nothing? Go work in a restaurant mm hmm
682
00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:13.360
bus boy yeah straight, yeah, like twelve dollars an hour
683
00:34:13.480 --> 00:34:16.639
and you know you're paying sixty seventy dollars for a meal.
684
00:34:17.239 --> 00:34:22.480
And it's like, you know, we we we as a society,
685
00:34:22.639 --> 00:34:25.400
have our values and our priorities backwards.
686
00:34:25.519 --> 00:34:30.280
Absolutely absolutely like looking at so let's absolutely we all
687
00:34:30.400 --> 00:34:31.159
call it what it is.
688
00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:35.440
You know, So private sector, my entire life owned multiple businesses,
689
00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:40.800
and I still was pushing myself because I needed to
690
00:34:40.920 --> 00:34:43.719
have the shoes or I wanted to have the watch.
691
00:34:43.599 --> 00:34:47.440
Or the howst you know that persona that we're also, Yeah,
692
00:34:47.679 --> 00:34:49.840
the Jones is right, right, Jones.
693
00:34:50.519 --> 00:34:51.400
The Jones is the Smith.
694
00:34:51.599 --> 00:34:56.559
We all had it. Thomas Thomas, Cindy Thomas. Sorry, it's
695
00:34:56.599 --> 00:34:59.039
a running it's a running inside joke between the Chavis family.
696
00:35:00.280 --> 00:35:02.639
You know, when we look at these we need a
697
00:35:02.719 --> 00:35:07.440
break moments. It doesn't matter if you are a hairstylist,
698
00:35:07.880 --> 00:35:10.159
if you are a nail tech, if you are a barber,
699
00:35:10.320 --> 00:35:14.800
a cook. The industry's not the point. It's how do
700
00:35:14.880 --> 00:35:17.880
we put ourselves into the position where we say, is
701
00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:23.400
what we're doing benefiting us personally and our families and
702
00:35:23.519 --> 00:35:26.920
those that we care about. And I would like to
703
00:35:27.000 --> 00:35:31.199
think that maybe people will have their AHA moments when
704
00:35:31.239 --> 00:35:33.639
they should, and that there is a regardless of what
705
00:35:33.880 --> 00:35:35.760
deity or non deity you believe in, but there is
706
00:35:35.800 --> 00:35:37.400
an energy that.
707
00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:39.079
You get an emotion.
708
00:35:39.920 --> 00:35:41.360
So that's how I knew it was for me, is
709
00:35:41.400 --> 00:35:44.800
that I had this emotion that I felt disconnected in
710
00:35:44.920 --> 00:35:49.480
my life outside of that office, and I knew that
711
00:35:49.639 --> 00:35:52.360
if I wanted to continue to be in a good
712
00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:57.639
place for myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and with my spouse
713
00:35:58.000 --> 00:36:00.559
again also intimately the spouse.
714
00:36:00.719 --> 00:36:01.039
You are.
715
00:36:03.599 --> 00:36:04.440
At least this person.
716
00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:05.000
Is it nice to you?
717
00:36:05.239 --> 00:36:08.280
I mean, I love.
718
00:36:11.119 --> 00:36:11.159
You?
719
00:36:11.199 --> 00:36:12.000
Know what funny is that?
720
00:36:12.599 --> 00:36:15.280
For all my veterans, for all my veterans out there,
721
00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:16.800
just know I am the veteran?
722
00:36:20.880 --> 00:36:21.320
Do you say that?
723
00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:22.199
Like his name?
724
00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:25.360
I don't ever really call him Chris, So it's like
725
00:36:25.400 --> 00:36:26.880
when he called me Jen before, It's like, who are
726
00:36:26.880 --> 00:36:27.360
you talking to?
727
00:36:28.960 --> 00:36:29.440
So I.
728
00:36:31.559 --> 00:36:34.599
People think about their place and their time of what
729
00:36:34.679 --> 00:36:37.519
they're doing. They say, oh, you know what, maybe I
730
00:36:37.599 --> 00:36:40.000
do need a break, and there's nothing wrong with it.
731
00:36:40.039 --> 00:36:41.599
And whether that's a week or.
732
00:36:41.679 --> 00:36:45.960
Two weeks or change of career like my career shift,
733
00:36:46.039 --> 00:36:48.639
my break and changing my entire thing of what I
734
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:52.639
was doing. Yeah, it was scary. It's still scary, but
735
00:36:52.800 --> 00:36:58.639
at the same time it was needed. And I love
736
00:36:58.719 --> 00:37:00.880
the fact that you did that for yourself when it
737
00:37:00.920 --> 00:37:04.159
came to your podcasting and to your business. Look, I'm
738
00:37:04.199 --> 00:37:05.599
not gonna lie to you. I was stoked as all
739
00:37:05.679 --> 00:37:07.079
hell when you said you were going to come back,
740
00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:11.320
So right on, we're gonna get shit done. But at
741
00:37:11.360 --> 00:37:14.480
the same token that was what was right for you
742
00:37:14.679 --> 00:37:18.920
at the time. So huge kudos for that recognition for
743
00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:23.119
self awareness, and it also afforded you the ability to
744
00:37:23.800 --> 00:37:24.599
to cuff your hobby.
745
00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:28.480
Oh yeah, so let's get let's let's that's a great
746
00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:34.079
you know segue. How did that happen? Because I will
747
00:37:34.320 --> 00:37:37.639
I will tell you right now, like from where we were,
748
00:37:37.800 --> 00:37:42.079
where we all have worked at, been working at since
749
00:37:42.599 --> 00:37:43.960
I got there in twenty eighteen.
750
00:37:44.039 --> 00:37:44.760
I've known you too.
751
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:48.159
Yeah, we've all been there a while, so we knew
752
00:37:48.159 --> 00:37:50.360
each other a long time because we worked together, right,
753
00:37:50.480 --> 00:37:53.960
and but we never really Kim was the person that
754
00:37:54.119 --> 00:37:56.960
came to who yelled across the aisle.
755
00:37:58.440 --> 00:38:00.960
You people need to get there. You need people need
756
00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:02.679
to get your funk out of here because you're making
757
00:38:02.760 --> 00:38:05.519
too much noise. It's basically how she came off.
758
00:38:05.679 --> 00:38:10.000
She came off straight up bitch and threw people out
759
00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:13.719
of my cube. The dicks of the world right would
760
00:38:13.800 --> 00:38:15.960
be there for hours. I said, don't you have a
761
00:38:16.079 --> 00:38:18.039
job to do? But then again I allowed that.
762
00:38:18.119 --> 00:38:22.239
To happen, and I never saw her as a bitch
763
00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:24.840
or or person.
764
00:38:25.239 --> 00:38:29.719
I love how you come back around like because my
765
00:38:29.880 --> 00:38:32.119
question is, like, boy, I wonder what happens back to
766
00:38:32.320 --> 00:38:34.360
back in the back room in this house.
767
00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:38.880
But what is the question you really wanted to have
768
00:38:39.000 --> 00:38:39.360
this whole?
769
00:38:39.679 --> 00:38:42.760
Yeah, I mean, like we've heard the story and we
770
00:38:43.000 --> 00:38:46.719
know how it went down for you too, but like, honestly,
771
00:38:47.159 --> 00:38:48.920
prior to that, what kind of what led up to it?
772
00:38:49.960 --> 00:38:53.800
So what led up to it was many very many
773
00:38:55.800 --> 00:39:03.519
months of therapy. Therapy had nothing to do with anything
774
00:39:03.599 --> 00:39:07.599
other than work life balance and the ghosts in the
775
00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:12.320
closet and unboxing the closet. Ashley, you know, Ashley, she's perfect,
776
00:39:12.440 --> 00:39:14.400
you know, thank you for turning me on to her shoes,
777
00:39:15.400 --> 00:39:17.760
she was, Yeah, and I.
778
00:39:17.840 --> 00:39:20.199
Didn't, you know, I just want everybody to understand there,
779
00:39:20.239 --> 00:39:23.639
like the statement that he made that Ashley is his therapist.
780
00:39:25.920 --> 00:39:26.159
Right.
781
00:39:29.679 --> 00:39:30.519
When you share that one.
782
00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:33.840
But but but yeah, that's a different, different podcast. But
783
00:39:34.360 --> 00:39:38.880
but you know, as I I changed my way of
784
00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:39.480
looking at.
785
00:39:39.440 --> 00:39:43.119
Things and thinking of things, and it's not what's important
786
00:39:43.119 --> 00:39:44.800
in my life at this point in time.
787
00:39:45.000 --> 00:39:49.320
So along comes she comes back.
788
00:39:50.679 --> 00:39:54.239
No big deal. It was just another work relationship. And
789
00:39:54.320 --> 00:39:57.960
then we went out several several.
790
00:39:58.480 --> 00:40:04.119
After right, and but not by ourselves, by ourselves, hang
791
00:40:04.199 --> 00:40:06.159
out with other people and saw she saw me in
792
00:40:06.199 --> 00:40:09.280
a different light I saw her because working, you know,
793
00:40:09.400 --> 00:40:12.320
all you see is the professional bullshit that goes on
794
00:40:12.440 --> 00:40:15.639
and the interaction that goes on you don't see, you know, let.
795
00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:17.239
My hair down, although I don't have any hair, but
796
00:40:17.320 --> 00:40:20.480
I let I feel you, and.
797
00:40:21.320 --> 00:40:24.639
And it was a different atmosphere, right, So it says, hey,
798
00:40:25.239 --> 00:40:27.199
this is someone I'd like to spend more time with,
799
00:40:28.119 --> 00:40:32.000
and it became accelerated. Let's put it this way.
800
00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:34.760
So a little subtle difference is about, you know, hey,
801
00:40:34.920 --> 00:40:36.159
can I walk you to your car and go?
802
00:40:38.039 --> 00:40:40.480
But there things you did before we even went out,
803
00:40:40.599 --> 00:40:42.280
Like there was things shown up on my desk. I
804
00:40:42.360 --> 00:40:46.400
didn't even know coffee would get there, flowers and beyond
805
00:40:46.480 --> 00:40:49.400
my desk. I'm like, I'm asking everybody else with the chick,
806
00:40:49.840 --> 00:40:55.280
I mean some there were subtle things going on. And
807
00:40:55.440 --> 00:40:57.000
even prior to that, I remember you telling me that
808
00:40:57.119 --> 00:40:58.760
the one day I was fussing at your work with you,
809
00:40:58.840 --> 00:40:59.519
I got in trouble.
810
00:41:00.079 --> 00:41:01.320
I got in trouble. The man got in trouble.
811
00:41:01.320 --> 00:41:04.920
To remember how our leadership would get mad about how
812
00:41:05.000 --> 00:41:07.000
the men would come in dressed yes, yes, yes, and
813
00:41:07.440 --> 00:41:08.280
the lumberjack, the.
814
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:13.039
Lumberjack lumberjackson Calas. He dressed like the lumberjack yes, And
815
00:41:13.519 --> 00:41:16.920
I was like, oh, thank you, thank.
816
00:41:16.760 --> 00:41:17.039
You, sir.
817
00:41:18.079 --> 00:41:20.719
May I have another? But the one day he can't.
818
00:41:20.800 --> 00:41:23.599
He's went back to being who he really was and
819
00:41:23.679 --> 00:41:26.840
how he dressed. And I complimented, and I was like, oh,
820
00:41:27.440 --> 00:41:29.840
you need to wear blue more often, and he said
821
00:41:29.880 --> 00:41:30.719
that triggered something.
