Stop Saving Your Best Things For Someday

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Woo! Hello, and welcome to Inside Marcy's Mind.
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My name is Marcy Backus, and I am your host.
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Well, guess what?
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This is a podcast where we talk about basically whatever was wandering through my mind.
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Scary, isn't it?
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And believe me, there is usually plenty of stuff roaming around in there for us to talk about.
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This isn't a podcast about getting older.
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This isn't a podcast about fixing ourselves.
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This is just a real life podcast about life things.
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The funny things, the ridiculous things, the things we all do that make absolutely no sense when you actually stop and think about them.
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Sometimes I give life advice.
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Sometimes I give tips and tricks and organization things and all kinds of stuff.
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But today, today, I have one that's just like one of those ridiculous things roaming around.
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Here's what happened this week, though.
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I was on a trip, which I loved.
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I went to Arizona.
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Got a lot of sun, a lot of friend time, a lot of family time, relaxation after the drama of Craig and his stroke.
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And uh checked in with him twice a day, or he checked in with me, I should say.
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Ate some good food, some really good pasta, some Caccio de Pepe.
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Now, if you've never had Caccio de Pepe, it is cheese and pepper on a thick spaghetti.
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I think is that spaghetti?
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I don't know.
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But nonetheless, it's very simple.
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But done well, it's delicious.
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Done bad, it's horrible.
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But let me tell you, let's see, I had some great barbecued meats because Larry is a great barbecuer.
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Um, oh, here is something.
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And I it was a little road trip up there, which I all and as you all know, I enjoy.
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But the crazy thing is, I got to Phoenix.
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I had a reservation for a car through Budget Avis, right?
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I get through them a lot because I'll get my um prize through Costco.
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And I'm a premier member and all that garbage, right?
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You usually go, you pick out your own car and you drive away.
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Well, I take the escalator, the law, okay.
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If you've never been to Phoenix car rental, the new car rental place, they're way down at the bottom.
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So you take this long escalator, you get there, and there is an entire floor.
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Okay, huge rental car floor.
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Not a single car in sight.
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So I'm starting to panic, right?
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I see some panel vans, you know, like work kind of trucks.
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And I walk over to the window because it says, if you are a fast pass member, please go to the window.
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So I went to the window and they're like, Well, you're a little early.
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I go, but you have no cars.
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And he says, Well, there's a few over there.
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He says, Uh I've got a Chrysler Pacifica minivan.
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Okay, it's just me.
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But okay, that's all you got.
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And I'm thinking, ooh, gas, like it's just me.
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And I'm driving, you know, quite a distance up, quite a distance back down.
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And I get over to it.
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It's a lovely minivan.
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If you have a family, a Chrysler and you have a Chrysler Pacifica, it's very nice.
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It's a very lovely van, but it was huge.
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Now the good news is it was a plug-in hybrid.
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Now I had an electric car and I know how to plug those in.
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I didn't know how often you have to do it.
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I never had to plug it in ever, but I got great gas mileage.
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So that was good.
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But let me tell you, not a single row, that was scary.
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And when I brought it back, it looked the exact same.
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Not a car in sight.
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So I don't know what was happening.
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I don't know what if what the other floors look like Hertz and everywhere else.
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But my niece said she tried to rent a car through Hertz and she lives there.
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She was gonna take it to drive her son back to college.
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And they had nothing.
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Nothing, nothing, nothing.
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So who knows?
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I don't know, but I got this giant Chrysler Pacifica and uh I drove away.
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And it I did just fine in it.
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It's a great car.
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I was way more car.
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My niece, Brooke, got in the car.
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We were going to the QT to get a Diet Coke, and she's like, she looks back there, she goes, Holy cow, this thing's huge.
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It was.
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It was just huge.
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But you know what it didn't have?
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It didn't have a button to press to open or close that big hatch.
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And let me tell you, in the desert of Phoenix, metal gets hot and pushing that thing down, not one of the best things.
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But, anyways, um flew there, flew back on Tuesday, the day the lovely and wonderful Dolly Pardon passed away.
