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Hello hello and welcome back to Working Hard. Now as
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I mentioned in Monday's episode this Saturday is August the
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8th which is the Lionsgate portal and last year I
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did a bonus episode all about exactly how to do
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it like point by point so that you can get
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the most out of it so I thought I would
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pop it out this year right on time so we
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can all do it together and I will leave it
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to pass me to explain it all for you. What
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is up? I'm Grace Beverly and welcome back to Working Hard,
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the podcast-shaped guidebook on how to improve your own life
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and achieve what you actually dreamed of doing. Because life's
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too short for boring podcasts and bad advice. What is
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up guys and welcome back to Working Hard. It's time
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for another Thursday bonus episode and I really hope you're
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listening to this on the day it goes live because
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this is actually very very relevant to today's episode. So
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if you subscribe to the Working Hard newsletter you'll have
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heard me speak about this but today we are getting
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into the one exercise that I do every year that
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has truly changed my life. Both how I set goals
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but also how I reach goals I would say. So
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let's get into it. Because this is important, and you
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need to clear some time in your diary to do
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it on August 8th. So, first things first, I want
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to start by saying that I do not generally identify
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as woo-woo, and I've said this a lot on the
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podcast before, and I don't mean to say that in
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any way to discount different things that different people believe in,
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I think it's just important context when looking at how
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I approach something like this, so... I'm generally not a
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super spiritual person. I don't know, I typically haven't responded
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like that well to manifesting type content in the past.
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I'm definitely quite a big realist. And I think that
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manifesting is hugely, hugely helpful. But I think the type
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of manifesting that is hugely helpful is manifesting that is
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backed by you actually taking action and putting yourself in
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the right headspace to be taking the right action, et cetera,
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et cetera. Like I do not believe in a type
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of manifesting that's just like, wishing on a star. So
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all that is to say that this episode is going
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to mention like portals and manifesting. As I said, I'm
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just like not someone who's naturally believed in manifesting in
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terms of what I actually thought it was. And then
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this is actually what I first tried that I didn't
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really realize was a form of manifestation. and got me
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into what I now know is actually manifestation, which I
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don't do that regularly, but I do do this every
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single year. And I do believe, I don't know, if
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you listen to our Roxy Nafusi episodes, particularly the one
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from January this year, I do think so much of
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that is so like process-based and incredibly helpful just in
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terms of exercises. Like whether you are spiritual or aren't,
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or whether you're just a goal setter, like it's just
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great goal setting. And it's generally really, really useful exercises
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that just help you understand what your goals are and
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help you understand whether you are even in the position
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to be having those goals. So if you are also
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a manifesting skeptic, bear with me. I promise you this
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will be worth it. And if you already know that
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manifesting works for you, then you're not going to be
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doubting this at all. But I do want to say
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that because I do think that it's important to hear
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the context that I come into this with so that
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you can decide what serves you, what doesn't serve you, etc, etc.
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So let me start dancing around it and I will
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tell you what I actually do. To set the scene,
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I feel like we need fairytale music here. According to astrology,
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August 8th is the date of the opening of the
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Lions Gate portal. As I said, please bear with me here.
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This is basically an astrological event where the star Sirius
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aligns with Earth and Orion's belt, and this is all
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from me doing the Googles. This is not essential to
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this task, and I don't just know this off the
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top of my head, but this is the context, this
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is what's happening. If you're someone who's into manifesting and astrology,
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you'll know that means that it's basically the most powerful
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day for harnessing your dreams in the calendar. I'm probably
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not explaining it correctly as I'm not clued up on
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astrology at all, but what I'm getting from this is
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that if you're going to manifest for one day of
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the year, August 8th seems to be the day to
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do it. That being said, I think this is an
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incredibly helpful exercise to do at any time. I just
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know that on August 8th, two years ago, maybe even
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three years ago, I did this and every single thing
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in it came true. And I think for me, I
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would put that down to the fact that I actually
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spent time really thinking of what I wanted to achieve
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in that time and what I wanted my life to
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be like. And that actually made me wake up in
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a lot of ways in terms of, okay, well, what
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do you actually need to do to get there? So
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as I said, every year on August the 8th, for
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the last three years, I'm pretty sure I've done the
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exact same thing. It was recommended to me on TikTok,
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like most things, unfortunately, to be honest. I would love
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to sound more intellectual, but I'm just a girl. and
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I genuinely think it has given me so much clarity
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on what I want in life. So this is what's happening.