822
00:41:30.840 --> 00:41:31.599
That triggered something.
823
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:36.320
Somebody took the time to not call me a lumberjack
824
00:41:36.360 --> 00:41:37.880
but said, hey, blue looks good on you.
825
00:41:37.960 --> 00:41:39.559
You should do you know.
826
00:41:39.639 --> 00:41:43.800
So it was at the compliment there and then then
827
00:41:43.840 --> 00:41:47.119
it was on the fast track. Without going into too
828
00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:54.119
much time with with with what happened. She was in
829
00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:59.199
Maryland visiting her son. Yeah, and I was in New
830
00:41:59.280 --> 00:42:02.840
Jersey visiting my sister, who was a holiday and I said,
831
00:42:03.440 --> 00:42:06.280
you know, I really like being here, but I want
832
00:42:06.280 --> 00:42:09.559
to get out of here because I want to see Kimberlaine.
833
00:42:09.639 --> 00:42:12.119
She was on our way home and and granted, I'm
834
00:42:12.159 --> 00:42:16.840
five hours away from Virginia and she's too right, and
835
00:42:17.159 --> 00:42:20.440
it's like I must have broke the last speed record
836
00:42:20.519 --> 00:42:23.360
because all of a sudden it was like.
837
00:42:23.480 --> 00:42:26.800
I probably got home. It was definitely a two hour
838
00:42:26.880 --> 00:42:29.760
trip in like thirty minutes later, I was call hey,
839
00:42:29.840 --> 00:42:33.000
I'm back in town. I'm like, yeah, would you do
840
00:42:34.840 --> 00:42:35.320
back here?
841
00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:37.760
You know, I'm thinking I'll be late in the afternoon,
842
00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:40.719
no big deal. He's like, I'm here, let me put
843
00:42:40.760 --> 00:42:43.119
my stuff away. I gotta come out and see you. Okay,
844
00:42:44.559 --> 00:42:45.679
He's like, you need to talk to you.
845
00:42:46.599 --> 00:42:47.079
We knew.
846
00:42:47.519 --> 00:42:50.440
I think I really knew, actually that because it was
847
00:42:50.519 --> 00:42:54.000
Thanksgiving last year, right before Thanksgiving last year when we
848
00:42:54.199 --> 00:42:55.519
when you because he kept coming.
849
00:42:55.400 --> 00:42:58.199
Up here to Dumfries right, kept coming out, moving to Dumphries.
850
00:42:58.360 --> 00:42:59.920
Stupid me. I signed a.
851
00:43:02.199 --> 00:43:03.000
You couldn't wait.
852
00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:09.079
Because I needed to get out of my place.
853
00:43:11.079 --> 00:43:12.400
But it was at the restaurant.
854
00:43:12.440 --> 00:43:13.400
It was at Maclas.
855
00:43:13.559 --> 00:43:14.519
We're standing in the rain.
856
00:43:14.679 --> 00:43:17.719
It rained so hard the day before Thanksgiving. Because he
857
00:43:17.880 --> 00:43:20.400
was leaving that next day and he called me at work.
858
00:43:20.440 --> 00:43:22.480
He's like, hey, you want to meet me for dinner.
859
00:43:22.599 --> 00:43:25.480
I'm like sure, I said, but I'm literally like thirty
860
00:43:25.519 --> 00:43:27.400
forty minutes away. I'm trying to get through this traffic.
861
00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:28.119
I was running late.
862
00:43:28.199 --> 00:43:30.559
Leaving from work and he waited.
863
00:43:31.320 --> 00:43:35.639
He waited for me at Montclaire until I got there,
864
00:43:36.519 --> 00:43:38.559
and I was like, okay, this is cool. So we
865
00:43:38.639 --> 00:43:40.920
had dinner, spent I don't know, probably about two hours
866
00:43:40.960 --> 00:43:43.119
in that place, in our the same little booth we
867
00:43:43.280 --> 00:43:45.679
like to sit in. And it was the leaving part
868
00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:48.400
that is where I realized he's standing in the rain.
869
00:43:49.000 --> 00:43:51.840
I have an umbrella, but he's buying his car, nothing
870
00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:54.400
over his head, and he's just standing there and he's
871
00:43:54.480 --> 00:43:57.000
looking at me. It's like, are you okay? He's like yeah,
872
00:43:57.000 --> 00:43:59.559
And I said, well, you know, text me you're coming.
873
00:43:59.639 --> 00:44:01.079
Let me know you made it to your sisters, you
874
00:44:01.159 --> 00:44:05.199
know that you're okay. And his remark smart remark as usual, Well,
875
00:44:05.599 --> 00:44:08.559
he says, I only do that to my girlfriend. I said, well,
876
00:44:08.599 --> 00:44:10.039
you're looking at her okay.
877
00:44:13.199 --> 00:44:14.679
Literally, but at.
878
00:44:14.639 --> 00:44:16.119
That moment I knew.
879
00:44:18.360 --> 00:44:18.400
You.
880
00:44:18.880 --> 00:44:20.960
No, that was that was two or three weeks later.
881
00:44:21.400 --> 00:44:24.239
You asked me you waited two or three weeks literally.
882
00:44:24.800 --> 00:44:27.840
He was such a gentleman, such a gentleman all the
883
00:44:27.920 --> 00:44:28.320
way through.
884
00:44:28.639 --> 00:44:28.920
Wow.
885
00:44:29.400 --> 00:44:31.800
But yeah, but we we we texted back and forth
886
00:44:31.800 --> 00:44:35.280
a little bit on on Thanksgiving Dad he had that
887
00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:35.679
night too.
888
00:44:35.840 --> 00:44:44.880
No, I'm like, no, you're a gentleman about that too.
889
00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:46.559
You asked for everything before.
890
00:44:46.360 --> 00:44:56.199
You take, So that's that's the And then well, how
891
00:44:56.239 --> 00:45:00.440
it accelerated. Was was another story. I don't we want
892
00:45:00.440 --> 00:45:01.119
to go into it now.
893
00:45:01.280 --> 00:45:03.960
We don't have to mean, we'll talk about it again later,
894
00:45:04.039 --> 00:45:04.599
but yeah, it was.
895
00:45:05.039 --> 00:45:08.079
It was very quick. Checking out Christmas gifts is how
896
00:45:08.159 --> 00:45:08.679
it started.
897
00:45:10.280 --> 00:45:10.639
Got it.
898
00:45:12.480 --> 00:45:16.000
He's a good Santa too, Santa's are important. Yeah, he's
899
00:45:16.000 --> 00:45:16.960
a Santa all year round.
900
00:45:17.039 --> 00:45:17.400
I love it.
901
00:45:18.800 --> 00:45:22.760
Santa are saying, wait, hold it up. Hopefully not a
902
00:45:22.840 --> 00:45:26.599
saint just but yeah.
903
00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:29.639
So yeah, there's definitely more in a story, and we'll
904
00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:30.239
come back to it.
905
00:45:30.360 --> 00:45:32.639
But yeah, I mean I think in general that we're
906
00:45:32.679 --> 00:45:36.360
all just at that point in Isaac we said, you
907
00:45:36.440 --> 00:45:38.159
know that we just we want to slow down.
908
00:45:38.239 --> 00:45:38.960
We have slowed down.
909
00:45:39.000 --> 00:45:41.079
We're taking each one of us have to take different
910
00:45:41.119 --> 00:45:44.960
steps because we're all kind of in different places as individuals, right,
911
00:45:45.480 --> 00:45:46.360
So that's.
912
00:45:46.280 --> 00:45:46.880
A part of it.
913
00:45:47.039 --> 00:45:49.239
Even though you know we're couples and we're married, we
914
00:45:49.360 --> 00:45:50.440
still have things.
915
00:45:50.239 --> 00:45:53.639
That we're all individual, Yeah, that we individual like to do, and.
916
00:45:53.679 --> 00:45:55.920
We're still trying to work around. I mean even you know,
917
00:45:56.320 --> 00:45:58.360
for me, nineteen years of being by myself and then
918
00:45:58.360 --> 00:46:00.639
all of a sudden, now I'm remarried again. It's just
919
00:46:00.760 --> 00:46:03.519
like whoa, Okay, my thoughts. But you know the best
920
00:46:03.559 --> 00:46:05.920
part about I thought I was gonna really struggle with
921
00:46:06.119 --> 00:46:10.079
having to share for for being after being by myself
922
00:46:10.119 --> 00:46:10.719
all those years.
923
00:46:10.960 --> 00:46:13.519
But it has been the best. It has been so
924
00:46:13.639 --> 00:46:15.199
much fun to be able to know I.
925
00:46:15.239 --> 00:46:17.159
Can get up every day and we actually have a
926
00:46:17.199 --> 00:46:19.159
lot of our best conversations when.
927
00:46:20.039 --> 00:46:22.880
And we just sit there and just talk about the
928
00:46:23.239 --> 00:46:24.719
craziest it gets.
929
00:46:25.039 --> 00:46:27.119
It gets so stupid at times.
930
00:46:27.719 --> 00:46:31.360
We're just laughing about silly ship and it's really nice
931
00:46:31.519 --> 00:46:32.159
because it's like.
932
00:46:34.119 --> 00:46:36.000
And just get and we love the shop. And have
933
00:46:36.119 --> 00:46:39.320
you ever I've never met anybody who loves Costco as much.
934
00:46:39.239 --> 00:46:39.960
As he does.
935
00:46:41.519 --> 00:46:47.440
Costco grocery shop. Yeah, we had to stop the weekly Costco.
936
00:46:47.880 --> 00:46:50.800
I had to talk about this, okay, because if you're
937
00:46:50.840 --> 00:46:52.960
looking for a wonderful husband and tell you about.
938
00:46:55.239 --> 00:46:57.920
He's gonna your new husband.
939
00:47:00.079 --> 00:47:04.480
There you go there you like like you can do
940
00:47:04.639 --> 00:47:07.079
you can like go for the over forty crown For
941
00:47:07.159 --> 00:47:09.119
the guys who aren't married yet, like, let me train you.
942
00:47:09.519 --> 00:47:14.599
I'm going to show you how to be the Yeah
943
00:47:14.599 --> 00:47:17.599
there a trophy. Husbands looking for the sophisticated words don't
944
00:47:17.599 --> 00:47:21.639
have to be you don't have to be ripped, yeah, exactly, exactly,
945
00:47:21.760 --> 00:47:22.800
flowing hair.
946
00:47:24.119 --> 00:47:25.559
These are the things that we win.
947
00:47:25.719 --> 00:47:30.599
You win your wife's respect and adoration and love.
948
00:47:30.760 --> 00:47:31.519
What are you looking at me?
949
00:47:32.440 --> 00:47:33.960
I was trying to imagine hair.
950
00:47:36.079 --> 00:47:38.519
There is no there. There is one picture, and that's
951
00:47:38.679 --> 00:47:41.800
me with holding my baby brother and I was like four,
952
00:47:41.920 --> 00:47:44.079
he was like two. It's like flowy, curly hair. Other
953
00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:45.800
than that, we don't know what happened. I ended up
954
00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:47.880
like my father, uh so.
955
00:47:49.880 --> 00:47:51.039
But but it's the truth.
