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In this episode, I continue the conversation from the previous episode by exploring the companion skill to meeting and matching: reality testing.
Reality testing is often thought of as a cognitive process — reminding ourselves what’s true or finding a more accurate perspective. But in this episode, I explore how reality testing can also be deeply somatic, helping the body take in what is actually happening through the senses.
Using a very Alaskan example involving fresh bear scat on a hiking trail, we walk through the importance of timing: why reality testing tends to work better after we've acknowledged and allowed the initial wave of activation, rather than trying to talk ourselves out of it immediately.
We also explore how orienting, sensory awareness, and noticing present-day resources can help the nervous system recognize that a stressful experience is over and that safety is available now.
This episode is an invitation to bring a little more patience, awareness, and embodiment into the way you work with fear, stress, and nervous system activation.
Timestamps
00:00 — Introduction to reality testing
01:00 — The relationship between meeting & matching and reality testing
02:00 — A fresh bear scat example
03:00 — Noticing the body's initial response
04:00 — Why we don't want to skip the first wave
05:00 — Timing: feeling before reframing
06:00 — Orienting to where you actually are right now
07:30 — Resources, support, and present-day safety
08:30 — Activation → settling → perspective shift
10:00 — Bringing the senses into reality testing
11:00 — River crossing example: helping the body catch up
12:00 — Letting the body notice what's true now
13:00 — Cognitive and somatic reality testing working together
14:00 — The deep breath at the end of a cycle
15:00 — Closing reflections
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