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So I watched Um Steel Magnolias on the plane.
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And I love that movie.
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So I don't know what you're doing to honor the late great Dolly Pardon, but she was a great humanitarian as well as a singer and songwriter and actress and many things.
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But she was mainly a good person.
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So the best thing you can honor her is to be a good people.
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That's what I want to say about that.
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Okay.
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Somewhere in the middle of my week, I started thinking about something.
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Why in the world are we always saving things for good?
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Now you know exactly what I mean.
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We have the good dishes, the good towels, the expensive candle, the expensive lovely perfume that you barely wear, a good bottle of wine, although obviously not in my house, but we know why.
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How about the fancy soaps?
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Remember those at your mom's house, those little ones that look like a flower in the guest bathroom and they were they were they were dusty?
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Do you remember that?
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How about that beautiful serving bowl?
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How about that dress that's nicer than what the occasion supposedly requires?
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Why do you save it?
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You save the shoes, the purse, the linens.
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And maybe my favorite, the guest towels.
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Who are these guests?
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And why are they apparently entitled to much better towels and fancy soaps?
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Why should the guests in my home get something I don't afford myself?
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I'm not saying you shouldn't have nice things for your guests, but I'm asking you why shouldn't I get a nice towel?
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I live here.
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All right.
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I think a lot of us grew up with this idea that certain things were for good.
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You had your everyday stuff, and then you had your good stuff.
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The China wasn't for Tuesday.
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Absolutely not.
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Tuesdays had not earned the China.
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The China was for Christmas, Easter, and Thanksgiving.
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Maybe a wedding shower, or possibly a visiting dignitary.
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How absurd is that?
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And don't get me started on living rooms.
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Nobody was allowed to live in.
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Remember those?
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We had one.
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We had a living room that we never went into unless there was a reason.
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I don't know why.
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We had a grand piano or a baby grand piano in our living room.
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We weren't allowed to listen to my mom play either.
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All right, there was the family room where everyone actually sat, and then there was the living room.
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And nobody was living in it.
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There was a white sofa, a coffee table, possibly some sort of decorative candy dish on there, and there's probably hard candy in there from the Carter administration.
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And God help you if you went in there with a glass of Hawaiian punch.
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Woo.
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We save things because we wanted to keep them nice, which makes sense, except at some point you don't have to actually enjoy the excuse me.
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You have to enjoy the nice things.
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Otherwise, what are we doing?
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Candles are a perfect example.
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You buy an amazing candle, it smells great.
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Maybe it costs more than you really wanted to spend.
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Or I have these ones I got at the Frankfurt Fall Festival.
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I love them.
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But I can't get them again.
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But newsflash, she has an online website where I could get refills, and I do.
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But at first I wasn't using it because I didn't know that I could buy a refill.
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So these things, you know, why am I saving this one?
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For what?
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For what occasion?
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When the Pope comes?
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Now I might get the Pope closer to me than you because I live across the street from Holy Name Cathedral here in Chicago, and the Pope is from Chicago.
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So my chances are pretty good, maybe some point that I don't think you'll come over though.
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So light that damn candle.
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And I've absolutely done this.
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You love something so much that you don't want to use it up.
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But then one day you're cleaning out a closet and there's this gorgeous little candle that's been sitting there for eight years.
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Congratulations, you've successfully preserved a candle.
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Guess what?
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You don't get an award.
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There isn't a candle preservation society calling you up and saying, Marcy, we've been watching your work.
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Extraordinary restraint from burning that candle.
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Use the candle, people.
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And here's a newsflash.
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Perfume is supposed to leave the bottle.
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You find one you love, you spray it, someone says, Oh my gosh, you smell wonderful.
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And you think, I know, that's why I'm going to go home and put this perfume in a drawer so I can save it.
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What?
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Wear it to the jewel.
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Wear it to Walgreens.
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Wear it while you're sitting on your deck drinking a Diet Coke.
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Who exactly decides that smelling fabulous requires dinner reservations?
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Now, this has recently happened to me.
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Through my gym, I got invited to uh an event at Lalibo.
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And if you know, they're a very fancy fragrance company.