956
00:47:51.079 --> 00:47:54.519
It's like, you know, everybody has this perspective about what
957
00:47:54.599 --> 00:47:56.440
they think through, who they're going to marry, what their
958
00:47:56.480 --> 00:47:58.440
life is going to look like, right, you know, because
959
00:47:59.000 --> 00:48:02.880
because what you're visualize and see every day, it's about
960
00:48:02.920 --> 00:48:05.039
what society tells you that it's supposed to be like,
961
00:48:05.400 --> 00:48:07.440
or what your family tells you you're supposed to be like,
962
00:48:07.679 --> 00:48:09.960
or some of your friends think you're supposed to who
963
00:48:10.039 --> 00:48:11.519
you think you're supposed to be with, or what you're
964
00:48:11.519 --> 00:48:12.280
supposed to be doing.
965
00:48:12.400 --> 00:48:15.440
Right, But the reality is that to have a wonderful
966
00:48:15.800 --> 00:48:16.400
husband like I.
967
00:48:16.480 --> 00:48:21.360
Have, who cooks, cleans, loves the grocery shop, loves to
968
00:48:21.480 --> 00:48:24.440
go shopping with me. I mean, there's nothing that's in
969
00:48:24.559 --> 00:48:28.719
this house that we haven't done together. And I'm actually
970
00:48:29.719 --> 00:48:32.159
I'm actually going to line dancing and.
971
00:48:32.280 --> 00:48:33.880
Go line dancing with me.
972
00:48:34.559 --> 00:48:35.039
Yes, we.
973
00:48:36.840 --> 00:48:37.800
Up here at the Clonehouse.
974
00:48:38.360 --> 00:48:40.360
You know, we live in the old folks community.
975
00:48:40.480 --> 00:48:46.800
So I love we know about everything about that comment.
976
00:48:50.239 --> 00:48:52.559
But it's the truth is it's so much fun that
977
00:48:52.719 --> 00:48:57.039
we're really broadening and opening up as a couple doing
978
00:48:57.119 --> 00:48:58.480
things that we have never done before.
979
00:48:58.559 --> 00:48:59.280
The balloon ride.
980
00:48:59.320 --> 00:49:01.960
If you had not told us about the balloon ride,
981
00:49:02.360 --> 00:49:03.920
that was so fun.
982
00:49:06.000 --> 00:49:08.119
We met some very strange people, yes we did, but
983
00:49:08.199 --> 00:49:10.719
not strange, but no, they were very nice, very nice people.
984
00:49:10.719 --> 00:49:11.400
I don't mean strange.
985
00:49:11.440 --> 00:49:13.760
You guys kind of y'all one up to us because like,
986
00:49:14.320 --> 00:49:16.119
she didn't do We didn't do the blue ride.
987
00:49:16.480 --> 00:49:17.079
We did the plane.
988
00:49:17.159 --> 00:49:20.639
We did the biplane ride. And let me tell you,
989
00:49:21.119 --> 00:49:23.039
when you're sitting there, you know, she's sitting on my
990
00:49:23.119 --> 00:49:26.239
lad the guy's behind me, like this is awkward. Okay,
991
00:49:26.320 --> 00:49:28.199
So I didn't say that, right. It's a biplane. There's
992
00:49:28.239 --> 00:49:31.679
a part of it that separated with the pilot behind me. Yeah, yeah,
993
00:49:31.840 --> 00:49:32.280
never mind.
994
00:49:32.599 --> 00:49:36.199
So what's funnier is that I was sitting with there
995
00:49:36.239 --> 00:49:38.519
with my camera taking pictures of the hot air balloons
996
00:49:38.519 --> 00:49:38.760
that were.
997
00:49:38.719 --> 00:49:41.320
Oh god, oh have you never seen her hot air
998
00:49:41.360 --> 00:49:43.199
balloon picture that she took in the plane.
999
00:49:43.960 --> 00:49:45.920
It is epic.
1000
00:49:46.639 --> 00:49:50.400
It's like, is by far one of the greatest pictures
1001
00:49:50.440 --> 00:49:53.800
that she even has one of it. One just lifting
1002
00:49:53.880 --> 00:49:55.960
off the ground but you can't see the ground, but
1003
00:49:56.079 --> 00:50:00.000
it looks like it's literally you're like, I could see
1004
00:50:00.119 --> 00:50:01.679
the stitching on this balloon. That's how close.
1005
00:50:01.719 --> 00:50:03.440
Oh my gosh, it's gorgeous.
1006
00:50:04.440 --> 00:50:07.119
Did you go in the checkered one, the red, white, blue,
1007
00:50:07.199 --> 00:50:09.440
yellow one, Yes, that's the one we were in.
1008
00:50:09.559 --> 00:50:11.159
That was the one that was tethered and going up
1009
00:50:11.159 --> 00:50:13.519
and yeah, but it was still high up in the ground.
1010
00:50:13.719 --> 00:50:17.960
Oh you didn't know, Oh no, because that was like
1011
00:50:18.039 --> 00:50:18.840
three or four miles.
1012
00:50:18.920 --> 00:50:21.719
So they would take take off yeah, and then go.
1013
00:50:24.599 --> 00:50:27.000
Yeah so and then just dropped off and then you
1014
00:50:27.119 --> 00:50:29.920
drove back. Yeah. So that was like they had one
1015
00:50:30.039 --> 00:50:33.880
like that were we down by us and you could
1016
00:50:34.280 --> 00:50:36.880
take off and we would just watch this one for
1017
00:50:36.960 --> 00:50:39.360
like hours or like is that we're going down? Like
1018
00:50:40.079 --> 00:50:43.639
how far is that out? Just like twenty miles out.
1019
00:50:43.880 --> 00:50:47.880
But the other experience was scary, yeah, because you think
1020
00:50:47.960 --> 00:50:49.760
that when you're standing on the ground looking up. You
1021
00:50:49.840 --> 00:50:51.800
really think that you're not going up very far. But
1022
00:50:51.880 --> 00:50:53.360
when you're actually inside that.
1023
00:50:53.400 --> 00:50:55.320
Balloon, you didn't look down, did you?
1024
00:50:55.440 --> 00:50:56.199
Yeah, of course I did.
1025
00:50:56.840 --> 00:50:59.239
I was taking pictures, you know, and we went to die.
1026
00:50:59.320 --> 00:51:02.079
If we fell out, that broke a leg.
1027
00:51:02.199 --> 00:51:04.519
Yeah, you would hurt yourself because you were really pretty
1028
00:51:04.519 --> 00:51:07.280
far up there and there and then and especially.
1029
00:51:09.159 --> 00:51:13.039
We met this it was just special, very special.
1030
00:51:13.199 --> 00:51:13.480
He was.
1031
00:51:15.559 --> 00:51:17.719
Crying, he was he said he was gonna cry.
1032
00:51:18.679 --> 00:51:21.519
He was almost himself. I was doing some liquid courage
1033
00:51:22.519 --> 00:51:23.239
before getting on.
1034
00:51:24.320 --> 00:51:26.360
Yeah, it was very scared.
1035
00:51:26.639 --> 00:51:29.119
Did you all go to the soda ice cream shop
1036
00:51:29.199 --> 00:51:29.480
down there?
1037
00:51:30.079 --> 00:51:30.679
No, we didn't.
1038
00:51:31.559 --> 00:51:35.480
So the antique story. Oh we've seen the anti store.
1039
00:51:35.599 --> 00:51:39.280
We didn't stop and remember yeah there right, you know
1040
00:51:39.400 --> 00:51:42.800
that that road going there was really going there.
1041
00:51:43.039 --> 00:51:47.440
She's going just one way. There'll be cars coming towards us.
1042
00:51:47.599 --> 00:51:52.199
Oh yeah, way back on the way back pitch black.
1043
00:51:52.360 --> 00:51:54.960
So we're not stopping there, even if it was open.
1044
00:51:55.400 --> 00:51:57.639
But but what was I going with this?
1045
00:51:57.840 --> 00:51:58.159
I don't know.
1046
00:52:01.280 --> 00:52:02.119
You're having a moment.
1047
00:52:02.199 --> 00:52:05.599
It's okay, that is a nice area, Like we we
1048
00:52:05.840 --> 00:52:12.360
go down there quite a bit, like, yeah it's beautiful, yeah, tabhanic, Yeah,
1049
00:52:12.840 --> 00:52:14.199
that's a cute little area.
1050
00:52:14.519 --> 00:52:17.440
So yeah, well we had a good time come back
1051
00:52:17.480 --> 00:52:21.280
there again to explore some other things that were going on.
1052
00:52:21.440 --> 00:52:24.199
But it's definitely it's definitely a different part of the world.
1053
00:52:25.000 --> 00:52:27.239
I mean, you get that here. So that was one
1054
00:52:27.280 --> 00:52:30.000
thing that one absolute thing I loved about doing the
1055
00:52:30.159 --> 00:52:36.119
dishes is that even from where where we live, right,
1056
00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:42.719
you go ten miles left, ten miles south, ten miles
1057
00:52:43.000 --> 00:52:46.280
twenty miles right, you're in the country and there's some
1058
00:52:46.440 --> 00:52:49.480
places back there where you're like, why do people in Virginia.
1059
00:52:49.199 --> 00:52:50.239
Not know about these places?
1060
00:52:50.800 --> 00:52:54.039
Like you you, A lot of people don't know where
1061
00:52:54.079 --> 00:52:57.480
they can go to find quality things like just I mean,
1062
00:52:57.559 --> 00:53:01.639
for me, it's food. I mean even today we were
1063
00:53:01.719 --> 00:53:05.960
watching TV show and something about Wagoo beef and uh
1064
00:53:06.599 --> 00:53:09.159
we I know, there is a lady who comes up
1065
00:53:09.360 --> 00:53:12.119
our way and I got to talking to d because
1066
00:53:12.119 --> 00:53:13.519
she was at our farmer's margat. I was like, I'm
1067
00:53:13.559 --> 00:53:15.719
gonna get a thing of wagoo beef and we're gonna
1068
00:53:15.719 --> 00:53:17.360
have it, We're gonna try it, blah blah blah, and
1069
00:53:17.519 --> 00:53:20.360
just we spent thirty minutes talking and I was like, oh,
1070
00:53:20.440 --> 00:53:21.639
I'm gonna be late to chemi yea.
1071
00:53:22.559 --> 00:53:24.760
Unless you go out to these places, you're in this
1072
00:53:25.039 --> 00:53:27.800
little circle and you only stand there, you don't know
1073
00:53:27.920 --> 00:53:30.000
what else is out there, right exactly.
1074
00:53:30.280 --> 00:53:33.400
Yeah, there's definitely a lot of nice stuff around our community,
1075
00:53:33.480 --> 00:53:37.000
and we've been trying to find different places every week
1076
00:53:37.039 --> 00:53:39.519
if we can, every weekend, and whether it's eating or
1077
00:53:39.920 --> 00:53:42.400
you know, whether it's just trying something new and have
1078
00:53:42.679 --> 00:53:44.000
realized that.
1079
00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:47.079
Did I come unplugging you're kind of.
1080
00:53:48.760 --> 00:53:56.800
Yeah, okay, well that yeah, okay, miss great conversations. Can
1081
00:53:56.840 --> 00:53:57.400
you hear better?
1082
00:53:58.159 --> 00:53:58.360
Yeah?
1083
00:53:58.800 --> 00:54:00.760
But yeah, so the you know, the key is trying
1084
00:54:00.800 --> 00:54:02.679
to do something new in your community. A lot of
1085
00:54:02.719 --> 00:54:05.000
people are so stuck and I just want to be
1086
00:54:05.159 --> 00:54:07.519
in the city, so to speak. And obviously this is
1087
00:54:07.599 --> 00:54:10.119
not the city, DC is the actual state. But there's
1088
00:54:10.159 --> 00:54:12.880
so many nice things that you can do right here.