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This is the process. This is the task. I open
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up my notes page or a page of my planner.
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I actually much prefer to do this handwritten. It's harder
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to find the next year. I literally need to root
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mine out today, but I do think it's a really
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great exercise. But then what I do is I write
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a diary entry for August 8th next year. So August 8th, 2026.
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I will write that in the present tense. So as
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if it is already happening. You kind of need to
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get into the details. So like where you're waking up,
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who you're waking up next to. You might go into
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what you're eating, where you're working. What does your day
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look like? What's your work day look like? How do
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you feel during the day? Who are you seeing after work?
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Are you going to the gym? Where are you going
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to bed? And I do some of those things to
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set the scene. But then what I really go into
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is I set out a few different categories. and I
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make sure I talk about them. I'll probably do a
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paragraph on each of them. So one paragraph on finances,
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one paragraph on my house and where I'm living, one
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paragraph on my job and what it looks like and
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how it feels like and what my title is how
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much I'm earning like any big milestones that I've reached
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in the past year I'll literally say like oh my
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god I can't believe that blah blah came on the
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podcast and things like so happy about the fact that
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I earned blah blah last month or whatever it might
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be like it's all in the present tense and it's
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all these essential things I'll also do a paragraph on
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my relationship I'll do a paragraph on my friendships I'll
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do a paragraph on things that are important to me
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it's all in the present tense and it needs to
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represent how you would actually write a diary entry but
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it's almost like you could also see it as like
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a letter that you're writing someone about your life because
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it's not just today this happened it's writing in detail
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about things like finances relationships work ambition how I'm generally
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feeling like I think a lot of my last year
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and I said I need to root it out again
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but I think a lot of my last year was
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about feeling and like how I was feeling at work
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and how much more headspace I had and how much
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less stressed I was and how much more sure of
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myself I was and all of those things writing that
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in the present tense when I wasn't feeling that at
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all really put me into the headspace when I was
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like oh this is clearly one of my biggest desires
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at the moment that I probably wouldn't have pinpointed otherwise
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I will say mine is usually a good few pages
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long you could do it a lot quicker you could
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even bullet point it if you want to but I
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do think like I get the most out of it
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when doing it for a good few pages as if
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I was writing like a long letter about my own
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life to someone but that is basically it that's all
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I do and it might sound simple but I don't
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know why when I first saw the TikTok that suggested
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doing it all those years ago it was actually three
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years ago I can remember now actually I know it
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was three years ago because I'd already been on a
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first date with my fiance he lived in New York
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at the time so it was about two months before
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that I'd been on a first date so I didn't
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in my head know like oh this is going to
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be a serious relationship but I wrote this whole diary
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entry essentially for the year after and it talked about
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my relationship and the things that were important to us
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and the interactions that we had and what we kind
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of talked about and what we wanted for our future
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and all of those things and I also talked so
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much about my finances and specific amounts I was earning
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and specific jobs I was doing and specific people that
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were coming on the podcast and all of these different
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things that were my goals pretty much every single thing
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came true that was in that diary entry and I
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don't think I would have even pinpointed many of the
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things that I would have wanted to change. As I said,
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last year's one, I spoke a lot about how I
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wanted my life to feel in a way that I
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don't think at the time I could have told you
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that it was feeling so bad. Whereas actually now I
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know that I was so far from the type of
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life I wanted to be living. Yes, I was earning
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well and I was kind of happy and a lot
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of things to do with work. but I really wasn't
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happy with how my days were feeling and how burnt
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out I was constantly feeling and how stretched to within
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an inch of my life I was constantly feeling. And
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I don't think I would have noticed half of those
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things had I not actually done this exercise. But I
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guess the reason why this practice is so special to
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me is because it couldn't be further from the type
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of manifesting that I don't typically find works for me.
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I don't love the idea of like manifesting a million
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pounds without doing anything to get you there, but also
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without outlining what your life looks like to even get
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you into that position. Like manifesting a million pounds, it's like, okay,
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what about manifesting the type of work, the type of
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business that you're going to do to get there, the
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type of lifestyle you're going to live, the type of
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discipline you're going to have, all of these different things.
