Purpose, Practice, and “Miracles” (feat. Jesse Cruz)

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Welcome to the No Sighting the Excuses Podcast. Well we
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have real we're off the conversation.
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Here's your host, Keep on Mayby.
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Finale. Season one is at the end, guys, and I
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know y'all appreciate it the series. Just to the No
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Sit No Excuses podcast. Man, I tell you, it's been
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a journey. First and foremost, I've had a guest already,
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and I'm telling you, man, it's been amazing the different
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things that I've endured, the different things I've done, what
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y'all have heard about. Oh man, it's been such a
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great season. And I know y'all are excited because y'all
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probably like, well, what is he gonna do for the
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season finale, Let's bring back another guest. So, man, listen,
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we're gonna do this for just the last episode of
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this season. But oh, trust and believe I will be back.
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So without further or do my guy missed worldwide himself,
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Jesse Cruz bring him to the stage, please, man, How
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are you doing today, Jesse?
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I'm doing awesome. How about you, my man?
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Hey, I'm doing pretty good. Man. I cannot complain. It's
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a pleasure and honor to have you here, first and
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foremost on my podcast. I appreciate everything we've worked together
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on and you know, being able to work with you
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in regards to the speaking competition. What the guys have
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already heard about who've listened to my podcast faithfully, you know,
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because I did have an episode about it. But we'll
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get more into that here and momentarily. But first and
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foremost about you. You know a lot of people don't
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know you. Also yourself are an award winning speaker, but
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you know, not me just a little bit. You're international. Okay,
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you're international. You're a best selling author. You know you
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you got your business merge worldwide. Man, Just come on,
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tell us more about you, man. We appreciate that.
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Yeah. I get the opportunity to help entrepreneurs learn how
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to tell stories that create impact and income from the stage.
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And so I get the opportunity to do that through
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my one to one coaching, our online speaker community, and
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then my wife and I we host ofvariety of conferences
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and retreats throughout the United States, Mexico, and Italy.
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Yeah, man, yeah, no, listen if y'all don't know Desiree,
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she's an amazing person. He couldn't have had a better
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rib in his career. Okay, she's awesome. Listen when I
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went to because yeah, the speaker competition was the first
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time I met her because I remember you guys coming
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to North Carolina, but she didn't come with you. As
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far as meeting me, she stayed with the children and
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God alive.
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Man.
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Like, when I first met her in New York, I
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was like, what kind of dynamic duo is this? You
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know what I mean? Because if you forgot something, it
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was like she was right there to pick up the pieces, man,
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And I loved it. It was such an amazing tag team.
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You know.
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It's almost like that's what you need in your life.
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You know. I don't like to say back pocket because
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I like to keep you know, my women in my
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front pocket, So because the backpack is where wallet is,
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I don't want to back it. But seriously, yeah, man,
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it was just such a truly, truly an honor and
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a pleasure to meet her. She called me her superhero,
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and I was like, whoa, whoa, Calm down, you know,
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but I get it. You know, everybody sees the things
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I've been through and have still gone through, you know,
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and it just so amazed and impressed, and I was like,
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you know, with God, all things are possible. So that's
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the biggest thing. And you, sir, as well as your
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wife are faith believers as well, which I truly admire
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because it's one thing that people overlook like they're like, oh, yeah,
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I made it. I'm self made this. That the third, hey, man,
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you're nothing without God. I'm telling you right now, it
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doesn't work. And so I truly appreciate you guys, you know,
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shining and spotlighting that you know, so yeah, I appreciate it. Man.
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Now when did you first realize your story change lives?
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You know, like motivated, healed? When did you realize that?
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I think I realized that as I was going through it,
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because I had gone through a significant loss in my life.
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You know what got me through it is my faith
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in God, my wife and children. But I started writing
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about my pain every single day. Yeah, And the more
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that I shared my story, the more that I healed.
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And then I realized, like, man, if sharing your story
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can bring healing and hope to my life, I know
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this could do the same thing for other people. So
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continue to evolve over time, from writing books to speaking
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on stages to being able to coach other people how
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to speak as well.
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Mm hmm, yeah for sure, for sure. Yeah no, I've
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worked with you as well, and I in both areas,
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not just you know, speaking wise, but actually creating stages.
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So I definitely appreciated the knowledge that you brought to it,
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and it made it like really truly and I love
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saying this. It really opened my eyes. I truly love
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saying stuff like that, but it did, it really did,
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and I was like, wow, that is something that is
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like not it's not some crazy concept. It's actually like wow,
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why did not I think of that? You know, like
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it's almost one of those things. But that's what coaches
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are for, you know what I mean, That's exactly what
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mentors and coaches are for. There just be like, oh dude,
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let me show you. Come on, let me pull you along,
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get your wagon. We got this, you know. But yeah, no,
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you you are definitely a coach that I enjoyed working
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with and still you know till today, even in our
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group on Facebook, I enjoy seeing the posts in there
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and how people are striving to be better and literally
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going out here and doing the dang thing, you know
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what I mean. So it's all also man, And again
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going back to your wife, her and her warrior women's warrior.