1089
00:54:13.079 --> 00:54:16.719
And we are experiencing Manasas because we're close to Manassas
1090
00:54:16.800 --> 00:54:19.519
and then all the other outer things in our community
1091
00:54:19.559 --> 00:54:20.840
and it's it's it's been.
1092
00:54:20.760 --> 00:54:22.079
Fun you guys.
1093
00:54:22.119 --> 00:54:24.079
Yeah you get I mean like you has got a
1094
00:54:24.159 --> 00:54:26.639
great NASAs has a great downtown.
1095
00:54:27.000 --> 00:54:28.199
Absolutely, we've been there.
1096
00:54:28.320 --> 00:54:34.679
Yeah, yeah, we even ventured into the over there.
1097
00:54:34.760 --> 00:54:34.960
Yeah.
1098
00:54:35.480 --> 00:54:36.159
God, bless you.
1099
00:54:36.840 --> 00:54:38.679
It's actually growing that they've changed it.
1100
00:54:38.840 --> 00:54:43.440
It's becoming a new I guess they have a new
1101
00:54:43.519 --> 00:54:46.079
quarter called the Entertainment Corridor, which.
1102
00:54:45.920 --> 00:54:47.440
Is where we actually place with the go cart in
1103
00:54:47.519 --> 00:54:48.039
the back right.
1104
00:54:48.159 --> 00:54:53.039
Yes, yes, and they're adding on out there.
1105
00:54:53.239 --> 00:54:57.239
Good place that we at, uh burghers at Manassas right,
1106
00:54:57.320 --> 00:54:59.360
because we were hungry before we go into.
1107
00:54:59.239 --> 00:55:06.880
The furnit it was looking specific question had unbelievable burner
1108
00:55:07.360 --> 00:55:09.280
and and and the chilly.
1109
00:55:09.079 --> 00:55:11.400
That he made gluten free food there too.
1110
00:55:11.639 --> 00:55:14.239
Really and it's a.
1111
00:55:14.360 --> 00:55:16.960
It's a music bar because they have music venues there.
1112
00:55:17.039 --> 00:55:19.440
So what will happen is they'll have a band playing.
1113
00:55:20.159 --> 00:55:23.519
Uh they do music bingo where instead of a bingo
1114
00:55:23.679 --> 00:55:26.000
card with numbers, it's it's songs.
1115
00:55:26.159 --> 00:55:27.440
And when they played all right.
1116
00:55:27.519 --> 00:55:28.400
Now, that's pretty cool.
1117
00:55:28.519 --> 00:55:31.239
Yeah, that's pretty cool. I haven't been there yet, but
1118
00:55:31.320 --> 00:55:31.920
we're going to go there.
1119
00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:36.920
You're going to play bingo, getting ready for like seventies music.
1120
00:55:37.119 --> 00:55:39.960
I'm going to tell you something I did bingo when
1121
00:55:40.000 --> 00:55:43.360
I was young, don't theft because I was like the
1122
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:47.400
youngest person there everything. All these older ladies were there
1123
00:55:47.719 --> 00:55:49.559
and they were fawning all over like.
1124
00:55:51.159 --> 00:55:55.239
You're only doing one card is do you need more
1125
00:55:55.280 --> 00:55:55.760
than this?
1126
00:55:55.960 --> 00:55:59.719
Is obviously don't know how to play Bengo because it
1127
00:55:59.840 --> 00:56:01.679
just look at this and she's got a table full,
1128
00:56:01.719 --> 00:56:02.880
like she got twenty cards.
1129
00:56:02.920 --> 00:56:05.159
I says, I'm having a hard time doing one card.
1130
00:56:07.159 --> 00:56:09.159
So she goes, come on, I'm going to show you.
1131
00:56:09.280 --> 00:56:12.280
She goes by five more cards, did you? Oh yeah?
1132
00:56:12.280 --> 00:56:13.880
And she was walking off my ship too.
1133
00:56:17.119 --> 00:56:20.880
Oh girl was multitasking at they called that number.
1134
00:56:20.960 --> 00:56:21.400
You didn't do it.
1135
00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:23.440
I don't even know where I am.
1136
00:56:27.119 --> 00:56:29.239
So she was field checking your ship, is what you're saying.
1137
00:56:29.280 --> 00:56:32.320
She was field checking my stuff. She was checking my homework.
1138
00:56:32.400 --> 00:56:33.039
Oh my god.
1139
00:56:33.440 --> 00:56:34.159
That awesome.
1140
00:56:34.239 --> 00:56:36.679
And I was laughing because I thought it was hilarious.
1141
00:56:36.719 --> 00:56:38.760
I didn't care whether I won Bingo or not, just
1142
00:56:39.000 --> 00:56:42.920
watching who's got the little troll dolls? Who's got the
1143
00:56:43.039 --> 00:56:45.400
little like voodoo dolls?
1144
00:56:45.400 --> 00:56:48.679
So like wish and then when they when they hit.
1145
00:56:48.760 --> 00:56:49.800
I don't know about this.
1146
00:56:50.880 --> 00:56:54.280
I've had an Italian grandmother, I know, and Irish grandmother,
1147
00:56:54.400 --> 00:56:55.239
believe me, who smoked.
1148
00:56:56.800 --> 00:56:59.239
I'm still trying to imagine sitting there playing bingo.
1149
00:56:59.400 --> 00:57:01.920
I wasn't allowed to play. I had to sit there
1150
00:57:02.840 --> 00:57:05.519
like I wasn't there saying.
1151
00:57:07.519 --> 00:57:15.320
Yes, and they were let's well behind kids because they
1152
00:57:15.360 --> 00:57:16.360
were probably beaten.
1153
00:57:18.639 --> 00:57:22.079
Yes, yes, because nowadays it's like, let's take our child
1154
00:57:22.119 --> 00:57:27.800
to the winery and over the place. Let me tell you,
1155
00:57:27.960 --> 00:57:29.880
my father saw me run around here like this. What
1156
00:57:30.280 --> 00:57:32.760
tell you what he'd be like, just inching under his
1157
00:57:32.880 --> 00:57:34.880
shirt like I'm gonna take this belt off and this
1158
00:57:35.039 --> 00:57:36.199
child across.
1159
00:57:38.280 --> 00:57:42.480
To get the look before there was always a spear.
1160
00:57:45.320 --> 00:57:48.480
Look at that, and they'll say ours was the snap
1161
00:57:48.760 --> 00:57:52.039
or the whistle. And if you didn't respond to the snap,
1162
00:57:52.199 --> 00:57:54.559
if you and the whistle was heard and you didn't
1163
00:57:54.559 --> 00:57:57.199
come a run, you were done.
1164
00:57:58.800 --> 00:58:02.159
We got the speech. It's very simple. Sit there, mind
1165
00:58:02.199 --> 00:58:04.000
your manners, don't act a fool.
1166
00:58:04.199 --> 00:58:09.760
Yeah, yeah, that's right here. This part is a whole
1167
00:58:09.800 --> 00:58:10.599
different day too.
1168
00:58:11.880 --> 00:58:15.079
But there were two things that uh, my mother was
1169
00:58:15.119 --> 00:58:16.559
a disciplinary. My father was.
1170
00:58:16.719 --> 00:58:19.599
He would yell, but he wasn't a disciplinary. The two
1171
00:58:19.639 --> 00:58:23.800
things I feared the most. My my mother had two things.
1172
00:58:23.840 --> 00:58:26.039
One is the wooden spoon she stirred the sauce with.
1173
00:58:26.159 --> 00:58:28.239
And they're not made like today's spoons. These were like
1174
00:58:28.400 --> 00:58:29.079
oak trees.
1175
00:58:30.400 --> 00:58:31.880
And when you got hit with that one, just the
1176
00:58:31.960 --> 00:58:32.880
size of an oak tree.
1177
00:58:33.159 --> 00:58:34.119
The other wise is short.
1178
00:58:34.400 --> 00:58:37.400
I would say maybe twelve thirteen inches of the rubber host,
1179
00:58:37.480 --> 00:58:38.800
but not the rubber hose you buy today.
1180
00:58:38.840 --> 00:58:43.199
It had the fibers like you couldn't even bend it.
1181
00:58:43.320 --> 00:58:43.599
That's how.
1182
00:58:43.960 --> 00:58:45.599
And when you got hit with that, you had a welt.
1183
00:58:45.880 --> 00:58:47.280
That was the ship that we used to attached to
1184
00:58:47.320 --> 00:58:48.400
the dishwasher.
1185
00:58:48.559 --> 00:58:49.039
In the day.
1186
00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:52.400
Yeah, but nowadays it's like, I'm gonna call the police.
1187
00:58:52.519 --> 00:58:56.280
Was like, shut up, it happened to you, like yeah,
1188
00:58:56.360 --> 00:58:56.719
and it's not.
1189
00:58:57.519 --> 00:59:00.199
It's the discipline was what they were used to. So
1190
00:59:00.920 --> 00:59:03.320
that's how. There's nothing I mean, for good, there's nothing
1191
00:59:03.360 --> 00:59:05.000
wrong with that. That's what you're behind us for.
1192
00:59:06.239 --> 00:59:08.800
He's like our parents. Our parents grew up with parents
1193
00:59:08.800 --> 00:59:12.280
who like practically lived in the Great Depression. It's like, really,
1194
00:59:12.400 --> 00:59:14.920
you want to talk about abuse, like, suck it up, dude,
1195
00:59:15.079 --> 00:59:17.960
just shut up, like nothing.
1196
00:59:18.000 --> 00:59:18.679
You can't imagine.
1197
00:59:18.920 --> 00:59:22.119
One of my favorite things Chris's dad would say. He'd
1198
00:59:22.239 --> 00:59:24.480
be telling us a story, and you know, Chris, like
1199
00:59:24.559 --> 00:59:26.239
I remember that, He's like what did I do?
1200
00:59:26.360 --> 00:59:27.519
And his father's like nothing.
1201
00:59:27.559 --> 00:59:30.360
It was general purpose was to remind you that if
1202
00:59:30.400 --> 00:59:33.199
you were to think about being stupid or act a fool.
1203
00:59:33.400 --> 00:59:35.679
I'm gonna he told he told me this one time.
1204
00:59:35.719 --> 00:59:41.559
I'm like, what. Of course this also came from the
1205
00:59:41.639 --> 00:59:44.559
guy who's like listen and and this is how I
1206
00:59:44.599 --> 00:59:52.440
don't remember what we were talking goes listen unlike your brother, right,
1207
00:59:53.239 --> 00:59:55.079
who can get a ticket on the first two hours
1208
00:59:55.119 --> 00:59:58.599
of getting his driver's license. I was like, Okay, where
1209
00:59:58.679 --> 01:00:00.480
is this going? I know this goes you the world's
1210
01:00:00.519 --> 01:00:04.000
best drunk driver. I was like, what are you talking about? Man? Yes,
1211
01:00:04.119 --> 01:00:06.039
you try better drunk that you do normally.
1212
01:00:07.719 --> 01:00:08.280
What what.
1213
01:00:10.039 --> 01:00:13.920
That's me? I don't know what it's all about.
1214
01:00:14.000 --> 01:00:16.079
But that's what he told me that you remember that done?
1215
01:00:16.280 --> 01:00:17.480
Yeah, it was terrible.
1216
01:00:18.239 --> 01:00:21.480
So I'm a firm believer that we do and should
1217
01:00:21.519 --> 01:00:25.079
always have conversations about today's society and how children are.