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Like what does your routine look like? All of these
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different things that we often forget to put in and
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we're just concentrated on the end goal. This exercise really
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makes you think of the journey because I think you
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would start to put some things in there or I
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definitely start to put some things in there and then
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I realise I can't have all of these things at once.
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So I start prioritising and it starts allowing me to
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see what type of life I actually want do want
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and how I'm going to get there. And writing in
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the present tense as a diary entry really forces you
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to make connections between this life that you live right
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now and what you want it to look like in
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a year. I think a lot of people, when you
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start to write this diary entry, you'll start to realise, actually,
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this day I'm writing out is so different from the
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type of day I'm living now. So it starts to contextualise, okay, well,
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these are all the things that I need to change
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to get me even close to doing what I want
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to do. And I think it helps you to not
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lose sight of what's actually possible, but within the confines
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of your responsibilities and your dependencies. Like you're not going
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to be writing this whole diary entry and it's just like, well,
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try not to write this diary entry in a way
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that's like years and years different from your current lifestyle. Yes,
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dream big. But what do you actually think you can
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achieve in a year? And it can be a lot
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like a lot of it was more stuff than I
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possibly thought I could. But it wasn't, oh, I want
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to suddenly have 10 properties and I want to do this,
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this and this because it just it's not feasible. It's
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not where I am. It's not what I'm concentrating on.
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I can't do that. And also. enjoy the nice holidays
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I want to enjoy and enjoy I don't know whatever
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it might be it really forces you to be specific
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about what you want and you might have a dream
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like I want to work in London on a salary
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that feels comfortable and I can live in my own
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apartment but being so specific in the Okay, well, what
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industry are you likely to work in that's going to
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if you want to be living on your own? All
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of these different things. Or you might think, like, I
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diary entry of you actually doing the training or working
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the type of life you want to build. And it
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really helps to contextualize and be a bit more realistic,
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what you want in the future, because I think many people,
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when they manifest, what they're doing is picking a number.
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science fiction called a future history, and it creates this
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picture of the future that is so vivid. that it's
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as if the author has been there and witnessed it
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and is telling you about what they saw. So it's
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not thin. It's not just there is a pill, there
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is a flying car.
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of what their life is, then they can work backwards
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To your point, what are the things around me right
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now that aren't helping me get there? But also what
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just explained it in a far better way than I had.
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because actually the only form of manifestation that I do
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It's writing a current diary entry or a diary entry
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in the present, but for the future. So say it
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would be today, it would be the 2nd of February, 2025,
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and I'd be writing about my current life, my current achievements,
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my current situation. And what that always highlights to me
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is actually that can't happen because then all of these
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things would have to happen. And actually those things are
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things that I don't want, which I think is a
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really helpful tool in kind of being able to take
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away the idealization of what you want and actually being
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able to realize, okay, as you say, like brilliance comes
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with being mundane and brilliance comes with like monotony and
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needing to be really kind of repetitive in a number
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of things. And actually then if I looked at my
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next year and thinking, I actually don't want to do
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that every single day to me, that's always been so
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helpful or a professional bio a year in the future.
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I often do that. So it's kind of like, you know,
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Grace Beverly has done this, this and this. She's, you know,
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well known for doing this and I'll do that for
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like five years in the future. That to me is
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one of the most powerful things, not necessarily the, of manifestation,
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but of kind of, I don't know, placing yourself in
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the future and allowing yourself to kind of not just
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reverse engineer what that would have to look like. Like,
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could I do these 20 things? No, but I could
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probably do these three.
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Yes. It's also a reward, right? The idea that your
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buyer will be not flattering, but certainly will be more
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than who you are now. So there's a way of,
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you're going to do all this hard work to do
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something incredibly difficult. So you might as well reward yourself
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by at least giving yourself that wonderfully vivid picture of
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what it's like so that you can kind of bask
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in the enjoyment of it while you know what you're
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in for to get there. Some slog, some boredom, some challenge,
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some conflict. But you can still see this picture. You
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see this a lot with people. They fail because their
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image of what they want for the future is either
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wildly unrealistic, as in it's not really even science fiction.
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hold of because it's a number. I want to make
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a million pounds. I want to, I don't know, there's
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a postcode you want to live in and it's just
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not enough to drag you through the tough stuff that
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you need to do to get there.
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to be more of a micro look at things as well.
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Like here are the five things that would actually even
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get to that point rather than just like wishing on
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a star with that.