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I can't remember the phrase, but the yeah warrior women's man.
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That that right there. She is all over it man.
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She brings bring women and make them shine, Okay, and
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so I truly appreciate her. But going back to you,
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man and how you've coached people with their speaking, what
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are some of the biggest mistakes you see people have?
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I mean, the biggest thing is usually a mindset block.
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They don't believe that they have a story worth sharing.
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They don't believe that they can make a difference, and
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so it's really helping them get out of their own
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way and helping them realize that they have a bable
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message that needs to be shared, and then helping them
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craft that talk in a way that can attract the
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right people they're called to serve.
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Mm hmm. Yeah know, I completely agree with that whole heartedly.
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Being a speaker myself, it's one of those things you
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just have to be able to. As some of my
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listeners already know and have seen the videos of me,
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you got to show that confidence first and foremost. You
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can't be up there all timid. They're going to see it.
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It's going to reveal itself at some point, and then
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you can't be too anxious either, because I remember seeing
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that when we were in New York just a few
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months ago, that right there was kind of one of
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those moments. I call it slow down teena moment. That's
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my new phrase, man, I don't care what nobody says.
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That's my new phrase, man. But we just have to
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keep that calm, cool composure. Nobody knows what you're talking about,
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but you you know, understand that and embody the mindset
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that comes along with it. So I completely agree with
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that wholeheartedly. Now we're gonna shift gears here a little bit,
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and we're gonna go to that lovely speaker competition you
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had up in Russurville, New York, back in October Man
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of twenty twenty five, which I just so happened to
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have the pleasure and the honor of not only going
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to and attending, but winning. Man, Listen, that was first off,
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it was my first one ever, which I told my
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audience about already.
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But.
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I really truly enjoyed it, like it was so I
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don't know how to put it. It's like really fun,
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like it's just enjoyable. You know, the people that we
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got to meet, not just you know I always talk
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about your wife, but not just her, but everybody that
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showed up, even the people that it was their first
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time not just at a speakers competition, but ever speaking
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in front of people, you know, in these types of things.
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So the question that I have for you is, excuse me,
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tell us about how that event came together and what
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was your vision behind it.
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Yeah. I mean, this is an event we have done
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since twenty twenty two, but I was given a theme
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for this one that really spoke to me. And listening
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to some worship music, there's a song called Miracles, and
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I've heard the song a million times. I absolutely loved
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the song. But for some reason a while back, I
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felt God was saying, you know what, this needs to
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be the theme of the event. It's miracles because I
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believe that everyone is a walking miracle in some capacity,
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and it's just they haven't realized it yet. I think
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we're all like miracles in motion every day, and so
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I really wanted it to be a place where people
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could share their story of overcoming and also see God's
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goodness in their life, and to be a beautiful testimony
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to the people in the room that that event was
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my favorite. We've done a lot of events, but that
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one was my favorite, just because the I felt it
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was a face field room. I feel a lot of
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spiritual breakthroughs that happened in that room. I was able
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to see healing and connections that were just so deep
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and powerful that it was just such an incredible experience.
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Oh yeah, it's amazing because actually I got to talk
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to recently, Uh, a young lady in the UK who
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said she was supposed to be there but she she
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didn't have the means of getting there.
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Uh.
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The name goes by the she goes by the name
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of Kate Stapleton. Uh. She says hello by the way
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I mean yeah, And she was like, how was I
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wanted to go, but I promised him I would come
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next year. So she does say hello and in other
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news So I know because I was there at the
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speaker's competition, there was a panel of judges. Now, Jesse,
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if you were one of those judges, what would you
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have been looking for in a winner?
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Yeah, So a lot of it comes down to knowing
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your content. Sometimes speakers are on stage but they're not
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very clear. So for me, it really comes out to clarity.
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It's like know your message, do you also know your audience?
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And do you have the passion when you speak? Right?
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So you've got to have really strong delivery as well,
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and being able to hook the audience's attention and then
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keep their attention through storytelling and then really concluding the
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strong closing statement I believe are key factors when evaluating speech.
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Yeah. Now, now when you say hook and keep the
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audience attention, is that kind of like when you go
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over time and you still have the audience's attention, like me.
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Something like that, Not exactly, but you know, I'll say
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the keeping attention through sharing stories that really connect with
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people and open up their mind, get them connected to
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your message, you know, I think it's very important. And also, yes,
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staying on time is also very important.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, no. I definitely took great notes on that,
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and I was given great notes by the judges as well.