1218
01:00:25.679 --> 01:00:29.840
Ye would be a different world, and I'm actually thankful.
1219
01:00:30.320 --> 01:00:34.320
We had no kids at age now like, no, it's
1220
01:00:35.559 --> 01:00:37.760
I wouldn't want a parent in today's then.
1221
01:00:39.760 --> 01:00:42.119
It's a different world today than what we grew up
1222
01:00:42.159 --> 01:00:45.360
in and what we were accustomed to when we were kids.
1223
01:00:46.960 --> 01:00:50.559
And it goes from all the different and we didn't
1224
01:00:50.599 --> 01:00:52.639
have cell phones back then, we didn't.
1225
01:00:52.440 --> 01:00:56.679
Have we had internet, we had no proof.
1226
01:00:57.960 --> 01:01:01.519
There was no way to provide proof of what happened
1227
01:01:01.599 --> 01:01:05.360
unless there was a bruise, bloodied or you didn't show up.
1228
01:01:05.519 --> 01:01:06.519
That was it, right, that's it.
1229
01:01:06.800 --> 01:01:10.559
But because because when you came home at night, unless
1230
01:01:10.679 --> 01:01:14.440
you had those marketings, yeah, there was no question. You know.
1231
01:01:14.559 --> 01:01:16.199
But we did some stupid stuff.
1232
01:01:17.000 --> 01:01:20.199
I did some that I mean, even like with bullying.
1233
01:01:20.280 --> 01:01:24.559
Like my dad would be like, so what did you do?
1234
01:01:24.679 --> 01:01:27.000
Did you finish it? And that was all he would say.
1235
01:01:27.079 --> 01:01:30.440
You're like, he said, it's okay, I will not get
1236
01:01:30.519 --> 01:01:34.440
in trouble. Let's do this. Nowadays, it's like I posted
1237
01:01:34.519 --> 01:01:37.239
this on Instagram on my Twitter feed. What are they
1238
01:01:37.320 --> 01:01:42.440
calling now? It's like really like and deny, deny, Yeah, as.
1239
01:01:45.480 --> 01:01:46.239
I was, I was.
1240
01:01:46.800 --> 01:01:50.480
I wasn't even the same state. You're an eight year
1241
01:01:50.480 --> 01:01:52.039
old kid. I know I wasn't in the same state.
1242
01:01:53.920 --> 01:01:54.519
Figure it out.
1243
01:01:55.920 --> 01:01:57.800
That's when you look at the birds. You say, you
1244
01:01:58.480 --> 01:02:00.199
was me, are you sure?
1245
01:02:01.679 --> 01:02:03.239
Well? Okay, let me let me ask you to this
1246
01:02:03.320 --> 01:02:06.039
because we've had this conversation because we hear it from
1247
01:02:06.679 --> 01:02:09.599
people at our ship. Y' all know what a furby is.
1248
01:02:13.079 --> 01:02:15.760
I never had no, no, no, no, no, no, a
1249
01:02:15.960 --> 01:02:19.599
furry furry yeah, different thing. Do you know what a
1250
01:02:19.679 --> 01:02:22.920
furry is? No, gross, it's a it's a it's a
1251
01:02:23.320 --> 01:02:26.360
child or an adult who identifies as an animal. I
1252
01:02:26.480 --> 01:02:29.880
eat like a cat. Where they have to have litter
1253
01:02:29.960 --> 01:02:33.320
boxes in schools for these children to utilize this thing today?
1254
01:02:33.639 --> 01:02:36.119
Yeah, so it was just in the news about six
1255
01:02:36.199 --> 01:02:41.079
months ago, was it. It's the teacher was terminated because
1256
01:02:41.360 --> 01:02:42.079
she didn't.
1257
01:02:41.800 --> 01:02:43.960
Allow the child to utilize the litter box.
1258
01:02:44.920 --> 01:02:49.320
Okay, not part of the boys girls room, but to
1259
01:02:49.480 --> 01:02:50.239
drove so.
1260
01:02:50.760 --> 01:02:51.920
Drop trow and so.
1261
01:02:52.199 --> 01:02:55.039
So when this child becomes a belt, they gonna let
1262
01:02:55.119 --> 01:02:56.760
letter boxes in the office.
1263
01:02:56.480 --> 01:03:00.119
To let me let me tell you like, but I
1264
01:03:00.159 --> 01:03:01.079
would throw me so.
1265
01:03:01.199 --> 01:03:04.559
I come from a family of educators. My father, after
1266
01:03:04.639 --> 01:03:06.760
he got out of the army, he became a teacher.
1267
01:03:06.880 --> 01:03:08.920
My grandmother was a principal, and my mother was a
1268
01:03:09.039 --> 01:03:11.880
learning consultant, my aunt. All of them all in the
1269
01:03:12.000 --> 01:03:16.320
education realm. And wasn't my path in life cool grade
1270
01:03:16.320 --> 01:03:18.320
grand But there was one thing they always told me,
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01:03:18.400 --> 01:03:23.400
which was the diversity, not ethnically or racially, but just
1272
01:03:23.480 --> 01:03:25.960
the diversity of individuals and children that they come across,
1273
01:03:26.039 --> 01:03:27.760
and the level of involvement from parents.
1274
01:03:28.280 --> 01:03:29.119
And I get it.
1275
01:03:30.800 --> 01:03:34.000
Two income families. Maybe I was a latchkey kid, both
1276
01:03:34.039 --> 01:03:36.760
my parents were, but you know what, I wasn't dumb
1277
01:03:36.880 --> 01:03:40.880
enough to get caught doing dumb shit Like there were
1278
01:03:40.960 --> 01:03:44.400
boundaries and we knew that. Now we're in a situation
1279
01:03:44.480 --> 01:03:47.880
where these teachers are being expected to not only educate
1280
01:03:47.960 --> 01:03:48.719
the children.
1281
01:03:48.440 --> 01:03:51.039
But to parent them, thank you, And that's the problem.
1282
01:03:51.159 --> 01:03:54.159
It's a huge issue. But then when they do parent them,
1283
01:03:54.760 --> 01:03:57.280
they're getting terminated. I have to tell you if I
1284
01:03:57.360 --> 01:04:00.639
were that teacher. And this isn't to start a whole
1285
01:04:00.760 --> 01:04:02.559
debate about who's a good parent who's not.
1286
01:04:02.719 --> 01:04:04.000
It's about if I am a.
1287
01:04:04.039 --> 01:04:07.360
Teacher and I say to the person to this child,
1288
01:04:08.199 --> 01:04:12.159
you will use a restroom, male or female, don't care.
1289
01:04:12.800 --> 01:04:16.119
You are not gonna, to Carmine's point, drop trou and
1290
01:04:16.320 --> 01:04:16.840
squat in.
1291
01:04:17.079 --> 01:04:21.000
A box exactly like animal.
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01:04:21.679 --> 01:04:26.159
And then I'm terminated. Let me tell you, I would
1293
01:04:26.199 --> 01:04:29.079
be losing my mind on people and the fact that
1294
01:04:29.320 --> 01:04:32.239
it's okay and then people, well you have to let
1295
01:04:32.280 --> 01:04:33.280
them express themselves.
1296
01:04:33.320 --> 01:04:36.320
No, no, you know in the real world that you
1297
01:04:36.440 --> 01:04:38.239
cannot sit and you cannot have a little body.
1298
01:04:39.599 --> 01:04:43.400
If somebody walked into our office and decided, hey, I
1299
01:04:43.519 --> 01:04:46.119
need to take a basically a dump, right, because this
1300
01:04:46.280 --> 01:04:46.840
is who I am.
1301
01:04:47.519 --> 01:04:49.760
The level of expression for someone to be a cat
1302
01:04:49.960 --> 01:04:52.760
is just that there was a musical called Cats.
1303
01:04:52.960 --> 01:04:53.320
Exactly.
1304
01:04:53.440 --> 01:04:58.000
You're not that good, just down. It's like even the
1305
01:04:58.440 --> 01:05:04.119
like in the parenting thing, like I I remember that
1306
01:05:04.920 --> 01:05:06.920
I would get a call or my parents would get
1307
01:05:06.920 --> 01:05:09.599
a phone call or a landline on that the wall,
1308
01:05:10.000 --> 01:05:11.599
and my mom be looking at me like I gotta
1309
01:05:12.039 --> 01:05:14.960
like a bewildered look on my face. I'm like, uh oh,
1310
01:05:15.239 --> 01:05:18.159
she found out. And it's just like there was no
1311
01:05:18.320 --> 01:05:23.960
parenting at school. That teacher called exactly your parents to
1312
01:05:24.239 --> 01:05:27.360
parents you at home, so it could not be seen
1313
01:05:27.440 --> 01:05:28.679
what happened, you know.
1314
01:05:28.960 --> 01:05:31.199
It's that put that the end of the day, the
1315
01:05:31.280 --> 01:05:33.880
teachers aren't paid enough as it is, sit there and
1316
01:05:34.079 --> 01:05:35.440
ask them to be the parent too.
1317
01:05:36.079 --> 01:05:37.280
Where is your responsibility?
1318
01:05:37.280 --> 01:05:39.800
And then everything I've taught you and I'm parenting you,
1319
01:05:40.119 --> 01:05:42.320
you go right back home to that same environment and
1320
01:05:42.679 --> 01:05:44.760
it's a ship show and we're starting all over again.
1321
01:05:44.880 --> 01:05:45.000
Right.
1322
01:05:45.199 --> 01:05:47.400
So that's so that's the problem. That is not our
1323
01:05:47.559 --> 01:05:49.880
role and as a teacher, that is not their roles
1324
01:05:49.960 --> 01:05:52.360
to be their parents. They're there to teach you the
1325
01:05:52.559 --> 01:05:56.199
everyday basic life things on top of it, you know,
1326
01:05:56.440 --> 01:05:58.239
escalating up to whatever else it is that you're great
1327
01:05:58.280 --> 01:06:01.000
at doing, because we all know everybody learns differently. But
1328
01:06:01.119 --> 01:06:03.800
to come up with these new things of identity.
1329
01:06:03.639 --> 01:06:06.079
I'm just like, really, do we have time for that?
1330
01:06:06.280 --> 01:06:08.519
I mean, even back some years ago when they were
1331
01:06:08.559 --> 01:06:13.400
talking about just even with basic communication in it, there's
1332
01:06:13.440 --> 01:06:13.920
a there was.
1333
01:06:13.920 --> 01:06:16.719
Another on my mind, is one blank basic math?
1334
01:06:16.960 --> 01:06:19.840
No, well, well here's another better one where you can't
1335
01:06:19.880 --> 01:06:24.199
even use cursive. They just brought cursive back. Yes, almost
1336
01:06:24.400 --> 01:06:28.119
like you can't even sign a contract without doing it
1337
01:06:28.199 --> 01:06:29.000
in the signature.
1338
01:06:29.320 --> 01:06:31.920
Actually, have you guys seen the meme where this guy
1339
01:06:31.960 --> 01:06:33.920
like this dad center in front of this door, and
1340
01:06:34.039 --> 01:06:35.719
this goes with what we're talking about. He's got like
1341
01:06:35.840 --> 01:06:38.119
a cup of coffee and he said, the kids wanted
1342
01:06:38.159 --> 01:06:41.199
to do something. I said, I gave him an analog phone,
1343
01:06:41.639 --> 01:06:44.000
and I wrote directions and cursive on how to use
1344
01:06:44.039 --> 01:06:47.119
the analog phone, so on and so forth. And it's
1345
01:06:47.199 --> 01:06:49.559
been five hours since I've heard any noise from them.