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When your mind is sore from your efforts and you are,
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trying to get off to sleep, you need more than
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just a cold number to grant you a bit of recuperation.
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You need to close your eyes and see that image
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of the future, that five year from now bio. I
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love that idea. You need that. Otherwise, it's just too
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hard a slog for many people.
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I feel like he explains it so clearly and it
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just shows how much of this is backed by science.
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It's basically just effective goal setting. with some fierce contextualization
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that is so important for getting you to actually not
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just dream big, but dream contextually and correctly in a
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way that you can then make actionable steps to actually
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get there. But that is it. I'm taking a risk
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releasing this on the 7th of August when some of
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you might miss it. So if you're listening to this
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episode in the first couple of days of release, send
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it to your friends. I feel like I'm a one
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woman PR team for the 8th of August at this point, but...
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I just think it made such a big difference to
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my life as someone who these things don't often make
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that big a difference. Like I'm always goal setting. So
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I wouldn't have expected you could change my view on
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goal setting so late into my life, she says as
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an old woman. But genuinely, I'm pretty stuck in my
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ways when it comes to planning and goal setting. And
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this has actually changed a lot for me. So I'm
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hoping it could do the same for you and your friends.
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I will see you for another episode on Monday.
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Hello hello and welcome back to Working Hard. Now as
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I mentioned in Monday's episode this Saturday is August the
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8th which is the Lionsgate portal and last year I
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did a bonus episode all about exactly how to do
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it like point by point so that you can get
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the most out of it so I thought I would
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pop it out this year right on time so we
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can all do it together and I will leave it
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to pass me to explain it all for you. What
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is up? I'm Grace Beverly and welcome back to Working Hard,
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the podcast-shaped guidebook on how to improve your own life
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and achieve what you actually dreamed of doing. Because life's
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too short for boring podcasts and bad advice. What is
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up guys and welcome back to Working Hard. It's time
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for another Thursday bonus episode and I really hope you're
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listening to this on the day it goes live because
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this is actually very very relevant to today's episode. So
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if you subscribe to the Working Hard newsletter you'll have
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heard me speak about this but today we are getting
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into the one exercise that I do every year that
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has truly changed my life. Both how I set goals
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but also how I reach goals I would say. So
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let's get into it. Because this is important, and you
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need to clear some time in your diary to do
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it on August 8th. So, first things first, I want
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to start by saying that I do not generally identify
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as woo-woo, and I've said this a lot on the
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podcast before, and I don't mean to say that in
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any way to discount different things that different people believe in,
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super spiritual person. I don't know, I typically haven't responded
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like that well to manifesting type content in the past.
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I'm definitely quite a big realist. And I think that
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manifesting is hugely, hugely helpful. But I think the type
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of manifesting that is hugely helpful is manifesting that is
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backed by you actually taking action and putting yourself in
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the right headspace to be taking the right action, et cetera,
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et cetera. Like I do not believe in a type
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of manifesting that's just like, wishing on a star. So
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all that is to say that this episode is going
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to mention like portals and manifesting. As I said, I'm
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just like not someone who's naturally believed in manifesting in
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terms of what I actually thought it was. And then
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this is actually what I first tried that I didn't
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really realize was a form of manifestation. and got me
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into what I now know is actually manifestation, which I
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don't do that regularly, but I do do this every
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single year. And I do believe, I don't know, if
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you listen to our Roxy Nafusi episodes, particularly the one
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that is so like process-based and incredibly helpful just in
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terms of exercises. Like whether you are spiritual or aren't,
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great goal setting. And it's generally really, really useful exercises
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that just help you understand what your goals are and
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help you understand whether you are even in the position
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to be having those goals. So if you are also
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a manifesting skeptic, bear with me. I promise you this
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manifesting works for you, then you're not going to be
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doubting this at all. But I do want to say
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that because I do think that it's important to hear
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the context that I come into this with so that
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you can decide what serves you, what doesn't serve you, etc, etc.
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tell you what I actually do. To set the scene,
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I feel like we need fairytale music here. According to astrology,
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August 8th is the date of the opening of the
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Lions Gate portal. As I said, please bear with me here.
