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Speaker 1: Had to turn the mic up for the one time. Let me hit the IG, make sure we pop in there. All right, we up in this thing. We gonna roll through the rules. And then we gonna get active, man. Rule number one. If you have a question, Please use a capital Q and a colon before your question. That way we can separate it from the rest of the comments. Along with that, rule number two. Proofread, fam. Proofread, proofread, and also proofread. I'm a typo. having misspelling ass individual i'm not going to bicker with you so um just so you don't end up looking goofy in the comments how i'll be looking goofy in the comments sometimes just go ahead double check that right before you hit send before you ask question read it out loud read it quick read it slow and make sure it makes sense to more than just you you know i mean Like, make sure your to-to's and to's is in order. Make sure your there's, there's, and there's is in order. All that. Make sure you put a question mark on it since it's a question. Right? And also, rule number three. Two to three sentences, fam. Yeah, that's all we need. You might feel like you need to tell us the whole story. We don't really want to hear it. I can almost guarantee no one wants to read an essay. This ain't even the app for that. So if you feel like you need to express yourself like that, you feel like you need to lay out the whole story, you probably also need to lay down on the couch and talk to them people. And there's nothing wrong with that. Cousin Tripp spent a good amount of time in therapy, you feel me? So, you know, I'm not a therapist. Two to three sentences. Not a counselor, not a coach, psychiatrist, psychologist. Two to three sentences for me. You know, because also those people can't necessarily tell you, hey, yeah, fuck them, right? I'm going to say that shit. They might not be able to say that, but I'm going to say that. And that's why I've never tried to pursue those things, because I got to get that out. You feel me? So, yeah, capital Q, colon before your questions. You know, we're going to get to it. He jumping to chat over here. Let me see what we got going on. Question one. From just me on Instagram. When are you going back on tour? Spring of next year. See y'all spring 2027. I was going to try it again this fall. But nah. Nah, I would like to do something a little bit bigger and I don't want to tour into like cold weather and shit like that. So I'll see y'all spring of 2027. And I'm going to be in your city or a city near you type shit. You know what I mean? I done got a couple of folks inquired from the UK. I don't know about that just yet. I got to see who all know me over there because Lord knows I don't know nobody over there. But yeah, 2027 springtime. We actually getting some details finalized now. So, see y'all soon. Appreciate you asking about your cousin. Hmm. That's an interesting question right there. Fuck it. Why not? We got another question from the good folks on IG. And the next question is, why dudes be acting like bitter baby daddies when you do everything and don't ask for nothing? You are somehow under the influence that another person's bitterness is like about you. And that's about them. It don't even really matter if we Put this in a different scenario. Really, it's just the bitterness. The bitterness is their personal choice. You feel me? They holding on to some shit. Now, it ain't to say it has no correlation, right? But that ain't true. You feel me? If he want to be bitter towards his baby mom, that's his personal decision. He got to wake up every day and hold that. He got to wake up every day and choose that. So, you know, even if you was doing a little less than everything, that would be the choice he making. You feel me? That's on him. I don't even know if it's anything you could do about that for real, for real. Like, yeah, I'm not telling you to stand for it or anything like that. I'm just saying I don't know if it's necessarily anything you could do to make him choose. you know, something else. He got to stand on that. Let's see. Let me check the Facebook and YouTube chats just to make sure I ain't missing nobody. All right, let me run it again just for the good folks one time. If you have a question, please put a capital Q and a colon before your question. That way I can easily spot them in the comments. You know what I'm saying? That would be great of y'all to help your cousin out. Let me see. I just want to check all the chats real quick, make sure I'm getting everybody. That is an interesting question right there because it sounds very personal, but I'm going to go ahead and tap on it. Um, Green Linguistic from YouTube asks, what's your thoughts on people being so traumatized by their toxic exes that they can't even recognize good people in front of them? It happens on both ends, but it seems like good people are paying for the BS. Well, I think those people should stay in the house. And if they don't stay in the house, I think it is up to those who consider themselves good and healthy people to make sure those folks don't end up in their homes. You feel me? Your boundaries, if you got a good heart, you got a big heart, right? That means you should be doing more to put proper boundaries around it. That means you should be doing that much more To make sure that the people you do let close are qualified to be as close as you allow them to be. I'm not sure if the focus in a situation or the focus out there should even be the traumatized people so much as making sure that your screening process is thorough. That way you can weed out those people. It's people who haven't been traumatized that don't recognize a solid motherfucker in front of them. You don't have to be traumatized in dating to be bad at dating. Yeah, I don't. And just because you haven't been traumatized does not mean you're like good at dating. I've only had like one terrible breakup. I mean, like terrible. I was still bad at dating. Hell yeah, I was still bad at dating. So yeah, it's women that saw that, right? It's women that I dated that saw that and left me the fuck alone, as they should have. Right? When I started to get myself together, when I started to understand what I want, how I want to actually show up and what that meant, When I became a good dater, then I turned and did the same thing to women who were bad at dating. It wasn't about the reason they were bad at dating. It was more about if we can't function at this level, then we can't necessarily function at the next level either. It was a practicality thing, a technicality thing. So a little less, you know, on the why. And more on the what? A lot less on the why. More on the what? Let me see what else y'all got going on. That was a nice little springboard right there. I appreciate that question. That is a therapy question right there. Fontaine do breaks and war changes. That's a new transmission question right there. I don't got that. All right. The good sis Trinise. Hope I'm saying that right. Apologies if I'm not. From Facebook asks, how do you know the difference between being supportive and enabling someone? First of all, I think that that is often circumstantial. That's to say it's a case-by-case basis, so your discernment has to be sharp. But let's look at the cast versus the crutch. The cast is support and service. it is supporting that it supports your healing. It supports your body. I know we think of the crutch as the support because you're leaning on it, but work with me for a second. The function of that cast is to support your body's natural function. It's to support healing. Whereas the crutch, you're putting your weight on that. To keep you up. Doesn't necessarily help with the healing. Right? It does help you move. And keeps you from falling on your ass. Right? But it enables you to. Continue moving. To continue doing. That's the enable versus the support. Right? One is. Getting your natural functions in order. Making sure you can do what you do. One. Now, why do I use such a... When you enable somebody, you're simply allowing them to do what the fuck they do. And that may not be a good thing, bro. Now, I don't want to inherently make enabling someone a terrible thing, depending on what you're enabling. You know what I mean? I've supported artists in that way. You know what I'm saying? Where I might have to be a crutch for you to, you know what I'm saying, get to moving around this bitch. But again, ultimately, I think you want to go for support. I think you want to go for something that puts people in a position to restore their own function. I think you want to work on getting a person back to moving on their own. And the crutch doesn't necessarily do that. It keeps you off of what's healing. Because you could give a nigga a crutch without actually doing the work to heal what's broken, right? You don't necessarily need to move around with a broken ankle. The crutch is just going to allow you to do that With a little more efficiency. And not fuck up your ankle more. So. Yeah one technically is supportive. But that's not the support we want to go for. Because again if you the crutch. They putting they weight on your ass. And them putting that weight on you is what allows them to move. The moment you take your support from underneath them. They bust their ass and could potentially injure themselves further. Now, the cast, again, this is stabilizing that foot, that person, so that they can do what they were designed to do, so that the body could do what it was designed to do. And that's heal, restore. Probably want to be more cast and crutch out this battle. I ain't saying it's never a time to be a crutch, but I don't know how appropriate it is most times to be a crutch for somebody. Let me see what the fuck going on. Jump back on the IG, see what y'all talking about. Yes, fam. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. This next question, my bad. Should you stay with someone who had a baby while on a break with you? Is you cool? Look at me. Is you cool? Imagine we out to dinner. And Shorty like, let me go use the restroom real quick. And I'm like, bet. I hop on the phone, get to scrolling on the gram and shit. She been in the bathroom a hot little minute. About nine, almost 10 minutes. She popped back with a baby. She come back with a whole child. Like, hold on now. Who is this nigga? Nah, I don't care if it's a baby. Who is that? We made a reservation for two. And up until the soup and shit came out, it was just two of us here. I need to know who that is. We ain't go to the bathroom together. What the fuck going on? Yeah, you're going to have to let me know something now. Matter of fact, don't let me know nothing. Don't let me know nothing. Two checks, please. Yes, sir. I don't know who that is right there. But that, yeah, because it only be me. At least it's supposed to be me. You know what I'm saying? I don't know who this is. Yeah, niggas took a little potty break and was in there apparently doing what the fuck ever and who the fuck ever. Raw, too. So I'm going to just move around. Y'all see kids eat free, right? Under two eat free. Yeah, that's a newborn right there. Can't even have solid food. That baby going to be on the titty. She got her food. I'm up through. Yeah, what are we talking about? What are we talking about? I want to go back to something I got asked the other day, and that's if I practice what I preach. And I told y'all, no, because some things just aren't. aren't going to happen to me. I'm standing on that. A whole kid? You was fucking raw? The crazy part is hell no. That's the crazy part because I'm not going. It's crazy because how, bro? I'm so far from going. I'm not even invited on the trip. I'm too experienced to be taken for a stroll. Said the Reverend Dr. Barrington Levy. Yeah, nah, I'm... What? What? Is you cool? A break? We ain't talking about y'all broke up and time went by. Like, y'all came back You know, it's new people and shit. You said a break. Not we done left the restaurant, went our separate ways, and came back with. You said a break. A break. No. No. Hell no, man. That ain't... Hey, two checks. You hear me? Two checks. I can't stick around for that. See, because here's the thing. Coming back with a newborn, I got to go full dad. You hear me? You came back with a newborn. Now I have to go full dad immediately. Because a newborn, we ain't talking about no five, six-year-old. This one I be telling y'all, like, fellas, when I be talking to y'all about the one son and shit like that, the shorty that got the one son from seven to 14, I'm studied in this shit, my nigga. From six on down, from the developmental age, you got to go full dad, my nigga. You got to step in full stepdaddy. And if this her first kid, she don't even really know how the game go. So you really got to go full dad, like full support for the kid, full support for her during postpartum. Man, you girl, you get the fuck on. That ain't got nothing to do with me. That's what I know. Two checks. Told you that five minutes ago, bro. Where they at? Come on now. I don't know what type of tip she going to leave you, but don't fuck this one up. Two checks. Yeah. Hell no. Not I. That's what I know. I ain't talking about, I can't talk for no other fellas. I can't speak for no women that that doesn't happen to, but what I know is not Cousin Tripp. That's what the fuck I know. Full dad? My youngest niece is going to the first grade. That's where my knees is at. That's where my back is at, is first grader. My sleep schedule, first grader. And I get to drop. Anytime, I get to just drop by. I ain't got to take her nowhere. I get to buy loud toys, sugary food, and leave. Fool dad? Fool dad? Fool dad? Yeah, nah, nah, nah. You got it. You got it. I don't even say that with no disrespect. You got it. You know what I mean? You got it. Next question from the good brother on IG. Big Mike asks, do you stay or leave when dealing with a woman with a child but she's a bitter baby mom towards her baby dad? Now, I am going to try to put some parameters around this bitter baby mom thing. Is she just bitter or is she bitter and spiteful? Because this matters. Bitch niggas exist and therefore women who have children with them have reason to be bitter towards them. It's not to say that You know, she shouldn't have been a little more careful or whatever. But if you had a kid by a bitch ass nigga, you probably got some bitterness going on. But is she bitter and spiteful? Because these are not the same thing. I just want to gain some clarity from you, Brother Mike. Ha ha. So this ain't just about the mother-father part of it. She's still stuck in a broken relationship. My nigga, get the fuck on. Get the fuck on. Yeah. And I'm telling you that with respect. I'm saying like, chin up, chest out. Go on, get the fuck on. She ain't even dating you. Or she ain't faithful to you. She still with who this nigga was to her. Go on and get from around there, bro. Yeah, I don't be trying to tell nobody, but that sound crazy. Go on and get from around there. Feel me? That's insane. How's she focused on you? How's she supposed to be dating you? How's she supposed to be letting you in if she's still dating the last nigga that fucked her over? Because she is. If she's so focused on him. Bro, let me set the slide for you real quick. This is the father of her children. And after their failed relationship, he has become a better man, which would consequently, that means he become better for the kids. How the fuck do you hate on that? Unless you stuck in the past. How do you hate on that? Unless you stuck on some shit you ain't got no bitch with. And she the only one there. Or you there with her. Y'all both in relationship with a nigga that don't exist no more. Yeah, she got you over there too. And I know she got you over there because you close enough to it Familiar enough with it to be able to identify. Yeah, no, no, no. Theta out. Theta out. Nah, cuz, theta out. Yeah, two checks, boss. Nah, I think she gonna move over to that table. She keep walking over there. And giving like passive aggressive compliments about how much food he can order and shit now. And how he know how to arrange his silverware and all that. Yes, apparently she want to eat over there. She's marveled and somehow floored by what's going on over there. So we're going to let her. No, I'm going to keep eating my shit right here where I'm at. She's going to go over there. Send her check over there because that's what she want to be. Clearly. Get me up out of here. And for the people that just wrote in, another reminder, please, Q colon before your question. A capital Q and a colon before your question and then ask it so it does not get lost in the comments. I am actively scrolling through, pinning questions. Also a reminder, I'm not a therapist. Some of the questions y'all ask, you probably need to take somebody, you know, to really do this shit. Let me see what's going on. Ha ha. All right. The Brother Black Buddha Bear asks, what do you think the black community should be doing right now with the uptick of crimes against the black community? Well, here's the thing, good brother. There is not a day since we've been on this soil that we should not have been talking about what protection looks like at a community level. There has never been a period of peace towards the black community. There have been periods where crimes against the black community have been covered at higher rates. There have been no periods of peace toward the black community from the white mass. This is not to paint all individual white people as the immediate danger. It is to say that white passivism and the lack of white action is a danger in and of itself. So at a community level, black people should always be considering safety. I spoke about this in another live that part of the problem with assimilating is intake of adopting white people's idea of safety. which is dangerous because white people don't consider themselves dangerous. They do not see their history and think they are dangerous. They are the aggressors. So we cannot take their definition or ideas around safety and apply them to us. This is part of the reason we end up in positions where we're able to be victimized. It's not the whole. I wouldn't even say it's the majority. But as of late, I think we haven't necessarily been vigilant about what it means to practice community safety. Now, I am only going to speak so much on meta about what that means for me and how we moving over on my side. But what I'll say is that if you are in any way understanding of American history, That even when we were not considered human, the people that put this whole thing together were always afraid of days like the ones we live in now. Days where those elected to represent the people are simply assuming positions of power to lord over, extract from, and take advantage of the people. So I would only encourage you to get familiar with that history. And to get familiar with what they felt plausible solutions were in case shit got real. Because it was already delicate back then. That's the secret really. They whole thing is delicate. When we talk about collapse and when we talk about riots and all that, their thing is being held together by duct tape. We ain't ever had a day off. Day safety is heavily dependent on compliance. And that compliance, man, it's always one moment away, dog. So, yeah, man, get you some history. And understand that, you know, the good folks was afraid of this. You feel me? So, yeah. I'm going to probably, let's do this. You need to be having active conversations with the black folks where you live about how we're going to protect ourselves and protect community. You need to be having active conversations, real ones, with real people about how we're going to protect community. It doesn't have to be implemented immediately. It's going to take strategy, right? We have to have real conversation. That's what I feel like we should be doing. Not just listening to Tripp Fontaine talk about it and shit like that. You as a person, you watching. We got 96 on the ground. Between YouTube and Facebook, we got about another 130. So y'all, the 220 some odd people here, You should be, that's 220 conversations about community safety that we should be having in the immediate future. 