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I was gifted a$250 bottle.
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I got to choose the fragrance I wanted.
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They have many fragrances.
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I got to watch them make my bottle.
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I got to name my bottle.
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And you know what?
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I wear it every day.
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$250 a bottle.
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I don't care.
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I smell good.
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It makes me happy.
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And I wear it every day.
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So stop it.
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Stop it.
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Stop it.
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Stop it.
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Use it all the time.
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Make yourself happy.
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How about clothes that we don't wear?
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Clothes are probably the worst.
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How many of us have said, oh, that's too nice to wear today?
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And then five years later it doesn't fit or it's out of style, or you find tags on it.
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You know what?
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Wear the clothes.
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Wear the clothes.
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Wear the cute outfit.
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I now I've talked about this in other podcasts, but I was getting in the habit, I go to the gym every day.
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So I come home in gym clothes.
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And most days I just stay in them.
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So if Craig and I decide to go do something, guess what?
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I'm still in my gym clothes.
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Well, if we're going out to dinner, if I'm going to my AA meeting, if I'm going over to church to book group, whatever it is, I change my clothes and I put together a cute ass outfit.
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Not just for Sundays anymore, because I always dress cute for church.
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But when I'm going out, I have great clothes and I have to wear them.
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You do too.
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Stop living in your leggings.
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Okay, stop.
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It's harder in the winter here because all of my leggings are lined with fleece and they keep me warm.
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But I was just looking at the old Navy website, looking for some cuter style pants lined in fleece, so I could not live in my black fleece leggings.
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Fleece lined leggings.
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I always wear cute shirt, great sweaters.
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I'm known for my super cute sweaters, but I'm gonna try to see if I can up my my jeans and my wardrobe that way.
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Life does not need to provide a red carpet before you are allowed to look fabulous.
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I want you to remember that.
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Life does not need to provide a red carpet before you are allowed to look fabulous.
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You know what?
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Here's where it gets interesting because I don't think we only save things for good.
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We sometimes save life for good.
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We say someday we should.
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Someday we should go see a show, someday we should take that trip, someday we should have people over, someday we should try that restaurant.
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And guess what?
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Someday has an amazing publicist because someday always sounds fantastic.
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Someday we're organized, someday stop.
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Stop.
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Someday when the airfare is cheap, stop.
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Someday everybody gets when everybody gets along, stop.
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Have you actually met life?
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Someday is never going to be perfect.
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So I've decided I've becoming much more of a put it on the calendar person.
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Because once you put something on the calendar, it starts becoming real.
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And I have done that.
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I am putting things on my calendar.
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When Craig and I looked at the concerts we wanted to go, the free concerts in the park, I put them all on the calendar.
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Guess what?
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We made all of them.
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Because guess what?
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They were on the calendar.
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Okay?
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Put it on the calendar.
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And the other thing I started to do is when we go out on Saturdays to eat, we're going to a place we've never been before.
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I live in downtown Chicago.
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Do you know what great places I have here at my disposal?
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And do you want to know the funny thing is you can get in a rut here too.
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So I push us out.
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We have a group favorite restaurant over in Greektown.
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I'll say, let's go to Greek town.
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I'll say, you know, whatever it is.
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Let's go over to the Italian area.
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I don't know, but you got it.
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All right.
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And this brings me to something I really want to talk about because the timing is perfect.
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It is the end of August.
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And I know somebody listening just went, Marcy, do not talk to me about Christmas.
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I'm not telling you to put up your tree.
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I am not telling you to buy peppermint coffee creamer now.
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And I'm not telling you to put a wreath on your door.
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So calm down.
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Just take a seat.
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I'm talking about something completely different.
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Plan the fun.
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Right now is the perfect time to start actually asking what do I want to do this holiday season?
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Not what do I have to do.
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What do I want to do?
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Okay, so here's a perfect thing.
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It's called the Night of a Thousand Jack-O'Lanterns, and it's at the Chicago Botanical Gardens.
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I have wanted to go every fall since we've been here.
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We do travel in the fall.