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from me doing the Googles. This is not essential to
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this task, and I don't just know this off the
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top of my head, but this is the context, this
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is what's happening. If you're someone who's into manifesting and astrology,
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you'll know that means that it's basically the most powerful
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day for harnessing your dreams in the calendar. I'm probably
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not explaining it correctly as I'm not clued up on
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astrology at all, but what I'm getting from this is
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that if you're going to manifest for one day of
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the year, August 8th seems to be the day to
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do it. That being said, I think this is an
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incredibly helpful exercise to do at any time. I just
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three years ago, I did this and every single thing
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in it came true. And I think for me, I
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in that time and what I wanted my life to
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a lot of ways in terms of, okay, well, what
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exact same thing. It was recommended to me on TikTok,
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to find the next year. I literally need to root
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mine out today, but I do think it's a really
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great exercise. But then what I do is I write
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a diary entry for August 8th next year. So August 8th, 2026.
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if it is already happening. You kind of need to
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get into the details. So like where you're waking up,
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who you're waking up next to. You might go into
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what you're eating, where you're working. What does your day
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to bed? And I do some of those things to
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paragraph on each of them. So one paragraph on finances,
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paragraph on my job and what it looks like and
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much I'm earning like any big milestones that I've reached
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podcast and things like so happy about the fact that
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I earned blah blah last month or whatever it might
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be like it's all in the present tense and it's
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all these essential things I'll also do a paragraph on
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my relationship I'll do a paragraph on my friendships I'll
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it's all in the present tense and it needs to
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represent how you would actually write a diary entry but
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less stressed I was and how much more sure of
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myself I was and all of those things writing that
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in the present tense when I wasn't feeling that at
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life to someone but that is basically it that's all
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first date with my fiance he lived in New York
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entry essentially for the year after and it talked about
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my relationship and the things that were important to us
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things that were my goals pretty much every single thing
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came true that was in that diary entry and I
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life I wanted to be living. Yes, I was earning
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an inch of my life I was constantly feeling. And
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things had I not actually done this exercise. But I
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of manifesting that I don't typically find works for me.
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I don't love the idea of like manifesting a million
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pounds without doing anything to get you there, but also
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without outlining what your life looks like to even get
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you into that position. Like manifesting a million pounds, it's like, okay,
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what about manifesting the type of work, the type of
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business that you're going to do to get there, the
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type of lifestyle you're going to live, the type of
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discipline you're going to have, all of these different things.
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different things that we often forget to put in and
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we're just concentrated on the end goal. This exercise really
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makes you think of the journey because I think you
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would start to put some things in there or I
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definitely start to put some things in there and then
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I realise I can't have all of these things at once.
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see what type of life I actually want do want
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and how I'm going to get there. And writing in
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the present tense as a diary entry really forces you
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to make connections between this life that you live right
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now and what you want it to look like in
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a year. I think a lot of people, when you
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start to write this diary entry, you'll start to realise, actually,
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this day I'm writing out is so different from the
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type of day I'm living now. So it starts to contextualise, okay, well,
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these are all the things that I need to change
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to get me even close to doing what I want
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to do. And I think it helps you to not
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lose sight of what's actually possible, but within the confines
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of your responsibilities and your dependencies. Like you're not going
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to be writing this whole diary entry and it's just like, well,
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try not to write this diary entry in a way
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that's like years and years different from your current lifestyle. Yes,
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dream big. But what do you actually think you can
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achieve in a year? And it can be a lot
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like a lot of it was more stuff than I
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possibly thought I could. But it wasn't, oh, I want
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to suddenly have 10 properties and I want to do this,
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this and this because it just it's not feasible. It's
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not where I am. It's not what I'm concentrating on.
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I can't do that. And also. enjoy the nice holidays
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I want to enjoy and enjoy I don't know whatever
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it might be it really forces you to be specific
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about what you want and you might have a dream
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like I want to work in London on a salary
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that feels comfortable and I can live in my own
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apartment but being so specific in the Okay, well, what
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industry are you likely to work in that's going to
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give you that salary? And what type of work do
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you actually want? And what salary is your actual expectation
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if you want to be living on your own? All
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of these different things. Or you might think, like, I
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want to do this very hard challenge, like a marathon
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or a big work project. But when you write the
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diary entry of you actually doing the training or working
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12 hours every day... you might also realize it's not
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actually what your dream life looks like. And I think
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that's what's so important because it puts you into this
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headspace where you're actually forced to realize the reality around
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the type of life you want to build. And it
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really helps to contextualize and be a bit more realistic,
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but be realistic in an ambitious way where you can
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then actually make that happen. And one thing I will
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always remember is when I spoke to psychologist John Amici
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about this on the podcast nearly two years ago now,
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and he actually explained the science behind why it actually works.