1346
01:06:49.599 --> 01:06:51.760
They're still trying to figure it out. It's like, yeah, exactly,
1347
01:06:51.840 --> 01:06:55.760
it was like, you can't read, you can't write.
1348
01:06:56.079 --> 01:06:56.599
I don't know.
1349
01:06:58.079 --> 01:07:00.840
Yes, I had no idea man to learn. So my
1350
01:07:00.960 --> 01:07:05.599
daughter learned cursive in school and we were someplace and
1351
01:07:05.679 --> 01:07:07.840
somebody said, no, they don't teach it. Oh we were
1352
01:07:07.840 --> 01:07:09.440
at the gym, and I said, what I mean, they
1353
01:07:09.440 --> 01:07:11.639
don't teach your kids? How are they signing their name right?
1354
01:07:12.000 --> 01:07:12.159
Oh?
1355
01:07:12.280 --> 01:07:14.960
You can use Adobe, use a digital signature. You can
1356
01:07:15.079 --> 01:07:16.000
have it done in word.
1357
01:07:16.440 --> 01:07:17.159
Are you kidding?
1358
01:07:18.440 --> 01:07:20.960
I wrote so when before I came back to the
1359
01:07:21.119 --> 01:07:24.119
to the other side here, I wrote something to one
1360
01:07:24.159 --> 01:07:26.159
of one of our eas and I wrote it in
1361
01:07:26.239 --> 01:07:28.079
cursive because I was having a moment. I was like, oh,
1362
01:07:28.159 --> 01:07:29.639
let me see if I can still do it. And
1363
01:07:29.800 --> 01:07:31.519
I show it to her and she's like, what does
1364
01:07:31.559 --> 01:07:34.199
I say? How's are we talking about? I don't I
1365
01:07:34.719 --> 01:07:36.599
can't read that. I was like, don't you have a
1366
01:07:36.679 --> 01:07:41.599
college degree? She's like yeah. I was like, when did
1367
01:07:41.639 --> 01:07:43.199
you write cursive? She was like, I've never learned how
1368
01:07:43.199 --> 01:07:43.719
to write cursive.
1369
01:07:43.760 --> 01:07:45.000
I was like, I don't know.
1370
01:07:45.320 --> 01:07:51.159
What bothers me is that when machines go down started,
1371
01:07:51.199 --> 01:07:54.199
how are you going to be able to write properly?
1372
01:07:54.360 --> 01:07:56.800
A contract has to be done in a signature format
1373
01:07:56.880 --> 01:07:58.559
right now? Are people going to go I mean even
1374
01:07:58.599 --> 01:08:00.760
to this day, I have a hard time right printing
1375
01:08:00.920 --> 01:08:03.840
because I'm so used to writing in cursive, cursive, right,
1376
01:08:04.000 --> 01:08:05.679
and it's it's just natural for me to do this.
1377
01:08:05.880 --> 01:08:08.400
Go on, father, let's hear it. Bring it. I see you,
1378
01:08:09.239 --> 01:08:09.840
Come on father.
1379
01:08:11.159 --> 01:08:13.360
It's this is what's gonna happen when that when the
1380
01:08:13.480 --> 01:08:15.400
end of the world comes, there's no Internet and there's
1381
01:08:15.599 --> 01:08:16.439
the banks are done.
1382
01:08:16.319 --> 01:08:16.800
And stuff like that.
1383
01:08:17.439 --> 01:08:19.960
Is the cursive is not going to help you, right right,
1384
01:08:20.279 --> 01:08:24.600
it's gonna be you gonna put your risk, You're gonna
1385
01:08:24.600 --> 01:08:27.760
make that contract with blood that we're going back to
1386
01:08:27.840 --> 01:08:28.279
that time.
1387
01:08:28.520 --> 01:08:32.560
Well, so you and I have had this conversation and Jen.
1388
01:08:32.560 --> 01:08:35.640
Knows just like you've cut your risk to assign a
1389
01:08:35.680 --> 01:08:36.720
contract that I don't know about.
1390
01:08:37.159 --> 01:08:39.239
No, just with humor love you.
1391
01:08:43.279 --> 01:08:47.359
Yes, it is uh there there was a study done
1392
01:08:47.640 --> 01:08:52.840
by the Department of Now it's escaping me. But it
1393
01:08:52.920 --> 01:08:54.359
has to do it basically has to do with the
1394
01:08:54.439 --> 01:08:57.199
power going down as what it was worth. That of
1395
01:08:57.239 --> 01:09:02.000
our population will cease to exist because they can't do
1396
01:09:02.199 --> 01:09:05.439
simple things to survive, you know. And it goes back
1397
01:09:05.560 --> 01:09:10.600
like writing incursive, doing simple math, being able to give
1398
01:09:10.720 --> 01:09:13.960
somebody change without looking at the screen or the monitor
1399
01:09:14.000 --> 01:09:17.159
that says you must give five nickels and two pennies back,
1400
01:09:17.800 --> 01:09:20.760
or ten dimes and four nickels and one dime and
1401
01:09:20.880 --> 01:09:24.039
one penny back like that. That is people not being
1402
01:09:24.079 --> 01:09:24.520
able to do.
1403
01:09:24.680 --> 01:09:26.760
So it's funny that you just said that. I remember
1404
01:09:27.039 --> 01:09:29.800
in grade school where we had to cut out of
1405
01:09:30.000 --> 01:09:33.880
the handout right or you'd pop them out.
1406
01:09:35.119 --> 01:09:38.039
You'd have to make and so they don't do this
1407
01:09:38.359 --> 01:09:41.359
demonstrate that you knew how to do subtraction.
1408
01:09:41.840 --> 01:09:46.399
Why would they like nowadays, it's like that's all it is,
1409
01:09:47.239 --> 01:09:49.880
you know, but there has.
1410
01:09:49.840 --> 01:09:52.560
Been times where the internet will go down and you
1411
01:09:52.720 --> 01:09:53.319
go to the store.
1412
01:09:53.359 --> 01:09:55.119
People just can't not even the store.
1413
01:09:55.399 --> 01:09:57.039
Look what happens when the internet goes down.
1414
01:09:57.079 --> 01:10:00.399
In our office, they're like, the internet's down. It's like, okay,
1415
01:10:00.600 --> 01:10:05.600
calm down. It's like it will come back. The lights
1416
01:10:05.640 --> 01:10:07.920
are still on, so we're all still safe, like calm.
1417
01:10:08.439 --> 01:10:10.119
But if the lights went out, they'd be freaking out
1418
01:10:10.279 --> 01:10:12.640
and there's the apocalypse going on right now.
1419
01:10:12.800 --> 01:10:14.079
My lord, I gotta get home.
1420
01:10:14.800 --> 01:10:15.439
Yeah, I got like.
1421
01:10:17.880 --> 01:10:20.159
I do it. That's scary. It is so true that
1422
01:10:20.279 --> 01:10:25.119
people are so reliant on technology to help like it
1423
01:10:25.239 --> 01:10:28.359
does It blows my mind that I was at the
1424
01:10:28.399 --> 01:10:30.720
supermarket and I handed the woman cash, which I normally
1425
01:10:30.760 --> 01:10:31.520
don't carry cash.
1426
01:10:31.640 --> 01:10:32.159
I just don't.
1427
01:10:32.760 --> 01:10:34.560
And when she was giving me change, I'm like, oh,
1428
01:10:34.560 --> 01:10:38.199
you know what, let me give you three pennies. You
1429
01:10:38.279 --> 01:10:41.600
would have thought I just took her first born, that
1430
01:10:41.840 --> 01:10:44.319
I was going to slay some dragons, and that she
1431
01:10:44.560 --> 01:10:45.439
was being sacrificed.
1432
01:10:45.479 --> 01:10:49.119
I remember a time, and it's very rare that we
1433
01:10:49.199 --> 01:10:51.319
see this, and I got it. I'm the youngest one
1434
01:10:51.359 --> 01:10:53.239
on the table. But when you walked up to like
1435
01:10:53.319 --> 01:10:57.279
some counter and they had the little jar of pennies
1436
01:10:57.359 --> 01:10:59.560
where you sly went out, but the other lady is like,
1437
01:10:59.600 --> 01:11:02.159
you gotta dollar. It costs one cent. She's like, swipe
1438
01:11:02.199 --> 01:11:04.319
it off the top, put it in there. Okay, you're good, darling.
1439
01:11:04.439 --> 01:11:07.600
Like yeah, because you miss those.
1440
01:11:09.279 --> 01:11:11.279
So much easier because if they have to say, how
1441
01:11:11.319 --> 01:11:13.920
do I dish you out ninety nine? Yeah, god, it
1442
01:11:14.039 --> 01:11:14.880
would freaky.
1443
01:11:15.800 --> 01:11:18.960
It's like, I'm surprised they wouldn't put their penny jar
1444
01:11:19.119 --> 01:11:21.680
that they bring there to make life easier on themselves.
1445
01:11:22.720 --> 01:11:26.600
Yeah, it's we definitely in a different world, but people
1446
01:11:26.720 --> 01:11:28.560
just don't know how to use simple things.
1447
01:11:28.560 --> 01:11:28.920
Anymore.
1448
01:11:29.119 --> 01:11:31.119
And that's the reality. And and even just to think
1449
01:11:31.159 --> 01:11:34.439
about the basic of learning how to cook a meal.
1450
01:11:35.239 --> 01:11:37.760
We're in a generation of people who order.
1451
01:11:37.680 --> 01:11:43.119
Out market, you know, just don't know how to get
1452
01:11:43.399 --> 01:11:46.239
get up a cook and if they're cooking for a family,
1453
01:11:46.520 --> 01:11:48.520
it's hey, I'm going to give you every starchy thing
1454
01:11:48.560 --> 01:11:51.039
I can possibly think of, because that's or.
1455
01:11:51.159 --> 01:11:52.359
To have a box, or to have a.
1456
01:11:53.920 --> 01:11:54.039
Right.
1457
01:11:54.479 --> 01:11:58.039
It's just I think that comes from the instant gratification world.
1458
01:11:58.079 --> 01:12:04.399
That absolutely, and instant gratification is the the the foundation,
1459
01:12:04.520 --> 01:12:06.560
if you will, where we are in society day. Look,
1460
01:12:06.640 --> 01:12:09.359
you I want money, I'm not waiting for Monday zero
1461
01:12:09.439 --> 01:12:10.960
eight for to go to the bank. I'm going to
1462
01:12:11.000 --> 01:12:12.760
go to the ATM hoop my card in.
1463
01:12:14.479 --> 01:12:16.000
The better part of my bank.
1464
01:12:16.399 --> 01:12:18.319
So I'm feeding the economy.
1465
01:12:18.760 --> 01:12:18.880
Right.
1466
01:12:19.119 --> 01:12:20.920
Not only am I getting money out and I get
1467
01:12:21.000 --> 01:12:23.279
everything I want, but I'm paying four dollars to get to.
1468
01:12:23.319 --> 01:12:24.119
Do it exactly.
1469
01:12:24.239 --> 01:12:25.960
But there's even the other ones where they've come.
1470
01:12:25.960 --> 01:12:28.119
Out, like Chime or whatever they call them, where you
1471
01:12:28.239 --> 01:12:30.800
didn't even get paid. So because you don't have no
1472
01:12:30.920 --> 01:12:32.920
money before you get paid, you can get somebody to
1473
01:12:33.000 --> 01:12:35.399
give you money on a little credit card or debit
1474
01:12:35.479 --> 01:12:37.720
card ahead of time, five hundred dollars.