220 conversations. That's 220 communities that should be engaging in conversations about safety. Real people should be having this conversation. That is what I what I believe we should be doing. Here's a lighter question and then didn't ask a question. That's interesting. I don't know if you forgot to put a question in there but alright gonna go back to the IG then there we go the next question is from the good sis Mia and she asks why do some men get intimidated by women who are the breadwinners definitely when she is trying to motivate him to be better I don't know if I like it. I don't know if I like it. I don't know if it's, you know, I don't know if I'm reaching, but I might see the issue. I might just see the issue. I don't want to justify bitter nigga behavior. Let me say that first. Because if it's really that, right, I don't want to justify that. But if I'm reading the whole of your statement. Then it almost sounds like and I don't want to be presumptuous, so please correct me if I'm wrong. It almost sounds like you are pushing him to be better because you are the breadwinner. Is it because he could really be doing something more in his career on his path? Is is where he settled at really a problem? Or do you want to see more from him because you're not really comfortable being a breadwinner? Because because we we got to we got to really talk about that. A lot of women are also not comfortable being the breadwinner in the sense that you're not comfortable seeing yourself make more than your man, not long term. A lot of women not cool with the idea of a house husband. Can we keep it G? Can we? Just for... A lot of ladies not comfortable seeing that man cap out at 50, 60K. Even if he doing what he love. Even if he doing what he want to do. Right. Lot of a lot of a y'all going y'all going to have to cut it out. Y'all going to have to cut it out. Now, what I would also like to know is, is that man a bum? Because you say he don't go to work. Is he not going to work because. He the homemaker in the relationship? Is he not going to work because he injured? Is he not going to work because... You feel me? Because if you done... My good sister. You said he not working, and I'm starting to wonder if you just got took up top. I'm starting to wonder if you got took up top. You might be green. In every sense of the word, in this case, yeah. So I don't know. Probably need more context in this particular scenario, but... if you saying Brody not working and it's not set up that way, I don't know what to tell you. Now, if he's supposed to be the homemaker, if that's what he's supposed to be, like if y'all talked about that and that, then, you know, that's a different conversation. But if he supposed to be on the job and pulling some type of financial weight in the relationship and he not, and you making this about motivation. Cast versus crutch. Ah, the cast versus the crutch. Said to cast and. Man, it's a real question, bro. Good brother DeMarco Jones from Facebook asks, how should I interpret my lady not telling me certain things because she assumes it'll make me convert back to street life, the street life we tried so hard to pull me from? Shouldn't that be my choice? Hmm. Brother, I want to thank you for asking such an honest question. But I think I got to side with your old lady on this one, big dog. I ain't going to bicker with you. I think I might have to side with your old lady because this could literally be a life or death thing. You feel me? I'm thinking about what you saying. Like what you really saying. And I'm thinking about protection and what it means to me. And to me, protection started counsel. Protection started wisdom. And I think your lady is wise enough to know that giving you certain information, despite what it means to you, could put you in danger. could put what y'all building in danger, could put her in danger. Right. So I don't, I don't know if I'm mad at her for being wise enough to not inform you a certain thing. Cause we, we not simply talking about your leadership. Right. Um, And it's one thing for me if she's hiding everything. But it's another thing if she knows your triggers, your buttons, you feel me? And she decides to govern herself accordingly. You don't tell your crash out friend certain shit. You being her man, You might be one of her crash out friends. You don't tell your crash out friends everything because you know some small shit that happened could easily become a big problem that requires a big solution in your crash out friend's mind. Couple that with the fact that like that's not just your friend. That's your old lady. So whether that's you getting another pack to pay the bills real quick and promising that's going to be the last jug, whether it's, God damn it, you going out because some man disrespected her or said something smart to her and you feel like you got to handle that the way you used to handle shit. Hey, bro, she know you. Keep it G. She know you. You know what I'm saying? And at one point in time, man, the way you handle shit, probably, you know, it might have been appropriate for both of y'all. It might have been cool for both of y'all. But now that y'all moving in a different direction, that shit might not be cool no more. That might not be wise no more. So, again, I think I got to roll with her on this one. You feel me? Like, it's not to... I understand what you're saying, especially as a man where you like at a certain point, I need to be able to make the decision and show that I'm not the man I used to be. Right. Yeah, I respect that. And I don't necessarily disagree. But also for the sake of protecting y'all, I don't I can't just say straight up that. Yeah, I'm saying that that that I'm I'm. Fucking with your side of it in totality. Like she, I think she, you know, especially if you not, if you not like five plus out the game. And when I say out the game, I mean, you don't really know who the players are like that no more. Not the new niggas. You don't know who doing what. You know what I'm saying? You got to call to check. And get the pulse on the city. Niggas don't call you no more. Unless you five years of that. Five years of the young niggas that's walking around now. Don't really know what you be on. And how you used to get it. Unless you five years of that big dog. I don't know. I feel like you got to hear her out. I'm fucking with you homie. Just off the strength of like you are a grown man. And you do got to be able to stand on your own too. But also your lady is supposed to be wisdom. And you got to trust her to be that, too. You got to you got to trust her, her protection. You feel me? I don't think we talk about that enough. Like as as men, I don't think we talk enough about being able to trust our lady to protect us. Specifically via wisdom. Because as men, we supposed to be the protectors in so many ways that we don't realize that we also need protecting. Like, bro, you supposed to be able to go to your lady and consult before you go to war. So if she knows that certain things are going to send you to war, a war that will cost too much, then yeah, I think, you know, you probably got to look at what it mean to take heed to that. No, you ain't going to always like how you protected, my nigga. I can say that. I can say that to everybody. Just outside of this scenario, you ain't going to always like what protection look like to you. Sometimes protection is a traffic jam. That's right. Sometimes protection is inconvenience. Sometimes protection is a wrench in your plan. You ain't always gonna like what protection look like. Protection don't always feel good. You feel me? So, again, when I look at the ways I've been protected in life and how some of them in the moment, I was so adamant about doing me and doing my thing. And then you look on the news and see the three-car wreck and realize that if you would have actually made it out the door 30 minutes earlier, That you would have been a whole lot closer to that wreck than you comfortable with acknowledging? You feel me? But that traffic jam that you ran into because you left during rush hour actually saved your fucking life. While you was cussing and complaining about how slow everybody was driving. While you was cussing and complaining about people not putting their turn signal on. When you was cussing and complaining about the time that this added to your drive. That 30-minute delay saved your fucking life. Inconvenience protected you. So when your lady inconvenienced you, bro, I can't say that she wasn't protecting you, fam. When your lady decided not to put that information out there, I can't say that she wasn't protecting you. And black man to black man, I value your life much more than I value your opportunity to prove that you're not the nigga you used to be. I'll say that straight up, just black man to black man. I'd much rather have you here than have you out there potentially failing tests. So if your old lady is covering you like that, again, I think y'all might want to have a conversation out loud about safety. That way you can speak your piece and affirm that you're not the man you used to be, but also you can understand where she coming from. but i definitely i definitely can't inherently say like oh yeah like she she tripping nah that that last part again bro i believe you got that you should have a space and opportunity to stand on your own too but i believe we as men need to understand what protection looks like From our old lady. You got to understand that, big dog. It is not always going to be convenient. Wisdom. Some of the shit your grandparents used to tell you. You feel me? Some of the shit your mom and them used to tell you. It was inconvenient as fuck. Sometimes they wouldn't even give you the whole piece of game for real. Tell you some old half-cock story, a motherfucking parable