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using the example of sci-fi novels. So I'm going to
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in this? But there's really good science in this, right?
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what you want in the future, because I think many people,
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when they manifest, what they're doing is picking a number.
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science fiction called a future history, and it creates this
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picture of the future that is so vivid. that it's
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as if the author has been there and witnessed it
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and is telling you about what they saw. So it's
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not thin. It's not just there is a pill, there
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is a flying car.
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of what their life is, then they can work backwards
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and say, what needs to be true for that to happen?
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To your point, what are the things around me right
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now that aren't helping me get there? But also what
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additionally might I need to do or shift in order
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to get to that picture of the future?
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just explained it in a far better way than I had.
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and the reason that resonates with me so strongly is
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because actually the only form of manifestation that I do
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and that I found really, really useful is exactly that.
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in the present, but for the future. So say it
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would be today, it would be the 2nd of February, 2025,
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and I'd be writing about my current life, my current achievements,
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my current situation. And what that always highlights to me
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is actually that can't happen because then all of these
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things would have to happen. And actually those things are
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things that I don't want, which I think is a
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really helpful tool in kind of being able to take
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away the idealization of what you want and actually being
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able to realize, okay, as you say, like brilliance comes
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with being mundane and brilliance comes with like monotony and
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needing to be really kind of repetitive in a number
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of things. And actually then if I looked at my
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next year and thinking, I actually don't want to do
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that every single day to me, that's always been so
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helpful or a professional bio a year in the future.
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I often do that. So it's kind of like, you know,
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Grace Beverly has done this, this and this. She's, you know,
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well known for doing this and I'll do that for
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like five years in the future. That to me is
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one of the most powerful things, not necessarily the, of manifestation,
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but of kind of, I don't know, placing yourself in
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the future and allowing yourself to kind of not just
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reverse engineer what that would have to look like. Like,
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could I do these 20 things? No, but I could
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probably do these three.
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Yes. It's also a reward, right? The idea that your
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buyer will be not flattering, but certainly will be more
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than who you are now. So there's a way of,
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you're going to do all this hard work to do
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something incredibly difficult. So you might as well reward yourself
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by at least giving yourself that wonderfully vivid picture of
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what it's like so that you can kind of bask
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in the enjoyment of it while you know what you're
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in for to get there. Some slog, some boredom, some challenge,
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some conflict. But you can still see this picture. You
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see this a lot with people. They fail because their
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image of what they want for the future is either
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wildly unrealistic, as in it's not really even science fiction.
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hold of because it's a number. I want to make
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a million pounds. I want to, I don't know, there's
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a postcode you want to live in and it's just
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not enough to drag you through the tough stuff that
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you need to do to get there.
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to be more of a micro look at things as well.
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Like here are the five things that would actually even
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get to that point rather than just like wishing on
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a star with that.
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When your mind is sore from your efforts and you are,
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trying to get off to sleep, you need more than
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just a cold number to grant you a bit of recuperation.
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You need to close your eyes and see that image
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of the future, that five year from now bio. I
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love that idea. You need that. Otherwise, it's just too
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hard a slog for many people.
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I feel like he explains it so clearly and it
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just shows how much of this is backed by science.
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that is so important for getting you to actually not
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just dream big, but dream contextually and correctly in a
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way that you can then make actionable steps to actually
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get there. But that is it. I'm taking a risk
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releasing this on the 7th of August when some of
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you might miss it. So if you're listening to this
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episode in the first couple of days of release, send
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it to your friends. I feel like I'm a one
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woman PR team for the 8th of August at this point, but...
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I just think it made such a big difference to
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my life as someone who these things don't often make
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that big a difference. Like I'm always goal setting. So
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I wouldn't have expected you could change my view on
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goal setting so late into my life, she says as
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an old woman. But genuinely, I'm pretty stuck in my
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ways when it comes to planning and goal setting. And
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this has actually changed a lot for me. So I'm
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hoping it could do the same for you and your friends.
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But I hope you have a really good week and
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I will see you for another episode on Monday.