1475
01:12:38.479 --> 01:12:40.159
I mean all that is like we used to have
1476
01:12:40.199 --> 01:12:45.319
those back in the day. Check cash. Sorry, but now
1477
01:12:45.439 --> 01:12:49.159
that's the thing.
1478
01:12:49.439 --> 01:12:53.399
It's so difficult. Oh I we take checks? Actually did
1479
01:12:53.439 --> 01:12:54.279
you take check? Yeah?
1480
01:12:54.439 --> 01:12:57.159
Because my card wasn't working for some reason, I stopped
1481
01:12:57.279 --> 01:13:01.520
carrying all my cards with me, right right, and yeah,
1482
01:13:02.600 --> 01:13:05.600
I said, okay, you know I'm right now to check.
1483
01:13:05.720 --> 01:13:07.439
Oh, I can't take this check because it doesn't have
1484
01:13:07.520 --> 01:13:11.279
your address on it in your phone. Uh, you don't
1485
01:13:11.479 --> 01:13:15.159
like my address and phone. That's the stores policies. It's
1486
01:13:15.199 --> 01:13:17.039
got to have the address in the phone, so they know.
1487
01:13:17.239 --> 01:13:18.880
Most people don't know what a check is anymore of that,
1488
01:13:19.039 --> 01:13:20.560
or can't write it because they don't teach it.
1489
01:13:21.760 --> 01:13:25.159
So that was funny. We recently had our an arborist
1490
01:13:25.239 --> 01:13:27.399
come and work on our trees. They were trimming up
1491
01:13:27.399 --> 01:13:30.119
the holly bush. But it's a tree, it's huge. And
1492
01:13:30.359 --> 01:13:32.079
I said to the guy, can I write you a
1493
01:13:32.199 --> 01:13:33.680
check or do you want me to pay by credit card?
1494
01:13:33.760 --> 01:13:33.800
Like?
1495
01:13:33.880 --> 01:13:34.439
What works for you?
1496
01:13:34.560 --> 01:13:35.520
Because well, if you pay by.
1497
01:13:35.479 --> 01:13:38.279
Credit card, there's a four percent charge. I'm like, well
1498
01:13:38.279 --> 01:13:40.079
then I'll write you a damn check, right, Can I
1499
01:13:40.119 --> 01:13:42.039
go grab the check book and I'm writing out a
1500
01:13:42.199 --> 01:13:45.000
check and we don't write checks often enough, so there,
1501
01:13:45.319 --> 01:13:47.119
you know, it's in the same So first I got
1502
01:13:47.199 --> 01:13:49.479
to go and open the figure out which safe it's in. Okay,
1503
01:13:49.600 --> 01:13:51.520
it's in this safe. Let me get the check out.
1504
01:13:51.560 --> 01:13:52.359
I'm writing it out.
1505
01:13:52.439 --> 01:13:54.520
The reason is we have quite a few.
1506
01:13:57.239 --> 01:13:59.079
And so then I go to hand the guy in
1507
01:13:59.119 --> 01:14:01.720
the check and he's reading it and I'm looking at
1508
01:14:01.800 --> 01:14:03.319
him like he can't read what the hell I wrote.
1509
01:14:03.880 --> 01:14:04.640
He goes, oh, okay.
1510
01:14:04.800 --> 01:14:09.359
I'm like, you have no idea what this is. And
1511
01:14:09.439 --> 01:14:10.760
I asked him, I said, do you want me to
1512
01:14:10.880 --> 01:14:14.119
change the memo to something else because I put the
1513
01:14:15.479 --> 01:14:17.159
well bush they did because they're gonna be coming back
1514
01:14:17.159 --> 01:14:18.760
and doing other work. And he's like, no, I'm sure
1515
01:14:18.760 --> 01:14:20.760
it's fine. Yeah, they gotta put that treatment in.
1516
01:14:21.000 --> 01:14:21.800
Okay, that's right.
1517
01:14:22.159 --> 01:14:24.800
Yeah, But it's just sad the world that the basic
1518
01:14:24.920 --> 01:14:27.680
everyday things is that he used to survive. Nope, people
1519
01:14:27.840 --> 01:14:31.279
no longer know how to utilize those items. So when
1520
01:14:31.359 --> 01:14:33.319
we talk about it, it's just it looks like you said,
1521
01:14:33.319 --> 01:14:34.239
look at you like you're crazy.
1522
01:14:34.279 --> 01:14:36.600
You got to check who uses checks anymore?
1523
01:14:37.079 --> 01:14:39.920
And you know that's that's that's funny that it's funny
1524
01:14:39.960 --> 01:14:44.680
that you use the word survive, right, And a lot
1525
01:14:44.760 --> 01:14:47.119
of people who don't know this is like if you
1526
01:14:49.079 --> 01:14:52.119
YouTube is crazy and all these platforms are just crazy
1527
01:14:52.239 --> 01:14:55.720
because we you can go in there and learn how
1528
01:14:55.760 --> 01:14:58.680
to do anything as long as you do like you know,
1529
01:14:58.840 --> 01:14:59.479
some of us.
1530
01:15:03.439 --> 01:15:10.840
You go, sorry, the members of this podcast, it has.
1531
01:15:10.840 --> 01:15:15.720
To take a bio break. But but it's like you
1532
01:15:15.840 --> 01:15:18.520
can learn how to do anything on YouTube or whatever
1533
01:15:18.560 --> 01:15:20.720
platform you want to do. But it's a matter of
1534
01:15:20.800 --> 01:15:22.800
like people applying it. Like, so one thing that we
1535
01:15:22.920 --> 01:15:27.520
do in our house is we use the culinary background
1536
01:15:27.720 --> 01:15:31.920
of me and we do a lot of canny and preserving.
1537
01:15:32.359 --> 01:15:36.560
And I tell people that it's like, really, you're afraid
1538
01:15:36.600 --> 01:15:39.000
something's gonna happen, something's going to go wrong. It's like, well,
1539
01:15:39.119 --> 01:15:41.520
first of all, yeah, but the second thing is it's like,
1540
01:15:42.159 --> 01:15:47.159
but I can grow and hunt and fish for whatever
1541
01:15:47.239 --> 01:15:48.800
I want. I can store it. And it's like I
1542
01:15:48.880 --> 01:15:51.560
don't have to go to the store. My store is downstairs,
1543
01:15:51.680 --> 01:15:53.760
Like you know, I'm not running out to get all
1544
01:15:53.840 --> 01:15:55.840
the toilet paper to eat the bread and everything like that,
1545
01:15:56.039 --> 01:15:58.800
because my god there's a windstorm or something like that.
1546
01:15:59.039 --> 01:16:01.279
You know, so right, And that's the other things funny
1547
01:16:01.319 --> 01:16:03.359
when people you know we're gonna get a little bad,
1548
01:16:03.359 --> 01:16:05.880
whether don't you ever stock up anything.
1549
01:16:06.199 --> 01:16:08.399
No, we're just gonna go out there and buy everything
1550
01:16:08.640 --> 01:16:09.279
all at once.
1551
01:16:09.960 --> 01:16:12.840
She won't let me go to cost you get to
1552
01:16:14.560 --> 01:16:17.279
but but you can never have enough toilet paper and
1553
01:16:17.359 --> 01:16:20.119
scott towels. Never have enough napkins.
1554
01:16:20.159 --> 01:16:21.680
You know why because if you run on the toilet
1555
01:16:21.720 --> 01:16:22.319
plut because.
1556
01:16:22.159 --> 01:16:26.079
Use napkins, put napkins for what napkins for napkins and
1557
01:16:26.479 --> 01:16:27.119
gets that bad.
1558
01:16:27.239 --> 01:16:28.920
We have the towels in the house.
1559
01:16:29.359 --> 01:16:31.319
So we've been we've been doing this for a little
1560
01:16:31.479 --> 01:16:33.199
very long time where we've done a lot of things
1561
01:16:33.239 --> 01:16:35.159
that cut stuff out of our budget. It's like we
1562
01:16:35.239 --> 01:16:41.039
haven't bought napkins and almost god six years now, seven years.
1563
01:16:41.520 --> 01:16:44.439
I haven't bought a roll of paper towels since then.
1564
01:16:44.479 --> 01:16:45.680
We use regular towels.
1565
01:16:45.479 --> 01:16:46.159
And just wash them.
1566
01:16:47.640 --> 01:16:50.640
Yeah, just things like that, and it's just like, well,
1567
01:16:50.840 --> 01:16:53.560
you know, you're trying to help yourself. I mean, you
1568
01:16:53.640 --> 01:16:55.119
get close enough to the mic though here you chew
1569
01:16:55.159 --> 01:16:55.640
on the cookie.
1570
01:16:56.159 --> 01:16:56.279
Uh.
1571
01:16:59.800 --> 01:17:02.520
But like this topic is a topic that's very near
1572
01:17:02.560 --> 01:17:05.119
and dear tomorrow, because I really think that with the
1573
01:17:05.279 --> 01:17:07.560
whole you know, learning curse of people need to get
1574
01:17:07.600 --> 01:17:10.600
back to basics. Like even if it's just you know,
1575
01:17:11.880 --> 01:17:14.439
you pick once every two weeks to maybe go out
1576
01:17:14.479 --> 01:17:18.319
and have a dinner. Is great, but you gotta pick nowadays,
1577
01:17:18.359 --> 01:17:19.680
you gotta pick that one place you want to have
1578
01:17:19.760 --> 01:17:22.560
a nice dinner, not like we're gonna just run over
1579
01:17:22.640 --> 01:17:25.239
here to burg here McDonald's and grass to take it home, like, hey,
1580
01:17:25.279 --> 01:17:28.479
that's dinner, Like that's just even.
1581
01:17:29.800 --> 01:17:33.199
People afford it well, and that's oh them. Don't get
1582
01:17:33.239 --> 01:17:36.520
me on the topic of forty Oh I'm too broke.
1583
01:17:36.600 --> 01:17:38.359
We can't you know, we need this, we need that.
1584
01:17:38.680 --> 01:17:40.319
Okay, Well, if you can afford to go out to
1585
01:17:40.359 --> 01:17:42.000
eat every day, or you can want to go and
1586
01:17:42.119 --> 01:17:47.359
spend ten thousand dollars for a concert ticket, your priorities
1587
01:17:47.479 --> 01:17:48.000
is the problem.
1588
01:17:48.039 --> 01:17:50.159
It's not because you don't have no damn money, it's
1589
01:17:50.239 --> 01:17:53.399
your priorities. Oh, I'm surprised.
1590
01:17:53.600 --> 01:17:55.800
There's a lot of people who will won't even pay
1591
01:17:55.840 --> 01:17:58.680
their bills and will spend five to ten thousand dollars
1592
01:17:58.720 --> 01:18:02.439
and a lot of these artists charging tickets.
1593
01:18:02.760 --> 01:18:05.199
So the other day my son sends me, you know,
1594
01:18:05.279 --> 01:18:08.600
Lincoln Parks back on tour, which is great my favorite bands, right,
1595
01:18:08.920 --> 01:18:09.479
so I'm.
1596
01:18:09.319 --> 01:18:11.880
Looking to all the all the venues, right, I said,
1597
01:18:11.880 --> 01:18:14.119
I adn't paying five hundred dollars to sit up in
1598
01:18:14.760 --> 01:18:18.239
those bleed sections. I'll just go put on the new album.