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They were like, hey, man, maybe you should, you know,
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keep a timer in your pocket. They'll let you know,
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you know how much time you have left. And I said, no,
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take it. And that was something that they talked about
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in the beginning of the the competition. When we were
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doing the classrooms portion, they were like, hey, if you
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hear some notes, if you hear nuggets and you're not,
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you know, using them, and that's on you, that's actually
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going against you. But see I was taking those notes
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and applying them and that was what helped me win
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because I did not go over the second day, so
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I knocked it out of a parking second actually and
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had plenty like just like what was it like maybe
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five seconds to spare, so you know, but yeah, now
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what stood out about this year's competition, you know, like experiences, moments,
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just you know, just in general. What things stood out
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to you?
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Man? Quite a few things. A couple touch on is
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I think we've been blessed with the ability to attract
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I believe some of the greatest human beings on the planet.
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Being in a room full of people who are faith filled,
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they're driven, their passion, they are purpose focused on the
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mission that they have is huge, right, So that was
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very special. It's just like when you have a room
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like that, it can change your life. And so witnessing
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those things happen is incredible. Seeing how every single speaker
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on day two improved just as a testament to the
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hunger and drive for the speakers to learn. But then
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also the panel of coaches that I brought in to
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teach and educate and the trainings that I did as
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well from stage that all the speakers were implementing very
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quickly everything that they learned from day one. So watching
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every speaker improve and just one day in their public
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speaking is incredible.
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I can't give praise to Dennis enough. Man. He went
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from a guy that really didn't know how to say
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anything to a guy that was going over and oh wait,
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I thought I had tim you know, you know, he
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was like, oh oh. And when I say it to me,
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it was like his light bulb came on. It was like, yeah, man,
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I'm here now I understand what my what my mission
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is and this to speak and people actually want to
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hear me. And when I saw that man that right
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there and his wife being there too, man, it was like,
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oh man. You know, they from him being so quiet,
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you know, reserved to go into hey, man, you know,
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you really do a good job. And you know, we
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we were now talking about different things outside of the
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speaker competition, you know, and so I appreciated him for
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growing like you said, it was, it was literally growth.
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So yeah, you know you're right. Now, what advice would
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you give to a speaker who must they compete in
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a speaker's competition but feel you know, intimidated or unqualified.
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good coach, you know. So I tell that's all the speakers, like,
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you know, while this someone hires me to help them
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with their keynote speech, or to hire somebody else, Just
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hire somebody like literally, just invest into yourself, hire a coach,
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do what they tell you to do, right, because they
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know what they're talking about. Follow the path, like just
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because typically people think they can just try to figure
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out on their own and they YouTube their way to success. Yes,
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you can get some wins that way, you can have
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some progress, but at the end of the day, you're
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going to need a coach and a mentor to guide
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you along the path. So if someone's feeling intimidated by
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being a part of something like that, make sure you
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just have a coach, right. And so that's at our event,
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you know, I make sure to train all of our
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speakers prior, right, and so they're not just going up
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on stage, you know, completely clueless as to what to do.
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And so I'm making to provide training prior to that, right,
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and then for the people who, you know, really want
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to grow at a different level, those who invest into
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the one to one type of coaching, you should get
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the best results.
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Yeah. No, I completely agree. Because I actually had a
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conversation with someone while we were at the competition in
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regards to coaching, and then they mentioned to me about
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one of their coaches, not you, it was some other
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coach they had, and I was like, they did what
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they gave them. And I said, I don't know if
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I would use that. I mean, if that's what you
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want to do, do you, man, But I don't think
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i'll do. I've never heard that in all my coaching. Okay,
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I've been getting coaches since twenty nineteen. I've never heard that, brother,
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But you go ahead and do. And I've been coached
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by some of the best. Okay, well I'm paying tens
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of thousands of dollars apart, okay. And so that was
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one of the things that really stuck out to me
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in regards like to you know, people feeling intimidated because
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we like I said before, there were people who did
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feel intimidated. They felt unqualified, They didn't feel like they
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were supposed to be on stage because they had never
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done it, you know. And once you get that bug
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or get that monkey off of your back, as I
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would say, it's almost like it's like you're free. You know,
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nothing's really holding you anymore, and now you have to control.
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Is now your turn to control? There's no longer a
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puppet master. So yeah, I agree man with you on that.
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So excuse me. Now, as a speaker yourself, how do
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you prepare before stepping on the stage, you know, mentally, spiritually, I.
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Mean I definitely stand in prayer. I practice so you know,
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I just spoken a couple of times this month. I
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got hired to speak in Kansas City, then I got
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hired to speak in Rochester.
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Yeah, I've been seeing you, I uh, you know, for.