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We are going to Paris in October, but I'm going to get us tickets on the weekends we're home because guess what?
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This year I'm going to see the Night of a Thousand Jack-O-Lanterns.
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Craig and I always go as soon as I get the email from we are members of the Lincoln Park Zoo, even though it's a free zoo.
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We stay members to help fund the animals.
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Um, when it's uh zoo lights, I always put it on the calendar.
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I get our tickets, and then I make reservations at RJ Grunts across the street.
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Love it.
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It's a little thing that Craig and I have done, just the two of us.
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We don't take friends.
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We don't expect family to be here.
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We just do it.
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It's our little holiday thing.
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Craig also runs in the turkey trot.
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Thanksgiving and Christmas have taken on different shapes since we've moved here, and that's okay.
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They're the ever-wandering holidays for us.
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We never know what's going to happen.
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Is a kid gonna be here?
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Is a kid not gonna be here?
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Is family having it or are they not?
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I don't know.
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I don't worry about it anymore.
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I am creating my own holiday fun, and I want you to, because every December we hear about something and say, ooh, that would have been fun.
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Look it up.
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It's already, I am telling you, September is next week, and all of this stuff will start happening.
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If you want to go ice skating, if you want to go see the nutcracker, if you want to get the tickets now, and then suddenly, because if you don't, it's suddenly December 21st and we're wandering around Costco wondering how Christmas got here.
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So grab your calendar and don't save it.
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Don't save, don't save.
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I'm gonna give you some experiences you may want to start with.
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So I want you to first look around your city.
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Like for us, we have a night of a thousand jack-o'-lanterns at the botanical gardens.
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We have a lot of different places here.
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We have a lot of museums.
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I have a lot of things to choose from.
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Your town may not.
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Maybe your town has a Christmas parade.
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What do you love?
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A Christmas play, a concert, a holiday market?
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We have an um the old-fashioned holiday market down here on Daily Plaza, but it has gotten out of control and I just don't want to go anymore.
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So I don't.
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I'm sad about it because I did love it, but there's lines to get in and it's just not fun.
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I may try to go the first day since I live down here.
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Do you have a tree lighting in your town?
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How about a fancy afternoon tea?
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Since I've moved here, I go to Christmas tea with my couple of my friends here at the Peninsula Hotel, and I love it.
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Does your museums have extra things?
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Look around, find it, book it now.
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I know, Marcy, Marcy, Marcy, don't talk about the holidays.
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I'm telling you, you will love me when December comes.
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Oh, the other thing that I do, and last year I took my girlfriends, is um in the old Marshall Fields, which is Macy's.
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Anyways, they have kept the tea room there.
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Remember the old beautiful tea rooms, and it's called the Walnut Room because it's covered in walnut.
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And they have a tree they do every year, and they have a Christmas lunch or dinner, your choice.
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Last year I took three of my girlfriends.
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I when I made the reservations, I made it for four and was able to take some friends and had a great time.
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So look around what is in it for you.
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Don't save it for good.
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Create your own little traditions.
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Pick a night, maybe you're gonna drive around and see lights.
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Pick an afternoon that you're baking cookies with a friend.
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Calendar it.
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Get it on the calendar.
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Maybe you love Christmas movies.
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Maybe you're one of those Hallmark fanatics that sits and watches Hallmark Christmas movies.
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I love it.
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We moved into our new house.
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Well, we moved, we sold our house and we moved into a big rental for a couple, two, three years we lived there.
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But we moved in in November and I unpacked with Hallmark Christmas movies on the TV, and it brings me happiness.
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I love that house.
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I don't know why.
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We lived in our other house for like 22 years, and it was a great house.
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That damn rental house we were in for three years, I don't know what it is about that house, but I loved it.
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I was very happy there.
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Okay, I hate to say this, but what about holiday flights?
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I need to know from my kids if they're coming because last year my son decided at the last minute, and the ticket cost me a fortune.
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Guess what?
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Not doing it this year.
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Not doing it.
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Everybody needs to tell me ahead of time.
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I love you, but you need to tell me ahead of time, and that's okay.