or some shit. But the way you had to figure that thing out, you had to figure that parable out to the point that you could own the information and apply it. That inconvenience is what made it real for you. The overcoming of that inconvenience made it real for you, bro. You know, you got to meet your lady in the middle. That's what I say. Ultimately, that's my piece on it is you got to meet your lady in the middle. But fellas, again, I'm using his question as an example. We've really got to talk about what safety is to us, what it is for us, and acknowledge ways that the lady in our life can and should be providing that safety. You feel me? Because a man deserves to be safe in a relationship as well, my nigga. Like you, you deserve to be covered in a relationship as well. You a human being. It ain't got nothing to do with how tough you are, you feel me? All protection is not physically exerting force over another person, you feel me? As a matter of fact, that's rarely what it come down to. It's all about them decisions, the moments, the information before that. So... You know what I'm saying? When you think about how your lady operate on the board, she see the shit that you don't see. She got the 180 panoramic. You know what I mean? While you hard focused on the goals, on the direction and shit like that, your lady got the scenery. Even in the most traditional sense, she got the panoramic joints. So when you think about yourself as like a sniper and your lady being your spotter, them your eyes right there. So you supposed to be able to depend on her And what she see. The way she's supposed to trust what you doing. You definitely supposed to trust what she see. Right. We as men be like you got to trust me as a leader. You got to trust what she see. What she sees is no less important than what you're doing. And in a lot of ways what she sees informs what you're doing. So we have to talk about that relationship. Got to talk about that in relationship. Breezy, be easy, my G. Need that. Need that for y'all boys, man. Need y'all to understand the value of wisdom with a woman. You feel me? No bicker. You can't get that. You can't get that wisdom from her. I don't really know what you, you know. Let me take like one, two more. See what the good folks on YouTube and Facebook talking about. We gonna shut it down for the night. Hey, I said no. Go hug her. I'm crying, bro. Oh, shit. Y'all hilarious for real. Let me see. That's a good question right there. The question is from Chinese. How do we continue to show up for family if our values and lifestyles don't align? Yeah, cuzzo, what's the word? I ain't want shit for real. I just called to check in on you, big dog. You breathing? You alive? I'll shake. Well, hell no, I ain't finna give you no money. You know what you do when I give you money. I ain't got no money for you, nigga. I'ma send some thoughts and prayers over there, though. Yeah, I got that. I got that. I got plenty of that. You ain't finna get no money. You need something to eat. I'll drop a plate off. Yeah, I'll drop a little plate off. I ain't finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I give you money. You need me to go down and pay on the lights? Because I'll go down there. Hell yeah, I'll put something on your light bill, nigga. We don't need you over there in the dark. But I'm definitely not finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I bring you money. Yeah. No, I got you. You need some blankets. No, it's getting cold out. It's getting cold out. I know your gas ain't on either. I'll bring you a couple blankets. We don't need your ass over there starving and goddamn freezing to death in the house. So I'll bring you a plate. I'll bring you a blanket, but I ain't going to bring you no money because you know what you're doing. I'll bring you money. That's how you support and show up for family when the values don't align. You make sure the person is covered. but you don't support none of the bullshit. You make sure the person is situated, but you don't support none of the bullshit. I got cousins that sold dope, owned dope, got robbed, did the robbing. You know what I'm saying? Don't call me for none of that other shit. You know you can't call me. As soon as you get to popping it about some bullshit on the click, wrong cousin, nigga. Wrong cuz. Hey, cuz, if you just send me about $ 2, 000, $ 3, 000, who even told you that I had that to send, niggas? My car take premium, nigga. Most of the little shit I made, it done went in the tank. What? Hey. I asked if you needed a plate because I was meal prepping, nigga. I had something extra. How do we get on a plan? Fuck, how you making plans? nigga you ain't got it hey get the fuck up click yeah it don't even it shouldn't even register in your mind that you can call me with that bullshit I should be so far from supporting it I make sure your lifestyle don't kill you that I can do yeah make sure there's some Narcan around that motherfucker Make sure you say you're trying to get out the street. I'm going to hand you some job applications. I'm going to help you get you a little resume put together. Help you do that shit. But I ain't finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I bring money over there. Yeah. Fuck that. See if y'all got one more. That's a real nigga question. I'll tell you that much. That is a real nigga question. I will tell you that much. Because, boy, sometimes your family just... It's why they family, I'll tell you that much. It is, it is why they family. Because any other person, I'll be done whooped your ass. Off the strength, any other person I'll be done whooped your ass. God knew to make me related to you because that's the only reason I got a second thought for you. God knew. I tell you, them, he, they, whoever, put it together. The most high. The supreme. The source knew that me and you had to have common blood. Because if we didn't have common blood, you would be shedding blood. Do you understand what I'm saying to you? Love some folk from a distance. A distance. Because if I get close, I'm going to put my hands on you. Yeah, we had to be related. Wasn't no choices. What? no choices. Crazy. All right, let me see what we're talking about. Let me get a quick scroll in. It look like we covered there. And quite a few over here on the ground. So let me see what's going on. Question from Shannon. How do you let a friendship go after 20 plus years? After you realize the loyalty and respect is not there. Money changed a person's mindset. Now they thinking their friends are beneath them. Well? Can I get two checks, please? Yup. All of a sudden, niggas don't like the food here no more. So I'm going to let them go. I'm going to pay for my shit. You know what I'm saying? All of a sudden, niggas don't like paper napkins at the table. All of a sudden, niggas is caring what type of glass they... And that's fine. I like my shit where it's at. So I'm going to go ahead and pay for my check. I'll be back. I'll be back in this bitch. But, you know, up and onward, I guess. Yeah, fuck it. Let them be. Let them be. See, here it go right here, man. And this don't make it feel no better immediately, but you got to rest on this shit. Be grateful it took 20 years and not 21. For better and worse, you got to be grateful on the days and times where you find out who a person really is. For better and worse. You got to be grateful when you find out who a motherfucker really is. Especially when it don't really cost you nothing. Right? When it's only emotional pain. When a motherfucker really ain't cost you. Didn't knock tables over. Didn't fuck shit up on the way out. You got to be glad when people walk themselves out. And the motherfucker switching up on you because they got a couple dollars. Hey, walk yourself out. That's cool. Yeah, go on ahead, bro. You got it. I hope you drive her out there. Yeah, I hope you drive her out there. Because if it start raining, if it get cold, you on your own. But go on ahead. See yourself out. You know how the door work. And no, we don't have any servants here. So you're going to have to open and close it yourself. You better not leave my gate open either. Please see yourself out. Go on, sweep your porch after they get up off it. You know what I'm saying? Sweep the porch after they... You want to get the bullshit off. Just want to make sure you get the bullshit off. Go on here, sweep your porch after they leave. Brother DeMarco. Brother DeMarco, let me pin this. Brother DeMarco gonna pop in talking about he fight family too. And this is why I told you that your old lady probably know what the fuck she talking about. This is why I told you that, Brother DeMarco, because it actually is not a single DeMarco that I know that didn't used to be fighting people. Or is not still currently fighting people. Not one. I don't know a single DeMarco that did not used to come to an understanding via the ones. Or some other shit. So if my own personal bias says anything about the situation, then your old lady knew exactly what the fuck she was talking about. You need to hold her extra tight tonight because she's clearly Holding it down. Clearly holding it down. This nigga popped in and said, I fight family too. Brother DeMarco hadn't commented since his question. Alright, I just want to put that out there. Brother DeMarco had not commented since he had asked his question. And the first thing he say when he popped back in is that he fight family too. Yeah, your old lady absolutely knew. She absolutely, and it's, y'all, it's a timer on my shit. It's been a minute since we was on that. His first shit back. Yeah, I beat my cousin ass too. I just fought my cousin the other day. That shit is funny as hell. Y'all be safe. Cousin DeMarco family, y'all niggas be safe. Stay on his good side. His old lady might not hold you down. And be well, man. It's been another talk to me Tuesday. I will not be going live Thursday. I actually got a show in Toledo, Ohio. So I'll be on stage. Niggas going to catch me live in person type shit. And we up out of here, man. I'll see y'all next week.