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Those presentations, I literally I give my entire talk out loud,
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and I practice it over and over and over again
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in real time, and I deliver the message like it's
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a room full of people. I'll be in the room
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by myself, like I'll shut the door in my bedroom
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and I'll just give the whole talk from beginning to end,
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and I'll just as i'm doing it, I like, i'll reflect,
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I'm like, ooh that was good. Oh you know what
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that kind of that didn't land very well. I didn't
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like the way that sounded. And so I give the
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talk several times before I actually deliver it, and then
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I go and prayed up to you know, just praying
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that God give me the words to speak to these people,
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to touch the heart difference in their life.
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Yep, completely agree. Because every time before I got on stage,
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whenever you came and told me I was next, guess
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what I did. I went into prayer right in and
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there because I knew I was getting ready to go.
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I said, lo, just give me what you want them
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to have, what needs to come out of my mouth
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to give to them so that they will be receptive.
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I don't want them just listening like following as we say,
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falling on deaf ears. I want it to be receptive.
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And so I do that every time. I don't care
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if it's at church, the speaker's competition. It could be
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a I could be speaking to a sports team. For
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all I care, I'm gonna pray every time because I
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don't want it to be coming from me, you know
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what I mean. I can write one of the best
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essays speeches you've ever seen and need to get a D.
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But if he writes it, they didn't get no D.
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You know what I mean, We're gonna get an a
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man corner in the back. Okay, But so real quick,
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you know, winning that that first place trophy, man, it was.
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It was amazing first and foremost, but it showed me
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that winners are not built on stage. They're built in
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the dark. Okay, is what you do off stage that
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really matters?
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What does that mean to you?
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Yeah? I believe that to become a professional, you practice
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ten times as much as you perform. Right, As professionals,
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they're in practicing mode, whereas amateurs they don't practice and
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they focus on just the main event, the performance. And
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for me, to be an off stage speaker, that means
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you are always investing into your growth. You're practicing your talks,
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you're always learning, you're connecting, you're always in student mode. Right,
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That's what Professionals are always students, whereas amateurs think they're
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just the teacher.
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Professional is willing enough to be humble enough to say,
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you know what, I'm going to be in student mode
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right over and over again, and then I'll be in
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teaching mode right where I can be the leader of
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the room. But professionals, I think constantly have to invest
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in their own growth and development consistently, research, study, practice,
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new techniques and new strategies, and I think that's what
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separates it.
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Two. Yeah. Out, there's one quote I'll never forget from
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my high school football coach. He said, if you don't
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like football, or he said, if you don't like practicing football,
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and you definitely won't like playing. He was like what
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he was like, You're going to practice this game way
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more than you're gonna play it. The game is played
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on Friday, We practiced four days before that. He was like,
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you get that four to one, and we all were like,
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we all were like, oh, oh dang, you're right, you
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know what I'm saying. But it makes sense. You have
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to practice way more to get prepared for what the
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final product is going to be, because if it's not
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polished throughout the week gonna look like a bunch of trash.
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I'll put it this way. For those who know NFL,
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I'll do it that way because they play different days.
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They play Thursday, they play, Sunday, and Monday are the
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main days. Okay, this week they're gonna throw a Friday
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game in, But anyway, Thursday, Sunday and Monday are the
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main days. Now, if you just got them playing on
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Sunday and they throw you on a Thursday game instead
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of another Sunday game, guess what just happened. Your week
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just got shortened. You now have less days to prepare
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for that next team, you know what I'm saying. So
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and it's a different opponent. Now, guess what, You better
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use every bit of your professionalism to be ready for
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that next one because they probably got to you know,
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had a week off or had ten days off or something,
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and they ready for you. But you know that's that's
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just a scenario or a yes, an area I would
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give everybody. Now here's a good question for you. How
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does Merge Worldwide help future speakers? You know, those who
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feel underrated or you know, just don't feel prepared or
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whatever it is. How do they help them find their voices.
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They're able to find their voices by getting clarity on
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the problem that they want to solve. So I believe
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speakers are not just speakers, they're problem solvers.
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It's hard to find your voice if you don't know
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the message that you want to share with the world.
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And so the clarity is going to be important of saying,
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this is the problem that I want to help solve
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in the world, and this is the audience that I
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want to serve, and then this is how I will
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do it. And so what they're able to get clarity
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on those key components, they're able to find their voice
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because in the beginning, most of the speakers they're watching
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other speakers. And yes, you want to learn from other
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speakers and take the good things that they do, but
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I think early on speakers try to be copycats of
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other speakers because they're trying to be someone else, and
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them is like, yes, learn from other speakers, but always
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be authentic to who God has called you to be.
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It doesn't mean you can't obviously research and study other speakers,
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but yes, I think you should do that, but then
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always remember that you were not given their assignments and
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they were not given yours. You were given one specific
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assignment to deliver your message in a way that God
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has called you to speak it.
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Yeah, I don't know if you noticed me. I started
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smiling and laughing. Why because so I've been trained by
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Eric Thomas. He calls himself the hip hop Preacher, and
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he also goes by ET. Okay, so ET talks about
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you know, people he's trained, and then the next thing
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you hear is, hey ishit boy, Hey is she boy?