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Tell your kids too.
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Or make your decisions.
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I don't know.
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Craig and I need to talk about Christmas.
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Our Christmases are have been different our whole marriage because we've moved, we've changed, we've had family, we've had no family.
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I don't know what I want to do this year.
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I don't know.
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I know I don't want a present, I want an experience.
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So maybe we go spend Christmas with Kyle in California.
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Maybe Alec joins us.
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I don't know.
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We'll see.
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All right.
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Buy those, don't save things for good.
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If you've wanted to go to the Dominican Republic for Christmas, go.
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Go.
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Enjoy.
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All right, what else?
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You know why we do this?
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Because we need things to look forward to.
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I need to look forward to going to the Goodman with Joan.
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I love, I want to go see a play with my friend Reba.
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I want to go to Christmas treat tea with my friends.
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Whatever it is, you get weeks of enjoyment out of something that lasts three hours because it's on the calendar and you're not doing it at the last minute.
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Have you ever thought of that?
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When you have things on your calendar, I have a trip to France and I am relishing it right now.
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When I'm done with this podcast, I'm working on my plans for France.
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I'll share those with you next week.
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Okay.
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I want to remind you, you're not saving it anymore.
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I'm not saving that anymore.
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I'm not saving the candle, the outfit, the day at the zoo, the play, my good dishes, perfume.
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Craig and I eat off our Frank Lloyd Wright China that was our gift for our wedding for my in-laws every day now.
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It's our everyday wear.
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What am I saving it for?
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I'm not.
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When I moved here and I downsize so much, I only have things around me that I love and I'm happy with.
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I burn the good candle, I wear the good perfume, and I eat off my great china.
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And I want that for you.
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I really want that for you.
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Use the dishes, buy the tickets, call the friend, open those fancy chocolates and eat one.
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Eat them all.
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Stop in the cookie place on your way home and grab yourself that cookie.
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Wear that beautiful sweater with the pearls all over it that you've been saving.
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Wear it to the jewel.
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Wear it to Vaughn's.
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Wear that expensive lotion that your friend gave you that smells like coconut.
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I do.
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My friend Mary Goodkind gave me the best coconut lotion and I love it.
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Call that friend that you're missing.
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Schedule the weekend.
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That's my next thing.
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Craig and I keep thinking, well, we want to do this and we want to take that car.
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It doesn't have to be a long car trip.
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It can be a weekend.
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And I'm going to start planning those myself.
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I have a challenge for you, like I always do.
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This one, well, it's actually two.
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Number one, find one good thing in your house you've been saving for good and use it.
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A candle, soap, dishes, and outfit.
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I don't care what it is.
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That glittery sweater that you think is too fancy.
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Wear it to the grocery store.
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And number two, I want you to put one fun thing on your calendar before the end of the year.
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Just one.
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It can be a free thing, it can be expensive.
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I don't care.
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It can involve all your friends.
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I don't care what it is, but get it on there.
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I don't want it to be the dentist.
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I don't want it to be a hair, hair appointment.
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I want it to be something fun.
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Go see a night of a thousand jack-o'-lanterns.
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Book it.
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Get it on your calendar.
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Make yourself happy.
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Because maybe the whole concept of saving things for good is backwards.
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Maybe we don't wait for the day to become special.
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Maybe using the special things makes that day special.
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Maybe it can take an ordinary ordinary day and make it special.
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That's the difference.
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Tuesdays doesn't have to earn the China.
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Tuesdays showed up, that's enough.
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All right, my friends.
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That's what's been rolling around inside my mind this week.
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If this episode made you think of somebody who has a cabinet full of dishes that nobody's allowed to touch, send them this episode and ask them exactly who they're waiting for.
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The king?
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Guess what?
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He's not coming.
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And while you're at it, look at your calendar.
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Start planning a little holiday fun so that when December, October, November, December comes, you have something to look forward to.
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Use the good stuff, wear the good stuff, plan the fun stuff.
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And quit waiting for someday.
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Because this right here, right here and now, is the good stuff.
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I am Marcy, and I'll see you next time inside Marcy's mind.