Speaker 1: Had to turn the mic up for the one time. Let me hit the IG, make sure we pop in there. All right, we up in this thing. We gonna roll through the rules. And then we gonna get active, man. Rule number one. If you have a question, Please use a capital Q and a colon before your question. That way we can separate it from the rest of the comments. Along with that, rule number two. Proofread, fam. Proofread, proofread, and also proofread. I'm a typo. having misspelling ass individual i'm not going to bicker with you so um just so you don't end up looking goofy in the comments how i'll be looking goofy in the comments sometimes just go ahead double check that right before you hit send before you ask question read it out loud read it quick read it slow and make sure it makes sense to more than just you you know i mean Like, make sure your to-to's and to's is in order. Make sure your there's, there's, and there's is in order. All that. Make sure you put a question mark on it since it's a question. Right? And also, rule number three. Two to three sentences, fam. Yeah, that's all we need. You might feel like you need to tell us the whole story. We don't really want to hear it. I can almost guarantee no one wants to read an essay. This ain't even the app for that. So if you feel like you need to express yourself like that, you feel like you need to lay out the whole story, you probably also need to lay down on the couch and talk to them people. And there's nothing wrong with that. Cousin Tripp spent a good amount of time in therapy, you feel me? So, you know, I'm not a therapist. Two to three sentences. Not a counselor, not a coach, psychiatrist, psychologist. Two to three sentences for me. You know, because also those people can't necessarily tell you, hey, yeah, fuck them, right? I'm going to say that shit. They might not be able to say that, but I'm going to say that. And that's why I've never tried to pursue those things, because I got to get that out. You feel me? So, yeah, capital Q, colon before your questions. You know, we're going to get to it. He jumping to chat over here. Let me see what we got going on. Question one. From just me on Instagram. When are you going back on tour? Spring of next year. See y'all spring 2027. I was going to try it again this fall. But nah. Nah, I would like to do something a little bit bigger and I don't want to tour into like cold weather and shit like that. So I'll see y'all spring of 2027. And I'm going to be in your city or a city near you type shit. You know what I mean? I done got a couple of folks inquired from the UK. I don't know about that just yet. I got to see who all know me over there because Lord knows I don't know nobody over there. But yeah, 2027 springtime. We actually getting some details finalized now. So, see y'all soon. Appreciate you asking about your cousin. Hmm. That's an interesting question right there. Fuck it. Why not? We got another question from the good folks on IG. And the next question is, why dudes be acting like bitter baby daddies when you do everything and don't ask for nothing? You are somehow under the influence that another person's bitterness is like about you. And that's about them. It don't even really matter if we Put this in a different scenario. Really, it's just the bitterness. The bitterness is their personal choice. You feel me? They holding on to some shit. Now, it ain't to say it has no correlation, right? But that ain't true. You feel me? If he want to be bitter towards his baby mom, that's his personal decision. He got to wake up every day and hold that. He got to wake up every day and choose that. So, you know, even if you was doing a little less than everything, that would be the choice he making. You feel me? That's on him. I don't even know if it's anything you could do about that for real, for real. Like, yeah, I'm not telling you to stand for it or anything like that. I'm just saying I don't know if it's necessarily anything you could do to make him choose. you know, something else. He got to stand on that. Let's see. Let me check the Facebook and YouTube chats just to make sure I ain't missing nobody. All right, let me run it again just for the good folks one time. If you have a question, please put a capital Q and a colon before your question. That way I can easily spot them in the comments. You know what I'm saying? That would be great of y'all to help your cousin out. Let me see. I just want to check all the chats real quick, make sure I'm getting everybody. That is an interesting question right there because it sounds very personal, but I'm going to go ahead and tap on it. Um, Green Linguistic from YouTube asks, what's your thoughts on people being so traumatized by their toxic exes that they can't even recognize good people in front of them? It happens on both ends, but it seems like good people are paying for the BS. Well, I think those people should stay in the house. And if they don't stay in the house, I think it is up to those who consider themselves good and healthy people to make sure those folks don't end up in their homes. You feel me? Your boundaries, if you got a good heart, you got a big heart, right? That means you should be doing more to put proper boundaries around it. That means you should be doing that much more To make sure that the people you do let close are qualified to be as close as you allow them to be. I'm not sure if the focus in a situation or the focus out there should even be the traumatized people so much as making sure that your screening process is thorough. That way you can weed out those people. It's people who haven't been traumatized that don't recognize a solid motherfucker in front of them. You don't have to be traumatized in dating to be bad at dating. Yeah, I don't. And just because you haven't been traumatized does not mean you're like good at dating. I've only had like one terrible breakup. I mean, like terrible. I was still bad at dating. Hell yeah, I was still bad at dating. So yeah, it's women that saw that, right? It's women that I dated that saw that and left me the fuck alone, as they should have. Right? When I started to get myself together, when I started to understand what I want, how I want to actually show up and what that meant, When I became a good dater, then I turned and did the same thing to women who were bad at dating. It wasn't about the reason they were bad at dating. It was more about if we can't function at this level, then we can't necessarily function at the next level either. It was a practicality thing, a technicality thing. So a little less, you know, on the why. And more on the what? A lot less on the why. More on the what? Let me see what else y'all got going on. That was a nice little springboard right there. I appreciate that question. That is a therapy question right there. Fontaine do breaks and war changes. That's a new transmission question right there. I don't got that. All right. The good sis Trinise. Hope I'm saying that right. Apologies if I'm not. From Facebook asks, how do you know the difference between being supportive and enabling someone? First of all, I think that that is often circumstantial. That's to say it's a case-by-case basis, so your discernment has to be sharp. But let's look at the cast versus the crutch. The cast is support and service. it is supporting that it supports your healing. It supports your body. I know we think of the crutch as the support because you're leaning on it, but work with me for a second. The function of that cast is to support your body's natural function. It's to support healing. Whereas the crutch, you're putting your weight on that. To keep you up. Doesn't necessarily help with the healing. Right? It does help you move. And keeps you from falling on your ass. Right? But it enables you to. Continue moving. To continue doing. That's the enable versus the support. Right? One is. Getting your natural functions in order. Making sure you can do what you do. One. Now, why do I use such a... When you enable somebody, you're simply allowing them to do what the fuck they do. And that may not be a good thing, bro. Now, I don't want to inherently make enabling someone a terrible thing, depending on what you're enabling. You know what I mean? I've supported artists in that way. You know what I'm saying? Where I might have to be a crutch for you to, you know what I'm saying, get to moving around this bitch. But again, ultimately, I think you want to go for support. I think you want to go for something that puts people in a position to restore their own function. I think you want to work on getting a person back to moving on their own. And the crutch doesn't necessarily do that. It keeps you off of what's healing. Because you could give a nigga a crutch without actually doing the work to heal what's broken, right? You don't necessarily need to move around with a broken ankle. The crutch is just going to allow you to do that With a little more efficiency. And not fuck up your ankle more. So. Yeah one technically is supportive. But that's not the support we want to go for. Because again if you the crutch. They putting they weight on your ass. And them putting that weight on you is what allows them to move. The moment you take your support from underneath them. They bust their ass and could potentially injure themselves further. Now, the cast, again, this is stabilizing that foot, that person, so that they can do what they were designed to do, so that the body could do what it was designed to do. And that's heal, restore. Probably want to be more cast and crutch out this battle. I ain't saying it's never a time to be a crutch, but I don't know how appropriate it is most times to be a crutch for somebody. Let me see what the fuck going on. Jump back on the IG, see what y'all talking about. Yes, fam. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. This next question, my bad. Should you stay with someone who had a baby while on a break with you? Is you cool? Look at me. Is you cool? Imagine we out to dinner. And Shorty like, let me go use the restroom real quick. And I'm like, bet. I hop on the phone, get to scrolling on the gram and shit. She been in the bathroom a hot little minute. About nine, almost 10 minutes. She popped back with a baby. She come back with a whole child. Like, hold on now. Who is this nigga? Nah, I don't care if it's a baby. Who is that? We made a reservation for two. And up until the soup and shit came out, it was just two of us here. I need to know who that is. We ain't go to the bathroom together. What the fuck going on? Yeah, you're going to have to let me know something now. Matter of fact, don't let me know nothing. Don't let me know nothing. Two checks, please. Yes, sir. I don't know who that is right there. But that, yeah, because it only be me. At least it's supposed to be me. You know what I'm saying? I don't know who this is. Yeah, niggas took a little potty break and was in there apparently doing what the fuck ever and who the fuck ever. Raw, too. So I'm going to just move around. Y'all see kids eat free, right? Under two eat free. Yeah, that's a newborn right there. Can't even have solid food. That baby going to be on the titty. She got her food. I'm up through. Yeah, what are we talking about? What are we talking about? I want to go back to something I got asked the other day, and that's if I practice what I preach. And I told y'all, no, because some things just aren't. aren't going to happen to me. I'm standing on that. A whole kid? You was fucking raw? The crazy part is hell no. That's the crazy part because I'm not going. It's crazy because how, bro? I'm so far from going. I'm not even invited on the trip. I'm too experienced to be taken for a stroll. Said the Reverend Dr. Barrington Levy. Yeah, nah, I'm... What? What? Is you cool? A break? We ain't talking about y'all broke up and time went by. Like, y'all came back You know, it's new people and shit. You said a break. Not we done left the restaurant, went our separate ways, and came back with. You said a break. A break. No. No. Hell no, man. That ain't... Hey, two checks. You hear me? Two checks. I can't stick around for that. See, because here's the thing. Coming back with a newborn, I got to go full dad. You hear me? You came back with a newborn. Now I have to go full dad immediately. Because a newborn, we ain't talking about no five, six-year-old. This one I be telling y'all, like, fellas, when I be talking to y'all about the one son and shit like that, the shorty that got the one son from seven to 14, I'm studied in this shit, my nigga. From six on down, from the developmental age, you got to go full dad, my nigga. You got to step in full stepdaddy. And if this her first kid, she don't even really know how the game go. So you really got to go full dad, like full support for the kid, full support for her during postpartum. Man, you girl, you get the fuck on. That ain't got nothing to do with me. That's what I know. Two checks. Told you that five minutes ago, bro. Where they at? Come on now. I don't know what type of tip she going to leave you, but don't fuck this one up. Two checks. Yeah. Hell no. Not I. That's what I know. I ain't talking about, I can't talk for no other fellas. I can't speak for no women that that doesn't happen to, but what I know is not Cousin Tripp. That's what the fuck I know. Full dad? My youngest niece is going to the first grade. That's where my knees is at. That's where my back is at, is first grader. My sleep schedule, first grader. And I get to drop. Anytime, I get to just drop by. I ain't got to take her nowhere. I get to buy loud toys, sugary food, and leave. Fool dad? Fool dad? Fool dad? Yeah, nah, nah, nah. You got it. You got it. I don't even say that with no disrespect. You got it. You know what I mean? You got it. Next question from the good brother on IG. Big Mike asks, do you stay or leave when dealing with a woman with a child but she's a bitter baby mom towards her baby dad? Now, I am going to try to put some parameters around this bitter baby mom thing. Is she just bitter or is she bitter and spiteful? Because this matters. Bitch niggas exist and therefore women who have children with them have reason to be bitter towards them. It's not to say that You know, she shouldn't have been a little more careful or whatever. But if you had a kid by a bitch ass nigga, you probably got some bitterness going on. But is she bitter and spiteful? Because these are not the same thing. I just want to gain some clarity from you, Brother Mike. Ha ha. So this ain't just about the mother-father part of it. She's still stuck in a broken relationship. My nigga, get the fuck on. Get the fuck on. Yeah. And I'm telling you that with respect. I'm saying like, chin up, chest out. Go on, get the fuck on. She ain't even dating you. Or she ain't faithful to you. She still with who this nigga was to her. Go on and get from around there, bro. Yeah, I don't be trying to tell nobody, but that sound crazy. Go on and get from around there. Feel me? That's insane. How's she focused on you? How's she supposed to be dating you? How's she supposed to be letting you in if she's still dating the last nigga that fucked her over? Because she is. If she's so focused on him. Bro, let me set the slide for you real quick. This is the father of her children. And after their failed relationship, he has become a better man, which would consequently, that means he become better for the kids. How the fuck do you hate on that? Unless you stuck in the past. How do you hate on that? Unless you stuck on some shit you ain't got no bitch with. And she the only one there. Or you there with her. Y'all both in relationship with a nigga that don't exist no more. Yeah, she got you over there too. And I know she got you over there because you close enough to it Familiar enough with it to be able to identify. Yeah, no, no, no. Theta out. Theta out. Nah, cuz, theta out. Yeah, two checks, boss. Nah, I think she gonna move over to that table. She keep walking over there. And giving like passive aggressive compliments about how much food he can order and shit now. And how he know how to arrange his silverware and all that. Yes, apparently she want to eat over there. She's marveled and somehow floored by what's going on over there. So we're going to let her. No, I'm going to keep eating my shit right here where I'm at. She's going to go over there. Send her check over there because that's what she want to be. Clearly. Get me up out of here. And for the people that just wrote in, another reminder, please, Q colon before your question. A capital Q and a colon before your question and then ask it so it does not get lost in the comments. I am actively scrolling through, pinning questions. Also a reminder, I'm not a therapist. Some of the questions y'all ask, you probably need to take somebody, you know, to really do this shit. Let me see what's going on. Ha ha. All right. The Brother Black Buddha Bear asks, what do you think the black community should be doing right now with the uptick of crimes against the black community? Well, here's the thing, good brother. There is not a day since we've been on this soil that we should not have been talking about what protection looks like at a community level. There has never been a period of peace towards the black community. There have been periods where crimes against the black community have been covered at higher rates. There have been no periods of peace toward the black community from the white mass. This is not to paint all individual white people as the immediate danger. It is to say that white passivism and the lack of white action is a danger in and of itself. So at a community level, black people should always be considering safety. I spoke about this in another live that part of the problem with assimilating is intake of adopting white people's idea of safety. which is dangerous because white people don't consider themselves dangerous. They do not see their history and think they are dangerous. They are the aggressors. So we cannot take their definition or ideas around safety and apply them to us. This is part of the reason we end up in positions where we're able to be victimized. It's not the whole. I wouldn't even say it's the majority. But as of late, I think we haven't necessarily been vigilant about what it means to practice community safety. Now, I am only going to speak so much on meta about what that means for me and how we moving over on my side. But what I'll say is that if you are in any way understanding of American history, That even when we were not considered human, the people that put this whole thing together were always afraid of days like the ones we live in now. Days where those elected to represent the people are simply assuming positions of power to lord over, extract from, and take advantage of the people. So I would only encourage you to get familiar with that history. And to get familiar with what they felt plausible solutions were in case shit got real. Because it was already delicate back then. That's the secret really. They whole thing is delicate. When we talk about collapse and when we talk about riots and all that, their thing is being held together by duct tape. We ain't ever had a day off. Day safety is heavily dependent on compliance. And that compliance, man, it's always one moment away, dog. So, yeah, man, get you some history. And understand that, you know, the good folks was afraid of this. You feel me? So, yeah. I'm going to probably, let's do this. You need to be having active conversations with the black folks where you live about how we're going to protect ourselves and protect community. You need to be having active conversations, real ones, with real people about how we're going to protect community. It doesn't have to be implemented immediately. It's going to take strategy, right? We have to have real conversation. That's what I feel like we should be doing. Not just listening to Tripp Fontaine talk about it and shit like that. You as a person, you watching. We got 96 on the ground. Between YouTube and Facebook, we got about another 130. So y'all, the 220 some odd people here, You should be, that's 220 conversations about community safety that we should be having in the immediate future. 