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That's what e T does. That's not what you're supposed
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to do. And what he's saying is you get a
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whole bunch of people taking on his lines. Hey issue boy,
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keewan amy or they're they're yelling on stage like he does.
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That's his mantra, that's how he operates, not you. He said,
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you get a whole bunch of people yelling. And instead
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of them yelling like me I have, I have passion
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behind what I'm saying, they're just yelling to an audience.
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He's like, dude, that's not what I coached you. I
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didn't coach you to be me. I coach you on
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how to be a speaker, not to be e T,
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but to be a speaker, and man, he actually had
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that what he would say, he had that talk on
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a podcast, The success podcast, I think is what it's
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called The Secrets to Successes. What that's what it's called.
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But like, man, let's boy. I was laughing so hard
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because I've actually heard those videos and I'm like, who
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is this? But that's not Eric Thomas And you know
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I can't see, so I'm like trying to listen to it,
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like that's not Eric Thomas. Somebody doing a bad impression.
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But anyway, I just wanted to, you know, throw that
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throw that in there and that example in there, because
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I have heard that, you know, when it comes to
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you know, finding your voice per se. Now let's move
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a little bit into a faith, purpose and leadership, you know,
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because as we know, we're both faith driven people, we
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both have purpose, and we both are leaders. So a
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question I have for you, as faith driven leaders, how
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do we balance confidence and humidity?
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M Yeah, I think this is a struggle for people,
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I would say who have faith in God actually struggle
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with this more because I think people of faith think
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that if they're on social media and they're talking about
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how great their product or service is, that they're becoming arrogant,
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they're becoming sales y, they're becoming prideful, and I just
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don't think that's the case. I believe that if God
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has given you a great product or a great service
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or a great message to share with the world, and
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you don't share it with other people, what you're actually
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doing is you're hurting the kingdom. And I believe when
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you faithful people get to the point where they accept that, yes,
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you can your ministry can be in the marketplace and
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it's actually okay to produce income because if you really
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care about you know, maybe serving the church, or there's
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charities or ministries that you want to donate and give to,
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then if you're able to generate more revenue, you're actually
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able to give more. And I think that as long
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as we always give credit and we give glory to
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the most high, then I believe that will keep people
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of the faith humble, you know. And so it's a
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fine line, right, So, yeah, we don't want to get
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the praise for ourselves and say how great I am,
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but it's like, how how great is God? Through me?
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Be a vessel and an instrument of God's greatness and goodness?
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In our lives. Right, we can't do it on our own,
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we can't do it without Him, and we just need
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to be people who point other people in the dark
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to the light. And I think when you share your
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story and you share your gift with the world and
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you can point people back to the one who is
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the giver of the gift, that will keep you humble.
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And so I think that's a never ending journeys as believers.
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We got to find ways to have that humility and
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at the same exact time be completely confident in who
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the person that God has called you to be.
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So it sounds like what I heard there was hashtag
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tgb TG to God Be the Glory. Yes, that's what
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I heard. That's what I was saying. So you talk
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a lot about purpose, man, how do you help people
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uncover their purpose?
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I think first it comes down to processing painful parts
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of your life. So people oftentimes, if they have gone
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through a traumatic experience or a crisis of some sort,
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typically they can respond in any way that is not
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productive or healthy to their future self and so they
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can get stuck and trapped and what happened to them,
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And so I think it's just shifting the mindset, even
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the worst of things don't necessarily happen to you, they
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happened for you. And if someone can make that mindset
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shift that it didn't happen to you happened for you,
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that does not mean what happened was not traumatic. That
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is not what happened wasn't painful in life altering, because man,
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we've all gone through painful things that we can never change.
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They're done, it's over with. However, if we're able to
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see God's goodness through it, if we're able to grow
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in our character and be more christ Like, then it
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wasn't done to us.
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It was done for us right exactly. And I often
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tell people podcasts related when I'm on the stage, whatever
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it is that God allowed this to happen to me,
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And I always reference because I know I get a
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side eye every now and then, but I always reference
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the Book of Joe and he talks about how he
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allowed Satan to do these things. But he said, the
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one thing you cannot do is touch the soul that's mine.
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I don't care what else you do. I don't care
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what you do. You get just family, the crops, anything
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else is wealth. I don't care. But don't you touch
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that soul? Well, it's me and you you know what
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I'm saying. He had it out with it right there.
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And so what what I always think about is if
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and don't get me wrong, I didn't want I didn't
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want a job experience at all, don't get me wrong.
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But I said, if I could get through this, God's
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gonna get me double for my trouble, you know, because
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that's exactly what He did for job, you know. And
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that's the biggest thing that I think about nowadays. Man,
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So how has God shown up for you? You know,
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in the in ways that shape your speaking and coaching.
