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For much of her career in tech, Leah performed toughness. Not cynically — but she did it. She cultivated an edge, used bluster, took up a certain kind of space. And underneath all of it was someone who is, by her own description, fairly mushy: tender, gentle, deeply feeling. Not hard. Just strong. And those, it turns out, are not the same thing.
This week's One Question opens with that distinction — between toughness as performance and strength as something real — and builds into a deeper exploration of what psychologists call the spotlight effect, what sociologist Erving Goffman observed about impression management and our invisible audiences, and what neuroscience tells us about the long-term cost of chronic emotional suppression. Because the performance has a cost. And many of us are still paying it for an audience that stopped watching long ago.
This week's question: What would I do differently if no one was watching?