220 conversations. That's 220 communities that should be engaging in conversations about safety. Real people should be having this conversation. That is what I what I believe we should be doing. Here's a lighter question and then didn't ask a question. That's interesting. I don't know if you forgot to put a question in there but alright gonna go back to the IG then there we go the next question is from the good sis Mia and she asks why do some men get intimidated by women who are the breadwinners definitely when she is trying to motivate him to be better I don't know if I like it. I don't know if I like it. I don't know if it's, you know, I don't know if I'm reaching, but I might see the issue. I might just see the issue. I don't want to justify bitter nigga behavior. Let me say that first. Because if it's really that, right, I don't want to justify that. But if I'm reading the whole of your statement. Then it almost sounds like and I don't want to be presumptuous, so please correct me if I'm wrong. It almost sounds like you are pushing him to be better because you are the breadwinner. Is it because he could really be doing something more in his career on his path? Is is where he settled at really a problem? Or do you want to see more from him because you're not really comfortable being a breadwinner? Because because we we got to we got to really talk about that. A lot of women are also not comfortable being the breadwinner in the sense that you're not comfortable seeing yourself make more than your man, not long term. A lot of women not cool with the idea of a house husband. Can we keep it G? Can we? Just for... A lot of ladies not comfortable seeing that man cap out at 50, 60K. Even if he doing what he love. Even if he doing what he want to do. Right. Lot of a lot of a y'all going y'all going to have to cut it out. Y'all going to have to cut it out. Now, what I would also like to know is, is that man a bum? Because you say he don't go to work. Is he not going to work because. He the homemaker in the relationship? Is he not going to work because he injured? Is he not going to work because... You feel me? Because if you done... My good sister. You said he not working, and I'm starting to wonder if you just got took up top. I'm starting to wonder if you got took up top. You might be green. In every sense of the word, in this case, yeah. So I don't know. Probably need more context in this particular scenario, but... if you saying Brody not working and it's not set up that way, I don't know what to tell you. Now, if he's supposed to be the homemaker, if that's what he's supposed to be, like if y'all talked about that and that, then, you know, that's a different conversation. But if he supposed to be on the job and pulling some type of financial weight in the relationship and he not, and you making this about motivation. Cast versus crutch. Ah, the cast versus the crutch. Said to cast and. Man, it's a real question, bro. Good brother DeMarco Jones from Facebook asks, how should I interpret my lady not telling me certain things because she assumes it'll make me convert back to street life, the street life we tried so hard to pull me from? Shouldn't that be my choice? Hmm. Brother, I want to thank you for asking such an honest question. But I think I got to side with your old lady on this one, big dog. I ain't going to bicker with you. I think I might have to side with your old lady because this could literally be a life or death thing. You feel me? I'm thinking about what you saying. Like what you really saying. And I'm thinking about protection and what it means to me. And to me, protection started counsel. Protection started wisdom. And I think your lady is wise enough to know that giving you certain information, despite what it means to you, could put you in danger. could put what y'all building in danger, could put her in danger. Right. So I don't, I don't know if I'm mad at her for being wise enough to not inform you a certain thing. Cause we, we not simply talking about your leadership. Right. Um, And it's one thing for me if she's hiding everything. But it's another thing if she knows your triggers, your buttons, you feel me? And she decides to govern herself accordingly. You don't tell your crash out friend certain shit. You being her man, You might be one of her crash out friends. You don't tell your crash out friends everything because you know some small shit that happened could easily become a big problem that requires a big solution in your crash out friend's mind. Couple that with the fact that like that's not just your friend. That's your old lady. So whether that's you getting another pack to pay the bills real quick and promising that's going to be the last jug, whether it's, God damn it, you going out because some man disrespected her or said something smart to her and you feel like you got to handle that the way you used to handle shit. Hey, bro, she know you. Keep it G. She know you. You know what I'm saying? And at one point in time, man, the way you handle shit, probably, you know, it might have been appropriate for both of y'all. It might have been cool for both of y'all. But now that y'all moving in a different direction, that shit might not be cool no more. That might not be wise no more. So, again, I think I got to roll with her on this one. You feel me? Like, it's not to... I understand what you're saying, especially as a man where you like at a certain point, I need to be able to make the decision and show that I'm not the man I used to be. Right. Yeah, I respect that. And I don't necessarily disagree. But also for the sake of protecting y'all, I don't I can't just say straight up that. Yeah, I'm saying that that that I'm I'm. Fucking with your side of it in totality. Like she, I think she, you know, especially if you not, if you not like five plus out the game. And when I say out the game, I mean, you don't really know who the players are like that no more. Not the new niggas. You don't know who doing what. You know what I'm saying? You got to call to check. And get the pulse on the city. Niggas don't call you no more. Unless you five years of that. Five years of the young niggas that's walking around now. Don't really know what you be on. And how you used to get it. Unless you five years of that big dog. I don't know. I feel like you got to hear her out. I'm fucking with you homie. Just off the strength of like you are a grown man. And you do got to be able to stand on your own too. But also your lady is supposed to be wisdom. And you got to trust her to be that, too. You got to you got to trust her, her protection. You feel me? I don't think we talk about that enough. Like as as men, I don't think we talk enough about being able to trust our lady to protect us. Specifically via wisdom. Because as men, we supposed to be the protectors in so many ways that we don't realize that we also need protecting. Like, bro, you supposed to be able to go to your lady and consult before you go to war. So if she knows that certain things are going to send you to war, a war that will cost too much, then yeah, I think, you know, you probably got to look at what it mean to take heed to that. No, you ain't going to always like how you protected, my nigga. I can say that. I can say that to everybody. Just outside of this scenario, you ain't going to always like what protection look like to you. Sometimes protection is a traffic jam. That's right. Sometimes protection is inconvenience. Sometimes protection is a wrench in your plan. You ain't always gonna like what protection look like. Protection don't always feel good. You feel me? So, again, when I look at the ways I've been protected in life and how some of them in the moment, I was so adamant about doing me and doing my thing. And then you look on the news and see the three-car wreck and realize that if you would have actually made it out the door 30 minutes earlier, That you would have been a whole lot closer to that wreck than you comfortable with acknowledging? You feel me? But that traffic jam that you ran into because you left during rush hour actually saved your fucking life. While you was cussing and complaining about how slow everybody was driving. While you was cussing and complaining about people not putting their turn signal on. When you was cussing and complaining about the time that this added to your drive. That 30-minute delay saved your fucking life. Inconvenience protected you. So when your lady inconvenienced you, bro, I can't say that she wasn't protecting you, fam. When your lady decided not to put that information out there, I can't say that she wasn't protecting you. And black man to black man, I value your life much more than I value your opportunity to prove that you're not the nigga you used to be. I'll say that straight up, just black man to black man. I'd much rather have you here than have you out there potentially failing tests. So if your old lady is covering you like that, again, I think y'all might want to have a conversation out loud about safety. That way you can speak your piece and affirm that you're not the man you used to be, but also you can understand where she coming from. but i definitely i definitely can't inherently say like oh yeah like she she tripping nah that that last part again bro i believe you got that you should have a space and opportunity to stand on your own too but i believe we as men need to understand what protection looks like From our old lady. You got to understand that, big dog. It is not always going to be convenient. Wisdom. Some of the shit your grandparents used to tell you. You feel me? Some of the shit your mom and them used to tell you. It was inconvenient as fuck. Sometimes they wouldn't even give you the whole piece of game for real. Tell you some old half-cock story, a motherfucking parable or some shit. But the way