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You know. During the most challenging moments of my life,
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I remember just crying out to God. I was in
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a very dark place, lonely place, questioning why I was
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even here, what is my purpose? And over time I
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realized that just because I'm going through a painful season
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in my life doesn't mean he's not there. It doesn't
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mean that he's unfair, it doesn't mean that he forgot
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or doesn't care. What I have learned is during my
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most painful moments is actually when I need God the most,
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and it's actually when He's revealed his goodness to me.
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And I believe that because I have gone through you know,
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a good amount of unfair circumstances in my life, painful losses,
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that it has allowed me to be more clear on
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my purpose. It has strengthened that relationship with him. And
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so just as you mentioned like I don't want that
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job experience, I feel like I've had that job experience.
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I didn't want that job experience. It was the work
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experience of my life. What I've been able to take
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from that is the people I've been able to meet,
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the stories have been able to share, the friends been
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able to have, the family that I've built is all
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from the most painful moment of my life. And I
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believe if people can be aware that pain truly is
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preparation for purpose.
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What I've learned that was well put together, sir, I'll
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tell you what I am I seeing in a in
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alliance with you. When you say like, there's no way
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we would have came into contact had my accident have it,
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There's no way we would have came in contact had
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you not going through what you went through. Because every
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and I don't like to say everything happens, well, everything
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does happen for a reason. But I don't believe in coincidences.
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Everything happened for a reason, because that's the only way
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the world works. You don't get somewhere without getting in
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a car or putting your feet to the pavement. Okay,
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it doesn't happen. You're not just gonna madically flow. There's
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no carpet. Okay, this isn't a Laddin, you know what
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I'm saying. So everything happens for a reason. And I
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completely agree with what you just said about that. That
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was awesome. Now, what is one client testimony? And you
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might have multiple, but what is one client testimony or
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you know, just I don't know transformation that gives you
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you cheells man, you just still remember it to this day.
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There's there's quite a few I figured, But I remember
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a client from the past who he had never spoke before,
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hired me to work with him and it was great.
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And you know, he actually won our one of our
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competitions years ago, and he was his story he shared.
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I mean, it was so powerful. And then I actually
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got to watch him speak at a school in front
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of hundreds and hundreds of kids. He got a paid gig,
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and I was able to be there because it was
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where I live. And when I was in the room,
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I sat front row, watched my client take the stage
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in front of several hundreds of children and inspire them,
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move them to tears, run up and give him a hug,
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asking for his autograph, treating him like a celebrity, pack
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that he made on their lives. And being able to
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sit front row, and just knowing that I've been a
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part of this journey with him and now seeing him
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he speaks all over that they should regularly. That has
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been one of the most beautiful things have been able
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to experience.
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Yeah, and now that that is when I was listening
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to you talk and you talk about how the kids
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ran up to him. It reminds me of when I
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was in elementary school and we used to have this
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guy come in. I can't remember his name right now,
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but he used to come in and he used to
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do this song for us. I was in kindergarten news
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and he was He was like I don't know if
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he was a poor guy or a rapper, whatever he was,
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but either way, he would come in and rap this
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song about the alphabet, the alphabet, and he called it Alphabet.
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It is. That was the name of the song. Alphabet
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it is, and it goes alphabet it is. If you
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think it is, alphabet it is. Now hey, it's for
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the apple that man. And when I tell you, he
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goes in and goes all the way through the alphabet. Dude.
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We would be like, alphabets are awesome. The alphabet is awesome.
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And he would just come in and do that all
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the time. We would try to get him in there
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at least twice a year, you know, to do it.
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And he did it for our class personally, but he
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also did it in the auditorium, you know what I mean,
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like with a microphone. And man, I'll just tell you, dude,
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the like you said, the impact that it had on us,
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and all he was doing was rapping about the alphabet. Dude. See,
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it's what it's about more so than who you know.
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We were like, Yo, this is dope. You know what
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I'm saying. So I'd completely agree about that. Now, what
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I will say before we move on to the next segment,
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I want to ask because you have an angel by
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the name of Faith, and I just want you to
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give you a little room to talk about her.
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Yeah, you know, my wife and that we prayed for
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a child for years and then we were blessed with
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the baby girl. And when she was born, she was
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four months early. She was only one pound. Literally could
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fit in the palm of my hand, that's how tiny
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she was. And then forty two days of her fighting
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for her life, she passed away. And worst moment of
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my life, you know, that's where I spiraled my I
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wish I could say it was just like, oh, I
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healed right away and I got them. No, it was.
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It was a horrible experience cost me my life because
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I remember thinking that I should just die because I
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really felt no purpose for living anymore. I saw no
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value in being alive. And it was even to the
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point where I would as I was crying myself to
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sleep some nights, I would.
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Say, God, just please take me.