1599
01:18:18.319 --> 01:18:19.239
That's right.
1600
01:18:19.359 --> 01:18:24.760
But there are people in the Lincoln Park the club
1601
01:18:25.479 --> 01:18:30.399
that's right at the center stage. Eight thousand dollars. Yes,
1602
01:18:31.039 --> 01:18:31.920
But that's my point.
1603
01:18:32.199 --> 01:18:34.520
So when people talk about they don't have no money, no,
1604
01:18:34.640 --> 01:18:38.520
you have money, but your priorities are going to be
1605
01:18:38.840 --> 01:18:43.399
the issue, you know, So those those are the things
1606
01:18:43.439 --> 01:18:47.720
that that be the wrong way when when we live. Yeah, yeah,
1607
01:18:47.840 --> 01:18:49.920
people talk about this we don't have enough money for
1608
01:18:50.079 --> 01:18:50.680
We have enough money.
1609
01:18:50.720 --> 01:18:52.279
But you got by the most expensive shoes.
1610
01:18:52.319 --> 01:18:56.319
You got cell phones every year to two years? Why
1611
01:18:56.399 --> 01:18:57.880
do you need new cell phone every year?
1612
01:18:58.159 --> 01:18:59.199
Feed the economy eight?
1613
01:19:00.079 --> 01:19:01.760
But it took her almost a year and a half
1614
01:19:01.800 --> 01:19:03.600
for me to get me get a new cell phone.
1615
01:19:03.640 --> 01:19:04.920
I was like, what do you need your cell phone?
1616
01:19:05.079 --> 01:19:08.479
It still works? What's the reason that I need.
1617
01:19:10.159 --> 01:19:15.359
Because it wasn't five gay, I don't care, but how
1618
01:19:15.399 --> 01:19:17.039
long did we have our other phones?
1619
01:19:17.399 --> 01:19:19.640
Seven years? Okay, yeah, so come on now.
1620
01:19:19.760 --> 01:19:22.239
Yeah, like I was just like you.
1621
01:19:25.560 --> 01:19:28.720
Nothing, I mean it, I can Okay, no, I'll take
1622
01:19:28.760 --> 01:19:29.960
that back. I'll take that back.
1623
01:19:30.199 --> 01:19:32.159
I will tell you because that five G was allowing
1624
01:19:32.199 --> 01:19:33.720
me to contact you when you were in the woods.
1625
01:19:33.920 --> 01:19:35.479
Yes, when I go out to the woods and my
1626
01:19:35.560 --> 01:19:36.800
dear stand have.
1627
01:19:36.840 --> 01:19:43.000
Those new radios over the place?
1628
01:19:43.319 --> 01:19:46.720
Illegal, different thing, different thing for hunting. You can't do that,
1629
01:19:47.399 --> 01:19:49.760
like I can message my wife, but well that's a
1630
01:19:49.760 --> 01:19:50.319
different Yeah.
1631
01:19:54.199 --> 01:19:56.359
I want to know because it's so cool.
1632
01:19:59.159 --> 01:20:01.439
Guys over your all the things that we don't need
1633
01:20:01.479 --> 01:20:02.399
to worry about right now.
1634
01:20:02.439 --> 01:20:07.760
But anyway, let me say this, I know, but nothing.
1635
01:20:07.880 --> 01:20:08.359
You're kicking.
1636
01:20:10.079 --> 01:20:12.560
You know you're kicking if I wanted to kick you
1637
01:20:12.640 --> 01:20:13.239
know you're kicking.
1638
01:20:13.520 --> 01:20:14.479
Op.
1639
01:20:15.239 --> 01:20:16.600
What I was gonna say it is like for the
1640
01:20:16.640 --> 01:20:18.039
first one, I think it has been pretty fun.
1641
01:20:18.359 --> 01:20:19.600
Absolutely like this.
1642
01:20:20.680 --> 01:20:24.079
I think that's like at the table, Yeah exactly, it's
1643
01:20:24.159 --> 01:20:26.680
just O, god, can you imagine some of the people
1644
01:20:26.720 --> 01:20:28.840
around us, like what are they talking about?
1645
01:20:28.920 --> 01:20:31.239
Oh my god, they're so offensive.
1646
01:20:34.239 --> 01:20:36.760
Well I said, take this and do it in different
1647
01:20:36.840 --> 01:20:40.000
environments and you know, have more conversations, have more fun.
1648
01:20:40.439 --> 01:20:43.520
We can invite other people to the conversation as well. God,
1649
01:20:43.760 --> 01:20:46.359
you know we will eventually go back to doing live
1650
01:20:46.520 --> 01:20:49.960
live again. But yeah, I mean this has been.
1651
01:20:50.800 --> 01:20:53.319
So much fun, so much No, yeah, absolutely, thank you.
1652
01:20:53.359 --> 01:20:54.079
For inviting us.
1653
01:20:54.159 --> 01:20:56.279
Absolutely, I'm just glad that you guys are willing to
1654
01:20:56.359 --> 01:20:59.199
jump in, and especially because, like you said earlier, this
1655
01:20:59.319 --> 01:21:02.479
is not his thing, but he has something very.
1656
01:21:04.039 --> 01:21:06.840
Absolutely, if I don't.
1657
01:21:06.760 --> 01:21:14.760
Like not talking to you, for our future guests on
1658
01:21:14.840 --> 01:21:18.920
this podcast, if you're not getting any comments from Father Peccie,
1659
01:21:19.000 --> 01:21:21.319
you're not getting any comments from Father Phi.
1660
01:21:22.079 --> 01:21:22.479
That's right.
1661
01:21:23.680 --> 01:21:26.159
She's to take care of take care of all of y'all.
1662
01:21:27.560 --> 01:21:30.399
Great advice. You know, that was father Rabbi passion.
1663
01:21:33.079 --> 01:21:35.399
You know we're gonna get some comments on that one, absolute,
1664
01:21:36.359 --> 01:21:36.800
But that's.
1665
01:21:36.680 --> 01:21:38.920
What we're here for, is to have some comments there.
1666
01:21:39.199 --> 01:21:42.359
But before we close out, does anybody have any last
1667
01:21:42.399 --> 01:21:45.880
words to go around the room go for I'll.
1668
01:21:45.800 --> 01:21:49.800
Let her says none. Spot.
1669
01:21:50.399 --> 01:21:53.720
I mean, I appreciate that and all. No, this was great,
1670
01:21:53.800 --> 01:21:55.479
This was fun. I always love them the four of
1671
01:21:55.560 --> 01:21:58.840
us get together. It's a good time and definitely looking
1672
01:21:58.880 --> 01:22:02.039
forward to us. Some more uncuffed conversations reveal some more
1673
01:22:02.079 --> 01:22:04.640
stuff about life and the pursuit of happiness.
1674
01:22:05.199 --> 01:22:11.960
Right, Oh, no, I mean I think I said I
1675
01:22:12.039 --> 01:22:15.319
think I think I said. I think this was I
1676
01:22:15.399 --> 01:22:17.399
just want to make sure. Well, no, my notes said
1677
01:22:18.000 --> 01:22:19.920
the first one was the chem I said, this is good,
1678
01:22:19.960 --> 01:22:23.399
don't stop at an hour. Then I got got a
1679
01:22:23.520 --> 01:22:26.000
pee with a smiley face, and then I know, I
1680
01:22:26.159 --> 01:22:29.359
know how Kim is like very time oriented. So it's like,
1681
01:22:29.399 --> 01:22:31.239
I just want to make sure we don't go like
1682
01:22:31.520 --> 01:22:35.319
five six hours, which were probably gonna do the way. Yeah,
1683
01:22:35.439 --> 01:22:38.199
so that was I wrote something else of evening. I
1684
01:22:38.199 --> 01:22:40.960
don't know why I wrote eve, I don't know. That's
1685
01:22:41.000 --> 01:22:42.359
all I got im good, all right.
1686
01:22:44.039 --> 01:22:45.399
The only thing I really wanted to say is we
1687
01:22:45.479 --> 01:22:47.319
talked about a lot of things. But the most important
1688
01:22:47.319 --> 01:22:50.000
thing that I wrote down something for is time is valuable.
1689
01:22:50.479 --> 01:22:53.520
It's something you can never ever get back once you
1690
01:22:53.640 --> 01:22:56.800
waste it. Don't waste time on things that you feel
1691
01:22:56.840 --> 01:23:01.359
are important. Just waste it for the things that are
1692
01:23:01.479 --> 01:23:03.439
important family, friends, and relationships.
1693
01:23:03.439 --> 01:23:06.000
Amen, And that's preach father.
1694
01:23:07.560 --> 01:23:08.119
That was good.
1695
01:23:10.399 --> 01:23:13.199
Wrote that down. You would not be able to do
1696
01:23:13.279 --> 01:23:13.720
that twice.
1697
01:23:15.199 --> 01:23:16.319
Oh, that was great.
1698
01:23:17.000 --> 01:23:19.039
You might want to keep that for a future podcast
1699
01:23:19.640 --> 01:23:22.520
to like literally keep that you know whenever that that
1700
01:23:22.680 --> 01:23:23.159
was really good.
1701
01:23:23.520 --> 01:23:26.680
I didn't do the when I do the mask, I'll
1702
01:23:26.840 --> 01:23:27.079
do it.
1703
01:23:29.000 --> 01:23:30.239
When I start hanging out.
1704
01:23:30.279 --> 01:23:35.920
In the middle of the podcast, Kim and I are
1705
01:23:35.920 --> 01:23:38.520
looking at each other like there is a flipping ghosts.
1706
01:23:40.520 --> 01:23:42.199
I was like, Father brought him back to life.
1707
01:23:43.239 --> 01:23:45.279
The ghost is in that penguin behind that. I just
1708
01:23:45.319 --> 01:23:46.239
want you to know that it.
1709
01:23:46.319 --> 01:23:49.319
Stares out out right there looking at you.
1710
01:23:50.119 --> 01:23:50.960
Well, now it's creepy.
1711
01:23:51.079 --> 01:23:59.920
That thanks guys. O my god, Okay, that's great, that's great.
1712
01:24:00.640 --> 01:24:01.319
Oh my gosh.
1713
01:24:01.399 --> 01:24:05.520
Anyway to get back to the show. All right, So again,
1714
01:24:05.720 --> 01:24:07.800
I really truly thank you all for hanging out with me.
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And like I said, we are back.
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I am back.
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I got this amazing crew with me. We will like
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to have more guests. We will be back on Thursdays.
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We're gonna start out slow, you guys, so I know
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you're used to me bringing it out every Thursday a
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new podcast episode or a live episode.
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We're coming out slow, but we will still be here monthly.
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If of course, if you would like to be a
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guest on the show and you want to reveal something,
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you can reach out to me at Kimberly at WSB
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i LC at gmail dot com and of.
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Course if you want more of your resource for success
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or unveiled podcast shows.
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We do take monetary donations to support the podcast, and
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we accept that either through cash app.
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I will have the information so you can see it online,
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so I'm not gonna read everything out.
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We do have PayPal, good pods, tip jar, or you
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can just go directly to the website at wwwwsbi LC
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dot com. Again, thank you all for listening to us tonight.
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We would be back next month. We may have some
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more guests, but if not, you will have the same host.
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Just be prepared.
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Make sure you follow us on Ironheart Radio or wherever
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you listen to your podcast. But the until then, enjoy
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the rest.
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Of your night.
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You can have a good evening.
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Lateral Bye bye,