you had to figure that thing out, you had to figure that parable out to the point that you could own the information and apply it. That inconvenience is what made it real for you. The overcoming of that inconvenience made it real for you, bro. You know, you got to meet your lady in the middle. That's what I say. Ultimately, that's my piece on it is you got to meet your lady in the middle. But fellas, again, I'm using his question as an example. We've really got to talk about what safety is to us, what it is for us, and acknowledge ways that the lady in our life can and should be providing that safety. You feel me? Because a man deserves to be safe in a relationship as well, my nigga. Like you, you deserve to be covered in a relationship as well. You a human being. It ain't got nothing to do with how tough you are, you feel me? All protection is not physically exerting force over another person, you feel me? As a matter of fact, that's rarely what it come down to. It's all about them decisions, the moments, the information before that. So... You know what I'm saying? When you think about how your lady operate on the board, she see the shit that you don't see. She got the 180 panoramic. You know what I mean? While you hard focused on the goals, on the direction and shit like that, your lady got the scenery. Even in the most traditional sense, she got the panoramic joints. So when you think about yourself as like a sniper and your lady being your spotter, them your eyes right there. So you supposed to be able to depend on her And what she see. The way she's supposed to trust what you doing. You definitely supposed to trust what she see. Right. We as men be like you got to trust me as a leader. You got to trust what she see. What she sees is no less important than what you're doing. And in a lot of ways what she sees informs what you're doing. So we have to talk about that relationship. Got to talk about that in relationship. Breezy, be easy, my G. Need that. Need that for y'all boys, man. Need y'all to understand the value of wisdom with a woman. You feel me? No bicker. You can't get that. You can't get that wisdom from her. I don't really know what you, you know. Let me take like one, two more. See what the good folks on YouTube and Facebook talking about. We gonna shut it down for the night. Hey, I said no. Go hug her. I'm crying, bro. Oh, shit. Y'all hilarious for real. Let me see. That's a good question right there. The question is from Chinese. How do we continue to show up for family if our values and lifestyles don't align? Yeah, cuzzo, what's the word? I ain't want shit for real. I just called to check in on you, big dog. You breathing? You alive? I'll shake. Well, hell no, I ain't finna give you no money. You know what you do when I give you money. I ain't got no money for you, nigga. I'ma send some thoughts and prayers over there, though. Yeah, I got that. I got that. I got plenty of that. You ain't finna get no money. You need something to eat. I'll drop a plate off. Yeah, I'll drop a little plate off. I ain't finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I give you money. You need me to go down and pay on the lights? Because I'll go down there. Hell yeah, I'll put something on your light bill, nigga. We don't need you over there in the dark. But I'm definitely not finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I bring you money. Yeah. No, I got you. You need some blankets. No, it's getting cold out. It's getting cold out. I know your gas ain't on either. I'll bring you a couple blankets. We don't need your ass over there starving and goddamn freezing to death in the house. So I'll bring you a plate. I'll bring you a blanket, but I ain't going to bring you no money because you know what you're doing. I'll bring you money. That's how you support and show up for family when the values don't align. You make sure the person is covered. but you don't support none of the bullshit. You make sure the person is situated, but you don't support none of the bullshit. I got cousins that sold dope, owned dope, got robbed, did the robbing. You know what I'm saying? Don't call me for none of that other shit. You know you can't call me. As soon as you get to popping it about some bullshit on the click, wrong cousin, nigga. Wrong cuz. Hey, cuz, if you just send me about $ 2, 000, $ 3, 000, who even told you that I had that to send, niggas? My car take premium, nigga. Most of the little shit I made, it done went in the tank. What? Hey. I asked if you needed a plate because I was meal prepping, nigga. I had something extra. How do we get on a plan? Fuck, how you making plans? nigga you ain't got it hey get the fuck up click yeah it don't even it shouldn't even register in your mind that you can call me with that bullshit I should be so far from supporting it I make sure your lifestyle don't kill you that I can do yeah make sure there's some Narcan around that motherfucker Make sure you say you're trying to get out the street. I'm going to hand you some job applications. I'm going to help you get you a little resume put together. Help you do that shit. But I ain't finna bring no money over there because you know what you do when I bring money over there. Yeah. Fuck that. See if y'all got one more. That's a real nigga question. I'll tell you that much. That is a real nigga question. I will tell you that much. Because, boy, sometimes your family just... It's why they family, I'll tell you that much. It is, it is why they family. Because any other person, I'll be done whooped your ass. Off the strength, any other person I'll be done whooped your ass. God knew to make me related to you because that's the only reason I got a second thought for you. God knew. I tell you, them, he, they, whoever, put it together. The most high. The supreme. The source knew that me and you had to have common blood. Because if we didn't have common blood, you would be shedding blood. Do you understand what I'm saying to you? Love some folk from a distance. A distance. Because if I get close, I'm going to put my hands on you. Yeah, we had to be related. Wasn't no choices. What? no choices. Crazy. All right, let me see what we're talking about. Let me get a quick scroll in. It look like we covered there. And quite a few over here on the ground. So let me see what's going on. Question from Shannon. How do you let a friendship go after 20 plus years? After you realize the loyalty and respect is not there. Money changed a person's mindset. Now they thinking their friends are beneath them. Well? Can I get two checks, please? Yup. All of a sudden, niggas don't like the food here no more. So I'm going to let them go. I'm going to pay for my shit. You know what I'm saying? All of a sudden, niggas don't like paper napkins at the table. All of a sudden, niggas is caring what type of glass they... And that's fine. I like my shit where it's at. So I'm going to go ahead and pay for my check. I'll be back. I'll be back in this bitch. But, you know, up and onward, I guess. Yeah, fuck it. Let them be. Let them be. See, here it go right here, man. And this don't make it feel no better immediately, but you got to rest on this shit. Be grateful it took 20 years and not 21. For better and worse, you got to be grateful on the days and times where you find out who a person really is. For better and worse. You got to be grateful when you find out who a motherfucker really is. Especially when it don't really cost you nothing. Right? When it's only emotional pain. When a motherfucker really ain't cost you. Didn't knock tables over. Didn't fuck shit up on the way out. You got to be glad when people walk themselves out. And the motherfucker switching up on you because they got a couple dollars. Hey, walk yourself out. That's cool. Yeah, go on ahead, bro. You got it. I hope you drive her out there. Yeah, I hope you drive her out there. Because if it start raining, if it get cold, you on your own. But go on ahead. See yourself out. You know how the door work. And no, we don't have any servants here. So you're going to have to open and close it yourself. You better not leave my gate open either. Please see yourself out. Go on, sweep your porch after they get up off it. You know what I'm saying? Sweep the porch after they... You want to get the bullshit off. Just want to make sure you get the bullshit off. Go on here, sweep your porch after they leave. Brother DeMarco. Brother DeMarco, let me pin this. Brother DeMarco gonna pop in talking about he fight family too. And this is why I told you that your old lady probably know what the fuck she talking about. This is why I told you that, Brother DeMarco, because it actually is not a single DeMarco that I know that didn't used to be fighting people. Or is not still currently fighting people. Not one. I don't know a single DeMarco that did not used to come to an understanding via the ones. Or some other shit. So if my own personal bias says anything about the situation, then your old lady knew exactly what the fuck she was talking about. You need to hold her extra tight tonight because she's clearly Holding it down. Clearly holding it down. This nigga popped in and said, I fight family too. Brother DeMarco hadn't commented since his question. Alright, I just want to put that out there. Brother DeMarco had not commented since he had asked his question. And the first thing he say when he popped back in is that he fight family too. Yeah, your old lady absolutely knew. She absolutely, and it's, y'all, it's a timer on my shit. It's been a minute since we was on that. His first shit back. Yeah, I beat my cousin ass too. I just fought my cousin the other day. That shit is funny as hell. Y'all be safe. Cousin DeMarco family, y'all niggas be safe. Stay on his good side. His old lady might not hold you down. And be well, man. It's been another talk to me Tuesday. I will not be going live Thursday. I actually got a show in Toledo, Ohio. So I'll be on stage. Niggas going to catch me live in person type shit. And we up out of here, man. I'll see y'all next week.