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I don't want and then I would wake up the
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next day and I remember being mad at God that
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he didn't take my life. That's how hopeless I was.
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And what got me through it was when I went
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to counseling. I did therapy, I did group counseling. I
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was connected with my church and my wife and my
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children that you know, they they were just great right,
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They just still loved on me even though I didn't
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feel worthy or deserving of that love, and God never
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left and writing my stories what really brought me into
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focus on how to process all of that. You know,
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I would not be on this podcast. I never would
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have met you. I were not looking on stages. I
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wouldn't have books, events, coaching. It would be doing none
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of these things if it wasn't for her. And she
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was such an inspiration to me because every day I
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saw her fight for her life and I realized, like, man,
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if this little one pound girl that no one's even
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met can make this much of an impact across the planet,
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just imagine you know what I can do if I
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keep fighting and doing what God has called me to do.
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Yeah, man, I tell you that. When I heard that
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story at the Speaker's competition, I was like, he's got
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everything to live for at this point, because that angel
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is not gonna let him stop. She's gonna keep pushing
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you every chance you get, like, Dad, No, you gotta
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keep going for me, you know.
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Oh?
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Man?
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Like, when I heard the story, I was like, what
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he did? What? Now? You know? I know about your
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other children, but I was like, wait, you got another one,
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you know, and yeah, that story really touched of course
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a lot of people, not just me, because you know,
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there was there were tears in there and we all
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know how it went. But I was just like, she, yeah,
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so that that was something I could not leave off
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with that segment, and I thought that was a good
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way of wrapping that segment up. But now we're going
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to get into how you are doing things for the
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new year and what's to be expected from you, sir.
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So first before we move into the new year, let's
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talk about this past year. What was your biggest personal
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or professional I would say lessen in twenty twenty.
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Five, I would say, from a personal standpoint, my relationship
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with God is Yeah, I gave my life, you know,
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to the Lord, you know, over ten years ago. I
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always knew, you know, from that point on, you know,
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Jesus was my savior, but it wasn't until I feel
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twenty twenty five is where he became my lord because
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and there's a difference, you know, something that faithful people
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say my lord and savior. Well, I know, I knew
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he died and rose again for me. I knew I
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was centered. I knew all that I know that, but
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I just didn't make him lord for my life. I
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would only allow him to be lord over maybe certain
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parts of my life. And to the point where I'm like,
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I just want him to be Lord over all of
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my life. Obviously it's always going to be a journey
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in a battle for certain parts that are harder than others.
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But I think that was one in valuablesson I learned
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is like I tell people I have faith in God, right,
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but then I I live with the lack of mindset.
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I tell people that you know, you know, God is
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the way, and then I'm always stressed out. And so
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it's like I feel like I wasn't really submitting to
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his will for my life. I was only given him
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peaces and parts that I felt ending off. And so
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now I'm getting to the point where I'm more willing
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and open to giving him more parts of my life
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and just submitting to the assignment he's given me completely
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and trusting that even when it's painful, even when it's hard,
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that I know that all things work together for the
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good of those who are called according to His purpose.
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For sure. For sure, Yeah, man, oh you hit some
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you hit some nails on the head right there. And
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I know when some people hear this, they gonna be like, oh,
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he's speaking facts. God, Lee, I really don't need to
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say nothing about that. But what I will say is
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there is a song and it goes by I think
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it's called Lord of All. It's a really good song
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by the way, nice groove to it and everything. But
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as soon as you start talking about Lord of All,
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that's the first song that came to my mind. I
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forget who it's by right now, but yeah, that's a
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good one. So if you get a chance to check
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it out, And that goes from listeners to if you
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get a chance to check that song out, Lord of All?
756
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But yeah, man, what's next for you and Merge worldwide
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in twenty twenty six?
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Yeah, man, we have a couple of really great events
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coming up. In March, we have our crews, so that
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that event is going to be incredible. We've doubled the
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size of people going to that event, so more connections,
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more breakthroughs, so that's gonna be incredible in March. And
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then in June we have our retreat in Italy. So
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those are our two events that we have coming up
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here over the next six or seven months.
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Okay, what part of Italy you guys going to?
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We go to the Amafi coast, so into Italy.
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Okay, okay, yeah, I've what this year? Yeah, this year,
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because I talked about it on my podcast, I went
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to well flew into Venice and we did get to
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spend some time there. And then I also went to
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of course Aviano and there are some other you know,
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parts of Italy around that area. I didn't realize how
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mountainous Italy was until I got there. Yeah, and then
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this Ferrari comes flying past us on the highways, a
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little Ferrari were in a Ford fusion. That's okay, but yeah, no,
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Italy is nice, man. I just love the food over there,
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so I know you guys do.
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Yeah for sure. Yeah the Southern we bended the northern
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and the southern and completely different vibes, but both are amazing.
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Oh yeah, yeah for sure. Let's see here For those
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who are listening, you know, and feel unseen or unheard,
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what are some you know, actionable steps they could take?
784
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Yeah, I mean, I just made a post about this
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yesterday because I see that there's so many people that
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want to share their message. The problem is typically one
787
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is that they just don't know what to talk about.
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That's the main thing. And then they don't have the
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clarity on when they do commit what they want to
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talk about, they don't have the clarity and how to
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communicate it. And then the last piece is that they
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do not actually share the content out. Have all these
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great ideas, serves nobody by keeping it to yourself. Having
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a great message and a story to share with other people,
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keeping it to yourself is one of the most selfish
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things anyone can do, because you're not able to help
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anybody by keeping it to yourself. And so that is
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my encouragement to people's like literally and people say, well,
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I don't have access, I don't have a network. Well,
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the beauty is that if you have a phone, you
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have a stage, You go online your social media account
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and you hit record and you upload that video and
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now you have created an audience. And so it's just
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literally starting rate where you're at and start with the
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content that you do have and can create, and start
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sharing it out because a lot of times you want
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to wait until the content is perfect, and if you're
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waiting for the content to be perfect before you post it,
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you'll never actually post it, and so I say, take
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imperfect action.
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Now, yeah, you know that's that's great advice because we
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all wait for that perfect moment, but that'll never come.
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You know, there's no such thing as perfection. And I
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started to rephrase the practice makes perfect. No, practice makes better.
815
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It makes you better. You could say perfect all you want.
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At some point, something's going to mess up. Now it's
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no longer perfect, you know, whether it's the technology, whether
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it's something you hiccupped and said or whatever. You know,
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something's gonna hiccup, and now it's no longer perfect. So
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are you not going to release the content because there
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was a small hiccup? No, you're gonna release it. It
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makes you human, now, you know. And that's another thing
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that people like to connect to is human like humanity
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is really fading with the AI push, and so a
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lot of people tell me, hey man, you should post
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more because we want to see your human side. We
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get it. You love to sit behind that computer, you know,
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stuff like that. But hey, show us you're outside, show
829
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us you doing something shows I said, okay, I'll show you.
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And so when now it's just at the UNC versus
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Duke football game for my birthday. I took pictures, you know,
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I took pictures of that. When I went out to eat,
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I took pictures. You know, these different These are the
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different things that they like to Basically, it's like being
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inside of your life in a sense, you know, Oh,
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I get to see what it's like to be in
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the day of your life. And they really do like
838
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to feel that connection versus feeling like they're just behind
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the screen and never get to know what you do
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or who you are versus or all they know is
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that you're a speaker, your author, you're a podcaster. That's
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all they know. They don't know what you do on
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a daily you know. So I do agree with what
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you said there. Now we're wrapping up the episode here
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and I just want to know what's one message that
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you want to leave with my audience here at no site,
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no excuses.
848
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The message that you're most scared to share, it's the
849
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same message your audience needs to hear. M I think
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so many people take their pain and find a way
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to become a victim of it, not realizing that the
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exact thing that we're designed to hurt you also was
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created to help you. And if you let the hurt
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help you, it'll also empower you to help other people.
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That is why it is your moral obligation to intentionally
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decide to heal from the pain and then share how
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you healed with as many people as humanly possible so
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you can give them permission to heal too.
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That's powerful, man, that's a mic drop all in itself. Yeah, listen, Jesse. Again,
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I truly appreciate you coming onto that podcast. Man. We
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can't thank you enough, you know, the no site, no
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excuses community. We do appreciate you because again, without you,
863
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that might not be a me. You know what I'm saying,
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Because I did go through your coaching, I did go
865
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through your speaking and competition, and that was all a
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part of my podcast, you know what I'm saying. So
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I have episodes about you, about Rushville, New York, and
868
00:52:58.599 --> 00:53:03.119
about the people on network with their it was. It
869
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was truly an experience, to say the least, and I
870
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got to experience a part of New York that I
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never would have got to experience had I met you.
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So Cannadagu was really nice, beautiful, and it treated me
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even better, you know. So I just want to say, man,
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thank you first and foremost, thank you for having me
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as a a client, and I appreciate your coaching. If
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you do meet some coaching, reach out to Jesse Cruz
877
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because he is a dynamic speaker coach and he can
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help you clarify your message and get you going in
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the right direction when it comes to speaking. He even
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though you were Army, I won't hold it against you.
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I'm just saying I appreciate that.
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I don't hold it an Air Force against you either.
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I listen, I will not hold that against you because
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the Air Force understood the assignment. We were supposed to
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separate and get away from you guys. We understood what
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was But no, seriously, I truly appreciate you, my man,
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and much love to you and your wife and your kids.
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Man, have a
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Blessed and a beautiful twenty twenty six man, much love,
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appreciate you, Yes, sir, Yeah,